Pisces Ex Using Me ?

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Hey So I was with a Pisces guy for a year. I was his first gf in about 13 years. He didn’t do relationships but I guess he thought he could try with me. We broke up after a huge PETTY argument. He ghosted me & I was pissed (I’m Aquarius) so I dropped off his belongings on his porch. We did speak briefly a few weeks later & his energy was off. I was getting he was angry at me. He told me he didn’t want to talk to me anymore, he didn’t owe me anything & etc ( I’m trying to keep this short as possible) so I apologized for my part & left him alone. Fast forward 6 months later, he calls asking me to help him pick up his car.. I was happy to hear from him but instantly felt used. I was confused on how he could go from hating me to calling me out of the blue for a favor. I didn’t help him cause I refuse to be used. After he called, I realize I still has feelings so I called him & he basically said he doesn’t know why I think about him lol I also know he was with a girl but he wasn’t serious about him, so I felt it alone again. He then calls me ago 2 months later asking for another favor .. ummm sir why do you keep calling me lol ask your new girl. He Adamant that he not in a relationship so I say why don’t you ask the girl who your messing with or whatever the situation is. He becomes frustrated and asks” why would I ask her” and brings up so much irrelevant topics then says “you know what I’ll ask her “ & hangs up.. so I text me and ask him to leave me alone, that I’ve accepted that he doesn’t want to be with me & I want to move on. The next day, I go to the girls page (she’s 19 Leo he’s 27) & she’s in his car. So now I’m pissed again cause if I would have helped him, he would have used the money to go see her. So I text him telling him he’s a user & I wish I never met him a bunch of other things. I deleted the text & blocked his number.

It hasn’t been a month yet & I feel like I’ve been living in a fantasy world. I spoke to the girl & she told me they’ve been talking for almost a year (we haven’t been broken up for a year yet). Before I knew this, I thought I was the reason for the break up. Now, I see he wasn’t faithful in the 1st place. & for him to use me like I was nothing is triggering. I had to block him from coming back ‘cause no matter how many times I say leave me alone he comes back for another favor. Makes me question does he really need a favor or is it an excuse to contact me. But if I call him, he’ll be very vague & distant. Also, I just don’t understand how someone can say I’m their soulmate but cheat on me & treat me like I’m nothing. I met his family & friends & he met mines too but do I really mean nothing to him now ? I know for a fact (or maybe not haha) that I’m being used but I’m still confused (& overthinking)

Please give me some insight
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Yeah, he uses you for favors to do things and romances her. He knows you still want him and will do whatever he asks. Good you proved him wrong this time. You were right to block him and move on. What in the world could you be confused about? Just because you met his family and friends doesn't mean anything. He lied that you were his soulmate or he wouldn't have his little 19 year old Leo. He doesn't want to bother her with chores so he asks you. Forget him.
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Posted by DonnaLibra

Yeah, he uses you for favors to do things and romances her. He knows you still want him and will do whatever he asks. Good you proved him wrong this time. You were right to block him and move on. What in the world could you be confused about? Just because you met his family and friends doesn't mean anything. He lied that you were his soulmate or he wouldn't have his little 19 year old Leo. He doesn't want to bother her with chores so he asks you. Forget him.

Confused because why I don’t understand why he wants to continue this cycle if she doesn’t want to be with me anymore. I left him alone like I asked, I’ve also told him to leave me alone but you continue to call me for favors. They’re not in a relationship but if he likes her that’s fine. I’ve told him I’m happy he’s moved on but I want him to let ME move on
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Posted by DMV

He keeps using you for favors because you keep answering the phone.

He knows you have a soft spot for him and he uses it to his advantage.

He knows you’re just dying at home waiting for him to call.

He knows your a text away from doing what he wants

He knows that you lack self respect


1st off , lack of respect? I DONT CALL HIM, BOTHER OR BEG FOR HIM. I .. again I , left him alone and went no contact. So where is the lack of respect come in ? Because I answered the phone the 1st time ? Or was it the 2nd time when I knew I wasn’t going to help him but wanted to know what the hell you wanted from me.

Please don’t assume ive lower myself to beg for any man back because I’m asking for insight on my situation.
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I think you are rightly hurt. Every relationship when it ends bring some pain and introspection.

I dont know if this Pisces trait, but some men during the time they are with someone can make a woman feel wanted, loved, cherished and heard. I was with a man like that. He would spend a lot of time with me listening and being supportive. This was when I was younger so I fell deeply in love. Turns out he had two other women he was giving the same kind of love and attention to ( one of whom was his ex).

He is calling you because he invested something in you for his own benefit ( could be time or anything).Many Pisces men do not move on completely from past relationships( atleast lot of women who have been with Pisces men seem to think so). His motives are not important could be he is testing to see if you will respond, want to be friends who knows?

Most important thing you need to do is if he doesnt love you and you are, then this will hurt you more. If you can handle it by all means you can stay in touch casually. If you cannot and u feel hurt and drained blocking him

is best. Time heals all

wounds.
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shrek11
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I think you are rightly hurt. Every relationship when it ends bring some pain and introspection.

I dont know if this Pisces trait, but some men during the time they are with someone can make a woman feel wanted, loved, cherished and heard. I was with a man like that. He would spend a lot of time with me listening and being supportive. This was when I was younger so I fell deeply in love. Turns out he had two other women he was giving the same kind of love and attention to ( one of whom was his ex).

He is calling you because he invested something in you for his own benefit ( could be time or anything).Many Pisces men do not move on completely from past relationships( atleast lot of women who have been with Pisces men seem to think so). His motives are not important could be he is testing to see if you will respond, want to be friends who knows?

Most important thing you need to do is if he doesnt love you and you are, then this will hurt you more. If you can handle it by all means you can stay in touch casually. If you cannot and u feel hurt and drained blocking him

is best. Time heals all

wounds.
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He knows from what you’ve shown him how he can treat you. You’ve accepted so much poor behavior on his behalf, why would he expect otherwise?! The change starts with you because you can’t control him. Block him everywhere, scratch him out of your life. Do not allow him to use you, do not allow him to ask for these favors. You know the Truth now, he’s a lying cheat! So fucking cut that cancer out of your life!!!! Stop wondering why and start accepting what he’s showing you. Some people are just users. That’s life. Some people suck really fucking bad, doesn’t mean you have to put up with it!
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Posted by AbbyNormal

He knows from what you’ve shown him how he can treat you. You’ve accepted so much poor behavior on his behalf, why would he expect otherwise?! The change starts with you because you can’t control him. Block him everywhere, scratch him out of your life. Do not allow him to use you, do not allow him to ask for these favors. You know the Truth now, he’s a lying cheat! So fucking cut that cancer out of your life!!!! Stop wondering why and start accepting what he’s showing you. Some people are just users. That’s life. Some people suck really fucking bad, doesn’t mean you have to put up with it!


This exactly! Stop wondering, start accepting.

The irony here being the more you wonder about his motivation, the longer he continues to take up space in your life and your head, effectively 'using' you as rent free lodging.

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Mizztery97
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How can one doesn't get mad at the ex who is dating someone else but calling them for help is beyond my understanding.

Why would I be upset that he’s dating ? We’re no longer together. The point is him using me after the relationship

You aren't together. He is calling you for help. He is thinking of you like if you were a moron as you are. On-call 24/7 waiting for his dick to call you...idiot...
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Lol okay