Could This Be a Soulmate/Twin Flame Connection?

This is kind of a long story so I'll break it down to the basics, but my mind is still blown every time I think about it. I am a Libra and he is an Aquarius for starters. I am not sure if I posted this story before on a different user name (I forgot the info) but things just got good.

Okay, so we met in 2nd grade. His brother and my brother were best friends, both older than us. When we realized who each other is, we kind of used to tease each other. Just little innocent kids on the playground who have a crush on each other kinda stuff.

Third grade rolls around, we go to a new school. Oh hey cool, we're in the same class. We had this icebreaker thing to do in the first few days of school where we'd write our favorite book, song, tv show, etc. If we had the same interest, we'd have the other classmate sign the paper. Me and him bonded over our favorite tv show. We became best friends. Cool. And then 3 months later I moved *tear*.

So 5 years later, summer going into 8th grade he finds me on MySpace. COOOL. My mom drove me back to my hometown so we could hang out for the day.

5 years after that, I'm in my freshman year of college. In a different state. Like a 6 hour drive different state. I'm walking to my dorm after dinner one night. Log onto Facebook (yes, we were friends on Facebook when MySpace got lame) and I received a message from him "Hey do you live in Vermont? I think I just saw you walking down the street but I was too nervous to say anything in case it wasn't you" "YES IT WAS ME YOU SHOULD HAVE SAID SOMETHING". He was visiting a friend who also went to my college. Really funny, the next day I saw his friend but was not positive it was him, just someone else I remembered from Elementary school. Later on it was confirmed yes, it was him he was visiting.

5 years after that, I am in my home town (Elementary school home town) with a friend for a concert. My hometown has one of the biggest music venues in our state. Anyway, me and my friend go into a pizza place for pizza. I stopped and chatted with the owner for a bit because him and my dad are good friends, and it's always a delight to see him. So after about 10 minutes of talking, we order the pizza and I step outside to smoke a cigarette while it's being cooked. 2 minutes later, there he is driving by. He didn't even live in that town anymore either!! He sees me, pulls over, "hey, hi, omg." And that's that.

2.5 years later, January 31 this year (my most recent exes birthday!!!) he texts me to make plans to hang out. Now, we've always texted here and there; just happy birthday or letting each other know if we're in each others area. We've always been too busy to hang out on such short notice. But hey we finally hung out! But even those plans took over 3 weeks to work out. But it was awesome!! And it's the first time we're both single at the same time. We said we'll hang out again soon, in another few weeks because we're both super busy and only Sundays are good for us. And we live pretty far from each other.

But holy shit!! Like I can't make this shit up. This is some serious serendipitous shit. Could this mean something??

ALSO*- He texted me on my exes birthday. Not only is that pretty fucking wild, but hours before he texted me I was kind of talking about him to a coworker. I'm pretty new at my job, and this coworker just "Oh where you from? Where you grow up?" and I kinda mentioned that town and yada, yada, I still have a friend I talk to sometimes from there yada, yada. Cool. But, BUUUUT. I was thinking about my ex a bit because his birthday, just wondering what he's thinking that I'm not texting him shit for his birthday. I went outside for a cigarette in the beginning of the evening, saw the first star out and then did that "star light star bright wish" and wished I'd soon discover who my true love is. And this dude texts me 3 hours later, the first time not just "hey I'm in your area today" but actual "let's make a plan to hang out it's been too long"

Seriously, can't make this shit up

Posted by librak924

This is kind of a long story so I'll break it down to the basics, but my mind is still blown every time I think about it. I am a Libra and he is an Aquarius for starters. I am not sure if I posted this story before on a different user name (I forgot the info) but things just got good.

Okay, so we met in 2nd grade. His brother and my brother were best friends, both older than us. When we realized who each other is, we kind of used to tease each other. Just little innocent kids on the playground who have a crush on each other kinda stuff.

Third grade rolls around, we go to a new school. Oh hey cool, we're in the same class. We had this icebreaker thing to do in the first few days of school where we'd write our favorite book, song, tv show, etc. If we had the same interest, we'd have the other classmate sign the paper. Me and him bonded over our favorite tv show. We became best friends. Cool. And then 3 months later I moved *tear*.

So 5 years later, summer going into 8th grade he finds me on MySpace. COOOL. My mom drove me back to my hometown so we could hang out for the day.

5 years after that, I'm in my freshman year of college. In a different state. Like a 6 hour drive different state. I'm walking to my dorm after dinner one night. Log onto Facebook (yes, we were friends on Facebook when MySpace got lame) and I received a message from him "Hey do you live in Vermont? I think I just saw you walking down the street but I was too nervous to say anything in case it wasn't you" "YES IT WAS ME YOU SHOULD HAVE SAID SOMETHING". He was visiting a friend who also went to my college. Really funny, the next day I saw his friend but was not positive it was him, just someone else I remembered from Elementary school. Later on it was confirmed yes, it was him he was visiting.

5 years after that, I am in my home town (Elementary school home town) with a friend for a concert. My hometown has one of the biggest music venues in our state. Anyway, me and my friend go into a pizza place for pizza. I stopped and chatted with the owner for a bit because him and my dad are good friends, and it's always a delight to see him. So after about 10 minutes of talking, we order the pizza and I step outside to smoke a cigarette while it's being cooked. 2 minutes later, there he is driving by. He didn't even live in that town anymore either!! He sees me, pulls over, "hey, hi, omg." And that's that.

2.5 years later, January 31 this year (my most recent exes birthday!!!) he texts me to make plans to hang out. Now, we've always texted here and there; just happy birthday or letting each other know if we're in each others area. We've always been too busy to hang out on such short notice. But hey we finally hung out! But even those plans took over 3 weeks to work out. But it was awesome!! And it's the first time we're both single at the same time. We said we'll hang out again soon, in another few weeks because we're both super busy and only Sundays are good for us. And we live pretty far from each other.

But holy shit!! Like I can't make this shit up. This is some serious serendipitous shit. Could this mean something??

ALSO*- He texted me on my exes birthday. Not only is that pretty fucking wild, but hours before he texted me I was kind of talking about him to a coworker. I'm pretty new at my job, and this coworker just "Oh where you from? Where you grow up?" and I kinda mentioned that town and yada, yada, I still have a friend I talk to sometimes from there yada, yada. Cool. But, BUUUUT. I was thinking about my ex a bit because his birthday, just wondering what he's thinking that I'm not texting him shit for his birthday. I went outside for a cigarette in the beginning of the evening, saw the first star out and then did that "star light star bright wish" and wished I'd soon discover who my true love is. And this dude texts me 3 hours later, the first time not just "hey I'm in your area today" but actual "let's make a plan to hang out it's been too long"

Seriously, can't make this shit up

I'm just hella excited and can't wait to see him again. Has anyone been through this before?

Anyone?

Posted by Timon

Aww. Feels like reading the script to a romantic comedy lol.

Let us know the end if there will be marriage and kids. 😂

Lol thank you!! 🙂 Just so damn funny. It'd be a funny story to tell the kids about how mommy and daddy met lmao. I just have my fingers crossed for the best and taking it super slow

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Aww. Feels like reading the script to a romantic comedy lol.

Let us know the end if there will be marriage and kids. 😂

ALSO when we did hang out, I was talking about college. he asked what college I went to and when I said he was like "OHHH YEA I SAW YOU holyyy shit that's weird, we've always bumped into each other" like YESS bro lmao let's do something about it

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Aww. Feels like reading the script to a romantic comedy lol.

Let us know the end if there will be marriage and kids. 😂

Lol thank you!! 🙂 Just so damn funny. It'd be a funny story to tell the kids about how mommy and daddy met lmao. I just have my fingers crossed for the best and taking it super slow

Stay tuned for the next season of How I met your mother. 😂

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I'll be sure to check out what the show is about 🙂

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This is kind of a long story so I'll break it down to the basics, but my mind is still blown every time I think about it. I am a Libra and he is an Aquarius for starters. I am not sure if I posted this story before on a different user name (I forgot the info) but things just got good.

Okay, so we met in 2nd grade. His brother and my brother were best friends, both older than us. When we realized who each other is, we kind of used to tease each other. Just little innocent kids on the playground who have a crush on each other kinda stuff.

Third grade rolls around, we go to a new school. Oh hey cool, we're in the same class. We had this icebreaker thing to do in the first few days of school where we'd write our favorite book, song, tv show, etc. If we had the same interest, we'd have the other classmate sign the paper. Me and him bonded over our favorite tv show. We became best friends. Cool. And then 3 months later I moved *tear*.

So 5 years later, summer going into 8th grade he finds me on MySpace. COOOL. My mom drove me back to my hometown so we could hang out for the day.

5 years after that, I'm in my freshman year of college. In a different state. Like a 6 hour drive different state. I'm walking to my dorm after dinner one night. Log onto Facebook (yes, we were friends on Facebook when MySpace got lame) and I received a message from him "Hey do you live in Vermont? I think I just saw you walking down the street but I was too nervous to say anything in case it wasn't you" "YES IT WAS ME YOU SHOULD HAVE SAID SOMETHING". He was visiting a friend who also went to my college. Really funny, the next day I saw his friend but was not positive it was him, just someone else I remembered from Elementary school. Later on it was confirmed yes, it was him he was visiting.

5 years after that, I am in my home town (Elementary school home town) with a friend for a concert. My hometown has one of the biggest music venues in our state. Anyway, me and my friend go into a pizza place for pizza. I stopped and chatted with the owner for a bit because him and my dad are good friends, and it's always a delight to see him. So after about 10 minutes of talking, we order the pizza and I step outside to smoke a cigarette while it's being cooked. 2 minutes later, there he is driving by. He didn't even live in that town anymore either!! He sees me, pulls over, "hey, hi, omg." And that's that.

2.5 years later, January 31 this year (my most recent exes birthday!!!) he texts me to make plans to hang out. Now, we've always texted here and there; just happy birthday or letting each other know if we're in each others area. We've always been too busy to hang out on such short notice. But hey we finally hung out! But even those plans took over 3 weeks to work out. But it was awesome!! And it's the first time we're both single at the same time. We said we'll hang out again soon, in another few weeks because we're both super busy and only Sundays are good for us. And we live pretty far from each other.

But holy shit!! Like I can't make this shit up. This is some serious serendipitous shit. Could this mean something??

ALSO*- He texted me on my exes birthday. Not only is that pretty fucking wild, but hours before he texted me I was kind of talking about him to a coworker. I'm pretty new at my job, and this coworker just "Oh where you from? Where you grow up?" and I kinda mentioned that town and yada, yada, I still have a friend I talk to sometimes from there yada, yada. Cool. But, BUUUUT. I was thinking about my ex a bit because his birthday, just wondering what he's thinking that I'm not texting him shit for his birthday. I went outside for a cigarette in the beginning of the evening, saw the first star out and then did that "star light star bright wish" and wished I'd soon discover who my true love is. And this dude texts me 3 hours later, the first time not just "hey I'm in your area today" but actual "let's make a plan to hang out it's been too long"

Seriously, can't make this shit up

Yes. Sit back ...enjoy it.

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This song ❤️❤️❤️ thank you! 🙂

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This is kind of a long story so I'll break it down to the basics, but my mind is still blown every time I think about it. I am a Libra and he is an Aquarius for starters. I am not sure if I posted this story before on a different user name (I forgot the info) but things just got good.

Okay, so we met in 2nd grade. His brother and my brother were best friends, both older than us. When we realized who each other is, we kind of used to tease each other. Just little innocent kids on the playground who have a crush on each other kinda stuff.

Third grade rolls around, we go to a new school. Oh hey cool, we're in the same class. We had this icebreaker thing to do in the first few days of school where we'd write our favorite book, song, tv show, etc. If we had the same interest, we'd have the other classmate sign the paper. Me and him bonded over our favorite tv show. We became best friends. Cool. And then 3 months later I moved *tear*.

So 5 years later, summer going into 8th grade he finds me on MySpace. COOOL. My mom drove me back to my hometown so we could hang out for the day.

5 years after that, I'm in my freshman year of college. In a different state. Like a 6 hour drive different state. I'm walking to my dorm after dinner one night. Log onto Facebook (yes, we were friends on Facebook when MySpace got lame) and I received a message from him "Hey do you live in Vermont? I think I just saw you walking down the street but I was too nervous to say anything in case it wasn't you" "YES IT WAS ME YOU SHOULD HAVE SAID SOMETHING". He was visiting a friend who also went to my college. Really funny, the next day I saw his friend but was not positive it was him, just someone else I remembered from Elementary school. Later on it was confirmed yes, it was him he was visiting.

5 years after that, I am in my home town (Elementary school home town) with a friend for a concert. My hometown has one of the biggest music venues in our state. Anyway, me and my friend go into a pizza place for pizza. I stopped and chatted with the owner for a bit because him and my dad are good friends, and it's always a delight to see him. So after about 10 minutes of talking, we order the pizza and I step outside to smoke a cigarette while it's being cooked. 2 minutes later, there he is driving by. He didn't even live in that town anymore either!! He sees me, pulls over, "hey, hi, omg." And that's that.

2.5 years later, January 31 this year (my most recent exes birthday!!!) he texts me to make plans to hang out. Now, we've always texted here and there; just happy birthday or letting each other know if we're in each others area. We've always been too busy to hang out on such short notice. But hey we finally hung out! But even those plans took over 3 weeks to work out. But it was awesome!! And it's the first time we're both single at the same time. We said we'll hang out again soon, in another few weeks because we're both super busy and only Sundays are good for us. And we live pretty far from each other.

But holy shit!! Like I can't make this shit up. This is some serious serendipitous shit. Could this mean something??

ALSO*- He texted me on my exes birthday. Not only is that pretty fucking wild, but hours before he texted me I was kind of talking about him to a coworker. I'm pretty new at my job, and this coworker just "Oh where you from? Where you grow up?" and I kinda mentioned that town and yada, yada, I still have a friend I talk to sometimes from there yada, yada. Cool. But, BUUUUT. I was thinking about my ex a bit because his birthday, just wondering what he's thinking that I'm not texting him shit for his birthday. I went outside for a cigarette in the beginning of the evening, saw the first star out and then did that "star light star bright wish" and wished I'd soon discover who my true love is. And this dude texts me 3 hours later, the first time not just "hey I'm in your area today" but actual "let's make a plan to hang out it's been too long"

Seriously, can't make this shit up

Yes. Sit back ...enjoy it.

This song ❤️❤️❤️ thank you! 🙂

Bless your love 🙂 xxx Have a great week 🙂

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You as well thank you so much 🙂 It was a fun story to share

UPDATE: okay ya'll so I gave you the short version. Here is a key detail that just came to light of importance.

So I have an uncle who passed away almost 5 years ago. I miss him everyday, bless his soul. We were super close. His job was a zamboni driver guy at a skating rink in his town. His town is a good 45 minutes away from me, and a good 45 minutes away from the Aquarian in this story. I told him about my uncle, and his job as a zamboni driver. Wouldn't you know it, his uncles go ice skating at that rink. All the time. And they were friends with that zamboni guy. They always said he was funny (he really was a fucking riot). Today, Aquarian guy texted me that yes, in fact, the zambonis guys name is *MY UNCLE*. Like this is getting creepy

UPDATE: we hung out for the third time this past Sunday. He came to my neck of the woods this time. Just as awesome as all the other times. We hugged longer than usual when we said goodbye. Still taking it turtle like slow

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UPDATE: we hung out for the third time this past Sunday. He came to my neck of the woods this time. Just as awesome as all the other times. We hugged longer than usual when we said goodbye. Still taking it turtle like slow

I was hoping for a juicier update lol.

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Lol it was a nice time! He came over, we went to brunch. It was cute seeing how interested he was looking at everything in my apartment. Then we spent the day fishing. It was nice showing him the area and where I grew up and stuff. I'm still not 100% if he likes me like that, but I can certainly feel the sexual tension. We both wore sweatshirts and it was wayy too hot to wear them so I took mine off to reveal a bra lol. Not that big a deal I don't think, but I did put on a tshirt at one point when we stopped by my house to get my car to drive through woods.

I just hope we hang out again sooner than later this time. Third time since February, gotta keep patient

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Can't listen right now but thanks I think lol

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UPDATE: we hung out for the third time this past Sunday. He came to my neck of the woods this time. Just as awesome as all the other times. We hugged longer than usual when we said goodbye. Still taking it turtle like slow

I was hoping for a juicier update lol.

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But it seems ok? I don't know, I just feel like he has to feel the same way

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UPDATE: we hung out for the third time this past Sunday. He came to my neck of the woods this time. Just as awesome as all the other times. We hugged longer than usual when we said goodbye. Still taking it turtle like slow

I was hoping for a juicier update lol.

But it seems ok? I don't know, I just feel like he has to feel the same way

I don't know tbh.

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I'll keep updated

Posted by o110

sounds like you’ve already been in love for 20 something years lol (I assume the story is that long)

it’s crazy you haven’t told him yet

don’t reach hard for that soulmate fuckery tho

in my opinion, that’s a pseudoscientific excuse for people to keep their hopes up even if there are no real facts to support the idea of a real, reciprocated love. I’ve seen people linger for years over someone who clearly doesn’t give a fuck just because of that bullshit ‘special connection’

keep hanging out with him and you’ll see

it’s honestly kinda fucked you’ve been on this shit for yearzzz, that will only make it worse if it doesn’t work out. but nothing bad has happened yet, so fuck those expectations, just enjoy the moment and figure it out. good luck!

About 19 years, yes lol. Literally my childhood sweetheart. I don't want to tell him because I don't want to scare him off, just keeping things cool, light, and friendly. I think I can def see things being good but it's like "omg is this too good to be true?" We're just cut from the same cloth. It's like we can read each others mind. But def just going to enjoy the moment and see what happens. I think what's also good is we've both emphasized "oh cool both single first time in years and years it's been at the same time"

Posted by o110

sounds like you’ve already been in love for 20 something years lol (I assume the story is that long)

it’s crazy you haven’t told him yet

don’t reach hard for that soulmate fuckery tho

in my opinion, that’s a pseudoscientific excuse for people to keep their hopes up even if there are no real facts to support the idea of a real, reciprocated love. I’ve seen people linger for years over someone who clearly doesn’t give a fuck just because of that bullshit ‘special connection’

keep hanging out with him and you’ll see

it’s honestly kinda fucked you’ve been on this shit for yearzzz, that will only make it worse if it doesn’t work out. but nothing bad has happened yet, so fuck those expectations, just enjoy the moment and figure it out. good luck!

Also I think he's just super slow. Aquarius Sun which I know like to be friends before lovers, and Taurus moon which I know just do things on their time so we will see indeed

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sounds like you’ve already been in love for 20 something years lol (I assume the story is that long)

it’s crazy you haven’t told him yet

don’t reach hard for that soulmate fuckery tho

in my opinion, that’s a pseudoscientific excuse for people to keep their hopes up even if there are no real facts to support the idea of a real, reciprocated love. I’ve seen people linger for years over someone who clearly doesn’t give a fuck just because of that bullshit ‘special connection’

keep hanging out with him and you’ll see

it’s honestly kinda fucked you’ve been on this shit for yearzzz, that will only make it worse if it doesn’t work out. but nothing bad has happened yet, so fuck those expectations, just enjoy the moment and figure it out. good luck!

Also I think he's just super slow. Aquarius Sun which I know like to be friends before lovers, and Taurus moon which I know just do things on their time so we will see indeed

Would it be okay with you if he considers you his platonic childhood friend?

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Of course. We've been friends this long, most of the time not even really trying to be but we never forgot about each other. Sure, I'd be disappointed but he's been in my life this long, I'm sure he will be for life. We'll just see what happens.

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Posted by o110

sounds like you’ve already been in love for 20 something years lol (I assume the story is that long)

it’s crazy you haven’t told him yet

don’t reach hard for that soulmate fuckery tho

in my opinion, that’s a pseudoscientific excuse for people to keep their hopes up even if there are no real facts to support the idea of a real, reciprocated love. I’ve seen people linger for years over someone who clearly doesn’t give a fuck just because of that bullshit ‘special connection’

keep hanging out with him and you’ll see

it’s honestly kinda fucked you’ve been on this shit for yearzzz, that will only make it worse if it doesn’t work out. but nothing bad has happened yet, so fuck those expectations, just enjoy the moment and figure it out. good luck!

Also I think he's just super slow. Aquarius Sun which I know like to be friends before lovers, and Taurus moon which I know just do things on their time so we will see indeed

Would it be okay with you if he considers you his platonic childhood friend?

Of course. We've been friends this long, most of the time not even really trying to be but we never forgot about each other. Sure, I'd be disappointed but he's been in my life this long, I'm sure he will be for life. We'll just see what happens.

The coincidences are crazy, so I can see why you're asking about them, but his behavior itself just seems friendly. Of course, he is an Aqua. *shrugs*

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I think he thinks they're crazy too, which is really good I think. But hanging out has been a lot of fun. There's def a lot of sexual chemistry there. I can just feel it when he checks me out. And hey this last time we hung out, it was a longer hug goodbye than usual. Plus I think this last time we did that whole eye gazing thing if you know what I mean? We'll just see where it goes

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Posted by o110

sounds like you’ve already been in love for 20 something years lol (I assume the story is that long)

it’s crazy you haven’t told him yet

don’t reach hard for that soulmate fuckery tho

in my opinion, that’s a pseudoscientific excuse for people to keep their hopes up even if there are no real facts to support the idea of a real, reciprocated love. I’ve seen people linger for years over someone who clearly doesn’t give a fuck just because of that bullshit ‘special connection’

keep hanging out with him and you’ll see

it’s honestly kinda fucked you’ve been on this shit for yearzzz, that will only make it worse if it doesn’t work out. but nothing bad has happened yet, so fuck those expectations, just enjoy the moment and figure it out. good luck!

Also I think he's just super slow. Aquarius Sun which I know like to be friends before lovers, and Taurus moon which I know just do things on their time so we will see indeed

Would it be okay with you if he considers you his platonic childhood friend?

Of course. We've been friends this long, most of the time not even really trying to be but we never forgot about each other. Sure, I'd be disappointed but he's been in my life this long, I'm sure he will be for life. We'll just see what happens.

The coincidences are crazy, so I can see why you're asking about them, but his behavior itself just seems friendly. Of course, he is an Aqua. *shrugs*

I think he thinks they're crazy too, which is really good I think. But hanging out has been a lot of fun. There's def a lot of sexual chemistry there. I can just feel it when he checks me out. And hey this last time we hung out, it was a longer hug goodbye than usual. Plus I think this last time we did that whole eye gazing thing if you know what I mean? We'll just see where it goes

Good luck. 🙂 I always caution against believing in the soul mate stuff, because it can really take you far away from reality, but I don't want to be a wet blanket either. I hope things work out!

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Thank you 🙂

Posted by Silverado

There's some freaky stuff to this whole story.

The one thing I take away from this whole thing is that: soulmates are relationships that just fall into place naturally and somewhat easily. I categorize this story as such.

Good luck! ❤️

Thank you 🙂 I am hoping so. It's so easy being with him, it's honestly like we've never had time apart. I'm just hoping he feels that as well

Posted by LadyNeptune

Not you again, shoo run along now

Lol you lost me at second grade.

I couldn’t read anymore.

I was all omg if this is gonna be a 20 year explanation, my adhd brain isn’t equipped for this atm.

😂😂😂

I just wanna say that if this dude been around since grade 2 you should probably just get married already 😆

Lol I can make it short!

-Met second grade. Teased each other a lot

-Same class third grade, became best friends. Then I moved an hour away

-5 years later, he found me on MySpace and we hung out for a day (mom drove me back)

-5 years later, I'm in freshman year of college in another state quite a few hours away. He saw me when visiting his bff that went to the same college

-5 years later I'm back in my old hometown to see a concert. He drove by while I was outside smoking a cig after ordering a pizza. Pulled over, ran across the street big hug

-2.5 years later he texted me lets make solid plans

Now, we've hung out three times between Feb. and this past weekend

Maybe marriage potential LOL

Posted by Arielle83

Ask him to marry you before he has too much baggage.

Curious about the baggage he may carry, but hey he's good friends with all his exes'. He's had 3 serious girlfriends but he said his friend group of like 20 people have all dated each other and they're all still good friends

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Ask him to marry you before he has too much baggage.

Curious about the baggage he may carry, but hey he's good friends with all his exes'. He's had 3 serious girlfriends but he said his friend group of like 20 people have all dated each other and they're all still good friends

Well if he’s young there likely won’t be much.

By why wait if he think he’s the one that you want.

But he prob doesn’t want lockdown if he’s young

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We're both 27 so def getting to the right age. I think he def is interested in it someday, a lot of his friends are getting engaged and having kids. He did mention something about "when he gets married" blah blah so it's def there. I think I'll wait to hang out a few more times lol

Lol ask him to teach you how to ride a Zamboni.

Posted by AerialView

Lol ask him to teach you how to ride a Zamboni.

No lesson needed, just permission needed

It sounds like you both have a reasonably good foundation. I wouldn't read into the past stuff too much. Just that you were childhood friends and remained connected in some way albeit on and off. Life clearly happened to you both, grew up, school, education, jobs etc, and now at 27 it sounds like you want to move on to a stage where you can build upon that foundation. If he's making an effort to see you then I would think he's interested.

I know you mentioned you want to 'see where it goes' but quite often it doesn't go where you might want it to because nobody is being clear with their goals, nobody is leading or driving it anywhere.

At this stage I would look at what it is you want and also at the practicalities. Are you looking to date to build a relationship or something more casual? What's the short term and long term idea or plan? You live far away and have seen each other three times since Feb. Are you both happy to continue seeing each other sporadically or will you make plans to step that up? Will one of you be prepared to move to be with the other one or both move elsewhere?

These are things you may or may not have considered. They may not be at the forefront of your mind because you're seeing how it goes but after it does 'go' then you might end up in a situation where you're seriously involved with each other yet are unable to be together due to the practical side of things.

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It sounds like you both have a reasonably good foundation. I wouldn't read into the past stuff too much. Just that you were childhood friends and remained connected in some way albeit on and off. Life clearly happened to you both, grew up, school, education, jobs etc, and now at 27 it sounds like you want to move on to a stage where you can build upon that foundation. If he's making an effort to see you then I would think he's interested.

I know you mentioned you want to 'see where it goes' but quite often it doesn't go where you might want it to because nobody is being clear with their goals, nobody is leading or driving it anywhere.

At this stage I would look at what it is you want and also at the practicalities. Are you looking to date to build a relationship or something more casual? What's the short term and long term idea or plan? You live far away and have seen each other three times since Feb. Are you both happy to continue seeing each other sporadically or will you make plans to step that up? Will one of you be prepared to move to be with the other one or both move elsewhere?

These are things you may or may not have considered. They may not be at the forefront of your mind because you're seeing how it goes but after it does 'go' then you might end up in a situation where you're seriously involved with each other yet are unable to be together due to the practical side of things.

Honestly, I want it all and I’m prepared to shoot my shot if he doesn’t. I don’t want to get too excited only to disappoint myself if he’s not in the same boat but I’d be willing to move and all that stuff. I want things to flow naturally for now. Like I can see a first kiss happening soon. I guess I kind of see it as I’ve waited 19 years for this, I can wait a bit longer

Posted by Arielle83

I love that you mentioned Zamboni.

It’s like you’re chasing Rob Lowe in “Youngbloods”.

I need to look up the reference

Ugh and now him and his friends are debating on Facebook about whether the oceans of Earth or space could be more scary. I wanna chime in but being cool.

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See him and talk to him more

Hoping so

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Ugh and now him and his friends are debating on Facebook about whether the oceans of Earth or space could be more scary. I wanna chime in but being cool.

Is he a flat earthers?

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Ugh and now him and his friends are debating on Facebook about whether the oceans of Earth or space could be more scary. I wanna chime in but being cool.

Is he a flat earthers?

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Nope! Just thinks things in outer space could be scarier than things in the ocean. 100% believes in aliens, as do I

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Ugh and now him and his friends are debating on Facebook about whether the oceans of Earth or space could be more scary. I wanna chime in but being cool.

Is he a flat earthers?

Nope! Just thinks things in outer space could be scarier than things in the ocean. 100% believes in aliens, as do I

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Sorry but aliens don't exist.

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Ugh and now him and his friends are debating on Facebook about whether the oceans of Earth or space could be more scary. I wanna chime in but being cool.

Is he a flat earthers?

Nope! Just thinks things in outer space could be scarier than things in the ocean. 100% believes in aliens, as do I

Sorry but aliens don't exist.

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That’s your opinion 🤷🏼‍♀️ I’m just glad me and this dude have similar opinions on the subject

UPDATE: So I went to a concert on Friday night. Stopped at his house for a quick beer with him before the concert, as he lives 15 minutes from the venue. Kinda texted last night and I shoot my shoot. Told him I like him. Buuuuuuut he does not feel the same. He wants to remain friends.

Apparently, it is possible for a really strong connection to be one sided. Nicholas Sparks would be heartbroken :/

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UPDATE: So I went to a concert on Friday night. Stopped at his house for a quick beer with him before the concert, as he lives 15 minutes from the venue. Kinda texted last night and I shoot my shoot. Told him I like him. Buuuuuuut he does not feel the same. He wants to remain friends.

Apparently, it is possible for a really strong connection to be one sided. Nicholas Sparks would be heartbroken :/

I’m sorry. I hope you’re okay. 🥺

Thanks for the follow up. I doubt anything will persuade people to stop encouraging magical thinking but one can hope.

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Thank you. Feels shitty but I'm glad I won't be wasting the summer hoping he'll text me to hang out. Whoever I end up with, was just meant to be. Can't kill my magical thinking, and his loss if he doesn't see how amazing we'd be together

I did also say i just felt like we had an awesome connection and like we were cut from the same cloth, and crazy always bumping into each other. He just said didn't feel the connection but always wants to be friends. Such an Aquarius I guess

ALSO I gotta say I feel kinda duped because he said he had a feeling I liked him. If so...why kinda continue to lead me on? Come to my house, sure cool. Awesome time. Come over before concert. Ok cool. "I had a feeling you like me but I'm sorry I don't feel the same"

Maybe I'm just trying to justify it

He also said I'm a "lovely and beautiful person" but he's just not feeling it -_-

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ALSO I gotta say I feel kinda duped because he said he had a feeling I liked him. If so...why kinda continue to lead me on? Come to my house, sure cool. Awesome time. Come over before concert. Ok cool. "I had a feeling you like me but I'm sorry I don't feel the same"

Maybe I'm just trying to justify it

He's being honest. It's a lot better than if he'd been wishy-washy when you told him and led you on.

I told you I thought his behavior was just friendly, but you felt more so you interpreted it as more. It's an easy mistake to make; happens to most of us at some point.

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Was just too excited I guess, but hey now I know. Not mad or anything but certainly disappointed

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Crap at least you know.

I am glad though you shared. It's confirmed my on going suspicion that actually strong connections can be one sided.

I'm probably crazy but I'm still calling bullshit. Like I am probably justifying everything but idk. The dude smokes a shit ton of pot and me and my friends are literally just like "maybe he's too fried to feel connection. Maybe he doesn't think he's good enough for me."

Idk but I said over and over if nothing happens with us, the universe is playing a cruel joke and I'm just really disappointed. But hey, he said he always wants to be friends. Maybe I'll see him again in 2 years

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Aw sorry it didn't turn out like you wanted. But at least he was honest and didn't lead you on.

Yea I'm happy nice let down too. Said always wants to be friends. Curious to see if he'll hit me up to hang out again, I certainly will not. Just kind of confusing like "you're a lovely beautiful person" so then why can't we try something? I just feel kinda crazy thinking there was such a strong connection, that he wasn't feeling apprentely

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UPDATE: So I went to a concert on Friday night. Stopped at his house for a quick beer with him before the concert, as he lives 15 minutes from the venue. Kinda texted last night and I shoot my shoot. Told him I like him. Buuuuuuut he does not feel the same. He wants to remain friends.

Apparently, it is possible for a really strong connection to be one sided. Nicholas Sparks would be heartbroken :/

I got a feeling you had a crush on him. Girl, sorry I know this happens. But don't sweat it, I had a crush on one of my friends for so many years and when we got together in a relationship, we didn't last longer than 4 months.. Kinda wish now we remained friends only. Some guys are just good for crush levels, no more when you know much about them in that area.

Now you can just move on to someone who deserves you

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UPDATE: So I went to a concert on Friday night. Stopped at his house for a quick beer with him before the concert, as he lives 15 minutes from the venue. Kinda texted last night and I shoot my shoot. Told him I like him. Buuuuuuut he does not feel the same. He wants to remain friends.

Apparently, it is possible for a really strong connection to be one sided. Nicholas Sparks would be heartbroken :/

I got a feeling you had a crush on him. Girl, sorry I know this happens. But don't sweat it, I had a crush on one of my friends for so many years and when we got together in a relationship, we didn't last longer than 4 months.. Kinda wish now we remained friends only. Some guys are just good for crush levels, no more when you know much about them in that area.

Now you can just move on to someone who deserves you

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Sound advice. Just curious to see if he'll reach out to hang out again. I think he has some shit going on in his life. Idk why, but something inside of me is telling me this ain't it yet. We'll see what the future holds