Queen of Hearts
@VampScorp
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I am loyal, but I secretly signed up for a site to post about this. Uh huh. Sure.
I do appreciate an objective point of view but let me correct you both. I am loyal to my husband, please do not question that. I have no interest in straying. We are perfect together, we are very happy and honest with each other. I've told my husband I'm talking to the Libra man, he hasn't asked abou what though - he just trusts me like I trust him when he speaks to his ex's. Sorry I didn't know how much detail was required in my opening post so perhaps you read me wrong?
I'm conflicted because I understand this is Libra's character and unsure about HIS intentions. They are 'supposedly' airy and have flirtations with anything with a pulse. My concern is whether I am reading into it too much and being a typical suspicious Scorpio.
Libra and I have mutual friends, I'm always of the persuasion to keep things amicable so this is why I'm asking for advice. I'm hesitant to block him and cut ties as 'friends' if he is being genuine and not trying to charm me in that sense.
My gut says he is not genuine but I really don't know because of said airy/flirty traits and hence why I said he's on my mind more than I would like (my Scorpio self obsessing!)
I'm being honest with myself, I have no reason to lie to forum strangers! Like I said the conversations are innocent (which they really see!) but it's he frequency that alarmed me hence the title - 'emotional' affair as people who talk THAT much are generally together? I try to ignore him sometimes but don't like to be rude if he is just being friendly. If it's deemed as an emotional affair then I would back the fuck off!!
For all my suspicions and analysing I can be quite naive and try and see the best in people so this is why I'm asking for advice. It's really difficult to get the nuances of a situation across in a message so I hope I've done a better job this time!
I'm conflicted because I understand this is Libra's character and unsure about HIS intentions. They are 'supposedly' airy and have flirtations with anything with a pulse. My concern is whether I am reading into it too much and being a typical suspicious Scorpio.
Libra and I have mutual friends, I'm always of the persuasion to keep things amicable so this is why I'm asking for advice. I'm hesitant to block him and cut ties as 'friends' if he is being genuine and not trying to charm me in that sense.
My gut says he is not genuine but I really don't know because of said airy/flirty traits and hence why I said he's on my mind more than I would like (my Scorpio self obsessing!)
I'm being honest with myself, I have no reason to lie to forum strangers! Like I said the conversations are innocent (which they really see!) but it's he frequency that alarmed me hence the title - 'emotional' affair as people who talk THAT much are generally together? I try to ignore him sometimes but don't like to be rude if he is just being friendly. If it's deemed as an emotional affair then I would back the fuck off!!
For all my suspicions and analysing I can be quite naive and try and see the best in people so this is why I'm asking for advice. It's really difficult to get the nuances of a situation across in a message so I hope I've done a better job this time!
Listen, I read all of this, but you aren't exhibiting loyalty right now.
As a Scorpio, you should have intuition enough to know that if it has gotten to a point where you are signing up on a random site, asking advice from strangers, it has already gone too far. If you are loyal to your husband, you would have stopped communicating with him at the first sign you thought something was said that was not appropriate towards someone married, from someone married.
Don't play dumb, cause we Scorpios, aren't.
You do not have to communicate with some dude daily, just because you have history and mutual friends and not be civil to them during occasional meet and greets. You can easily not do this, but you continue to do so.
You, yourself talk about having a short fling, and still kind of having a thing for him for years. So don't delude us, or yourself.
As a Scorpio, you should have intuition enough to know that if it has gotten to a point where you are signing up on a random site, asking advice from strangers, it has already gone too far. If you are loyal to your husband, you would have stopped communicating with him at the first sign you thought something was said that was not appropriate towards someone married, from someone married.
Don't play dumb, cause we Scorpios, aren't.
You do not have to communicate with some dude daily, just because you have history and mutual friends and not be civil to them during occasional meet and greets. You can easily not do this, but you continue to do so.
You, yourself talk about having a short fling, and still kind of having a thing for him for years. So don't delude us, or yourself.
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Posted by nikkistarwhat the heck happened with that other thread that just disappeared ... lol
Listen, I read all of this, but you aren't exhibiting loyalty right now.
As a Scorpio, you should have intuition enough to know that if it has gotten to a point where you are signing up on a random site, asking advice from strangers, it has already gone too far. If you are loyal to your husband, you would have stopped communicating with him at the first sign you thought something was said that was not appropriate towards someone married, from someone married.
Don't play dumb, cause we Scorpios, aren't.
You do not have to communicate with some dude daily, just because you have history and mutual friends and not be civil to them during occasional meet and greets. You can easily not do this, but you continue to do so.
You, yourself talk about having a short fling, and still kind of having a thing for him for years. So don't delude us, or yourself.
I don't reply to him late at night, and at times I've ignored him but he still sends messages but has now backed off since I told him I wasn't meeting him. But I'm sure he'll come back and this is my question, should I block him then?
My intuition is strong BUT there's a flip side to that and for whatever reason I don't trust my judgement at times, shoot me oh wait you've already done that lol I was basically asking if I'm reading the situation correctly. If I am then just say, but to tell me how I feel about my marriage, don't go there! I've told my husband I'm back in touch with libra. Honestly the convo's are innocent but at times I've felt he crossed the line, just cheeky stuff that he could get away with it as banter as it's very very thinly vieled.
Clearly I've given too much information that I can't convey correctly and people are assuming I want something to happen but I don't, he can not compare to my husband.
Whoever said I'm thinking about him too much is correct. It's not in a romantic sense, he's got under my skin in a way I don't like. Is he playing me or am I just being my paranoid sense? I do suffer with this.
My intuition is strong BUT there's a flip side to that and for whatever reason I don't trust my judgement at times, shoot me oh wait you've already done that lol I was basically asking if I'm reading the situation correctly. If I am then just say, but to tell me how I feel about my marriage, don't go there! I've told my husband I'm back in touch with libra. Honestly the convo's are innocent but at times I've felt he crossed the line, just cheeky stuff that he could get away with it as banter as it's very very thinly vieled.
Clearly I've given too much information that I can't convey correctly and people are assuming I want something to happen but I don't, he can not compare to my husband.
Whoever said I'm thinking about him too much is correct. It's not in a romantic sense, he's got under my skin in a way I don't like. Is he playing me or am I just being my paranoid sense? I do suffer with this.
Posted by tctaI am assuming Pisces4scorpio finally deleted. It was another one of her, MEN JUST LOVE ME SO MUCH and I LOVE (insert guy of the moment) threads she always posts. Everyone calls her out on her shit, she disappears for a few weeks thinking people forgot, and then posts about being in love with some other dude.Posted by nikkistarwhat the heck happened with that other thread that just disappeared ... lol
Listen, I read all of this, but you aren't exhibiting loyalty right now.
As a Scorpio, you should have intuition enough to know that if it has gotten to a point where you are signing up on a random site, asking advice from strangers, it has already gone too far. If you are loyal to your husband, you would have stopped communicating with him at the first sign you thought something was said that was not appropriate towards someone married, from someone married.
Don't play dumb, cause we Scorpios, aren't.
You do not have to communicate with some dude daily, just because you have history and mutual friends and not be civil to them during occasional meet and greets. You can easily not do this, but you continue to do so.
You, yourself talk about having a short fling, and still kind of having a thing for him for years. So don't delude us, or yourself.click to expand
She will probably come back as Pisces4Cancer, or MyLegsAreOpenLike711
Posted by nikkistarmama's got a squeeze box!Posted by tctaI am assuming Pisces4scorpio finally deleted. It was another one of her, MEN JUST LOVE ME SO MUCH and I LOVE (insert guy of the moment) threads she always posts. Everyone calls her out on her shit, she disappears for a few weeks thinking people forgot, and then posts about being in love with some other dude.Posted by nikkistarwhat the heck happened with that other thread that just disappeared ... lol
Listen, I read all of this, but you aren't exhibiting loyalty right now.
As a Scorpio, you should have intuition enough to know that if it has gotten to a point where you are signing up on a random site, asking advice from strangers, it has already gone too far. If you are loyal to your husband, you would have stopped communicating with him at the first sign you thought something was said that was not appropriate towards someone married, from someone married.
Don't play dumb, cause we Scorpios, aren't.
You do not have to communicate with some dude daily, just because you have history and mutual friends and not be civil to them during occasional meet and greets. You can easily not do this, but you continue to do so.
You, yourself talk about having a short fling, and still kind of having a thing for him for years. So don't delude us, or yourself.
She will probably come back as Pisces4Cancer, or MyLegsAreOpenLike711click to expand
GC01 Thank you for reading the parts that I hoped would show my true intentions and for the reasurrance.
My marriage is fine, I'm in love with my husband. I don't want an affair. The title was ill though out but I guess some people like to bash at any given opportunity, fair enough but hope they get the same treatment when they are feeling mental/emotional anguish.
My marriage is fine, I'm in love with my husband. I don't want an affair. The title was ill though out but I guess some people like to bash at any given opportunity, fair enough but hope they get the same treatment when they are feeling mental/emotional anguish.
Posted by tctaOh and @tiziani said because the OP fundementally hates men, that it's polarizing for aphrodite archetypes like me. And then someone thought the OP was, and I said AH HELLZ NAH lolPosted by nikkistarmama's got a squeeze box!Posted by tctaI am assuming Pisces4scorpio finally deleted. It was another one of her, MEN JUST LOVE ME SO MUCH and I LOVE (insert guy of the moment) threads she always posts. Everyone calls her out on her shit, she disappears for a few weeks thinking people forgot, and then posts about being in love with some other dude.Posted by nikkistarwhat the heck happened with that other thread that just disappeared ... lol
Listen, I read all of this, but you aren't exhibiting loyalty right now.
As a Scorpio, you should have intuition enough to know that if it has gotten to a point where you are signing up on a random site, asking advice from strangers, it has already gone too far. If you are loyal to your husband, you would have stopped communicating with him at the first sign you thought something was said that was not appropriate towards someone married, from someone married.
Don't play dumb, cause we Scorpios, aren't.
You do not have to communicate with some dude daily, just because you have history and mutual friends and not be civil to them during occasional meet and greets. You can easily not do this, but you continue to do so.
You, yourself talk about having a short fling, and still kind of having a thing for him for years. So don't delude us, or yourself.
She will probably come back as Pisces4Cancer, or MyLegsAreOpenLike711
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Wow reading some of the replies, did people actually read the entire post or did you just get bored at para 2 and coupled with the title just think yeah she wants to get with libra— I bloody don't.
I've been told my trait of over analysing is a negative. So yes I doubt myself, and it's a bit tricky when you have mutual friends and occasionally see people. I don't want any atmosphere but whatever. I'll take the advice
and will trust my gut.
I've been told my trait of over analysing is a negative. So yes I doubt myself, and it's a bit tricky when you have mutual friends and occasionally see people. I don't want any atmosphere but whatever. I'll take the advice
and will trust my gut.
And he will Hare. Was just trying to get an objective opinion but can see for most this forum is just keyboard sport.
Someone asked why I've 'secretly' joined up today. Well I'm actually really interested in astrology and have lurked for months, way before libra got back in touch but I wonder why you joined. What your intentions where, perhaps to let off steam.
Someone asked why I've 'secretly' joined up today. Well I'm actually really interested in astrology and have lurked for months, way before libra got back in touch but I wonder why you joined. What your intentions where, perhaps to let off steam.
Thanks cvurko. I feel happy in my marriage, my husband and I spend quality time and give each other space.
Maybe it's ME? Maybe I need to work on and trust my intuition, for a very long time I've been made to feel paranoid when in reality I'm right about most things. Another reason why I'm asking strangers rather than my friends for fear they'll just brush it off as me over analysing.
Maybe it's ME? Maybe I need to work on and trust my intuition, for a very long time I've been made to feel paranoid when in reality I'm right about most things. Another reason why I'm asking strangers rather than my friends for fear they'll just brush it off as me over analysing.
Posted by tizianiPlease let her be an Athena...Posted by nikkistarPosted by tctaOh and @tiziani said because the OP fundementally hates men, that it's polarizing for aphrodite archetypes like me. And then someone thought the OP was, and I said AH HELLZ NAH lolPosted by nikkistarmama's got a squeeze box!Posted by tctaI am assuming Pisces4scorpio finally deleted. It was another one of her, MEN JUST LOVE ME SO MUCH and I LOVE (insert guy of the moment) threads she always posts. Everyone calls her out on her shit, she disappears for a few weeks thinking people forgot, and then posts about being in love with some other dude.Posted by nikkistarwhat the heck happened with that other thread that just disappeared ... lol
Listen, I read all of this, but you aren't exhibiting loyalty right now.
As a Scorpio, you should have intuition enough to know that if it has gotten to a point where you are signing up on a random site, asking advice from strangers, it has already gone too far. If you are loyal to your husband, you would have stopped communicating with him at the first sign you thought something was said that was not appropriate towards someone married, from someone married.
Don't play dumb, cause we Scorpios, aren't.
You do not have to communicate with some dude daily, just because you have history and mutual friends and not be civil to them during occasional meet and greets. You can easily not do this, but you continue to do so.
You, yourself talk about having a short fling, and still kind of having a thing for him for years. So don't delude us, or yourself.
She will probably come back as Pisces4Cancer, or MyLegsAreOpenLike711
She could be an Aphrodite gone dark, I didn't think about it but that fits. I thought of her as more of an Athena.
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Infinite8 I was confused about libra's intentions, really how hard is it? I don't trust my intuition at times and have asked random people to point me in the right directio which a couple of sincere people have done so now I'm at ease and trust what I initially thought. Maybe move along if it's to hard to comprehend.
We can't all be know it all's. Who would message the egos of the almighties on dxpnet?
We can't all be know it all's. Who would message the egos of the almighties on dxpnet?
Hare - last paragraph of my response wasn't directed at you. Don't know how to reply directly to people's posts so just answered collectively.
Thanks Tiazani - Yes I have to accept your point. This would make me feel better about the situation. Like I said I told my husband in passing I was back in touch with libra, completely open about it because at this point I truly felt his motivations were genuine. We both talk to exes, the ones that are genuine friends and there is no jealousy:
I'm just going to tell him the conversations got too
heavy and it made me feel uncomfortable so won't be talking to him anymore.
I'm just going to tell him the conversations got too
heavy and it made me feel uncomfortable so won't be talking to him anymore.
Thanks for the wisdom StarWars. I don't believe in cheating in any form either and wanted to know if my interaction with libra would be deemed that. I guess it would be so will no longer engage.
OP,
I've read this thread and I formed a different opinion than the majority have. I'm actually more aligned to Tiziani's last post on the subject.
Based on what you have shared, I don't see this as emotional cheating. If it is then we'd all have to have the emotional police round to take us all away. It's very noble for people to say they never think about any kind of situation involving another man whether it's at one end of the scale and just as friends or at the other carrying out a full blown affair. Just because you've come on here to discuss a tricky situation, it does not make you disloyal. You might be but who knows?
You have a friendship and fling history with this guy. He's been part of your friendship circle for the last decade. You have mutual friends. Of course you're going to be communicating with him. It sounds like others are suggesting you should never have communicated with him in the first place and you should dump your friend immediately.
It does sound to me like he's trying his luck. Why wouldn't he? He's a bloke. You're a Scorp. It happens.
As a friend, I'd weigh up if his friendship is worth keeping and at what level.
You've been communicating and he's overstepped your comfort boundary. You just need to tell him thanks but no thanks, very firmly and clearly, and leave it at that. You don't need to block him and banish him to the friend reject pile just because he got a bit flirty and probably wouldn't mind sticking his dick in you. Some guys would stick their dick into a beehive if it were for free. Just because he was flirty and wanted to stick his dick in, it doesn't mean you need to open your legs.
It doesn't mean you're emotionally unfaithful because you've had a conversation with him which highlighted and prompted an unexpected feeling in you. It's not wrong to feel charmed and flattered by another man (or woman). It happens. What are you supposed to do? Never talk to a man again in case you might have a feeling. The point is it was unexpected, you weren't looking for attention. This guy showed you interest and you're not entirely sure how to take it. It sounds like you don't want to act on this feeling by sitting on his dick. This is a good thing.
It's up to you how much you choose to engage with this guy. If you can't trust yourself with him because you do actually want to sit on his dick then I'd say there's an issue in your current relationship. If you were feeling flattered and charmed by him then I really wouldn't worry about it too much. It doesn't mean something is missing or there's a problem in your current relationship. It can but not always. I wouldn't go encouraging the guy. Perhaps just keep communication infrequent.
I've read this thread and I formed a different opinion than the majority have. I'm actually more aligned to Tiziani's last post on the subject.
Based on what you have shared, I don't see this as emotional cheating. If it is then we'd all have to have the emotional police round to take us all away. It's very noble for people to say they never think about any kind of situation involving another man whether it's at one end of the scale and just as friends or at the other carrying out a full blown affair. Just because you've come on here to discuss a tricky situation, it does not make you disloyal. You might be but who knows?
You have a friendship and fling history with this guy. He's been part of your friendship circle for the last decade. You have mutual friends. Of course you're going to be communicating with him. It sounds like others are suggesting you should never have communicated with him in the first place and you should dump your friend immediately.
It does sound to me like he's trying his luck. Why wouldn't he? He's a bloke. You're a Scorp. It happens.
As a friend, I'd weigh up if his friendship is worth keeping and at what level.
You've been communicating and he's overstepped your comfort boundary. You just need to tell him thanks but no thanks, very firmly and clearly, and leave it at that. You don't need to block him and banish him to the friend reject pile just because he got a bit flirty and probably wouldn't mind sticking his dick in you. Some guys would stick their dick into a beehive if it were for free. Just because he was flirty and wanted to stick his dick in, it doesn't mean you need to open your legs.
It doesn't mean you're emotionally unfaithful because you've had a conversation with him which highlighted and prompted an unexpected feeling in you. It's not wrong to feel charmed and flattered by another man (or woman). It happens. What are you supposed to do? Never talk to a man again in case you might have a feeling. The point is it was unexpected, you weren't looking for attention. This guy showed you interest and you're not entirely sure how to take it. It sounds like you don't want to act on this feeling by sitting on his dick. This is a good thing.
It's up to you how much you choose to engage with this guy. If you can't trust yourself with him because you do actually want to sit on his dick then I'd say there's an issue in your current relationship. If you were feeling flattered and charmed by him then I really wouldn't worry about it too much. It doesn't mean something is missing or there's a problem in your current relationship. It can but not always. I wouldn't go encouraging the guy. Perhaps just keep communication infrequent.
Infinite - I wasn't ignoring you. What questions have I not answered? I thought I had responded on as much as possible, the thread moved quite fast and unfortunately with not much constructive advice.
Posted by AgentP911Thank you for taking the time to read me a bit more than an ill thought out thread title and opening post.
OP,
I've read this thread and I formed a different opinion than the majority have. I'm actually more aligned to Tiziani's last post on the subject.
Based on what you have shared, I don't see this as emotional cheating. If it is then we'd all have to have the emotional police round to take us all away. It's very noble for people to say they never think about any kind of situation involving another man whether it's at one end of the scale and just as friends or at the other carrying out a full blown affair. Just because you've come on here to discuss a tricky situation, it does not make you disloyal. You might be but who knows?
You have a friendship and fling history with this guy. He's been part of your friendship circle for the last decade. You have mutual friends. Of course you're going to be communicating with him. It sounds like others are suggesting you should never have communicated with him in the first place and you should dump your friend immediately.
It does sound to me like he's trying his luck. Why wouldn't he? He's a bloke. You're a Scorp. It happens.
As a friend, I'd weigh up if his friendship is worth keeping and at what level.
You've been communicating and he's overstepped your comfort boundary. You just need to tell him thanks but no thanks, very firmly and clearly, and leave it at that. You don't need to block him and banish him to the friend reject pile just because he got a bit flirty and probably wouldn't mind sticking his dick in you. Some guys would stick their dick into a beehive if it were for free. Just because he was flirty and wanted to stick his dick in, it doesn't mean you need to open your legs.
It doesn't mean you're emotionally unfaithful because you've had a conversation with him which highlighted and prompted an unexpected feeling in you. It's not wrong to feel charmed and flattered by another man (or woman). It happens. What are you supposed to do? Never talk to a man again in case you might have a feeling. The point is it was unexpected, you weren't looking for attention. This guy showed you interest and you're not entirely sure how to take it. It sounds like you don't want to act on this feeling by sitting on his dick. This is a good thing.
It's up to you how much you choose to engage with this guy. If you can't trust yourself with him because you do actually want to sit on his dick then I'd say there's an issue in your current relationship. If you were feeling flattered and charmed by him then I really wouldn't worry about it too much. It doesn't mean something is missing or there's a problem in your current relationship. It can but not always. I wouldn't go encouraging the guy. Perhaps just keep communication infrequent.
I finished with Libra over 10 years ago for fear he was a player. I did not want to be played and would not now do this to my husband. However we stayed friends as I still liked him (as a person!)
When I said I know he is charming me, well exactly that. I know his games. What feelings it ignited was not lust or excitement but confusion as to what HE is playing at. Is he trying it or is he just being his flirty friendly libra self.
But yes, your point on have feelings for other people are spot on. It's whether we act on them! Some of the posters here have shown no compassion, just quick judgment based on the title of my thread. Which I regret but am glad that some (even infinite but I don't agree with all of your perception because well I know how I feel about cheating) of the posters (Tiz, Curv and can't remember the other name) have given a balanced point of view.
Anyway, this thread and libra were still playing on my mind and hubby could tell I was distracted so we spoke this morning. I've shown him the messages and yep, he says I'm being paranoid but libra did overstep the mark on one of the messages. My husbands not threatened so has left it for me to decide whether I want to remain friends.
I'm just going to keep it infrequent like Agent suggested.
Thanks all.
Posted by VampScorpIt's good you were able to discuss this openly with your husband. Communication is key.Hopefully you have been able to shed some light on your confusion and quelled it further.Posted by AgentP911Thank you for taking the time to read me a bit more than an ill thought out thread title and opening post.
OP,
I've read this thread and I formed a different opinion than the majority have. I'm actually more aligned to Tiziani's last post on the subject.
Based on what you have shared, I don't see this as emotional cheating. If it is then we'd all have to have the emotional police round to take us all away. It's very noble for people to say they never think about any kind of situation involving another man whether it's at one end of the scale and just as friends or at the other carrying out a full blown affair. Just because you've come on here to discuss a tricky situation, it does not make you disloyal. You might be but who knows?
You have a friendship and fling history with this guy. He's been part of your friendship circle for the last decade. You have mutual friends. Of course you're going to be communicating with him. It sounds like others are suggesting you should never have communicated with him in the first place and you should dump your friend immediately.
It does sound to me like he's trying his luck. Why wouldn't he? He's a bloke. You're a Scorp. It happens.
As a friend, I'd weigh up if his friendship is worth keeping and at what level.
You've been communicating and he's overstepped your comfort boundary. You just need to tell him thanks but no thanks, very firmly and clearly, and leave it at that. You don't need to block him and banish him to the friend reject pile just because he got a bit flirty and probably wouldn't mind sticking his dick in you. Some guys would stick their dick into a beehive if it were for free. Just because he was flirty and wanted to stick his dick in, it doesn't mean you need to open your legs.
It doesn't mean you're emotionally unfaithful because you've had a conversation with him which highlighted and prompted an unexpected feeling in you. It's not wrong to feel charmed and flattered by another man (or woman). It happens. What are you supposed to do? Never talk to a man again in case you might have a feeling. The point is it was unexpected, you weren't looking for attention. This guy showed you interest and you're not entirely sure how to take it. It sounds like you don't want to act on this feeling by sitting on his dick. This is a good thing.
It's up to you how much you choose to engage with this guy. If you can't trust yourself with him because you do actually want to sit on his dick then I'd say there's an issue in your current relationship. If you were feeling flattered and charmed by him then I really wouldn't worry about it too much. It doesn't mean something is missing or there's a problem in your current relationship. It can but not always. I wouldn't go encouraging the guy. Perhaps just keep communication infrequent.
I finished with Libra over 10 years ago for fear he was a player. I did not want to be played and would not now do this to my husband. However we stayed friends as I still liked him (as a person!)
When I said I know he is charming me, well exactly that. I know his games. What feelings it ignited was not lust or excitement but confusion as to what HE is playing at. Is he trying it or is he just being his flirty friendly libra self.
But yes, your point on have feelings for other people are spot on. It's whether we act on them! Some of the posters here have shown no compassion, just quick judgment based on the title of my thread. Which I regret but am glad that some (even infinite but I don't agree with all of your perception because well I know how I feel about cheating) of the posters (Tiz, Curv and can't remember the other name) have given a balanced point of view.
Anyway, this thread and libra were still playing on my mind and hubby could tell I was distracted so we spoke this morning. I've shown him the messages and yep, he says I'm being paranoid but libra did overstep the mark on one of the messages. My husbands not threatened so has left it for me to decide whether I want to remain friends.
I'm just going to keep it infrequent like Agent suggested.
Thanks all.
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My ex partner, I've known him for 18 years but we've been good friends for the past 15 years, we met via work 18 years ago and have maintained a good and amicable friendship. I don't really like refer to him as ex partner as we've been friends for longer. Anyway, his wife of seven years, together ten years, suddenly passed away three weeks ago. The funeral was this week. When I heard the news I was devastated for him. I've never been so overwhelmed with compassion. This situation provoked this response and these feelings in me. Does this mean I'm emotionally cheating? No.
A while ago I had feelings rise up when this young physio bloke did a physio move on me like a hug. It felt very nice indeed and made me think about things. Would that have been emotionally cheating? No.
My very good friend and work colleague, an older Scorp, he's married to another Scorp, had dinner and drinks after a very long and tiring work event. I very much enjoyed his company and it provoked some feelings in me. Did I act on them? No. Did I want to act on them? No. Did I think about and conclude why I was feeling these things? Yes. I concluded I should probably start dating again to find a boyfriend to share dinner and drinks with! I still have lunch or dinner with my friend, I'm no longer single, I still occasionally have a feeling but it's more that I just like the company of my friend. Is that emotionally cheating? No.
Maybe they're not the greatest examples but they are some that stick out for me. I guess it's your own definition of emotional cheating that people need to go by.
Posted by VampScorpLet me disagree with everyone else. The only thing that keeps a long term marriage for imploding is to remain friendly, interested and ready to banter with the rest of the mankind, including males. There is no harm in it once you set clear boundaries. I don't see yourself losing your mind over some male attention. There is nothing to do with cheating either. Emotional cheating does not exist. You promised your man not to put someone elses P in your V, to cherish and respect him, not to close yourself to attention, become blind and bitter. Only strong, secure people understand this.
I do appreciate an objective point of view but let me correct you both. I am loyal to my husband, please do not question that. I have no interest in straying. We are perfect together, we are very happy and honest with each other. I've told my husband I'm talking to the Libra man, he hasn't asked abou what though - he just trusts me like I trust him when he speaks to his ex's. Sorry I didn't know how much detail was required in my opening post so perhaps you read me wrong?
I'm conflicted because I understand this is Libra's character and unsure about HIS intentions. They are 'supposedly' airy and have flirtations with anything with a pulse. My concern is whether I am reading into it too much and being a typical suspicious Scorpio.
Libra and I have mutual friends, I'm always of the persuasion to keep things amicable so this is why I'm asking for advice. I'm hesitant to block him and cut ties as 'friends' if he is being genuine and not trying to charm me in that sense.
My gut says he is not genuine but I really don't know because of said airy/flirty traits and hence why I said he's on my mind more than I would like (my Scorpio self obsessing!)
I'm being honest with myself, I have no reason to lie to forum strangers! Like I said the conversations are innocent (which they really see!) but it's he frequency that alarmed me hence the title - 'emotional' affair as people who talk THAT much are generally together? I try to ignore him sometimes but don't like to be rude if he is just being friendly. If it's deemed as an emotional affair then I would back the fuck off!!
For all my suspicions and analysing I can be quite naive and try and see the best in people so this is why I'm asking for advice. It's really difficult to get the nuances of a situation across in a message so I hope I've done a better job this time!
As for your Libra, I was married to one (sun, venus and rising!) for 17 years. I have never seen a player side in him, and he had A LOT of female attention, including giggling girls who mistaken him for a film star. For example, he was waiting for me outside of a shop on holidays, and when I came back he was surrounded by a swarm of young women, lol. Other time he got involved in intense conversation with female friends in front of me. He treated them like Friends, and I could see the difference in the way he talked to them, compared to how he talked and looked at to me. It is so easy to see where the heart of a Libra really is!
If your Libra wants to get in your pants, just end it there! The recipe for a long happy marriage is not to close yourself up when people are paying attention to you, but to be able to say NO at anything which crosses boundaries.
You don't have to block him, but stop always answering his texts. Be short with him. Take hours to respond. Show him your not interested in more without actually saying so. He will get your hints
This is why monogamy isn't the shit for me anymore.
Thanks for sharing AgentP, I can certainly relate.
So many different interpretations on my intentions but never less I do appreciate cold, hard truths. I needed to question myself, which I have done and feel I haven't done anything wrong.
Having spoken to my husband this morning I feel at ease with everything. However no surprise Libra has messaged me again, I've not replied. I don't always do, but he keeps on. Only time will tell but my boundaries are clear in my head.
God_shite I'm guessing you are directing your post at me? I honestly can not see where I have back peddled or contradicted myself yet you are not surprised? I don't know why you are so mistrusting of people but please do not project your experience of deception on me. You don't know me, it's pretty difficult to portray over 30 odd years of character over an Internet forum so either take my word at face value, offer constructive advice or move along. Thanks.
So many different interpretations on my intentions but never less I do appreciate cold, hard truths. I needed to question myself, which I have done and feel I haven't done anything wrong.
Having spoken to my husband this morning I feel at ease with everything. However no surprise Libra has messaged me again, I've not replied. I don't always do, but he keeps on. Only time will tell but my boundaries are clear in my head.
God_shite I'm guessing you are directing your post at me? I honestly can not see where I have back peddled or contradicted myself yet you are not surprised? I don't know why you are so mistrusting of people but please do not project your experience of deception on me. You don't know me, it's pretty difficult to portray over 30 odd years of character over an Internet forum so either take my word at face value, offer constructive advice or move along. Thanks.
*Gob not God!!!
Also, I don't know everyone's usernames to thank them personally but have liked your posts if I've found them useful. Tiz, Notso et al
Also, I don't know everyone's usernames to thank them personally but have liked your posts if I've found them useful. Tiz, Notso et al
Posted by leowwwJust my 2 cents.Posted by VampScorpSome people don't view emotional affairs as cheating... I guess because of the lack of physical contact..
I'm a scorpion woman with Pisces (2nd decan) and my friend is a libra man with Gemini (3rd decan).
We've known each other for years, had a short fling nearly 10 years ago. I broke it off as I thought he was a player but always liked him afterwards, I just didn't want to get hurt! We are both now married. We recently reconnected through mutual friends. Saw him at a dinner party. We always remained friends after the fling but no real contact until recently.
He began messaging me A LOT! At times that made me think why am I on your mind last thing at night or first thing in the morning. Our conversations are purely innocent but he sometimes gives overtones of flirting. I know this is his character but I'm just feeling conflicted.
I'm a loyal wife and have no intentions to cheat BUT this libra is charming me. He made some excuse for us to meet alone, I declined and he's now distanced himself. I'm so confused. Does he want to be my friend or just get in my knickers? Do I just need to block him?
I analyse everything and he's now on my mind more than I'd like to admit.
Can anyone give me advice on how to move forward?
I do though. In my eyes you're not being loyal to your marriage. If you have to ask if you need to block him.. I believe you already answered your question.
If your husband did the same thing on his side... Hiding, entertaining and potentially hoping to be with someone else... Would that hurt?
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If you involved with someone else seriously - it doesn't matter if your spouse has someone. You just don't care.
So this part is like - whatever!
Posted by VampScorpDon't worry he'll be back.
I'm a scorpion woman with Pisces (2nd decan) and my friend is a libra man with Gemini (3rd decan).
We've known each other for years, had a short fling nearly 10 years ago. I broke it off as I thought he was a player but always liked him afterwards, I just didn't want to get hurt! We are both now married. We recently reconnected through mutual friends. Saw him at a dinner party. We always remained friends after the fling but no real contact until recently.
He began messaging me A LOT! At times that made me think why am I on your mind last thing at night or first thing in the morning. Our conversations are purely innocent but he sometimes gives overtones of flirting. I know this is his character but I'm just feeling conflicted.
I'm a loyal wife and have no intentions to cheat BUT this libra is charming me. He made some excuse for us to meet alone, I declined and he's now distanced himself. I'm so confused. Does he want to be my friend or just get in my knickers? Do I just need to block him?
I analyse everything and he's now on my mind more than I'd like to admit.
Can anyone give me advice on how to move forward?
If he is messaging you a lot; he is quite smitten. You must have looked ravishing when you saw him last.
He wants an affair, depending on how you play your cards perhaps something more.
He has retreated to revamp his game, he will come back be prepared.
Cvurko, no worries! I don't think your reply is irrelevant, I still need to hear it! Plus it's good for other people that are lurking and reading.
It's my fault I felt the way I did. I've said it before but will repeat. I obsess and over analyse to a point I don't even trust my own judgement. I don't want to look totally crazy to my close circles so came here! I also didn't want to put anything in my husbands head unnecessarily but I'm so glad a user told me straight up to talk to him. I probably would have done it eventually but it would have come out all wrong. I needed objective opinions to calm my thoughts so despite being initially lynched I was able to step back, read some of the insightful advice and speak to my husband in a calm fashion. This obviously helped him feel at ease too.
All is good now so thanks to those that responded seriously.
It's my fault I felt the way I did. I've said it before but will repeat. I obsess and over analyse to a point I don't even trust my own judgement. I don't want to look totally crazy to my close circles so came here! I also didn't want to put anything in my husbands head unnecessarily but I'm so glad a user told me straight up to talk to him. I probably would have done it eventually but it would have come out all wrong. I needed objective opinions to calm my thoughts so despite being initially lynched I was able to step back, read some of the insightful advice and speak to my husband in a calm fashion. This obviously helped him feel at ease too.
All is good now so thanks to those that responded seriously.
Goodtimes - sorry, you read me wrong. I don't want libra that way. Yes as a friend though!! I was trying to work out his intentions, and felt confused about his actions. Does he want friendship or a fling thing?
Posted by UndineIt's a wonderful outlook on emotional affair and I appreciate it more than more people here...Posted by VampScorpLet me disagree with everyone else. The only thing that keeps a long term marriage for imploding is to remain friendly, interested and ready to banter with the rest of the mankind, including males. There is no harm in it once you set clear boundaries. I don't see yourself losing your mind over some male attention. There is nothing to do with cheating either. Emotional cheating does not exist. You promised your man not to put someone elses P in your V, to cherish and respect him, not to close yourself to attention, become blind and bitter. Only strong, secure people understand this.
I do appreciate an objective point of view but let me correct you both. I am loyal to my husband, please do not question that. I have no interest in straying. We are perfect together, we are very happy and honest with each other. I've told my husband I'm talking to the Libra man, he hasn't asked abou what though - he just trusts me like I trust him when he speaks to his ex's. Sorry I didn't know how much detail was required in my opening post so perhaps you read me wrong?
I'm conflicted because I understand this is Libra's character and unsure about HIS intentions. They are 'supposedly' airy and have flirtations with anything with a pulse. My concern is whether I am reading into it too much and being a typical suspicious Scorpio.
Libra and I have mutual friends, I'm always of the persuasion to keep things amicable so this is why I'm asking for advice. I'm hesitant to block him and cut ties as 'friends' if he is being genuine and not trying to charm me in that sense.
My gut says he is not genuine but I really don't know because of said airy/flirty traits and hence why I said he's on my mind more than I would like (my Scorpio self obsessing!)
I'm being honest with myself, I have no reason to lie to forum strangers! Like I said the conversations are innocent (which they really see!) but it's he frequency that alarmed me hence the title - 'emotional' affair as people who talk THAT much are generally together? I try to ignore him sometimes but don't like to be rude if he is just being friendly. If it's deemed as an emotional affair then I would back the fuck off!!
For all my suspicions and analysing I can be quite naive and try and see the best in people so this is why I'm asking for advice. It's really difficult to get the nuances of a situation across in a message so I hope I've done a better job this time!
As for your Libra, I was married to one (sun, venus and rising!) for 17 years. I have never seen a player side in him, and he had A LOT of female attention, including giggling girls who mistaken him for a film star. For example, he was waiting for me outside of a shop on holidays, and when I came back he was surrounded by a swarm of young women, lol. Other time he got involved in intense conversation with female friends in front of me. He treated them like Friends, and I could see the difference in the way he talked to them, compared to how he talked and looked at to me. It is so easy to see where the heart of a Libra really is!
If your Libra wants to get in your pants, just end it there! The recipe for a long happy marriage is not to close yourself up when people are paying attention to you, but to be able to say NO at anything which crosses boundaries.
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But if I will take your post to a heart I will have to accept my feelings to want to be with another person 24/7 so I can't even read a book because I see his face in every page? And I take phone calls even when my husband is around because I can't miss one second of him if I can have that second!
So if your theory is correct - it's ok for me to have this emotional affair as long as it's not physical?
I would gladly accept that - however as powerful my emotions are - sex is only small part that almost shouldn't be even considered a cheating IF my emotional affair is not...
Gem I've think you've read me wrong. I'm not condoning emotional affairs. The thread title has a question mark so I was asking if my behaviour (talking to libra) would be deemed an emotional affair. I have no feelings for this man but the frequency of our messages concerned me.
Are you wanting out of your marriage?
Are you wanting out of your marriage?
Posted by VampScorpWhat actions confused you?
Goodtimes - sorry, you read me wrong. I don't want libra that way. Yes as a friend though!! I was trying to work out his intentions, and felt confused about his actions. Does he want friendship or a fling thing?
It sounds like he wants a friendship with benefits thing.
Thank you Scorpio Truth - sound advice. I was dubious of his intentions but was unsure whether I was being unfairly suspicious.
I'm going to balance it as best I can. I won't block him unless he does something unacceptable (remember we share a circle of friends) and will gradually phase him out with responses. I don't trust his motivations, especially now that I've spoken about it here.
However I do agree with some other posters. Feelings are involuntary, it's our actions that we control.
I'm going to balance it as best I can. I won't block him unless he does something unacceptable (remember we share a circle of friends) and will gradually phase him out with responses. I don't trust his motivations, especially now that I've spoken about it here.
However I do agree with some other posters. Feelings are involuntary, it's our actions that we control.
Posted by VampScorpHe's not going to stop.
Thank you Scorpio Truth - sound advice. I was dubious of his intentions but was unsure whether I was being unfairly suspicious.
I'm going to balance it as best I can. I won't block him unless he does something unacceptable (remember we share a circle of friends) and will gradually phase him out with responses. I don't trust his motivations, especially now that I've spoken about it here.
However I do agree with some other posters. Feelings are involuntary, it's our actions that we control.
The occasional flirty message 'like you looked beautiful' is what confused me. I say that to platonic friends but there's been no sexual history so feel it is innocent.
His message made me feel uneasy. I didn't respond and then he messaged again saying he would like to talk face to face. I said no, unless our partners where there - again reinforcing the friendship thing. That's when he went quite so I started questioning his intentions but lo and behold he's messaged asking how I am. I won't reply.
His message made me feel uneasy. I didn't respond and then he messaged again saying he would like to talk face to face. I said no, unless our partners where there - again reinforcing the friendship thing. That's when he went quite so I started questioning his intentions but lo and behold he's messaged asking how I am. I won't reply.
It would probably be the latter Gob_shite. I know
my weaknesses but feel free to judge.
Validation is what I have achieved so thanks all!
my weaknesses but feel free to judge.
Validation is what I have achieved so thanks all!
Posted by VampScorpPlease be honest.
Gem I've think you've read me wrong. I'm not condoning emotional affairs. The thread title has a question mark so I was asking if my behaviour (talking to libra) would be deemed an emotional affair. I have no feelings for this man but the frequency of our messages concerned me.
Are you wanting out of your marriage?
You don't excessively text with people just because...specially opposite see with past something.
Just be honest and you might understand that you are looking for something.
I only will get out of my marriage if he will - otherwise it's senseless. It's been 23-28 years now so why ruin it if we can't be together?
But we are actually together more than some couple who are married.
I just love when people say erase his number like if I don't know it by heart!
Lol
So what's your conclusion?
I do respect myself ScorpioTruth. However it takes a long time to get over emotional abuse, to be manipulated to the point you second guess everyone, including yourself.
It took a long time for my husband to break down my barrier and I'm not going to let some sly libra ruin what I have.
Despite my dislike of Gob_shite's opinion of me even I can take the positive from his post. I shouldn't need validation but this is what I do. I need to work on that.
It took a long time for my husband to break down my barrier and I'm not going to let some sly libra ruin what I have.
Despite my dislike of Gob_shite's opinion of me even I can take the positive from his post. I shouldn't need validation but this is what I do. I need to work on that.
Posted by VampScorpHonestly, as a Libra man,
It would probably be the latter Gob_shite. I know
my weaknesses but feel free to judge.
Validation is what I have achieved so thanks all!
I hate to admit it but your sense that he was a player back in the day is probably correct.
Players have sooo many women to choose, that one who isn't responding will more than likely be replaced.
If you are not responsive to the next text he will absolutely leave you alone.
We can cut people off and blow our wind to the next sail.
So unlike you Scorpio we don't love deep, feel deep, or care deeply.
So if you are not 'playing' he will leave you alone. You may possibly not ever hear from him again.
Posted by ScorpioTruthLibra forget women faster than you can say 'boo'. But truthfully there is a strong possibility that she is one of many many many women getting pursued or texted by the Libra.Posted by VampScorpI speak out of love, not judgment so I apologize if I came across as being judgmental. I was in your shoes a few years ago with an Aries friend, although neither of us were married and we did not have a physical past. But the attention i received from him was rejuvenating as i felt neglected in my relationship with a workaholic. But just the thought of hurting my boyfriend is what made me end contact and it never became physical. The fact that i thought about him frequently even when i should have been present in the moment with my boyfriend was the sounding alarm that made me realize it wasn't healthy for my relationship.
I do respect myself ScorpioTruth. However it takes a long time to get over emotional abuse, to be manipulated to the point you second guess everyone, including yourself.
It took a long time for my husband to break down my barrier and I'm not going to let some sly libra ruin what I have.
Despite my dislike of Gob_shite's opinion of me even I can take the positive from his post. I shouldn't need validation but this is what I do. I need to work on that.
If your husband is not the source of your history of emotional abuse, and if he has worked hard to break those barriers down, dont give him a reason to build barriers of his own to protect himself from you.
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It appears the Libra has deemed her a waste of his time and ghosted onto the next anyway.
Unlike the Aries who live for the thrill, if we see a woman isn't biting, we go the next, and the next and the next until we meet a woman with staying power who is a challenge, beautiful and tolerant.
Libra men can be heartbreakers.
Posted by Noni05Show me one who had it done! Lol
Word of advice focus on your marriage,
Forget the libra
Don't put yourself in a hard situation
BLOCK BLOCK BLOCK him from
All contact !
Posted by Noni05Those haven't gotten really good texts!Posted by GemitatiI'm sure there are some out there ...Posted by Noni05Show me one who had it done! Lol
Word of advice focus on your marriage,
Forget the libra
Don't put yourself in a hard situation
BLOCK BLOCK BLOCK him from
All contact !
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Lol
You know some people just bad at sexting? Lol
Posted by Noni05You didn't get good sext! LmaoPosted by GemitatiIt takes strong will to turn down any type of sexual interaction. But it's possible. I say thing because I've turned down someone a few months ago I'll tell you my story.Posted by Noni05Those haven't gotten really good texts!Posted by GemitatiI'm sure there are some out there ...Posted by Noni05Show me one who had it done! Lol
Word of advice focus on your marriage,
Forget the libra
Don't put yourself in a hard situation
BLOCK BLOCK BLOCK him from
All contact !
Lol
You know some people just bad at sexting? Lol
A friend who I knew in jr high he requested me on social media he messaged me asking how I was we talked, I even met his wife before, lovely lady, he started to ask if we could meet for coffee to catch up, I always changed the subject. one night he messaged me asking if I would ever have an affair with him since his wife is pregnant and I guess they are having intimacy issues, he said he liked me since junior high, which I knew this because of the way he always treated me. Anyway that night I shut him down I tried to convince him to work things with his beautiful wife, I tried to make him see what I see in her, a beautiful smart loving wife, he agreed. I pulled away from speaking to him, I think he got the memo, he never brought it up again and I keep my distance out of respect for her! I really like his wife for him he's lucky but at the moment he was being a man thinking of himself. So to answer your question, women do turn down married men regardless of pretty words etc..click to expand
Posted by ScorpioTruthUnfortunately...lolPosted by GemitatiThat's all it takes??! A really good text? Y'all make it way too easy on these men. LolPosted by Noni05Those haven't gotten really good texts!Posted by GemitatiI'm sure there are some out there ...Posted by Noni05Show me one who had it done! Lol
Word of advice focus on your marriage,
Forget the libra
Don't put yourself in a hard situation
BLOCK BLOCK BLOCK him from
All contact !
Lol
You know some people just bad at sexting? Lol
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You know what I had done when I've got approached and received obnoxious text?
I showed it to my husband and told him all about it! And they knew each other...
What a moron right?
And only after my husband did nothing about it - I've reconsidered...
Posted by Noni05That guy sounds gross, sorry. Props to you. But a guy willing to cheat on his wife, while she is vulnerable is gross.Posted by GemitatiIt takes strong will to turn down any type of sexual interaction. But it's possible. I say thing because I've turned down someone a few months ago I'll tell you my story.Posted by Noni05Those haven't gotten really good texts!Posted by GemitatiI'm sure there are some out there ...Posted by Noni05Show me one who had it done! Lol
Word of advice focus on your marriage,
Forget the libra
Don't put yourself in a hard situation
BLOCK BLOCK BLOCK him from
All contact !
Lol
You know some people just bad at sexting? Lol
A friend who I knew in jr high he requested me on social media he messaged me asking how I was we talked, I even met his wife before, lovely lady, he started to ask if we could meet for coffee to catch up, I always changed the subject. one night he messaged me asking if I would ever have an affair with him since his wife is pregnant and I guess they are having intimacy issues, he said he liked me since junior high, which I knew this because of the way he always treated me. Anyway that night I shut him down I tried to convince him to work things with his beautiful wife, I tried to make him see what I see in her, a beautiful smart loving wife, he agreed. I pulled away from speaking to him, I think he got the memo, he never brought it up again and I keep my distance out of respect for her! I really like his wife for him he's lucky but at the moment he was being a man thinking of himself. So to answer your question, women do turn down married men regardless of pretty words etc..click to expand
Posted by Noni05Girl, I bet he tried it on other girls. I don't doubt you at all. But if he was willing to approach you, bet that he did other girls.Posted by nikkistarFirst I'm not attracted to this man and never saw him as nothing more than a friend , second I was in a relationship with my leeb and completely loyal to him, third I respected his wife especially because I knew she was a good woman. I personally think he was just sexually frustrated and emotionally frustrated with her so he was being selfish. He still tries to stay in touch but he's respectful now He knows there's nothing and will never be anything there but a simple hello.Posted by Noni05That guy sounds gross, sorry. Props to you. But a guy willing to cheat on his wife, while she is vulnerable is gross.Posted by GemitatiIt takes strong will to turn down any type of sexual interaction. But it's possible. I say thing because I've turned down someone a few months ago I'll tell you my story.Posted by Noni05Those haven't gotten really good texts!Posted by GemitatiI'm sure there are some out there ...Posted by Noni05Show me one who had it done! Lol
Word of advice focus on your marriage,
Forget the libra
Don't put yourself in a hard situation
BLOCK BLOCK BLOCK him from
All contact !
Lol
You know some people just bad at sexting? Lol
A friend who I knew in jr high he requested me on social media he messaged me asking how I was we talked, I even met his wife before, lovely lady, he started to ask if we could meet for coffee to catch up, I always changed the subject. one night he messaged me asking if I would ever have an affair with him since his wife is pregnant and I guess they are having intimacy issues, he said he liked me since junior high, which I knew this because of the way he always treated me. Anyway that night I shut him down I tried to convince him to work things with his beautiful wife, I tried to make him see what I see in her, a beautiful smart loving wife, he agreed. I pulled away from speaking to him, I think he got the memo, he never brought it up again and I keep my distance out of respect for her! I really like his wife for him he's lucky but at the moment he was being a man thinking of himself. So to answer your question, women do turn down married men regardless of pretty words etc..
But I totally get what he was going through but I'm not the right person to reach out for this...click to expand
Thanks Infinite. I respect your opinion. It was not my intention to come across shady, my bad! To be fair the thread title has a question mark, I presumed people would know I was asking if the behaviour between libra and I was an emotional affair. I also did not say I was taken by his charm, I just knew he was charming me.
ScorpioTruth please don't apologise, you speak the truth and it's sincere - I could tell and no my husband is not the root of my emotional abuse, it was a previous relationship.
I don't need kid gloves when being handled, that's why I came here but of course I wasn't going to tolerate some of the posts from others suggesting I am being disloyal as I would never set out to cause hurt to either my husband or the wife.
ScorpioTruth please don't apologise, you speak the truth and it's sincere - I could tell and no my husband is not the root of my emotional abuse, it was a previous relationship.
I don't need kid gloves when being handled, that's why I came here but of course I wasn't going to tolerate some of the posts from others suggesting I am being disloyal as I would never set out to cause hurt to either my husband or the wife.
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How to play this game of relationship. I met a Libra Man, and he is in and out. But leaving him and playing tit for tat is just too easy for me. A Scorp revenge is never good. But this is what it as came too. So I need some good playing the field games.
A question for my librans!
So I have a huge attraction towards a libra male that I just met in person after a year and a half of us curving (faking) on each other , it's so fustrating, we text and text everyday when I don't text him first he doesn't t
Hi. I'm a Cap having trouble with a Libra man. Here is his chart:
http://www.astro.com/tmpd/cg3yfile8t0gbm-u1316480530/astro_2at_03_undefined.22375.24387.gif
And this is our synastry:
http://www.astro.com/tmpd/cg3yfile8t0gbm-u1316480530/astro_66at_03
Hi, I stumbled upon this page while looking at zodiac compatibilities... I do have a libra male question. The man that I have been seeing for 6 months seems to follow the typical pattern of most libra males, which is, being all about the woman at the beg
I am a Libra female. 6 months ago I met a guy at college. He started flirting with me and we used to have long conversations etc. It turns out he had been wanting to know for years but I always came off cold and reclusive.
As time passed by I started
I'm a scorpion woman with Pisces (2nd decan) and my friend is a libra man with Gemini (3rd decan).
We've known each other for years, had a short fling nearly 10 years ago. I broke it off as I thought he was a player but always liked him afterwards, I just didn't want to get hurt! We are both now married. We recently reconnected through mutual friends. Saw him at a dinner party. We always remained friends after the fling but no real contact until recently.
He began messaging me A LOT! At times that made me think why am I on your mind last thing at night or first thing in the morning. Our conversations are purely innocent but he sometimes gives overtones of flirting. I know this is his character but I'm just feeling conflicted.
I'm a loyal wife and have no intentions to cheat BUT this libra is charming me. He made some excuse for us to meet alone, I declined and he's now distanced himself. I'm so confused. Does he want to be my friend or just get in my knickers? Do I just need to block him?
I analyse everything and he's now on my mind more than I'd like to admit.
Can anyone give me advice on how to move forward?