For anyone dating an aquarius man

I have studied these boards for a couple of days and have been engrossed in other sites that talk about relationships with aqua males, and wanted to chime in.

Boy, where do I begin. Mine started over a year ago. We connected quickly. I am an aries, so of course there were sparks... It was a long distance thing. I thought the first time when he had to leave town, well that was a fun fling, but he wanted me to come visit and so the ever-famous romantic friendship began.

But realized he was on online dating sites. I confronted him and he said he was not sleeping with others, he was just lonely at times. Yet, every time we saw each other, the connection seemed deeper. About 5 months in, I cracked and had to have that "where do we stand talk." He literally ran away. I realized he was not good at sharing his feelings at all. Not even a tiny bit. He came back though, eventually.

He contacts me quite often via the computer -- hardly ever asks me out when he's in town. You'd expect to be inseperable from someone who comes to town when he lives in another state. Not at all. In fact, after we would have a great night out, great sex, he would seemingly float back into his proverbial cave and wouldn't even check his online dating profiles for a bit. It was like he was subdued, and perfectly happy retreating into that world in his mind.

I have never felt my patience tried in my whole life. I have wanted to give up so many times. As in, I'm done. Yet, out of the blue, on Vday, I get red roses. Or a gift of some sort on a random day. Or a phone call saying hi (few and far between, but crazy surprising).

What bugs me the most is he's online. But he doesn't seem to date too much, because much of the time on nights and weekends, he is talking to me. It's like the online world is his laboratory, where we feels safe maybe talking to people, maybe doing a little hanky panky online, but not pursuing it in the real world. I have major intuition about these things. And if I ask him a direct question, he does tell the truth.

This experience is so intriguing and so mysterious, and so different, I can't explain. The sex is amazing too, and very intimate in the moment. And I wonder how he could have this level of intimacy with anyone else.

He is textbook autonomous, aloof, extremely intelligent and a goofball around me at times. He can't commit. There seems to be the "what if" of the future always hanging over him. I know I am a pretty good catch, but it doesn't

matter. There's always the future, and that's the rainbow he lives on.

He's an absolute jackass when it comes to certain things -- like something seemingly normal like making plans for an upcoming weekend. He forgets, it's not important. The way it works is when he's in town, I get a call at the end of the workday, saying if I want to do something, for that night. Take it or leave it people. That's how he rolls.

I hope this is helpful for that specific group that needs some insight into the most intriguing sign of all. And I'd be happy to share more as questions and comments come in.

the most intriguing sign of all—

well, in my opinion. Do you agree? Are you one of them?

hmmm not sure about intrigue. So what's so intriguing?
Aries

You really are the most intriguing. I am constantly stimulated both intellectually and physcially. Did you agree with my assessment of this person I'm dating? Anything to add? Any advice?

Hmmmmmmm

Google, baby. That's all it really takes.

Hey you, just try to express some feelings some time. Like, I think you look nice. Or, thanks for spending time with me. I enjoyed it. Little things like that go a long way.

This thing I describe above is more of a friends with bennies situation, and even hi cutie can be enough to make me smile. A little hand holding and touching isn't so bad either. If you let your guard down just a little, you will get so much more in return. :-) Try it and see what happens. This is from a very strong, smart, independent Aries women if that puts things in context for you.

yeah, i'm with one now and that sounds like him. it's hard to pin down his motives exactly and he SEEMS like he doesn't care. Even though it's easy to tell if you focus on it hard enough cus he just wants me around (for "no real" reason). I'm having trouble with the whole being distant and aloof thing.

He just talks to me when HE wants to. or we go out when HE wants to. It's partially stupid, but i guess understandable if he's only thinking about himself. So i figure when he doesn't talk to me then just not bother him, until I actually NEED to talk to him or he wants to talk to/share something with me. Anything like that happen to you?

AAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH i'm gonna go crazy

Love Aqua's as friends they are great but with men......emotions scare them romantically sometimes.

They are definitely boring. I need a man who is intense not a big baby that runs away being a commitment phobe.

hey zen,

what is "You're 18 🙂" supposed to mean..?

chill?

wai wai is 'chill' still hip to say? is 'hip'?

Oh dear - I'll go back in my hole now

ok. I just don't see why I should get looked at as any less of a person. Or why I'm different... except for the fact that i'm not going to die as soon the rest of you.. hopefully.

lol - is this before or after you AAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH i'm gonna go crazy?

Anyway, seems like you misunderstand my point...carry on - never mind

"How 'less of a person' was derived from 'you're 18' is still beyond me but Calthorpe's just hit the point I was trying to make with i'd advise you to keep your cool, get on with what you have to do and keep a friendly manner with him at all times, even when you're hitched."


People just seem not to listen after they find i'm "ONLY" 18. I don't use astrology to guide how I act toward him or anyone for that matter. I use it to further understand. I use that and psychology as well.

ooookay. the only reason all of them relate to this guy is because that's why/how I came across this website, and that is the only reason I got an account. I primarily use other websites for message boards.

but uh... thanks

I have realized too, that when they become aloof and distant that probably means that they have feelings towards you and might be confused by them. I have learned that my aqua does this when he is stuggling with wanting his own independence but doesn't know how to express it to me. You have to be quite independent and confident in yourself to be with this type of person, and like to have your own life and passions. I understand now that I like the challenge. Coupled with the intellectual conversation and physical chemistry, there can be a real spark if you know how to bring out a little bit more feeling and emotion from an aqua, little by little, over time. It does take a cup of understanding, a barrel of love and an ocean of patience. One thing I have been keen to are his patterns. If you are really intuitive, you can pick up on when he's lonely, when he genuinely wants to be with you, when he's totally into you, and when he needs his space. They are extremely communicative, just not emotional. Love the intellect and physical connection though -- a powerful combination for me.

hey OFA, what's hiding in there? wanna see see see 😛

Hey Ariesonfire !

what's up!!

Not much - just chilling ! you? been a while...things good with AquaMan I see 😉

Things are better! Thanks! I actually got a compat report done. Very cool! Verified a lot. Hope things are good with you.

Good for ya Ariesonfire !

Haha OFA - LMAO...

double amen!!!

ha...my aqua is still confused about his feelings for me...after 4 1/2 years!!!

"I remember my aqua in the earlier days...when he'd would act like an ass because he was caught between his emotions and his logic. He would make a date with me to do something, then he'd show up late, stressed out because of some work issue (supposedly), then say he could only stay for 30 minutes or some magically timeframe because of "work" or some "project deadline". "

Unusualcancer.....LOL, I have not checked in for some time, but I saw this and I nearly fell off my chair laughing. My Mr. Aquarius has done the EXACT same thing!!! He would get here for dinner or whatever...late (sometimes he would text me 2-3 times saying he was caught up in something and ask if he should still come) and completely disheveled -- his hair would be all crazy like he ran his hands through it or was pulling it and he would be sometimes sweaty, breathing heavy like he ran etc -- then look at his watch and say he only had 30 or 45 minutes because he had some work thing or other thing to do. Once it was that he had to get to a car wash at 10:30 at night!!. LOL, finally I just started telling him that it was fine to cancel and make it for another time when he felt he had the time. Then he would make a date and we would have a calm and fun time.

Thanks for the laugh!

If an Aquarius guy likes you and you brush him off...

Of course it's a game AND it's not him who's playing it.

If you like someone tell them if you don't... then don't. It's pretty simple

I'd say we are boring contrary to astrological descriptions