Worst Heartbreak? 💔

Tell me about your worst heartbreak(s), how long it took you to get over them and what sign(s) were they? What sign are you?

Because it’s that kinda night and I’m in my feels.

Posted by slug
My first bf, he's a Sag. I ran away to Berlin for the summer to get away from the pain 😂 the pain followed me of course.

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I don’t like to dwell on my failures. I try to learn and move on. Going over the woulda, coulda, shoulda will never change what happened.

All of mine as I used to take forever and ever to let go….typical Scorpio…deep deep well of feelings 😔

Libra, Aqua, Virgo, Aqua, Aries

Virgo was very difficult as we made a baby together and that bond never breaks ❤️

But all is good now 😊 🙏

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My first bf, he's a Sag. I ran away to Berlin for the summer to get away from the pain 😂 the pain followed me of course.

Ugh I’m sorry. That sounds painful. 😢 At least you got a change of scenery right? Less reminders. How long were you both together?

Posted by geminiflyby
I don’t like to dwell on my failures. I try to learn and move on. Going over the woulda, coulda, shoulda will never change what happened.

That’s a great attitude to have. Oh you definitely don’t have to share. I respect that. Sometimes it just helps me to hear others stories who can relate. I do love you Gems though…the eternal optimists! I’m such an emo Scorp. Shocker right— 🤣

Posted by MyStarsShine
All of mine as I used to take forever and ever to let go….typical Scorpio…deep deep well of feelings 😔

Libra, Aqua, Virgo, Aqua, Aries

Virgo was very difficult as we made a baby together and that bond never breaks ❤️

But all is good now 😊 🙏

Is this the Virgo you’re living with now?

Posted by xkachi
I feel that if there's an element of a strong friendship, it can be an awful heartbreak because it's more than just being in love, sexual satisfaction and intimacy.

It's one of those relationships where you confide everything to each other and there's that sense of openness that you can't find in just any romantic relationship, even if it's a healthy one.

I shared this type of r/s with the scorp-ex and that was a tough breakup considering we share one of the most loving child in the world (my kid is absolutely precious). Even though it was an awful r/s in the end, when it comes to our child we put our best foot forward. We struggled with that in the beginning but we always led with love at the end of the day. I know the scorp-ex regrets a lot and I can tell with the amount of self control and emotional management he shows.

It's not the worst. I have one of the best kid that any parent can ask for. Like today, he volunteered to wash the dishes because he knew I was tired. God or whatever it is out there, gave me so much grace giving my child.

That is so beautiful! ❤️. And I think you’re right….the relationships where you share not only a romantic bond, but also a deep friendship….those are the toughest to recover from. 😢 Your son sounds absolutely wonderful!

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My first bf, he's a Sag. I ran away to Berlin for the summer to get away from the pain 😂 the pain followed me of course.

Ugh I’m sorry. That sounds painful. 😢 At least you got a change of scenery right? Less reminders. How long were you both together?

Yeah but Berlin is a dangerous place to be when you're sad 😂 I had fun, just a bit too much. We were together 3 years, I was 20.

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Well I’m glad you survived Berlin! 😁

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All of mine as I used to take forever and ever to let go….typical Scorpio…deep deep well of feelings 😔

Libra, Aqua, Virgo, Aqua, Aries

Virgo was very difficult as we made a baby together and that bond never breaks ❤️

But all is good now 😊 🙏

Is this the Virgo you’re living with now?

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Yes it’s he

I’ve only had one rship with a Virgo

No way @MyStarsShine is wanting to get back with Virgo! 🤣 Really wondering how you stayed long enough to have the child. Do you think his habits have gotten more extreme over the years?

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My first bf, he's a Sag. I ran away to Berlin for the summer to get away from the pain 😂 the pain followed me of course.

Ugh I’m sorry. That sounds painful. 😢 At least you got a change of scenery right? Less reminders. How long were you both together?

Yeah but Berlin is a dangerous place to be when you're sad 😂 I had fun, just a bit too much. We were together 3 years, I was 20.

Well I’m glad you survived Berlin! 😁

It's still my favourite city. What about you, what was your worst?

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Well if you had asked me about twelve years ago I would have said a Gemini. He was eleven years older than me. He broke up with me by telling me he had a brain tumor and was severely depressed over it. I stupidly prayed for him and sent him get well cards. Imagine my surprise when I found him on FB while recovering from emergency surgery and he was in a whole new relationship and healthy as a horse. 🤦‍♀️🤣 Oh I find it hilarious now. He really got me good! 😂🤣😂. Took me almost three damn years to get over him. 🤦‍♀️

Though if you were to ask me today it would be Libra and a Sag.

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My first bf, he's a Sag. I ran away to Berlin for the summer to get away from the pain 😂 the pain followed me of course.

Ugh I’m sorry. That sounds painful. 😢 At least you got a change of scenery right? Less reminders. How long were you both together?

Yeah but Berlin is a dangerous place to be when you're sad 😂 I had fun, just a bit too much. We were together 3 years, I was 20.

Well I’m glad you survived Berlin! 😁

It's still my favourite city. What about you, what was your worst?

Well if you had asked me about twelve years ago I would have said a Gemini. He was eleven years older than me. He broke up with me by telling me he had a brain tumor and was severely depressed over it. I stupidly prayed for him and sent him get well cards. Imagine my surprise when I found him on FB while recovering from emergency surgery and he was in a whole new relationship and healthy as a horse. 🤦‍♀️🤣 Oh I find it hilarious now. He really got me good! 😂🤣😂. Took me almost three damn years to get over him. 🤦‍♀️



Though if you were to ask me today it would be Libra and a Sag.

Whaaaaattt 😲 he told you he had a brain tumour? That's so messed up, what a way to break up with someone that's crazy. Ah yes, the Libra and the Sag. 😔

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Yeah, my brother really had to talk me down from that one. I so wanted to just show up at his house and tell him off, but my brother was like what is that going to accomplish? He’s still gonna be a shit head!🤣 I guess wisdom doesn’t always come with age because you would think a 41 year old man would not be that petty and childish. 🤷‍♀️

Posted by geminiflyby
No way @MyStarsShine is wanting to get back with Virgo! 🤣 Really wondering how you stayed long enough to have the child. Do you think his habits have gotten more extreme over the years?

Oh hell no 😂🥴

Definitely gotten more fixed and set in his ways. He was different when we met, more fun so it was happy for a while.

capricorn hate to admit it.

took about a year but back then, i'd find myself randomly crying about it.

but i'm relieved later on and i'm just happy where i'm at now.

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My first bf, he's a Sag. I ran away to Berlin for the summer to get away from the pain 😂 the pain followed me of course.

Ugh I’m sorry. That sounds painful. 😢 At least you got a change of scenery right? Less reminders. How long were you both together?

Yeah but Berlin is a dangerous place to be when you're sad 😂 I had fun, just a bit too much. We were together 3 years, I was 20.

Well I’m glad you survived Berlin! 😁

It's still my favourite city. What about you, what was your worst?

Well if you had asked me about twelve years ago I would have said a Gemini. He was eleven years older than me. He broke up with me by telling me he had a brain tumor and was severely depressed over it. I stupidly prayed for him and sent him get well cards. Imagine my surprise when I found him on FB while recovering from emergency surgery and he was in a whole new relationship and healthy as a horse. 🤦‍♀️🤣 Oh I find it hilarious now. He really got me good! 😂🤣😂. Took me almost three damn years to get over him. 🤦‍♀️







Though if you were to ask me today it would be Libra and a Sag.

Whaaaaattt 😲 he told you he had a brain tumour? That's so messed up, what a way to break up with someone that's crazy. Ah yes, the Libra and the Sag. 😔

Yeah, my brother really had to talk me down from that one. I so wanted to just show up at his house and tell him off, but my brother was like what is that going to accomplish? He’s still gonna be a shit head!🤣 I guess wisdom doesn’t always come with age because you would think a 41 year old man would not be that petty and childish. 🤷‍♀️

If I was your brother I would have gone with you 😂 that's not just childish, that's like... Psychopathic.

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He probably would have if he wasn’t going through heartbreak himself then. He was living with me at the time because he had just moved back home after living with his ex-fiancé in Chicago. (She manipulated him into proposing to her by a certain time frame or she threatened to go back to her ex. She also manipulated him into quitting his job and moving halfway across the country with her to her hometown in Chicago with no other job lined up. Well she went back to her ex anyway so he packed up his things and drove all the way back home, broken and with no job to support himself). She was a Libra….I tell you those Libras are brutal! Thank God he saw her true colors before marrying her! And he got the ring back. So I told him he could stay with me. I’m telling you though we were both so broken and pitiful. A sobbing mess the both of us….though he didn’t cry quite as much as I did. Eh Scorp problems. 🤣

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capricorn hate to admit it.

took about a year but back then, i'd find myself randomly crying about it.

but i'm relieved later on and i'm just happy where i'm at now.

At least you’re happy with where you’re at now. That’s all that matters! ❤️

It took a very long time and I'm not entirely over it but eh. 6 years I'm not over it 😅 but it is fading for sure.

There are two worst heartbreaks. I tend to take a long time to get over the ones I’ve really loved.

My first love & the one we had planned to get married & be together always. 3 year relationship & it took both of us 5 years to truly get over it & our hearts to move on. He is a Virgo & I’m a Sag.

The second one is my ex husband (the Aries) who I had my two kids with. We were together 20 years. I swear it was 10 years for me to truly be over it. I also did tremendous work on myself in those 10 years, financially, getting that CPA, and emotionally.

Both these relationships completely changed me or the aftermath of them. The first one I completely shut down emotionally ( that’s how much he broke my heart) and the second one too, but this time I did the things I needed to do for myself to become more healthy, and be much more open & finally deal with the things I had needed to my whole life before that. That was part of the 10 years I suppose to.

In those 10 years there were two that took a bit to get over but it was more because they kept coming back. Those were Cap & Leo). The actual relationships were a lot shorter than the true heartbreaks of my life. Perhaps these two it was more they were having trouble getting over me 🤪

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My first bf, he's a Sag. I ran away to Berlin for the summer to get away from the pain 😂 the pain followed me of course.

Ugh I’m sorry. That sounds painful. 😢 At least you got a change of scenery right? Less reminders. How long were you both together?

Yeah but Berlin is a dangerous place to be when you're sad 😂 I had fun, just a bit too much. We were together 3 years, I was 20.

Well I’m glad you survived Berlin! 😁

It's still my favourite city. What about you, what was your worst?

Well if you had asked me about twelve years ago I would have said a Gemini. He was eleven years older than me. He broke up with me by telling me he had a brain tumor and was severely depressed over it. I stupidly prayed for him and sent him get well cards. Imagine my surprise when I found him on FB while recovering from emergency surgery and he was in a whole new relationship and healthy as a horse. 🤦‍♀️🤣 Oh I find it hilarious now. He really got me good! 😂🤣😂. Took me almost three damn years to get over him. 🤦‍♀️







Though if you were to ask me today it would be Libra and a Sag.

Whaaaaattt 😲 he told you he had a brain tumour? That's so messed up, what a way to break up with someone that's crazy. Ah yes, the Libra and the Sag. 😔

Yeah, my brother really had to talk me down from that one. I so wanted to just show up at his house and tell him off, but my brother was like what is that going to accomplish? He’s still gonna be a shit head!🤣 I guess wisdom doesn’t always come with age because you would think a 41 year old man would not be that petty and childish. 🤷‍♀️

If I was your brother I would have gone with you 😂 that's not just childish, that's like... Psychopathic.

He probably would have if he wasn’t going through heartbreak himself then. He was living with me at the time because he had just moved back home after living with his ex-fiancé in Chicago. (She manipulated him into proposing to her by a certain time frame or she threatened to go back to her ex. She also manipulated him into quitting his job and moving halfway across the country with her to her hometown in Chicago with no other job lined up. Well she went back to her ex anyway so he packed up his things and drove all the way back home, broken and with no job to support himself). She was a Libra….I tell you those Libras are brutal! Thank God he saw her true colors before marrying her! And he got the ring back. So I told him he could stay with me. I’m telling you though we were both so broken and pitiful. A sobbing mess the both of us….though he didn’t cry quite as much as I did. Eh Scorp problems. 🤣
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Oh no 😂 Yeah I've heard a lot of bad things about Libras actually 😂 My biological father was a Libra and apparently he was a shit. I know a few people who got fucked over by Libras too and I have a Libra friend who I love to pieces but she kinda whips her Cap boyfriend and guilt trips him in to things. 😬

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My brother did end up marrying and having a child with a Libra, but she truly is a good one. 180 degrees difference between her and his ex fiancé. Couldn’t imagine a better woman for my brother or a better sister in law. ❤️

Posted by meowbellee
the most recent one was with a scorpio. I was with someone at the time but we both had feelings for each other. He wanted me to be with him and I would get jealous too when he was talking to other girls. However, I couldn't just leave my bf so we went our separate ways but we still message each other sometimes

The pain is less now but if i still think about it, i regret alot of things. im a cancer

😔😢

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My first bf, he's a Sag. I ran away to Berlin for the summer to get away from the pain 😂 the pain followed me of course.

Ugh I’m sorry. That sounds painful. 😢 At least you got a change of scenery right? Less reminders. How long were you both together?

Yeah but Berlin is a dangerous place to be when you're sad 😂 I had fun, just a bit too much. We were together 3 years, I was 20.

Well I’m glad you survived Berlin! 😁

It's still my favourite city. What about you, what was your worst?

Well if you had asked me about twelve years ago I would have said a Gemini. He was eleven years older than me. He broke up with me by telling me he had a brain tumor and was severely depressed over it. I stupidly prayed for him and sent him get well cards. Imagine my surprise when I found him on FB while recovering from emergency surgery and he was in a whole new relationship and healthy as a horse. 🤦‍♀️🤣 Oh I find it hilarious now. He really got me good! 😂🤣😂. Took me almost three damn years to get over him. 🤦‍♀️






Though if you were to ask me today it would be Libra and a Sag.

Whaaaaattt 😲 he told you he had a brain tumour? That's so messed up, what a way to break up with someone that's crazy. Ah yes, the Libra and the Sag. 😔

Yeah, my brother really had to talk me down from that one. I so wanted to just show up at his house and tell him off, but my brother was like what is that going to accomplish? He’s still gonna be a shit head!🤣 I guess wisdom doesn’t always come with age because you would think a 41 year old man would not be that petty and childish. 🤷‍♀️

If I was your brother I would have gone with you 😂 that's not just childish, that's like... Psychopathic.
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He probably would have if he wasn’t going through heartbreak himself then. He was living with me at the time because he had just moved back home after living with his ex-fiancé in Chicago. (She manipulated him into proposing to her by a certain time frame or she threatened to go back to her ex. She also manipulated him into quitting his job and moving halfway across the country with her to her hometown in Chicago with no other job lined up. Well she went back to her ex anyway so he packed up his things and drove all the way back home, broken and with no job to support himself). She was a Libra….I tell you those Libras are brutal! Thank God he saw her true colors before marrying her! And he got the ring back. So I told him he could stay with me. I’m telling you though we were both so broken and pitiful. A sobbing mess the both of us….though he didn’t cry quite as much as I did. Eh Scorp problems. 🤣

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The red flag when she said … “or is go back to me ex.”

Ex-Scorpio tried to cheat on me. I knew I wouldn't be able to trust her any more so even though it was painful, I knew I had to leave. She left the computer on and I saw her messages. When confronted, she said she was polyamorous and I had to accept her for who she was. And I was like, 'You're married and you're not polyamorous." She wasn't polyamorous. I gave her a few months to snap out of it before I left for good. She met the guy and found out that he had lied about everything and had a gf that he had been living with for 7 years. She said that he "was the biggest pussy bitch I have ever met in my life. He couldn't be himself around other people." So you threw our marriage away for the biggest creep you could find who was cheating on his gf and lied to you about everything? She tried to get back together with me and said I had been right about everything but I had no respect for her selfishness and self destructive tendencies. Her life was way out of control when I met her but everything was fine our first 3 years of marriage. That was the only thing she could have done where I wouldn't be with her. I've had two younger brothers die but this was more painful. Every day was a long one for almost 2 years and I haven't really dated since. I've had a couple of flings but nothing serious. There's still effects 'til this day. I don't think I'll ever get married again. That ruined it for me.

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Ex-Scorpio tried to cheat on me. I knew I wouldn't be able to trust her any more so even though it was painful, I knew I had to leave. She left the computer on and I saw her messages. When confronted, she said she was polyamorous and I had to accept her for who she was. And I was like, 'You're married and you're not polyamorous." She wasn't polyamorous. I gave her a few months to snap out of it before I left for good. She met the guy and found out that he had lied about everything and had a gf that he had been living with for 7 years. She said that he "was the biggest pussy bitch I have ever met in my life. He couldn't be himself around other people." So you threw our marriage away for the biggest creep you could find who was cheating on his gf and lied to you about everything? She tried to get back together with me and said I had been right about everything but I had no respect for her selfishness and self destructive tendencies. Her life was way out of control when I met her but everything was fine our first 3 years of marriage. That was the only thing she could have done where I wouldn't be with her. I've had two younger brothers die but this was more painful. Every day was a long one for almost 2 years and I haven't really dated since. I've had a couple of flings but nothing serious. There's still effects 'til this day. I don't think I'll ever get married again. That ruined it for me.

So sorry you’ve experienced this, sounds like she really did a number on you

Unfortunately I’ve noticed Scorpios don’t always do too well in relationships….its as though that deep well that is Pluto can never be satisfied? I’ve seen it and experienced it

We probably make better lovers and dedicated parents than marriage partners?

Aquarius so far, but I’m happy that didn’t work out in hindsight

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I had a miscarriage, lost my job and caught him cheating all in the same week. I thought I was going to die.

Wow, I’m so sorry! I can’t even imagine that much loss and heartache. 😢💔

Reading all these stories of heartbreak make me want to remain single. It’s the only safe way to prevent your heart from ever being broken again when it comes to love. 😢

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Ex-Scorpio tried to cheat on me. I knew I wouldn't be able to trust her any more so even though it was painful, I knew I had to leave. She left the computer on and I saw her messages. When confronted, she said she was polyamorous and I had to accept her for who she was. And I was like, 'You're married and you're not polyamorous." She wasn't polyamorous. I gave her a few months to snap out of it before I left for good. She met the guy and found out that he had lied about everything and had a gf that he had been living with for 7 years. She said that he "was the biggest pussy bitch I have ever met in my life. He couldn't be himself around other people." So you threw our marriage away for the biggest creep you could find who was cheating on his gf and lied to you about everything? She tried to get back together with me and said I had been right about everything but I had no respect for her selfishness and self destructive tendencies. Her life was way out of control when I met her but everything was fine our first 3 years of marriage. That was the only thing she could have done where I wouldn't be with her. I've had two younger brothers die but this was more painful. Every day was a long one for almost 2 years and I haven't really dated since. I've had a couple of flings but nothing serious. There's still effects 'til this day. I don't think I'll ever get married again. That ruined it for me.

So sorry you’ve experienced this, sounds like she really did a number on you
Unfortunately I’ve noticed Scorpios don’t always do too well in relationships….its as though that deep well that is Pluto can never be satisfied? I’ve seen it and experienced it
We probably make better lovers and dedicated parents than marriage partners?

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I'm very traditional so I think the effect was worse because of that. I don't date unless I think it will turn into something. I guess some people see that as outdated but I think it means more than spreading yourself thin. Sounds unrealistic but I only ever wanted to be with one person. I think I got that from my Taurus mom. She only ever loved my dad and after they broke up she's never been with anyone else. I think I was naive in some ways. I'm not a therapist but people borne in chaos will often return to it. My main point to her when we stayed up all night multiple nights is that we'll never be able to get back to where we were and neither one of us will be better for it. She blamed her hormones being out of order and depression in the end. You may be right about Scorpios. But at some point, change for change's sake strips you of all that you've built. It's one thing to be reborn as a Phoenix versus a worse version of yourself lacking any honor, identity, or direction when time waits for no one.

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Ex-Scorpio tried to cheat on me. I knew I wouldn't be able to trust her any more so even though it was painful, I knew I had to leave. She left the computer on and I saw her messages. When confronted, she said she was polyamorous and I had to accept her for who she was. And I was like, 'You're married and you're not polyamorous." She wasn't polyamorous. I gave her a few months to snap out of it before I left for good. She met the guy and found out that he had lied about everything and had a gf that he had been living with for 7 years. She said that he "was the biggest pussy bitch I have ever met in my life. He couldn't be himself around other people." So you threw our marriage away for the biggest creep you could find who was cheating on his gf and lied to you about everything? She tried to get back together with me and said I had been right about everything but I had no respect for her selfishness and self destructive tendencies. Her life was way out of control when I met her but everything was fine our first 3 years of marriage. That was the only thing she could have done where I wouldn't be with her. I've had two younger brothers die but this was more painful. Every day was a long one for almost 2 years and I haven't really dated since. I've had a couple of flings but nothing serious. There's still effects 'til this day. I don't think I'll ever get married again. That ruined it for me.

So sorry you’ve experienced this, sounds like she really did a number on you

Unfortunately I’ve noticed Scorpios don’t always do too well in relationships….its as though that deep well that is Pluto can never be satisfied? I’ve seen it and experienced it

We probably make better lovers and dedicated parents than marriage partners?
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I'm very traditional so I think the effect was worse because of that. I don't date unless I think it will turn into something. I guess some people see that as outdated but I think it means more than spreading yourself thin. Sounds unrealistic but I only ever wanted to be with one person. I think I got that from my Taurus mom. She only ever loved my dad and after they broke up she's never been with anyone else. I think I was naive in some ways. I'm not a therapist but people borne in chaos will often return to it. My main point to her when we stayed up all night multiple nights is that we'll never be able to get back to where we were and neither one of us will be better for it. She blamed her hormones being out of order and depression in the end. You may be right about Scorpios. But at some point, change for change's sake strips you of all that you've built. It's one thing to be reborn as a Phoenix versus a worse version of yourself lacking any honor, identity, or direction when time waits for no one.

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When did you separate? She sounds very unstable…

I was like you wanted one life partner like my parents too, but not meant to be

Sometimes life has other ideas

I hope your experience doesn’t harden you too much and that you will find love again if it’s meant for you.

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Posted by PuzzlePieces
There are two worst heartbreaks. I tend to take a long time to get over the ones I’ve really loved.

My first love & the one we had planned to get married & be together always. 3 year relationship & it took both of us 5 years to truly get over it & our hearts to move on. He is a Virgo & I’m a Sag.

The second one is my ex husband (the Aries) who I had my two kids with. We were together 20 years. I swear it was 10 years for me to truly be over it. I also did tremendous work on myself in those 10 years, financially, getting that CPA, and emotionally.

Both these relationships completely changed me or the aftermath of them. The first one I completely shut down emotionally ( that’s how much he broke my heart) and the second one too, but this time I did the things I needed to do for myself to become more healthy, and be much more open & finally deal with the things I had needed to my whole life before that. That was part of the 10 years I suppose to.

In those 10 years there were two that took a bit to get over but it was more because they kept coming back. Those were Cap & Leo). The actual relationships were a lot shorter than the true heartbreaks of my life. Perhaps these two it was more they were having trouble getting over me 🤪

Can I ask what he did to hurt you so much, first one I mean? Since you said it took both of you 5 years to get over it, it got me puzzled what he did then?

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He broke up with me due to his parents. He was from a wealthy traditional Italian Catholic and I was an independent Protestant wanting a career. His parents were threatening to disown him if he married me. So he caved to them even though we were madly in love and he wanted to marry me. There were no other problems between us. He kept coming back to my house afterwards for about a year because it wasn’t what he wanted but he still couldn’t stand up to his parents. Everytime he showed up it opened the wound wide open. At a year, I shut the door because I had started dating someone new and I just couldn’t deal with him showing up emotionally & wasn’t fair to my boyfriend. I guess I thought I had to move on but wasn’t ready. We got married & sometimes I wonder if I did that so the first guy would stop hurting me idk. Because then I was never a possibility, him being Catholic & I’d been married. But I guess I dealt with those feelings over the next 5 years because what was the choice? I had none I had to move on.. I suppose it was just the cutoff with no real closure & the aftermath of the breakup.. also a new relationship that we were having problems perhaps didn’t help. I met with him 5 years later & it wasn’t the same anymore & he said it had taken him this long also to be over us. It was a very strong love & connection. But in the end it was better this way. Not the way it was handled though.

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There are two worst heartbreaks. I tend to take a long time to get over the ones I’ve really loved.
My first love & the one we had planned to get married & be together always. 3 year relationship & it took both of us 5 years to truly get over it & our hearts to move on. He is a Virgo & I’m a Sag.
The second one is my ex husband (the Aries) who I had my two kids with. We were together 20 years. I swear it was 10 years for me to truly be over it. I also did tremendous work on myself in those 10 years, financially, getting that CPA, and emotionally.
Both these relationships completely changed me or the aftermath of them. The first one I completely shut down emotionally ( that’s how much he broke my heart) and the second one too, but this time I did the things I needed to do for myself to become more healthy, and be much more open & finally deal with the things I had needed to my whole life before that. That was part of the 10 years I suppose to.
In those 10 years there were two that took a bit to get over but it was more because they kept coming back. Those were Cap & Leo). The actual relationships were a lot shorter than the true heartbreaks of my life. Perhaps these two it was more they were having trouble getting over me 🤪

Can I ask what he did to hurt you so much, first one I mean? Since you said it took both of you 5 years to get over it, it got me puzzled what he did then?
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He broke up with me due to his parents. He was from a wealthy traditional Italian Catholic and I was an independent Protestant wanting a career. His parents were threatening to disown him if he married me. So he caved to them even though we were madly in love and he wanted to marry me. There were no other problems between us. He kept coming back to my house afterwards for about a year because it wasn’t what he wanted but he still couldn’t stand up to his parents. Everytime he showed up it opened the wound wide open. At a year, I shut the door because I had started dating someone new and I just couldn’t deal with him showing up emotionally & wasn’t fair to my boyfriend. I guess I thought I had to move on but wasn’t ready. We got married & sometimes I wonder if I did that so the first guy would stop hurting me idk. Because then I was never a possibility, him being Catholic & I’d been married. But I guess I dealt with those feelings over the next 5 years because what was the choice? I had none I had to move on.. I suppose it was just the cutoff with no real closure & the aftermath of the breakup.. also a new relationship that we were having problems perhaps didn’t help. I met with him 5 years later & it wasn’t the same anymore & he said it had taken him this long also to be over us. It was a very strong love & connection. But in the end it was better this way. Not the way it was handled though.

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Is this the Virgo guy?

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There are two worst heartbreaks. I tend to take a long time to get over the ones I’ve really loved.
My first love & the one we had planned to get married & be together always. 3 year relationship & it took both of us 5 years to truly get over it & our hearts to move on. He is a Virgo & I’m a Sag.
The second one is my ex husband (the Aries) who I had my two kids with. We were together 20 years. I swear it was 10 years for me to truly be over it. I also did tremendous work on myself in those 10 years, financially, getting that CPA, and emotionally.
Both these relationships completely changed me or the aftermath of them. The first one I completely shut down emotionally ( that’s how much he broke my heart) and the second one too, but this time I did the things I needed to do for myself to become more healthy, and be much more open & finally deal with the things I had needed to my whole life before that. That was part of the 10 years I suppose to.
In those 10 years there were two that took a bit to get over but it was more because they kept coming back. Those were Cap & Leo). The actual relationships were a lot shorter than the true heartbreaks of my life. Perhaps these two it was more they were having trouble getting over me 🤪

Can I ask what he did to hurt you so much, first one I mean? Since you said it took both of you 5 years to get over it, it got me puzzled what he did then?
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He broke up with me due to his parents. He was from a wealthy traditional Italian Catholic and I was an independent Protestant wanting a career. His parents were threatening to disown him if he married me. So he caved to them even though we were madly in love and he wanted to marry me. There were no other problems between us. He kept coming back to my house afterwards for about a year because it wasn’t what he wanted but he still couldn’t stand up to his parents. Everytime he showed up it opened the wound wide open. At a year, I shut the door because I had started dating someone new and I just couldn’t deal with him showing up emotionally & wasn’t fair to my boyfriend. I guess I thought I had to move on but wasn’t ready. We got married & sometimes I wonder if I did that so the first guy would stop hurting me idk. Because then I was never a possibility, him being Catholic & I’d been married. But I guess I dealt with those feelings over the next 5 years because what was the choice? I had none I had to move on.. I suppose it was just the cutoff with no real closure & the aftermath of the breakup.. also a new relationship that we were having problems perhaps didn’t help. I met with him 5 years later & it wasn’t the same anymore & he said it had taken him this long also to be over us. It was a very strong love & connection. But in the end it was better this way. Not the way it was handled though.

Is this the Virgo guy?

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There are two worst heartbreaks. I tend to take a long time to get over the ones I’ve really loved.
My first love & the one we had planned to get married & be together always. 3 year relationship & it took both of us 5 years to truly get over it & our hearts to move on. He is a Virgo & I’m a Sag.
The second one is my ex husband (the Aries) who I had my two kids with. We were together 20 years. I swear it was 10 years for me to truly be over it. I also did tremendous work on myself in those 10 years, financially, getting that CPA, and emotionally.
Both these relationships completely changed me or the aftermath of them. The first one I completely shut down emotionally ( that’s how much he broke my heart) and the second one too, but this time I did the things I needed to do for myself to become more healthy, and be much more open & finally deal with the things I had needed to my whole life before that. That was part of the 10 years I suppose to.
In those 10 years there were two that took a bit to get over but it was more because they kept coming back. Those were Cap & Leo). The actual relationships were a lot shorter than the true heartbreaks of my life. Perhaps these two it was more they were having trouble getting over me 🤪

Can I ask what he did to hurt you so much, first one I mean? Since you said it took both of you 5 years to get over it, it got me puzzled what he did then?
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He broke up with me due to his parents. He was from a wealthy traditional Italian Catholic and I was an independent Protestant wanting a career. His parents were threatening to disown him if he married me. So he caved to them even though we were madly in love and he wanted to marry me. There were no other problems between us. He kept coming back to my house afterwards for about a year because it wasn’t what he wanted but he still couldn’t stand up to his parents. Everytime he showed up it opened the wound wide open. At a year, I shut the door because I had started dating someone new and I just couldn’t deal with him showing up emotionally & wasn’t fair to my boyfriend. I guess I thought I had to move on but wasn’t ready. We got married & sometimes I wonder if I did that so the first guy would stop hurting me idk. Because then I was never a possibility, him being Catholic & I’d been married. But I guess I dealt with those feelings over the next 5 years because what was the choice? I had none I had to move on.. I suppose it was just the cutoff with no real closure & the aftermath of the breakup.. also a new relationship that we were having problems perhaps didn’t help. I met with him 5 years later & it wasn’t the same anymore & he said it had taken him this long also to be over us. It was a very strong love & connection. But in the end it was better this way. Not the way it was handled though.

Is this the Virgo guy?

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Thought so, they’re not the bravest of men so you’re probably well rid

“He broke up with me due to his parents”

That’s such a turn off isn’t it and shows not only cowardice but the fact he hasn’t grown up. My ex Virgo is cowardly and so was my Virgo Grandfather. I just lose respect

I’d a very brave Aries father and would always put that as utmost importance in a partner.

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There are two worst heartbreaks. I tend to take a long time to get over the ones I’ve really loved.
My first love & the one we had planned to get married & be together always. 3 year relationship & it took both of us 5 years to truly get over it & our hearts to move on. He is a Virgo & I’m a Sag.
The second one is my ex husband (the Aries) who I had my two kids with. We were together 20 years. I swear it was 10 years for me to truly be over it. I also did tremendous work on myself in those 10 years, financially, getting that CPA, and emotionally.
Both these relationships completely changed me or the aftermath of them. The first one I completely shut down emotionally ( that’s how much he broke my heart) and the second one too, but this time I did the things I needed to do for myself to become more healthy, and be much more open & finally deal with the things I had needed to my whole life before that. That was part of the 10 years I suppose to.
In those 10 years there were two that took a bit to get over but it was more because they kept coming back. Those were Cap & Leo). The actual relationships were a lot shorter than the true heartbreaks of my life. Perhaps these two it was more they were having trouble getting over me 🤪

Can I ask what he did to hurt you so much, first one I mean? Since you said it took both of you 5 years to get over it, it got me puzzled what he did then?

He broke up with me due to his parents. He was from a wealthy traditional Italian Catholic and I was an independent Protestant wanting a career. His parents were threatening to disown him if he married me. So he caved to them even though we were madly in love and he wanted to marry me. There were no other problems between us. He kept coming back to my house afterwards for about a year because it wasn’t what he wanted but he still couldn’t stand up to his parents. Everytime he showed up it opened the wound wide open. At a year, I shut the door because I had started dating someone new and I just couldn’t deal with him showing up emotionally & wasn’t fair to my boyfriend. I guess I thought I had to move on but wasn’t ready. We got married & sometimes I wonder if I did that so the first guy would stop hurting me idk. Because then I was never a possibility, him being Catholic & I’d been married. But I guess I dealt with those feelings over the next 5 years because what was the choice? I had none I had to move on.. I suppose it was just the cutoff with no real closure & the aftermath of the breakup.. also a new relationship that we were having problems perhaps didn’t help. I met with him 5 years later & it wasn’t the same anymore & he said it had taken him this long also to be over us. It was a very strong love & connection. But in the end it was better this way. Not the way it was handled though.

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Interesting, this was my exact same issue with my bf at start, I didn't see religion as a deal breaker and he did. He also left me at some point but we got back together. His accepted me just fine over time but I doubt they were as accepting at the start as well since neither of us had religiously mixed marriages in their family while being different religions ourselves. I was also heartbroken but I was persistent to fight for a relationship and we kept contact but we also reconciled soon after, break up didn't last long.

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Well it might have ended that way too if I hadn’t married the other guy…

I think for him it was more about the money than religion. He had just dropped out of college, on academic probation & didn’t know how to support himself on the level he’d grown up. He ended up working for his dad. He did well in the long run but at 21 yo that was hard to see for him. I was 22, graduated at 23 and started my career with a guy who supported that. Of course I understand this now, didn’t then lol.

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There are two worst heartbreaks. I tend to take a long time to get over the ones I’ve really loved.
My first love & the one we had planned to get married & be together always. 3 year relationship & it took both of us 5 years to truly get over it & our hearts to move on. He is a Virgo & I’m a Sag.
The second one is my ex husband (the Aries) who I had my two kids with. We were together 20 years. I swear it was 10 years for me to truly be over it. I also did tremendous work on myself in those 10 years, financially, getting that CPA, and emotionally.
Both these relationships completely changed me or the aftermath of them. The first one I completely shut down emotionally ( that’s how much he broke my heart) and the second one too, but this time I did the things I needed to do for myself to become more healthy, and be much more open & finally deal with the things I had needed to my whole life before that. That was part of the 10 years I suppose to.
In those 10 years there were two that took a bit to get over but it was more because they kept coming back. Those were Cap & Leo). The actual relationships were a lot shorter than the true heartbreaks of my life. Perhaps these two it was more they were having trouble getting over me 🤪

Can I ask what he did to hurt you so much, first one I mean? Since you said it took both of you 5 years to get over it, it got me puzzled what he did then?
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He broke up with me due to his parents. He was from a wealthy traditional Italian Catholic and I was an independent Protestant wanting a career. His parents were threatening to disown him if he married me. So he caved to them even though we were madly in love and he wanted to marry me. There were no other problems between us. He kept coming back to my house afterwards for about a year because it wasn’t what he wanted but he still couldn’t stand up to his parents. Everytime he showed up it opened the wound wide open. At a year, I shut the door because I had started dating someone new and I just couldn’t deal with him showing up emotionally & wasn’t fair to my boyfriend. I guess I thought I had to move on but wasn’t ready. We got married & sometimes I wonder if I did that so the first guy would stop hurting me idk. Because then I was never a possibility, him being Catholic & I’d been married. But I guess I dealt with those feelings over the next 5 years because what was the choice? I had none I had to move on.. I suppose it was just the cutoff with no real closure & the aftermath of the breakup.. also a new relationship that we were having problems perhaps didn’t help. I met with him 5 years later & it wasn’t the same anymore & he said it had taken him this long also to be over us. It was a very strong love & connection. But in the end it was better this way. Not the way it was handled though.

Is this the Virgo guy?

Yes

Thought so, they’re not the bravest of men so you’re probably well rid

“He broke up with me due to his parents”
That’s such a turn off isn’t it and shows not only cowardice but the fact he hasn’t grown up. My ex Virgo is cowardly and so was my Virgo Grandfather. I just lose respect
I’d a very brave Aries father and would always put that as utmost importance in a partner.

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Money speaks for the wealthy.. but yes it’s best for me in the long run ( just took me a long time to get it) I wouldn’t have been able to be me in that family since family was apparently the most important thing even though between 18-21 he didn’t act like that. Perhaps a rebellious phase with a Sag & we were young.

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There are two worst heartbreaks. I tend to take a long time to get over the ones I’ve really loved.
My first love & the one we had planned to get married & be together always. 3 year relationship & it took both of us 5 years to truly get over it & our hearts to move on. He is a Virgo & I’m a Sag.
The second one is my ex husband (the Aries) who I had my two kids with. We were together 20 years. I swear it was 10 years for me to truly be over it. I also did tremendous work on myself in those 10 years, financially, getting that CPA, and emotionally.
Both these relationships completely changed me or the aftermath of them. The first one I completely shut down emotionally ( that’s how much he broke my heart) and the second one too, but this time I did the things I needed to do for myself to become more healthy, and be much more open & finally deal with the things I had needed to my whole life before that. That was part of the 10 years I suppose to.
In those 10 years there were two that took a bit to get over but it was more because they kept coming back. Those were Cap & Leo). The actual relationships were a lot shorter than the true heartbreaks of my life. Perhaps these two it was more they were having trouble getting over me 🤪

Can I ask what he did to hurt you so much, first one I mean? Since you said it took both of you 5 years to get over it, it got me puzzled what he did then?
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He broke up with me due to his parents. He was from a wealthy traditional Italian Catholic and I was an independent Protestant wanting a career. His parents were threatening to disown him if he married me. So he caved to them even though we were madly in love and he wanted to marry me. There were no other problems between us. He kept coming back to my house afterwards for about a year because it wasn’t what he wanted but he still couldn’t stand up to his parents. Everytime he showed up it opened the wound wide open. At a year, I shut the door because I had started dating someone new and I just couldn’t deal with him showing up emotionally & wasn’t fair to my boyfriend. I guess I thought I had to move on but wasn’t ready. We got married & sometimes I wonder if I did that so the first guy would stop hurting me idk. Because then I was never a possibility, him being Catholic & I’d been married. But I guess I dealt with those feelings over the next 5 years because what was the choice? I had none I had to move on.. I suppose it was just the cutoff with no real closure & the aftermath of the breakup.. also a new relationship that we were having problems perhaps didn’t help. I met with him 5 years later & it wasn’t the same anymore & he said it had taken him this long also to be over us. It was a very strong love & connection. But in the end it was better this way. Not the way it was handled though.

Is this the Virgo guy?

Yes

Thought so, they’re not the bravest of men so you’re probably well rid



“He broke up with me due to his parents”

That’s such a turn off isn’t it and shows not only cowardice but the fact he hasn’t grown up. My ex Virgo is cowardly and so was my Virgo Grandfather. I just lose respect

I’d a very brave Aries father and would always put that as utmost importance in a partner.

Money speaks for the wealthy.. but yes it’s best for me in the long run ( just took me a long time to get it) I wouldn’t have been able to be me in that family since family was apparently the most important thing even though between 18-21 he didn’t act like that. Perhaps a rebellious phase with a Sag & we were young.

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It seems his family would always come first.

I’d hate to think our son would allow that to happen ~ fat chance of that 😅. He’s a very strong brave one thankfully.

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There are two worst heartbreaks. I tend to take a long time to get over the ones I’ve really loved.
My first love & the one we had planned to get married & be together always. 3 year relationship & it took both of us 5 years to truly get over it & our hearts to move on. He is a Virgo & I’m a Sag.
The second one is my ex husband (the Aries) who I had my two kids with. We were together 20 years. I swear it was 10 years for me to truly be over it. I also did tremendous work on myself in those 10 years, financially, getting that CPA, and emotionally.
Both these relationships completely changed me or the aftermath of them. The first one I completely shut down emotionally ( that’s how much he broke my heart) and the second one too, but this time I did the things I needed to do for myself to become more healthy, and be much more open & finally deal with the things I had needed to my whole life before that. That was part of the 10 years I suppose to.
In those 10 years there were two that took a bit to get over but it was more because they kept coming back. Those were Cap & Leo). The actual relationships were a lot shorter than the true heartbreaks of my life. Perhaps these two it was more they were having trouble getting over me 🤪

Can I ask what he did to hurt you so much, first one I mean? Since you said it took both of you 5 years to get over it, it got me puzzled what he did then?
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He broke up with me due to his parents. He was from a wealthy traditional Italian Catholic and I was an independent Protestant wanting a career. His parents were threatening to disown him if he married me. So he caved to them even though we were madly in love and he wanted to marry me. There were no other problems between us. He kept coming back to my house afterwards for about a year because it wasn’t what he wanted but he still couldn’t stand up to his parents. Everytime he showed up it opened the wound wide open. At a year, I shut the door because I had started dating someone new and I just couldn’t deal with him showing up emotionally & wasn’t fair to my boyfriend. I guess I thought I had to move on but wasn’t ready. We got married & sometimes I wonder if I did that so the first guy would stop hurting me idk. Because then I was never a possibility, him being Catholic & I’d been married. But I guess I dealt with those feelings over the next 5 years because what was the choice? I had none I had to move on.. I suppose it was just the cutoff with no real closure & the aftermath of the breakup.. also a new relationship that we were having problems perhaps didn’t help. I met with him 5 years later & it wasn’t the same anymore & he said it had taken him this long also to be over us. It was a very strong love & connection. But in the end it was better this way. Not the way it was handled though.

Is this the Virgo guy?

Yes

Thought so, they’re not the bravest of men so you’re probably well rid





“He broke up with me due to his parents”


That’s such a turn off isn’t it and shows not only cowardice but the fact he hasn’t grown up. My ex Virgo is cowardly and so was my Virgo Grandfather. I just lose respect


I’d a very brave Aries father and would always put that as utmost importance in a partner.

Money speaks for the wealthy.. but yes it’s best for me in the long run ( just took me a long time to get it) I wouldn’t have been able to be me in that family since family was apparently the most important thing even though between 18-21 he didn’t act like that. Perhaps a rebellious phase with a Sag & we were young.

It seems his family would always come first.
I’d hate to think our son would allow that to happen ~ fat chance of that 😅. He’s a very strong brave one thankfully.

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Yes, but you are completely different than his mother. She was very controlling & telling him he would be cutoff if he married me. Well who knows what would have actually happened but he made his choice. Using money over their head is pretty horrible in my view. But whatever, I’m better off not part of that family. I wonder what her sign is lol

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There are two worst heartbreaks. I tend to take a long time to get over the ones I’ve really loved.
My first love & the one we had planned to get married & be together always. 3 year relationship & it took both of us 5 years to truly get over it & our hearts to move on. He is a Virgo & I’m a Sag.
The second one is my ex husband (the Aries) who I had my two kids with. We were together 20 years. I swear it was 10 years for me to truly be over it. I also did tremendous work on myself in those 10 years, financially, getting that CPA, and emotionally.
Both these relationships completely changed me or the aftermath of them. The first one I completely shut down emotionally ( that’s how much he broke my heart) and the second one too, but this time I did the things I needed to do for myself to become more healthy, and be much more open & finally deal with the things I had needed to my whole life before that. That was part of the 10 years I suppose to.
In those 10 years there were two that took a bit to get over but it was more because they kept coming back. Those were Cap & Leo). The actual relationships were a lot shorter than the true heartbreaks of my life. Perhaps these two it was more they were having trouble getting over me 🤪

Can I ask what he did to hurt you so much, first one I mean? Since you said it took both of you 5 years to get over it, it got me puzzled what he did then?

He broke up with me due to his parents. He was from a wealthy traditional Italian Catholic and I was an independent Protestant wanting a career. His parents were threatening to disown him if he married me. So he caved to them even though we were madly in love and he wanted to marry me. There were no other problems between us. He kept coming back to my house afterwards for about a year because it wasn’t what he wanted but he still couldn’t stand up to his parents. Everytime he showed up it opened the wound wide open. At a year, I shut the door because I had started dating someone new and I just couldn’t deal with him showing up emotionally & wasn’t fair to my boyfriend. I guess I thought I had to move on but wasn’t ready. We got married & sometimes I wonder if I did that so the first guy would stop hurting me idk. Because then I was never a possibility, him being Catholic & I’d been married. But I guess I dealt with those feelings over the next 5 years because what was the choice? I had none I had to move on.. I suppose it was just the cutoff with no real closure & the aftermath of the breakup.. also a new relationship that we were having problems perhaps didn’t help. I met with him 5 years later & it wasn’t the same anymore & he said it had taken him this long also to be over us. It was a very strong love & connection. But in the end it was better this way. Not the way it was handled though.

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Interesting, this was my exact same issue with my bf at start, I didn't see religion as a deal breaker and he did. He also left me at some point but we got back together. His accepted me just fine over time but I doubt they were as accepting at the start as well since neither of us had religiously mixed marriages in their family while being different religions ourselves. I was also heartbroken but I was persistent to fight for a relationship and we kept contact but we also reconciled soon after, break up didn't last long.

Well it might have ended that way too if I hadn’t married the other guy…



I think for him it was more about the money than religion. He had just dropped out of college, on academic probation & didn’t know how to support himself on the level he’d grown up. He ended up working for his dad. He did well in the long run but at 21 yo that was hard to see for him. I was 22, graduated at 23 and started my career with a guy who supported that. Of course I understand this now, didn’t then lol.

Yeah, I see. You're right, different age and possibilities bring different ways of thinking. We were, me in mid and him in late 20s when it happened so it was also different at a time but I too would act differently if I had my current mindset. Guess things happen best way they can for us, right? What's meant to be simply happens and what's not just doesn't.

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Yes very true. I didn’t get that until my 40’s. Wish I had much earlier. But live and learn!

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There are two worst heartbreaks. I tend to take a long time to get over the ones I’ve really loved.
My first love & the one we had planned to get married & be together always. 3 year relationship & it took both of us 5 years to truly get over it & our hearts to move on. He is a Virgo & I’m a Sag.
The second one is my ex husband (the Aries) who I had my two kids with. We were together 20 years. I swear it was 10 years for me to truly be over it. I also did tremendous work on myself in those 10 years, financially, getting that CPA, and emotionally.
Both these relationships completely changed me or the aftermath of them. The first one I completely shut down emotionally ( that’s how much he broke my heart) and the second one too, but this time I did the things I needed to do for myself to become more healthy, and be much more open & finally deal with the things I had needed to my whole life before that. That was part of the 10 years I suppose to.
In those 10 years there were two that took a bit to get over but it was more because they kept coming back. Those were Cap & Leo). The actual relationships were a lot shorter than the true heartbreaks of my life. Perhaps these two it was more they were having trouble getting over me 🤪

Can I ask what he did to hurt you so much, first one I mean? Since you said it took both of you 5 years to get over it, it got me puzzled what he did then?
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He broke up with me due to his parents. He was from a wealthy traditional Italian Catholic and I was an independent Protestant wanting a career. His parents were threatening to disown him if he married me. So he caved to them even though we were madly in love and he wanted to marry me. There were no other problems between us. He kept coming back to my house afterwards for about a year because it wasn’t what he wanted but he still couldn’t stand up to his parents. Everytime he showed up it opened the wound wide open. At a year, I shut the door because I had started dating someone new and I just couldn’t deal with him showing up emotionally & wasn’t fair to my boyfriend. I guess I thought I had to move on but wasn’t ready. We got married & sometimes I wonder if I did that so the first guy would stop hurting me idk. Because then I was never a possibility, him being Catholic & I’d been married. But I guess I dealt with those feelings over the next 5 years because what was the choice? I had none I had to move on.. I suppose it was just the cutoff with no real closure & the aftermath of the breakup.. also a new relationship that we were having problems perhaps didn’t help. I met with him 5 years later & it wasn’t the same anymore & he said it had taken him this long also to be over us. It was a very strong love & connection. But in the end it was better this way. Not the way it was handled though.

Is this the Virgo guy?

Yes

Thought so, they’re not the bravest of men so you’re probably well rid







“He broke up with me due to his parents”



That’s such a turn off isn’t it and shows not only cowardice but the fact he hasn’t grown up. My ex Virgo is cowardly and so was my Virgo Grandfather. I just lose respect



I’d a very brave Aries father and would always put that as utmost importance in a partner.

Money speaks for the wealthy.. but yes it’s best for me in the long run ( just took me a long time to get it) I wouldn’t have been able to be me in that family since family was apparently the most important thing even though between 18-21 he didn’t act like that. Perhaps a rebellious phase with a Sag & we were young.

It seems his family would always come first.

I’d hate to think our son would allow that to happen ~ fat chance of that 😅. He’s a very strong brave one thankfully.

Yes, but you are completely different than his mother. She was very controlling & telling him he would be cutoff if he married me. Well who knows what would have actually happened but he made his choice. Using money over their head is pretty horrible in my view. But whatever, I’m better off not part of that family. I wonder what her sign is lol

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Great loving Catholic mother hey? The type of woman who demasculates her son and leaves him with mummy issues forever more.

That’s not love.

Scorpio? lol

The unaware ones can be brutal 😂🤪

she's a taurus sun/cancer moon. i've never experienced pain like when i lost her. i prayed to god to just end me. i couldn't even deal with the feelings i felt. i cried so hard that i'd throw up. i'm still in the bargaining stage. she's long gone. what i wouldn't give to have her back in my life.

Myself.

The demons I carry from the way I’ve treated a truly amazing, innocent man- it’s gut wrenching.

He was a Gemini sun, cancer moon.

I am a Scorpio sun, sag moon.

We officially broke up August 2023. The guilt lives with me to this day.

Obv I’ve cheated on all of my lovers (territory that comes with being Whorpio), but he was different- he didn’t deserve it.

Sometimes I think about paying an Etsy witch to cast a spell to attract genuine love to his life, so he can find a life partner who treats him right. I’d also want to have a spell cast that makes his mother treat him better; she was a narcissist and since she couldn’t control him she would be vile towards him, to the point he became suicidal (I also believe she was the reason her own brother committed suicide). And lastly I’d have a spell cast to help him succeed in his career pursuits, make him the top in his industry. He deserves the world 🌎

Two impossible ones. One was Virgo (always ignored/disliked me) and the other Libra (married). None of my actual relationships has affected me so much.

Found my perfect. Everything about her was what I always wanted in a partner. Totally fell in love with her.

Watched her go through a string of dudes and even heard her having sex with them, while blowing me off. My fault for insecurities and not stepping up to the plate from the get go. And she received bad advice. Still tho, that whole experience was Thee most painful experience in my life. Took me years to get over it.

Don't fuck around, when you meet someone worth your time. Fuck insecurities. You work through them or stay the hell away from serious relationships.

My worst heartbreak was probably at age 12, and I never got her date of birth.

I've actually never had one. The second I feel like someone could potentially fuck me over, I make sure to cut them out of my life.

Letting the walls down and being honest, my parents getting divorced was the first. Hearing yelling, and objects breaking while sitting in the middle of the stairs terrified was second. Watching my father go out of control with drugs, selling all his stuff, and losing the country home I was born in was 3.

That means nothing though. Truth be told I feel nothing, and the idea of heart break is trivial to me.