Did you settle for your significant other?

If so why did you settle? Or if you settled for someone then let them go how did you break up with them did you tell them that you felt like you were settling ?

No I'm with those who I love and I don't settle it's a choice I make each time

Posted by ladylibra21
If so why did you settle? Or if you settled for someone then let them go how did you break up with them did you tell them that you felt like you were settling ?

Hard to answer. You meet him and you think this is love. You get married and live life.

After you meet someone...and your brain get WOW and you had never experienced that before. It's a new crap like 'what just happened?' and you lost your sense of life and your mind goes...wait a minute....

Lol! I know ALL about it!

Ask me. I'll tell you. ?

Haha.



What's funny is that we question these things.

I'll never understand it.

What if there is more out of life had we of chosen a different person?



That's basically what you're saying.

I think about this a lot.

Simple answer? No, I never settle but the reason is simple. I don't think in terms of who or what I deserve when it comes to a partner. I date on terms of who treats me right and who will help me serve my highest good. "Settling" is about ego and not love.

I'm sorry and I'm not trying to be mean, but I've seen too many people make the stupid mistake of passing over or tossing aside someone that was perfectly good for them out of "getting something better" only to find out that person was worse...and for what? "Settling" to me implies entitlement and nobody is entitled to anything especially given that none of us are perfect. Nine times outta 10 if one is asking this question it's because they are refusing to see the good thing that's right in front of them in search of some fantasy that doesn't exist. I'm not advocating being with someone who treats us bad, but opportunities at a good and healthy things are rare.

Hell no but ive heard of others doing so. I "waited" 5 years for mine, that wasn't for nothing.

Posted by Lunabee
What if there is more out of life had we of chosen a different person?



That's basically what you're saying.

I think about this a lot.

are you a fire or air sun or do you have a fire or air venus?

e.g - Gemini , sagg or aries placements?

Posted by youngali
there is just "settling" - people who are afraid of letting go, afraid to start over, afraid to take the risk, people who think they can't get anything or anyone better, people who are comfortable being just comfortable. (this term applies to either jobs or relationships)

and then there is "settling down" - finding ones soul mate and committing to a life time with them.



thin line, but major difference.

no such thing as settling once the souls click... and i refuse to settle until it's right.

but that could be just me. 😏

I agree I want a soul connection

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Posted by ladylibra21
If so why did you settle? Or if you settled for someone then let them go how did you break up with them did you tell them that you felt like you were settling ?

Hard to answer. You meet him and you think this is love. You get married and live life.

After you meet someone...and your brain get WOW and you had never experienced that before. It's a new crap like 'what just happened?' and you lost your sense of life and your mind goes...wait a minute....

Lol! I know ALL about it!

Ask me. I'll tell you. ?

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Hi x

.Boy you are Soooo Right!

Especially after years of marriage you discover the man you married is not what you thought he was ??

Posted by youngali
there is just "settling" - people who are afraid of letting go, afraid to start over, afraid to take the risk, people who think they can't get anything or anyone better, people who are comfortable being just comfortable. (this term applies to either jobs or relationships)

and then there is "settling down" - finding ones soul mate and committing to a life time with them.



thin line, but major difference.

no such thing as settling once the souls click... and i refuse to settle until it's right.

but that could be just me. 😏

Well said! I agree ?

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Posted by Gemitati

Posted by ladylibra21
If so why did you settle? Or if you settled for someone then let them go how did you break up with them did you tell them that you felt like you were settling ?

Hard to answer. You meet him and you think this is love. You get married and live life.

After you meet someone...and your brain get WOW and you had never experienced that before. It's a new crap like 'what just happened?' and you lost your sense of life and your mind goes...wait a minute....

Lol! I know ALL about it!

Ask me. I'll tell you. ?

Hi x

.Boy you are Soooo Right!

Especially after years of marriage you discover the man you married is not what you thought he was ??

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We often just taken for granted after a while. This is when life starting to seem less satisfying. It could last to the end or you can get out...

Posted by MaxPower
Troll thread

How is this a Troll thread? It is a legit question. I read an article with people talking about how they felt like they settled so I wondered if anyone on here had. The reason why some people "settled" were a little unsettling.

Posted by ladylibra21
If so why did you settle? Or if you settled for someone then let them go how did you break up with them did you tell them that you felt like you were settling ?

I think, to some extent, because none of us are perfect or a perfect "fit" for each other, we are always settling in some way. The person may be the best sex you ever had but they suck at communication. They may be great at appreciating and caring for you, but they may suck in bed, etc. LOL. bad examples, but hopefully I am making sense. The point is, in my mind you have to decide what things you are absolutely unable to live without and what things are things you can give up. Don't settle for someone who doesn't fulfill your "absolute must have's" Here is why: You deserve that, and also, they deserve to be with someone who is happy that they chose them.

They will have flaws, you have flaws, everyone has flaws. The key is to decide which are non-negotiable.

I won't settle, never have, never will. Call me picky (my PREROGATIVE).

🤗 Cyber hugs!

Love,

Eva

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Posted by Lunabee
What if there is more out of life had we of chosen a different person?



That's basically what you're saying.

I think about this a lot.

are you a fire or air sun or do you have a fire or air venus?

e.g - Gemini , sagg or aries placements?

click to expand

Sag sun

Libra moon

Aries mars

ScorpioVenus

Spot on babe ?

Others may call it settling, but I call it a wise decision to keep choosing someone despite their imperfection and flaws. Relationships are not successful due to ones ability to find the ideal and perfect partner, someone who is ready made from a cookie cutter. If you only wish to be around someone, when they are successful, then you would be in for a tough ride because everyone falls.

Will you weather through hell with them ?

The journey is what is most important, the adventure of discovery with another, fighting through the storms and celebrating the sunrises together. Going by the general stereotypical consensus, then I would have settled.

For I, it was a matter of knowing what would work with and for me. Love is hard work and he is the best partner in which I believe fits the role of being by my side, as I, his.

No I didn't settle. He's out of my league.

Posted by MaxPower
It strikes me as a troll thread because I suspect the motive for starting such a thread would be to try to demonstrate that people settle, because there is someone who chose someone else over you, and you would like to think they are settling.

Lol you couldn't be farthest from the truth darling. I seriously read an article and they decided to make a post I have a very healthy curiosity dear.

nope, cause the idea of settling to me, is settling for a man who does nothing for you in the desire to kiss and hug. But settling is someone you just want to have financial support, (like if i married a millionaire and i didnt give a fuck about him) and i go and spend all his money that he gave me, and i would have this temporary happiness. but be considered a gold digger who didnt give a shit about the man who craves my attention and is needy to have me around that he pays me for a love i cannot give him.

that is just not something i would do because i can't do it. Now maybe if i was starving and i had lived in a different type of life....born in a poor, desolate part of town with starvation and stomach growling and looking malnourished. then only by some miracle from that lack of nourishment, i got some beauty to catch a millionaire. I have no idea why....maybe the rich fucker likes skinny underdeveloped women who look like waifs...

and then i would be unhappy but then..how would i know? Do people really know if they are unhappy when they got their bellies full and their hair shampooed by the most expensive products, and the feeling of silk and satin to sleep on nightly instead of kicking off dirt and grime and torn sheets from using it over and over again, since it is the only one.