@puhleeze
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How/where do you meet your match when everyone your age is married?
Keep putting yourself out there. Never turn down an invite, even if its with a group of friends who are all married/taken. Cause people have friends, brothers, etc. that they'll invite.
The hand that rocks the cradle...?
....all the clues you need....
??
Posted by LadyNeptune
Keep putting yourself out there. Never turn down an invite, even if its with a group of friends who are all married/taken. Cause people have friends, brothers, etc. that they'll invite.
This^. You can't really force interactions. Maybe there aren't any real options in your work place OR in your friend group. You may have to venture out a bit further and seek out some interesting hobbies or activities that involve other people (gym, trivia, clubs, etc). At least then you can find a person with similar interests.
Wait till they get divorced in 2 years or so
Posted by bricklemark
The hand that rocks the cradle...?....all the clues you need....
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What does that mean? 🙂
Posted by LadyNeptune
Keep putting yourself out there. Never turn down an invite, even if its with a group of friends who are all married/taken. Cause people have friends, brothers, etc. that they'll invite.
I agree, but you just want romance to happen without trying hence work place haha
Posted by LadyNeptune
Keep putting yourself out there. Never turn down an invite, even if its with a group of friends who are all married/taken. Cause people have friends, brothers, etc. that they'll invite.This^. You can't really force interactions. Maybe there aren't any real options in your work place OR in your friend group. You may have to venture out a bit further and seek out some interesting hobbies or activities that involve other people (gym, trivia, clubs, etc). At least then you can find a person with similar interests.
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Yes, I know need to get out there. Being surrounded by married people is really killing any motivation.
Posted by CheVirgo
Random chance of luck
^this. Waiting for it. So far all have rings on their fingers 😭 And the only 1-2 that don't are more interested in the other married ones haha.
Posted by andswho
My soulmate hasn't even been born yet
haha yes guess clooney years are still far away?
Posted by enfant_terrible
Wait till they get divorced in 2 years or so
They are already in 10+ years marriage 😭
Posted by andswho
My soulmate hasn't even been born yet
Posted by andswho
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hahahaha
Posted by LadyNeptune
Keep putting yourself out there. Never turn down an invite, even if its with a group of friends who are all married/taken. Cause people have friends, brothers, etc. that they'll invite.
I like the explanation. 🙂
Posted by LadyNeptune
Keep putting yourself out there. Never turn down an invite, even if its with a group of friends who are all married/taken. Cause people have friends, brothers, etc. that they'll invite.I agree, but you just want romance to happen without trying hence work place haha
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No you don't. Workplace romance very very rarely works out and having to deal with the fallout every day at your 9-5 is hell. Steer clear!!!
Posted by andswho
My soulmate hasn't even been born yet
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this one?
Posted by LadyNeptune
Keep putting yourself out there. Never turn down an invite, even if its with a group of friends who are all married/taken. Cause people have friends, brothers, etc. that they'll invite.I agree, but you just want romance to happen without trying hence work place haha
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That pretty much sums it all up as to why you can't find a person to care for you.
You're entitled obviously ..... you want someone to drop into your lap, you want to be loved to the fullest without you actually having to put forth any effort at all.
And then you haha, as if being so small is cute
I really don't know, it's crazy. and the worst is other people who are married didn't even do anything or try, but then somehow they find someone who fits with them really well.
Posted by andswho
My soulmate hasn't even been born yet
lmao!
I don't know why.....but your comment reminded me of.... George Clooney. 😆 😛
Posted by Astrology101
If people don't see you.. they won't know you are available.
^Agree
Posted by LadyNeptune
Keep putting yourself out there. Never turn down an invite, even if its with a group of friends who are all married/taken. Cause people have friends, brothers, etc. that they'll invite.I agree, but you just want romance to happen without trying hence work place haha
That pretty much sums it all up as to why you can't find a person to care for you.
You're entitled obviously ..... you want someone to drop into your lap, you want to be loved to the fullest without you actually having to put forth any effort at all.
And then you haha, as if being so small is cute
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I know what I said might sound lame. Basically why I say work is because that is one place where you can get to know the real person, can start having feelings based on their nature without actually starting off trying to see if they are a match. So it is more organic. I believe in falling for someone and then working on that relationship if it is reciprocated.
Posted by AriesJo
I really don't know, it's crazy. and the worst is other people who are married didn't even do anything or try, but then somehow they find someone who fits with them really well.
Yes, they find and want to be with each other for the rest of their lives. They are lucky they found each other.
Posted by puhleeze
Not talking about dating, just meeting someone at work place or friend of friend etc. All your friends, colleagues are married, have kids, and then you meet someone new, really like them, and boom they are married too. So unfair that few of us didn't meet the one when age was right, and now even if you meet they are not available. Hmm how do you come out of this situation.
I am 32 and felt the same for the past 5 years-I genuinely thought it wouldnt happen until I moved country, but one day out of nowhere BOOM! I saw my love, sat right across the table from me at a mutual friends brunch gathering-LOTS of eye contact before we actually spoke. I genuinely was on my way out. I think it could be fate but you have to help it along the way a little. Attend all gatherings you're invited to etc.
It will happen when you least expect it!
Posted by LadyNeptune
Keep putting yourself out there. Never turn down an invite, even if its with a group of friends who are all married/taken. Cause people have friends, brothers, etc. that they'll invite.I agree, but you just want romance to happen without trying hence work place haha
you want to be loved to the fullest without you actually having to put forth any effort at all.
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I agree I may be expecting someone to just come in my life without putting myself out there. I am lacking that effort.
I've heard that pool of singles after 45 is full! Because this is when half of people getting divorce and her back on a market.
So don't be discouraged. Not everyone is married. It's just seems this way.
Posted by Gemitati
I've heard that pool of singles after 45 is full! Because this is when half of people getting divorce and her back on a market.So don't be discouraged. Not everyone is married. It's just seems this way.
haha. I just feel it is sad to waste your 30s 40s being single when you could be with your soulmate. Not that it is by choice.
Posted by Gemitati
I've heard that pool of singles after 45 is full! Because this is when half of people getting divorce and her back on a market.So don't be discouraged. Not everyone is married. It's just seems this way.
haha. I just feel it is sad to waste your 30s 40s being single when you could be with your soulmate. Not that it is by choice.
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If you meet sole mate at any age - it's a gift of life! If you married to whatever - it's also a waste of life. So...you never know!
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Not talking about dating, just meeting someone at work place or friend of friend etc. All your friends, colleagues are married, have kids, and then you meet someone new, really like them, and boom they are married too. So unfair that few of us didn't meet the one when age was right, and now even if you meet they are not available. Hmm how do you come out of this situation.