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February 5th marked the date I walked out on my ex. But to me, it was Superbowl Sunday and I was too busy with a friend preparing and hosting our first SB party which turned out to be a hit, accompanied by delicious food and great company. It has been one year since then and that moment never crossed my mind until today. I recall some months ago wanting to do something big on that day. Have a Breakup Anniversary to celebrate a year of not having him in my life like go on a trip, a get-away, or explore another city. I realized how I no longer have that want because the year itself was a celebration of the positive moments in my life and how I was able to forget about that day for a brief time to enjoy it.

But I am curious if any of you have celebrated ‘Breakup Anniversaries’ or would you celebrate it? If so, how did you celebrate it? What did you do? Did it help or hurt you by bringing significance to that day?
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February 5th marked the date I walked out on my ex. But to me, it was Superbowl Sunday and I was too busy with a friend preparing and hosting our first SB party which turned out to be a hit, accompanied by delicious food and great company. It has been one year since then and that moment never crossed my mind until today. I recall some months ago wanting to do something big on that day. Have a Breakup Anniversary to celebrate a year of not having him in my life like go on a trip, a get-away, or explore another city. I realized how I no longer have that want because the year itself was a celebration of the positive moments in my life and how I was able to forget about that day for a brief time to enjoy it.

But I am curious if any of you have celebrated ‘Breakup Anniversaries’ or would you celebrate it? If so, how did you celebrate it? What did you do? Did it help or hurt you by bringing significance to that day?


nah - I do remember the exact circumstances when the ice broke that started the avalanche - but I don't celebrate it - remembering how awful it was for the year or two prior to that and that it was such a big waste of my time and life that once I moved on to better days it just got left behind and became a memory like the rest of my life

I divorced my husband and my best GF of 40 years since they were in it together and I'm at great peace now after getting away from all their drama
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February 5th marked the date I walked out on my ex. But to me, it was Superbowl Sunday and I was too busy with a friend preparing and hosting our first SB party which turned out to be a hit, accompanied by delicious food and great company. It has been one year since then and that moment never crossed my mind until today. I recall some months ago wanting to do something big on that day. Have a Breakup Anniversary to celebrate a year of not having him in my life like go on a trip, a get-away, or explore another city. I realized how I no longer have that want because the year itself was a celebration of the positive moments in my life and how I was able to forget about that day for a brief time to enjoy it.

But I am curious if any of you have celebrated ‘Breakup Anniversaries’ or would you celebrate it? If so, how did you celebrate it? What did you do? Did it help or hurt you by bringing significance to that day?


nah - I do remember the exact circumstances when the ice broke that started the avalanche - but I don't celebrate it - remembering how awful it was for the year or two prior to that and that it was such a big waste of my time and life that once I moved on to better days it just got left behind and became a memory like the rest of my life

I divorced my husband and my best GF of 40 years since they were in it together and I'm at great peace now after getting away from all their drama
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Sorry that happened. It is nice to know that you can finally find peace through it all. In the beginning, I used to feel hatred, but now when I reflect on it I feel calm and remember it as an experience to grow.
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But I am curious if any of you have celebrated ‘Breakup Anniversaries’ or would you celebrate it? If so, how did you celebrate it? What did you do? Did it help or hurt you by bringing significance to that day?



Good morning. I broke up w/my ex-bf ALMOST a year ago (26 Feb 16); five days shy of my birthday. I EVEN invited him to my bd party at the club; he showed up, I danced with a stranger I asked while waiting at the bar; came back, and found out a week later he had asked for my girlfriend's cell #; idiot gave it to him, and I was even MORE pissed than ever! 😡 That SEALED the nails on his coffin between he and I. Every month from then on, I counted the month(s) until it lead to the 9th month and I was like, "Geez, it's been that long! I could have had a baby (gestation; reversed) by now!". Well, in 17 days it's going to be a whole year!!! 😄 How am I going to celebrate it? Well, it seems the 26th of February is a BAD #/month for me since I also had the judge grant my divorce on the 26th of February and I will celebrate by going out to the club on the 25th and at the stroke of midnight I will toast a shot to BOTH my exes 🍹!!! "All my exes live in Texas". In my ears I keep hearing Adriana Grande, "I've got one less problem without you!!" 😱

🤗 Cyber hugs!

Love,

Eva

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February 5th marked the date I walked out on my ex. But to me, it was Superbowl Sunday and I was too busy with a friend preparing and hosting our first SB party which turned out to be a hit, accompanied by delicious food and great company. It has been one year since then and that moment never crossed my mind until today. I recall some months ago wanting to do something big on that day. Have a Breakup Anniversary to celebrate a year of not having him in my life like go on a trip, a get-away, or explore another city. I realized how I no longer have that want because the year itself was a celebration of the positive moments in my life and how I was able to forget about that day for a brief time to enjoy it.

But I am curious if any of you have celebrated ‘Breakup Anniversaries’ or would you celebrate it? If so, how did you celebrate it? What did you do? Did it help or hurt you by bringing significance to that day?


nah - I do remember the exact circumstances when the ice broke that started the avalanche - but I don't celebrate it - remembering how awful it was for the year or two prior to that and that it was such a big waste of my time and life that once I moved on to better days it just got left behind and became a memory like the rest of my life

I divorced my husband and my best GF of 40 years since they were in it together and I'm at great peace now after getting away from all their drama
Sorry that happened. It is nice to know that you can finally find peace through it all. In the beginning, I used to feel hatred, but now when I reflect on it I feel calm and remember it as an experience to grow.
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But I am curious if any of you have celebrated ‘Breakup Anniversaries’ or would you celebrate it? If so, how did you celebrate it? What did you do? Did it help or hurt you by bringing significance to that day?


Good morning. I broke up w/my ex-bf ALMOST a year ago (26 Feb 16); five days shy of my birthday. I EVEN invited him to my bd party at the club; he showed up, I danced with a stranger I asked while waiting at the bar; came back, and found out a week later he had asked for my girlfriend's cell #; idiot gave it to him, and I was even MORE pissed than ever! 😡 That SEALED the nails on his coffin between he and I. Every month from then on, I counted the month(s) until it lead to the 9th month and I was like, "Geez, it's been that long! I could have had a baby (gestation; reversed) by now!". Well, in 17 days it's going to be a whole year!!! 😄 How am I going to celebrate it? Well, it seems the 26th of February is a BAD #/month for me since I also had the judge grant my divorce on the 26th of February and I will celebrate by going out to the club on the 25th and at the stroke of midnight I will toast a shot to BOTH my exes 🍹!!! "All my exes live in Texas". In my ears I keep hearing Adriana Grande, "I've got one less problem without out" 😱

🤗 Cyber hugs!

Love,

Eva





you too? so sorry, drink up and be "Mary" lol !
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But I am curious if any of you have celebrated ‘Breakup Anniversaries’ or would you celebrate it? If so, how did you celebrate it? What did you do? Did it help or hurt you by bringing significance to that day?


Good morning. I broke up w/my ex-bf ALMOST a year ago (26 Feb 16); five days shy of my birthday. I EVEN invited him to my bd party at the club; he showed up, I danced with a stranger I asked while waiting at the bar; came back, and found out a week later he had asked for my girlfriend's cell #; idiot gave it to him, and I was even MORE pissed than ever! 😡 That SEALED the nails on his coffin between he and I. Every month from then on, I counted the month(s) until it lead to the 9th month and I was like, "Geez, it's been that long! I could have had a baby (gestation; reversed) by now!". Well, in 17 days it's going to be a whole year!!! 😄 How am I going to celebrate it? Well, it seems the 26th of February is a BAD #/month for me since I also had the judge grant my divorce on the 26th of February and I will celebrate by going out to the club on the 25th and at the stroke of midnight I will toast a shot to BOTH my exes 🍹!!! "All my exes live in Texas". In my ears I keep hearing Adriana Grande, "I've got one less problem without out" 😱

🤗 Cyber hugs!

Love,

Eva



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I didn't realize it'd been a year till the day was almost over actually. This was back in January.

I didn't celebrate it. My ex is a good man, things just don't always work out. So celebrating him being gone would be disrespectful to him and the goodness we shared I think. But I did write in my journal all the wonderful and not so wonderful things I'd done with my year. And I wrote a post on dxp about how happy and at peace I felt with myself.
Do you still keep in touch with him? I understand that as there is one ex I still speak to, but it is now on a friendly level.

I also kept a journal. I used to write in it when I felt mixed emotions of rage and hurt. Then I used it to jot down all the positive things I did with my year and it helped me to really relax.
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But I am curious if any of you have celebrated ‘Breakup Anniversaries’ or would you celebrate it? If so, how did you celebrate it? What did you do? Did it help or hurt you by bringing significance to that day?


Good morning. I broke up w/my ex-bf ALMOST a year ago (26 Feb 16); five days shy of my birthday. I EVEN invited him to my bd party at the club; he showed up, I danced with a stranger I asked while waiting at the bar; came back, and found out a week later he had asked for my girlfriend's cell #; idiot gave it to him, and I was even MORE pissed than ever! 😡 That SEALED the nails on his coffin between he and I. Every month from then on, I counted the month(s) until it lead to the 9th month and I was like, "Geez, it's been that long! I could have had a baby (gestation; reversed) by now!". Well, in 17 days it's going to be a whole year!!! 😄 How am I going to celebrate it? Well, it seems the 26th of February is a BAD #/month for me since I also had the judge grant my divorce on the 26th of February and I will celebrate by going out to the club on the 25th and at the stroke of midnight I will toast a shot to BOTH my exes 🍹!!! "All my exes live in Texas". In my ears I keep hearing Adriana Grande, "I've got one less problem without out" 😱

🤗 Cyber hugs!

Love,

Eva


you too? so sorry, drink up and be "Mary" lol !
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LOL! Silly! 🍹 Cheers!

Cyber hugs! 🤗

Love,

Eva

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But I am curious if any of you have celebrated ‘Breakup Anniversaries’ or would you celebrate it? If so, how did you celebrate it? What did you do? Did it help or hurt you by bringing significance to that day?


Good morning. I broke up w/my ex-bf ALMOST a year ago (26 Feb 16); five days shy of my birthday. I EVEN invited him to my bd party at the club; he showed up, I danced with a stranger I asked while waiting at the bar; came back, and found out a week later he had asked for my girlfriend's cell #; idiot gave it to him, and I was even MORE pissed than ever! 😡 That SEALED the nails on his coffin between he and I. Every month from then on, I counted the month(s) until it lead to the 9th month and I was like, "Geez, it's been that long! I could have had a baby (gestation; reversed) by now!". Well, in 17 days it's going to be a whole year!!! 😄 How am I going to celebrate it? Well, it seems the 26th of February is a BAD #/month for me since I also had the judge grant my divorce on the 26th of February and I will celebrate by going out to the club on the 25th and at the stroke of midnight I will toast a shot to BOTH my exes 🍹!!! "All my exes live in Texas". In my ears I keep hearing Adriana Grande, "I've got one less problem without you" 😱

🤗 Cyber hugs!

Love,

Eva



Party the night away 🍹

Are you and your friend no longer friends or have you forgiven her?

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Sweet question. She and I are cool. He was the JERK to have asked her for her #. She told me this a week after my birthday party at another club I attend. I asked her, "Why didn't you tell me this that night at my party?". Her response, "I didn't want to spoil your night". Uh, huh! 😡

🤗 cyber hugs!

Love,

Eva
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But I am curious if any of you have celebrated ‘Breakup Anniversaries’ or would you celebrate it? If so, how did you celebrate it? What did you do? Did it help or hurt you by bringing significance to that day?


Good morning. I broke up w/my ex-bf ALMOST a year ago (26 Feb 16); five days shy of my birthday. I EVEN invited him to my bd party at the club; he showed up, I danced with a stranger I asked while waiting at the bar; came back, and found out a week later he had asked for my girlfriend's cell #; idiot gave it to him, and I was even MORE pissed than ever! 😡 That SEALED the nails on his coffin between he and I. Every month from then on, I counted the month(s) until it lead to the 9th month and I was like, "Geez, it's been that long! I could have had a baby (gestation; reversed) by now!". Well, in 17 days it's going to be a whole year!!! 😄 How am I going to celebrate it? Well, it seems the 26th of February is a BAD #/month for me since I also had the judge grant my divorce on the 26th of February and I will celebrate by going out to the club on the 25th and at the stroke of midnight I will toast a shot to BOTH my exes 🍹!!! "All my exes live in Texas". In my ears I keep hearing Adriana Grande, "I've got one less problem without you" 😱

🤗 Cyber hugs!

Love,

Eva



Party the night away 🍹

Are you and your friend no longer friends or have you forgiven her?


Sweet question. She and I are cool. He was the JERK to have asked her for her #. She told me this a week after my birthday party at another club I attend. I asked her, "Why didn't you tell me this that night at my party?". Her response, "I didn't want to spoil your night". Uh, huh! 😡

🤗 cyber hugs!

Love,

Eva
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But you said she gave him her number anyway so she is also in the wrong. Did they ever do anything? I believe in forgiveness, that is nice you two are on good terms again after that slip up.
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But I am curious if any of you have celebrated ‘Breakup Anniversaries’ or would you celebrate it? If so, how did you celebrate it? What did you do? Did it help or hurt you by bringing significance to that day?


Good morning. I broke up w/my ex-bf ALMOST a year ago (26 Feb 16); five days shy of my birthday. I EVEN invited him to my bd party at the club; he showed up, I danced with a stranger I asked while waiting at the bar; came back, and found out a week later he had asked for my girlfriend's cell #; idiot gave it to him, and I was even MORE pissed than ever! 😡 That SEALED the nails on his coffin between he and I. Every month from then on, I counted the month(s) until it lead to the 9th month and I was like, "Geez, it's been that long! I could have had a baby (gestation; reversed) by now!". Well, in 17 days it's going to be a whole year!!! 😄 How am I going to celebrate it? Well, it seems the 26th of February is a BAD #/month for me since I also had the judge grant my divorce on the 26th of February and I will celebrate by going out to the club on the 25th and at the stroke of midnight I will toast a shot to BOTH my exes 🍹!!! "All my exes live in Texas". In my ears I keep hearing Adriana Grande, "I've got one less problem without you" 😱

🤗 Cyber hugs!

Love,

Eva



Party the night away 🍹

Are you and your friend no longer friends or have you forgiven her?


Sweet question. She and I are cool. He was the JERK to have asked her for her #. She told me this a week after my birthday party at another club I attend. I asked her, "Why didn't you tell me this that night at my party?". Her response, "I didn't want to spoil your night". Uh, huh! 😡

🤗 cyber hugs!

Love,

Eva
But you said she gave him her number anyway so she is also in the wrong. Did they ever do anything? I believe in forgiveness, that is nice you two are on good terms again after that slip up.
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Yes, but Hon, my girlfriend Estella is Leo; she doesn't THINK before she does something. She could have EASILY put him in HIS place that night he asked for her number! I would have chewed him a new hole; but she isn't me. Estella is five years older than me (she's 55 yrs old) and I couldn't believe the ex Saggy would STOOP that LOW to ask a woman 10 years OLDER than he is for her #....he just couldn't do any better! It would have been best if he had asked a woman at the club to dance w/him; but he didn't. Instead, he saw my friend Estella as the escape goat...she fell for it! He lied to her (typical Saggy man), he told her, "I have a ranch with horses come over anytime". Well, LOL, he doesn't OWN a ranch (he's not even on the lease). He lives in a 1980s trailer with his ex-gf!!! 😱 I wasn't the jealous type as y'all have read by now and I'm sure Estella stopped by his trailer; he and his room mate have four to five dogs and they peed inside the trailer! First thing you SMELL is the odor of the pee!! Gross!!! Enough said. 😎

Cyber hugs! 🤗

Love,

Eva

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But I am curious if any of you have celebrated ‘Breakup Anniversaries’ or would you celebrate it? If so, how did you celebrate it? What did you do? Did it help or hurt you by bringing significance to that day?


Good morning. I broke up w/my ex-bf ALMOST a year ago (26 Feb 16); five days shy of my birthday. I EVEN invited him to my bd party at the club; he showed up, I danced with a stranger I asked while waiting at the bar; came back, and found out a week later he had asked for my girlfriend's cell #; idiot gave it to him, and I was even MORE pissed than ever! 😡 That SEALED the nails on his coffin between he and I. Every month from then on, I counted the month(s) until it lead to the 9th month and I was like, "Geez, it's been that long! I could have had a baby (gestation; reversed) by now!". Well, in 17 days it's going to be a whole year!!! 😄 How am I going to celebrate it? Well, it seems the 26th of February is a BAD #/month for me since I also had the judge grant my divorce on the 26th of February and I will celebrate by going out to the club on the 25th and at the stroke of midnight I will toast a shot to BOTH my exes 🍹!!! "All my exes live in Texas". In my ears I keep hearing Adriana Grande, "I've got one less problem without you" 😱

🤗 Cyber hugs!

Love,

Eva



Party the night away 🍹

Are you and your friend no longer friends or have you forgiven her?


Sweet question. She and I are cool. He was the JERK to have asked her for her #. She told me this a week after my birthday party at another club I attend. I asked her, "Why didn't you tell me this that night at my party?". Her response, "I didn't want to spoil your night". Uh, huh! 😡

🤗 cyber hugs!

Love,

Eva
But you said she gave him her number anyway so she is also in the wrong. Did they ever do anything? I believe in forgiveness, that is nice you two are on good terms again after that slip up.
Yes, but Hon, my girlfriend Estella is Leo; she doesn't THINK before she does something. She could have EASILY put him in HIS place that night he asked for her number! I would have chewed him a new hole; but she isn't me. Estella is five years older than me (she's 55 yrs old) and I couldn't believe the ex Saggy would STOOP that LOW to ask a woman 10 years OLDER than he is for her #....he just couldn't do any better! It would have been best if he had asked a woman at the club to dance w/him; but he didn't. Instead, he saw my friend Estella as the escape goat...she fell for it! He lied to her (typical Saggy man), he told her, "I have a ranch with horses come over anytime". Well, LOL, he doesn't OWN a ranch (he's not even on the lease). He lives in a 1980s trailer with his ex-gf!!! 😱 I wasn't the jealous type as y'all have read by now and I'm sure Estella stopped by his trailer; he and his room mate have four to five dogs and they peed inside the trailer! First thing you SMELL is the odor of the pee!! Gross!!! Enough said. 😎

Cyber hugs! 🤗

Love,

Eva

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He sounds desperate...At least you found a new beau who treats you well. I wish you luck 🙂
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That seems very morbid and self-flagellating but I can relate in spirit. Good luck with however you choose to handle it, sincerely.
Thank you. I handled it by not doing anything. The memory jog is me reflecting on how I felt then a few months after the break up when it was fresh and felt at the time it would be a big 'F you' to him to now where I no longer feel the same and my mind is more at peace. The break up didn't end on good terms, but I wondered if people in similar situations would go through with it and why.
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That seems very morbid and self-flagellating but I can relate in spirit. Good luck with however you choose to handle it, sincerely.
Thank you. I handled it by not doing anything. The memory jog is me reflecting on how I felt then a few months after the break up when it was fresh and felt at the time it would be a big 'F you' to him to now where I no longer feel the same and my mind is more at peace. The break up didn't end on good terms, but I wondered if people in similar situations would go through with it and why.


I would picture her having sex with someone else and get off to that, so that's as masochistic as it comes really. But I dunno about making an anniversary out of it :\

The most I can think of in terms of rituals is listening to Usher in the car on full blast, in all seriousness.

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How can someone remember date of their breakups? I can't even remember birth date of my gf :X
I hope you're trolling on the gf birth date part...

If you truly care for someone, dates mean significance. A prime example would be getting a divorce. Since you can't remember any of your break ups with your exes then they must not have been as special to you.
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How can someone remember date of their breakups? I can't even remember birth date of my gf :X
I hope you're trolling on the gf birth date part...

If you truly care for someone, dates mean significance. A prime example would be getting a divorce. Since you can't remember any of your break ups with your exes then they must not have been as special to you.
Just trolling my friend 🙂

I can not forget Anything, even if i want to...
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Thanks for being truthful lol. How have you normally dealt with your break ups?
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February 5th marked the date I walked out on my ex. But to me, it was Superbowl Sunday and I was too busy with a friend preparing and hosting our first SB party which turned out to be a hit, accompanied by delicious food and great company. It has been one year since then and that moment never crossed my mind until today. I recall some months ago wanting to do something big on that day. Have a Breakup Anniversary to celebrate a year of not having him in my life like go on a trip, a get-away, or explore another city. I realized how I no longer have that want because the year itself was a celebration of the positive moments in my life and how I was able to forget about that day for a brief time to enjoy it.

But I am curious if any of you have celebrated ‘Breakup Anniversaries’ or would you celebrate it? If so, how did you celebrate it? What did you do? Did it help or hurt you by bringing significance to that day?


nah - I do remember the exact circumstances when the ice broke that started the avalanche - but I don't celebrate it - remembering how awful it was for the year or two prior to that and that it was such a big waste of my time and life that once I moved on to better days it just got left behind and became a memory like the rest of my life

I divorced my husband and my best GF of 40 years since they were in it together and I'm at great peace now after getting away from all their drama
You too? At least mine had only been a "friend" for 9 years... I felt more betrayed by her than him. It took time to get over but getting your peace of mind and soul back is priceless!

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