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Posted by ConsiderableMyth
So at this point with all of y’alls feedback... it sounds like I should give the guy a couple more dates? To see if maybe he opens up? Then if not, I let him down easy and go back to square one? Lmfao... SQUARE one. He’s a square one. So square. So. Boring.Before I go Gordon Ramsey, let's take a moment to observe the fact that this guy is not here to defend himself and the fact that everything in this thread has simply revealed more about YOU than this nice vanilla basic guy your castigating and throwing shade at ...
With all that said ... You're the bloody fuckin' bore in the equation! >😢
Boring the entire universe with your negativity and sense of entitlement when it comes to relationships. You're falsely projecting your boredom onto him only to turn around and blame him for not being the tumultuous walking and talking episode of Jerry Springer / Fear Factor every waking moment of every common mundane day. As opposed to looking dead into the nearest mirror, owning the fuck up, and saying that famous line from the movie "White Man Can't Jump" that Gloria had to lay on her self-defeating Billy: "YOU HAPPENED AGAIN! THERE IS NO 'IT'!
He's a human fucking being. Not a blunt. Not a joint. Not a line of coke. Not a rock of crack. Not a needle full of H. Human. Fucking. Being. He's not your entertainment. Love and entertainment are two different things, and you've already demonstrated your capacity to make you own fun at the damn casino. And yet you treat this basic vanilla human being like a casino coin or cigarette -- i.e. and object. An object you first idealize, devalue, and then discard after having hotboxed his punk ass down to the butt. All because of the busted and broken shit, expectations, and fantasies you've heaped on him instead of looking at yourself. Because too many people have a really bad habit of putting conditions on their happiness and couching them as "red flags" and "deal breakers" as a coping mechanism. They sit around on their sorry wretched homebody hermit asses all mopey and pissy and say to themselves, "I'll never be happy until ..." and that ellipses -- those three friggin dots -- are all the vain, shallow, arbitrary, self-sabotaging, and self-defeating conditions people often put on their happiness only to turn around bitching that it's somebody or something else's fault for their station and lot in life ...
Bullshit.
The biggest irony of all is such people have no shortage of friends who help reinforce these destructive behaviors by saying, "Move on. Life's too short to settle!" when the truth is they've already settled for what they deserve: four fucking walls. Like the infamous lyrics to a popular Rush song: "If you choose not to decide, you still have made a choice!" Having free will and freedom of choice does not mean freedom from consequences. As a result, you have actively chosen to settle for four fucking walls because your expectations are divorced from reality. Plus, what comes around goes around. If you're gonna treat other human beings as disposable, you have no right to bitch, piss, moan, whine, and complain when -- not if , when -- you yourself become the abandoned and the disposed of ...
You should stop seeing this guy.
Not because "he's so basic /vanilla / boring"
Because your inner monster already chewed him up and spat him back out.
He deserves a hell of a lot better ... even if it's ... no, especially ... if it's four fucking walls, too.
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I appreciate your input, but in all fairness... I did say he was great to begin with. I’m not blind to his good qualities, but in also not feeling the vibe.
And, yeah I’m sure I’m boring to some people. Never claimed to be the face of excitement. What makes me get up and get excited in the morning is not what makes him excited. That’s subjective. My original post was pretty raw and black and white. Never tried to bash the guy, but he is boring to me.
Posted by Fantum
I noticed a pattern in my 20s. I kept dating guys who were so messy I could focus on their issues instead of my own. Can you relate?
wow that is interestingly true. lol
this went on until my mid 20s.
like i was ignoring my own issues.
1st husband and the 2nd ex.
from my teens to early 20s.
Posted by ConsiderableMyth
I’ve been on a few dates with this guy that’s 6 years younger than me. He’s great, truly. Really mature for his age, good job, sociable, long-term potential... but he’s so vanilla. I’m not saying I want some gang banger with tattoos and a drug problem, but where’s the excitement? What is it about me that needs someone to be exciting? Why can’t I be satisfied with the “safe” choice?
someone really messy and bad ass?
who is not a boring stay at home guy and reads newspapers and has boring projects?
someone is going out there, buying weed or drugs and taking it home and coming home with bad ass tattoos on his butt and surprises you with a trip to the Carribeans,
and not booked any hotel rooms,
but backpacking is his IDEAL traveling, roughing it out and enjoy the beach and sand and eating food from what you catch in the ocean?
basically...unstable men. lol
Posted by ConsiderableMyth
I’ve been on a few dates with this guy that’s 6 years younger than me. He’s great, truly. Really mature for his age, good job, sociable, long-term potential... but he’s so vanilla. I’m not saying I want some gang banger with tattoos and a drug problem, but where’s the excitement? What is it about me that needs someone to be exciting? Why can’t I be satisfied with the “safe” choice?someone really messy and bad ass?
who is not a boring stay at home guy and reads newspapers and has boring projects?
someone is going out there, buying weed or drugs and taking it home and coming home with bad ass tattoos on his butt and surprises you with a trip to the Carribeans,
and not booked any hotel rooms,
but backpacking is his IDEAL traveling, roughing it out and enjoy the beach and sand and eating food from what you catch in the ocean?
basically...unstable men. lol
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Lmfaooo... im fully outfitted for a few months backpacking. Hahaha! I don’t know about the “messy” part though. Emotionally, I need them to be put together. I don’t like clingy people or people that change their personality on me.
Posted by ConsiderableMyth
So at this point with all of y’alls feedback... it sounds like I should give the guy a couple more dates? To see if maybe he opens up? Then if not, I let him down easy and go back to square one? Lmfao... SQUARE one. He’s a square one. So square. So. Boring.Before I go Gordon Ramsey, let's take a moment to observe the fact that this guy is not here to defend himself and the fact that everything in this thread has simply revealed more about YOU than this nice vanilla basic guy your castigating and throwing shade at ...
With all that said ... You're the bloody fuckin' bore in the equation! >😢
Boring the entire universe with your negativity and sense of entitlement when it comes to relationships. You're falsely projecting your boredom onto him only to turn around and blame him for not being the tumultuous walking and talking episode of Jerry Springer / Fear Factor every waking moment of every common mundane day. As opposed to looking dead into the nearest mirror, owning the fuck up, and saying that famous line from the movie "White Man Can't Jump" that Gloria had to lay on her self-defeating Billy: "YOU HAPPENED AGAIN! THERE IS NO 'IT'!
He's a human fucking being. Not a blunt. Not a joint. Not a line of coke. Not a rock of crack. Not a needle full of H. Human. Fucking. Being. He's not your entertainment. Love and entertainment are two different things, and you've already demonstrated your capacity to make you own fun at the damn casino. And yet you treat this basic vanilla human being like a casino coin or cigarette -- i.e. and object. An object you first idealize, devalue, and then discard after having hotboxed his punk ass down to the butt. All because of the busted and broken shit, expectations, and fantasies you've heaped on him instead of looking at yourself. Because too many people have a really bad habit of putting conditions on their happiness and couching them as "red flags" and "deal breakers" as a coping mechanism. They sit around on their sorry wretched homebody hermit asses all mopey and pissy and say to themselves, "I'll never be happy until ..." and that ellipses -- those three friggin dots -- are all the vain, shallow, arbitrary, self-sabotaging, and self-defeating conditions people often put on their happiness only to turn around bitching that it's somebody or something else's fault for their station and lot in life ...
Bullshit.
The biggest irony of all is such people have no shortage of friends who help reinforce these destructive behaviors by saying, "Move on. Life's too short to settle!" when the truth is they've already settled for what they deserve: four fucking walls. Like the infamous lyrics to a popular Rush song: "If you choose not to decide, you still have made a choice!" Having free will and freedom of choice does not mean freedom from consequences. As a result, you have actively chosen to settle for four fucking walls because your expectations are divorced from reality. Plus, what comes around goes around. If you're gonna treat other human beings as disposable, you have no right to bitch, piss, moan, whine, and complain when -- not if , when -- you yourself become the abandoned and the disposed of ...
You should stop seeing this guy.
Not because "he's so basic /vanilla / boring"
Because your inner monster already chewed him up and spat him back out.
He deserves a hell of a lot better ... even if it's ... no, especially ... if it's four fucking walls, too.
I appreciate your input, but in all fairness... I did say he was great to begin with. I’m not blind to his good qualities, but in also not feeling the vibe.
Fair enough, but go to astro.com and post your full chart. Scorpio Venus is just one piece of the puzzle. We don't know where your other placements fall. We do know that Scorpio Venus prefers having control and power, and there is no knowledge that is not power.
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Will do!
I appreciate your input, but in all fairness... I did say he was great to begin with. I’m not blind to his good qualities, but in also not feeling the vibe.
Then say you aren't feeling the vibe, you are turning it into this guy is too plain, to vanilla, too boring.
Y'all have been on a handful of dates and you are already sabotaging a relationship that hasn't happened lol I don't understand this type of thinking.
It's simple, people click or they don't. Sounds like you guys don't
Posted by ConsiderableMyth
So at this point with all of y’alls feedback... it sounds like I should give the guy a couple more dates? To see if maybe he opens up? Then if not, I let him down easy and go back to square one? Lmfao... SQUARE one. He’s a square one. So square. So. Boring.Before I go Gordon Ramsey, let's take a moment to observe the fact that this guy is not here to defend himself and the fact that everything in this thread has simply revealed more about YOU than this nice vanilla basic guy your castigating and throwing shade at ...
With all that said ... You're the bloody fuckin' bore in the equation! >😢
Boring the entire universe with your negativity and sense of entitlement when it comes to relationships. You're falsely projecting your boredom onto him only to turn around and blame him for not being the tumultuous walking and talking episode of Jerry Springer / Fear Factor every waking moment of every common mundane day. As opposed to looking dead into the nearest mirror, owning the fuck up, and saying that famous line from the movie "White Man Can't Jump" that Gloria had to lay on her self-defeating Billy: "YOU HAPPENED AGAIN! THERE IS NO 'IT'!
He's a human fucking being. Not a blunt. Not a joint. Not a line of coke. Not a rock of crack. Not a needle full of H. Human. Fucking. Being. He's not your entertainment. Love and entertainment are two different things, and you've already demonstrated your capacity to make you own fun at the damn casino. And yet you treat this basic vanilla human being like a casino coin or cigarette -- i.e. and object. An object you first idealize, devalue, and then discard after having hotboxed his punk ass down to the butt. All because of the busted and broken shit, expectations, and fantasies you've heaped on him instead of looking at yourself. Because too many people have a really bad habit of putting conditions on their happiness and couching them as "red flags" and "deal breakers" as a coping mechanism. They sit around on their sorry wretched homebody hermit asses all mopey and pissy and say to themselves, "I'll never be happy until ..." and that ellipses -- those three friggin dots -- are all the vain, shallow, arbitrary, self-sabotaging, and self-defeating conditions people often put on their happiness only to turn around bitching that it's somebody or something else's fault for their station and lot in life ...
Bullshit.
The biggest irony of all is such people have no shortage of friends who help reinforce these destructive behaviors by saying, "Move on. Life's too short to settle!" when the truth is they've already settled for what they deserve: four fucking walls. Like the infamous lyrics to a popular Rush song: "If you choose not to decide, you still have made a choice!" Having free will and freedom of choice does not mean freedom from consequences. As a result, you have actively chosen to settle for four fucking walls because your expectations are divorced from reality. Plus, what comes around goes around. If you're gonna treat other human beings as disposable, you have no right to bitch, piss, moan, whine, and complain when -- not if , when -- you yourself become the abandoned and the disposed of ...
You should stop seeing this guy.
Not because "he's so basic /vanilla / boring"
Because your inner monster already chewed him up and spat him back out.
He deserves a hell of a lot better ... even if it's ... no, especially ... if it's four fucking walls, too.
I appreciate your input, but in all fairness... I did say he was great to begin with. I’m not blind to his good qualities, but in also not feeling the vibe.
Fair enough, but go to astro.com and post your full chart. Scorpio Venus is just one piece of the puzzle. We don't know where your other placements fall. We do know that Scorpio Venus prefers having control and power, and there is no knowledge that is not power.
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Here ya go...
Sun - Libra
Moon - Leo
Mercury - Libra
Venus - Scorpio
Mars - Capricorn
Jupiter - Pisces
Saturn - Sagittarius
Uranus - Sagittarius
Neptune - Capricorn
Pluto - Scorpio
Lilith - Gemini
Posted by Sn1p3r187
The fuck is vanilla people—?
dxp user
Posted by ConsiderableMyth
So at this point with all of y’alls feedback... it sounds like I should give the guy a couple more dates? To see if maybe he opens up? Then if not, I let him down easy and go back to square one? Lmfao... SQUARE one. He’s a square one. So square. So. Boring.Before I go Gordon Ramsey, let's take a moment to observe the fact that this guy is not here to defend himself and the fact that everything in this thread has simply revealed more about YOU than this nice vanilla basic guy your castigating and throwing shade at ...
With all that said ... You're the bloody fuckin' bore in the equation! >😢
Boring the entire universe with your negativity and sense of entitlement when it comes to relationships. You're falsely projecting your boredom onto him only to turn around and blame him for not being the tumultuous walking and talking episode of Jerry Springer / Fear Factor every waking moment of every common mundane day. As opposed to looking dead into the nearest mirror, owning the fuck up, and saying that famous line from the movie "White Man Can't Jump" that Gloria had to lay on her self-defeating Billy: "YOU HAPPENED AGAIN! THERE IS NO 'IT'!
He's a human fucking being. Not a blunt. Not a joint. Not a line of coke. Not a rock of crack. Not a needle full of H. Human. Fucking. Being. He's not your entertainment. Love and entertainment are two different things, and you've already demonstrated your capacity to make you own fun at the damn casino. And yet you treat this basic vanilla human being like a casino coin or cigarette -- i.e. and object. An object you first idealize, devalue, and then discard after having hotboxed his punk ass down to the butt. All because of the busted and broken shit, expectations, and fantasies you've heaped on him instead of looking at yourself. Because too many people have a really bad habit of putting conditions on their happiness and couching them as "red flags" and "deal breakers" as a coping mechanism. They sit around on their sorry wretched homebody hermit asses all mopey and pissy and say to themselves, "I'll never be happy until ..." and that ellipses -- those three friggin dots -- are all the vain, shallow, arbitrary, self-sabotaging, and self-defeating conditions people often put on their happiness only to turn around bitching that it's somebody or something else's fault for their station and lot in life ...
Bullshit.
The biggest irony of all is such people have no shortage of friends who help reinforce these destructive behaviors by saying, "Move on. Life's too short to settle!" when the truth is they've already settled for what they deserve: four fucking walls. Like the infamous lyrics to a popular Rush song: "If you choose not to decide, you still have made a choice!" Having free will and freedom of choice does not mean freedom from consequences. As a result, you have actively chosen to settle for four fucking walls because your expectations are divorced from reality. Plus, what comes around goes around. If you're gonna treat other human beings as disposable, you have no right to bitch, piss, moan, whine, and complain when -- not if , when -- you yourself become the abandoned and the disposed of ...
You should stop seeing this guy.
Not because "he's so basic /vanilla / boring"
Because your inner monster already chewed him up and spat him back out.
He deserves a hell of a lot better ... even if it's ... no, especially ... if it's four fucking walls, too.
I appreciate your input, but in all fairness... I did say he was great to begin with. I’m not blind to his good qualities, but in also not feeling the vibe.
Fair enough, but go to astro.com and post your full chart. Scorpio Venus is just one piece of the puzzle. We don't know where your other placements fall. We do know that Scorpio Venus prefers having control and power, and there is no knowledge that is not power.
Here ya go...
Sun - Libra
Moon - Leo
Mercury - Libra
Venus - Scorpio
Mars - Capricorn
Jupiter - Pisces
Saturn - Sagittarius
Uranus - Sagittarius
Neptune - Capricorn
Pluto - Scorpio
Lilith - Gemini
Need the circle birth chart. That list won't say too much really
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How do I post a picture here?
Posted by ConsiderableMyth
So at this point with all of y’alls feedback... it sounds like I should give the guy a couple more dates? To see if maybe he opens up? Then if not, I let him down easy and go back to square one? Lmfao... SQUARE one. He’s a square one. So square. So. Boring.Before I go Gordon Ramsey, let's take a moment to observe the fact that this guy is not here to defend himself and the fact that everything in this thread has simply revealed more about YOU than this nice vanilla basic guy your castigating and throwing shade at ...
With all that said ... You're the bloody fuckin' bore in the equation! >😢
Boring the entire universe with your negativity and sense of entitlement when it comes to relationships. You're falsely projecting your boredom onto him only to turn around and blame him for not being the tumultuous walking and talking episode of Jerry Springer / Fear Factor every waking moment of every common mundane day. As opposed to looking dead into the nearest mirror, owning the fuck up, and saying that famous line from the movie "White Man Can't Jump" that Gloria had to lay on her self-defeating Billy: "YOU HAPPENED AGAIN! THERE IS NO 'IT'!
He's a human fucking being. Not a blunt. Not a joint. Not a line of coke. Not a rock of crack. Not a needle full of H. Human. Fucking. Being. He's not your entertainment. Love and entertainment are two different things, and you've already demonstrated your capacity to make you own fun at the damn casino. And yet you treat this basic vanilla human being like a casino coin or cigarette -- i.e. and object. An object you first idealize, devalue, and then discard after having hotboxed his punk ass down to the butt. All because of the busted and broken shit, expectations, and fantasies you've heaped on him instead of looking at yourself. Because too many people have a really bad habit of putting conditions on their happiness and couching them as "red flags" and "deal breakers" as a coping mechanism. They sit around on their sorry wretched homebody hermit asses all mopey and pissy and say to themselves, "I'll never be happy until ..." and that ellipses -- those three friggin dots -- are all the vain, shallow, arbitrary, self-sabotaging, and self-defeating conditions people often put on their happiness only to turn around bitching that it's somebody or something else's fault for their station and lot in life ...
Bullshit.
The biggest irony of all is such people have no shortage of friends who help reinforce these destructive behaviors by saying, "Move on. Life's too short to settle!" when the truth is they've already settled for what they deserve: four fucking walls. Like the infamous lyrics to a popular Rush song: "If you choose not to decide, you still have made a choice!" Having free will and freedom of choice does not mean freedom from consequences. As a result, you have actively chosen to settle for four fucking walls because your expectations are divorced from reality. Plus, what comes around goes around. If you're gonna treat other human beings as disposable, you have no right to bitch, piss, moan, whine, and complain when -- not if , when -- you yourself become the abandoned and the disposed of ...
You should stop seeing this guy.
Not because "he's so basic /vanilla / boring"
Because your inner monster already chewed him up and spat him back out.
He deserves a hell of a lot better ... even if it's ... no, especially ... if it's four fucking walls, too.
I appreciate your input, but in all fairness... I did say he was great to begin with. I’m not blind to his good qualities, but in also not feeling the vibe.
Fair enough, but go to astro.com and post your full chart. Scorpio Venus is just one piece of the puzzle. We don't know where your other placements fall. We do know that Scorpio Venus prefers having control and power, and there is no knowledge that is not power.
Here ya go...
Sun - Libra
Moon - Leo
Mercury - Libra
Venus - Scorpio
Mars - Capricorn
Jupiter - Pisces
Saturn - Sagittarius
Uranus - Sagittarius
Neptune - Capricorn
Pluto - Scorpio
Lilith - Gemini
Need the circle birth chart. That list won't say too much really
How do I post a picture here?
I use tinypic.com
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Posted by Sn1p3r187
The fuck is vanilla people—?dxp user
taurus board
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I probably haven't even been there in all of 2018, actually not even in most astro boards. Shame on me. 😢
Posted by nano
Also, having read through the rest of this thread, lol, I wouldn't take what people here are saying too seriously.They are quick to attack. But you are actually allowed to have a type and if you feel that he is too boring, then you are entitled to your feelings to feel that way.
The thing is that so many people on dxp have been single for years and years. Sexless and romanceless life. So your description and opinion on this man and apparently - your OPTIONS, trigger them because they want that so badly - the description of this man. And options lol.
Some people are just incompatible and you can wait it out to see if that is the case before you say bye bye. And you should be able to do so without judgement.
It sucks for both him and I. I was so excited because we have a lot of the same interests. I want to feel something, it just won’t happen
Posted by ConsiderableMyth
So at this point with all of y’alls feedback... it sounds like I should give the guy a couple more dates? To see if maybe he opens up? Then if not, I let him down easy and go back to square one? Lmfao... SQUARE one. He’s a square one. So square. So. Boring.Before I go Gordon Ramsey, let's take a moment to observe the fact that this guy is not here to defend himself and the fact that everything in this thread has simply revealed more about YOU than this nice vanilla basic guy your castigating and throwing shade at ...
With all that said ... You're the bloody fuckin' bore in the equation! >😢
Boring the entire universe with your negativity and sense of entitlement when it comes to relationships. You're falsely projecting your boredom onto him only to turn around and blame him for not being the tumultuous walking and talking episode of Jerry Springer / Fear Factor every waking moment of every common mundane day. As opposed to looking dead into the nearest mirror, owning the fuck up, and saying that famous line from the movie "White Man Can't Jump" that Gloria had to lay on her self-defeating Billy: "YOU HAPPENED AGAIN! THERE IS NO 'IT'!
He's a human fucking being. Not a blunt. Not a joint. Not a line of coke. Not a rock of crack. Not a needle full of H. Human. Fucking. Being. He's not your entertainment. Love and entertainment are two different things, and you've already demonstrated your capacity to make you own fun at the damn casino. And yet you treat this basic vanilla human being like a casino coin or cigarette -- i.e. and object. An object you first idealize, devalue, and then discard after having hotboxed his punk ass down to the butt. All because of the busted and broken shit, expectations, and fantasies you've heaped on him instead of looking at yourself. Because too many people have a really bad habit of putting conditions on their happiness and couching them as "red flags" and "deal breakers" as a coping mechanism. They sit around on their sorry wretched homebody hermit asses all mopey and pissy and say to themselves, "I'll never be happy until ..." and that ellipses -- those three friggin dots -- are all the vain, shallow, arbitrary, self-sabotaging, and self-defeating conditions people often put on their happiness only to turn around bitching that it's somebody or something else's fault for their station and lot in life ...
Bullshit.
The biggest irony of all is such people have no shortage of friends who help reinforce these destructive behaviors by saying, "Move on. Life's too short to settle!" when the truth is they've already settled for what they deserve: four fucking walls. Like the infamous lyrics to a popular Rush song: "If you choose not to decide, you still have made a choice!" Having free will and freedom of choice does not mean freedom from consequences. As a result, you have actively chosen to settle for four fucking walls because your expectations are divorced from reality. Plus, what comes around goes around. If you're gonna treat other human beings as disposable, you have no right to bitch, piss, moan, whine, and complain when -- not if , when -- you yourself become the abandoned and the disposed of ...
You should stop seeing this guy.
Not because "he's so basic /vanilla / boring"
Because your inner monster already chewed him up and spat him back out.
He deserves a hell of a lot better ... even if it's ... no, especially ... if it's four fucking walls, too.
I appreciate your input, but in all fairness... I did say he was great to begin with. I’m not blind to his good qualities, but in also not feeling the vibe.
Fair enough, but go to astro.com and post your full chart. Scorpio Venus is just one piece of the puzzle. We don't know where your other placements fall. We do know that Scorpio Venus prefers having control and power, and there is no knowledge that is not power.
Here ya go...
Sun - Libra
Moon - Leo
Mercury - Libra
Venus - Scorpio
Mars - Capricorn
Jupiter - Pisces
Saturn - Sagittarius
Uranus - Sagittarius
Neptune - Capricorn
Pluto - Scorpio
Lilith - Gemini
Hahaah, Leo Moon. If the lad has a water or earth based moon, it's no wonder you don't have a spark. You'll need someone with a fire or air based moon to fan the flames of your Leo Moon. Your Cap Mars and Scorpio Venus though is pretty intense and complimentary combo. The right person is in for a treat ... 🙂
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This chart is for the ONE person I’ve ever truly loved. Makes sense now.
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Unvarnished.
Have a feeling it will go unheeded, but this type of advice needs to be given more often.
The bolded part-they don't always need friends. You can read through some of the "advice" given to postings here from people with serious flaws who also don't take time to look in the mirror.