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Posted by mzmee
I've never seen this side of him.Probably because it's not real.
Do you REALLY think this situation is any different from
any other garden-variety, divorce-then-marry-the-sidepiece
situation?
It isn't... it's an illusion.
And it's only a matter of time before he starts cheating on her.
Because THAT
is
what
he
does.
He's the same piece of shit you divorced.
But wait till she finds out. lol
Trust me on this.
I honestly hope he grows the hell up. I hoped he finally becomes a man. Just sucks that he wasn't willing to be the man for me.
I hope my eyes weren't deceiving me. Because he looks genuinely in love. He held on to her. Even when he was still with me and cried about how and what he felt for me.
He planned a whole wedding during our proceedings.
I wonder how she agreed to a wedding date while the divorce was still being finalized. Did you know well ahead the day of divorce?
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They let us know ahead of time when it was supposed to be the day of dissolution after the last mediation. I told him ahead of time I wanted it to be amicable and painless, to not draw it out to be long and messy.
She didn't care as long as she got him. So that's that.
Posted by mzmee
Focusing is hard right now. All I can think about is what is it that I've done wrong? And if I did anything wrong, why didn't he address it with me instead of going somewhere else? Was she that much better than me?I've had to unfriend a lot of people on fb because they filmed their nuptials and he seemed so in love with her. I've never seen this side of him.
It's not about better but maybe different type of connection
What are all of your signs?
Me sag
Him scorp
Her leo
That's not going to work lol.
What his moon
Scorp sun Leo moon Venus scorp
Sag sun sag moon Venus cap
Leo sun sag moon cancer venus
Leo women are #2 on the list for Scorp male for longterm marriage. They both have venus in water so the romantic chemistry is intense. And his moon conjucts her sun which means a magnetic attraction, so he feels he has met his soul mate. And two fixed signs to boot. Sorry Saggy looks like this will be a long marriage.
My Sag moon feels your pain.
The right guy will find you.
And his family will be there for you because they will know you belong with them.
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The length of their marriage doesn't bother me. I'm just messed up at how it was done. I knew what they had was stronger than what we had just from what I overheard when I caught him talking to her.
Posted by Arielle83
Did she have orange hair in her wedding gown?
Lol. Nope. She was actually stunning.
Posted by mzmee
I've never seen this side of him.Probably because it's not real.
Do you REALLY think this situation is any different from
any other garden-variety, divorce-then-marry-the-sidepiece
situation?
It isn't... it's an illusion.
And it's only a matter of time before he starts cheating on her.
Because THAT
is
what
he
does.
He's the same piece of shit you divorced.
But wait till she finds out. lol
Trust me on this.
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Amen. ......... warm hugs.
Posted by Arielle83
He's guna get bored and cheat on her.He's prob one of those love addicts.
Needs a rush. When he gets comfy he moves onto the next rush.
I doubt it. He told his family that she's all he needs in a woman and that he has no need to stray with her.
I guess I wasn't doing my job.
Posted by mzmee
Focusing is hard right now. All I can think about is what is it that I've done wrong? And if I did anything wrong, why didn't he address it with me instead of going somewhere else? Was she that much better than me?I've had to unfriend a lot of people on fb because they filmed their nuptials and he seemed so in love with her. I've never seen this side of him.
This is what scorpio does... It's their ultimate revenge 😢
Posted by mzmee
Focusing is hard right now. All I can think about is what is it that I've done wrong? And if I did anything wrong, why didn't he address it with me instead of going somewhere else? Was she that much better than me?I've had to unfriend a lot of people on fb because they filmed their nuptials and he seemed so in love with her. I've never seen this side of him.
This is what scorpio does... It's their ultimate revenge 😢
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Revenge for what? Him getting caught? I don't get it.
Posted by halalbabe
You're too cute for this mess.For once, I don't feel so cute.
Nothing will change your feelings right now. Not even the fact that they are astrologically incompatible.
You'll have to sit this one through.
Just Don't lurk through unnecessary stuff and end up with even more hurt feelings. There's clarity in allowing the waves to run their course.
I want him to be happy. I just wish I didn't feel so....expendable—
Like he threw me away. I just want to feel like I matter. I want this feeling to go away.
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That is exactly how I feel right now by my scorpio. Lied to, deceived, thrown away. it's what they do... 😢
Posted by Arielle83
What's he going to do about his baby with you?
He's taking care of him. He was in the wedding. I had no clue until I saw the videos.
Posted by Arielle83
What's he going to do about his baby with you?He's taking care of him. He was in the wedding. I had no clue until I saw the videos.
But u have custody?
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50/50
Posted by DivaCanLeo
That sounds dirty as hell. Who marries that quickly. He never loved you. Also he had side chicks.You're feeling low because it was so easy for him to move on, but he's just a pig.
Just love yourself and heal.
Right this was like spiteful
Trust this new isn't any better then you
She's lame for not even seeing the red flags
She says it doesn't matter to her because he put her first. She knew everything about me. When I wasn't my best, the high points in my life, all that I shared with him, which is what is supposed to happen with your spouse, she knew about. And she made sure to tell me about all she knew. That's what made me pull the trigger.
Why should you be privy to my highs and lows when all you're going to do is make fun of them over pillow talk instead of cherish them?
I felt like I was tolerated. I want to feel appreciated.
So he shared intimate details. I would never want someone to talk about my personal stuff like that. I think he's lucky he got away with not dealing with a crazy person who would have ran him over.
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My scorpio did the same to me... the other woman thought I am some crazy person... while he was begging to sleep with me and have another chance and was swearing he never touched another woman... they have no spine... sadists. I don't get it 😢
Posted by mzmee
Focusing is hard right now. All I can think about is what is it that I've done wrong? And if I did anything wrong, why didn't he address it with me instead of going somewhere else? Was she that much better than me?I've had to unfriend a lot of people on fb because they filmed their nuptials and he seemed so in love with her. I've never seen this side of him.
This is what scorpio does... It's their ultimate revenge 😢
Revenge for what? Him getting caught? I don't get it.
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In their twisted lies, no matter how faithful, beautiful or patient we are, we deserve what we are getting. In their minds, scorpio is never to blame. "We did something at some point that caused them to cheat" Selfish... 😢
Posted by halalbabe
You're too cute for this mess.For once, I don't feel so cute.
Nothing will change your feelings right now. Not even the fact that they are astrologically incompatible.
You'll have to sit this one through.
Just Don't lurk through unnecessary stuff and end up with even more hurt feelings. There's clarity in allowing the waves to run their course.
I want him to be happy. I just wish I didn't feel so....expendable—
Like he threw me away. I just want to feel like I matter. I want this feeling to go away.
That is exactly how I feel right now by my scorpio. Lied to, deceived, thrown away. it's what they do... 😢
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Sometimes i feel its safe to be with those who do not have insatiable minds
Posted by mzmee
Focusing is hard right now. All I can think about is what is it that I've done wrong? And if I did anything wrong, why didn't he address it with me instead of going somewhere else? Was she that much better than me?I've had to unfriend a lot of people on fb because they filmed their nuptials and he seemed so in love with her. I've never seen this side of him.
This is what scorpio does... It's their ultimate revenge 😢
Omg hello Arielle.
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Hello, sweetheart.
Posted by Arielle83
I think she's right that this is what scorpios doAs in if they can find greater love then they don't care who they hurt. It's about power.
Exactly.
Posted by mzmee
Focusing is hard right now. All I can think about is what is it that I've done wrong? And if I did anything wrong, why didn't he address it with me instead of going somewhere else? Was she that much better than me?I've had to unfriend a lot of people on fb because they filmed their nuptials and he seemed so in love with her. I've never seen this side of him.
This is what scorpio does... It's their ultimate revenge 😢
Omg hello Arielle.
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Ahh, double Arielle 🙂
Posted by mzmee
Focusing is hard right now. All I can think about is what is it that I've done wrong? And if I did anything wrong, why didn't he address it with me instead of going somewhere else? Was she that much better than me?I've had to unfriend a lot of people on fb because they filmed their nuptials and he seemed so in love with her. I've never seen this side of him.
This is what scorpio does... It's their ultimate revenge 😢
Revenge for what? Him getting caught? I don't get it.
In their twisted lies, no matter how faithful, beautiful or patient we are, we deserve what we are getting. In their minds, scorpio is never to blame. "We did something at some point that caused them to cheat" Selfish... 😢
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I had mentioned about a close friend and her husband in a shitty marriage...just couple of post back in the same thread . The guy is a scorpio . And she(aries) is the most loyal , so much in love dedicated partner. Even now (whats wrong with her)
And yes in their mind they are never to be blamed
1. All I can think about is what is it that I've done wrong?
2. Was she that much better than me?
3. I've had to unfriend a lot of people on fb because they filmed their nuptials
4. he seemed so in love with her. I've never seen this side of him.
1. It's not what you did wrong, it's what you are currently doing wrong. for example, see #3. The mature thing to do is to want him to be happy. Just because he doesn't want you, doesn't mean you should prompt people in here to attack his character and say bad things about him. For the fact that you would let people do that and encourage people to do that ...... is what you are doing that is so wrong.
2. of course she is better than you .. in his eyes/mind. What kind of stupid question is that? If you were the better one (according to him) then you would be the one to have - see #4 This doesn't sound like true human care and compassion to me .. it sounds like pure ego on your part. You divorced him for a reason, but, here you are letting your ego dictate to you and making you whine about it. To him, she is what he wants, she is better than you ... so why not allow him this happiness, and be a grown up and let the water pass under the bridge?
3. like seriously .. how immature can you possible be. No wonder he kicked you to the curb.
4. obviously, he's in love .... and if you were an adult, you'd be happy for him. From the sounds of it, you've been this thorn in the side for a while, considering his family wouldn't give you the time of day, but, they do her. That means .. she's probably really nice.
Posted by mzmee
Don't know why I feel like complete shit. I wanted this divorce, right? So why do I feel so messed up that the day out divorce was final, he got remarried the day after?He married his former side chick. All of his family was in attendance. I feel like a fool. Half of his family didn't show to ours. I don't have the words to express what I want to say but I feel fucked up.
he's not the right man for you - he's a cheater and a liar and pants on fire lol ... he will do the same to her no doubt so you can rest knowing that !
you have a baby right ? is he going to be a father to the baby ?
1. All I can think about is what is it that I've done wrong?
2. Was she that much better than me?
3. I've had to unfriend a lot of people on fb because they filmed their nuptials
4. he seemed so in love with her. I've never seen this side of him.
1. It's not what you did wrong, it's what you are currently doing wrong. for example, see #3. The mature thing to do is to want him to be happy. Just because he doesn't want you, doesn't mean you should prompt people in here to attack his character and say bad things about him. For the fact that you would let people do that and encourage people to do that ...... is what you are doing that is so wrong.
2. of course she is better than you .. in his eyes/mind. What kind of stupid question is that? If you were the better one (according to him) then you would be the one to have - see #4 This doesn't sound like true human care and compassion to me .. it sounds like pure ego on your part. You divorced him for a reason, but, here you are letting your ego dictate to you and making you whine about it. To him, she is what he wants, she is better than you ... so why not allow him this happiness, and be a grown up and let the water pass under the bridge?
3. like seriously .. how immature can you possible be. No wonder he kicked you to the curb.
4. obviously, he's in love .... and if you were an adult, you'd be happy for him. From the sounds of it, you've been this thorn in the side for a while, considering his family wouldn't give you the time of day, but, they do her. That means .. she's probably really nice.
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The fuck are you a robot? You really don't understand human emotion do you?
Why not unfriend them? So I can see this and continue to hurt? I didn't wanna see it so I spared myself the pain. I shouldn't have to explain that. It's common sense.
How am I the bad guy when my ex was too coward to be truthful? It's ok that he wants her. Cool. But why lie about it? If I didn't pull the plug, this would've still been going on. I knew the truth would come out but I didn't think it would make me feel this fucked up.
Posted by mzmee
Don't know why I feel like complete shit. I wanted this divorce, right? So why do I feel so messed up that the day out divorce was final, he got remarried the day after?He married his former side chick. All of his family was in attendance. I feel like a fool. Half of his family didn't show to ours. I don't have the words to express what I want to say but I feel fucked up.
he's not the right man for you - he's a cheater and a liar and pants on fire lol ... he will do the same to her no doubt so you can rest knowing that !
you have a baby right ? is he going to be a father to the baby ?
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I doubt it. She'll make a man out of him.
He's still going to be in his life. I wouldn't take him away from his father.
Posted by starwars
i think its totally normal to feel upset. its okay to vent but I do remember your other thread he's a ho. you should feel happy he's not around you anymore.you have a life ahead of yours, spend it with good people who deserve to be around you
And you know what? I would have stayed and worked it out if he was really being truthful about it all and was genuinely remorseful. He wasn't. His actions told it all. When I said something about his actions vs his words, he would always argue and become manipulative. Plus, she made it her business to create fake fb pages and screenshot, text and tell me everything. She knew too much. When I asked how she knew, either it was an argument or he just didn't have an answer.
Posted by mzmee
Focusing is hard right now. All I can think about is what is it that I've done wrong? And if I did anything wrong, why didn't he address it with me instead of going somewhere else? Was she that much better than me?I've had to unfriend a lot of people on fb because they filmed their nuptials and he seemed so in love with her. I've never seen this side of him.
It's not about better but maybe different type of connection
What are all of your signs?
Me sag
Him scorp
Her leo
That's not going to work lol.
What his moon
Scorp sun Leo moon Venus scorp
Sag sun sag moon Venus cap
Leo sun sag moon cancer venus
Leo women are #2 on the list for Scorp male for longterm marriage. They both have venus in water so the romantic chemistry is intense. And his moon conjucts her sun which means a magnetic attraction, so he feels he has met his soul mate. And two fixed signs to boot. Sorry Saggy looks like this will be a long marriage.
My Sag moon feels your pain.
The right guy will find you.
And his family will be there for you because they will know you belong with them.
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And that's all cool. We could've split amicably and moved on many moons ago. For some reason, he wouldn't communicate that. I can take the hard shot as it comes. He could've been truthful and be bygones. He treated me like I had no feelings whatsoever.
Posted by mzmee
I've never seen this side of him.Probably because it's not real.
Do you REALLY think this situation is any different from
any other garden-variety, divorce-then-marry-the-sidepiece
situation?
It isn't... it's an illusion.
And it's only a matter of time before he starts cheating on her.
Because THAT
is
what
he
does.
He's the same piece of shit you divorced.
But wait till she finds out. lol
Trust me on this.
Amen. ......... warm hugs.
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Right back at you. ?
(Instinct is 99.99% reliable)
I'm not gonna say I want to his what he did to me to happen to her. I'll never wish that I'm anyone.
I hope he found something real and rare. That's truly hard to find. I just wished he hadn't done it the way he did. I wouldn't do him like that.
Even when it was bad, I was still there for him. All in this time he lost his job, car got stolen and a few other messed up things and when he called, I came running. Because that's what you do for someone you love. I don't regret giving my all, it shows me I have a great capacity of love in my heart.
Posted by mzmee
I've never seen this side of him.Probably because it's not real.
Do you REALLY think this situation is any different from
any other garden-variety, divorce-then-marry-the-sidepiece
situation?
It isn't... it's an illusion.
And it's only a matter of time before he starts cheating on her.
Because THAT
is
what
he
does.
He's the same piece of shit you divorced.
But wait till she finds out. lol
Trust me on this.
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21 likes on your post my friend
Your watery moon is spot on................again!
🙂
Posted by mzmee
I'm not gonna say I want to his what he did to me to happen to her. I'll never wish that I'm anyone.I hope he found something real and rare. That's truly hard to find. I just wished he hadn't done it the way he did. I wouldn't do him like that.
Even when it was bad, I was still there for him. All in this time he lost his job, car got stolen and a few other messed up things and when he called, I came running. Because that's what you do for someone you love. I don't regret giving my all, it shows me I have a great capacity of love in my heart.
Sorry if this has already been mentioned, but do you have children with him?
Posted by mzmee
I'm not gonna say I want him to do what he did to me to happen to her. I'll never wish that I'm anyone.I hope he found something real and rare. That's truly hard to find. I just wished he hadn't done it the way he did. I wouldn't do him like that.
Even when it was bad, I was still there for him. All in this time he lost his job, car got stolen and a few other messed up things and when he called, I came running. Because that's what you do for someone you love. I don't regret giving my all, it shows me I have a great capacity of love in my heart.
Posted by mzmee
I'm not gonna say I want to his what he did to me to happen to her. I'll never wish that I'm anyone.I hope he found something real and rare. That's truly hard to find. I just wished he hadn't done it the way he did. I wouldn't do him like that.
Even when it was bad, I was still there for him. All in this time he lost his job, car got stolen and a few other messed up things and when he called, I came running. Because that's what you do for someone you love. I don't regret giving my all, it shows me I have a great capacity of love in my heart.
Sorry if this has already been mentioned, but do you have children with him?
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Yep 1
Posted by halalbabe
You're too cute for this mess.For once, I don't feel so cute.
Nothing will change your feelings right now. Not even the fact that they are astrologically incompatible.
You'll have to sit this one through.
Just Don't lurk through unnecessary stuff and end up with even more hurt feelings. There's clarity in allowing the waves to run their course.
I want him to be happy. I just wish I didn't feel so....expendable—
Like he threw me away. I just want to feel like I matter. I want this feeling to go away.
You don't need him to determine YOUR worth. Distangle your mind from the idea that you need his acknowledgement.
I get what you're saying. I get it. I put so much into him and our marriage. I did everything I needed. I'm still trying to find out what went wrong. Like some days passed me by. I feel like I don't know what happened.
Nothing will change the fact that he has betrayed the trust you had placed in him.
And despite the fact that you filed for divorce, he was ready to end it before you were. You know it and it hurts. You haven't come to terms with the truth that the divorce never really was your choice.
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This is how I feel. I knew it was over. He puts the blame on me tho.
he's not the right man for you - he's a cheater and a liar and pants on fire lol ... he will do the same to her no doubt so you can rest knowing that !
you have a baby right ? is he going to be a father to the baby ?
I doubt it. She'll make a man out of him.
He's still going to be in his life. I wouldn't take him away from his father.
- keep us posted cause we like to know that we are right - and we'll tell you "told you so" in a year or two -
- sorry you will have to see him to deal with the child - it's always better when you don't have any contact
Posted by mzmee
I'm not gonna say I want to his what he did to me to happen to her. I'll never wish that I'm anyone.I hope he found something real and rare. That's truly hard to find. I just wished he hadn't done it the way he did. I wouldn't do him like that.
Even when it was bad, I was still there for him. All in this time he lost his job, car got stolen and a few other messed up things and when he called, I came running. Because that's what you do for someone you love. I don't regret giving my all, it shows me I have a great capacity of love in my heart.
What.... —??
How do you people like this exist you're better than me
I would pray she's barren. That his dick becomes limp. That they both die in a fiery crash.
Shrugs
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Did I say something wrong?
Posted by mzmee
Focusing is hard right now. All I can think about is what is it that I've done wrong? And if I did anything wrong, why didn't he address it with me instead of going somewhere else? Was she that much better than me?I've had to unfriend a lot of people on fb because they filmed their nuptials and he seemed so in love with her. I've never seen this side of him.
It's not about better but maybe different type of connection
What are all of your signs?
Me sag
Him scorp
Her leo
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im very sorry you're going thru this. i have something similar I'm processing with my scorpio ex too... hopefully we can both come out the other end, a better lover and friend, so that we too might find that right connection... stay strong! best wishes!
1. All I can think about is what is it that I've done wrong?
2. Was she that much better than me?
3. I've had to unfriend a lot of people on fb because they filmed their nuptials
4. he seemed so in love with her. I've never seen this side of him.
1. It's not what you did wrong, it's what you are currently doing wrong. for example, see #3. The mature thing to do is to want him to be happy. Just because he doesn't want you, doesn't mean you should prompt people in here to attack his character and say bad things about him. For the fact that you would let people do that and encourage people to do that ...... is what you are doing that is so wrong.
2. of course she is better than you .. in his eyes/mind. What kind of stupid question is that? If you were the better one (according to him) then you would be the one to have - see #4 This doesn't sound like true human care and compassion to me .. it sounds like pure ego on your part. You divorced him for a reason, but, here you are letting your ego dictate to you and making you whine about it. To him, she is what he wants, she is better than you ... so why not allow him this happiness, and be a grown up and let the water pass under the bridge?
3. like seriously .. how immature can you possible be. No wonder he kicked you to the curb.
4. obviously, he's in love .... and if you were an adult, you'd be happy for him. From the sounds of it, you've been this thorn in the side for a while, considering his family wouldn't give you the time of day, but, they do her. That means .. she's probably really nice.
The fuck are you a robot? You really don't understand human emotion do you?
Why not unfriend them? So I can see this and continue to hurt? I didn't wanna see it so I spared myself the pain. I shouldn't have to explain that. It's common sense.
How am I the bad guy when my ex was too coward to be truthful? It's ok that he wants her. Cool. But why lie about it? If I didn't pull the plug, this would've still been going on. I knew the truth would come out but I didn't think it would make me feel this fucked up.
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The only person calling you the bad guy ... is you.
To get divorced in the States means you have to be separated for a year without sexual contact. I don't know where you're from .... but, certainly, you have to be separated for a reasonable amount of time before a divorce is granted.
so, here you are whining like it was yesterday. You've grown past this: ZERO
How ridiculous. The logical conclusion is that you want the cheater, after all, here you are crying about not being worthy enough for a cheating bastard to value you.
do you realize how fucking ridiculous you are?
Your maturity is at a child's level if you can't handle the fact that there are people who enjoy his company and so took videos of his wedding. You've always had the option of bypassing those videos for your own peace of mind. But, nooooo, not you ......
..... you delete them, like a little spoiled brat who has to have all the attention.
I can see why he didn't want you and why the family took a pass on you. You're an asshole. You won't even allow your friends the right to like him, and so join in his happiness.
I say, kudos to him for realizing you're not worth his time.
1. All I can think about is what is it that I've done wrong?
2. Was she that much better than me?
3. I've had to unfriend a lot of people on fb because they filmed their nuptials
4. he seemed so in love with her. I've never seen this side of him.
1. It's not what you did wrong, it's what you are currently doing wrong. for example, see #3. The mature thing to do is to want him to be happy. Just because he doesn't want you, doesn't mean you should prompt people in here to attack his character and say bad things about him. For the fact that you would let people do that and encourage people to do that ...... is what you are doing that is so wrong.
2. of course she is better than you .. in his eyes/mind. What kind of stupid question is that? If you were the better one (according to him) then you would be the one to have - see #4 This doesn't sound like true human care and compassion to me .. it sounds like pure ego on your part. You divorced him for a reason, but, here you are letting your ego dictate to you and making you whine about it. To him, she is what he wants, she is better than you ... so why not allow him this happiness, and be a grown up and let the water pass under the bridge?
3. like seriously .. how immature can you possible be. No wonder he kicked you to the curb.
4. obviously, he's in love .... and if you were an adult, you'd be happy for him. From the sounds of it, you've been this thorn in the side for a while, considering his family wouldn't give you the time of day, but, they do her. That means .. she's probably really nice.
The fuck are you a robot? You really don't understand human emotion do you?
Why not unfriend them? So I can see this and continue to hurt? I didn't wanna see it so I spared myself the pain. I shouldn't have to explain that. It's common sense.
How am I the bad guy when my ex was too coward to be truthful? It's ok that he wants her. Cool. But why lie about it? If I didn't pull the plug, this would've still been going on. I knew the truth would come out but I didn't think it would make me feel this fucked up.
The only person calling you the bad guy ... is you.
To get divorced in the States means you have to be separated for a year without sexual contact. I don't know where you're from .... but, certainly, you have to be separated for a reasonable amount of time before a divorce is granted.
so, here you are whining like it was yesterday. You've grown past this: ZERO
How ridiculous. The logical conclusion is that you want the cheater, after all, here you are crying about not being worthy enough for a cheating bastard to value you.
do you realize how fucking ridiculous you are?
Your maturity is at a child's level if you can't handle the fact that there are people who enjoy his company and so took videos of his wedding. You've always had the option of bypassing those videos for your own peace of mind. But, nooooo, not you ......
..... you delete them, like a little spoiled brat who has to have all the attention.
I can see why he didn't want you and why the family took a pass on you. You're an asshole. You won't even allow your friends the right to like him, and so join in his happiness.
I say, kudos to him for realizing you're not worth his time.
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They're not my friends. They were his friends and friended me off the strength that I was his wife a long time ago. They never interacted with me online and vice versa. So no, it wasn't a big thing for me to delete them. I don't hang with them, does. So when I say friends, I was referring to Facebook friends. Not my actual, real life friends. Instead of jumping, you could be asked for clarificAtion.
I talked to my aunt and other fsmily members, male and female, who was divorced before. Was told divorce is hard and it's perfectly normal to feel how I feel. That the day it's finalized it's perfectly normal to feel how I feel, especially when cheating is involved. But you feel you have the right to tell me how I should feel? Yes, I can admit, I'm all over the place even tho I pulled the plug. Its very obvious I needed to. Does that mean I shouldn't be sad, angry, hurt— When did you become God?
So yeah I feel messed up? I deleted his friends, yep. I couldn't handle seeing it. So? In time I know I'll get over it and see it for what it is, but as for right now, I'm down. I don't need you to kick me any further. One day I'll wake up and look over your words and probably agree with everything you said but I'm in my feelings right now. You talking AT me like I'm being plain old messy out in the open. I'm not. I hold all this shit in and post on a forum that don't know me from a can of paint.
And to answer your question:
Filing for divorce requires grounds. You can file for a no-fault divorce after six-month separation if you’re both in agreement that your marriage is over, and you don't necessarily have to live in separate residences. You can also file on one of nine different fault grounds, including desertion, adultery or addiction.
Posted by MagicMona
love, think of things this way: you have your freedom. you have a clean start, new beginning. goodbye to old rotten trash. he is her problem now. wash your hands of it.that negative element of your life is over. now, fill that void with positive, fun, YOU things. get to know yourself as one entity again. take your time to remove yourself emotionally from this closing of a bad chapter. you have all the power to write your own thriller. feel this out, but dont let this keep you down.
Yes ma'am because I woke up feeling down as ever. It's eating me up because I feel like I have no one to really talk to. I was told it would be this way, meaning what I'm feeling, before time. I needed that vent on here. A lot of people make it seem as if I don't have the right to feel bad. P-Angel made that a confirmation. When I filed, I didn't want to but I know I needed to. When you love someone so much but you know you gotta let them go cause its not reciprocated is a fucked up feeling.
I had friends telling me I had no right to feel bad when half of them was in my shoes. I don't get it.
Posted by MagicMona
want us to woman march and beat his ass?
Leave him be. Lol
Posted by juliette
Why did you file for a no-fault divorce? I'm not sure that was a wise thing to do.
I couldn't handle a long drawn out divorce. I just couldn't do it. I didn't wanna fight. I just wanted it over. My dad passed not too long ago and dealing with him was too much. He did some real hurtful shit when I was helping to prepare my father's funeral and while he was in the hospital. I couldn't take it. I pulled the plug the fastest way I could.
Messed me up but I needed it to be over. Its so much. But yeah.
Posted by MagicMona
sometimes you just want shit over fast. divorce is not one of those things you want long and drawn out. it's very draining.
This
i think one reason he can mess with your emotion again and again is that you didn't learn the lesson the first time he showed you his ugly face that he is not someone who would consider your feelings or worths your decency
i'm all for people to find the love of their life. marriage wouldn't mean much to me if it's not for true love. but the way he deceived and betrayed you with no consideration of your feelings and wellbeings while you were pregnant and as a new mom should not be returned with decency and understanding. he is not a decent person. i don't believe in karma unless i'm the one serving karma
1. All I can think about is what is it that I've done wrong?
2. Was she that much better than me?
3. I've had to unfriend a lot of people on fb because they filmed their nuptials
4. he seemed so in love with her. I've never seen this side of him.
1. It's not what you did wrong, it's what you are currently doing wrong. for example, see #3. The mature thing to do is to want him to be happy. Just because he doesn't want you, doesn't mean you should prompt people in here to attack his character and say bad things about him. For the fact that you would let people do that and encourage people to do that ...... is what you are doing that is so wrong.
2. of course she is better than you .. in his eyes/mind. What kind of stupid question is that? If you were the better one (according to him) then you would be the one to have - see #4 This doesn't sound like true human care and compassion to me .. it sounds like pure ego on your part. You divorced him for a reason, but, here you are letting your ego dictate to you and making you whine about it. To him, she is what he wants, she is better than you ... so why not allow him this happiness, and be a grown up and let the water pass under the bridge?
3. like seriously .. how immature can you possible be. No wonder he kicked you to the curb.
4. obviously, he's in love .... and if you were an adult, you'd be happy for him. From the sounds of it, you've been this thorn in the side for a while, considering his family wouldn't give you the time of day, but, they do her. That means .. she's probably really nice.
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You're insane.
Because coping with a spouses infidelity via
self-blame is crazy.
It's unnatural, if not outright lunacy, to feel actual
Joy for those who "successfully" doublecross
us... doesn't mean you wish them ill, but the joy
comes from gratitude at disentangling yourself
from a toxic relationship.
Posted by juliette
Why did you file for a no-fault divorce? I'm not sure that was a wise thing to do.I couldn't handle a long drawn out divorce. I just couldn't do it. I didn't wanna fight. I just wanted it over. My dad passed not too long ago and dealing with him was too much. He did some real hurtful shit when I was helping to prepare my father's funeral and while he was in the hospital. I couldn't take it. I pulled the plug the fastest way I could.
Messed me up but I needed it to be over. Its so much. But yeah.
Ok, got it. Sorry about your lost.
Save the evidence of his cheating just in case.
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Thank you. Honestly, keeping it would only make me go thru it and read only to end up being hurt all over again.
1. All I can think about is what is it that I've done wrong?
2. Was she that much better than me?
3. I've had to unfriend a lot of people on fb because they filmed their nuptials
4. he seemed so in love with her. I've never seen this side of him.
1. It's not what you did wrong, it's what you are currently doing wrong. for example, see #3. The mature thing to do is to want him to be happy. Just because he doesn't want you, doesn't mean you should prompt people in here to attack his character and say bad things about him. For the fact that you would let people do that and encourage people to do that ...... is what you are doing that is so wrong.
2. of course she is better than you .. in his eyes/mind. What kind of stupid question is that? If you were the better one (according to him) then you would be the one to have - see #4 This doesn't sound like true human care and compassion to me .. it sounds like pure ego on your part. You divorced him for a reason, but, here you are letting your ego dictate to you and making you whine about it. To him, she is what he wants, she is better than you ... so why not allow him this happiness, and be a grown up and let the water pass under the bridge?
3. like seriously .. how immature can you possible be. No wonder he kicked you to the curb.
4. obviously, he's in love .... and if you were an adult, you'd be happy for him. From the sounds of it, you've been this thorn in the side for a while, considering his family wouldn't give you the time of day, but, they do her. That means .. she's probably really nice.
You're insane.
Because coping with a spouses infidelity via
self-blame is crazy.
It's unnatural, if not outright lunacy, to feel actual
Joy for those who "successfully" doublecross
us... doesn't mean you wish them ill, but the joy
comes from gratitude at disentangling yourself
from a toxic relationship.
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Thank you.
Meme
I just talked to my husband about why sheet like that happened.
He said she will never tell you if he suspected baby isn't his.
That's the only reason he thinks your ex could leave you. Otherwise he said men are also people so o don't know!
I asked why did you marry me though you don't have to. I would never give an ultimatum! He said because I wanted to be with you.
I said they did apparently as well...
He raised his voice and said you women always right! You never admit to your faults! And I agree with this as well.
No woman I asked here ever said I had contributed to divorce! Ever!
Sorry. Just plugging because your story got me! Under my ribs...
1. All I can think about is what is it that I've done wrong?
2. Was she that much better than me?
3. I've had to unfriend a lot of people on fb because they filmed their nuptials
4. he seemed so in love with her. I've never seen this side of him.
1. It's not what you did wrong, it's what you are currently doing wrong. for example, see #3. The mature thing to do is to want him to be happy. Just because he doesn't want you, doesn't mean you should prompt people in here to attack his character and say bad things about him. For the fact that you would let people do that and encourage people to do that ...... is what you are doing that is so wrong.
2. of course she is better than you .. in his eyes/mind. What kind of stupid question is that? If you were the better one (according to him) then you would be the one to have - see #4 This doesn't sound like true human care and compassion to me .. it sounds like pure ego on your part. You divorced him for a reason, but, here you are letting your ego dictate to you and making you whine about it. To him, she is what he wants, she is better than you ... so why not allow him this happiness, and be a grown up and let the water pass under the bridge?
3. like seriously .. how immature can you possible be. No wonder he kicked you to the curb.
4. obviously, he's in love .... and if you were an adult, you'd be happy for him. From the sounds of it, you've been this thorn in the side for a while, considering his family wouldn't give you the time of day, but, they do her. That means .. she's probably really nice.
You're insane.
Because coping with a spouses infidelity via
self-blame is crazy.
It's unnatural, if not outright lunacy, to feel actual
Joy for those who "successfully" doublecross
us... doesn't mean you wish them ill, but the joy
comes from gratitude at disentangling yourself
from a toxic relationship.
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Too many drugs and too much wacky backy has warped her mind....you are right Monty...insane...totally nuts
And anyone with half a brain knows that when you have a baby with someone, that alone creates a very strong bond which is difficult to let go of
Be gentle with yourself OP
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Posted by Gemitati
MemeI just talked to my husband about why sheet like that happened.
He said she will never tell you if he suspected baby isn't his.
That's the only reason he thinks your ex could leave you. Otherwise he said men are also people so o don't know!
I asked why did you marry me though you don't have to. I would never give an ultimatum! He said because I wanted to be with you.
I said they did apparently as well...
He raised his voice and said you women always right! You never admit to your faults! And I agree with this as well.
No woman I asked here ever said I had contributed to divorce! Ever!
Sorry. Just plugging because your story got me! Under my ribs...
As far as his son, we got that covered. He's been thru that before, there's definite proof that's his son. lol
I'm not saying i'm perfect. I'm not. We talked about that. We were two imperfect people that were supposed to have the perfect love in our eyes. I have my flaws and he had his. Life is long and things happened but when you truly love someone, you stick thru it. At the end of it all, he told me he didn't know why he married me.
It all started when my dad got really sick and was in and out of the hospital. I was pregnant at the time and helping out with my dad. There were days I couldn't get in touch with him. I couldn't depend on him for anything. When his elders were in the hospital, I was johnny on the spot. He didn't go thru that alone. When his father passed, he didn't go thru that alone. There was never a time he had to do anything alone when times got hard. He didn't reciprocate it. He found better things to do. I guess it was too much for him. He found an out. I don't know. But I'm not saying I'm perfect by no means. I'm not. I acknowledge this. During that time, I really needed him and he wasn't there. Then it got worse.
Even after i filed, when he lost his job, the other woman was no where to be found. He had to stay at his mother's house. No car, no job, nothing. As soon as I helped him back on his feet, she resurfaces and he went right back there.
Posted by Gemitati
MemeI just talked to my husband about why sheet like that happened.
He said she will never tell you if he suspected baby isn't his.
That's the only reason he thinks your ex could leave you. Otherwise he said men are also people so o don't know!
I asked why did you marry me though you don't have to. I would never give an ultimatum! He said because I wanted to be with you.
I said they did apparently as well...
He raised his voice and said you women always right! You never admit to your faults! And I agree with this as well.
No woman I asked here ever said I had contributed to divorce! Ever!
Sorry. Just plugging because your story got me! Under my ribs...
As far as his son, we got that covered. He's been thru that before, there's definite proof that's his son. lol
I'm not saying i'm perfect. I'm not. We talked about that. We were two imperfect people that were supposed to have the perfect love in our eyes. I have my flaws and he had his. Life is long and things happened but when you truly love someone, you stick thru it. At the end of it all, he told me he didn't know why he married me.
It all started when my dad got really sick and was in and out of the hospital. I was pregnant at the time and helping out with my dad. There were days I couldn't get in touch with him. I couldn't depend on him for anything. When his elders were in the hospital, I was johnny on the spot. He didn't go thru that alone. When his father passed, he didn't go thru that alone. There was never a time he had to do anything alone when times got hard. He didn't reciprocate it. He found better things to do. I guess it was too much for him. He found an out. I don't know. But I'm not saying I'm perfect by no means. I'm not. I acknowledge this. During that time, I really needed him and he wasn't there. Then it got worse.
Even after i filed, when he lost his job, the other woman was no where to be found. He had to stay at his mother's house. No car, no job, nothing. As soon as I helped him back on his feet, she resurfaces and he went right back there.
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What a weak, flaky man and a terrible role model for your son
So the going gets a bit tough and he bails out and finds himself another woman?
Ooooohh just watch the karma coming for him.....
Posted by Gemitati
MemeI just talked to my husband about why sheet like that happened.
He said she will never tell you if he suspected baby isn't his.
That's the only reason he thinks your ex could leave you. Otherwise he said men are also people so o don't know!
I asked why did you marry me though you don't have to. I would never give an ultimatum! He said because I wanted to be with you.
I said they did apparently as well...
He raised his voice and said you women always right! You never admit to your faults! And I agree with this as well.
No woman I asked here ever said I had contributed to divorce! Ever!
Sorry. Just plugging because your story got me! Under my ribs...
As far as his son, we got that covered. He's been thru that before, there's definite proof that's his son. lol
I'm not saying i'm perfect. I'm not. We talked about that. We were two imperfect people that were supposed to have the perfect love in our eyes. I have my flaws and he had his. Life is long and things happened but when you truly love someone, you stick thru it. At the end of it all, he told me he didn't know why he married me.
It all started when my dad got really sick and was in and out of the hospital. I was pregnant at the time and helping out with my dad. There were days I couldn't get in touch with him. I couldn't depend on him for anything. When his elders were in the hospital, I was johnny on the spot. He didn't go thru that alone. When his father passed, he didn't go thru that alone. There was never a time he had to do anything alone when times got hard. He didn't reciprocate it. He found better things to do. I guess it was too much for him. He found an out. I don't know. But I'm not saying I'm perfect by no means. I'm not. I acknowledge this. During that time, I really needed him and he wasn't there. Then it got worse.
Even after i filed, when he lost his job, the other woman was no where to be found. He had to stay at his mother's house. No car, no job, nothing. As soon as I helped him back on his feet, she resurfaces and he went right back there.
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My darling! I don't know what to say except my heart is going to you and I know or I don't but I wish you will make it!
Just get creep to pay all he must!
THAT will at least make your life easier.
Don't feel bad for him. Get it ALL!
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Leo women are #2 on the list for Scorp male for longterm marriage. They both have venus in water so the romantic chemistry is intense. And his moon conjucts her sun which means a magnetic attraction, so he feels he has met his soul mate. And two fixed signs to boot. Sorry Saggy looks like this will be a long marriage.
My Sag moon feels your pain.
The right guy will find you.
And his family will be there for you because they will know you belong with them.