LunarMaiden
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Posted by mzmeeThis is crazy!!!!!Posted by GemitatiAs far as his son, we got that covered. He's been thru that before, there's definite proof that's his son. lol
Meme
I just talked to my husband about why sheet like that happened.
He said she will never tell you if he suspected baby isn't his.
That's the only reason he thinks your ex could leave you. Otherwise he said men are also people so o don't know!
I asked why did you marry me though you don't have to. I would never give an ultimatum! He said because I wanted to be with you.
I said they did apparently as well...
He raised his voice and said you women always right! You never admit to your faults! And I agree with this as well.
No woman I asked here ever said I had contributed to divorce! Ever!
Sorry. Just plugging because your story got me! Under my ribs...
I'm not saying i'm perfect. I'm not. We talked about that. We were two imperfect people that were supposed to have the perfect love in our eyes. I have my flaws and he had his. Life is long and things happened but when you truly love someone, you stick thru it. At the end of it all, he told me he didn't know why he married me.
It all started when my dad got really sick and was in and out of the hospital. I was pregnant at the time and helping out with my dad. There were days I couldn't get in touch with him. I couldn't depend on him for anything. When his elders were in the hospital, I was johnny on the spot. He didn't go thru that alone. When his father passed, he didn't go thru that alone. There was never a time he had to do anything alone when times got hard. He didn't reciprocate it. He found better things to do. I guess it was too much for him. He found an out. I don't know. But I'm not saying I'm perfect by no means. I'm not. I acknowledge this. During that time, I really needed him and he wasn't there. Then it got worse.
Even after i filed, when he lost his job, the other woman was no where to be found. He had to stay at his mother's house. No car, no job, nothing. As soon as I helped him back on his feet, she resurfaces and he went right back there.
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This is text book, "Why Men Love Bitches"
I don't know you or him for that matter if I know one thing about the DXP Dear John crowd is that there is always something that comes out later that blows the lid off this break up and it usually goes back to day one when he/she showed you who they were and it was ignored. Furthermore, this Scorpio is acting waaay out there. So I have to ask, how did you betray him? You keep saying you are no angel for a reason. I sense guilt in your posts too.
I wish you the best. This dude is a prime piece of work. He must be hot. Has to have big dick too.
Posted by Arielle83Posted by LunarMaidenPosted by Arielle83LOLPosted by LunarMaidenDo me!Posted by mzmeeLeo women are #2 on the list for Scorp male for longterm marriage. They both have venus in water so the romantic chemistry is intense. And his moon conjucts her sun which means a magnetic attraction, so he feels he has met his soul mate. And two fixed signs to boot. Sorry Saggy looks like this will be a long marriage.Posted by DivaCanLeoPosted by mzmeeThat's not going to work lol.Posted by DivaCanLeoMe sagPosted by mzmeeIt's not about better but maybe different type of connection
Focusing is hard right now. All I can think about is what is it that I've done wrong? And if I did anything wrong, why didn't he address it with me instead of going somewhere else? Was she that much better than me?
I've had to unfriend a lot of people on fb because they filmed their nuptials and he seemed so in love with her. I've never seen this side of him.
What are all of your signs?
Him scorp
Her leo
What his moon
Scorp sun Leo moon Venus scorp
Sag sun sag moon Venus cap
Leo sun sag moon cancer venus
My Sag moon feels your pain.
The right guy will find you.
And his family will be there for you because they will know you belong with them.
I'm crushin:
Scorp sun
Leo moon
Cancer mars
Cap Venus
Sag merc
I'm cancer sun
Libra moon
Cancer mars
Virgo Venus
Leo merc
You don't have the moon/sun conjunction but I can still see a connection and attraction. No opposition. Unless your ascent is opposed I see a very close bond. May get a little boring at times. Good communication. Similar love style . Very sensual coupling. Maybe straight forward comminication.
This is interesting. Double Cardinal vs the double fixed personality. You may want more action from him sometimes. He may want you to see his point of view.
I am curious of what its like for a Leo Merc communicating with a Sag Merc? My crush has Sag merc and I am a Leo Merc.
Fuvking hilarious. He laughs at everything I say and same for me.
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You have a Venus-Mars opposition with him Arielle...check the degrees for intensity. He is the Venus though so you will probably be more of the initiator in some ways?
Posted by AriellePosted by Arielle83Hello, sweetheart.Posted by ArielleOmg hello Arielle.Posted by mzmeeThis is what scorpio does... It's their ultimate revenge 😢
Focusing is hard right now. All I can think about is what is it that I've done wrong? And if I did anything wrong, why didn't he address it with me instead of going somewhere else? Was she that much better than me?
I've had to unfriend a lot of people on fb because they filmed their nuptials and he seemed so in love with her. I've never seen this side of him.
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This is too much.
I even told someone that you had changed
(more or less)
I thought he broke you.
Funny, not funny.
@Arielle83
Welcome to the new Arielle too but... o.O
Posted by MontgomeryPosted by mzmee
I've never seen this side of him.
Probably because it's not real.
Do you REALLY think this situation is any different from
any other garden-variety, divorce-then-marry-the-sidepiece
situation?
It isn't... it's an illusion.
And it's only a matter of time before he starts cheating on her.
Because THAT
is
what
he
does.
He's the same piece of shit you divorced.
But wait till she finds out. lol
Trust me on this.
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Co sign
Posted by LunarMaidenI'm saying I'm not perfect to say I have my flaws just like anyone else. That's all. No guilt attached. When he was first found out, he first said he felt I wasn't his first choice. We talked about previous relationships and the only serious relationship I was in, he is now deceased. I was only in a serious relationship with two people, him when we were younger, then my ex, and we caught up with each other years later. My ex and I was engaged. He said he felt a little jealousy because he thought I was supposed to come find him. We moved states away from each other. To know someone else asked for my hand in marriage bothered him.Posted by mzmeeThis is crazy!!!!!Posted by GemitatiAs far as his son, we got that covered. He's been thru that before, there's definite proof that's his son. lol
Meme
I just talked to my husband about why sheet like that happened.
He said she will never tell you if he suspected baby isn't his.
That's the only reason he thinks your ex could leave you. Otherwise he said men are also people so o don't know!
I asked why did you marry me though you don't have to. I would never give an ultimatum! He said because I wanted to be with you.
I said they did apparently as well...
He raised his voice and said you women always right! You never admit to your faults! And I agree with this as well.
No woman I asked here ever said I had contributed to divorce! Ever!
Sorry. Just plugging because your story got me! Under my ribs...
I'm not saying i'm perfect. I'm not. We talked about that. We were two imperfect people that were supposed to have the perfect love in our eyes. I have my flaws and he had his. Life is long and things happened but when you truly love someone, you stick thru it. At the end of it all, he told me he didn't know why he married me.
It all started when my dad got really sick and was in and out of the hospital. I was pregnant at the time and helping out with my dad. There were days I couldn't get in touch with him. I couldn't depend on him for anything. When his elders were in the hospital, I was johnny on the spot. He didn't go thru that alone. When his father passed, he didn't go thru that alone. There was never a time he had to do anything alone when times got hard. He didn't reciprocate it. He found better things to do. I guess it was too much for him. He found an out. I don't know. But I'm not saying I'm perfect by no means. I'm not. I acknowledge this. During that time, I really needed him and he wasn't there. Then it got worse.
Even after i filed, when he lost his job, the other woman was no where to be found. He had to stay at his mother's house. No car, no job, nothing. As soon as I helped him back on his feet, she resurfaces and he went right back there.
This is text book, "Why Men Love Bitches"
I don't know you or him for that matter if I know one thing about the DXP Dear John crowd is that there is always something that comes out later that blows the lid off this break up and it usually goes back to day one when he/she showed you who they were and it was ignored. Furthermore, this Scorpio is acting waaay out there. So I have to ask, how did you betray him? You keep saying you are no angel for a reason. I sense guilt in your posts too.
I wish you the best. This dude is a prime piece of work. He must be hot. Has to have big dick too.
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The end of the relationship wasn't when the divorce took place .... it was when you separated and moved on.
People act and talk like this is a new and raw injury ... why after so long are you STILL bleeding?
My point isn't that it hurts you .. it's that you are STILL carrying it around like a badge of honor.
Just because he got married again doesn't mean squat IF you moved on ...
why on earth are people counselling you, telling you it's ok to be this fucking hurt over a guy after this much time has gone by?
It's like I'm the only person clued in to reality ... everyone else is gloriously romanticizing how to hold on to hurt.
It's so bizarre. And clearly, you expected people to take sides with you, since you ONLY deleted them once they proved to you that they didn't take YOUR side. Like a child.
It seems like everyone around me has the mentality level of a person who has no clue how to grow.
People act and talk like this is a new and raw injury ... why after so long are you STILL bleeding?
My point isn't that it hurts you .. it's that you are STILL carrying it around like a badge of honor.
Just because he got married again doesn't mean squat IF you moved on ...
why on earth are people counselling you, telling you it's ok to be this fucking hurt over a guy after this much time has gone by?
It's like I'm the only person clued in to reality ... everyone else is gloriously romanticizing how to hold on to hurt.
It's so bizarre. And clearly, you expected people to take sides with you, since you ONLY deleted them once they proved to you that they didn't take YOUR side. Like a child.
It seems like everyone around me has the mentality level of a person who has no clue how to grow.
Posted by mzmeeYou know exactly why you feel like complete shit, and so do I.
Don't know why I feel like complete shit.
You're jealous. Jealous because he never loved you the way he loves her.
Why act stupid about it? Why come and pretend like you're a victim?
Why not face the truth?
Posted by mzmee
he seemed so in love with her. I've never seen this side of him.click to expand
You likely knew this all along .. that's why you're STILL carrying around this baggage as if it was just yesterday that you two broke up. You've likely been hoping he would come back to you and start to treat you like he is in love with you.
Except he wasn't in love with you. For the fact that you've never seen this side of him, and have never seen him be in this kind of love before ...... means, you never got his love.
And that is the reason why you're still carrying on ... because you're jealous.
My counsel to you would be to grow the fuck up and realize that you're not the center of the universe and that he (and all people) are allowed to not love you if they don't want to, and they are allowed to choose someone else to adore ...... and your job as a human is to step aside and wish them well.
instead of this bullshit .... where you come here and act like an entitled child, simply because you didn't get the cookie you wanted.
Posted by P-AngelSeeing how i've read your posts and you come across in this manner regardless of the topic, I'll be ignoring you now.
The end of the relationship wasn't when the divorce took place .... it was when you separated and moved on.
People act and talk like this is a new and raw injury ... why after so long are you STILL bleeding?
My point isn't that it hurts you .. it's that you are STILL carrying it around like a badge of honor.
Just because he got married again doesn't mean squat IF you moved on ...
why on earth are people counselling you, telling you it's ok to be this fucking hurt over a guy after this much time has gone by?
It's like I'm the only person clued in to reality ... everyone else is gloriously romanticizing how to hold on to hurt.
It's so bizarre. And clearly, you expected people to take sides with you, since you ONLY deleted them once they proved to you that they didn't take YOUR side. Like a child.
It seems like everyone around me has the mentality level of a person who has no clue how to grow.
Posted by P-AngelokPosted by mzmeeYou know exactly why you feel like complete shit, and so do I.
Don't know why I feel like complete shit.
You're jealous. Jealous because he never loved you the way he loves her.
Why act stupid about it? Why come and pretend like you're a victim?
Why not face the truth?
Posted by mzmee
he seemed so in love with her. I've never seen this side of him.
You likely knew this all along .. that's why you're STILL carrying around this baggage as if it was just yesterday that you two broke up. You've likely been hoping he would come back to you and start to treat you like he is in love with you.
Except he wasn't in love with you. For the fact that you've never seen this side of him, and have never seen him be in this kind of love before ...... means, you never got his love.
And that is the reason why you're still carrying on ... because you're jealous.
My counsel to you would be to grow the fuck up and realize that you're not the center of the universe and that he (and all people) are allowed to not love you if they don't want to, and they are allowed to choose someone else to adore ...... and your job as a human is to step aside and wish them well.
instead of this bullshit .... where you come here and act like an entitled child, simply because you didn't get the cookie you wanted.
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Posted by P-AngelThere speaks the words of a woman that has obviously never had a baby with a manPosted by mzmeeYou know exactly why you feel like complete shit, and so do I.
Don't know why I feel like complete shit.
You're jealous. Jealous because he never loved you the way he loves her.
Why act stupid about it? Why come and pretend like you're a victim?
Why not face the truth?
Posted by mzmee
he seemed so in love with her. I've never seen this side of him.
You likely knew this all along .. that's why you're STILL carrying around this baggage as if it was just yesterday that you two broke up. You've likely been hoping he would come back to you and start to treat you like he is in love with you.
Except he wasn't in love with you. For the fact that you've never seen this side of him, and have never seen him be in this kind of love before ...... means, you never got his love.
And that is the reason why you're still carrying on ... because you're jealous.
My counsel to you would be to grow the fuck up and realize that you're not the center of the universe and that he (and all people) are allowed to not love you if they don't want to, and they are allowed to choose someone else to adore ...... and your job as a human is to step aside and wish them well.
instead of this bullshit .... where you come here and act like an entitled child, simply because you didn't get the cookie you wanted.
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Clueless
Posted by mzmeeFirst song that came to mind, Adriana Grande, "I've got one less problem without you". It hurts I know 😢
Don't know why I feel like complete shit. I wanted this divorce, right? So why do I feel so messed up that the day out divorce was final, he got remarried the day after?
He married his former side chick. All of his family was in attendance. I feel like a fool. Half of his family didn't show to ours. I don't have the words to express what I want to say but I feel fucked up.
Hang in there, Baby! 🤗 cyber hugs!
Love,
Eva
He is one cold hearted sob. It is so true what they say, a Scorpio will sting the hell out of someone.
Posted by EveryOunceYes they will ..... but take comfort that the sting is ultimately to the self (been there, done that, learned the lesson)
He is one cold hearted sob. It is so true what they say, a Scorpio will sting the hell out of someone.
That guy will probably never be truly satisfied
Posted by Arielle83oooohh just about an opposition orb....that is sexy stuff miss 😛Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by Arielle83Posted by LunarMaidenPosted by Arielle83LOLPosted by LunarMaidenDo me!Posted by mzmeeLeo women are #2 on the list for Scorp male for longterm marriage. They both have venus in water so the romantic chemistry is intense. And his moon conjucts her sun which means a magnetic attraction, so he feels he has met his soul mate. And two fixed signs to boot. Sorry Saggy looks like this will be a long marriage.Posted by DivaCanLeoPosted by mzmeeThat's not going to work lol.Posted by DivaCanLeoMe sagPosted by mzmeeIt's not about better but maybe different type of connection
Focusing is hard right now. All I can think about is what is it that I've done wrong? And if I did anything wrong, why didn't he address it with me instead of going somewhere else? Was she that much better than me?
I've had to unfriend a lot of people on fb because they filmed their nuptials and he seemed so in love with her. I've never seen this side of him.
What are all of your signs?
Him scorp
Her leo
What his moon
Scorp sun Leo moon Venus scorp
Sag sun sag moon Venus cap
Leo sun sag moon cancer venus
My Sag moon feels your pain.
The right guy will find you.
And his family will be there for you because they will know you belong with them.
I'm crushin:
Scorp sun
Leo moon
Cancer mars
Cap Venus
Sag merc
I'm cancer sun
Libra moon
Cancer mars
Virgo Venus
Leo merc
You don't have the moon/sun conjunction but I can still see a connection and attraction. No opposition. Unless your ascent is opposed I see a very close bond. May get a little boring at times. Good communication. Similar love style . Very sensual coupling. Maybe straight forward comminication.
This is interesting. Double Cardinal vs the double fixed personality. You may want more action from him sometimes. He may want you to see his point of view.
I am curious of what its like for a Leo Merc communicating with a Sag Merc? My crush has Sag merc and I am a Leo Merc.
Fuvking hilarious. He laughs at everything I say and same for me.
You have a Venus-Mars opposition with him Arielle...check the degrees for intensity. He is the Venus though so you will probably be more of the initiator in some ways?
His Venus is 3 deg cap. I'm 11 deg cancer mars
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when i said initiator, i meant if there was to be a long term relationship, you may find that you are the one who initiates stuff...being the Mars person, the masculine and him being the Venus, the fem 🙂
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Venus conjunct other person’s Mars
The romantic and sexual attraction between you is almost irresistible. This relationship is one that was probably “more than just friends” from the start. The intensity of your feelings for one another is unlikely to fade over time, and you find much fulfillment in your love for each other. Even if you go your separate ways, it is likely that both of you will always remember each other for the passion you once enjoyed. The Mars person epitomizes the sexual energy and body ego that the Venus person finds attractive. The kind of chemistry that you share is such that even if you did not match each other’s physical ideal, you would see each other as ideal nevertheless. This type of chemistry is fantastic when it is a short-term affair, and can get tricky when the relationship is longer standing. Although the chemistry always exists between you, the passion that it generates is harder to handle when all of the “other” parts of a relationship develop, because sometimes the energy is transmuted or mischanneled, and arguments over petty things are the result. This is an erotic aspect, however, and, regardless of gender, the MARS person is likely to assume the sexual role traditionally associated with masculine, and the Venus person with feminine. You know how to push each other’s buttons.
Sag moons optimism is often a blessing and a curse. You fall in love with the idea of a person instead of truly seeing them for who they truly are. Because of this sunny outlook on life you run into people like the Scorpio who take advantage of your kindness, forgiveness and naiveness and suck the happiness from you until there is nothing left.
I am pretty sure there were many red flags before you decided to leave but you easily forgive and live and let live attitude kept you in a situation much longer than you should have been. Keep your head up and learn from this situation .
I am pretty sure there were many red flags before you decided to leave but you easily forgive and live and let live attitude kept you in a situation much longer than you should have been. Keep your head up and learn from this situation .
Posted by AreyoumytwinflameRocky Road w/Miller Lite (the latter after a couple of hours) 🍹
You're a sag lady. You have so much to offer the right person and the right person will appreciate your qualities so much.
I dated a man for over 6 years on and off. I finally cut ties and he was engaged within a year. We were never engaged so I did have fleeting feelings that made me feel inadequate or unlovable. But now I'm with an Aqua and it is immeasurably better.
The feelings you have are normal. This isn't the end of your story though...just the end of a bad chapter.
Ice cream suggestions are Ben and Jerry's cherry garcia or everything but the... or Tonight Dough...ohhhh or coconut chocolate chip (forget the brand)
🤗 cyber hugs!
Love,
Eva
Yes ma'am because I woke up feeling down as ever. It's eating me up because I feel like I have no one to really talk to. I was told it would be this way, meaning what I'm feeling, before time. I needed that vent on here. A lot of people make it seem as if I don't have the right to feel bad. P-Angel made that a confirmation. When I filed, I didn't want to but I know I needed to. When you love someone so much but you know you gotta let them go cause its not reciprocated is a fucked up feeling.
I had friends telling me I had no right to feel bad when half of them was in my shoes. I don't get it.
THIS "when you love someone so much but you know you gotta let them go cause its not reciprocated is a fucked up feeling".
Yes it is and you have the right to feel as bad as you need to feel for as long as you need to feel it in order to get over this MF who isn't all that anyway ... I try to force myself to think about all the bad stuff - yes, of course the good stuff pokes it's ugly head through but ya gotta keep trying to push that out cause the bad stuff is all him too and you want something as close to 100% good as you can get it and he aint' it !
I had friends telling me I had no right to feel bad when half of them was in my shoes. I don't get it.
THIS "when you love someone so much but you know you gotta let them go cause its not reciprocated is a fucked up feeling".
Yes it is and you have the right to feel as bad as you need to feel for as long as you need to feel it in order to get over this MF who isn't all that anyway ... I try to force myself to think about all the bad stuff - yes, of course the good stuff pokes it's ugly head through but ya gotta keep trying to push that out cause the bad stuff is all him too and you want something as close to 100% good as you can get it and he aint' it !
Posted by HarukkaWasn't Plath manic-depressive, though?Posted by DivaCanLeoBecause no matter how scorpio try to make leo understand them, they are not gonna do.Posted by HarukkaWhy tho? Why does it go to that extreme?
I just remember Sylvia Plath (scorpio) I think we all know that she killed her self after her leo husband cheated on her.
He married the woman who cheat with after that, and after 6 years she also killed her self.
It's not about the wife, for me about 99% it's about the man himself, when he cheat on you, he will cheat on her no matter what or how perfect they are in ur eyes.
Leo and scorpio are match who made in hell, I read about it alot when a friend of mine ask me about it.
Horror stories, and you will see that.
Leo are happy-shallow they just wanna have a good time.
In other way .. scorpios is all about to go deep.
They always wanna "know" and will ask why? It's not just love...they wanna know why...how...and all thing.
Leo are the heart... scorpios are something else ?.
They just can't be together . They are a match who made in hell.
.
And if you ask why did his wives did that to themselves?
I don't know why tbh.
But Sylvia killed her self because he cheated on her.
Poor woman .
The other one I think she just could not handle the guilt ..I don't know.
But even the son of Sylvia killed himself a few years ago. ):
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Coulda sworn... :/
@tiziani I appreciate this post.
I've noticed when I needed him most, he wasn't there, not talking about good times either. Before we married, we did everything together. We were inseparable. I come from a traditional upbringing. Southern parents. The same for him.(I'll expound on that later) When we were a part, he told me his every move and vice versa. He did everything he needed to do to make that trust stuck. I paid it back tenfold. Yeah we had arguments, talked it out, laughed it off and was on the next.
After marriage was when it changed. When I had my high points, the first person I wanted to know was my husband. He wasn't so enthused. I'm the celebratory type, so when he's accomplish something, I made a big deal of it. He told me no one ever made him feel this special and that's what he always loved about me.
I'm not gonna draw this out. At the end of the day, he said it was my ex, that passed years before we caught up, that made him angry. In his words, I didn't praise him but I had nothing bad to say about him either. When we talked about past relationships, he was surprised I didn't have many. He had a lot of experience of fuckery in that department. And he had a lot of bad things to say about his exes, rightfully so. Each of them had babies on him, he took care of them and found they weren't his. 3 times. He went thru a lot. The last instance, we were together when we found out about his daughter not being his.
I'll stop now.
I've noticed when I needed him most, he wasn't there, not talking about good times either. Before we married, we did everything together. We were inseparable. I come from a traditional upbringing. Southern parents. The same for him.(I'll expound on that later) When we were a part, he told me his every move and vice versa. He did everything he needed to do to make that trust stuck. I paid it back tenfold. Yeah we had arguments, talked it out, laughed it off and was on the next.
After marriage was when it changed. When I had my high points, the first person I wanted to know was my husband. He wasn't so enthused. I'm the celebratory type, so when he's accomplish something, I made a big deal of it. He told me no one ever made him feel this special and that's what he always loved about me.
I'm not gonna draw this out. At the end of the day, he said it was my ex, that passed years before we caught up, that made him angry. In his words, I didn't praise him but I had nothing bad to say about him either. When we talked about past relationships, he was surprised I didn't have many. He had a lot of experience of fuckery in that department. And he had a lot of bad things to say about his exes, rightfully so. Each of them had babies on him, he took care of them and found they weren't his. 3 times. He went thru a lot. The last instance, we were together when we found out about his daughter not being his.
I'll stop now.
Posted by EveryOunceI can say I saw red flags and had a grown up discussions about it. He had a way of reassuring me that's not what it was. I'm a person of action, after a while his actions wasn't adding up. You can make your mouth say anything. This was after we married.
Sag moons optimism is often a blessing and a curse. You fall in love with the idea of a person instead of truly seeing them for who they truly are. Because of this sunny outlook on life you run into people like the Scorpio who take advantage of your kindness, forgiveness and naiveness and suck the happiness from you until there is nothing left.
I am pretty sure there were many red flags before you decided to leave but you easily forgive and live and let live attitude kept you in a situation much longer than you should have been. Keep your head up and learn from this situation .
Posted by tizianiThat was supposed to say He wasn't there for some good times I wanted to share with him.Posted by mzmeeFair enough. I hear you.
@tiziani I appreciate this post.
I've noticed when I needed him most, he wasn't there, not talking about good times either. Before we married, we did everything together. We were inseparable. I come from a traditional upbringing. Southern parents. The same for him.(I'll expound on that later) When we were a part, he told me his every move and vice versa. He did everything he needed to do to make that trust stuck. I paid it back tenfold. Yeah we had arguments, talked it out, laughed it off and was on the next.
After marriage was when it changed. When I had my high points, the first person I wanted to know was my husband. He wasn't so enthused. I'm the celebratory type, so when he's accomplish something, I made a big deal of it. He told me no one ever made him feel this special and that's what he always loved about me.
I'm not gonna draw this out. At the end of the day, he said it was my ex, that passed years before we caught up, that made him angry. In his words, I didn't praise him but I had nothing bad to say about him either. When we talked about past relationships, he was surprised I didn't have many. He had a lot of experience of fuckery in that department. And he had a lot of bad things to say about his exes, rightfully so. Each of them had babies on him, he took care of them and found they weren't his. 3 times. He went thru a lot. The last instance, we were together when we found out about his daughter not being his.
I'll stop now.
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Posted by tctaTHIS "when you love someone so much but you know you gotta let them go cause its not reciprocated is a fucked up feeling".
Yes ma'am because I woke up feeling down as ever. It's eating me up because I feel like I have no one to really talk to. I was told it would be this way, meaning what I'm feeling, before time. I needed that vent on here. A lot of people make it seem as if I don't have the right to feel bad. P-Angel made that a confirmation. When I filed, I didn't want to but I know I needed to. When you love someone so much but you know you gotta let them go cause its not reciprocated is a fucked up feeling.
I had friends telling me I had no right to feel bad when half of them was in my shoes. I don't get it.
Yes it is and you have the right to feel as bad as you need to feel for as long as you need to feel it in order to get over this MF who isn't all that anyway ... I try to force myself to think about all the bad stuff - yes, of course the good stuff pokes it's ugly head through but ya gotta keep trying to push that out cause the bad stuff is all him too and you want something as close to 100% good as you can get it and he aint' it !
Yes. What I went thru just told me it wasn't real. I can respect that. I'll do what I need to get this out my system. I feel a little better today after venting here. Yesterday was bad for me emotionally.
Posted by mzmeeYes. What I went thru just told me it wasn't real. I can respect that. I'll do what I need to get this out my system. I feel a little better today after venting here. Yesterday was bad for me emotionally.Posted by tctaTHIS "when you love someone so much but you know you gotta let them go cause its not reciprocated is a fucked up feeling".
Yes ma'am because I woke up feeling down as ever. It's eating me up because I feel like I have no one to really talk to. I was told it would be this way, meaning what I'm feeling, before time. I needed that vent on here. A lot of people make it seem as if I don't have the right to feel bad. P-Angel made that a confirmation. When I filed, I didn't want to but I know I needed to. When you love someone so much but you know you gotta let them go cause its not reciprocated is a fucked up feeling.
I had friends telling me I had no right to feel bad when half of them was in my shoes. I don't get it.
Yes it is and you have the right to feel as bad as you need to feel for as long as you need to feel it in order to get over this MF who isn't all that anyway ... I try to force myself to think about all the bad stuff - yes, of course the good stuff pokes it's ugly head through but ya gotta keep trying to push that out cause the bad stuff is all him too and you want something as close to 100% good as you can get it and he aint' it !
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yes and know that you will have days like that ... invest your love into you and your child now and try to find sunshine daily as much as possible until the day it comes back out in full glory ...
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lmao just lmao @ the female being the one to initiate divorce.
it will always be in the man's favor. he can still mack. you are going to be a cum dumpster for years to come, possibly rest of your life.
your overlords programmed you. You listened to the devil and now you must lay in the bed YOU made.
I'm at fault because I filed some papers when he was staying with her at her mother's house? The only devil was his actions. It was over.
Oh. I see how that goes. Gotcha. I'm not the type to dick jump. I'm no one's cum dumpster. Got the wrong one suga.
Posted by tizianiI didn't mean to put that out there as the glue that held us together was me supporting him thru bad times. I just noticed he no longer cared when I needed him. There were a few times when I had high points and he wasn't there.Posted by DivaCanLeoPosted by tizianiI don't get this quote so you don't help your mate or husband when they're down? That's it's purposefully done to keep them down.
I read the thread without replying for days because I wouldn't know what to say other than from my point of view.
I wouldn't choose to be in a relationship just because someone was there for me when I'm down. It's a fallacy to believe that your true friends or supporters show themselves when you're down. That's just easier to believe because negative feelings tend to be more memorable, so it's hard to forget who showed you a helping hand and who didn't when you're all messed up, vulnerable with no place to hide.
But no one ever talks about the risk associated with that: some people need you to be down before they are ever there for you, and they (whether consciously or not) live to keep you in that position. It's their reason for being. They'll hug you with comfort until you've lost your wings and dependent on them.
What I believe IS true is that people's real spirit shows under pressure. High points in relationships can be just as much pressure for some people as low points. You've been at a lot where you found out your partner bailed under the pressure of your parents illness, I've been in relationships where I found out the pressure of things going well, with no arguments just revealed the side of my partner that just had to screw something up for the sake of an argument and attention.
Remember how people treat you when you're doing well. That's just as revealing, and unfortunately it's easier to forget.
All that to say: take it with perspective in time. It's normal to feel hurt, betrayed. I wouldn't want to see the other person happy in their new life, if I was in your position. I guess that makes me immature. But how you choose to let these crappy times define your outlook or worldview is up to you, and your choice. I'll die before I ever turn jaded to relationships.
Really? So what are you supposed to do watch them suffer?
I'm there for people I care about when they're down. That's no reason to be in a committed relationship with each other. That's all I'm saying. It doesn't mean enough to me if we're a pain in the neck to each other when things are going well. I've been with people who always need a new "crisis" every week just to feel like we have a relationship (drama queens).
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He was once transparent with his feelings, after a while, he wouldn't talk. All because he said he couldn't take me being proposed to. That's what I didn't get. We moved north years ago. I tried to keep in touch with him and left messages and got my ass handed to me by my dad when he saw the phone bill. He never returned my calls. Moving to a new place, starting over with new friends and losing my boyfriend was depressing at that time (I was so young lol). My parents started a new life in another state. He said I was supposed to find him. He said he moved up here because he found out I was in this city and was hoping to catch up with me. He didn't return my calls because he didn't want to be a debby downer because he thought I was living the happy life. Even tho I didn't have another boyfriend until I was in my 20's. So that's where I failed. I moved up here and forgot all about him.
Posted by mzmeeMy divorce decree has (and he DIDN'T contest it) alienation of affection and adultery. I am PROUD of these as it's written in black and white!
And to answer your question:
Filing for divorce requires grounds. You can file for a no-fault divorce after six-month separation if you’re both in agreement that your marriage is over, and you don't necessarily have to live in separate residences. You can also file on one of nine different fault grounds, including desertion, adultery or addiction.
I feel for you, as Piscean I empathize and sympathize. "God has closed this door for you and will blow one WIDE open for you!" Cyber hugs!
Love,
Eva
Posted by DonJohnI don't know if you've been following my posts. I was actually willing to work it out. You're right, I pulled the plug because HE didn't care. It wasn't a knee jerk reaction, him moving out when he was caught was the knee jerk reaction. It took me some time to even finally come to the conclusion that this wasn't what he really wanted. I mean, it shows. See—Posted by mzmeePosted by DonJohn
lmao just lmao @ the female being the one to initiate divorce.
it will always be in the man's favor. he can still mack. you are going to be a cum dumpster for years to come, possibly rest of your life.
your overlords programmed you. You listened to the devil and now you must lay in the bed YOU made.
I'm at fault because I filed some papers when he was staying with her at her mother's house? The only devil was his actions. It was over.
Oh. I see how that goes. Gotcha. I'm not the type to dick jump. I'm no one's cum dumpster. Got the wrong one suga.
just because he cheated, doesn't mean you have to file divorce papers. this is a programmed reaction.
you are still at fault for this kneejerk reaction. you are the one that ended the marriage. it's over the top and completely unnecessary.
too much history and examples around the world to back me on this. you can hold back your tears and say you are happy you made the right choice and .... let me stop you right there. This choice was made for you by someone that doesn't even care about you.click to expand
Posted by Impulsv4 years. He proposed after our first year being together. There were some things that set us back (his father and aunt passing, mother and brother being in the hospital, paternity situations) but we got over it and the show went on.Posted by mzmeeHow long did u date before getting married?Posted by EveryOunceI can say I saw red flags and had a grown up discussions about it. He had a way of reassuring me that's not what it was. I'm a person of action, after a while his actions wasn't adding up. You can make your mouth say anything. This was after we married.
Sag moons optimism is often a blessing and a curse. You fall in love with the idea of a person instead of truly seeing them for who they truly are. Because of this sunny outlook on life you run into people like the Scorpio who take advantage of your kindness, forgiveness and naiveness and suck the happiness from you until there is nothing left.
I am pretty sure there were many red flags before you decided to leave but you easily forgive and live and let live attitude kept you in a situation much longer than you should have been. Keep your head up and learn from this situation .
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Posted by mzmeeI am sorry but he apparently didn't want to be there to share. Could not you see that?Posted by tizianiThat was supposed to say He wasn't there for some good times I wanted to share with him.Posted by mzmeeFair enough. I hear you.
@tiziani I appreciate this post.
I've noticed when I needed him most, he wasn't there, not talking about good times either. Before we married, we did everything together. We were inseparable. I come from a traditional upbringing. Southern parents. The same for him.(I'll expound on that later) When we were a part, he told me his every move and vice versa. He did everything he needed to do to make that trust stuck. I paid it back tenfold. Yeah we had arguments, talked it out, laughed it off and was on the next.
After marriage was when it changed. When I had my high points, the first person I wanted to know was my husband. He wasn't so enthused. I'm the celebratory type, so when he's accomplish something, I made a big deal of it. He told me no one ever made him feel this special and that's what he always loved about me.
I'm not gonna draw this out. At the end of the day, he said it was my ex, that passed years before we caught up, that made him angry. In his words, I didn't praise him but I had nothing bad to say about him either. When we talked about past relationships, he was surprised I didn't have many. He had a lot of experience of fuckery in that department. And he had a lot of bad things to say about his exes, rightfully so. Each of them had babies on him, he took care of them and found they weren't his. 3 times. He went thru a lot. The last instance, we were together when we found out about his daughter not being his.
I'll stop now.
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Or didn't want to see that?
Posted by GemitatiPosted by mzmeeI am sorry but he apparently didn't want to be there to share. Could not you see that?Posted by tizianiThat was supposed to say He wasn't there for some good times I wanted to share with him.Posted by mzmeeFair enough. I hear you.
@tiziani I appreciate this post.
I've noticed when I needed him most, he wasn't there, not talking about good times either. Before we married, we did everything together. We were inseparable. I come from a traditional upbringing. Southern parents. The same for him.(I'll expound on that later) When we were a part, he told me his every move and vice versa. He did everything he needed to do to make that trust stuck. I paid it back tenfold. Yeah we had arguments, talked it out, laughed it off and was on the next.
After marriage was when it changed. When I had my high points, the first person I wanted to know was my husband. He wasn't so enthused. I'm the celebratory type, so when he's accomplish something, I made a big deal of it. He told me no one ever made him feel this special and that's what he always loved about me.
I'm not gonna draw this out. At the end of the day, he said it was my ex, that passed years before we caught up, that made him angry. In his words, I didn't praise him but I had nothing bad to say about him either. When we talked about past relationships, he was surprised I didn't have many. He had a lot of experience of fuckery in that department. And he had a lot of bad things to say about his exes, rightfully so. Each of them had babies on him, he took care of them and found they weren't his. 3 times. He went thru a lot. The last instance, we were together when we found out about his daughter not being his.
I'll stop now.
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I get it now. lol.
When I asked I wished he didn't play games about it. This was all a game to him. I don't need mind games.
Posted by mzmeeIf you didn't pulled the plug would you be still together? And he would be still seeing that woman?Posted by DonJohnI don't know if you've been following my posts. I was actually willing to work it out. You're right, I pulled the plug because HE didn't care. It wasn't a knee jerk reaction, him moving out when he was caught was the knee jerk reaction. It took me some time to even finally come to the conclusion that this wasn't what he really wanted. I mean, it shows. See—Posted by mzmeePosted by DonJohn
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lmao just lmao @ the female being the one to initiate divorce.
it will always be in the man's favor. he can still mack. you are going to be a cum dumpster for years to come, possibly rest of your life.
your overlords programmed you. You listened to the devil and now you must lay in the bed YOU made.
I'm at fault because I filed some papers when he was staying with her at her mother's house? The only devil was his actions. It was over.
Oh. I see how that goes. Gotcha. I'm not the type to dick jump. I'm no one's cum dumpster. Got the wrong one suga.
just because he cheated, doesn't mean you have to file divorce papers. this is a programmed reaction.
you are still at fault for this kneejerk reaction. you are the one that ended the marriage. it's over the top and completely unnecessary.
too much history and examples around the world to back me on this. you can hold back your tears and say you are happy you made the right choice and .... let me stop you right there. This choice was made for you by someone that doesn't even care about you.
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Posted by mzmeeIs he a sociopath?Posted by GemitatiPosted by mzmeeI am sorry but he apparently didn't want to be there to share. Could not you see that?Posted by tizianiThat was supposed to say He wasn't there for some good times I wanted to share with him.Posted by mzmeeFair enough. I hear you.
@tiziani I appreciate this post.
I've noticed when I needed him most, he wasn't there, not talking about good times either. Before we married, we did everything together. We were inseparable. I come from a traditional upbringing. Southern parents. The same for him.(I'll expound on that later) When we were a part, he told me his every move and vice versa. He did everything he needed to do to make that trust stuck. I paid it back tenfold. Yeah we had arguments, talked it out, laughed it off and was on the next.
After marriage was when it changed. When I had my high points, the first person I wanted to know was my husband. He wasn't so enthused. I'm the celebratory type, so when he's accomplish something, I made a big deal of it. He told me no one ever made him feel this special and that's what he always loved about me.
I'm not gonna draw this out. At the end of the day, he said it was my ex, that passed years before we caught up, that made him angry. In his words, I didn't praise him but I had nothing bad to say about him either. When we talked about past relationships, he was surprised I didn't have many. He had a lot of experience of fuckery in that department. And he had a lot of bad things to say about his exes, rightfully so. Each of them had babies on him, he took care of them and found they weren't his. 3 times. He went thru a lot. The last instance, we were together when we found out about his daughter not being his.
I'll stop now.
Or didn't want to see that?
I get it now. lol.
When I asked I wished he didn't play games about it. This was all a game to him. I don't need mind games.
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Playing games is what they do and they must win! So him marrying her could be his revange for your 'misbehavior' as divorce filing.
Posted by DonJohnPosted by mzmeePosted by DonJohnI don't know if you've been following my posts. I was actually willing to work it out. You're right, I pulled the plug because HE didn't care. It wasn't a knee jerk reaction, him moving out when he was caught was the knee jerk reaction. It took me some time to even finally come to the conclusion that this wasn't what he really wanted. I mean, it shows. See—Posted by mzmeePosted by DonJohn
lmao just lmao @ the female being the one to initiate divorce.
it will always be in the man's favor. he can still mack. you are going to be a cum dumpster for years to come, possibly rest of your life.
your overlords programmed you. You listened to the devil and now you must lay in the bed YOU made.
I'm at fault because I filed some papers when he was staying with her at her mother's house? The only devil was his actions. It was over.
Oh. I see how that goes. Gotcha. I'm not the type to dick jump. I'm no one's cum dumpster. Got the wrong one suga.
just because he cheated, doesn't mean you have to file divorce papers. this is a programmed reaction.
you are still at fault for this kneejerk reaction. you are the one that ended the marriage. it's over the top and completely unnecessary.
too much history and examples around the world to back me on this. you can hold back your tears and say you are happy you made the right choice and .... let me stop you right there. This choice was made for you by someone that doesn't even care about you.
men lie. women lie. facts don't lie. the only fact here is you filed the papers. you can make up lies to support your side as much as you like.
i judge by action and action only.
You are the one that pulled the plug. I care not anything else. You are trying to say you are the righteous one blah blah. it's only natural.
at the end of the day, when rubber meets the road, you are the one that ended the marriage by filing those papers.
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gtfoh!!! I loved him less when I waited on him to get his shit together. I don't play games. Don't need to. I don't need to lie, Have no reason to. One thing you don't know is I'm very real about mine. My daddy taught me VERY well honey. I'll tell you if I've been a piece of shit and if I wasn't. In this instant, I wasn't a piece of shit.
Take this: calling your husband because he is supposed to keep his baby on his day off while I work, only for him to pick up and listen to him say in the background "fuck her, it's me and you now" to another woman.
I don't have the right to file? He showed me who he was. You got that fuckboy mentality. You need to man the fuck up.
Posted by DonJohnI M normally not taking woman's side but this was moronic post! And the one where you say he loved her more...hahaha please spare me such love anytime you are about to love me like that!!!
lmao just lmao @ the female being the one to initiate divorce.
it will always be in the man's favor. he can still mack. you are going to be a cum dumpster for years to come, possibly rest of your life.
your overlords programmed you. You listened to the devil and now you must lay in the bed YOU made.
Posted by GemitatiWhen we agreed to work it out, he never came home. He didn't call and didn't return my calls. I missed work a few times because he refused to get his baby and didn't answer his phone.Posted by mzmeeIf you didn't pulled the plug would you be still together? And he would be still seeing that woman?Posted by DonJohnI don't know if you've been following my posts. I was actually willing to work it out. You're right, I pulled the plug because HE didn't care. It wasn't a knee jerk reaction, him moving out when he was caught was the knee jerk reaction. It took me some time to even finally come to the conclusion that this wasn't what he really wanted. I mean, it shows. See—Posted by mzmeePosted by DonJohn
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lmao just lmao @ the female being the one to initiate divorce.
it will always be in the man's favor. he can still mack. you are going to be a cum dumpster for years to come, possibly rest of your life.
your overlords programmed you. You listened to the devil and now you must lay in the bed YOU made.
I'm at fault because I filed some papers when he was staying with her at her mother's house? The only devil was his actions. It was over.
Oh. I see how that goes. Gotcha. I'm not the type to dick jump. I'm no one's cum dumpster. Got the wrong one suga.
just because he cheated, doesn't mean you have to file divorce papers. this is a programmed reaction.
you are still at fault for this kneejerk reaction. you are the one that ended the marriage. it's over the top and completely unnecessary.
too much history and examples around the world to back me on this. you can hold back your tears and say you are happy you made the right choice and .... let me stop you right there. This choice was made for you by someone that doesn't even care about you.
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Posted by mzmeeI just don't get if he moves out - why he didn't file for divorce?Posted by GemitatiWhen we agreed to work it out, he never came home. He didn't call and didn't return my calls. I missed work a few times because he refused to get his baby and didn't answer his phone.Posted by mzmeeIf you didn't pulled the plug would you be still together? And he would be still seeing that woman?Posted by DonJohnI don't know if you've been following my posts. I was actually willing to work it out. You're right, I pulled the plug because HE didn't care. It wasn't a knee jerk reaction, him moving out when he was caught was the knee jerk reaction. It took me some time to even finally come to the conclusion that this wasn't what he really wanted. I mean, it shows. See—Posted by mzmeePosted by DonJohn
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lmao just lmao @ the female being the one to initiate divorce.
it will always be in the man's favor. he can still mack. you are going to be a cum dumpster for years to come, possibly rest of your life.
your overlords programmed you. You listened to the devil and now you must lay in the bed YOU made.
I'm at fault because I filed some papers when he was staying with her at her mother's house? The only devil was his actions. It was over.
Oh. I see how that goes. Gotcha. I'm not the type to dick jump. I'm no one's cum dumpster. Got the wrong one suga.
just because he cheated, doesn't mean you have to file divorce papers. this is a programmed reaction.
you are still at fault for this kneejerk reaction. you are the one that ended the marriage. it's over the top and completely unnecessary.
too much history and examples around the world to back me on this. you can hold back your tears and say you are happy you made the right choice and .... let me stop you right there. This choice was made for you by someone that doesn't even care about you.
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He wanted a trial sleep over?
Posted by DonJohnHave you ever been married to a woman who moved with another man?Posted by ImpulsvPosted by DonJohnUgh I think he pulled the plug when he moved in to another woman's house prior to divorce!!!Posted by mzmeePosted by DonJohnI don't know if you've been following my posts. I was actually willing to work it out. You're right, I pulled the plug because HE didn't care. It wasn't a knee jerk reaction, him moving out when he was caught was the knee jerk reaction. It took me some time to even finally come to the conclusion that this wasn't what he really wanted. I mean, it shows. See—Posted by mzmeePosted by DonJohn
lmao just lmao @ the female being the one to initiate divorce.
it will always be in the man's favor. he can still mack. you are going to be a cum dumpster for years to come, possibly rest of your life.
your overlords programmed you. You listened to the devil and now you must lay in the bed YOU made.
I'm at fault because I filed some papers when he was staying with her at her mother's house? The only devil was his actions. It was over.
Oh. I see how that goes. Gotcha. I'm not the type to dick jump. I'm no one's cum dumpster. Got the wrong one suga.
just because he cheated, doesn't mean you have to file divorce papers. this is a programmed reaction.
you are still at fault for this kneejerk reaction. you are the one that ended the marriage. it's over the top and completely unnecessary.
too much history and examples around the world to back me on this. you can hold back your tears and say you are happy you made the right choice and .... let me stop you right there. This choice was made for you by someone that doesn't even care about you.
men lie. women lie. facts don't lie. the only fact here is you filed the papers. you can make up lies to support your side as much as you like.
i judge by action and action only.
You are the one that pulled the plug. I care not anything else. You are trying to say you are the righteous one blah blah. it's only natural.
at the end of the day, when rubber meets the road, you are the one that ended the marriage by filing those papers.
you loved him less than he loved you. regardless of what you say, he wasn't the one that snuffed out the heartbeat of your marriage. you did.
He loved her less by disrespecting her rather than attempt to work things out!
if it was over, he would've filed divorce papers then. but he didn't.
i don't always buy the woman's side of the story. the first thing after she files the papers is that she wants to create a story that puts her at the absolute righteous one.
it's a woman's coping mechanism.
HOWEVER even if that is true, i still don't believe in divorce. Maybe it could've been worked out. However we will never know since OP pulled the plug.
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And refuses to communicate with you so you don't know if she is coming back or gone forever...have you—
Posted by mzmeeIgnore this person they're just trying to get a rise out of you.Posted by DonJohnPosted by mzmeePosted by DonJohnI don't know if you've been following my posts. I was actually willing to work it out. You're right, I pulled the plug because HE didn't care. It wasn't a knee jerk reaction, him moving out when he was caught was the knee jerk reaction. It took me some time to even finally come to the conclusion that this wasn't what he really wanted. I mean, it shows. See—Posted by mzmeePosted by DonJohn
lmao just lmao @ the female being the one to initiate divorce.
it will always be in the man's favor. he can still mack. you are going to be a cum dumpster for years to come, possibly rest of your life.
your overlords programmed you. You listened to the devil and now you must lay in the bed YOU made.
I'm at fault because I filed some papers when he was staying with her at her mother's house? The only devil was his actions. It was over.
Oh. I see how that goes. Gotcha. I'm not the type to dick jump. I'm no one's cum dumpster. Got the wrong one suga.
just because he cheated, doesn't mean you have to file divorce papers. this is a programmed reaction.
you are still at fault for this kneejerk reaction. you are the one that ended the marriage. it's over the top and completely unnecessary.
too much history and examples around the world to back me on this. you can hold back your tears and say you are happy you made the right choice and .... let me stop you right there. This choice was made for you by someone that doesn't even care about you.
men lie. women lie. facts don't lie. the only fact here is you filed the papers. you can make up lies to support your side as much as you like.
i judge by action and action only.
You are the one that pulled the plug. I care not anything else. You are trying to say you are the righteous one blah blah. it's only natural.
at the end of the day, when rubber meets the road, you are the one that ended the marriage by filing those papers.
you loved him less than he loved you. regardless of what you say. i only see your act.
gtfoh!!! I loved him less when I waited on him to get his shit together. I don't play games. Don't need to. I don't need to lie, Have no reason to. One thing you don't know is I'm very real about mine. My daddy taught me VERY well honey. I'll tell you if I've been a piece of shit and if I wasn't. In this instant, I wasn't a piece of shit.
Take this: calling your husband because he is supposed to keep him on his day off while I work, only for him to pick up and listen to him say in the background "fuck her, it's me and you now" to another woman.
I don't have the right to file? He showed me who he was. You got that fuckboy mentality. You need to man the fuck up.
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I just spoke with a 74 y old woman who is still in love with her ex whom she divorced forever long ago.
And he was an anuser too...but she is still loving him. And won't admit one fault of hers in this divorce. She did nothing wrong!
That's what mind blowing! Women never wrong! Not one ever done a thing to provoke divorce! Maybe there is a problem...
If I will ever be divorced I know too well why! So I am not getting be a Saint who's marriage failed. So I am sure none of these women.
Like have you always refused man bj or wore pjs to bed? There you go'
My friend got married. 2 kids. He is a truck driver. Comes home to his wife watching a to show, kids on the floor and telling him find some food in the fridge!
And then after making a dinner he washes dishes and playing with kids while her show is continue.
Do you think she will tell about it? Guess again!
And he was an anuser too...but she is still loving him. And won't admit one fault of hers in this divorce. She did nothing wrong!
That's what mind blowing! Women never wrong! Not one ever done a thing to provoke divorce! Maybe there is a problem...
If I will ever be divorced I know too well why! So I am not getting be a Saint who's marriage failed. So I am sure none of these women.
Like have you always refused man bj or wore pjs to bed? There you go'
My friend got married. 2 kids. He is a truck driver. Comes home to his wife watching a to show, kids on the floor and telling him find some food in the fridge!
And then after making a dinner he washes dishes and playing with kids while her show is continue.
Do you think she will tell about it? Guess again!
Posted by DonJohnNo it's not that simple! Who needs marriage like that when he moved out?Posted by GemitatiPosted by DonJohnI M normally not taking woman's side but this was moronic post! And the one where you say he loved her more...hahaha please spare me such love anytime you are about to love me like that!!!
lmao just lmao @ the female being the one to initiate divorce.
it will always be in the man's favor. he can still mack. you are going to be a cum dumpster for years to come, possibly rest of your life.
your overlords programmed you. You listened to the devil and now you must lay in the bed YOU made.
he may have broken a promise during the marriage.
she's the one that ended the marriage.
if he loved her less. he would've been the one to end the marriage.
it's very simple.
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Loving her— Are you insane or trolling?
Posted by DonJohnPosted by GemitatiPosted by DonJohnNo it's not that simple! Who needs marriage like that when he moved out?Posted by GemitatiPosted by DonJohnI M normally not taking woman's side but this was moronic post! And the one where you say he loved her more...hahaha please spare me such love anytime you are about to love me like that!!!
lmao just lmao @ the female being the one to initiate divorce.
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it will always be in the man's favor. he can still mack. you are going to be a cum dumpster for years to come, possibly rest of your life.
your overlords programmed you. You listened to the devil and now you must lay in the bed YOU made.
he may have broken a promise during the marriage.
she's the one that ended the marriage.
if he loved her less. he would've been the one to end the marriage.
it's very simple.
Loving her— Are you insane or trolling?
yes a man can cheat and still love his wife. a man can leave and still love his wife. it's not the same as how the female sees love. it doesn't mean he wasn't thinking of coming back. he was obviously angry too.
she made a permanent decision. that is pretty much the worst thing you can do. she loved him less. this is not refutable. the person that ends the marriage is the one that loves less. period.
you are too emotional to have a discussion with.
this is why the female shouldn't make any life changing decisions.
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Posted by DonJohnPosted by mzmeePosted by DonJohnPosted by mzmeePosted by DonJohnI don't know if you've been following my posts. I was actually willing to work it out. You're right, I pulled the plug because HE didn't care. It wasn't a knee jerk reaction, him moving out when he was caught was the knee jerk reaction. It took me some time to even finally come to the conclusion that this wasn't what he really wanted. I mean, it shows. See—Posted by mzmeePosted by DonJohn
lmao just lmao @ the female being the one to initiate divorce.
it will always be in the man's favor. he can still mack. you are going to be a cum dumpster for years to come, possibly rest of your life.
your overlords programmed you. You listened to the devil and now you must lay in the bed YOU made.
I'm at fault because I filed some papers when he was staying with her at her mother's house? The only devil was his actions. It was over.
Oh. I see how that goes. Gotcha. I'm not the type to dick jump. I'm no one's cum dumpster. Got the wrong one suga.
just because he cheated, doesn't mean you have to file divorce papers. this is a programmed reaction.
you are still at fault for this kneejerk reaction. you are the one that ended the marriage. it's over the top and completely unnecessary.
too much history and examples around the world to back me on this. you can hold back your tears and say you are happy you made the right choice and .... let me stop you right there. This choice was made for you by someone that doesn't even care about you.
men lie. women lie. facts don't lie. the only fact here is you filed the papers. you can make up lies to support your side as much as you like.
i judge by action and action only.
You are the one that pulled the plug. I care not anything else. You are trying to say you are the righteous one blah blah. it's only natural.
at the end of the day, when rubber meets the road, you are the one that ended the marriage by filing those papers.
you loved him less than he loved you. regardless of what you say. i only see your act.
gtfoh!!! I loved him less when I waited on him to get his shit together. I don't play games. Don't need to. I don't need to lie, Have no reason to. One thing you don't know is I'm very real about mine. My daddy taught me VERY well honey. I'll tell you if I've been a piece of shit and if I wasn't. In this instant, I wasn't a piece of shit.
Take this: calling your husband because he is supposed to keep him on his day off while I work, only for him to pick up and listen to him say in the background "fuck her, it's me and you now" to another woman.
I don't have the right to file? He showed me who he was. You got that fuckboy mentality. You need to man the fuck up.
there are definite reasons. you are keeping this thread going because you want sympathy this makes you feel better. so it would be best to make urself seem like a saint. u didn't say a single thing u did taht drove him away, did you?
he just woke up one day and decided to leave?
listen, those details don't matter. at all.
someone can say they'll kill you. but when you actually commit the act of murder, you are the one responsible.
you pulled the plug on that marriage. not him. period.
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Reading is fundamental. I actually did.
I don't understand how a past engagement to someone who is now deceased an issue. According to him, I was only supposed to be engaged to him. Nevermind him being in relationships, being engaged, and all that. Nevermind that.
I want to understand his logic on how he came looking for me and at the time I was in a relationship and why he's mad about it. Let it go!!! I never knew he was looking for me. I stopped calling him years ago after he never call me back. Again, we were kids. He moved on and had a fiance, even tho she fucked him over. He moved on. 3 times. I didn't get mad. We both got separated, lived life and found our way back to each other. To me, it was the perfect love story. I mean, how could anyone not fawn over this. lol. I saw the bright side of it. He didn't.
But about my ex. That's what I did wrong. He said I never praised him but I never said anything bad about my ex. That bothered him.
We had a real heated argument about these two situations. This really hurt him. He said that was what pushed him away.
I want to understand his logic on how he came looking for me and at the time I was in a relationship and why he's mad about it. Let it go!!! I never knew he was looking for me. I stopped calling him years ago after he never call me back. Again, we were kids. He moved on and had a fiance, even tho she fucked him over. He moved on. 3 times. I didn't get mad. We both got separated, lived life and found our way back to each other. To me, it was the perfect love story. I mean, how could anyone not fawn over this. lol. I saw the bright side of it. He didn't.
But about my ex. That's what I did wrong. He said I never praised him but I never said anything bad about my ex. That bothered him.
We had a real heated argument about these two situations. This really hurt him. He said that was what pushed him away.
Posted by DonJohnCheat and love I can digest.Posted by GemitatiPosted by DonJohnNo it's not that simple! Who needs marriage like that when he moved out?Posted by GemitatiPosted by DonJohnI M normally not taking woman's side but this was moronic post! And the one where you say he loved her more...hahaha please spare me such love anytime you are about to love me like that!!!
lmao just lmao @ the female being the one to initiate divorce.
it will always be in the man's favor. he can still mack. you are going to be a cum dumpster for years to come, possibly rest of your life.
your overlords programmed you. You listened to the devil and now you must lay in the bed YOU made.
he may have broken a promise during the marriage.
she's the one that ended the marriage.
if he loved her less. he would've been the one to end the marriage.
it's very simple.
Loving her— Are you insane or trolling?
yes a man can cheat and still love his wife. a man can leave and still love his wife. it's not the same as how the female sees love. it doesn't mean he wasn't thinking of coming back. he was obviously angry too.
she made a permanent decision. that is pretty much the worst thing you can do. she loved him less. this is not refutable. the person that ends the marriage is the one that loves less. period.
you are too emotional to have a discussion with.
this is why the female shouldn't make any life changing decisions.
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But leave and love - excuse me!
By leaving man shows that he doesn't consider her wellbeing.
When he is cheating he might do this for 1000 different reasons and satisfy his not available at home urges hoping wife never finds out.
By leaving he is clearly dismissing her everything! How is it love?
When he is cheating he might do this for 1000 different reasons and satisfy his not available at home urges hoping wife never finds out.
By leaving he is clearly dismissing her everything! How is it love?
Posted by ImpulsvI'm gonna expound on why I mentioned our upbringing. My parents marriage lasted until My father passed. Speaking to my father about life and relationships and gender roles I appreciate. I get it.
You make no sense dj
So she should just stay n take being cheated on
Over n over n over.
I was actually willing to work it out. Ok, he cheated. Let's talk about figure this out and keep going. I don't wanna play the blame game. Let's be adults who genuinely love each other sit down and sort this out. I was willing to do that.
My dad told me, being angry and not giving a fuck are two different extremes. I get he was angry even if I don't understand why but ok, those are his feelings and I can't tell him how to feel, I'll show him he has no reason to feel that way. The blatant disrespect, disregard for our son, he wasn't angry, he didn't give a fuck. One thing my dad did tell me, him and my mom was in a rough patch a few times. She filed for divorce and he was staying with another woman. He said that woke him up and He tore ass back to his wife to make things better. He admitted it, he was angry that didn't mean he didn't give a fuck. He said to me if you feel you can't take the disrespect and how he's treating you over some shit he's supposed to let go, file. For your own sanity. That should be his hint to either shit or get off the pot. If that don't wake his ass up, I'm sorry baby, he doesn't care.
My dad was right..
Posted by DonJohnYou're really not a good reader, are you—Posted by mzmeePosted by ImpulsvI'm gonna expound on why I mentioned our upbringing. My parents marriage lasted until My father passed. Speaking to my father about life and relationships and gender roles I appreciate. I get it.
You make no sense dj
So she should just stay n take being cheated on
Over n over n over.
I was actually willing to work it out. Ok, he cheated. Let's talk about figure this out and keep going. I don't wanna play the blame game. Let's be adults who genuinely love each other sit down and sort this out. I was willing to do that.
My dad told me, being angry and not giving a fuck are two different extremes. I get he was angry even if I don't understand why but ok, those are his feelings and I can't tell him how to feel, I'll show him he has no reason to feel that way. The blatant disrespect, disregard for our son, he wasn't angry, he didn't give a fuck. One thing my dad did tell me, him and my mom was in a rough patch a few times. She filed for divorce and he was staying with another woman. He said that woke him up and He tore ass back to his wife to make things better. He admitted it, he was angry that didn't mean he didn't give a fuck. He said to me if you feel you can't take the disrespect and how he's treating you over some shit he's supposed to let go, file. For your own sanity. That should be his hint to either shit or get off the pot. If that don't wake his ass up, I'm sorry baby, he doesn't care.
My dad was right..
what your dad and your mom through is VERY typical of a marriage.
Your dad cheated and stayed with another woman.
They ended up working it out and stayed the course till the end.
you ended it.
that's the difference.
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Posted by DonJohnPosted by mzmeePosted by DonJohnYou're really not a good reader, are you—Posted by mzmeePosted by ImpulsvI'm gonna expound on why I mentioned our upbringing. My parents marriage lasted until My father passed. Speaking to my father about life and relationships and gender roles I appreciate. I get it.
You make no sense dj
So she should just stay n take being cheated on
Over n over n over.
I was actually willing to work it out. Ok, he cheated. Let's talk about figure this out and keep going. I don't wanna play the blame game. Let's be adults who genuinely love each other sit down and sort this out. I was willing to do that.
My dad told me, being angry and not giving a fuck are two different extremes. I get he was angry even if I don't understand why but ok, those are his feelings and I can't tell him how to feel, I'll show him he has no reason to feel that way. The blatant disrespect, disregard for our son, he wasn't angry, he didn't give a fuck. One thing my dad did tell me, him and my mom was in a rough patch a few times. She filed for divorce and he was staying with another woman. He said that woke him up and He tore ass back to his wife to make things better. He admitted it, he was angry that didn't mean he didn't give a fuck. He said to me if you feel you can't take the disrespect and how he's treating you over some shit he's supposed to let go, file. For your own sanity. That should be his hint to either shit or get off the pot. If that don't wake his ass up, I'm sorry baby, he doesn't care.
My dad was right..
what your dad and your mom through is VERY typical of a marriage.
Your dad cheated and stayed with another woman.
They ended up working it out and stayed the course till the end.
you ended it.
that's the difference.
are you talking about your dad and mom?
" One thing my dad did tell me, him and my mom was in a rough patch a few times. She filed for divorce and he was staying with another woman. He said that woke him up and He tore ass back to his wife to make things better."
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Now read that to yourself. Out loud this time so you can hear the words I typed.
Posted by mzmeeHe is just stubborn and will fight for his 'right' to the end even if he realizes his opinion doesn't explain nor justifies anything!Posted by DonJohnYou're really not a good reader, are you—Posted by mzmeePosted by ImpulsvI'm gonna expound on why I mentioned our upbringing. My parents marriage lasted until My father passed. Speaking to my father about life and relationships and gender roles I appreciate. I get it.
You make no sense dj
So she should just stay n take being cheated on
Over n over n over.
I was actually willing to work it out. Ok, he cheated. Let's talk about figure this out and keep going. I don't wanna play the blame game. Let's be adults who genuinely love each other sit down and sort this out. I was willing to do that.
My dad told me, being angry and not giving a fuck are two different extremes. I get he was angry even if I don't understand why but ok, those are his feelings and I can't tell him how to feel, I'll show him he has no reason to feel that way. The blatant disrespect, disregard for our son, he wasn't angry, he didn't give a fuck. One thing my dad did tell me, him and my mom was in a rough patch a few times. She filed for divorce and he was staying with another woman. He said that woke him up and He tore ass back to his wife to make things better. He admitted it, he was angry that didn't mean he didn't give a fuck. He said to me if you feel you can't take the disrespect and how he's treating you over some shit he's supposed to let go, file. For your own sanity. That should be his hint to either shit or get off the pot. If that don't wake his ass up, I'm sorry baby, he doesn't care.
My dad was right..
what your dad and your mom through is VERY typical of a marriage.
Your dad cheated and stayed with another woman.
They ended up working it out and stayed the course till the end.
you ended it.
that's the difference.
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For the same reason he stops answering to my posts.
I can't wait to hear what's he going to say about leaving and loving still?
Lol
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