FYI - It's not easy dating (Page 2)

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What do you do for a living that you can spend that much just on dating?

Takes women out to 4 Star Michelin resteraunts...lives in a studio 😂

Also $ 200 for dinner but $ 100 hotel??

“You wanna stop at the Motel 6 babby?”

lol does anybody read ? he uses Priceline - I've gotten 5 star hotels for $ 50 - where is your astrology - Sag guys can be very sweet and generous - personal experience as well - ya'll need to just let this man have his piece - and eat it too LOL

Damn what hotels are these?? Motel 6 is minimum $ 100+ on Priceline...Expedia...hotels.com...etc etc.

Seriously share your secrets 🙏

I’m always booking weekend getaways and can never find rooms that cheap.

Me my ex husband used to get 5 star hotels in dc all the time for like $ 50-60 bucks - go to the website and work it

How long ago was that?

I think prices must’ve increased exponentially or dc is just awesomely cheap.

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DC/NoVa/Maryland has ALWAYS been very expensive.

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@pinkbird03

I wouldn't consider myself a fuck boy. I am upfront (I just edited my OP)... I just want fun. I like the company of women. the complexities, the sexuality, I just don't want a serious relationship. They always start the honey, babe, good morning, good night shit, and I end it for that reason.

I think the problem is I do sweet shit... send you lunch, buy you medication, open doors, pay for outings, etc. I think they aren't used to men being attentive. I'm just noticing and acting accordingly, I won't stop being a good guy just bc we are only having sex.

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sooooo... I should sit at home alone for a year? I've never dated more than 4 girls at once... Right now its actually only one... an aqua(we haven't had sex yet, but she SAID she's cool with being FWB)... so to keep myself from focusing on one, and throwing a mixed signal. I have to date a few more. I'm meeting an aries for coffee Sunday, the girl I went out with tonight (shes a gemini) she's ok...I might keep playing the Cap by ear.. but no more dinners for her! I can save that money for another one.

Where do you meet them, on a dating site?

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No not all of them. I have bartender friends so I meet a few dancing and drinking in bars... or telling stories.

First of all. I don’t live in a studio 😂 my apartment cost more than most people’s houses around here. I also live near airport so I don’t have to drag myself out of bed at an ungodly hour worse than I have to . Indoor outdoor pool and a nice gym.

I just don’t want people at my place

No I can Priceline pretty cheap. I get 4 Star hotels around here for about 65-75 dollars. Including tax.

Motel six at the counter is 42 dollars... and yuck motels. Ewww

A) I wouldn’t even stay there

B) it’s crazy to have a nice night and pull up to a motel room

C) she can stay there and be comfortable... I’m probably going to find an excuse to leave

D) free room upgrades due to rewards from traveling. SPG, Hilton, radisson I’m gold/platinum.

Yes @theflyingarrow!

Escorts are no fun.... It’s pay for adult play. Plus who needs two professional sex masters. I did bang an escort before accidentally. We hooked up at hotel I was staying at. I was like wow that was great for just meeting. She was like she’s had tons of experience... it didn’t creep me out. I wanted to know more 😂. No judgement zone here. I don’t think I could fully have sex with an active escort.

But back to what you said... right there is No hunting involved. I’d rather one play hard to get.... If I can have sex the first night it’s a complete turn off... I mean I’ll do it, but I’m turned off inside!

If I could find a game changer non serious gf I would probably do it.

I don’t care if she doesn’t make money. I have no problem spending money on a girl I’m actively engaged in spending time with.

Way I look at it she’s technically saving me money. Sure I’ll pay her car payment to give her a break. Buy her some stuff. What’s the big deal?

Even if I spend 1k a month on her I’m still saving some money 🤷🏾‍♂️

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What more goals do you need to accomplish if your already 34 years old🤔

Why haven't you accomplished said goals by middle age. I date guys my age at 24 who Are accomplished in somethings

Well none of your business ... but since you asked

I have accomplished goals... the real estate market I was in crashed and I lost a lot... then lost way more than I should have when I got screwed over by an older business partner, then my ex fiancé had cancer and I put my life on hold. went back to corporate world and licked my wounds.. now I’m going to start something else and move across country.

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What do you do for a living that you can spend that much just on dating?

Takes women out to 4 Star Michelin resteraunts...lives in a studio 😂

Also $ 200 for dinner but $ 100 hotel??

“You wanna stop at the Motel 6 babby?”

lol does anybody read ? he uses Priceline - I've gotten 5 star hotels for $ 50 - where is your astrology - Sag guys can be very sweet and generous - personal experience as well - ya'll need to just let this man have his piece - and eat it too LOL

It’s jokes. If you’re going to be this shameless you’re going to need some broad shoulders.

Hes a 34 year old man who rates women sexually. Not a sweet generous lover. Surely you could find a better cause to defend??

I actually think he's being totally serious LOL

agreed, and i think he is also a bit autistic.

lol - Sags are gregarious, love the party and the attention blah blah - I think he's totally serious and totally honest and upfront with where he's at and what he's NOT looking for - if he can find women who just want to have the good time with him and get it on - why would he not do that ?

i know i date sags most of my life and 2 ltr with sag sun and moon. really interesting perspective on money as in easy. also easy come easy goes.

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You would probably lose your shit with how much I lost when I was 25 yo. Totally bankrupt and blindsided... When you lose the kind of money I lost. Little things don’t bother you any more. It’s the patience to recover and regroup that’s frustrating.

Oh and if I didn’t get the 100k investment from my father at 20. I wouldn’t have gotten there. So no to being a black man being successful in America with socio-economics the way it is.

It takes money to make money.

I tell everybody you need 3 things to be successful.

Time money and talent. You need to create the combination ... hopefully you have the time and talent but you still need the money.

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$ 1500 per month for dates and hotel rooms and there’s nothing to guarantee you actually get sex.

You should just start seeing escorts if your really moving soon, don’t want a commitment, and have issues with clingy women. Seriously it would simplify your life and you would prolly break even or even save money.

Nah.. for him, it's the challenge.. getting escorts is easy..

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Challenging is one word for it. Juggling that many people seems too stressful to me. For fuck sake he has to write down if the sex was good or not. He can’t remember LOL!!

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What do you do for a living that you can spend that much just on dating?

Takes women out to 4 Star Michelin resteraunts...lives in a studio 😂

Also $ 200 for dinner but $ 100 hotel??

“You wanna stop at the Motel 6 babby?”

lol does anybody read ? he uses Priceline - I've gotten 5 star hotels for $ 50 - where is your astrology - Sag guys can be very sweet and generous - personal experience as well - ya'll need to just let this man have his piece - and eat it too LOL

Damn what hotels are these?? Motel 6 is minimum $ 100+ on Priceline...Expedia...hotels.com...etc etc.

Seriously share your secrets 🙏

I’m always booking weekend getaways and can never find rooms that cheap.

Me my ex husband used to get 5 star hotels in dc all the time for like $ 50-60 bucks - go to the website and work it

How long ago was that?

I think prices must’ve increased exponentially or dc is just awesomely cheap.

It was with 5-6 years - if the website is the same as it was, you ask for a 4-5 star hotel in the area where you are going and put in the price you are willing to pay (start low and go up from there) - we were very surprised to find that yes, 4 and 5 star hotels (if they have empty rooms available) will take your $ 50 just the same. If they come back with nothing, go up to $ 60 and so on but keep the 4 and 5 star hotels checked and that is what you will get.

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Awesome tip, thanks!!

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What do you do for a living that you can spend that much just on dating?

Takes women out to 4 Star Michelin resteraunts...lives in a studio 😂

Also $ 200 for dinner but $ 100 hotel??

“You wanna stop at the Motel 6 babby?”

lol does anybody read ? he uses Priceline - I've gotten 5 star hotels for $ 50 - where is your astrology - Sag guys can be very sweet and generous - personal experience as well - ya'll need to just let this man have his piece - and eat it too LOL

It’s jokes. If you’re going to be this shameless you’re going to need some broad shoulders.

Hes a 34 year old man who rates women sexually. Not a sweet generous lover. Surely you could find a better cause to defend??

I actually think he's being totally serious LOL

agreed, and i think he is also a bit autistic.

lol - Sags are gregarious, love the party and the attention blah blah - I think he's totally serious and totally honest and upfront with where he's at and what he's NOT looking for - if he can find women who just want to have the good time with him and get it on - why would he not do that ?

i know i date sags most of my life and 2 ltr with sag sun and moon. really interesting perspective on money as in easy. also easy come easy goes.

You would probably lose your shit with how much I lost when I was 25 yo. Totally bankrupt and blindsided... When you lose the kind of money I lost. Little things don’t bother you any more. It’s the patience to recover and regroup that’s frustrating.

Oh and if I didn’t get the 100k investment from my father at 20. I wouldn’t have gotten there. So no to being a black man being successful in America with socio-economics the way it is.

It takes money to make money.

I tell everybody you need 3 things to be successful.

Time money and talent. You need to create the combination ... hopefully you have the time and talent but you still need the money.

my ex sag had it all and lost everything. i was with him all the time. then he again got it all but in a way i don't want to talk about. smartest guy ever and the only ex i talk to like a real friend still after 15 years.

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Anybody that sticks with us through something like that we will do anything for.

$ 1500 for dating is a big deal?

My damn student loan payment is $ 1142! Now that’s criminal 😒

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What do you do for a living that you can spend that much just on dating?

Takes women out to 4 Star Michelin resteraunts...lives in a studio 😂

Also $ 200 for dinner but $ 100 hotel??

“You wanna stop at the Motel 6 babby?”

lol does anybody read ? he uses Priceline - I've gotten 5 star hotels for $ 50 - where is your astrology - Sag guys can be very sweet and generous - personal experience as well - ya'll need to just let this man have his piece - and eat it too LOL

Damn what hotels are these?? Motel 6 is minimum $ 100+ on Priceline...Expedia...hotels.com...etc etc.

Seriously share your secrets 🙏

I’m always booking weekend getaways and can never find rooms that cheap.

Me my ex husband used to get 5 star hotels in dc all the time for like $ 50-60 bucks - go to the website and work it

How long ago was that?

I think prices must’ve increased exponentially or dc is just awesomely cheap.

It was with 5-6 years - if the website is the same as it was, you ask for a 4-5 star hotel in the area where you are going and put in the price you are willing to pay (start low and go up from there) - we were very surprised to find that yes, 4 and 5 star hotels (if they have empty rooms available) will take your $ 50 just the same. If they come back with nothing, go up to $ 60 and so on but keep the 4 and 5 star hotels checked and that is what you will get.

Awesome tip, thanks!!

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see Saggy's note as well - he gets 4 stars for like 65 - 75 so yeah, maybe not $ 50 but I start there - wth right ? - I also recall that I got one like 3 years ago for like $ 50 - it was so luxurious - I felt like a thief cause it was a steal lol

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$ 1500 per month for dates and hotel rooms and there’s nothing to guarantee you actually get sex.

You should just start seeing escorts if your really moving soon, don’t want a commitment, and have issues with clingy women. Seriously it would simplify your life and you would prolly break even or even save money.

Nah.. for him, it's the challenge.. getting escorts is easy..

Challenging is one word for it. Juggling that many people seems too stressful to me. For fuck sake he has to write down if the sex was good or not. He can’t remember LOL!!

Hahahahahaa ya know sag short memory span for things that dont matter 😂😂

I guess it's a personal quest.. some people likes tackling challenges in their hobbies, passions and work.. and some people love tackling challenges in people.. 😂

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some just like the tackle period lol

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Yes @theflyingarrow!

Escorts are no fun.... It’s pay for adult play. Plus who needs two professional sex masters. I did bang an escort before accidentally. We hooked up at hotel I was staying at. I was like wow that was great for just meeting. She was like she’s had tons of experience... it didn’t creep me out. I wanted to know more 😂. No judgement zone here. I don’t think I could fully have sex with an active escort.

But back to what you said... right there is No hunting involved. I’d rather one play hard to get.... If I can have sex the first night it’s a complete turn off... I mean I’ll do it, but I’m turned off inside!

Lol yeah.. only old men go to escorts because they're lazy plus those escorts made them feel like a king with their 'well trained' attentions.. something that they're missing at home 😂

Out of curiosity, hv u ever been in love before? Like real real sag love? And why did it end?

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Yes. Twice

I was with another sag from 20-26. She was my fiancé. I lost my business and she got cancer. So much stress. She cheated with a friend of mine, he was taking advantage of her. I was focused on saving business and paying her medical expenses and wasn’t “giving her what she needed” and she thought I was cheating on her and was planning on leaving her.

Then a few years later my scorp ex from 29-32. She was my best friend. She left me after we went long distance for a year. I came back and tried to make it work in July this year. She said no she was in love with this other guy now... so I’ve been just doing this since September.

Btw scorp called me this week. Think there is trouble in that relationship. But I’ll never get back into relationship with her. She’s a liar and manipulator. She lied to me for a year. Can’t trust her anymore

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Sounds like you’re making it harder on yourself than you need to.

I’ve never found dating easy. I’ve bitched about it more than a time or two. I’ve also done similar to what you are now tho and found I was making things way harder for me than need be.

But your fire and water dominant right? That’s a rough combo. I feel for ya if that’s the case.

Yea all jokes aside. I go from wanting to be by myself and a desire for spending time with people in an instant.

Or not wanting someone and then yearning for them in an instant.... it’s terrible.

And I deal with everyone like they are special even if it’s just casual. I can’t just treat someone like it’s just sex, even though that’s exactly what it is.

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I'm a serial dater, It's hard. especially at my age.

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Edit note: I date purely out of boredom, and to have sex. I make it known I'm moving next year, and I don't want anything serious

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There are a lot of things that go on... I will explain them a little.

1) not getting attached (the woman). Hardest part.... keeping the other person from getting too attached. You tell them "hey we aren't together" and they call you regularly like they are your partner/gf. hey find your clingy ass some more friends.

2) keeping honesty and communication - some girls don't like you dating other people. one girl texted me 7 times tonight...I'm not responding, so give it a rest. one text said "oh, sorry you must be out with your other THOTs." not cool. you getting clingy (see number 1)... you know you aren't my girl. you don't REALLY want to know what I'm doing, but if you ask I'm going to tell you. and technically you can't get mad, so I don't want to hear shit

3)keeping personal boundaries.... I don't let people come over my place. because...they can randomly pop up. do you have a place? cool let's go there... tired of just your place? I'll priceline a room. and I'll pay for it.unless I'm with you (I wouldn't be dating would I—) or can trust you won't pop the hell up. I don't want you at my place.

4) expenses .... see 3 and 5 below. Holy ish balls, its expensive to date, I easily spend 1500+ a month on dates and hotel rooms....

5)Dinner .... I like nice resturants, so I eat out A LOT especially with the dating. I get what I want and tell them to do it as well. IDGAF, I honestly like charming new women and getting to know them. the hunt I love. I easily spend 150 - 200 dollars a date easy. throw in a room or something... that's damn 300 a date.

6)Memory -...Remembering who's story went with what's her name , lmao everybody becomes babe after a few drinks because names that sound a like I'll start mixing them up. who did I tell what story to already. pet names and inside jokes... ugh.

*Bonus. I put in my contact info, where I met them, nicknames, and rate the sex. 🙂

7)Keep track - How many times have we had sex? 0.... oh we good lets just have fun.... 1....hmmm was it ok? have you been annoying me with constant contact, good thing is no point in being uncomfortable anymore I've seen you naked and made you cum, full on flirting...we are out again so I want to see if its good or better than I remember or want to try something non-vanilla... 2 times... hmmmm you are cool, but I don't see a future so I will bow out gracefully. 3 times(I rarely get here)... I really enjoy your company, BUT do I like you better than the others to stop talking to them (THIS IS WHERE I NORMALLY SAY NO LOL)

that's my personal life in a nutshell when I'm single.

If you are ALL you just said you are and still not happy - one question remains - how ugly are you?

Lmao

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I'm a serial dater, It's hard. especially at my age.

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Edit note: I date purely out of boredom, and to have sex. I make it known I'm moving next year, and I don't want anything serious

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There are a lot of things that go on... I will explain them a little.

1) not getting attached (the woman). Hardest part.... keeping the other person from getting too attached. You tell them "hey we aren't together" and they call you regularly like they are your partner/gf. hey find your clingy ass some more friends.

2) keeping honesty and communication - some girls don't like you dating other people. one girl texted me 7 times tonight...I'm not responding, so give it a rest. one text said "oh, sorry you must be out with your other THOTs." not cool. you getting clingy (see number 1)... you know you aren't my girl. you don't REALLY want to know what I'm doing, but if you ask I'm going to tell you. and technically you can't get mad, so I don't want to hear shit

3)keeping personal boundaries.... I don't let people come over my place. because...they can randomly pop up. do you have a place? cool let's go there... tired of just your place? I'll priceline a room. and I'll pay for it.unless I'm with you (I wouldn't be dating would I—) or can trust you won't pop the hell up. I don't want you at my place.

4) expenses .... see 3 and 5 below. Holy ish balls, its expensive to date, I easily spend 1500+ a month on dates and hotel rooms....

5)Dinner .... I like nice resturants, so I eat out A LOT especially with the dating. I get what I want and tell them to do it as well. IDGAF, I honestly like charming new women and getting to know them. the hunt I love. I easily spend 150 - 200 dollars a date easy. throw in a room or something... that's damn 300 a date.

6)Memory -...Remembering who's story went with what's her name , lmao everybody becomes babe after a few drinks because names that sound a like I'll start mixing them up. who did I tell what story to already. pet names and inside jokes... ugh.

*Bonus. I put in my contact info, where I met them, nicknames, and rate the sex. 🙂

7)Keep track - How many times have we had sex? 0.... oh we good lets just have fun.... 1....hmmm was it ok? have you been annoying me with constant contact, good thing is no point in being uncomfortable anymore I've seen you naked and made you cum, full on flirting...we are out again so I want to see if its good or better than I remember or want to try something non-vanilla... 2 times... hmmmm you are cool, but I don't see a future so I will bow out gracefully. 3 times(I rarely get here)... I really enjoy your company, BUT do I like you better than the others to stop talking to them (THIS IS WHERE I NORMALLY SAY NO LOL)

that's my personal life in a nutshell when I'm single.

If you are ALL you just said you are and still not happy - one question remains - how ugly are you?

Lmao

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When did I say I wasn’t happy?!? I was just doing an explanation. I’m actually enjoying myself.

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I'm a serial dater, It's hard. especially at my age.

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Edit note: I date purely out of boredom, and to have sex. I make it known I'm moving next year, and I don't want anything serious

*******

There are a lot of things that go on... I will explain them a little.

1) not getting attached (the woman). Hardest part.... keeping the other person from getting too attached. You tell them "hey we aren't together" and they call you regularly like they are your partner/gf. hey find your clingy ass some more friends.

2) keeping honesty and communication - some girls don't like you dating other people. one girl texted me 7 times tonight...I'm not responding, so give it a rest. one text said "oh, sorry you must be out with your other THOTs." not cool. you getting clingy (see number 1)... you know you aren't my girl. you don't REALLY want to know what I'm doing, but if you ask I'm going to tell you. and technically you can't get mad, so I don't want to hear shit

3)keeping personal boundaries.... I don't let people come over my place. because...they can randomly pop up. do you have a place? cool let's go there... tired of just your place? I'll priceline a room. and I'll pay for it.unless I'm with you (I wouldn't be dating would I—) or can trust you won't pop the hell up. I don't want you at my place.

4) expenses .... see 3 and 5 below. Holy ish balls, its expensive to date, I easily spend 1500+ a month on dates and hotel rooms....

5)Dinner .... I like nice resturants, so I eat out A LOT especially with the dating. I get what I want and tell them to do it as well. IDGAF, I honestly like charming new women and getting to know them. the hunt I love. I easily spend 150 - 200 dollars a date easy. throw in a room or something... that's damn 300 a date.

6)Memory -...Remembering who's story went with what's her name , lmao everybody becomes babe after a few drinks because names that sound a like I'll start mixing them up. who did I tell what story to already. pet names and inside jokes... ugh.

*Bonus. I put in my contact info, where I met them, nicknames, and rate the sex. 🙂

7)Keep track - How many times have we had sex? 0.... oh we good lets just have fun.... 1....hmmm was it ok? have you been annoying me with constant contact, good thing is no point in being uncomfortable anymore I've seen you naked and made you cum, full on flirting...we are out again so I want to see if its good or better than I remember or want to try something non-vanilla... 2 times... hmmmm you are cool, but I don't see a future so I will bow out gracefully. 3 times(I rarely get here)... I really enjoy your company, BUT do I like you better than the others to stop talking to them (THIS IS WHERE I NORMALLY SAY NO LOL)

that's my personal life in a nutshell when I'm single.

If you are ALL you just said you are and still not happy - one question remains - how ugly are you?

Lmao

When did I say I wasn’t happy?!? I was just doing an explanation. I’m actually enjoying myself.

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I didn’t pick up that vibe...

If you found someone you actually like and she did as well - you would be buying a house with money saved on those ‘smart’ ones who doesn’t get ‘we aren’t dating’ concept.

Instead you ‘happily’ trying to get those clingies off your back. Btw there is a blocking feature in the phones so you wouldn’t be ‘happily’ receiving 7 texts per hour!

So...meet. Fuck. Block is the way of the ‘enjoying’ your life.

Not what your story showing. You seems like getting those women you don’t really like but you crave 7 texts per hour.

It makes you feel wanted and in control to not to reply...

Not a desirable men tactic! 👎

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Posted by Ellygant
Sounds like you’re making it harder on yourself than you need to.

I’ve never found dating easy. I’ve bitched about it more than a time or two. I’ve also done similar to what you are now tho and found I was making things way harder for me than need be.

But your fire and water dominant right? That’s a rough combo. I feel for ya if that’s the case.

Yea all jokes aside. I go from wanting to be by myself and a desire for spending time with people in an instant.

Or not wanting someone and then yearning for them in an instant.... it’s terrible.

And I deal with everyone like they are special even if it’s just casual. I can’t just treat someone like it’s just sex, even though that’s exactly what it is.

Do you not like being alone?

Whatever you gotta tell yourself man. But treating people special and saying casual is a contradiction. Kinda sounds like you get off on always being in power. Prob also why you only like people when you think they don’t like you. Scorpios venus problems.

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I like being alone. I just want Company sometimes. I just need space not to cheat or anything just space. And showing appreciation and acknowledgment for someone and not just treating them like they are some holes to plug I think is just right thing to do ... one girl told me just do her and go... don’t be nice. It’s just sex. I try to be friendly too 🙄

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Posted by hellosaggy
I'm a serial dater, It's hard. especially at my age.

****

Edit note: I date purely out of boredom, and to have sex. I make it known I'm moving next year, and I don't want anything serious

*******

There are a lot of things that go on... I will explain them a little.

1) not getting attached (the woman). Hardest part.... keeping the other person from getting too attached. You tell them "hey we aren't together" and they call you regularly like they are your partner/gf. hey find your clingy ass some more friends.

2) keeping honesty and communication - some girls don't like you dating other people. one girl texted me 7 times tonight...I'm not responding, so give it a rest. one text said "oh, sorry you must be out with your other THOTs." not cool. you getting clingy (see number 1)... you know you aren't my girl. you don't REALLY want to know what I'm doing, but if you ask I'm going to tell you. and technically you can't get mad, so I don't want to hear shit

3)keeping personal boundaries.... I don't let people come over my place. because...they can randomly pop up. do you have a place? cool let's go there... tired of just your place? I'll priceline a room. and I'll pay for it.unless I'm with you (I wouldn't be dating would I—) or can trust you won't pop the hell up. I don't want you at my place.

4) expenses .... see 3 and 5 below. Holy ish balls, its expensive to date, I easily spend 1500+ a month on dates and hotel rooms....

5)Dinner .... I like nice resturants, so I eat out A LOT especially with the dating. I get what I want and tell them to do it as well. IDGAF, I honestly like charming new women and getting to know them. the hunt I love. I easily spend 150 - 200 dollars a date easy. throw in a room or something... that's damn 300 a date.

6)Memory -...Remembering who's story went with what's her name , lmao everybody becomes babe after a few drinks because names that sound a like I'll start mixing them up. who did I tell what story to already. pet names and inside jokes... ugh.

*Bonus. I put in my contact info, where I met them, nicknames, and rate the sex. 🙂

7)Keep track - How many times have we had sex? 0.... oh we good lets just have fun.... 1....hmmm was it ok? have you been annoying me with constant contact, good thing is no point in being uncomfortable anymore I've seen you naked and made you cum, full on flirting...we are out again so I want to see if its good or better than I remember or want to try something non-vanilla... 2 times... hmmmm you are cool, but I don't see a future so I will bow out gracefully. 3 times(I rarely get here)... I really enjoy your company, BUT do I like you better than the others to stop talking to them (THIS IS WHERE I NORMALLY SAY NO LOL)

that's my personal life in a nutshell when I'm single.

If you are ALL you just said you are and still not happy - one question remains - how ugly are you?

Lmao

When did I say I wasn’t happy?!? I was just doing an explanation. I’m actually enjoying myself.

I didn’t pick up that vibe...

If you found someone you actually like and she did as well - you would be buying a house with money saved on those ‘smart’ ones who doesn’t get ‘we aren’t dating’ concept.

Instead you ‘happily’ trying to get those clingies off your back. Btw there is a blocking feature in the phones so you wouldn’t be ‘happily’ receiving 7 texts per hour!

So...meet. Fuck. Block is the way of the ‘enjoying’ your life.

Not what your story showing. You seems like getting those women you don’t really like but you crave 7 texts per hour.

It makes you feel wanted and in control to not to reply...

Not a desirable men tactic! 👎

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I’m leaving next October/November. Moving to Los Angeles. I live on east coast at moment. I’ll probably start splitting time in May. Don’t want anyone here. Maybe in LA not here.

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I'm a serial dater, It's hard. especially at my age.

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Edit note: I date purely out of boredom, and to have sex. I make it known I'm moving next year, and I don't want anything serious

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There are a lot of things that go on... I will explain them a little.

1) not getting attached (the woman). Hardest part.... keeping the other person from getting too attached. You tell them "hey we aren't together" and they call you regularly like they are your partner/gf. hey find your clingy ass some more friends.

2) keeping honesty and communication - some girls don't like you dating other people. one girl texted me 7 times tonight...I'm not responding, so give it a rest. one text said "oh, sorry you must be out with your other THOTs." not cool. you getting clingy (see number 1)... you know you aren't my girl. you don't REALLY want to know what I'm doing, but if you ask I'm going to tell you. and technically you can't get mad, so I don't want to hear shit

3)keeping personal boundaries.... I don't let people come over my place. because...they can randomly pop up. do you have a place? cool let's go there... tired of just your place? I'll priceline a room. and I'll pay for it.unless I'm with you (I wouldn't be dating would I—) or can trust you won't pop the hell up. I don't want you at my place.

4) expenses .... see 3 and 5 below. Holy ish balls, its expensive to date, I easily spend 1500+ a month on dates and hotel rooms....

5)Dinner .... I like nice resturants, so I eat out A LOT especially with the dating. I get what I want and tell them to do it as well. IDGAF, I honestly like charming new women and getting to know them. the hunt I love. I easily spend 150 - 200 dollars a date easy. throw in a room or something... that's damn 300 a date.

6)Memory -...Remembering who's story went with what's her name , lmao everybody becomes babe after a few drinks because names that sound a like I'll start mixing them up. who did I tell what story to already. pet names and inside jokes... ugh.

*Bonus. I put in my contact info, where I met them, nicknames, and rate the sex. 🙂

7)Keep track - How many times have we had sex? 0.... oh we good lets just have fun.... 1....hmmm was it ok? have you been annoying me with constant contact, good thing is no point in being uncomfortable anymore I've seen you naked and made you cum, full on flirting...we are out again so I want to see if its good or better than I remember or want to try something non-vanilla... 2 times... hmmmm you are cool, but I don't see a future so I will bow out gracefully. 3 times(I rarely get here)... I really enjoy your company, BUT do I like you better than the others to stop talking to them (THIS IS WHERE I NORMALLY SAY NO LOL)

that's my personal life in a nutshell when I'm single.

If you are ALL you just said you are and still not happy - one question remains - how ugly are you?

Lmao

When did I say I wasn’t happy?!? I was just doing an explanation. I’m actually enjoying myself.

I didn’t pick up that vibe...

If you found someone you actually like and she did as well - you would be buying a house with money saved on those ‘smart’ ones who doesn’t get ‘we aren’t dating’ concept.

Instead you ‘happily’ trying to get those clingies off your back. Btw there is a blocking feature in the phones so you wouldn’t be ‘happily’ receiving 7 texts per hour!

So...meet. Fuck. Block is the way of the ‘enjoying’ your life.

Not what your story showing. You seems like getting those women you don’t really like but you crave 7 texts per hour.

It makes you feel wanted and in control to not to reply...

Not a desirable men tactic! 👎

I’m leaving next October/November. Moving to Los Angeles. I live on east coast at moment. I’ll probably start splitting time in May. Don’t want anyone here. Maybe in LA not here.

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Bullshit!

You have almost a year plus all these time you claimed you spent all these money...

Bullshit!!!

Where in LA?

I’m thinking studio city. My twin brother currently lives in Irvine doing some work for UCI. But I don’t want to commute 45 minutes each way. I’m trying to convince him to move back to city.

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Sounds like you’re making it harder on yourself than you need to.

I’ve never found dating easy. I’ve bitched about it more than a time or two. I’ve also done similar to what you are now tho and found I was making things way harder for me than need be.

But your fire and water dominant right? That’s a rough combo. I feel for ya if that’s the case.

Yea all jokes aside. I go from wanting to be by myself and a desire for spending time with people in an instant.

Or not wanting someone and then yearning for them in an instant.... it’s terrible.

And I deal with everyone like they are special even if it’s just casual. I can’t just treat someone like it’s just sex, even though that’s exactly what it is.

Do you not like being alone?

Whatever you gotta tell yourself man. But treating people special and saying casual is a contradiction. Kinda sounds like you get off on always being in power. Prob also why you only like people when you think they don’t like you. Scorpios venus problems.

I like being alone. I just want Company sometimes. I just need space not to cheat or anything just space. And showing appreciation and acknowledgment for someone and not just treating them like they are some holes to plug I think is just right thing to do ... one girl told me just do her and go... don’t be nice. It’s just sex. I try to be friendly too 🙄

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Being friendly is fine. You should pay for dates and be a gentlemen. But taking a girl lunch to her work is boyfriend behavior. You gotta stop blurring the lines.

Anyways better to keep it 100 than get married and be cheating on your wife.

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I’m thinking studio city. My twin brother currently lives in Irvine doing some work for UCI. But I don’t want to commute 45 minutes each way. I’m trying to convince him to move back to city.

Sorry but the sad reality is Irvine to the valley is gonna take you 1hr 30/45 minimum unless your on the road by 4:30am.

Studio city is a good plan. Depending on where your working...I'd definitely try to avoid the 405 and 101 all together for your daily commute.

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I’m thinking studio city. My twin brother currently lives in Irvine doing some work for UCI. But I don’t want to commute 45 minutes each way. I’m trying to convince him to move back to city.

Sorry but the sad reality is Irvine to the valley is gonna take you 1hr 30/45 minimum unless your on the road by 4:30am.

Studio city is a good plan. Depending on where your working...I'd definitely try to avoid the 405 and 101 all together for your daily commute.

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I must have selectively just heard 45 minutes and not the hour lol... I hate driving and traffic 😑

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I’m thinking studio city. My twin brother currently lives in Irvine doing some work for UCI. But I don’t want to commute 45 minutes each way. I’m trying to convince him to move back to city.

Is ur twin brother like you? Does he treat womem the same way you do?

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I’m taking this comment a little offensively... no he’s different. He’s actually more laid back

He’s mars dominant though. I’m Venus and Jupiter dominant

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I’m thinking studio city. My twin brother currently lives in Irvine doing some work for UCI. But I don’t want to commute 45 minutes each way. I’m trying to convince him to move back to city.

Do you cuddle with these women after sex? If so that can leave a woman on. Also what do you use for protection? Condoms?

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I don’t say cuddle. Well sex isn’t like 20 minutes. It’s like a few rounds so like an hour or hour and a half. Of course you lay there and chat.

Condoms obviously ... not even a question. I’ve only had unprotected sex with 3 women in my entire life and all three were long term monogamous relationships 2+ years ...

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I’m thinking studio city. My twin brother currently lives in Irvine doing some work for UCI. But I don’t want to commute 45 minutes each way. I’m trying to convince him to move back to city.

Sorry but the sad reality is Irvine to the valley is gonna take you 1hr 30/45 minimum unless your on the road by 4:30am.

Studio city is a good plan. Depending on where your working...I'd definitely try to avoid the 405 and 101 all together for your daily commute.

I must have selectively just heard 45 minutes and not the hour lol... I hate driving and traffic 😑

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Most direct route from Irvine into LA is the 5 which is fucked. Yeah I commuted from Brea (north oc) to the valley for a month and a half....left every morning at 5/5:30 and it would take me 1 hr bare minimum.

Traffic is no joke. Try to live as close as possible to where your working.

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I’m thinking studio city. My twin brother currently lives in Irvine doing some work for UCI. But I don’t want to commute 45 minutes each way. I’m trying to convince him to move back to city.

Sorry but the sad reality is Irvine to the valley is gonna take you 1hr 30/45 minimum unless your on the road by 4:30am.

Studio city is a good plan. Depending on where your working...I'd definitely try to avoid the 405 and 101 all together for your daily commute.

I must have selectively just heard 45 minutes and not the hour lol... I hate driving and traffic 😑

Most direct route from Irvine into LA is the 5 which is fucked. Yeah I commuted from Brea (north oc) to the valley for a month and a half....left every morning at 5/5:30 and it would take me 1 hr bare minimum.

Traffic is no joke. Try to live as close as possible to where your working.

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I’m actually excited to move out there. The taxes are crazy af though.

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What do you do for a living that you can spend that much just on dating?

Takes women out to 4 Star Michelin resteraunts...lives in a studio 😂

Also $ 200 for dinner but $ 100 hotel??

“You wanna stop at the Motel 6 babby?”

lol does anybody read ? he uses Priceline - I've gotten 5 star hotels for $ 50 - where is your astrology - Sag guys can be very sweet and generous - personal experience as well - ya'll need to just let this man have his piece - and eat it too LOL

It’s jokes. If you’re going to be this shameless you’re going to need some broad shoulders.

Hes a 34 year old man who rates women sexually. Not a sweet generous lover. Surely you could find a better cause to defend??

I actually think he's being totally serious LOL

agreed, and i think he is also a bit autistic.

lol - Sags are gregarious, love the party and the attention blah blah - I think he's totally serious and totally honest and upfront with where he's at and what he's NOT looking for - if he can find women who just want to have the good time with him and get it on - why would he not do that ?

i know i date sags most of my life and 2 ltr with sag sun and moon. really interesting perspective on money as in easy. also easy come easy goes.

You would probably lose your shit with how much I lost when I was 25 yo. Totally bankrupt and blindsided... When you lose the kind of money I lost. Little things don’t bother you any more. It’s the patience to recover and regroup that’s frustrating.

Oh and if I didn’t get the 100k investment from my father at 20. I wouldn’t have gotten there. So no to being a black man being successful in America with socio-economics the way it is.

It takes money to make money.

I tell everybody you need 3 things to be successful.

Time money and talent. You need to create the combination ... hopefully you have the time and talent but you still need the money.

my ex sag had it all and lost everything. i was with him all the time. then he again got it all but in a way i don't want to talk about. smartest guy ever and the only ex i talk to like a real friend still after 15 years.

Anybody that sticks with us through something like that we will do anything for.

he told me exactly the same thing but i knew that before he even told me. and i did called him once when i was in a really bad situation. he called me after i solved it, cause he was missing LOL, but offered his help if something happens again. mind you i'm a cancer, so we are supposed to be not compatible at all. but it was the most laid back rl ever. i'm gonna call him right now to see is he alive!

Why did yall break up?

he started dealing heroin. i was there for a year for him to make him stop it, but i couldn't. and mind you he was finishing the hardest uni for programming and being one of the best students, but one of the slowest ones si9nce he had a "job". i just couldn't take it at one point. so i left.

Did he quit heroin— That shyt aint no joke! Yes call and make sure he is alive.

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"Did he quit heroin— That shyt aint no joke! Yes call and make sure he is alive."

That piece of sh*t was dealing heroin. Dealing a deadly poison, what can destroy a life, is like a cold bloded murder. He should rot in hell, not to be asked if he is alive

PS. sorry for off topic

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I’m thinking studio city. My twin brother currently lives in Irvine doing some work for UCI. But I don’t want to commute 45 minutes each way. I’m trying to convince him to move back to city.

Sorry but the sad reality is Irvine to the valley is gonna take you 1hr 30/45 minimum unless your on the road by 4:30am.

Studio city is a good plan. Depending on where your working...I'd definitely try to avoid the 405 and 101 all together for your daily commute.

I must have selectively just heard 45 minutes and not the hour lol... I hate driving and traffic 😑

Most direct route from Irvine into LA is the 5 which is fucked. Yeah I commuted from Brea (north oc) to the valley for a month and a half....left every morning at 5/5:30 and it would take me 1 hr bare minimum.

Traffic is no joke. Try to live as close as possible to where your working.

I’m actually excited to move out there. The taxes are crazy af though.

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Taxes are crazy. Traffic is crazy. Everything is more expensive. But we got the sunny weather year round...beach and mountains within an hr. You will love!!

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I’m thinking studio city. My twin brother currently lives in Irvine doing some work for UCI. But I don’t want to commute 45 minutes each way. I’m trying to convince him to move back to city.

Sorry but the sad reality is Irvine to the valley is gonna take you 1hr 30/45 minimum unless your on the road by 4:30am.

Studio city is a good plan. Depending on where your working...I'd definitely try to avoid the 405 and 101 all together for your daily commute.

I must have selectively just heard 45 minutes and not the hour lol... I hate driving and traffic 😑

Most direct route from Irvine into LA is the 5 which is fucked. Yeah I commuted from Brea (north oc) to the valley for a month and a half....left every morning at 5/5:30 and it would take me 1 hr bare minimum.

Traffic is no joke. Try to live as close as possible to where your working.

Yikes Brea to the Valley is a hell of a commute. I graduated from high school in La Habra.

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Ugghhh try commuting from Long Beach to Sherman Oaks. Did that for almost 4 months until they let me break my lease. Sometimes I’d spend close to 5hrs on the 405 each day. Hell. Pure hell.

stick to the sex sites as your not dating material

just a lazy wank lol.

makes me laugh this dude hahahahahahahaha

Isn’t #3 because you live with a fwb female? The bi chick with the lesbo clinger. Or am I thinking of a different sag...

But I feel you. I don’t like one off strangers in my place either. But then if I go to there’s I’m worried bout hidden cameras. Glad I don’t need to stress about this anymore.



You may want to start seeing pros.

Will be cheaper than your dates cause they provide the room. And you can still take em out to dinner and events.

I know you like the chase and turning on the charm but many women will interpret those actions as interest in more than just the pussy.

Oh wait this is an old af thread 😂😂

Who bumped this

Lmao.... hahaha...

Funny thing it’s still relevant.

Hopefully moving to Cali by this time next year.

I re-upped my lease because I’m working on a project at my current job that I’m very interested in and my rotation is kind of working at the moment. So maybe 12 month countdown

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@pinkbird03

I wouldn't consider myself a fuck boy. I am upfront (I just edited my OP)... I just want fun. I like the company of women. the complexities, the sexuality, I just don't want a serious relationship. They always start the honey, babe, good morning, good night shit, and I end it for that reason.

I think the problem is I do sweet shit... send you lunch, buy you medication, open doors, pay for outings, etc. I think they aren't used to men being attentive. I'm just noticing and acting accordingly, I won't stop being a good guy just bc we are only having sex.

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sooooo... I should sit at home alone for a year? I've never dated more than 4 girls at once... Right now its actually only one... an aqua(we haven't had sex yet, but she SAID she's cool with being FWB)... so to keep myself from focusing on one, and throwing a mixed signal. I have to date a few more. I'm meeting an aries for coffee Sunday, the girl I went out with tonight (shes a gemini) she's ok...I might keep playing the Cap by ear.. but no more dinners for her! I can save that money for another one.

You are soo full of it dude. You are the definition of fukboy. You are wasting your time and money for what? You say you are looking for a gf but your actions say differently. Smh, it’s guys like you that mess up dating and create more chaos and confusion then necessary. At least be honest with yourself and who you are.

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@pinkbird03

I wouldn't consider myself a fuck boy. I am upfront (I just edited my OP)... I just want fun. I like the company of women. the complexities, the sexuality, I just don't want a serious relationship. They always start the honey, babe, good morning, good night shit, and I end it for that reason.

I think the problem is I do sweet shit... send you lunch, buy you medication, open doors, pay for outings, etc. I think they aren't used to men being attentive. I'm just noticing and acting accordingly, I won't stop being a good guy just bc we are only having sex.

@Aquanextdoor

sooooo... I should sit at home alone for a year? I've never dated more than 4 girls at once... Right now its actually only one... an aqua(we haven't had sex yet, but she SAID she's cool with being FWB)... so to keep myself from focusing on one, and throwing a mixed signal. I have to date a few more. I'm meeting an aries for coffee Sunday, the girl I went out with tonight (shes a gemini) she's ok...I might keep playing the Cap by ear.. but no more dinners for her! I can save that money for another one.

You are soo full of it dude. You are the definition of fukboy. You are wasting your time and money for what? You say you are looking for a gf but your actions say differently. Smh, it’s guys like you that mess up dating and create more chaos and confusion then necessary. At least be honest with yourself and who you are.

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You are being rude. That was a year old.

I’m living with aqua... and I have only one side friend now a Pisces and I dropped my pregnant Scorpio. It’s not my baby she’s 3 months and I was only fwb with her for a month...she had the NERVE to ask if I wanted to still talk. Hot Lebanese chick, but no go find your baby daddy.

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@pinkbird03

I wouldn't consider myself a fuck boy. I am upfront (I just edited my OP)... I just want fun. I like the company of women. the complexities, the sexuality, I just don't want a serious relationship. They always start the honey, babe, good morning, good night shit, and I end it for that reason.

I think the problem is I do sweet shit... send you lunch, buy you medication, open doors, pay for outings, etc. I think they aren't used to men being attentive. I'm just noticing and acting accordingly, I won't stop being a good guy just bc we are only having sex.

@Aquanextdoor

sooooo... I should sit at home alone for a year? I've never dated more than 4 girls at once... Right now its actually only one... an aqua(we haven't had sex yet, but she SAID she's cool with being FWB)... so to keep myself from focusing on one, and throwing a mixed signal. I have to date a few more. I'm meeting an aries for coffee Sunday, the girl I went out with tonight (shes a gemini) she's ok...I might keep playing the Cap by ear.. but no more dinners for her! I can save that money for another one.

You are soo full of it dude. You are the definition of fukboy. You are wasting your time and money for what? You say you are looking for a gf but your actions say differently. Smh, it’s guys like you that mess up dating and create more chaos and confusion then necessary. At least be honest with yourself and who you are.

You are being rude. That was a year old.

I’m living with aqua... and I have only one side friend now a Pisces and I dropped my pregnant Scorpio. It’s not my baby she’s 3 months and I was only fwb with her for a month...she had the NERVE to ask if I wanted to still talk. Hot Lebanese chick, but no go find your baby daddy.

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Still sounds like a hot mess, good luck 😝

@hellosaggy .. i honestly want to know if u have had any kind of childhood trauma. I’m not being sarcastic or trying to be rude- I really want to know lol

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did you have a difficult childhood?

Um not really. My parents divorced and we ended up moving to lower income area. my grades/iq got me moved to a better, and whiter school - In middle/high school.

I became popular. Played sports. Realized if you work hard there are always multiple choices and opportunities for movement.

Then you became community penis 😂

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Then you became community penis 😂

That’s not fair. My penis is my own. I give it to who I want to give it to.

I have certain criteria for people to move into different orbits of my life.

I’m not selfish at all. I’m pretty selfless, especially with my penis

There are just a lot of selfish women out here now a days.

Then on top of that literally every woman I meet gets to talking about being depressed or having triggers.... no matter where or how I meet them.

I think depression is real, but how do you let past experiences ruin the future and your current.

Love isn’t coaxing someone out of bed on a daily basis.

I’m not going to have someone permanently when they are a drain on my energy.

Hit me up when you feeling ok. Talk to me when you are having a bad day, but deal with your stuff. I’m not an enabler and it seems like that’s what a lot of women want these days. Not tying myself to it

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Then you became community penis 😂

That’s not fair. My penis is my own. I give it to who I want to give it to.

I have certain criteria for people to move into different orbits of my life.

I’m not selfish at all. I’m pretty selfless, especially with my penis

There are just a lot of selfish women out here now a days.

Then on top of that literally every woman I meet gets to talking about being depressed or having triggers.... no matter where or how I meet them.

I think depression is real, but how do you let past experiences ruin the future and your current.

Love isn’t coaxing someone out of bed on a daily basis.

I’m not going to have someone permanently when they are a drain on my energy.

Hit me up when you feeling ok. Talk to me when you are having a bad day, but deal with your stuff. I’m not an enabler and it seems like that’s what a lot of women want these days. Not tying myself to it

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In short ... Community penis.

One word : Hookers. Leave these innocent people alone

Hahaha ah man fellow saggi serial dater here.

It stops when someone matches all your expectations. Ive been commitment phobic all my life but at 37 it stopped and it all changed and I wanted to be with him. That was a serious change as usually get bored and you know what happens then.

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Hahaha ah man fellow saggi serial dater here.

It stops when someone matches all your expectations. Ive been commitment phobic all my life but at 37 it stopped and it all changed and I wanted to be with him. That was a serious change as usually get bored and you know what happens then.

WTF with you digging old threads?