What advice would you give an adult woman who suspects her own father is emotionally abusing her stepmother based on red flags such as isolation, control, and criticism?
Gaslight: Emotionally Abusive Relationship
Tell your dad how you feel about how he treats his wife.
Ask him does he even want the relationship. If he doesn't...
I wouldn't try to help force their relationship. I would encourage him to stop waisting the woman's time and leave.
If he does want to be with her, I'd encourage him to try and help her, instead of criticizing her. Tell him he'll see better results and a stronger bond.
That's all I have.
Ask him does he even want the relationship. If he doesn't...
I wouldn't try to help force their relationship. I would encourage him to stop waisting the woman's time and leave.
If he does want to be with her, I'd encourage him to try and help her, instead of criticizing her. Tell him he'll see better results and a stronger bond.
That's all I have.
Posted by GoooberAbusers love their power. Why would he let go of one person he holds power over?
Tell your dad how you feel about how he treats his wife.
Ask him does he even want the relationship. If he doesn't...
I wouldn't try to help force their relationship. I would encourage him to stop waisting the woman's time and leave.
If he does want to be with her, I'd encourage him to try and help her, instead of criticizing her. Tell him he'll see better results and a stronger bond.
That's all I have.
Better use of time to talk to the stepmother. See if she'll confirm that there's any abuse taking place to begin with.
Posted by LadyNeptuneThat's true. I'm just saying, if he wants to keep this lady, he needs to make some changes. Op, if he's not willing to change; encourage your step mom to leave.Posted by GoooberAbusers love their power. Why would he let go of one person he holds power over?
Tell your dad how you feel about how he treats his wife.
Ask him does he even want the relationship. If he doesn't...
I wouldn't try to help force their relationship. I would encourage him to stop waisting the woman's time and leave.
If he does want to be with her, I'd encourage him to try and help her, instead of criticizing her. Tell him he'll see better results and a stronger bond.
That's all I have.
Better use of time to talk to the stepmother. See if she'll confirm that there's any abuse taking place to begin with.
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Posted by GoooberThese men usually do want to live with those women because women accept abuse and men feeling as a Master who has a sub who is at their feet.
Tell your dad how you feel about how he treats his wife.
Ask him does he even want the relationship. If he doesn't...
I wouldn't try to help force their relationship. I would encourage him to stop waisting the woman's time and leave.
If he does want to be with her, I'd encourage him to try and help her, instead of criticizing her. Tell him he'll see better results and a stronger bond.
That's all I have.
If she is staying - Godspeed!
One of my clients is older woman who stand abuse from her husband and after some time her therapist told her - if you are still with this man - you deserve everything you have!
And she filed for divorce!
Strangely he is married now and treating his other wife as nicely as she wishes he treated her. Every family gathering she is falling apart because SHE STILL LOVES HIM! It's heart breaking for me to console this 70+ y/old woman who is crying wondering why! Why he couldn't be nice to her who bare him 4 kids and now he is changed man?
Go figure!
Posted by Gemitati:/ That does suck. Either he's sprung over this new woman and she puts her foot down or he's just honestly learned his lesson. She's missed out on a healthier relationship by staying with this man. All she can do is learn from her choices and encourage other women to not make the same choice.Posted by GoooberThese men usually do want to live with those women because women accept abuse and men feeling as a Master who has a sub who is at their feet.
Tell your dad how you feel about how he treats his wife.
Ask him does he even want the relationship. If he doesn't...
I wouldn't try to help force their relationship. I would encourage him to stop waisting the woman's time and leave.
If he does want to be with her, I'd encourage him to try and help her, instead of criticizing her. Tell him he'll see better results and a stronger bond.
That's all I have.
If she is staying - Godspeed!
One of my clients is older woman who stand abuse from her husband and after some time her therapist told her - if you are still with this man - you deserve everything you have!
And she filed for divorce!
Strangely he is married now and treating his other wife as nicely as she wishes he treated her. Every family gathering she is falling apart because SHE STILL LOVES HIM! It's heart breaking for me to console this 70+ y/old woman who is crying wondering why! Why he couldn't be nice to her who bare him 4 kids and now he is changed man?
Go figure!click to expand
Posted by GoooberShe cans only encourage other women by understanding that shenisbtrapped and leave! How many times have you seen this happening?Posted by Gemitati:/ That does suck. Either he's sprung over this new woman and she puts her foot down or he's just honestly learned his lesson. She's missed out on a healthier relationship by staying with this man. All she can do is learn from her choices and encourage other women to not make the same choice.Posted by GoooberThese men usually do want to live with those women because women accept abuse and men feeling as a Master who has a sub who is at their feet.
Tell your dad how you feel about how he treats his wife.
Ask him does he even want the relationship. If he doesn't...
I wouldn't try to help force their relationship. I would encourage him to stop waisting the woman's time and leave.
If he does want to be with her, I'd encourage him to try and help her, instead of criticizing her. Tell him he'll see better results and a stronger bond.
That's all I have.
If she is staying - Godspeed!
One of my clients is older woman who stand abuse from her husband and after some time her therapist told her - if you are still with this man - you deserve everything you have!
And she filed for divorce!
Strangely he is married now and treating his other wife as nicely as she wishes he treated her. Every family gathering she is falling apart because SHE STILL LOVES HIM! It's heart breaking for me to console this 70+ y/old woman who is crying wondering why! Why he couldn't be nice to her who bare him 4 kids and now he is changed man?
Go figure!
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I personally would take abuse 2 times. First and last!
When I hear 'fat' or anything of the sort - that's all I can think of and there is no way it gets erased from my mind ever!
However I totally understand 'i don't want to be alone' cituation for most women.
And the craziest of all is that it's not even about 'dick power' because most who has alcoholics and bums - they don't even have sex!
It's some sickness women created with that they must have man! Drunk, abusive, stinky, mooches...as long as he is present!
Even children doesn't matter!
What IS it? Mental disorder? Idk
Posted by GoooberActually he doesn't have to change anything. The step mom hasn't given any indication she's looking to leave...Posted by LadyNeptuneThat's true. I'm just saying, if he wants to keep this lady, he needs to make some changes. Op, if he's not willing to change; encourage your step mom to leave.Posted by GoooberAbusers love their power. Why would he let go of one person he holds power over?
Tell your dad how you feel about how he treats his wife.
Ask him does he even want the relationship. If he doesn't...
I wouldn't try to help force their relationship. I would encourage him to stop waisting the woman's time and leave.
If he does want to be with her, I'd encourage him to try and help her, instead of criticizing her. Tell him he'll see better results and a stronger bond.
That's all I have.
Better use of time to talk to the stepmother. See if she'll confirm that there's any abuse taking place to begin with.
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And all of this is merely hearsay based off of the op's 'adult woman's' suspicions.
Posted by LadyNeptunePretty common that these women don't show any indication that they're looking to leave.Posted by GoooberActually he doesn't have to change anything. The step mom hasn't given any indication she's looking to leave...Posted by LadyNeptuneThat's true. I'm just saying, if he wants to keep this lady, he needs to make some changes. Op, if he's not willing to change; encourage your step mom to leave.Posted by GoooberAbusers love their power. Why would he let go of one person he holds power over?
Tell your dad how you feel about how he treats his wife.
Ask him does he even want the relationship. If he doesn't...
I wouldn't try to help force their relationship. I would encourage him to stop waisting the woman's time and leave.
If he does want to be with her, I'd encourage him to try and help her, instead of criticizing her. Tell him he'll see better results and a stronger bond.
That's all I have.
Better use of time to talk to the stepmother. See if she'll confirm that there's any abuse taking place to begin with.
And all of this is merely hearsay based off of the op's suspicions.click to expand
Posted by GemitatiLmao. I agree.Posted by GoooberShe cans only encourage other women by understanding that shenisbtrapped and leave! How many times have you seen this happening?Posted by Gemitati:/ That does suck. Either he's sprung over this new woman and she puts her foot down or he's just honestly learned his lesson. She's missed out on a healthier relationship by staying with this man. All she can do is learn from her choices and encourage other women to not make the same choice.Posted by GoooberThese men usually do want to live with those women because women accept abuse and men feeling as a Master who has a sub who is at their feet.
Tell your dad how you feel about how he treats his wife.
Ask him does he even want the relationship. If he doesn't...
I wouldn't try to help force their relationship. I would encourage him to stop waisting the woman's time and leave.
If he does want to be with her, I'd encourage him to try and help her, instead of criticizing her. Tell him he'll see better results and a stronger bond.
That's all I have.
If she is staying - Godspeed!
One of my clients is older woman who stand abuse from her husband and after some time her therapist told her - if you are still with this man - you deserve everything you have!
And she filed for divorce!
Strangely he is married now and treating his other wife as nicely as she wishes he treated her. Every family gathering she is falling apart because SHE STILL LOVES HIM! It's heart breaking for me to console this 70+ y/old woman who is crying wondering why! Why he couldn't be nice to her who bare him 4 kids and now he is changed man?
Go figure!
I personally would take abuse 2 times. First and last!
When I hear 'fat' or anything of the sort - that's all I can think of and there is no way it gets erased from my mind ever!
However I totally understand 'i don't want to be alone' cituation for most women.
And the craziest of all is that it's not even about 'dick power' because most who has alcoholics and bums - they don't even have sex!
It's some sickness women created with that they must have man! Drunk, abusive, stinky, mooches...as long as he is present!
Even children doesn't matter!
What IS it? Mental disorder? Idkclick to expand
I think it's just pure selfishness/ego/pride. That's all.
Posted by GoooberWait! Are you talking about women?Posted by GemitatiLmao. I agree.Posted by GoooberShe cans only encourage other women by understanding that shenisbtrapped and leave! How many times have you seen this happening?Posted by Gemitati:/ That does suck. Either he's sprung over this new woman and she puts her foot down or he's just honestly learned his lesson. She's missed out on a healthier relationship by staying with this man. All she can do is learn from her choices and encourage other women to not make the same choice.Posted by GoooberThese men usually do want to live with those women because women accept abuse and men feeling as a Master who has a sub who is at their feet.
Tell your dad how you feel about how he treats his wife.
Ask him does he even want the relationship. If he doesn't...
I wouldn't try to help force their relationship. I would encourage him to stop waisting the woman's time and leave.
If he does want to be with her, I'd encourage him to try and help her, instead of criticizing her. Tell him he'll see better results and a stronger bond.
That's all I have.
If she is staying - Godspeed!
One of my clients is older woman who stand abuse from her husband and after some time her therapist told her - if you are still with this man - you deserve everything you have!
And she filed for divorce!
Strangely he is married now and treating his other wife as nicely as she wishes he treated her. Every family gathering she is falling apart because SHE STILL LOVES HIM! It's heart breaking for me to console this 70+ y/old woman who is crying wondering why! Why he couldn't be nice to her who bare him 4 kids and now he is changed man?
Go figure!
I personally would take abuse 2 times. First and last!
When I hear 'fat' or anything of the sort - that's all I can think of and there is no way it gets erased from my mind ever!
However I totally understand 'i don't want to be alone' cituation for most women.
And the craziest of all is that it's not even about 'dick power' because most who has alcoholics and bums - they don't even have sex!
It's some sickness women created with that they must have man! Drunk, abusive, stinky, mooches...as long as he is present!
Even children doesn't matter!
What IS it? Mental disorder? Idk
I think it's just pure selfishness/ego/pride. That's all.
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Selfish? No! Selfless to the point of stupidity!
Ego? When he puts you down? Absentce of one!
Pride! That I can take fist in my face and not falling?
Am I not getting you? 🙂
It's hard to say what someone will do in a situation until they're in it.
Take the stepmom somewhere private. Tell her she is worthy and deserving of love. Ask her if she is where she wants to be in life.
You can lead a horse to water but you can't make it drink.
Take the stepmom somewhere private. Tell her she is worthy and deserving of love. Ask her if she is where she wants to be in life.
You can lead a horse to water but you can't make it drink.
Posted by GemitatiIs it not selfish to stay in an abusive relationship when you have kids just because you don't want to be lonely?Posted by GoooberWait! Are you talking about women?Posted by GemitatiLmao. I agree.Posted by GoooberShe cans only encourage other women by understanding that shenisbtrapped and leave! How many times have you seen this happening?Posted by Gemitati:/ That does suck. Either he's sprung over this new woman and she puts her foot down or he's just honestly learned his lesson. She's missed out on a healthier relationship by staying with this man. All she can do is learn from her choices and encourage other women to not make the same choice.Posted by GoooberThese men usually do want to live with those women because women accept abuse and men feeling as a Master who has a sub who is at their feet.
Tell your dad how you feel about how he treats his wife.
Ask him does he even want the relationship. If he doesn't...
I wouldn't try to help force their relationship. I would encourage him to stop waisting the woman's time and leave.
If he does want to be with her, I'd encourage him to try and help her, instead of criticizing her. Tell him he'll see better results and a stronger bond.
That's all I have.
If she is staying - Godspeed!
One of my clients is older woman who stand abuse from her husband and after some time her therapist told her - if you are still with this man - you deserve everything you have!
And she filed for divorce!
Strangely he is married now and treating his other wife as nicely as she wishes he treated her. Every family gathering she is falling apart because SHE STILL LOVES HIM! It's heart breaking for me to console this 70+ y/old woman who is crying wondering why! Why he couldn't be nice to her who bare him 4 kids and now he is changed man?
Go figure!
I personally would take abuse 2 times. First and last!
When I hear 'fat' or anything of the sort - that's all I can think of and there is no way it gets erased from my mind ever!
However I totally understand 'i don't want to be alone' cituation for most women.
And the craziest of all is that it's not even about 'dick power' because most who has alcoholics and bums - they don't even have sex!
It's some sickness women created with that they must have man! Drunk, abusive, stinky, mooches...as long as he is present!
Even children doesn't matter!
What IS it? Mental disorder? Idk
I think it's just pure selfishness/ego/pride. That's all.
Selfish? No! Selfless to the point of stupidity!
Ego? When he puts you down? Absentce of one!
Pride! That I can take fist in my face and not falling?
Am I not getting you? 🙂click to expand
Is that not someone feeding their ego?
I'd advise her to mind her own business because true relationship dynamics can't be perceived by outsiders.
So, she has confronted her father and her father denies that anything negative is happening. The father even claims to have brought the woman's concerns to her stepmother and that the stepmother agrees with him that nothing is going on.
But, the stepmother has previously confided in the woman that her father asked her to cut ties with her own girlfriends and that she, the stepmother, is lonely. The stepmother also talks about how, when she wants to visit her family, the father gets upset.
But, the stepmother has previously confided in the woman that her father asked her to cut ties with her own girlfriends and that she, the stepmother, is lonely. The stepmother also talks about how, when she wants to visit her family, the father gets upset.
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