Marriage is for men in 2023 (not women)

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Benefits for men:

Companionship

Family

Financial gains

Career focus

Healthier life style

Domestic labor taken care of

Regular sex

Less risk taking

Emotional fulfillment they do not get elsewhere

Benefits for women:

Companionship

Family

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The benefits for men quickly become the cons for women.

Then there is the inevitable divorce settlement.

I never met a man who actually had to pay alimony. My dad's been married 7 times across several states and never had to pay it, not even was it ever discussed. I grew up in the south where people get married like 5 times throughout their life and never saw it. I don't think this is very common. I could be wrong, but I think maybe this is mostly a risk for extremely wealthy men. Most men do not make that much money these days, they need their S.O to work out of economic necessity.

Many men want homemakers. Okay fine, I get it. Its nice to have someone doing all the boring tasks at home for you.... but homemakers are not independent by definition, and will most often require SPOUSAL support after divorce (we are still looking at an overwhelming 40-50% chance). That dependence and those domestic skills that were so appealing to men at first? Well, now they realize that it was all they had to offer. They become that object of resentment for men that we so often hear about. The vilified, evil hag of the ex wife who dedicated her life to serving up hamburger helper at 7pm every night, and took the children to soccer practices every Wednesday. Women will often be stay at home moms for 5, 10, 15, 20 years, sacrificing their independence and often their identity, and for what? To be tossed out after a divorce. No experience. No skills. No money. Nothing. And yet, somehow they have to figure out how to support their children in a safe and healthy environment, while returning to the work force for the first time in a decade or first time ever, making next to no money. It is an impossible task that they make happen somehow, despite all of the cards stacked against them. You may be thinking "Oh no there's child support for that!" Not always. There are many loopholes that allow men to avoid paying it and best believe they utilize them every way they can. One of my best friends chose to have 2 kids with a man who now evades child support with a series of under-the-table jobs spanning a decade at this point. This is not uncommon.

Men love to point out: "Women initiate 80-90% of divorce!" - Why do you think women are initiating it? I think its because we are at the height of mental and emotional health/awareness that there is just less tolerance for abuse/cheating/unhappiness in general. If that is not acceptable, then the list above would illustrate clearly that marriage benefits men far more than women. Even bad marriages.... So why would men want a divorce?!

I am laughing at the idea that marriage would have any kind of financial benefit to me and so many other women. A lot of women these days are working high paid jobs and it is unlikely their partner will make more money than them. So I am curious, what exactly is the benefit of marriage, to a woman? What am I missing here? Is it just a human experience we want to have, which is fleeting? Is it the ideation of a family, the promise of "forever", which doesn't particularly appeal to me given the current state of the world?

Looking at the list above, it looks so obvious, doesn't it? It even seems ironic that men would throw around the "unmarried cat-hoarding spinster" barbs. Marriage in 2023 is for you, men. Its yours. Embrace your inner golem and get ready to be chasing that ring down. Find a wife and treat her well. You have so much to gain from it.

Marriage is for men in 2023 (not women)

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