hellosaggy
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Don't be fooled by people trying to guilty talk you. Black lives matter etc yada yada we all know that all lives matter. You clearly stated that you aren't interested in hood rats wether white or black and thats your right and only proofs that u are smart enough to stay away from that sort of people.
You don't need MBA to be deserving of a girl who's not ghetto. Dear lord... I hope you can stay positive
You don't need MBA to be deserving of a girl who's not ghetto. Dear lord... I hope you can stay positive
Posted by CaramelizedCoffeeI don't know, did I miss something? Do you know him IRL? No offense just seriously confused now. Hw can you say he is garbage, waste of space etc?Posted by AquaNextDoorGuilt talk him lol. I think he's garbage
Don't be fooled by people trying to guilty talk you. Black lives matter etc yada yada we all know that all lives matter. You clearly stated that you aren't interested in hood rats wether white or black and thats your right and only proofs that u are smart enough to stay away from that sort of people.
You don't need MBA to be deserving of a girl who's not ghetto. Dear lord... I hope you can stay positive
A waste of space
This guy can't do nothing for a black women
He's weak. He's an empty shell. Why he keeps talking about external things
The guy seems very unaware and very stupid
A black man can date who and what he wants but if he has to ask the question of why black women would not be happy. He hasn't done his homework and isn't worth the trouble
How can someone who claims has 28 girl cousins be so unaware
And most black women I know have moved on anyways. They're all dating wHite men in Seattle
I'm an African so I don't give a fuk what either do
But I've never seen a man in any culture discard his woman like the African American male. It's disgusting
I'm so fuking lucky to be an African. If I want I can go get married tomorrow. There's someone who wants me who admires me who thinks I'm the pedestal
That's why I'll never date a black guy
They're gutless weak and unculturedclick to expand
How come you go from "this guy" to "I'll never date a black guy"
My only boyfriend was white and Italian.
He had issues that went further than him.being white. Sometimes I felt like he was with me to fulfill some porn hub round n Brown fantasy.
Eventually he called me the n word and make fun of the size of my lips.
Never again.
I think white people are fine just not fine for me.
Now, let's go back to your story.
The black man has been brainwashed more so than the black women. We also have more education and experiences, so we have matured faster than the black man and have per se woke up faster.
I feel bad for some black men. Just so behind the thought process.
The Kim Kardashian of the world will not march for your life. They will not picket, they will not go to war for you. The Kylie Jenner of the world will mock you behind your back and your mixed kids
The white man has told you and you believe it that the black woman doesn't represent success to you. They have told you and you believed that the black women is angry and mad. In fact, you believed it so much, the black mans music started to echo the same thought. For decades, the black mans music has done the white mans job.
It has broken up the black family unit
It has created a generation of fatherless kids and single mothers
It has created the fuck boi movement.
It has set the black man back decades
Wake up brotha.
Realize that those compliments are nothing but them not realizing who you really are...a KING
He had issues that went further than him.being white. Sometimes I felt like he was with me to fulfill some porn hub round n Brown fantasy.
Eventually he called me the n word and make fun of the size of my lips.
Never again.
I think white people are fine just not fine for me.
Now, let's go back to your story.
The black man has been brainwashed more so than the black women. We also have more education and experiences, so we have matured faster than the black man and have per se woke up faster.
I feel bad for some black men. Just so behind the thought process.
The Kim Kardashian of the world will not march for your life. They will not picket, they will not go to war for you. The Kylie Jenner of the world will mock you behind your back and your mixed kids
The white man has told you and you believe it that the black woman doesn't represent success to you. They have told you and you believed that the black women is angry and mad. In fact, you believed it so much, the black mans music started to echo the same thought. For decades, the black mans music has done the white mans job.
It has broken up the black family unit
It has created a generation of fatherless kids and single mothers
It has created the fuck boi movement.
It has set the black man back decades
Wake up brotha.
Realize that those compliments are nothing but them not realizing who you really are...a KING
I am a black woman and i have apologized to the END to my black father for dating a white guy.
He is a great example of a man and i didn't have respect for him.
I feel like anyone should be able to co mingle with who they want to.
At times, I grow tired of having to constantly defend black love to the black man. I get tired of fighting for his love. Tired of always having to state my case. My worth as a black women.
But I love my black man. No doubt about it. My king.
Now, why do I get offended when I see a black man with a white women. Please read for comprehension.
The white man has coveted the white women as the epicenter of beauty and success. She is it. He has kept his white women as a trophy. Something to be loved and adored. He is jealous of the big black man stealing what rightfully belongs to him.
He saw the way Lillie Mae looked at the black man picking cotton with no shirt on. The sun glistening in his muscles. This made the white man insecure. For the white man is the superior race
He set out a plan.
He would forbid any negros from even looking at what belongs to him.
He would kill and lynch even the slightest attraction.
Then he would festishize all the black traits. Big black cockk. Dangerous. Nasty. huge. Disease filled.
The black woman, even worse. Angry, big old nasty butts, too big in the hips, soup kitchen lips. Wool hair. Dirty skin.dirty hair.
The white man set out a plan to not only destroy the attraction between white women and black man, but also the attraction between black men and black.women.
But not his secret attraction to the black women.
The white man kept his trophies so high that Black men and women wanted to be her and be with her. The unattainable.
Black women chemically destroyed our hair, our heritage for decades. Black men also destroyed their skin and permed their hair. Erase any blackness. Be more white. White is right.
Then the black man did it. He got his chance to sex the white women. Put that trophy on his arm. Success. He has gotten the unattainable.
Black women was not success. The white women was success.
The more money the black man got, the more he could attain the trophy. The white women. She don't even need to be pretty. Just lighter then the sister working in the cotton field. Anything but black. Black is not success. Eww
Fast forward to 2017, the black women has woken up. No more perms. Black is beautiful.
We can do this. We can uplift the black community.
Black men, bitches ain't within but hoes n tricks. These ho's ain't loyal. Fawk these ugly black women. Just nasty. Ghetto. I date white women cause black women are always angry. Idk who that statement disrespects more.
As the great Beyonce Giselle Knowles Carter once said:
"You hurt me, you hurt yourself"
He is a great example of a man and i didn't have respect for him.
I feel like anyone should be able to co mingle with who they want to.
At times, I grow tired of having to constantly defend black love to the black man. I get tired of fighting for his love. Tired of always having to state my case. My worth as a black women.
But I love my black man. No doubt about it. My king.
Now, why do I get offended when I see a black man with a white women. Please read for comprehension.
The white man has coveted the white women as the epicenter of beauty and success. She is it. He has kept his white women as a trophy. Something to be loved and adored. He is jealous of the big black man stealing what rightfully belongs to him.
He saw the way Lillie Mae looked at the black man picking cotton with no shirt on. The sun glistening in his muscles. This made the white man insecure. For the white man is the superior race
He set out a plan.
He would forbid any negros from even looking at what belongs to him.
He would kill and lynch even the slightest attraction.
Then he would festishize all the black traits. Big black cockk. Dangerous. Nasty. huge. Disease filled.
The black woman, even worse. Angry, big old nasty butts, too big in the hips, soup kitchen lips. Wool hair. Dirty skin.dirty hair.
The white man set out a plan to not only destroy the attraction between white women and black man, but also the attraction between black men and black.women.
But not his secret attraction to the black women.
The white man kept his trophies so high that Black men and women wanted to be her and be with her. The unattainable.
Black women chemically destroyed our hair, our heritage for decades. Black men also destroyed their skin and permed their hair. Erase any blackness. Be more white. White is right.
Then the black man did it. He got his chance to sex the white women. Put that trophy on his arm. Success. He has gotten the unattainable.
Black women was not success. The white women was success.
The more money the black man got, the more he could attain the trophy. The white women. She don't even need to be pretty. Just lighter then the sister working in the cotton field. Anything but black. Black is not success. Eww
Fast forward to 2017, the black women has woken up. No more perms. Black is beautiful.
We can do this. We can uplift the black community.
Black men, bitches ain't within but hoes n tricks. These ho's ain't loyal. Fawk these ugly black women. Just nasty. Ghetto. I date white women cause black women are always angry. Idk who that statement disrespects more.
As the great Beyonce Giselle Knowles Carter once said:
"You hurt me, you hurt yourself"
Why is black love not racist?
Black love has mostly been illustrated by the media as detrimental. Not worth it. Ever wonder why the White man try so hard to keep the black man in jail and the black women a single mother?
The black family unit is just like white family unit. It is strong. Strength brings structure, success, and progression.
The white man fears the strength of the black family unit. Keeping the black man and black women seperated keeps the whole culture in.its.place.
Keeps us disenfranchised. Keeps us seperated.
Keeps us fighting each other instead of progressing.
Black love has mostly been illustrated by the media as detrimental. Not worth it. Ever wonder why the White man try so hard to keep the black man in jail and the black women a single mother?
The black family unit is just like white family unit. It is strong. Strength brings structure, success, and progression.
The white man fears the strength of the black family unit. Keeping the black man and black women seperated keeps the whole culture in.its.place.
Keeps us disenfranchised. Keeps us seperated.
Keeps us fighting each other instead of progressing.
Um this is very concerning indeed ...not cause of the interracial dating cause its what ever love is love ....
But there are lot of disturbing points to your post
1. Once alcohol is involved these women lose their inhibitions and fetishize you based on your skin tone which is gross
2. You say you get crap from when you date light skin / mixed women ...that needs further clarification if your black you know that colorism is a REAL problem in the black community ...and darker toned black women are deemed not beautiful despite actual looks cause of the European standard of beauty (that men of our own community have bought into)
3. The word ghetto has deep and racist connotations it literally mean segregated and was used to describe poor black neighborhoods ...
Just like red neck (was used to describe poor white people by other rich white people)
And being poor isnt a personality traits ....its an economic situation
But there are lot of disturbing points to your post
1. Once alcohol is involved these women lose their inhibitions and fetishize you based on your skin tone which is gross
2. You say you get crap from when you date light skin / mixed women ...that needs further clarification if your black you know that colorism is a REAL problem in the black community ...and darker toned black women are deemed not beautiful despite actual looks cause of the European standard of beauty (that men of our own community have bought into)
3. The word ghetto has deep and racist connotations it literally mean segregated and was used to describe poor black neighborhoods ...
Just like red neck (was used to describe poor white people by other rich white people)
And being poor isnt a personality traits ....its an economic situation
Posted by blvckphasePosted by Gob_ShiteI don't see as much of an issue with it here in Canada.. Lots of people date outside their race here and no one really cares or looks down upon it. It's not uncommon or something to stare at. They found love.. Good for them!Posted by blvckphasePosted by Gob_ShiteYeah, I notice it as well.. But can't say much cause then we are racist for being observant..Posted by blvckphasePosted by EarthgoddessSo everyone is supposed to date within their own community according to this? :/
Ummm I generally don't give a hoot who black guys date
But I do wonder when i see a really hot, successful,well educated black guy
And a less than attractive non-black girl
I always think "well damn of all the super hot ( light or dark skin) black women how the hell did u choose that"
I mean I guess it's because they usually didn't grow up on a mixed community. Didn't go to school with a mixed community. So how the hell?
I end up saying maybe she has good head, or maybe he likes a woman who is more...mmmhh"softer"
Idk why... I'm not mad I just wonder why he couldn't find a perfectly good match in the community he was raised in
Unless of course he was raised in a mixed community
Why would anyone want to limit themselves (regardless of race) to only the people that they know and grew up with? Majority of people move when they get older or want to meet new people and experience new things.
It's amazing how many black women hark on about racism but, within the context of their attitudes towards romantic relationships, are racist themselves...
It seems to be more prevalent in the US than Europe. I've seen many black women, in Europe, date outside their race but there are still some who don't...
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maybe it's more of a concern in 3rd world countries? š
cause honestly first world countries dont care ifyou are black and dating white, or asian, or middle eastern. most dont honestly. just do right, by them and eachother and live your life right.
Posted by blvckphasePosted by EarthgoddessSo everyone is supposed to date within their own community according to this? :/
Ummm I generally don't give a hoot who black guys date
But I do wonder when i see a really hot, successful,well educated black guy
And a less than attractive non-black girl
I always think "well damn of all the super hot ( light or dark skin) black women how the hell did u choose that"
I mean I guess it's because they usually didn't grow up on a mixed community. Didn't go to school with a mixed community. So how the hell?
I end up saying maybe she has good head, or maybe he likes a woman who is more...mmmhh"softer"
Idk why... I'm not mad I just wonder why he couldn't find a perfectly good match in the community he was raised in
Unless of course he was raised in a mixed community
Why would anyone want to limit themselves (regardless of race) to only the people that they know and grew up with? Majority of people move when they get older or want to meet new people and experience new things.click to expand
lol hahaha they is JEALLLLOUUUUSSS.... they see the unattractive (to them it's unattractive) and with that educated hot black guy and go...DAYUMMM I want him dammit. bitch got him...
I have also seen in Canada and Europe, interracial dating not being much of an issue and thus itās more prevalent. However, here in America itās an issue because the pain and wounds that lie behind it. Someone who didnāt grow up in the US may not understand the racism or even why black people feel the way they feel because they havenāt experienced it in the manner we have.
@DMV I admire your strength for being honest and definitely encourage you to speak out more. I completely agree with you....
I do miss artist like 2 Pac who was this amazing rapper that was popular and in his lyrics from the song Kepp Ya Head Up heād state, āSome say the blacker the berry, the sweeter the juice
I say the darker the flesh then the deeper the roots
I give a holla to my sisters on welfare
2Pac cares, if don't nobody else care
And, I know they like to beat you down a lot
When you come around the block, brothers clown a lot
But please don't cry, dry your eyes, never let up
Forgive but don't forget, girl, keep your head up
And when he tells you you ain't nothin', don't believe him
And if he can't learn to love you, you should leave him
Cause sister, you don't need him
And I ain't tryin' to gas ya up, I just call 'em how I see 'em
You know what makes me unhappy
When brothers make babies, and leave a young mother to be a pappy
And since we all came from a woman
Got our name from a woman and our game from a woman
I wonder why we take from our women
Why we rape our women, do we hate our women?
I think it's time to kill for our women
Time to heal our women, be real to our women
And if we don't we'll have a race of babies
That will hate the ladies that make the babies
And since a man can't make one
He has no right to tell a woman when and where to create one
So will the real men get up
I know you're fed up ladies, but keep your head upā
Conscious rap is not as popular and our popular rappers or musicians arenāt as verbal as he was.
I have dates outside my race. My grandfather is white, but he raped my grandmother for years resulting in her having several mixed kids when she was a teenager.
When i dated a white guy we genuinely cared for one another. We still talk daily. There were periods and moments when race didnāt matter. However, there were times when weād go out and if a black guy disrespected him and attempted to talk to me while he was there, heād say things likeāoh so now youāre going to leave me for this black guyā! And heād be very insecure over that. We finally had break up because you are right... you realize that a lot of things you two have in common but that wound, pain, hurt, and insecurities that was caused by his race.... he will never fully understand. In those moments, Iād feel lonely as his mate.
@DMV I admire your strength for being honest and definitely encourage you to speak out more. I completely agree with you....
I do miss artist like 2 Pac who was this amazing rapper that was popular and in his lyrics from the song Kepp Ya Head Up heād state, āSome say the blacker the berry, the sweeter the juice
I say the darker the flesh then the deeper the roots
I give a holla to my sisters on welfare
2Pac cares, if don't nobody else care
And, I know they like to beat you down a lot
When you come around the block, brothers clown a lot
But please don't cry, dry your eyes, never let up
Forgive but don't forget, girl, keep your head up
And when he tells you you ain't nothin', don't believe him
And if he can't learn to love you, you should leave him
Cause sister, you don't need him
And I ain't tryin' to gas ya up, I just call 'em how I see 'em
You know what makes me unhappy
When brothers make babies, and leave a young mother to be a pappy
And since we all came from a woman
Got our name from a woman and our game from a woman
I wonder why we take from our women
Why we rape our women, do we hate our women?
I think it's time to kill for our women
Time to heal our women, be real to our women
And if we don't we'll have a race of babies
That will hate the ladies that make the babies
And since a man can't make one
He has no right to tell a woman when and where to create one
So will the real men get up
I know you're fed up ladies, but keep your head upā
Conscious rap is not as popular and our popular rappers or musicians arenāt as verbal as he was.
I have dates outside my race. My grandfather is white, but he raped my grandmother for years resulting in her having several mixed kids when she was a teenager.
When i dated a white guy we genuinely cared for one another. We still talk daily. There were periods and moments when race didnāt matter. However, there were times when weād go out and if a black guy disrespected him and attempted to talk to me while he was there, heād say things likeāoh so now youāre going to leave me for this black guyā! And heād be very insecure over that. We finally had break up because you are right... you realize that a lot of things you two have in common but that wound, pain, hurt, and insecurities that was caused by his race.... he will never fully understand. In those moments, Iād feel lonely as his mate.
Posted by Fafayou know.... it IS taboo..Posted by hellosaggyReading this just pissed me off. I in no way can deal with that crap!
I'm tired, just got back from a country western club (yeah lol)....
I tend to hang out around a bunch of for lack of better term... white people.... and when alcohol is involved a lot of stuff gets said.
one of the things was. "I'd totally let you stick your black d inside"... wtf is that seriously. or "wow you don't act like other black guys"... and my personal favorite. "I've never been with a black guy before."
and it brings up a bigger point. why is mixed relationships so damn taboo still. I'm in my early 30's I've been surrounded by tons of people from all races, and I find things attractive about all of them. I've had relations with every one of the ethnicities that show up on the census form.
I know all about implied bias and all that crap. Why don't most people just see who they like, not just what color they are. we were talking about what physically attracts you earlier in misc forum and I didn't see anybody say white, black, latino (maybe I missed it).... but its automatically implied it seems for most.
Me personally, I get a lot of crap from black women when I date light (skinned/mixed) or white and its frustrating because I really don't have a preference on skin tone or ethnicity... it'd offensive because I have 28 female cousins, and I was raised by women of color and love and respect them.
If you are ghetto (that's hood or white trash) I don't want to speak to you period. that's really the only personality trait that will keep me from even having a dialog with you in the first place.click to expand
and it's YUMMY taboo for some. š
Posted by hellosaggyI had a strong feeling you were a woman
I'm tired, just got back from a country western club (yeah lol)....
I tend to hang out around a bunch of for lack of better term... white people.... and when alcohol is involved a lot of stuff gets said.
one of the things was. "I'd totally let you stick your black d inside"... wtf is that seriously. or "wow you don't act like other black guys"... and my personal favorite. "I've never been with a black guy before."
and it brings up a bigger point. why is mixed relationships so damn taboo still. I'm in my early 30's I've been surrounded by tons of people from all races, and I find things attractive about all of them. I've had relations with every one of the ethnicities that show up on the census form.
I know all about implied bias and all that crap. Why don't most people just see who they like, not just what color they are. we were talking about what physically attracts you earlier in misc forum and I didn't see anybody say white, black, latino (maybe I missed it).... but its automatically implied it seems for most.
Me personally, I get a lot of crap from black women when I date light (skinned/mixed) or white and its frustrating because I really don't have a preference on skin tone or ethnicity... it'd offensive because I have 28 female cousins, and I was raised by women of color and love and respect them.
If you are ghetto (that's hood or white trash) I don't want to speak to you period. that's really the only personality trait that will keep me from even having a dialog with you in the first place.
And I am a lighter complexion black girl.... with whatās considered āgood hairā whatever the hell that means, but colorism in any race is an issue. Iāve still been discriminated against. Iāve been discriminated against by my own race where females wouldnāt want to be my friend or talked about me because , āI thought I was all thatā in their own words. If theyāve taken the time to know me theyād know Iām a very down to earth laid back person. It was hurtful for me growing up. Or, āhe only likes you because youāre caramel, light skinned, good hair.... ā why he couldnāt like me because Iām pretty or have a good personality? But my best friend is darker toned and she really explained to me the root of the issue. Not that it makes it ok... but when people say in your own race, āyouāre really cute for a dark skinned girlā. That shit is ignorant to say to someone! But colorism happens often in many races and ethnicities. I heard itās worse in Asian and Middle Eastern cultures.
Posted by blvckphasewell where does the HATE come from thoughāPosted by lisabethur8Maybe.. but I don't think it's right to make that assumption.. just the same as it's not right for people to make assumptions about white people as though we are all the same. I hate discussions like this honestly.. they leave such a bad taste in my mouth. It's really sad to me that people feel this way in regard to race.. Seeing posts in this thread where people are trying to depict how white people feel as a whole.. that's really heart breaking to me.. we are not all the same and I don't like being told how I feel about another race.. Only I know how I feel.. Same as the women you are trying to paint as jealous.. only they know how they feel.. it's not up to us to make that decision.Posted by blvckphasePosted by EarthgoddessSo everyone is supposed to date within their own community according to this? :/
Ummm I generally don't give a hoot who black guys date
But I do wonder when i see a really hot, successful,well educated black guy
And a less than attractive non-black girl
I always think "well damn of all the super hot ( light or dark skin) black women how the hell did u choose that"
I mean I guess it's because they usually didn't grow up on a mixed community. Didn't go to school with a mixed community. So how the hell?
I end up saying maybe she has good head, or maybe he likes a woman who is more...mmmhh"softer"
Idk why... I'm not mad I just wonder why he couldn't find a perfectly good match in the community he was raised in
Unless of course he was raised in a mixed community
Why would anyone want to limit themselves (regardless of race) to only the people that they know and grew up with? Majority of people move when they get older or want to meet new people and experience new things.
lol hahaha they is JEALLLLOUUUUSSS.... they see the unattractive (to them it's unattractive) and with that educated hot black guy and go...DAYUMMM I want him dammit. bitch got him...
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from a deep seated jealousy....green eyed monster gone bad...can't keep it under wraps.
so how come they not care if it's a poor black guy and the rich white woman got him?
Posted by DeadInsideany sag placement and 9th house. loves the different race/culture.
i'm lazy to read this thread, but since half 2017. i only like to eat brown tits and brown clitoris, the pink own doesnt look yummy for now. but maybe in 2018 my mind will change.
cordially a sag venus and mars
sag venus.
no sag placement but is a 9th houser.
breaking taboos!!!
Posted by Wineaux15
And I am a lighter complexion black girl.... with whatās considered āgood hairā whatever the hell that means, but color isnāt in any race us an issue. Iāve still been discriminated against. Iāve been discriminated against by my own race where females wouldnāt want to be my friend or talked about me because , āI thought I was all thatā in their own words. If theyāve taken the time to know me theyād know Iām a very down to earth laid back person. It was hurtful for me growing up. Or, āhe only likes you because youāre caramel, light skinned, good hair.... ā why he couldnāt like me because Iām pretty or have a good personality? But my best friend is darker toned and she really explained to med the root of the issue. Not that it makes it ok... but when people say in your own race, āyouāre really cute for a dark skinned girlā. That shit is ignorant to say to someone! But colorism happens often in many races and ethnicities. I heard itās worse in Asian and Middle Eastern cultures.
I'm also a lighter skinned/or brownish skinned tone girl ...and colorism is real problem in the black community period ...cause lighter is considered "better" and that needs to change ...but in the original post this is straight fetishism ...the women that he hangs around or approach him saying like things "I have never been with a black guy before" "I want your big black d" thats gross not flattering or cute ...they dont value him as a person...its different of they have a genuine connection with someone of a different race .. but from what op describe they dont ...which is why I believe is receiving some of the harsher criticism from the women in his own community ...
Posted by Gob_Shitehm i find aquarius is similar.Posted by SupesPosted by Gob_ShiteI canāt say that. Everyone has their own preference as to who they find attractive. Iāve dated dang near all races.Posted by Supes
To bash a man for having a preference of a different race is racist AF.
Personally, I think the racist people are the ones who refuse to date outside of their own race, even if it's only on one occasion...
True but physicality (in this case, race) is only one aspect of attraction. To deem that one aspect as the most crucial for determining whether or not a romantic relationship gets off the ground is extremely shortsighted...
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does your aqua venus like different race/culture?
Posted by lisabethur8I was seeing a cap sun sag venus and damn he was in love with the coco š I was wondering how he was attracted to me being half filipina if all he ever dated and desired were black girls.Posted by DeadInsideany sag placement and 9th house. loves the different race/culture.
i'm lazy to read this thread, but since half 2017. i only like to eat brown tits and brown clitoris, the pink own doesnt look yummy for now. but maybe in 2018 my mind will change.
cordially a sag venus and mars
sag venus.
no sag placement but is a 9th houser.
breaking taboos!!!
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Has to be his sag venus, he was only attracted to foreign looking girls
And do I care? No, because everyone has their own damn preference.
My ex husband was full filipino, my ex bf was half brazilian and my cap hubby is full swiss. It simply doesn't matter as long as mentality matches
Posted by Earthgoddesshow ? because we are individual humans and we can date whomever we wish to date - it is favorable to broadening the gene pool - when people outside of their circle, state, country, etc. I hope someday we are all one big happy family lol
Ummm I generally don't give a hoot who black guys date
But I do wonder when i see a really hot, successful,well educated black guy
And a less than attractive non-black girl
I always think "well damn of all the super hot ( light or dark skin) black women how the hell did u choose that"
I mean I guess it's because they usually didn't grow up on a mixed community. Didn't go to school with a mixed community. So how the hell?
I end up saying maybe she has good head, or maybe he likes a woman who is more...mmmhh"softer"
Idk why... I'm not mad I just wonder why he couldn't find a perfectly good match in the community he was raised in
Unless of course he was raised in a mixed community
simpletons. race only bothers the unevolved. thats not to say the pain of the past doesnt ring true for some still but its what they choose to do with that pain...
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I do have to say, as being both Latina and black. Iām looked down upon by other lighter Hispanics (Iām not fully considered in their eyes), Iāve been looked down upon by black women, and white women. What some others donāt speak about is, where do these biracial children who were born fit in?
There is hate when there are interracial relationships but there is more hate for the child that is born out of it. All this makes me sick.
My mother has a white mother and a Native (Chippewa) father and although I'm not her I don't know how she feels and everything...she has opened up about similar feelings.
She's mentioned all the side-eye she'd get growing up. Or how some of her friends couldn't always play with her because she was "Indian" in a predominantly white community. Or how she would get followed by security in stores, etc etc...
My stepdad's best friend is also half white, Half Native and he has similar feelings. Not being white enough for the white side and not Native enough for the Natives.
Sad that people can't be people.
Posted by blvckphaseI can agree - I only focus on who I am and the person I want to be which is a good person - and anyone who has a problem with who I date - that is their problem, not minePosted by lisabethur8Maybe.. but I don't think it's right to make that assumption.. just the same as it's not right for people to make assumptions about white people as though we are all the same. I hate discussions like this honestly.. they leave such a bad taste in my mouth. It's really sad to me that people feel this way in regard to race.. Seeing posts in this thread where people are trying to depict how white people feel as a whole.. that's really heart breaking to me.. we are not all the same and I don't like being told how I feel about another race.. Only I know how I feel.. Same as the women you are trying to paint as jealous.. only they know how they feel.. it's not up to us to make that decision.Posted by blvckphasePosted by EarthgoddessSo everyone is supposed to date within their own community according to this? :/
Ummm I generally don't give a hoot who black guys date
But I do wonder when i see a really hot, successful,well educated black guy
And a less than attractive non-black girl
I always think "well damn of all the super hot ( light or dark skin) black women how the hell did u choose that"
I mean I guess it's because they usually didn't grow up on a mixed community. Didn't go to school with a mixed community. So how the hell?
I end up saying maybe she has good head, or maybe he likes a woman who is more...mmmhh"softer"
Idk why... I'm not mad I just wonder why he couldn't find a perfectly good match in the community he was raised in
Unless of course he was raised in a mixed community
Why would anyone want to limit themselves (regardless of race) to only the people that they know and grew up with? Majority of people move when they get older or want to meet new people and experience new things.
lol hahaha they is JEALLLLOUUUUSSS.... they see the unattractive (to them it's unattractive) and with that educated hot black guy and go...DAYUMMM I want him dammit. bitch got him...
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yes, you can continue to make it about historical issues/facts/whatever - but time changes, people change, there are so many mixed children and this will continue to the point that most everyone is mixed - which if you do your dna, we all are anyway - facts people - stay in the present and look toward the future - not dwell in the past and stay angry at something no one can change - it is not helping to change the tune for a better future for all involved - no, it is just fueling the ever raging fires of the past which is "ignorant" - let's be smarter than our history
Posted by hazyFloOmg Flo I completely agree! My mother and father are mixed and had the same complexes growing up. This is sickening that mixed people often feel left out due to other peopleās racism or lack of understanding.
I do have to say, as being both Latina and black. Iām looked down upon by other lighter Hispanics (Iām not fully considered in their eyes), Iāve been looked down upon by black women, and white women. What some others donāt speak about is, where do these biracial children who were born fit in?
My mother is German, white green eyes blonde hair. My father is Dominican puertorican black with black features. Out of all the children my mother had, I was the less loved cared for and even ashamed of because I was her colored child. That grew pain in my heart, I felt I didnāt belong to any community besides just black Latinos. We are own kind of unique.
I remember dating a strong black man. He was raised right, sweet, and he had a lot of love to give. It felt right.. he understood my mixed hair and body, he understood my culture and was accepted immediately. He went to an predominantly black university but we decided to date. The look and remarks we got because although I have black features my skin is was still too light for them. I wasnāt considered a strong black woman in eyes of his friends and some of his family. Because of listening to what other people said we didnāt last very long.
Whatās another problem? When I date a white men, all of a sudden the roles switch. Why are you with him? Is a black man not good enough for you? Iāve learned Iām not going to keep living to please what society and communities is found good in their eyes because I will never be at peace or happy. I have accepted who I am, I have grown to love what I have to offer. I understand what Is what but I stayed listening to others I would be torn in two and Iām not about to do that.
There is hate when there are interracial relationships but there is more hate for the child that is born out of it. All this makes me sick.
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And I am a lighter complexion black girl.... with whatās considered āgood hairā whatever the hell that means, but color isnāt in any race us an issue. Iāve still been discriminated against. Iāve been discriminated against by my own race where females wouldnāt want to be my friend or talked about me because , āI thought I was all thatā in their own words. If theyāve taken the time to know me theyād know Iām a very down to earth laid back person. It was hurtful for me growing up. Or, āhe only likes you because youāre caramel, light skinned, good hair.... ā why he couldnāt like me because Iām pretty or have a good personality? But my best friend is darker toned and she really explained to med the root of the issue. Not that it makes it ok... but when people say in your own race, āyouāre really cute for a dark skinned girlā. That shit is ignorant to say to someone! But colorism happens often in many races and ethnicities. I heard itās worse in Asian and Middle Eastern cultures.
I'm also a lighter skinned/or brownish skinned tone girl ...and colorism is real problem in the black community period ...cause lighter is considered "better" and that needs to change ...but in the original post this is straight fetishism ...the women that he hangs around or approach him saying like things "I have never been with a black guy before" "I want your big black d" thats gross not flattering or cute ...they dont value him as a person...its different of they have a genuine connection with someone of a different race .. but from what op describe they dont ...which is why I believe is receiving some of the harsher criticism from the women in his own community ...
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I agree 100%
I've never understood why it's so wrong or "taboo" to date outside your race it's ridiculous that people even care what other people think. At the end of the day all that matters is what's good for you and how u feel about each other. When your alone at night in bed just you and her/him under the covers that's all that matters.
Posted by hazyFlomaybe it's where I live and/or the person I am because I don't hang around ignorant people and I don't get fueled by anyone's drama or issues with whatever - my son is mixed, 37 and so also my grandchildren - and I have seen and know so many other mixed families it's not even a thing at all these days so I don't get what you are saying about the children being hated - if they are, it's by a very ignorant person and they are waved off and forgotten about - ain't nobody got time for that
I do have to say, as being both Latina and black. Iām looked down upon by other lighter Hispanics (Iām not fully considered in their eyes), Iāve been looked down upon by black women, and white women. What some others donāt speak about is, where do these biracial children who were born fit in?
My mother is German, white green eyes blonde hair. My father is Dominican puertorican black with black features. Out of all the children my mother had, I was the less loved cared for and even ashamed of because I was her colored child. That grew pain in my heart, I felt I didnāt belong to any community besides just black Latinos. We are own kind of unique.
I remember dating a strong black man. He was raised right, sweet, and he had a lot of love to give. It felt right.. he understood my mixed hair and body, he understood my culture and was accepted immediately. He went to an predominantly black university but we decided to date. The look and remarks we got because although I have black features my skin is was still too light for them. I wasnāt considered a strong black woman in eyes of his friends and some of his family. Because of listening to what other people said we didnāt last very long.
Whatās another problem? When I date a white men, all of a sudden the roles switch. Why are you with him? Is a black man not good enough for you? Iāve learned Iām not going to keep living to please what society and communities is found good in their eyes because I will never be at peace or happy. I have accepted who I am, I have grown to love what I have to offer. I understand what Is what but I stayed listening to others I would be torn in two and Iām not about to do that.
There is hate when there are interracial relationships but there is more hate for the child that is born out of it. All this makes me sick.
Posted by hazyFloPosted by CuddleBug88This is exactly what Iāve experienced and now I fear the same issue for my own daughter. I am too diluted for either race but still have to date within my means. How?? No matter who I end up with it would be considered interracial because I am biracial.Posted by hazyFlo
I do have to say, as being both Latina and black. Iām looked down upon by other lighter Hispanics (Iām not fully considered in their eyes), Iāve been looked down upon by black women, and white women. What some others donāt speak about is, where do these biracial children who were born fit in?
There is hate when there are interracial relationships but there is more hate for the child that is born out of it. All this makes me sick.
My mother has a white mother and a Native (Chippewa) father and although I'm not her I don't know how she feels and everything...she has opened up about similar feelings.
She's mentioned all the side-eye she'd get growing up. Or how some of her friends couldn't always play with her because she was "Indian" in a predominantly white community. Or how she would get followed by security in stores, etc etc...
My stepdad's best friend is also half white, Half Native and he has similar feelings. Not being white enough for the white side and not Native enough for the Natives.
Sad that people can't be people.
If yāall can only say the mix kids are cute but canāt accept them as they get older stop making them them.
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šš I can't speak much on the issue, I'm white...I don't look Native so I've never dealt with this issue. But I've seen and heard enough about it. A human is a human, everyone has feelings and everyone needs love.
Posted by hazyFloand that is what I said - and for those for whom it exists, they need to know that it isn't like that everywhere elsePosted by tctaoJust because you havenāt experienced it doesnāt mean it doesnāt exist for someone else, because it still does and has for a long time.Posted by hazyFlomaybe it's where I live and/or the person I am because I don't hang around ignorant people and I don't get fueled by anyone's drama or issues with whatever - my son is mixed, 37 and so also my grandchildren - and I have seen and know so many other mixed families it's not even a thing at all these days so I don't get what you are saying about the children being hated - if they are, it's by a very ignorant person and they are waved off and forgotten about - ain't nobody got time for that
I do have to say, as being both Latina and black. Iām looked down upon by other lighter Hispanics (Iām not fully considered in their eyes), Iāve been looked down upon by black women, and white women. What some others donāt speak about is, where do these biracial children who were born fit in?
My mother is German, white green eyes blonde hair. My father is Dominican puertorican black with black features. Out of all the children my mother had, I was the less loved cared for and even ashamed of because I was her colored child. That grew pain in my heart, I felt I didnāt belong to any community besides just black Latinos. We are own kind of unique.
I remember dating a strong black man. He was raised right, sweet, and he had a lot of love to give. It felt right.. he understood my mixed hair and body, he understood my culture and was accepted immediately. He went to an predominantly black university but we decided to date. The look and remarks we got because although I have black features my skin is was still too light for them. I wasnāt considered a strong black woman in eyes of his friends and some of his family. Because of listening to what other people said we didnāt last very long.
Whatās another problem? When I date a white men, all of a sudden the roles switch. Why are you with him? Is a black man not good enough for you? Iāve learned Iām not going to keep living to please what society and communities is found good in their eyes because I will never be at peace or happy. I have accepted who I am, I have grown to love what I have to offer. I understand what Is what but I stayed listening to others I would be torn in two and Iām not about to do that.
There is hate when there are interracial relationships but there is more hate for the child that is born out of it. All this makes me sick.
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Mixed relationships aren't taboo in my city op. Sorry you live in podunk city, USA š¤·āāļø
Posted by hazyFloPosted by Wineaux15It took me a LONG ASS TIME, to start fully accepting my own type of beauty and who I was because I felt isolated. I envied my all black sisters or my all white sister. I was half blood half mixed child stuck in between.Posted by hazyFloOmg Flo I completely agree! My mother and father are mixed and had the same complexes growing up. This is sickening that mixed people often feel left out due to other peopleās racism or lack of understanding.
I do have to say, as being both Latina and black. Iām looked down upon by other lighter Hispanics (Iām not fully considered in their eyes), Iāve been looked down upon by black women, and white women. What some others donāt speak about is, where do these biracial children who were born fit in?
My mother is German, white green eyes blonde hair. My father is Dominican puertorican black with black features. Out of all the children my mother had, I was the less loved cared for and even ashamed of because I was her colored child. That grew pain in my heart, I felt I didnāt belong to any community besides just black Latinos. We are own kind of unique.
I remember dating a strong black man. He was raised right, sweet, and he had a lot of love to give. It felt right.. he understood my mixed hair and body, he understood my culture and was accepted immediately. He went to an predominantly black university but we decided to date. The look and remarks we got because although I have black features my skin is was still too light for them. I wasnāt considered a strong black woman in eyes of his friends and some of his family. Because of listening to what other people said we didnāt last very long.
Whatās another problem? When I date a white men, all of a sudden the roles switch. Why are you with him? Is a black man not good enough for you? Iāve learned Iām not going to keep living to please what society and communities is found good in their eyes because I will never be at peace or happy. I have accepted who I am, I have grown to love what I have to offer. I understand what Is what but I stayed listening to others I would be torn in two and Iām not about to do that.
There is hate when there are interracial relationships but there is more hate for the child that is born out of it. All this makes me sick.
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Awwww my poor Flo! I just wanna love on you! As a school counselor i see this so often. I have one student whoās gorgeous.... sheās medium brown with blue eyes and natural blonde hair. Her dad is white with blonde hair, and her mom is dark skinned. Her dad really loved her mom.... (this is the story Dad tells me in my office one day), but his family refused to accept them as a couple. He has a rich well to do family in Houston. And they told him if he didnāt disown his daughter and leave her mother they would leave him out of their socialite money pool. Well the student grew up most of her life without a dad.... bow that his parents passed he wants to come back in her life! She has a lot of emotional damage due to this. Such a pretty young lady, but confused because the adults in her life couldnāt get it together. Itās so bad when people tell her sheās pretty... itās hard for her to accept the compliment. Iām working with her in that though.
Posted by tctaoNot sure where you live, but @HazyFlo and I stay in Texas abs thereās a lot of that type of ignorance here. She is validated in feeling that way.Posted by hazyFlomaybe it's where I live and/or the person I am because I don't hang around ignorant people and I don't get fueled by anyone's drama or issues with whatever - my son is mixed, 37 and so also my grandchildren - and I have seen and know so many other mixed families it's not even a thing at all these days so I don't get what you are saying about the children being hated - if they are, it's by a very ignorant person and they are waved off and forgotten about - ain't nobody got time for that
I do have to say, as being both Latina and black. Iām looked down upon by other lighter Hispanics (Iām not fully considered in their eyes), Iāve been looked down upon by black women, and white women. What some others donāt speak about is, where do these biracial children who were born fit in?
My mother is German, white green eyes blonde hair. My father is Dominican puertorican black with black features. Out of all the children my mother had, I was the less loved cared for and even ashamed of because I was her colored child. That grew pain in my heart, I felt I didnāt belong to any community besides just black Latinos. We are own kind of unique.
I remember dating a strong black man. He was raised right, sweet, and he had a lot of love to give. It felt right.. he understood my mixed hair and body, he understood my culture and was accepted immediately. He went to an predominantly black university but we decided to date. The look and remarks we got because although I have black features my skin is was still too light for them. I wasnāt considered a strong black woman in eyes of his friends and some of his family. Because of listening to what other people said we didnāt last very long.
Whatās another problem? When I date a white men, all of a sudden the roles switch. Why are you with him? Is a black man not good enough for you? Iāve learned Iām not going to keep living to please what society and communities is found good in their eyes because I will never be at peace or happy. I have accepted who I am, I have grown to love what I have to offer. I understand what Is what but I stayed listening to others I would be torn in two and Iām not about to do that.
There is hate when there are interracial relationships but there is more hate for the child that is born out of it. All this makes me sick.
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Posted by hellosaggyI have the same question. Another angle.
I'm tired, just got back from a country western club (yeah lol)....
I tend to hang out around a bunch of for lack of better term... white people.... and when alcohol is involved a lot of stuff gets said.
one of the things was. "I'd totally let you stick your black d inside"... wtf is that seriously. or "wow you don't act like other black guys"... and my personal favorite. "I've never been with a black guy before."
and it brings up a bigger point. why is mixed relationships so damn taboo still. I'm in my early 30's I've been surrounded by tons of people from all races, and I find things attractive about all of them. I've had relations with every one of the ethnicities that show up on the census form.
I know all about implied bias and all that crap. Why don't most people just see who they like, not just what color they are. we were talking about what physically attracts you earlier in misc forum and I didn't see anybody say white, black, latino (maybe I missed it).... but its automatically implied it seems for most.
Me personally, I get a lot of crap from black women when I date light (skinned/mixed) or white and its frustrating because I really don't have a preference on skin tone or ethnicity... it'd offensive because I have 28 female cousins, and I was raised by women of color and love and respect them.
If you are ghetto (that's hood or white trash) I don't want to speak to you period. that's really the only personality trait that will keep me from even having a dialog with you in the first place.
Several days ago black man I work with approached me and we've talk about everything and next time we had talked he told me he really likes white wimen and his wife is black! So they don't have sex because he isn't atttacyed to her.
Ok dude! Why didn't you marry white?
Because you know how hard is that for a black guy to find a white woman to marry.
Actually I don't know but I took his words.
And trying to avoid him.
Posted by Wineaux15I wasn't trying to invalidate her - it's unfortunate for you both that there is an overabundance of ignorance there - I wouldn't want that for anyone - so now we both understand that it isn't like that everywhere in the worldPosted by tctaoNot sure where you live, but @HazyFlo and I stay in Texas abs thereās a lot of that type of ignorance here. She is validated in feeling that way.Posted by hazyFlomaybe it's where I live and/or the person I am because I don't hang around ignorant people and I don't get fueled by anyone's drama or issues with whatever - my son is mixed, 37 and so also my grandchildren - and I have seen and know so many other mixed families it's not even a thing at all these days so I don't get what you are saying about the children being hated - if they are, it's by a very ignorant person and they are waved off and forgotten about - ain't nobody got time for that
I do have to say, as being both Latina and black. Iām looked down upon by other lighter Hispanics (Iām not fully considered in their eyes), Iāve been looked down upon by black women, and white women. What some others donāt speak about is, where do these biracial children who were born fit in?
My mother is German, white green eyes blonde hair. My father is Dominican puertorican black with black features. Out of all the children my mother had, I was the less loved cared for and even ashamed of because I was her colored child. That grew pain in my heart, I felt I didnāt belong to any community besides just black Latinos. We are own kind of unique.
I remember dating a strong black man. He was raised right, sweet, and he had a lot of love to give. It felt right.. he understood my mixed hair and body, he understood my culture and was accepted immediately. He went to an predominantly black university but we decided to date. The look and remarks we got because although I have black features my skin is was still too light for them. I wasnāt considered a strong black woman in eyes of his friends and some of his family. Because of listening to what other people said we didnāt last very long.
Whatās another problem? When I date a white men, all of a sudden the roles switch. Why are you with him? Is a black man not good enough for you? Iāve learned Iām not going to keep living to please what society and communities is found good in their eyes because I will never be at peace or happy. I have accepted who I am, I have grown to love what I have to offer. I understand what Is what but I stayed listening to others I would be torn in two and Iām not about to do that.
There is hate when there are interracial relationships but there is more hate for the child that is born out of it. All this makes me sick.
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You assholes just love bringing up race smh
P.S all of the black people on this post are making themselves look bad. All of these conversations aren't for everyone's ears.
Some shit should stay at the house
P.S all of the black people on this post are making themselves look bad. All of these conversations aren't for everyone's ears.
Some shit should stay at the house
Posted by LadyNeptuneit is still TABOO for so many people according to topics like these.
Mixed relationships aren't taboo in my city op. Sorry you live in podunk city, USA š¤·āāļø
and for people on facebook to get all arms about it and talk about race.
Posted by Drunksecsthat's why it's anonymous? š
You assholes just love bringing up race smh
P.S all of the black people on this post are making themselves look bad. All of these conversations aren't for everyone's ears.
Some shit should stay at the house
alot of peeps here can say they are black and they really aren't jsut to test out if you are racist or not.
that could happen in a public forum. it's what you see is the truth or not.
(with multiple accounts and stuff lol)
I've dated all ethnicities. I really truly Don't have a preference. That's pretty unfair to say another woman from a different culture won't have your back. I'm not shortsighted and refuse to limit my potential dating pool. I see it more on the Coast wise I see it more on the East Coast. West Coast its pretty normal.
My longest relationships were with a Trinidadian woman (Venezuelan, African, French) and a Russian.
I dated a black girl when I was in high school *shrugs*
My longest relationships were with a Trinidadian woman (Venezuelan, African, French) and a Russian.
I dated a black girl when I was in high school *shrugs*
Posted by Cancan26Funnily enough, the light skin and dark skin thing applies to Asian culture as well. For us, the darker you are, the worst, but that stems from darker skinned complexions were usually field workers. And to be a field worker, meant your family was low class and had to work. Light skin equated to being pampered and having money.Posted by Wineaux15
And I am a lighter complexion black girl.... with whatās considered āgood hairā whatever the hell that means, but color isnāt in any race us an issue. Iāve still been discriminated against. Iāve been discriminated against by my own race where females wouldnāt want to be my friend or talked about me because , āI thought I was all thatā in their own words. If theyāve taken the time to know me theyād know Iām a very down to earth laid back person. It was hurtful for me growing up. Or, āhe only likes you because youāre caramel, light skinned, good hair.... ā why he couldnāt like me because Iām pretty or have a good personality? But my best friend is darker toned and she really explained to med the root of the issue. Not that it makes it ok... but when people say in your own race, āyouāre really cute for a dark skinned girlā. That shit is ignorant to say to someone! But colorism happens often in many races and ethnicities. I heard itās worse in Asian and Middle Eastern cultures.
I'm also a lighter skinned/or brownish skinned tone girl ...and colorism is real problem in the black community period ...cause lighter is considered "better" and that needs to change ...but in the original post this is straight fetishism ...the women that he hangs around or approach him saying like things "I have never been with a black guy before" "I want your big black d" thats gross not flattering or cute ...they dont value him as a person...its different of they have a genuine connection with someone of a different race .. but from what op describe they dont ...which is why I believe is receiving some of the harsher criticism from the women in his own community ...
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Posted by Gob_ShiteDisagree. Preference will never be racism.Posted by Supes
To bash a man for having a preference of a different race is racist AF.
Personally, I think the racist people are the ones who refuse to date outside of their own race, even if it's only on one occasion...
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Just cause we share the same ethnicity doesn't mean you get dibs on my pussy.
Personal choice is personal.
Posted by hellosaggyLord knows! I find it is still a "thing" in America more from my personal experience. But then I had a pic of Tupac hanging over my bed when I was like 12 lol. I couldn't understand how America could have a divide when it was a country that is basically a mix of everything (besides the natives but that was another story for me) Then I discovered a thing called "politics" and said to myself-well fuck this world!
I'm tired, just got back from a country western club (yeah lol)....
I tend to hang out around a bunch of for lack of better term... white people.... and when alcohol is involved a lot of stuff gets said.
one of the things was. "I'd totally let you stick your black d inside"... wtf is that seriously. or "wow you don't act like other black guys"... and my personal favorite. "I've never been with a black guy before."
and it brings up a bigger point. why is mixed relationships so damn taboo still. I'm in my early 30's I've been surrounded by tons of people from all races, and I find things attractive about all of them. I've had relations with every one of the ethnicities that show up on the census form.
I know all about implied bias and all that crap. Why don't most people just see who they like, not just what color they are. we were talking about what physically attracts you earlier in misc forum and I didn't see anybody say white, black, latino (maybe I missed it).... but its automatically implied it seems for most.
Me personally, I get a lot of crap from black women when I date light (skinned/mixed) or white and its frustrating because I really don't have a preference on skin tone or ethnicity... it'd offensive because I have 28 female cousins, and I was raised by women of color and love and respect them.
If you are ghetto (that's hood or white trash) I don't want to speak to you period. that's really the only personality trait that will keep me from even having a dialog with you in the first place.
Posted by lisabethur8Right. But I'm saying it isn't like this in my city. Did you even read...?Posted by LadyNeptuneit is still TABOO for so many people according to topics like these.
Mixed relationships aren't taboo in my city op. Sorry you live in podunk city, USA š¤·āāļø
and for people on facebook to get all arms about it and talk about race.
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Personally I love seeing the more unexpected and rare interracial couples.
The black woman with the Asian man.
The Indian (dot) woman with a white dude.
The Asian woman with the middle eastern dude.
Love is love.
The black woman with the Asian man.
The Indian (dot) woman with a white dude.
The Asian woman with the middle eastern dude.
Love is love.
Posted by hazyFlowell that sucks - the Deep South - they do seem to have a lot more people still entrenched in the historical ways - I live in the south but only one state under and I was born and grew up in the north - I wasn't raised with judgement against anyone unless they were a bad personPosted by tctaoIt happens depending on who I plan to date, or in the Deep South. Texas still has itās subtle or very apparent racial issues. Itās funny the same white boys who would say never in front of their families are the same ones trying to get with me behind closed doors.Posted by hazyFloand that is what I said - and for those for whom it exists, they need to know that it isn't like that everywhere elsePosted by tctaoJust because you havenāt experienced it doesnāt mean it doesnāt exist for someone else, because it still does and has for a long time.Posted by hazyFlomaybe it's where I live and/or the person I am because I don't hang around ignorant people and I don't get fueled by anyone's drama or issues with whatever - my son is mixed, 37 and so also my grandchildren - and I have seen and know so many other mixed families it's not even a thing at all these days so I don't get what you are saying about the children being hated - if they are, it's by a very ignorant person and they are waved off and forgotten about - ain't nobody got time for that
I do have to say, as being both Latina and black. Iām looked down upon by other lighter Hispanics (Iām not fully considered in their eyes), Iāve been looked down upon by black women, and white women. What some others donāt speak about is, where do these biracial children who were born fit in?
My mother is German, white green eyes blonde hair. My father is Dominican puertorican black with black features. Out of all the children my mother had, I was the less loved cared for and even ashamed of because I was her colored child. That grew pain in my heart, I felt I didnāt belong to any community besides just black Latinos. We are own kind of unique.
I remember dating a strong black man. He was raised right, sweet, and he had a lot of love to give. It felt right.. he understood my mixed hair and body, he understood my culture and was accepted immediately. He went to an predominantly black university but we decided to date. The look and remarks we got because although I have black features my skin is was still too light for them. I wasnāt considered a strong black woman in eyes of his friends and some of his family. Because of listening to what other people said we didnāt last very long.
Whatās another problem? When I date a white men, all of a sudden the roles switch. Why are you with him? Is a black man not good enough for you? Iāve learned Iām not going to keep living to please what society and communities is found good in their eyes because I will never be at peace or happy. I have accepted who I am, I have grown to love what I have to offer. I understand what Is what but I stayed listening to others I would be torn in two and Iām not about to do that.
There is hate when there are interracial relationships but there is more hate for the child that is born out of it. All this makes me sick.
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makes me wonder why it can be so very different depending on where people live - I would hope that if I grew up there, that I would have the means to leave and live how I want with less drama and stress and I would if I had the placements I have now - but when you are born there and grow up I'm sure it isn't easy ... just know that it isn't like that all over and there truly are places of peace - not 100% but so much more so than where you live
didn't read thread and trying to stay away from these race threads altogether....just want to say that everywhere I go I see mixed couples now....and most prominent are black men with white women - often both are exceptionally attractive....every time I see it, it brings a smile to my face and gives me hope....looking forward to a more beautiful racially integrated world....
Posted by CaramelizedCoffeeReally? I thought those cultures would be super different.Posted by LadyNeptunethat to me makes sense, similar cultures!
Personally I love seeing the more unexpected and rare interracial couples.
The black woman with the Asian man.
The Indian (dot) woman with a white dude.
The Asian woman with the middle eastern dude.
Love is love.click to expand
You always see the black dude with the white girl. I like when I see different combos.
Posted by SupesAll ethnicity are being 'bred out'.Posted by CaramelizedCoffeeIf black men donāt want black women, and black women want white men.....the AA culture will be bred out.Posted by AquaNextDoorGuilt talk him lol. I think he's garbage
Don't be fooled by people trying to guilty talk you. Black lives matter etc yada yada we all know that all lives matter. You clearly stated that you aren't interested in hood rats wether white or black and thats your right and only proofs that u are smart enough to stay away from that sort of people.
You don't need MBA to be deserving of a girl who's not ghetto. Dear lord... I hope you can stay positive
A waste of space
This guy can't do nothing for a black women
He's weak. He's an empty shell. Why he keeps talking about external things
The guy seems very unaware and very stupid
A black man can date who and what he wants but if he has to ask the question of why black women would not be happy. He hasn't done his homework and isn't worth the trouble
How can someone who claims has 28 girl cousins be so unaware
And most black women I know have moved on anyways. They're all dating wHite men in Seattle
I'm an African so I don't give a fuk what either do
But I've never seen a man in any culture discard his woman like the African American male. It's disgusting
I'm so fuking lucky to be an African. If I want I can go get married tomorrow. There's someone who wants me who admires me who thinks I'm the pedestal
That's why I'll never date a black guy
They're gutless weak and uncultured
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Show me a country or city that remains unchanged ethnically. You can't cause it don't exist.
Its a beautiful thing, change.
People are gonna be more beautiful, more healthy, and more open minded if they are mixed.
Posted by CaramelizedCoffeeAsian with middle eastern, not indian.Posted by LadyNeptuneAsian and Indian are similar in culture so it makes sensePosted by CaramelizedCoffeeReally? I thought those cultures would be super different.Posted by LadyNeptunethat to me makes sense, similar cultures!
Personally I love seeing the more unexpected and rare interracial couples.
The black woman with the Asian man.
The Indian (dot) woman with a white dude.
The Asian woman with the middle eastern dude.
Love is love.
You always see the black dude with the white girl. I like when I see different combos.
Black woman with Asian man still similar cultures-Family Oriented
Indian woman with white dude (heavily settling)
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But either way, aren't all cultures family oriented?? I mean, thats how we all connect at the end of the day, through our loved ones and food. Its like the common denominator.
I may not understand everything about you and your culture but I can appreciate your love of family and food (the general you). Everyone has that in common.
Posted by CaramelizedCoffeebred out or bred in....pretty much the same thing...however you see it, as long as you're smiling, and humanity is moving towards more unity as a whole, I think that's what matters....Posted by Metatronyes the fact that the white race is being bred out brings a smile to my face too
didn't read thread and trying to stay away from these race threads altogether....just want to say that everywhere I go I see mixed couples now....and most prominent are black men with white women - often both are exceptionally attractive....every time I see it, it brings a smile to my face and gives me hope....looking forward to a more beautiful racially integrated world....
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Posted by CaramelizedCoffeeLA is like any city, where there are enclaves in certain subcities. I live in glendale and my neighborhood is predominately middle eastern with a sprinkling of Asian.Posted by RooSagicornLA is more diverse for sure. Yeah it's so white. Fuk. 1% of black here
Most of the PNW is pretty white. Maybe more rurally than Portland & Seattle, but Iām not sure itās comparable to Los Angeles area for example.click to expand
I work in Sherman oaks which is a predominantly Israeli/Jewish community. But you still see black, Mexican, Asians, etc. walking around. Its nice to live somewhere with so much diversity.
I like white guys. What can I say?
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