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?On Your 1st Date...
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Posted by cheekyfaerie
Are you asking for specific purposes or mere curiosity? Because I don't typically ask personal questions, but choose a scenario that gives us something to do and something to talk about. Scenarios that breed comfort. When people get comfortable, they start offering info and all sorts of things are learned organically.
You know, questions to see if the two of you share common interests, hobbies , etc.
My mind is so gone, I don't know what question to ask first.
Posted by Deadpoop
If you could be any animal which car would you steal and why?
I will be a giant fly stealing a range rover because it will drive people crazy.
Posted by clay
What are your exact year, month, date, hour and location of birth?
Year of the wood Dog, the Month of Spring, the day before Spring, at noon , from your mothers vajayjay.
lol being serious (aside from the funny comments above) I would keep things simple. If you don't know anything about this person or if you knew them before the date just keep the conversation simple and try to build off of what answers they give you.
If they are in school ask them what their main career goals are or where they are working and if they plan something bigger in the future.
As for personal questions still keep it simple unless the conversation builds and you feel comfortable with asking them anything really serious (only if things are going super well and you're both comfortable with asking them!). What do you like to do? Any hobbies or interests you share in common. Are they an animal or people person? I also think making puns or jokes to keep them entertained or the mood light is really good and helps both of you relax more.
My first date with my current bf was (in his words) horrible. It was because we were both nervous and had only spoken through texting. We met on a dating website and that was our first time seeing each other in person. Movie then dinner then awkwardness and shyness the whole night. Anyway, first date was ehh and the second was worse but third time was awesome but just keep things simple. Hope anything from this helps!
Serious business. First thing first -
"So, what's your favourite kink?"
Are you single?
When was your last relationship? (*pay attention to how they talk about their ex)
How long was your longest relationship?
Where do you see yourself in 5 years?
What are you looking for? (Casual dating, relationship, etc.)
Obviously not bombarding them with these questions, it's a date not an interview. But if you can work these questions in naturally over the first few dates it'll give you so insight and speed up the screening process.
Posted by clay
What are your exact year, month, date, hour and location of birth?
And when they tell you they don't know you have them call their mom on speaker phone and ask 😄
Posted by cheekyfaerie
Are you asking for specific purposes or mere curiosity? Because I don't typically ask personal questions, but choose a scenario that gives us something to do and something to talk about. Scenarios that breed comfort. When people get comfortable, they start offering info and all sorts of things are learned organically.You know, questions to see if the two of you share common interests, hobbies , etc.
My mind is so gone, I don't know what question to ask first.
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I think that's what cheeky means. If you are concentrating on something else than the awkwardness of the first date, conversation flows more naturally and you don't have to frantically search for something to say.
Whatever comes to mind depending on the person. I usually know basic things about them before having a first date with them because I've gotten to know them on a friendship level first.
if she has chlamydia
It's an interview/interrogation haha asking questions with a nature flow.
I imagine some questions you could ask would be ok for one date but not another date.
Posted by Deadpoop
If you could be any animal which car would you steal and why?
tsk, tsk., one does not steal a car, too large and cumbersome!
one slides into the house and "borrows" the pearls and jews.. then upon being found, one quickly slips off into the night.
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