Toxic Manipulative Women (Page 2)

Posted by GemiMay

Posted by DonnaLibra

Posted by GemiMay

Posted by DonnaLibra

I wouldn't even speak to his wife if I were you. The only one you should be talking to is your Dad as he is your family. Don't upset yourself by getting into conversations with her. I would treat her like an inanimate object.

If that ‘object’ IN YOUR FACE - and #3 IS!

What do you do then? Shaking up during whole family event waiting for the brawl?

What I hate is cleaning gravy off the floor and having my towels all smelly after the ‘victim’ showered 🤢

See I'd make the victim wear the gravy home and not mess up my towels. I don't mind cleaning the floor up.

You mean others don’t grab you and hold you so you calm down and they can have desert?

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No they usually gag me and sit me in the corner until they finish dessert. LOL

I'm trying my best not to lose my shit today...

Me and my dad haven't talked since those text messages (besides his 3 butt dials)

He didn't come to my kids 1st T-ball game, because if he went to my kids game then he would have to hear about it from his wife how he didn't go to her grandkids T-ball game (even tho my dad went to every single ball game my middle sisters kid was in last year, and non of her grandkids games)

My littlest sister is coming into town for a angel baby walk, i was supposed to be apart of but i'm got a T-Ball game and we made plans to meet up after.

My dad's wife has started a group text that everyone should meet for family dinner that night. (i reframed for texting my dad, to tell his wife not to call or text me) in her text she said that she needed to know who was going to make reservations. I'm the only person who hasn't' responded. I do not want to go... surely this is going to start some shit. but I'm trying my best not to lose my shit, I'm totally gonna lose my shit.

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I'm trying my best not to lose my shit today...

Me and my dad haven't talked since those text messages (besides his 3 butt dials)

He didn't come to my kids 1st T-ball game, because if he went to my kids game then he would have to hear about it from his wife how he didn't go to her grandkids T-ball game (even tho my dad went to every single ball game my middle sisters kid was in last year, and non of her grandkids games)

My littlest sister is coming into town for a angel baby walk, i was supposed to be apart of but i'm got a T-Ball game and we made plans to meet up after.

My dad's wife has started a group text that everyone should meet for family dinner that night. (i reframed for texting my dad, to tell his wife not to call or text me) in her text she said that she needed to know who was going to make reservations. I'm the only person who hasn't' responded. I do not want to go... surely this is going to start some shit. but I'm trying my best not to lose my shit, I'm totally gonna lose my shit.

He didn’t go to your kids ball game but to every one of your sister’s kid’s games. That is really shitty behaviour.

Your dad is really unfair, weak and disrespectful to you and your daughter/son. He puts the wife’s feelings first. I would not blame you for losing it ....

Wow! She seems like a lot to deal with, and super manipulative. She is totally wrong for bad mouthing your family, she has no right. I think you should just tell her she's crossing boundaries.

UPDATE: She won. Both my sisters turned against me and my relationship with my dad is fucked.

Its hard not to questions myself, what did I do wrong that my family would treat me and my kids like shit? But my Pisces Leo moon sister and my Dad's wife made it very clear "I choose the wrong side, and I get what I deserve"

I invited my cousin to my daughters birthday party, he's 4 and she has a good relationship with him. I had invited my sisters, just not my dad, because he was very clear not to invite him if his sister was there. We had dinner with my dad on my daughters birthday. But I wont ask my 5 year old to choose between her cousin and grandpa. That's really fucking dumb.

But that was it. That's what it took to loose my family. Its like they're in a cult of hate for my dad's sister's family. And in reality I want nothing to do with that kind of life, and I don't want my kid to be around that shit either.

Its stupid that 1 year ago I moved from Texas back, to California to be close with my family and this happens. But I have plenty of family and we are building really good community here.

Last weekend was the first time I stood up to my dad. I stepped up to him through my hat and glasses off like I was going to fight him, but really i just wanted to tell him exactly how I felt, I got all up in his face. But my inner child was very proud, and there's a lot of stuff I can just put behind me. I wont stay silent anymore to "keep the piece" just to allow the same bullshit to continue.

what I most feared would happened, did. So now I can move on, and not be held down by any of this anymore.

women who suddenly tell you they're pregnant with another man's baby is prob the most toxic i've ever heard of

Posted by kachi_cake

Posted by Astrobyn

UPDATE: She won. Both my sisters turned against me and my relationship with my dad is fucked.

Its hard not to questions myself, what did I do wrong that my family would treat me and my kids like shit? But my Pisces Leo moon sister and my Dad's wife made it very clear "I choose the wrong side, and I get what I deserve"

I invited my cousin to my daughters birthday party, he's 4 and she has a good relationship with him. I had invited my sisters, just not my dad, because he was very clear not to invite him if his sister was there. We had dinner with my dad on my daughters birthday. But I wont ask my 5 year old to choose between her cousin and grandpa. That's really fucking dumb.

But that was it. That's what it took to loose my family. Its like they're in a cult of hate for my dad's sister's family. And in reality I want nothing to do with that kind of life, and I don't want my kid to be around that shit either.

Its stupid that 1 year ago I moved from Texas back, to California to be close with my family and this happens. But I have plenty of family and we are building really good community here.

Last weekend was the first time I stood up to my dad. I stepped up to him through my hat and glasses off like I was going to fight him, but really i just wanted to tell him exactly how I felt, I got all up in his face. But my inner child was very proud, and there's a lot of stuff I can just put behind me. I wont stay silent anymore to "keep the piece" just to allow the same bullshit to continue.

what I most feared would happened, did. So now I can move on, and not be held down by any of this anymore.

I'm sorry to hear that.

It must feel good to say what you needed to say, especially to your dad.

I hope you're okay.

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I am, there was a lot of grief at first, but it feels like a lot of burden has been lifted.

I worry about how this will affect my kid. She doesn't have a dad, now maybe not a grandpa, I swear I'm not trying to raise her to hate men. But I need to protect her from this kind of shit, so she doesn't grow up thinking its ok to accept this crap.

Posted by kachi_cake

Posted by Astrobyn

UPDATE: She won. Both my sisters turned against me and my relationship with my dad is fucked.

Its hard not to questions myself, what did I do wrong that my family would treat me and my kids like shit? But my Pisces Leo moon sister and my Dad's wife made it very clear "I choose the wrong side, and I get what I deserve"

I invited my cousin to my daughters birthday party, he's 4 and she has a good relationship with him. I had invited my sisters, just not my dad, because he was very clear not to invite him if his sister was there. We had dinner with my dad on my daughters birthday. But I wont ask my 5 year old to choose between her cousin and grandpa. That's really fucking dumb.

But that was it. That's what it took to loose my family. Its like they're in a cult of hate for my dad's sister's family. And in reality I want nothing to do with that kind of life, and I don't want my kid to be around that shit either.

Its stupid that 1 year ago I moved from Texas back, to California to be close with my family and this happens. But I have plenty of family and we are building really good community here.

Last weekend was the first time I stood up to my dad. I stepped up to him through my hat and glasses off like I was going to fight him, but really i just wanted to tell him exactly how I felt, I got all up in his face. But my inner child was very proud, and there's a lot of stuff I can just put behind me. I wont stay silent anymore to "keep the piece" just to allow the same bullshit to continue.

what I most feared would happened, did. So now I can move on, and not be held down by any of this anymore.

I'm sorry to hear that.

It must feel good to say what you needed to say, especially to your dad.

I hope you're okay.

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I am, there was a lot of grief at first, but it feels like a lot of burden has been lifted.

I worry about how this will affect my kid. She doesn't have a dad, now maybe not a grandpa, I swear I'm not trying to raise her to hate men. But I need to protect her from this kind of shit, so she doesn't grow up thinking its ok to accept this crap.

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Posted by Astrobyn

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Posted by Astrobyn

UPDATE: She won. Both my sisters turned against me and my relationship with my dad is fucked.

Its hard not to questions myself, what did I do wrong that my family would treat me and my kids like shit? But my Pisces Leo moon sister and my Dad's wife made it very clear "I choose the wrong side, and I get what I deserve"

I invited my cousin to my daughters birthday party, he's 4 and she has a good relationship with him. I had invited my sisters, just not my dad, because he was very clear not to invite him if his sister was there. We had dinner with my dad on my daughters birthday. But I wont ask my 5 year old to choose between her cousin and grandpa. That's really fucking dumb.

But that was it. That's what it took to loose my family. Its like they're in a cult of hate for my dad's sister's family. And in reality I want nothing to do with that kind of life, and I don't want my kid to be around that shit either.

Its stupid that 1 year ago I moved from Texas back, to California to be close with my family and this happens. But I have plenty of family and we are building really good community here.

Last weekend was the first time I stood up to my dad. I stepped up to him through my hat and glasses off like I was going to fight him, but really i just wanted to tell him exactly how I felt, I got all up in his face. But my inner child was very proud, and there's a lot of stuff I can just put behind me. I wont stay silent anymore to "keep the piece" just to allow the same bullshit to continue.

what I most feared would happened, did. So now I can move on, and not be held down by any of this anymore.

I'm sorry to hear that.

It must feel good to say what you needed to say, especially to your dad.

I hope you're okay.

I am, there was a lot of grief at first, but it feels like a lot of burden has been lifted.

I worry about how this will affect my kid. She doesn't have a dad, now maybe not a grandpa, I swear I'm not trying to raise her to hate men. But I need to protect her from this kind of shit, so she doesn't grow up thinking its ok to accept this crap.

For sure. She'll understand once she's a little older. As long as you guys have that conversation, a safe space for her to ask and voice her own concern.

Family issues come in waves. It sucks.

A strong positive male presence is really important though for a developing child.

Family are issues! 😂

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But he isn’t strong nor positive.

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Posted by Astrobyn

UPDATE: She won. Both my sisters turned against me and my relationship with my dad is fucked.

Its hard not to questions myself, what did I do wrong that my family would treat me and my kids like shit? But my Pisces Leo moon sister and my Dad's wife made it very clear "I choose the wrong side, and I get what I deserve"

I invited my cousin to my daughters birthday party, he's 4 and she has a good relationship with him. I had invited my sisters, just not my dad, because he was very clear not to invite him if his sister was there. We had dinner with my dad on my daughters birthday. But I wont ask my 5 year old to choose between her cousin and grandpa. That's really fucking dumb.

But that was it. That's what it took to loose my family. Its like they're in a cult of hate for my dad's sister's family. And in reality I want nothing to do with that kind of life, and I don't want my kid to be around that shit either.

Its stupid that 1 year ago I moved from Texas back, to California to be close with my family and this happens. But I have plenty of family and we are building really good community here.

Last weekend was the first time I stood up to my dad. I stepped up to him through my hat and glasses off like I was going to fight him, but really i just wanted to tell him exactly how I felt, I got all up in his face. But my inner child was very proud, and there's a lot of stuff I can just put behind me. I wont stay silent anymore to "keep the piece" just to allow the same bullshit to continue.

what I most feared would happened, did. So now I can move on, and not be held down by any of this anymore.

You can step up to me anytime 😉

But going back to the main points, you went wrong in not inviting your dad and explaining your aunt will be there because your kid really gets along with her kid.

Secondly, as to why they all treat you poorly, I can only guess that maybe you are a little different to them, because of this you might try unconventional things and this probably has them looking down on you. Just guessing here as I haven't witnessed their behaviour to you.

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it's not just my aunt I have to not invite like 14 close family members to invite my dad.

I really don't care what reason someone has for treating us poorly. I will not accept it, I will not take responsibility for it.