What are some healthy ways you have dealt with unhealthy relationships?

Friends, family, fwb, love, marriage, coworker, you name it.



These days probably with the retrograd I keep to myself a lot and reevaluate my life (and watch stupid tv shows and hang out) and try to cut down on what does not bring me joy.

I have tried for to do that with some people for some time now, but especially one does just keep being in my life. Texting me to have coffee of I want to (after having made it clear earlier, that I have no interest in being friends again), and now AGAIN showing up at my work to work there. Like I just can't escape her. I have no trust in her, so when we will have to work together, I know I can not be my own happy self, because I don't want her to know anything about me or my life. I just want distance. That's how I have always dealt. But seems like this is not an option, so maybe the universe is trying to teach me another way.

That’s bullshit!

If you want them out you make it happen.

All you want it to talk about how she is in your life...

i would find another job and keep things on private for a while, stay off the face of earth for a while until they forget about you and stop stalking you

or say some stuff that would clearly hurt so she stop stalking

although neither are healthy

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Sometimes we have to learn to deal with the unpleasant people/things in our life to realize not to let them have power over us.

Be your happy self! Who cares about her.

I left my ex cuz it was unhealthy for me & kids. He is still in our lives so still have to deal, but it has helped us on our road to getting healthier.

I put distance with people if needed. Sometimes they come back in an adjusted way, sometimes not.

Posted by Gemitati

That’s bullshit!

If you want them out you make it happen.

All you want it to talk about how she is in your life...

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I don't have any say in where this person works. Even the scorpios reach does not go that far.

I worked there first. The girl follows me there.

Posted by PuzzlePieces

Sometimes we have to learn to deal with the unpleasant people/things in our life to realize not to let them have power over us.

Be your happy self! Who cares about her.

I left my ex cuz it was unhealthy for me & kids. He is still in our lives so still have to deal, but it has helped us on our road to getting healthier.

I put distance with people if needed. Sometimes they come back in an adjusted way, sometimes not.

I have put as much distance as possible. But like I said now she comes to my place of work. Where I was first.

Dealing with the unpleasent things is what I am asking about. How?

I will ofcours be myself, but I can not talk about anything personal with my other coworkers infront of her, because she will use it against me. This is how she is. I grew up with this and know her pattern from knowing her.

She always talked so much about keeping it professional at work, but in the meantime she does everything but. And now had case number 2 against her at her old job, so she quit instead of being fired.

Posted by leooox

i would find another job and keep things on private for a while, stay off the face of earth for a while until they forget about you and stop stalking you

or say some stuff that would clearly hurt so she stop stalking

although neither are healthy

I refuse to find another job. I got this not that long ago and am very happy. This girl followed me there.

I also don't want to stoop to that level and try and hurt her. I basically don't want to interact with her at all, but it seems like I am forces to do so. So need to figure out a good way to do that.

Posted by borzoi

I'm surprised you haven't snapped at her yet. Some people have a really hard time taking "no" for answer and she might be one of those people who you really gotta be an a--hole to :/

Because that's what she wants me to do.

I grew up with a person like this. They want to get under your skin and get a reaction. That's why they do almost everything they do.

Posted by Phantom_Dangus

Is it the Gemini?

It is.

But I would also generally speaking like to hear stories about what worked for people. When packing up and moving is not an option.

Posted by starlord

Posted by PuzzlePieces

Sometimes we have to learn to deal with the unpleasant people/things in our life to realize not to let them have power over us.

Be your happy self! Who cares about her.

I left my ex cuz it was unhealthy for me & kids. He is still in our lives so still have to deal, but it has helped us on our road to getting healthier.

I put distance with people if needed. Sometimes they come back in an adjusted way, sometimes not.

I have put as much distance as possible. But like I said now she comes to my place of work. Where I was first.

Dealing with the unpleasent things is what I am asking about. How?

I will ofcours be myself, but I can not talk about anything personal with my other coworkers infront of her, because she will use it against me. This is how she is. I grew up with this and know her pattern from knowing her.

She always talked so much about keeping it professional at work, but in the meantime she does everything but. And now had case number 2 against her at her old job, so she quit instead of being fired.

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Don’t worry about her, but yes don’t give ammunition. She will most likely do herself in eventually. Not everyone has to be our friend, but sometimes we have to tolerate them in a situation aka work. You don’t have to do anything related to her. You don’t have to fix it. You can just keep it professional.

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Posted by PuzzlePieces

Sometimes we have to learn to deal with the unpleasant people/things in our life to realize not to let them have power over us.

Be your happy self! Who cares about her.

I left my ex cuz it was unhealthy for me & kids. He is still in our lives so still have to deal, but it has helped us on our road to getting healthier.

I put distance with people if needed. Sometimes they come back in an adjusted way, sometimes not.

I have put as much distance as possible. But like I said now she comes to my place of work. Where I was first.

Dealing with the unpleasent things is what I am asking about. How?

I will ofcours be myself, but I can not talk about anything personal with my other coworkers infront of her, because she will use it against me. This is how she is. I grew up with this and know her pattern from knowing her.

She always talked so much about keeping it professional at work, but in the meantime she does everything but. And now had case number 2 against her at her old job, so she quit instead of being fired.

Don’t worry about her, but yes don’t give ammunition. She will most likely do herself in eventually. Not everyone has to be our friend, but sometimes we have to tolerate them in a situation aka work. You don’t have to do anything related to her. You don’t have to fix it. You can just keep it professional.

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Yes that is my intention, if I am forces to interact with her.

I guess my tolerance is low, once I have decided someone is not good to me. Or you know, once they have made it obvious and obvious for me not to trust them. For me then I just don't want them in my life in any way shape or form. But it looks like I have to.

I am just, yeah it annoys me, that now every time she is there, I will be quiet, because I don't want her to know anything about me. So can't really talk to my other coworkers. And I actually really like them. They are now gonna think I have turned sad and grey 😭😂

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Posted by Phantom_Dangus

Is it the Gemini?

It is.

But I would also generally speaking like to hear stories about what worked for people. When packing up and moving is not an option.

I would keep my distance, stay professional, and only deal with it when/if an actual problem arises. So far you're just worried one will arise, but it hasn't yet.

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No. But for me it's a problem just to see her there. 😅

I was gracefull enough to leave my old job, where I know her from, where I got myself into all the drama with the young guy. So why is drama chasing after me now. When all I want is distance, because that is always what helps me to let go of things.

If it's unhealthy, I try to work through it to make it healthy.

Depending on what it is that isn't fruitful.

I can't work through bad chemistry and/or character traits.

Everything else can be worked out.

Posted by Phantom_Dangus

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Posted by Phantom_Dangus

Is it the Gemini?

It is.

But I would also generally speaking like to hear stories about what worked for people. When packing up and moving is not an option.

I would keep my distance, stay professional, and only deal with it when/if an actual problem arises. So far you're just worried one will arise, but it hasn't yet.

No. But for me it's a problem just to see her there. 😅

I was gracefull enough to leave my old job, where I know her from, where I got myself into all the drama with the young guy. So why is drama chasing after me now. When all I want is distance, because that is always what helps me to let go of things.

I don't know. Is it the only place in your town for young people to work? It almost seems like it.

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I am not young and I work there.

End the relationship. Slowly allow it to fizzle out. Move away.

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Posted by PuzzlePieces

Posted by starlord

Posted by PuzzlePieces

Sometimes we have to learn to deal with the unpleasant people/things in our life to realize not to let them have power over us.

Be your happy self! Who cares about her.

I left my ex cuz it was unhealthy for me & kids. He is still in our lives so still have to deal, but it has helped us on our road to getting healthier.

I put distance with people if needed. Sometimes they come back in an adjusted way, sometimes not.

I have put as much distance as possible. But like I said now she comes to my place of work. Where I was first.

Dealing with the unpleasent things is what I am asking about. How?

I will ofcours be myself, but I can not talk about anything personal with my other coworkers infront of her, because she will use it against me. This is how she is. I grew up with this and know her pattern from knowing her.

She always talked so much about keeping it professional at work, but in the meantime she does everything but. And now had case number 2 against her at her old job, so she quit instead of being fired.

Don’t worry about her, but yes don’t give ammunition. She will most likely do herself in eventually. Not everyone has to be our friend, but sometimes we have to tolerate them in a situation aka work. You don’t have to do anything related to her. You don’t have to fix it. You can just keep it professional.

Yes that is my intention, if I am forces to interact with her.

I guess my tolerance is low, once I have decided someone is not good to me. Or you know, once they have made it obvious and obvious for me not to trust them. For me then I just don't want them in my life in any way shape or form. But it looks like I have to.

I am just, yeah it annoys me, that now every time she is there, I will be quiet, because I don't want her to know anything about me. So can't really talk to my other coworkers. And I actually really like them. They are now gonna think I have turned sad and grey 😭😂

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Well ya but we don’t always have control.. so you just do you & try not to let the idiots affect you.

I k ow my ways of dealing are shit.

But it's nice to know, that other people who went through something with the ones I know, now come to me and say "this girl is a sociopath '

Like I would rather be wrong than right, but when I hear all my surroundings agreeing with me, and also hear that they have lost their jobs, I can't help but feel : justice 🙇🏼‍♀️💗