@Andalusia
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Why is each gender
Why Do Men and Women Often Miss Social Cues in Dating
Men and women may struggle with social cues in dating due to differences in communication styles and emotional awareness. These differences can lead to misunderstandings and perceived obliviousness during romantic interactions. Understanding zodiac influences can offer insights into individual behaviors and improve relationship dynamics.
Some know but dont care, emotions can be like drugs. Some want to believe no matter what.
I was actually going to post a similar topic. This doesn't pertain to any one sign or gender. If you are asking if the other person might be playing games, chances are that they are. The solution? Drop the ball and walk away. It's the best thing I ever did.
what makes you think there are any games
Posted by Scrumptious
what makes you think there are any games
Exactly! Games are one thing but there are hundreds of other different scenarios that have nothing to do with playing!
The question was why heart emotions overpowering sobriety of brain and fair judgement? Why nothing is more powerful than love/list? Why? It had been question even before Romeo and Juliette!
In ancient times people had best entertainment as to hunt lovers and keep them and go nuts over neighbors cheating!
Today we have all the toys in the world - however love rules our minds No matter what kind of toys we have!
Why?
Posted by DivaCanLeo
The only game is the game one plays with themselves
Said by the person who have to experience love yet...
Posted by Scrumptious
what makes you think there are any games
So what have you been playing with me, if not games with my heart?
Really? I dated for a while and as soon as l found a woman compatible with me, that wanted me, l married her.
Posted by Scrumptious
what makes you think there are any gamesSo what have you been playing with me, if not games with my heart?
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if i did play with your heart, i don't plan to lose.
Posted by Scrumptious
what makes you think there are any gamesSo what have you been playing with me, if not games with my heart?
if i did play with your heart, i don't plan to lose.
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Posted by DivaCanLeo
The only game is the game one plays with themselvesSaid by the person who have to experience love yet...
I've experienced love. Why i can stand by my statement.
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You think you have but when you will really have one you will take your statement and erase it forever saying 'I was wrong'!
Posted by Scrumptious
what makes you think there are any gamesSo what have you been playing with me, if not games with my heart?
if i did play with your heart, i don't plan to lose.
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Posted by Scrumptious
what makes you think there are any gamesSo what have you been playing with me, if not games with my heart?
if i did play with your heart, i don't plan to lose.
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You'd have better luck with the beer sandwiches.
Posted by Scrumptious
what makes you think there are any gamesSo what have you been playing with me, if not games with my heart?
if i did play with your heart, i don't plan to lose.
Cute
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Posted by Scrumptious
what makes you think there are any gamesSo what have you been playing with me, if not games with my heart?
if i did play with your heart, i don't plan to lose.
http://www.schadenfreudestudios.com/backup/pictures/avatars/survey% 20says.gif
You'd have better luck with the beer sandwiches.
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Don't play games.
Posted by Scrumptious
what makes you think there are any gamesSo what have you been playing with me, if not games with my heart?
if i did play with your heart, i don't plan to lose.
http://www.schadenfreudestudios.com/backup/pictures/avatars/survey% 20says.gif
You'd have better luck with the beer sandwiches.
Don't play games.
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I'm not.
Posted by yupvirgoo
@AndalusiaElaborate on what sort of games.
Hungry hippo?
Posted by yupvirgoo
a.) Do they withhold affection to manipulate you?b.) Do they make vague plans with you?
c.) Do they label your relationship with each other vaguely?
d.) Do they string you along?
e.) Do they only make contact when they need something?
f.) Do they rarely initiate contact?
My cappie ex ...did none of that. But he was violent.
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I can not even imagine cap to be so passionate to be violent!
I have some other-cap. He would think before he would get up
to hit me and opt out because hitting is work!
He hates everything that has to be DONE!
Except watching TV. Thanks god for the remotes!
Posted by yupvirgoo
a.) Do they withhold affection to manipulate you?b.) Do they make vague plans with you?
c.) Do they label your relationship with each other vaguely?
d.) Do they string you along?
e.) Do they only make contact when they need something?
f.) Do they rarely initiate contact?
I've experienced all of those except A, yes.
Posted by UnusualVaginalDischarge
Posted by bricklemark
Really? I dated for a while and as soon as l found a woman compatible with me, that wanted me, l married her.I didn't know you were married. From some of your comments you made it sound like you weren't doing too well in the dating world or that you were jaded or something.
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I was and l am.
Posted by yupvirgoo
a.) Do they withhold affection to manipulate you?b.) Do they make vague plans with you?
c.) Do they label your relationship with each other vaguely?
d.) Do they string you along?
e.) Do they only make contact when they need something?
f.) Do they rarely initiate contact?
My cappie ex ...did none of that. But he was violent.
I can not even imagine cap to be so passionate to be violent!
I have some other-cap. He would think before he would get up
to hit me and opt out because hitting is work!
He hates everything that has to be DONE!
Except watching TV. Thanks god for the remotes!
Mine was lazy too.
Is he controlling ?..everything had to be done my caps way he hit me because the pasta stuck together i didn't stir it.
I had to brush my hair a certain way ...he got up and did it violently...like reefed it through my hair ...but when i looked at him he was like what ?? I just brushed your hair?? I would actually go in my head ..well did he just brush my hair? But he reefed the brush violently through it ...? I could feel bristles on my scalp.
I excused ...violently brushing hair ...technically is not violent is it?
He would say horrid shit ...spit on me i would tell him to stop. Choke me ...
I don't want to say anymore...It kinda ...it feels it feeds the pain ....
But it was like ...I excused it on grounds of technicality....and normalcy bias ...it got worse....
I had no experience to tell me ....that was a possibility...
I was so angry with myself.
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I am shocked!
And can't believe it! Had his mom had an affair and forgot when so he was wrong about his bday—
I am glad you got out...
Though I can see related stuff like for 23 years asking not to do something that drives me nuts (like baby talk during sex) and every friggin time he says I had never said I hate it!!!
I am like WHAT— It's maybe sort of emotional abuse?
Idk...
And like you said it's always WHAT? No it's not me...
Urghhhh
Posted by yupvirgoo
a.) Do they withhold affection to manipulate you?b.) Do they make vague plans with you?
c.) Do they label your relationship with each other vaguely?
d.) Do they string you along?
e.) Do they only make contact when they need something?
f.) Do they rarely initiate contact?
I've experienced all of those except A, yes.
You have my Gem aunt's Leo venus-mars placements.
And she's told me that she's experienced all these from her series of failed relationships.
I've always had the conclusion that maybe.... she's too generous in comparison to the other person.
Would you say that this is true for you?
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Idk. It probably depends on who you ask. Generous in some ways, but selfish in others for sure.
Anyways, this thread wasn't just about me, I swear 😉.
I'm genuinely confused by the amount of people that are so oblivious to how the other gender thinks and operates. Even more nowadays than they were 100+ years ago, when opposite sexes weren't even allowed to mingle much unless they were married.
Posted by yupvirgoo
a.) Do they withhold affection to manipulate you?b.) Do they make vague plans with you?
c.) Do they label your relationship with each other vaguely?
d.) Do they string you along?
e.) Do they only make contact when they need something?
f.) Do they rarely initiate contact?
My cappie ex ...did none of that. But he was violent.
I can not even imagine cap to be so passionate to be violent!
I have some other-cap. He would think before he would get up
to hit me and opt out because hitting is work!
He hates everything that has to be DONE!
Except watching TV. Thanks god for the remotes!
Mine was lazy too.
Is he controlling ?..everything had to be done my caps way he hit me because the pasta stuck together i didn't stir it.
I had to brush my hair a certain way ...he got up and did it violently...like reefed it through my hair ...but when i looked at him he was like what ?? I just brushed your hair?? I would actually go in my head ..well did he just brush my hair? But he reefed the brush violently through it ...? I could feel bristles on my scalp.
I excused ...violently brushing hair ...technically is not violent is it?
He would say horrid shit ...spit on me i would tell him to stop. Choke me ...
I don't want to say anymore...It kinda ...it feels it feeds the pain ....
But it was like ...I excused it on grounds of technicality....and normalcy bias ...it got worse....
I had no experience to tell me ....that was a possibility...
I was so angry with myself.
I am shocked!
And can't believe it! Had his mom had an affair and forgot when so he was wrong about his bday—
I am glad you got out...
Though I can see related stuff like for 23 years asking not to do something that drives me nuts (like baby talk during sex) and every friggin time he says I had never said I hate it!!!
I am like WHAT— It's maybe sort of emotional abuse?
Idk...
And like you said it's always WHAT? No it's not me...
Urghhhh
He was born on Christmas day. No...there is way worse stuff...he is not representative of cappies ..or men..i have to remind myself. I am still healing. I am so much better though :-)
I am sorry that happens to you. It sounds like emotional abuse to me. If he knows etc.
I ask myself would I ever do that ??..no...no way.
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Heck no! Mine is 12/26!
I don't think he knows. He is ok guy but he does stuff that I believe he doesn't know is shitty!
Like when he makes fun of me for volunteering or donating.
Or when he asked me to borrow money from the Scorp he knew I am attracted to and when I threw a fit and I said do you know I will have to pay for it back in the natural way— He said he had never meant it like that!
Really—
So I am in it for too long. And I am still not sure what's intentional or what not.
Because emotions don't speak of logic, but of what personal desires are. The latter has no fucks to give in what logic should dictate.
Posted by BuffaloBills28
I don't know.. Shows that those type of people lack depth. Nobody has the patience for 8 year old childish games. You're attractive, I'm attractive, let's do some attractive things together. But of course, in this world, it's never that simple.
If you talking about me it's far from game and farther from childish.
My father was a merchant marine is seas for 6-9 months. There was no phone connections. Just telegrams when he is in the ports. And if he can get off the ship.
Mom was waiting for him raising me.
What game we have now is daily communications and exchanging all things we can. And I never initiate anything. And I know his business and we often go trough that stuff with him as stuff about kids and life.
We are best friends. And we are in love. Nothing is wrong with that.
And when we meet we have unprotected sex because we trust each other 100% and taking one day at the time!
Are we happy? Think again!
It's like being gay! Would you choose life that is harder than nessesary if you could have easier one? No!
Would we want to be happily married without all this complex stuff going on?
Heck yes! But it's the way it is and I wake up with his name on my lips and I go to bed with his name on my lips!
For 8 years! Like I have nothing better to do. Well...I hope one day to announce here that we are getting married!
I am sure this place will blow!!!
Posted by BuffaloBills28
I don't know.. Shows that those type of people lack depth. Nobody has the patience for 8 year old childish games. You're attractive, I'm attractive, let's do some attractive things together. But of course, in this world, it's never that simple.If you talking about me it's far from game and farther from childish.
My father was a merchant marine is seas for 6-9 months. There was no phone connections. Just telegrams when he is in the ports. And if he can get off the ship.
Mom was waiting for him raising me.
What game we have now is daily communications and exchanging all things we can. And I never initiate anything. And I know his business and we often go trough that stuff with him as stuff about kids and life.
We are best friends. And we are in love. Nothing is wrong with that.
And when we meet we have unprotected sex because we trust each other 100% and taking one day at the time!
Are we happy? Think again!
It's like being gay! Would you choose life that is harder than nessesary if you could have easier one? No!
Would we want to be happily married without all this complex stuff going on?
Heck yes! But it's the way it is and I wake up with his name on my lips and I go to bed with his name on my lips!
For 8 years! Like I have nothing better to do. Well...I hope one day to announce here that we are getting married!
I am sure this place will blow!!!
Wasn't talking about you?.. lol.
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Lol it's ok at least I had my vent.
But why you said 8 years?
Lol
Posted by Andalusia
Seemingly so oblivious to the games and/or manipulation the other side plays?Online and in real life - otherwise intelligent males and females become complete utter fucking idiots as soon as it comes to dating and relationships.
My guess would a lack of emotional intelligence and self awareness. Neither have anything to do with the type of intelligence your post seems to be discussing.
Did this help you decode the behavior?
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Seemingly so oblivious to the games and/or manipulation the other side plays?
Online and in real life - otherwise intelligent males and females become complete utter fucking idiots as soon as it comes to dating and relationships.
*Myself included*, in case any of y'all thought I was holding myself up and above as some sort of special fucking unicorn.