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Posted by dolluxe
Typically occurs in happy marriages? Wow that's new to me. Then again I've never been married so what do I know?Anyway, no I don't and would never participate in it.
That's is correct. These are the healthy and happy type marriages also. The kind that you believe to be "perfect" in everything where honesty and trust runs deep and rampant, but this is their dark secret.
Posted by dolluxe
Typically occurs in happy marriages? Wow that's new to me. Then again I've never been married so what do I know?Anyway, no I don't and would never participate in it.
hangout with enough kinky foreigners and you might get invited to threesomes 😐
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This is a different type of threesome. The other partner is in no way involved physically during the sexual act.
Posted by Aliensusedourbogroll
I can see the appeal.
Interesting. Please elaborate.
Posted by dolluxe
Typically occurs in happy marriages? Wow that's new to me. Then again I've never been married so what do I know?Anyway, no I don't and would never participate in it.
hangout with enough kinky foreigners and you might get invited to threesomes 😐
This is a different type of threesome. The other partner is in no way involved physically during the sexual act.
doesn't he lick the wife's pussy after she gets a creampie?
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He can. Sometimes. Different experiences. But when I mean sexually involved. He never porks her.
Posted by dolluxe
Typically occurs in happy marriages? Wow that's new to me. Then again I've never been married so what do I know?Anyway, no I don't and would never participate in it.
hangout with enough kinky foreigners and you might get invited to threesomes 😐
When I was on OKC I got a message from a Filipino chic saying she and her American hubby are looking for open-minded girls who can have a little bit of " fun" with them.
Just when I thought filipinos on OKC were creepy, I got that message. I'm kinky but I won't fucking share my man let alone have a threesome with strangers. Jayzus.
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Be open minded. It's not crazy, more as it is considered psychological. It's similar to a woman who can orgasm off of thoughts alone. Yes, it happens.
Posted by confusingconfused
A Polish guy told me a Vietnamese guy friend of his likes to watch him fuck his wife.
Does he pay him? Does it happen frequently or is it one and done?
Posted by dolluxe
Typically occurs in happy marriages? Wow that's new to me. Then again I've never been married so what do I know?Anyway, no I don't and would never participate in it.
hangout with enough kinky foreigners and you might get invited to threesomes 😐
This is a different type of threesome. The other partner is in no way involved physically during the sexual act.
doesn't he lick the wife's pussy after she gets a creampie?
He can. Sometimes. Different experiences. But when I mean sexually involved. He never parks her.
ok i thought sometimes he'd have her after
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Typically, the partners only want to watch. They jerk off after.
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Posted by Aliensusedourbogroll
I can see the appeal.Interesting. Please elaborate.
For me it would about the partners pleasure. I would get off on them getting off. Them having pleasure makes me happy.
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That's is a main part of the reason why this is a fetish. Another is it is a form of masochism. The partner feels degraded, but relishes in the pleasure of self-shame to know the partner is not wanted by his/her lover.
Posted by dolluxe
Typically occurs in happy marriages? Wow that's new to me. Then again I've never been married so what do I know?Anyway, no I don't and would never participate in it.
hangout with enough kinky foreigners and you might get invited to threesomes 😐
When I was on OKC I got a message from a Filipino chic saying she and her American hubby are looking for open-minded girls who can have a little bit of " fun" with them.
Just when I thought filipinos on OKC were creepy, I got that message. I'm kinky but I won't fucking share my man let alone have a threesome with strangers. Jayzus.
Be open minded. It's not crazy, more as it is considered psychological. It's similar to a woman who can orgasm off of thoughts alone. Yes, it happens.
I'm not judging people who are into threesomes. It's just not my cup of tea.
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I respect that. It isn't the norm and not many people know of its existence.
Posted by yupvirgoo
Nope.
If your wife were to come to you and tell you she'd like to explore this, how would you react?
@dolluxe
Not to the extreme, but I had an ex who was very serious about it.
Mine was more of thoughts than actions.
Posted by yupvirgoo
Nope.If your wife were to come to you and tell you she'd like to explore this, how would you react?
She totally doesn't.
Not even a possibility.
Not even in another dimension.
She's a Taurus sun with lots of Leo and Pisces in her.
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You would be very surprised the amount of depravity that lies in someone's mind.
I had an SO whom I was with for 5 years. I didn't know about this fetish of his until the 4th year. Believe me when I say it was very difficult for him to come clean with it. Ironically, he acted extreme jealous. But cuckolding manages to separate the two realities. Which is why it intrigues me.
Posted by BuffaloBills28
Lol. Is this a serious question? Go off on seeing your partner be with someone else.... What is this world coming to.. Tragic.
It is very serious. How is it any different than watching porn? Except you are getting the live version. It has a psychological effect to it, though.
Posted by confusingconfused
A Polish guy told me a Vietnamese guy friend of his likes to watch him fuck his wife.Does he pay him? Does it happen frequently or is it one and done?
I think the Vietnamese guy sees it as a treat for his wife (you know Asians have small penis). It's like once a month or once every couple of months. I think it went on for a few years now.
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And not a treat for himself? Does he jerk off to it?
Posted by yupvirgoo
Nope.If your wife were to come to you and tell you she'd like to explore this, how would you react?
She totally doesn't.
Not even a possibility.
Not even in another dimension.
She's a Taurus sun with lots of Leo and Pisces in her.
You would be very surprised the amount of depravity that lies in someone's mind.
I had an SO whom I was with for 5 years. I didn't know about this fetish of his until the 4th year. Believe me when I say it was very difficult for him to come clean with it. Ironically, he acted extreme jealous. But cuckolding manages to separate the two realities. Which is why it intrigues me.
Well then since you are a Virgo and a very curious one too...
I do know a couple who are.... kinda odd.
Once a year the woman hires 5 women to have sex with her husband for a whole day.
Then she comes to me crying about it (we are distantly related).
She tells me it's her way of preventing him from cheating.
To let him get it out of his system.
*smfh
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Interesting. I haven't heard that type. Although, not so sure it can be categorized as cuckold since it is apparent she disapproves of it. But thanks for sharing.
To explain the difference. Cuckolding involves an open relationship of consent where the two partners have a terms of an agreement. It takes a lot of honesty and trust for it to work. It is acts of 'cheating' but both partners are fully involved and aware of each aspect of cuckolding. The difference between this and actually cheating is consent.
Posted by Virgorean
@dolluxeNot to the extreme, but I had an ex who was very serious about it.
Mine was more of thoughts than actions.
Cuckolding or threesome?
I can't do cuckolding but I guess threesomes are hot. Maybe I can do with fantasies? I'm territorial when in a relationship. I'd be crayyyyyzy jealous if I see my man fucking another chick in front of me.
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Cuckolding. It started with hypothetical thoughts. He wanted me to envision being with other men during foreplay and speak out loud those thoughts. Then he wanted me to envision myself with his close friends and call him their names. From there it lead to going to the club and dancing with random men and pretending he wasn't there. He wanted us to act as two complete strangers and he was comfortable with the men touching me, but I most certainly was not. It ended there. But there were so many things he talked about wanting me to do if I would have become more comfortable.
You do what you would for the ones you love. He was honest enough to open up to me about this fetish and I loved him sincerely dabble in it.
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Posted by yupvirgoo
Nope.If your wife were to come to you and tell you she'd like to explore this, how would you react?
She totally doesn't.
Not even a possibility.
Not even in another dimension.
She's a Taurus sun with lots of Leo and Pisces in her.
You would be very surprised the amount of depravity that lies in someone's mind.
I had an SO whom I was with for 5 years. I didn't know about this fetish of his until the 4th year. Believe me when I say it was very difficult for him to come clean with it. Ironically, he acted extreme jealous. But cuckolding manages to separate the two realities. Which is why it intrigues me.
Well then since you are a Virgo and a very curious one too...
I do know a couple who are.... kinda odd.
Once a year the woman hires 5 women to have sex with her husband for a whole day.
Then she comes to me crying about it (we are distantly related).
She tells me it's her way of preventing him from cheating.
To let him get it out of his system.
*smfh
That really sux. For me that's not a healthy reason to do it. Both parties should genuinely be ok with it. I would understand a little jealousy but not to the point you cry about it.
She's a water sign too- I don't want to say which one tho. 😢
He's an air sign.
I will always see him as a doucheazz.
I don't care about progressive bullshyte when you're making a woman cry.
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That isn't cuckolding. That is emotional abuse by manipulating her with threats of cheating. I am very sorry for your friend.
Posted by dolluxe
Typically occurs in happy marriages? Wow that's new to me. Then again I've never been married so what do I know?Anyway, no I don't and would never participate in it.
hangout with enough kinky foreigners and you might get invited to threesomes 😐
When I was on OKC I got a message from a Filipino chic saying she and her American hubby are looking for open-minded girls who can have a little bit of " fun" with them.
Just when I thought filipinos on OKC were creepy, I got that message. I'm kinky but I won't fucking share my man let alone have a threesome with strangers. Jayzus.
Be open minded. It's not crazy, more as it is considered psychological. It's similar to a woman who can orgasm off of thoughts alone. Yes, it happens.
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Oh I don't think it's similar to that at all.
Posted by dolluxe
Typically occurs in happy marriages? Wow that's new to me. Then again I've never been married so what do I know?Anyway, no I don't and would never participate in it.
hangout with enough kinky foreigners and you might get invited to threesomes 😐
When I was on OKC I got a message from a Filipino chic saying she and her American hubby are looking for open-minded girls who can have a little bit of " fun" with them.
Just when I thought filipinos on OKC were creepy, I got that message. I'm kinky but I won't fucking share my man let alone have a threesome with strangers. Jayzus.
Be open minded. It's not crazy, more as it is considered psychological. It's similar to a woman who can orgasm off of thoughts alone. Yes, it happens.
Oh I don't think it's similar to that at all.
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You are dealing with the psyche in a mental aspect. It is.
Yes this is pretty popular .. If your're both down to bang other ppl , watch & not get upset in the least bit , more power to u .. Cuz I'm not the one hahaha I would freak the fk out
Posted by SofiaV87
Yes this is pretty popular .. If your're both down to bang other ppl , watch & not get upset in the least bit , more power to u .. Cuz I'm not the one hahaha I would freak the fk out
Believe me, I was in denial mode when it was first proposed to me. I think I had a mental shutdown.
i wonder what mars are into this. aqua?
both of our water mars would enjoy killing just to picture it
Posted by BuffaloBills28
Lol. Is this a serious question? Go off on seeing your partner be with someone else.... What is this world coming to.. Tragic.
its been around for ages.
vo·yeur
voiˈyər,vwäˈyər/Submit
noun
a person who gains sexual pleasure from watching others when they are naked or engaged in sexual activity.
Posted by BuffaloBills28
Lol. Is this a serious question? Go off on seeing your partner be with someone else.... What is this world coming to.. Tragic.its been around for ages.
vo·yeur
voiˈyər,vwäˈyər/Submit
noun
a person who gains sexual pleasure from watching others when they are naked or engaged in sexual activity.
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Thank you. But this is an extreme form of that. An evolved form.
Posted by BuffaloBills28
Lol. Is this a serious question? Go off on seeing your partner be with someone else.... What is this world coming to.. Tragic.its been around for ages.
vo·yeur
voiˈyər,vwäˈyər/Submit
noun
a person who gains sexual pleasure from watching others when they are naked or engaged in sexual activity.
Thank you. But this is an extreme form of that. An evolved form.
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I am aware.. i just felt his response was a bit judgemental and to act like shit like this hasn't been around forever is a bit extreme.
I know cuckolding requires a lot of trust and respect for your partner, this sense of equality, to describe it in the least amount of words possible, but I think the only reason that the majority of these "happy" couples are described as happy is because they're bored with their marriage or just want to try something new. Many are also afraid of losing their partners. I now know that that's what it was with her, as she told me herself she had deep insecurity issues... Maybe they were too young, maybe they never really connected with anyone on a deeper level, and perhaps the connection isn't as mutual as one would think it is, and so it's alright with them to see their significant other with someone else.
I agree, it isn't for everyone. Hence, why it's taboo, but becoming more brought out into the open because of exposure and society becoming more adaptable to different perspectives.
Yes, it is an exploration for exploring new fantasies. But it goes deeper than happiness. It's purely sexual which is why it only works on partnerships where the two are committed as one emotionally and can separate fantasy from reality.
As for the fears, it is brought up, but I wouldnt say that is the underlying factor of cuckolding. Cuckolding is a form of S&M. While no physical pain is present, it encompasses emotional pain instead. And this type of pain is masochistic in nature because it demoralizes the partner who is experiencing it. But that is what makes it sadistic because these are the people who get off on those types of experiences. Although, who is one to judge what another person's pleasures are and should be? Some people prefer physical pain itself and yet, that is seen at a higher regard.
This very type of judgement is why cuckolding isn't well known and why partners keep it out of the public. Because the norm has dictated what is acceptable and not acceptable sexually.
Posted by BuffaloBills28
Lol. Is this a serious question? Go off on seeing your partner be with someone else.... What is this world coming to.. Tragic.its been around for ages.
vo·yeur
voiˈyər,vwäˈyər/Submit
noun
a person who gains sexual pleasure from watching others when they are naked or engaged in sexual activity.
Thank you. But this is an extreme form of that. An evolved form.
I am aware.. i just felt his response was a bit judgemental and to act like shit like this hasn't been around forever is a bit extreme.
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I respect you. Hence, why I brought up this topic. I was very well aware the reactions that would flow in.
Posted by Virgorean
Inspired by another post.Cuckolding: A fetish that incorporates a partner receiving sexual gratification watching his/her partner having sex with other men/women.
Definition is broad, but there are a variety of types. Typically occurs in happy marriages.
Let's explore. Do you participate in it or know of others who have? Thoughts? Experiences?
You mean watching or doing porn, pimpin, or prostitution, BDSM, or sadistic. Idk never heard of it till right now. Oldskhool.
Yeah sure seems taboo for sure.
I wonder if there's a certain sign, personality trait, occupation, etc. that tend to be drawn to this type of fetish, like how CEOs and people of power are into being submissive to dominatrixes & whatnot.
Air,
Water
Fire
Earth
Maybe it's my Virgo Venus, but I'm so not into that shit. Reading the word 'cuckold', let alone the thought of it, makes me wanna
Posted by ChoXtsy
All I know is when I came across a cuck hold video on xnxx, and saw the husband lick up the other mans nut, like a little bitch. I was grossed out. Blegh
Like it's bad enough a guy shoving the tongue down your throat and now this wth. —
It's common for sure.
Posted by yupvirgoo
Nope.If your wife were to come to you and tell you she'd like to explore this, how would you react?
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I will never ever stop her in pursuing her dream or passion or whatever it is but I'll be out from her life.
I have fantasies about this sort of stuff and two different boyfriends were aware of it, but I've never actually gone through with it. Maybe someday
Omg 4 years and you find out a secret of a fetish you just can't over look. There had to be actions to see this in person before. But we over look alot of things just to make peace and love.
Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
Alot of God's and Goddesses had alot wives/males or I one woman then a side chick was near or vise versa with the opposite sex. So when did it change back in the era to now.
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Also, last I read it was the 1st or 2nd most common fetish today. I really don't think it could qualify as being "taboo" in all honesty.
What?? Really?? Common fetish? To see our partner receiving it from someone else?? I think I'm too old school for this era 😐
Posted by Infinite8
I would become a nightmare if I were subjected to this.I don't share my partner.
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Posted by tiziani
Also, last I read it was the 1st or 2nd most common fetish today. I really don't think it could qualify as being "taboo" in all honesty.What?? Really?? Common fetish? To see our partner receiving it from someone else?? I think I'm too old school for this era 😐
Well you never know, I think the place I read that was an American social science site or it may have even just been a newspaper article but I think it was American.
So it might not be common worldwide.
Either way what is old school really? These things go in circles IMO.
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Yeah. Definitely not common worldwide.
Now if I think of it,yeah.. these things go in circles.Old school is not the word. It is more like an individual thing.Like someone mentioned,we can see gods who did that(which I'm not sure of) I think I just don't belong to those circles then 😛
Posted by Infinite8
I would become a nightmare if I were subjected to this.I don't share my partner.
Cheating is one thing...seeing your partner cheat(this feels like it) is a whole different level thing !!
Posted by Infinite8
I would become a nightmare if I were subjected to this.I don't share my partner.
Cheating is one thing...seeing your partner cheat(this feels like it) is a whole different level thing !!
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I mean. . your partner cheating on you is one thing n seeing that is another... damn the editing thing. I still didn't figure that out 😛
Posted by Infinite8
I would become a nightmare if I were subjected to this.I don't share my partner.
Cheating is one thing...seeing your partner cheat(this feels like it) is a whole different level thing !!
It is a whole other level that I am just not open to subject myself to. I cannot pretend to be ok with something I clearly know would bring out the worst in me.
When I have a partner... I merge with him. It is a closeness that doesn't really allow you to be too cool with such freeing experiences.
It is less of a nightmare if you do not love the person.
I guess I would take the matter too deeply and too personal to find it fun.
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There's no way I'll get any sorta pleasure seeing my SO doing that with some other woman.Eff that! I don't even watch porn. I just find the whole concept disgusting.... To watch someone having an intercourse on tv or whatever let alone my SO. That has got nothing to do with the place I come from or any other religious or cultural reasons. I just respect the act of physical intimacy so much n I expect it to be just between two people. I feel it's called "love-making" for a reason. I don't have anything against anyone who thinks otherwise though.
Posted by yupvirgoo
I don't know why women always do this shyte to me.They're always confessing dark things.
Do I look like a priest?
That cringey night was only one of many cringey nights when women say and do things that sends my brain to another dimension.
*cringe
Virgents are the confessional booth to women the world over.
It is because you lot do often come across as if you are great listeners, the seeming attentiveness, the ability to calm, to soothe, to diffuse. You lot would be the least likely to refuse, until you really despise the situation you are in. The chances of a yes, is much higher than a no.
Truth be told, more than half the time you lot are most likely drifting in and out through your multiple layers of thoughts and the person confessing is merely providing you lot with background elevator music.
It is the seemingly harmlessness factor which draw women in. 😆
Posted by Virgorean
Inspired by another post.Cuckolding: A fetish that incorporates a partner receiving sexual gratification watching his/her partner having sex with other men/women.
Definition is broad, but there are a variety of types. Typically occurs in happy marriages.
Let's explore. Do you participate in it or know of others who have? Thoughts? Experiences?
I don't quite understand why someone would let someone else have sex with their partner IN FRONT OF them. Absurd. This must be some sort of taboo. I don't fancy it.
So is there a gray area? The term 'swingers' comes to mind.
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Most occasions swingers are rich old people who having nothing better to do the sex parties. This new gen form swingers are mostly middle age middle class people who have a weird fantasy to watch their lover fuck someone. I've trying to figure out what happens to them mentally.
Most fetishes and taboos are developed at a young age when the brain is stop developing but the body is going through puberty. The brain tells the body that the thing they are watching is positive and attractive, then the body gets turned on to it imo. Since the last few generations have been exposed to some shit due to tv and internet it's no surprise we have things like cucks, furries, and hundreds of other off fantasies and fetishes.
I know cuckolding requires a lot of trust and respect for your partner, this sense of equality, to describe it in the least amount of words possible, but I think the only reason that the majority of these "happy" couples are described as happy is because they're bored with their marriage or just want to try something new. Many are also afraid of losing their partners. I now know that that's what it was with her, as she told me herself she had deep insecurity issues... Maybe they were too young, maybe they never really connected with anyone on a deeper level, and perhaps the connection isn't as mutual as one would think it is, and so it's alright with them to see their significant other with someone else.
I agree, it isn't for everyone. Hence, why it's taboo, but becoming more brought out into the open because of exposure and society becoming more adaptable to different perspectives.
Yes, it is an exploration for exploring new fantasies. But it goes deeper than happiness. It's purely sexual which is why it only works on partnerships where the two are committed as one emotionally and can separate fantasy from reality.
As for the fears, it is brought up, but I wouldnt say that is the underlying factor of cuckolding. Cuckolding is a form of S&M. While no physical pain is present, it encompasses emotional pain instead. And this type of pain is masochistic in nature because it demoralizes the partner who is experiencing it. But that is what makes it sadistic because these are the people who get off on those types of experiences. Although, who is one to judge what another person's pleasures are and should be? Some people prefer physical pain itself and yet, that is seen at a higher regard.
This very type of judgement is why cuckolding isn't well known and why partners keep it out of the public. Because the norm has dictated what is acceptable and not acceptable sexually.
yea I see how cuckolding and S&M relate, one is more emotional while the other more physical, respectively.
As for levels of respect that goes to each, I've never measured it statistically so I can't make a comment on that.
The statement in bold is what I'm focusing on here.
Although the intention of cuckolding is to be a purely sexual act, people involved can and probably do start to gain more of an intimate state with one another. Again, nothing wrong with that because different things work for different people, but if there's any reason for it being taboo I think it's more so due to the fact that people who aren't aware of what it's all about have this fear of losing their partner to what's called "emotionally cheating". That's what the woman I'm talking about referred to it as. And, if people have a problem with cuckolding, then that is what it is: their fear of there being to some degree or another emotional cheating.
Otherwise, I doubt it would be so taboo.
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Good point. All those fears are brought to the forefront if a partnership chooses to initiate in cuckolding. Communication is essential to prevent insecurity issues. Agreements on what is permitted and not permitted are especially important. There are terms set in place before, during, and after to prevent a rise of emotions. I've read couples who only allow the partner to have sex with a stranger once and only once. Some do not allow kissing because it evokes emotion. Another where there is absolutely no contact with the participant before or after sex except from the cuckold who needs to relay information. Each motive cuts off a connection from developing, which may potentially lead to emotional cheating. Thus, if a marriage has a strong foundation then their relationship will persevere following the aftermath.
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Inspired by another post.
Cuckolding: A fetish that incorporates a partner receiving sexual gratification watching his/her partner having sex with other men/women.
Definition is broad, but there are a variety of types. Typically occurs in happy marriages.
Let's explore. Do you participate in it or know of others who have? Thoughts? Experiences?