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Posted by Jan12girl
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Posted by Jan12girl
Posted by MyStarsShine
Is he getting any help....anger management or therapy? I
wish my dad had .... i was terrified of his volcanic temper, such an unhealthy and horrible atmosphere for a child to live in 😞
I am actually surprised how sometime what we write is read differently. ( disadvantage of not face to face interaction) because I wrote that with lighter thought in my head 😄. He doesn’t have anger issues.
He is quite a nice guy with stable , intelligent head on his shoulders. He is a very good father too. In fact he has been good with kids even before becoming a father.
I was so jealous of him when we first got together because everyone loved him as he is so amazing with people and I was the bitchy one 😖(but then that’s the trend of my life . People tend to like me more with time. )
When I spoke about drama I was talking more about reaction toward things . That reaction is not volatile necessarily.
Sorry but when I read what you wrote “sometimes when it hurts me too much” and “volcanic”, I found that worrying...but you seem to have a handle on things
My Cap mum always made excuses for my dad’s scary outbursts and it always felt like she was minimizing his behaviour. Like with you, it hurt me and it carried on until I reached adulthood when I challenged him.
Volcanic was more of a reactive attitude, not abusive .
I am a very sensitive person even though I appear to be not caring from the outside so if I sense I am not loved the way I need emotionally , or I am not understood by someone who should understand me then I feel deeply hurt. Those are the kind of hurt I am talking about .
Like I remember few months after we got married we had a big fight over the phone. I was in another city for few days . He got hurtful with words and said let’s end it. I took it seriously, crying all night . Early morning I got his call telling me he has booked my tickets to return home same day . I had my return tickets booked already for another date a week later and he knew it but he booked one more for the same day. All that just few hours after telling me to end it . This is the drama I am talking about, if he wanted to end it why force me to come back same day.
You are right and I have seen it to be a Capricorn behaviour to endure. Most of us don’t end things easily. In my case he also turned out to be someone who doesn’t end things. I rarely check out but when I do he too makes all the effort to pacify me . Because when I am saying that I would leave him , I am actually planning in my head how to go about life next , what to do next so I very much mean it then , not saying it in anger.
I don’t make excuses for him . I don’t tolerate any shit . I have just learnt my way to give it back if needed but in a different tone.
May be you mum was making excuses for her children only . Children need to be shielded from disturbing things and if a child develops hate in them specially towards either parent then it hampers their ability to love I guess. So may be it was more for you then her.
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Posted by Libra4rmTX
Yay or nay?
Nope. Done.
Posted by alexscaries
Only if it's with another woman and I'm allowed to watch.
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Yeah, Leos are like naturally happy people. It’s difficult not to gravitate towards that. Also, very popular with both sexes.
Does your Leo make you feel jealous or is he possessive of you?