Dreamer222?
@pooface222
9 Years1,000+ Posts
Comments: 6 · Posts: 1783 · Topics: 79
Would you throw away your entire life, for someone you love, even though they may use you? (Page 2)
You are on page out of 3 | Reverse Order
Posted by Pandora101Ok we met in 2003. I worked in a bank. Then in 2007 I went to work for a marketing company. I said this in the previous post.Posted by pooface222OP: "Also my child is nearly 4"Posted by Pandora101Also my child is nearly 4Posted by TimonTimon: "I thought she had a job? "Posted by miriyahhhI thought she had a job?Posted by TimonOK or get a damn job and stop sitting around the house thinking about other men all day.Posted by pooface222Perfect life? That's not a perfect life just because he has a good job and salary and they have cars, and can go on holidays every year. You're a cap right? 😆
For example, let's say a woman has the perfect life. Married. A husband with a good job and salary. She loves her job too. A child. A nice home. They both have cars and a nice social life, Holidays every year etc..
But she's not happy with HIM (maybe he puts her down, takes her for granted).
Materialistic things doesn't make a life perfect. I don't know if there is such a thing as a perfect life. Don't look for happiness from external factors (another man and fancy things ) but within you. I think if you have self-love you would know how to make the best decisions for you and your child whether it is removing yourself from a toxic relationship because it's harming you or working things out with your partner. Right now you're not happy where you are and instead of trying to work on that you're looking for another man bringing you that happiness. Sorry about your depression. I can imagine it must be hard on you not feeling you get the emotional support from your partner that you need. Try to find someone professional that can help you through it.
All the best.
She has a job, what is apparently not fulfilling her and doesnt provide a financial base. It seems its more like an earning a pocket-money student thing, not really a grown-up woman thing
I mean, after 14 years together with the husband, what else she did? how old is the child? it seems the child is very young.... what she did before the child was born? sitting at home, being taken care by the husband?
have she ever provided for herself?
maybe thats the reason, why the husband got abusive towards her? that she did nothing all the time? not working on herself? not working - period? maybe the husband felt like a sugar-daddy? that they are not equal?
we dont know
Okey, you were together with your Aries man for 14 years.... what did you do 9 years before your child was born? did you earn enough money? were you happy?
all the background is a mistery to me..... what did you do all your life? and more importantly, you wanna continue what you did all your life so far?
click to expand
I trained as a fitness instructor in 2009 and qualified. The same year me and partner got married.
All The time we've been together I've never earned enough to live on my own UNLESS I worked nights too. I've be we been a high earner safly.
I've been working in fitness since 2009 and I LOVE IT xx
Once my little girl goes to big school in September I can teach more classes.
I just wish this other guy hadn't come into my life. It was dangerous of him. I was do I g through a hard time with my husband as he was fighting me even though it JUST had a baby. She was 6 weeks old. He wanted to move to a bigger house right then right now. I didn't want to do he shouted at me, demanded I move or he leaves me!
Posted by pooface222what are your placements poofface? it seems you are stuck in rut. and can't seem to get out of the misery.
If you were married with a child but for various reasons didn't love your husband anymore - may be he treats you like shit, but in other ways is a good provider, so you love your life with him, more than you love him; Would you throw it all away to start a new life with a man who is in love with you (and you with him), BUT is homeless but has a job?
For example, let's say a woman has the perfect life. Married. A husband with a good job and salary. She loves her job too. A child. A nice home. They both have cars and a nice social life, Holidays every year etc..
But she's not happy with HIM (maybe he puts her down, takes her for granted).
She meets someone else who fulfills her emotionally and they have so much in common they are like soul mates and they want to be together so much it hurts to be apart.
BUT..he has walked out on his wife and kid and lived in his car. He then moves in with a friend until he gets on his feet. Then he meets his partner who was also married with kids AND has left her marriage, family, life etc to be with him. She gets a place of her own and the guy moves in with her into HER new place (hence why he's homeless. It's her place).
Fast forward 10yrs and now he has met YOU and you are married blah blah blah and you fall in love etc.
Would you do the exact same thing she did? Even though his ex wife has now divorced him, and he has some money from that divorce?
Would you go straight in to living with him?
Or would you worry that he would do the same thing to you?
Eg Cheat on you, stay with you while he builds up money.
OR would you trust that he just went through a rough patch in his life and met this woman who loved him and he loved her, and that maybe she wasn't right for him.
So upon meeting you, he knows you are right for him/for each other and he actually won't use you because he genuinely loves you but just went through a rough patch.
Would you throw it all away for this man?
the other man is homeless but has a job? how can he work without residency? the workplace needs a place of residency and for taxes ect.
unless you mean he is living with other people and being a transient? but still, he would need a pernament residence.
i'm just always looking at the practical side too, earth mercury problems....
because it doesn't sound correct. even if he stayed with friends....they need pernament residency.
i'm not sure how that works though.
Posted by Juliietteyeah i see what you mean but it doesn't sound very stable at all.Posted by lisabethur8Posted by pooface222what are your placements poofface? it seems you are stuck in rut. and can't seem to get out of the misery.
If you were married with a child but for various reasons didn't love your husband anymore - may be he treats you like shit, but in other ways is a good provider, so you love your life with him, more than you love him; Would you throw it all away to start a new life with a man who is in love with you (and you with him), BUT is homeless but has a job?
For example, let's say a woman has the perfect life. Married. A husband with a good job and salary. She loves her job too. A child. A nice home. They both have cars and a nice social life, Holidays every year etc..
But she's not happy with HIM (maybe he puts her down, takes her for granted).
She meets someone else who fulfills her emotionally and they have so much in common they are like soul mates and they want to be together so much it hurts to be apart.
BUT..he has walked out on his wife and kid and lived in his car. He then moves in with a friend until he gets on his feet. Then he meets his partner who was also married with kids AND has left her marriage, family, life etc to be with him. She gets a place of her own and the guy moves in with her into HER new place (hence why he's homeless. It's her place).
Fast forward 10yrs and now he has met YOU and you are married blah blah blah and you fall in love etc.
Would you do the exact same thing she did? Even though his ex wife has now divorced him, and he has some money from that divorce?
Would you go straight in to living with him?
Or would you worry that he would do the same thing to you?
Eg Cheat on you, stay with you while he builds up money.
OR would you trust that he just went through a rough patch in his life and met this woman who loved him and he loved her, and that maybe she wasn't right for him.
So upon meeting you, he knows you are right for him/for each other and he actually won't use you because he genuinely loves you but just went through a rough patch.
Would you throw it all away for this man?
the other man is homeless but has a job? how can he work without residency? the workplace needs a place of residency and for taxes ect.
unless you mean he is living with other people and being a transient? but still, he would need a pernament residence.
i'm just always looking at the practical side too, earth mercury problems....
because it doesn't sound correct. even if he stayed with friends....they need pernament residency.
i'm not sure how that works though.
that's really irrelevant. he could have residency at his former home, but living somewhere else.
click to expand
no grounding to stay in one place.
at least a small apartment. going to live with friends too long is imposing.
edit -- it sounds like keeping up appearances pooffface.
your husband has nice everything but it's keeping up appearances.
money is not worth it. you only get other people on the outside thinking...oh look i'm jealous!!! she has all that..
when in reality it's keeping up appearances.
Posted by lisabethur8The other guy is not homeless as in living on the street. He is living with his partner of 19yrs. BUT it's her place. He just moved in with her.Posted by Juliietteyeah i see what you mean but it doesn't sound very stable at all.Posted by lisabethur8Posted by pooface222what are your placements poofface? it seems you are stuck in rut. and can't seem to get out of the misery.
If you were married with a child but for various reasons didn't love your husband anymore - may be he treats you like shit, but in other ways is a good provider, so you love your life with him, more than you love him; Would you throw it all away to start a new life with a man who is in love with you (and you with him), BUT is homeless but has a job?
For example, let's say a woman has the perfect life. Married. A husband with a good job and salary. She loves her job too. A child. A nice home. They both have cars and a nice social life, Holidays every year etc..
But she's not happy with HIM (maybe he puts her down, takes her for granted).
She meets someone else who fulfills her emotionally and they have so much in common they are like soul mates and they want to be together so much it hurts to be apart.
BUT..he has walked out on his wife and kid and lived in his car. He then moves in with a friend until he gets on his feet. Then he meets his partner who was also married with kids AND has left her marriage, family, life etc to be with him. She gets a place of her own and the guy moves in with her into HER new place (hence why he's homeless. It's her place).
Fast forward 10yrs and now he has met YOU and you are married blah blah blah and you fall in love etc.
Would you do the exact same thing she did? Even though his ex wife has now divorced him, and he has some money from that divorce?
Would you go straight in to living with him?
Or would you worry that he would do the same thing to you?
Eg Cheat on you, stay with you while he builds up money.
OR would you trust that he just went through a rough patch in his life and met this woman who loved him and he loved her, and that maybe she wasn't right for him.
So upon meeting you, he knows you are right for him/for each other and he actually won't use you because he genuinely loves you but just went through a rough patch.
Would you throw it all away for this man?
the other man is homeless but has a job? how can he work without residency? the workplace needs a place of residency and for taxes ect.
unless you mean he is living with other people and being a transient? but still, he would need a pernament residence.
i'm just always looking at the practical side too, earth mercury problems....
because it doesn't sound correct. even if he stayed with friends....they need pernament residency.
i'm not sure how that works though.
that's really irrelevant. he could have residency at his former home, but living somewhere else.
no grounding to stay in one place.
at least a small apartment. going to live with friends too long is imposing.
edit -- it sounds like keeping up appearances pooffface.
your husband has nice everything but it's keeping up appearances.
money is not worth it. you only get other people on the outside thinking...oh look i'm jealous!!! she has all that..
when in reality it's keeping up appearances.
click to expand
Posted by pooface222OOPS 10yrs Not 19 !Posted by lisabethur8The other guy is not homeless as in living on the street. He is living with his partner of 19yrs. BUT it's her place. He just moved in with her.Posted by Juliietteyeah i see what you mean but it doesn't sound very stable at all.Posted by lisabethur8Posted by pooface222what are your placements poofface? it seems you are stuck in rut. and can't seem to get out of the misery.
If you were married with a child but for various reasons didn't love your husband anymore - may be he treats you like shit, but in other ways is a good provider, so you love your life with him, more than you love him; Would you throw it all away to start a new life with a man who is in love with you (and you with him), BUT is homeless but has a job?
For example, let's say a woman has the perfect life. Married. A husband with a good job and salary. She loves her job too. A child. A nice home. They both have cars and a nice social life, Holidays every year etc..
But she's not happy with HIM (maybe he puts her down, takes her for granted).
She meets someone else who fulfills her emotionally and they have so much in common they are like soul mates and they want to be together so much it hurts to be apart.
BUT..he has walked out on his wife and kid and lived in his car. He then moves in with a friend until he gets on his feet. Then he meets his partner who was also married with kids AND has left her marriage, family, life etc to be with him. She gets a place of her own and the guy moves in with her into HER new place (hence why he's homeless. It's her place).
Fast forward 10yrs and now he has met YOU and you are married blah blah blah and you fall in love etc.
Would you do the exact same thing she did? Even though his ex wife has now divorced him, and he has some money from that divorce?
Would you go straight in to living with him?
Or would you worry that he would do the same thing to you?
Eg Cheat on you, stay with you while he builds up money.
OR would you trust that he just went through a rough patch in his life and met this woman who loved him and he loved her, and that maybe she wasn't right for him.
So upon meeting you, he knows you are right for him/for each other and he actually won't use you because he genuinely loves you but just went through a rough patch.
Would you throw it all away for this man?
the other man is homeless but has a job? how can he work without residency? the workplace needs a place of residency and for taxes ect.
unless you mean he is living with other people and being a transient? but still, he would need a pernament residence.
i'm just always looking at the practical side too, earth mercury problems....
because it doesn't sound correct. even if he stayed with friends....they need pernament residency.
i'm not sure how that works though.
that's really irrelevant. he could have residency at his former home, but living somewhere else.
no grounding to stay in one place.
at least a small apartment. going to live with friends too long is imposing.
edit -- it sounds like keeping up appearances pooffface.
your husband has nice everything but it's keeping up appearances.
money is not worth it. you only get other people on the outside thinking...oh look i'm jealous!!! she has all that..
when in reality it's keeping up appearances.
click to expand
Posted by lisabethur8You are so right Lisa x my husband is ALL about keeping up appearances. He is Mr LOOK AT ME. LOOK AT WHAT I'VE GOT! It's the big house. The flash car. The fancy beach holidays. The nice clothes. AND he even called me his "Fit Wife on my arm!"Posted by Juliietteyeah i see what you mean but it doesn't sound very stable at all.Posted by lisabethur8Posted by pooface222what are your placements poofface? it seems you are stuck in rut. and can't seem to get out of the misery.
If you were married with a child but for various reasons didn't love your husband anymore - may be he treats you like shit, but in other ways is a good provider, so you love your life with him, more than you love him; Would you throw it all away to start a new life with a man who is in love with you (and you with him), BUT is homeless but has a job?
For example, let's say a woman has the perfect life. Married. A husband with a good job and salary. She loves her job too. A child. A nice home. They both have cars and a nice social life, Holidays every year etc..
But she's not happy with HIM (maybe he puts her down, takes her for granted).
She meets someone else who fulfills her emotionally and they have so much in common they are like soul mates and they want to be together so much it hurts to be apart.
BUT..he has walked out on his wife and kid and lived in his car. He then moves in with a friend until he gets on his feet. Then he meets his partner who was also married with kids AND has left her marriage, family, life etc to be with him. She gets a place of her own and the guy moves in with her into HER new place (hence why he's homeless. It's her place).
Fast forward 10yrs and now he has met YOU and you are married blah blah blah and you fall in love etc.
Would you do the exact same thing she did? Even though his ex wife has now divorced him, and he has some money from that divorce?
Would you go straight in to living with him?
Or would you worry that he would do the same thing to you?
Eg Cheat on you, stay with you while he builds up money.
OR would you trust that he just went through a rough patch in his life and met this woman who loved him and he loved her, and that maybe she wasn't right for him.
So upon meeting you, he knows you are right for him/for each other and he actually won't use you because he genuinely loves you but just went through a rough patch.
Would you throw it all away for this man?
the other man is homeless but has a job? how can he work without residency? the workplace needs a place of residency and for taxes ect.
unless you mean he is living with other people and being a transient? but still, he would need a pernament residence.
i'm just always looking at the practical side too, earth mercury problems....
because it doesn't sound correct. even if he stayed with friends....they need pernament residency.
i'm not sure how that works though.
that's really irrelevant. he could have residency at his former home, but living somewhere else.
no grounding to stay in one place.
at least a small apartment. going to live with friends too long is imposing.
edit -- it sounds like keeping up appearances pooffface.
your husband has nice everything but it's keeping up appearances.
money is not worth it. you only get other people on the outside thinking...oh look i'm jealous!!! she has all that..
when in reality it's keeping up appearances.
click to expand
Who am I?? Fucking Barbie!!?! Lol !
I always felt so lonely with him as he never paid me attention in terms of just being with me at home. Always on his t.v. laptop iPad phone.
But when I went out to enjoy myself, it caused huge arguments because I'm leaving him on his own.
And now our lovely little girl is just another 'Trophy' to add to his collection.
This is why I loved the other guy. He is the opposite of this. He WANTS the evenings spent together listening to music and talking and kissing and just enjoying each other, rather than my husband who just wants to enjoy his gadgets while I 'look pretty' next to him on the sofa.
I should have left 3yrs ago. And now husband has moved out. Other guy has left me after 3yrs of waiting for me. And I am lonely as hell and STUPID wondering why I just didn't DECUDE WHO or WHAT I wanted!
Posted by TimonPosted by pooface222Why would you even refer to him as being homeless? If he lived there with his partner for 10 years that is his home.Posted by lisabethur8The other guy is not homeless as in living on the street. He is living with his partner of 19yrs. BUT it's her place. He just moved in with her.Posted by Juliietteyeah i see what you mean but it doesn't sound very stable at all.Posted by lisabethur8Posted by pooface222what are your placements poofface? it seems you are stuck in rut. and can't seem to get out of the misery.
If you were married with a child but for various reasons didn't love your husband anymore - may be he treats you like shit, but in other ways is a good provider, so you love your life with him, more than you love him; Would you throw it all away to start a new life with a man who is in love with you (and you with him), BUT is homeless but has a job?
For example, let's say a woman has the perfect life. Married. A husband with a good job and salary. She loves her job too. A child. A nice home. They both have cars and a nice social life, Holidays every year etc..
But she's not happy with HIM (maybe he puts her down, takes her for granted).
She meets someone else who fulfills her emotionally and they have so much in common they are like soul mates and they want to be together so much it hurts to be apart.
BUT..he has walked out on his wife and kid and lived in his car. He then moves in with a friend until he gets on his feet. Then he meets his partner who was also married with kids AND has left her marriage, family, life etc to be with him. She gets a place of her own and the guy moves in with her into HER new place (hence why he's homeless. It's her place).
Fast forward 10yrs and now he has met YOU and you are married blah blah blah and you fall in love etc.
Would you do the exact same thing she did? Even though his ex wife has now divorced him, and he has some money from that divorce?
Would you go straight in to living with him?
Or would you worry that he would do the same thing to you?
Eg Cheat on you, stay with you while he builds up money.
OR would you trust that he just went through a rough patch in his life and met this woman who loved him and he loved her, and that maybe she wasn't right for him.
So upon meeting you, he knows you are right for him/for each other and he actually won't use you because he genuinely loves you but just went through a rough patch.
Would you throw it all away for this man?
the other man is homeless but has a job? how can he work without residency? the workplace needs a place of residency and for taxes ect.
unless you mean he is living with other people and being a transient? but still, he would need a pernament residence.
i'm just always looking at the practical side too, earth mercury problems....
because it doesn't sound correct. even if he stayed with friends....they need pernament residency.
i'm not sure how that works though.
that's really irrelevant. he could have residency at his former home, but living somewhere else.
no grounding to stay in one place.
at least a small apartment. going to live with friends too long is imposing.
edit -- it sounds like keeping up appearances pooffface.
your husband has nice everything but it's keeping up appearances.
money is not worth it. you only get other people on the outside thinking...oh look i'm jealous!!! she has all that..
when in reality it's keeping up appearances.
click to expand
uhhh yeah that's NOT homeless. alot of people stay in apartment buildings not owned by them and they are renting..it is STILL their home because they pay monthly.
same thing with that guy who is living with his partner for 10 years, not married, and just move there, but if he has a job i'm pretty sure he is helping her out with rent and expenses, not just living off of her like he is her child.
Posted by pooface222Posted by lisabethur8You are so right Lisa x my husband is ALL about keeping up appearances. He is Mr LOOK AT ME. LOOK AT WHAT I'VE GOT! It's the big house. The flash car. The fancy beach holidays. The nice clothes. AND he even called me his "Fit Wife on my arm!"Posted by Juliietteyeah i see what you mean but it doesn't sound very stable at all.Posted by lisabethur8Posted by pooface222what are your placements poofface? it seems you are stuck in rut. and can't seem to get out of the misery.
If you were married with a child but for various reasons didn't love your husband anymore - may be he treats you like shit, but in other ways is a good provider, so you love your life with him, more than you love him; Would you throw it all away to start a new life with a man who is in love with you (and you with him), BUT is homeless but has a job?
For example, let's say a woman has the perfect life. Married. A husband with a good job and salary. She loves her job too. A child. A nice home. They both have cars and a nice social life, Holidays every year etc..
But she's not happy with HIM (maybe he puts her down, takes her for granted).
She meets someone else who fulfills her emotionally and they have so much in common they are like soul mates and they want to be together so much it hurts to be apart.
BUT..he has walked out on his wife and kid and lived in his car. He then moves in with a friend until he gets on his feet. Then he meets his partner who was also married with kids AND has left her marriage, family, life etc to be with him. She gets a place of her own and the guy moves in with her into HER new place (hence why he's homeless. It's her place).
Fast forward 10yrs and now he has met YOU and you are married blah blah blah and you fall in love etc.
Would you do the exact same thing she did? Even though his ex wife has now divorced him, and he has some money from that divorce?
Would you go straight in to living with him?
Or would you worry that he would do the same thing to you?
Eg Cheat on you, stay with you while he builds up money.
OR would you trust that he just went through a rough patch in his life and met this woman who loved him and he loved her, and that maybe she wasn't right for him.
So upon meeting you, he knows you are right for him/for each other and he actually won't use you because he genuinely loves you but just went through a rough patch.
Would you throw it all away for this man?
the other man is homeless but has a job? how can he work without residency? the workplace needs a place of residency and for taxes ect.
unless you mean he is living with other people and being a transient? but still, he would need a pernament residence.
i'm just always looking at the practical side too, earth mercury problems....
because it doesn't sound correct. even if he stayed with friends....they need pernament residency.
i'm not sure how that works though.
that's really irrelevant. he could have residency at his former home, but living somewhere else.
no grounding to stay in one place.
at least a small apartment. going to live with friends too long is imposing.
edit -- it sounds like keeping up appearances pooffface.
your husband has nice everything but it's keeping up appearances.
money is not worth it. you only get other people on the outside thinking...oh look i'm jealous!!! she has all that..
when in reality it's keeping up appearances.
Who am I?? Fucking Barbie!!?! Lol !
I always felt so lonely with him as he never paid me attention in terms of just being with me at home. Always on his t.v. laptop iPad phone.
But when I went out to enjoy myself, it caused huge arguments because I'm leaving him on his own.
And now our lovely little girl is just another 'Trophy' to add to his collection.
This is why I loved the other guy. He is the opposite of this. He WANTS the evenings spent together listening to music and talking and kissing and just enjoying each other, rather than my husband who just wants to enjoy his gadgets while I 'look pretty' next to him on the sofa.
I should have left 3yrs ago. And now husband has moved out. Other guy has left me after 3yrs of waiting for me. And I am lonely as hell and STUPID wondering why I just didn't DECUDE WHO or WHAT I wanted!click to expand
your story sounds so sad. you want someone like this guy? he is homeless and got a big break from singing on the streets to X-factor...
you can't decide?
do you have libra? lol
do you have libra? lol
My dad is an Aries and he’s a provider. Has his own business. His wife (Evil stepmom) doesn’t have to work. She’s a Moocher. My dad CAN be selfish and mean sometimes but with good reason. Probably because he works his ass off for a lazy ungrateful wife.
Just wanted to put that out there... some men really do provide and try to be good men and then there’s the Moochers... the never happy ones... the miserable ones....
Just wanted to put that out there... some men really do provide and try to be good men and then there’s the Moochers... the never happy ones... the miserable ones....
Posted by TimonPosted by lisabethur8It's typical caps to think of people's financial assets. 😆Posted by TimonPosted by pooface222Why would you even refer to him as being homeless? If he lived there with his partner for 10 years that is his home.Posted by lisabethur8The other guy is not homeless as in living on the street. He is living with his partner of 19yrs. BUT it's her place. He just moved in with her.Posted by Juliietteyeah i see what you mean but it doesn't sound very stable at all.Posted by lisabethur8Posted by pooface222what are your placements poofface? it seems you are stuck in rut. and can't seem to get out of the misery.
If you were married with a child but for various reasons didn't love your husband anymore - may be he treats you like shit, but in other ways is a good provider, so you love your life with him, more than you love him; Would you throw it all away to start a new life with a man who is in love with you (and you with him), BUT is homeless but has a job?
For example, let's say a woman has the perfect life. Married. A husband with a good job and salary. She loves her job too. A child. A nice home. They both have cars and a nice social life, Holidays every year etc..
But she's not happy with HIM (maybe he puts her down, takes her for granted).
She meets someone else who fulfills her emotionally and they have so much in common they are like soul mates and they want to be together so much it hurts to be apart.
BUT..he has walked out on his wife and kid and lived in his car. He then moves in with a friend until he gets on his feet. Then he meets his partner who was also married with kids AND has left her marriage, family, life etc to be with him. She gets a place of her own and the guy moves in with her into HER new place (hence why he's homeless. It's her place).
Fast forward 10yrs and now he has met YOU and you are married blah blah blah and you fall in love etc.
Would you do the exact same thing she did? Even though his ex wife has now divorced him, and he has some money from that divorce?
Would you go straight in to living with him?
Or would you worry that he would do the same thing to you?
Eg Cheat on you, stay with you while he builds up money.
OR would you trust that he just went through a rough patch in his life and met this woman who loved him and he loved her, and that maybe she wasn't right for him.
So upon meeting you, he knows you are right for him/for each other and he actually won't use you because he genuinely loves you but just went through a rough patch.
Would you throw it all away for this man?
the other man is homeless but has a job? how can he work without residency? the workplace needs a place of residency and for taxes ect.
unless you mean he is living with other people and being a transient? but still, he would need a pernament residence.
i'm just always looking at the practical side too, earth mercury problems....
because it doesn't sound correct. even if he stayed with friends....they need pernament residency.
i'm not sure how that works though.
that's really irrelevant. he could have residency at his former home, but living somewhere else.
no grounding to stay in one place.
at least a small apartment. going to live with friends too long is imposing.
edit -- it sounds like keeping up appearances pooffface.
your husband has nice everything but it's keeping up appearances.
money is not worth it. you only get other people on the outside thinking...oh look i'm jealous!!! she has all that..
when in reality it's keeping up appearances.
uhhh yeah that's NOT homeless. alot of people stay in apartment buildings not owned by them and they are renting..it is STILL their home because they pay monthly.
same thing with that guy who is living with his partner for 10 years, not married, and just move there, but if he has a job i'm pretty sure he is helping her out with rent and expenses, not just living off of her like he is her child.
click to expand
lol i only started to get into it AFTER i've been married for a while, for after several years, because my mother who is a Capricorn moon kept asking what our guys made for a living, (me, the aries, and sag)
and cap sun mother in law i notice does that too. alot. looks and observes what the man's mettle is worth, how much he is making and if he is a hard working guy. lol
but i do notice that alot with those with a strong capricorn in their chart, ect.
it's a security thing. I think cancer, the opposite is very similar. they feel happy with a home.
Posted by Earthgoddessyes she does. lol she has her husband. all she has to do is ask for a divorce and alimony ...and also have a job too. if she worked, (i think she said she works?) then just use your own money and the little alimony.Posted by lisabethur8She has already made the decision that she doesn’t want her husband- she just doesn’t have the resources to do it and she’s scared
you can't decide?
do you have libra? lol
click to expand
although i dont really believe in alimony if you dont have children. the money should go to children.
unless her man is a millionaire, she is entitled to what she has in the marriage. not before or after.
Posted by Impulsvlol!
Get Ann attorney
You’ve been married longer than ten
Ur set with half his money home retirement
Sucks for him
But you can learn To live in small apartment like that the rest of us
Ur luckier than many other women
yup.
small apartments are cute.
i lived in one and paid the rent all by myself.
she is super lucky!!!
Posted by MoonshineLeoErrr I hope you are not calling me a lazy moocher?? I have a job but I don't earn much as I am a mum to a nearly 4 year old. My husband is controlling and nasty and as I found out in the last 6 months - twisted and scary too!
My dad is an Aries and he’s a provider. Has his own business. His wife (Evil stepmom) doesn’t have to work. She’s a Moocher. My dad CAN be selfish and mean sometimes but with good reason. Probably because he works his ass off for a lazy ungrateful wife.
Just wanted to put that out there... some men really do provide and try to be good men and then there’s the Moochers... the never happy ones... the miserable ones....
He may be a provider but it comes with a price! A nasty dark horrible one!
Posted by EarthgoddessThank you for your lovely post xx
Damn this sounds painful....
You know wat if it were me, I would just jump.
Like things that scare me,I first choose wat I really want. Sounds like u don’t want ur husband.
Then just close ur eyes and do it so as to get past the hard stuff sooner.
Wether or not the other guy would be there? I mean hope for the best but expect the worst. Because even if he’s not, you still have a chance @happiness with someone else.
Do you wanna look up at 30 or 40 and just be starting ur life over. When u knew it was going nowhere? Just do it....because wat if he leaves you?
Does ur husband know ur cheating?...Aries men are possessive by nature- but cheat one and they are down right crazy
Maybe that’s the reason for him being upset when u go out- cuz u where meeting ur lover
Just go.......you know u want to and because u don’t love him anybody is gonna seem better than him so
I may as well tell you my age.
I'm 41 ! My birthday was in January last month!
So when you said "do you want to look up when you are 30 or 40" I thought I'm there already! x
Posted by pooface222Posted by MoonshineLeoErrr I hope you are not calling me a lazy moocher?? I have a job but I don't earn much as I am a mum to a nearly 4 year old. My husband is controlling and nasty and as I found out in the last 6 months - twisted and scary too!
My dad is an Aries and he’s a provider. Has his own business. His wife (Evil stepmom) doesn’t have to work. She’s a Moocher. My dad CAN be selfish and mean sometimes but with good reason. Probably because he works his ass off for a lazy ungrateful wife.
Just wanted to put that out there... some men really do provide and try to be good men and then there’s the Moochers... the never happy ones... the miserable ones....
He may be a provider but it comes with a price! A nasty dark horrible one!click to expand
it's hard to see the other side...when you are related to the other one.
but your position you are always complaining and never do anything about it. no action. that's why.
just because a man provides doesn't mean he has the right to be an asshole.
look at Josef Fritzl who abducted his own daughter and locked her in the basement (shivers) disgusting man. He was the provider of everyone, all his children and wife...and the wife has to be GRATEFUL...
why ? because he pays for all the food and housing...so women like them hide in the shadows and never complain ...because he pays!!
Posted by pooface222Posted by EarthgoddessThank you for your lovely post xx
Damn this sounds painful....
You know wat if it were me, I would just jump.
Like things that scare me,I first choose wat I really want. Sounds like u don’t want ur husband.
Then just close ur eyes and do it so as to get past the hard stuff sooner.
Wether or not the other guy would be there? I mean hope for the best but expect the worst. Because even if he’s not, you still have a chance @happiness with someone else.
Do you wanna look up at 30 or 40 and just be starting ur life over. When u knew it was going nowhere? Just do it....because wat if he leaves you?
Does ur husband know ur cheating?...Aries men are possessive by nature- but cheat one and they are down right crazy
Maybe that’s the reason for him being upset when u go out- cuz u where meeting ur lover
Just go.......you know u want to and because u don’t love him anybody is gonna seem better than him so
I may as well tell you my age.
I'm 41 ! My birthday was in January last month!
So when you said "do you want to look up when you are 30 or 40" I thought I'm there already! x
click to expand
you're a capricorn? why are you so indecisive?
usually you folks are all action.
what's your placements?
Yes but i'd need to see potential in him to get off the streets. Just settling isn't for me. We're given this one life-at least find one true love throughout it-those who do are lucky. Far too many people just settle, or put up with imo.
who is she married to, some men won't accept women back if they have a lover.
Posted by Earthgoddessehhh it's being dishonest to her husband. -_-Posted by lisabethur8Hoping he doesn’t know about the other guy 🙏🏼
who is she married to, some men won't accept women back if they have a lover.
click to expand
i dont think that's right. not trying to be all righteous but if she has a lover,
it's not fair to the husband.
it's gonna get her back because she is not doing right. and making things right.
the only way that they are gonna be ok together if they have counseling and therapy for his bullying and meanness, and she for her pining and wanting out of the marriage and having a lover.
Posted by lisabethur8You are so right Lisa xPosted by pooface222Posted by MoonshineLeoErrr I hope you are not calling me a lazy moocher?? I have a job but I don't earn much as I am a mum to a nearly 4 year old. My husband is controlling and nasty and as I found out in the last 6 months - twisted and scary too!
My dad is an Aries and he’s a provider. Has his own business. His wife (Evil stepmom) doesn’t have to work. She’s a Moocher. My dad CAN be selfish and mean sometimes but with good reason. Probably because he works his ass off for a lazy ungrateful wife.
Just wanted to put that out there... some men really do provide and try to be good men and then there’s the Moochers... the never happy ones... the miserable ones....
He may be a provider but it comes with a price! A nasty dark horrible one!
it's hard to see the other side...when you are related to the other one.
but your position you are always complaining and never do anything about it. no action. that's why.
just because a man provides doesn't mean he has the right to be an asshole.
look at Josef Fritzl who abducted his own daughter and locked her in the basement (shivers) disgusting man. He was the provider of everyone, all his children and wife...and the wife has to be GRATEFUL...
why ? because he pays for all the food and housing...so women like them hide in the shadows and never complain ...because he pays!!click to expand
I KNOW how fucking stupid I have been! I have been complaining for the last 3yrs how unhappy I am but I've done nothing about It!
I tmhave been scared to break up my marriage and my family. That's why.
However as I have done nothing about my unhappiness, my marriage and family have broken anyway.
I got very very depressed. And I hated my husband and didn't want to talk to him. So I ended up either, sitting upstairs in one of the bedrooms alone wishing I was somewhere else. Or arguing with my husband.
I should have just LEFT. I am a stupid cow who has lived in fear of big change. But big change has happened anyway.
And now I am angry and lonely and sad I didn't take control over the last 3yrs!
The reason I am on here talking about all this is that I am trying to Heal and sort my head out. So other people's opinions are helping me clear My head x
Posted by EarthgoddessMy husband found out about my lover ages ago. It's why that relationshhip (With my lover) broke down. I wanted to kewvecmy husband for my lover but I didn't as I was scared.Posted by lisabethur8Hoping he doesn’t know about the other guy 🙏🏼
who is she married to, some men won't accept women back if they have a lover.
click to expand
So..My lover left me.
And now my marriage is fucked.
BUT there are other reasons involving both emotional and some physical abuse between me and my husband are the real reasons he moved out.
My marriage is quite literally OVER! I hate him. And I miss my lover like HELL.
I should have just GONE 3yrs ago when I had 2 men in my life. The fact that I even had another man MEANT that I didn't want my husband. S I should have just LEFT him and been on my own when I still had some happiness in me..
NOW I'm just sad lonely depressed and FULL of regret of what I didn't do!
*literally
Excuse the typo up there.
Excuse the typo up there.
Posted by lisabethur8Posted by pooface222Posted by EarthgoddessThank you for your lovely post xx
Damn this sounds painful....
You know wat if it were me, I would just jump.
Like things that scare me,I first choose wat I really want. Sounds like u don’t want ur husband.
Then just close ur eyes and do it so as to get past the hard stuff sooner.
Wether or not the other guy would be there? I mean hope for the best but expect the worst. Because even if he’s not, you still have a chance @happiness with someone else.
Do you wanna look up at 30 or 40 and just be starting ur life over. When u knew it was going nowhere? Just do it....because wat if he leaves you?
Does ur husband know ur cheating?...Aries men are possessive by nature- but cheat one and they are down right crazy
Maybe that’s the reason for him being upset when u go out- cuz u where meeting ur lover
Just go.......you know u want to and because u don’t love him anybody is gonna seem better than him so
I may as well tell you my age.
I'm 41 ! My birthday was in January last month!
So when you said "do you want to look up when you are 30 or 40" I thought I'm there already! x
you're a capricorn? why are you so indecisive?
usually you folks are all action.
what's your placements?click to expand
I know it's crazy. And I have lots of Cap in my chart too!
In Sun Moon Mercury and Mars.
With Venus in Pisces.
Hope that helps?
I think the real reason I'm in this mess though is that I recently discovered I am Co-dependant!
I found this list called '20 signs you are co-dependant.' I am 19 of them!
Posted by lisabethur8What you have just described there is my husband - minus locking me in the basement!Posted by pooface222Posted by MoonshineLeoErrr I hope you are not calling me a lazy moocher?? I have a job but I don't earn much as I am a mum to a nearly 4 year old. My husband is controlling and nasty and as I found out in the last 6 months - twisted and scary too!
My dad is an Aries and he’s a provider. Has his own business. His wife (Evil stepmom) doesn’t have to work. She’s a Moocher. My dad CAN be selfish and mean sometimes but with good reason. Probably because he works his ass off for a lazy ungrateful wife.
Just wanted to put that out there... some men really do provide and try to be good men and then there’s the Moochers... the never happy ones... the miserable ones....
He may be a provider but it comes with a price! A nasty dark horrible one!
it's hard to see the other side...when you are related to the other one.
but your position you are always complaining and never do anything about it. no action. that's why.
just because a man provides doesn't mean he has the right to be an asshole.
look at Josef Fritzl who abducted his own daughter and locked her in the basement (shivers) disgusting man. He was the provider of everyone, all his children and wife...and the wife has to be GRATEFUL...
why ? because he pays for all the food and housing...so women like them hide in the shadows and never complain ...because he pays!!click to expand
He provides house and food and I am expected to be GRATEFUL just because he pays!
The rest of the time he is a cold controlling bastard arsehole.
Anyway...as My mum always tells me, I keep putting up with him!
"he meets his partner who was also married with kids AND has left her marriage, family, life etc to be with him. She gets a place of her own and the guy moves in with her into HER new place (hence why he's homeless. It's her place).
Fast forward 10yrs and now he has met YOU and you are married blah blah blah and you fall in love etc."
^^^^^
Fast forward 10 months (yes, it gets better with practice, hehe)........He has now met THE NEXT one who is ready to throw out her marriage, but uses him to find the courage to do so....
Assuming that you are going forward with it. You should charge him rent...absolutely! In additions to his share of bill payments. The money could go into your pension pot. If you get married and you live in your house (the one paid by your current husband, I suppose), he should refund you 50% of the house price as part of the deal.
You are only used if you allow it to.
Fast forward 10yrs and now he has met YOU and you are married blah blah blah and you fall in love etc."
^^^^^
Fast forward 10 months (yes, it gets better with practice, hehe)........He has now met THE NEXT one who is ready to throw out her marriage, but uses him to find the courage to do so....
Assuming that you are going forward with it. You should charge him rent...absolutely! In additions to his share of bill payments. The money could go into your pension pot. If you get married and you live in your house (the one paid by your current husband, I suppose), he should refund you 50% of the house price as part of the deal.
You are only used if you allow it to.
Posted by Earthgoddess...so he can screw their child up even more? Did you not read the part where the OP said social workers had to intervene for the protection of their little girlPosted by pooface222Listen to me capgirlPosted by EarthgoddessThank you for your lovely post xx
Damn this sounds painful....
You know wat if it were me, I would just jump.
Like things that scare me,I first choose wat I really want. Sounds like u don’t want ur husband.
Then just close ur eyes and do it so as to get past the hard stuff sooner.
Wether or not the other guy would be there? I mean hope for the best but expect the worst. Because even if he’s not, you still have a chance @happiness with someone else.
Do you wanna look up at 30 or 40 and just be starting ur life over. When u knew it was going nowhere? Just do it....because wat if he leaves you?
Does ur husband know ur cheating?...Aries men are possessive by nature- but cheat one and they are down right crazy
Maybe that’s the reason for him being upset when u go out- cuz u where meeting ur lover
Just go.......you know u want to and because u don’t love him anybody is gonna seem better than him so
I may as well tell you my age.
I'm 41 ! My birthday was in January last month!
So when you said "do you want to look up when you are 30 or 40" I thought I'm there already! x
I’m a Virgo so we share that earth element way of thinking
I know I’m gonna get slaughtered for this but
Get ur husband back home!!!...
You have a young child
You have a low income
You have probably lost your lover
And I’m sorry for this but you are 41
I mean wat are you gonna do start over!!!
In 10 years ur baby will be 14 ish
But you 51 and what about retirement!!!!
I mean on paper saying it’s never to late to be happy is great!!!!
But also realistically we have to live with the decision we make. I’m not trying to be mean or a downer I only wanna give you my perspective on ur situation.
Can you guys work out ur issues? It’s been 6 months of horribleness but you have had a lover for years right? Could that have caused his change?
I mean I would really consider if I could work on my marriage. But honestly I don’t really condemn divorce without devastating circumstances so.
I wish you the best with watever you decide
click to expand
Maybe you missed that ?
Posted by MyStarsShineMy husband is the reason social services are involved. He's a bastard!Posted by Earthgoddess...so he can screw their child up even more? Did you not read the part where the OP said social workers had to intervene for the protection of their little girlPosted by pooface222Listen to me capgirlPosted by EarthgoddessThank you for your lovely post xx
Damn this sounds painful....
You know wat if it were me, I would just jump.
Like things that scare me,I first choose wat I really want. Sounds like u don’t want ur husband.
Then just close ur eyes and do it so as to get past the hard stuff sooner.
Wether or not the other guy would be there? I mean hope for the best but expect the worst. Because even if he’s not, you still have a chance @happiness with someone else.
Do you wanna look up at 30 or 40 and just be starting ur life over. When u knew it was going nowhere? Just do it....because wat if he leaves you?
Does ur husband know ur cheating?...Aries men are possessive by nature- but cheat one and they are down right crazy
Maybe that’s the reason for him being upset when u go out- cuz u where meeting ur lover
Just go.......you know u want to and because u don’t love him anybody is gonna seem better than him so
I may as well tell you my age.
I'm 41 ! My birthday was in January last month!
So when you said "do you want to look up when you are 30 or 40" I thought I'm there already! x
I’m a Virgo so we share that earth element way of thinking
I know I’m gonna get slaughtered for this but
Get ur husband back home!!!...
You have a young child
You have a low income
You have probably lost your lover
And I’m sorry for this but you are 41
I mean wat are you gonna do start over!!!
In 10 years ur baby will be 14 ish
But you 51 and what about retirement!!!!
I mean on paper saying it’s never to late to be happy is great!!!!
But also realistically we have to live with the decision we make. I’m not trying to be mean or a downer I only wanna give you my perspective on ur situation.
Can you guys work out ur issues? It’s been 6 months of horribleness but you have had a lover for years right? Could that have caused his change?
I mean I would really consider if I could work on my marriage. But honestly I don’t really condemn divorce without devastating circumstances so.
I wish you the best with watever you decide
Maybe you missed that ?click to expand
Posted by pooface222That is what I was saying......why would you want to live with a bastard who is likely to screw your kid up?Posted by MyStarsShineMy husband is the reason social services are involved. He's a bastard!Posted by Earthgoddess...so he can screw their child up even more? Did you not read the part where the OP said social workers had to intervene for the protection of their little girlPosted by pooface222Listen to me capgirlPosted by EarthgoddessThank you for your lovely post xx
Damn this sounds painful....
You know wat if it were me, I would just jump.
Like things that scare me,I first choose wat I really want. Sounds like u don’t want ur husband.
Then just close ur eyes and do it so as to get past the hard stuff sooner.
Wether or not the other guy would be there? I mean hope for the best but expect the worst. Because even if he’s not, you still have a chance @happiness with someone else.
Do you wanna look up at 30 or 40 and just be starting ur life over. When u knew it was going nowhere? Just do it....because wat if he leaves you?
Does ur husband know ur cheating?...Aries men are possessive by nature- but cheat one and they are down right crazy
Maybe that’s the reason for him being upset when u go out- cuz u where meeting ur lover
Just go.......you know u want to and because u don’t love him anybody is gonna seem better than him so
I may as well tell you my age.
I'm 41 ! My birthday was in January last month!
So when you said "do you want to look up when you are 30 or 40" I thought I'm there already! x
I’m a Virgo so we share that earth element way of thinking
I know I’m gonna get slaughtered for this but
Get ur husband back home!!!...
You have a young child
You have a low income
You have probably lost your lover
And I’m sorry for this but you are 41
I mean wat are you gonna do start over!!!
In 10 years ur baby will be 14 ish
But you 51 and what about retirement!!!!
I mean on paper saying it’s never to late to be happy is great!!!!
But also realistically we have to live with the decision we make. I’m not trying to be mean or a downer I only wanna give you my perspective on ur situation.
Can you guys work out ur issues? It’s been 6 months of horribleness but you have had a lover for years right? Could that have caused his change?
I mean I would really consider if I could work on my marriage. But honestly I don’t really condemn divorce without devastating circumstances so.
I wish you the best with watever you decide
Maybe you missed that ?click to expand
Women that want to live with bastards are to be pitied and need help 😢
This is a dream for people who are in it for the material stuff and the money, including a nice haven.
That's how there's a mistress/man in the side.
If I was living a life like that, I rather leave if I'm not happy. It's better being miserable
ENOUGH ROOM TO BREATH
That's how there's a mistress/man in the side.
If I was living a life like that, I rather leave if I'm not happy. It's better being miserable
ENOUGH ROOM TO BREATH
Posted by MyStarsShineOh trust me I don't want to live with a bastard! I've just been so scared to leave him.Posted by pooface222That is what I was saying......why would you want to live with a bastard who is likely to screw your kid up?Posted by MyStarsShineMy husband is the reason social services are involved. He's a bastard!Posted by Earthgoddess...so he can screw their child up even more? Did you not read the part where the OP said social workers had to intervene for the protection of their little girlPosted by pooface222Listen to me capgirlPosted by EarthgoddessThank you for your lovely post xx
Damn this sounds painful....
You know wat if it were me, I would just jump.
Like things that scare me,I first choose wat I really want. Sounds like u don’t want ur husband.
Then just close ur eyes and do it so as to get past the hard stuff sooner.
Wether or not the other guy would be there? I mean hope for the best but expect the worst. Because even if he’s not, you still have a chance @happiness with someone else.
Do you wanna look up at 30 or 40 and just be starting ur life over. When u knew it was going nowhere? Just do it....because wat if he leaves you?
Does ur husband know ur cheating?...Aries men are possessive by nature- but cheat one and they are down right crazy
Maybe that’s the reason for him being upset when u go out- cuz u where meeting ur lover
Just go.......you know u want to and because u don’t love him anybody is gonna seem better than him so
I may as well tell you my age.
I'm 41 ! My birthday was in January last month!
So when you said "do you want to look up when you are 30 or 40" I thought I'm there already! x
I’m a Virgo so we share that earth element way of thinking
I know I’m gonna get slaughtered for this but
Get ur husband back home!!!...
You have a young child
You have a low income
You have probably lost your lover
And I’m sorry for this but you are 41
I mean wat are you gonna do start over!!!
In 10 years ur baby will be 14 ish
But you 51 and what about retirement!!!!
I mean on paper saying it’s never to late to be happy is great!!!!
But also realistically we have to live with the decision we make. I’m not trying to be mean or a downer I only wanna give you my perspective on ur situation.
Can you guys work out ur issues? It’s been 6 months of horribleness but you have had a lover for years right? Could that have caused his change?
I mean I would really consider if I could work on my marriage. But honestly I don’t really condemn divorce without devastating circumstances so.
I wish you the best with watever you decide
Maybe you missed that ?
Women that want to live with bastards are to be pitied and need help 😢
click to expand
Why? Brcause first he never ever gives me what I ask for in any given situation. He just fights against me.
Second he is very tight with money.
Therefore...if I divorce him I have always been scared of the fights he will kick up to give me no money from the house, etc etc.
He is that mean selfish and nasty both emotionally and financially that I've been scared of what he will do!
Hell to the no! I want him to be my MATCH! If he makes more money than I do, so be it. If I make more money than he does, so be it. If he has NO job, hell to the no! Marriage to me is sacred. "Till death do us part, for better for worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health". A DXP member posted the 1 Corinthians 13:4-8; Love is patient, love is kind. It does....
🤗 cyber hugs!
Love,
Eva
🤗 cyber hugs!
Love,
Eva
NOPE
Posted by EarthgoddessIt's easily done
No I must have missed the social services and physical abuse part
Sorry
In that case I deftly take back my last post. And I see you’ve been unhappy for years not only the 6 months.
Ok so I screwed up and gave advice while just skipping thro the info given....lol...I’ll just disappear becuz of embarrassment now
Don't disappear...you were trying to help, that's always a good thing ❤️
Posted by pooface222Posted by MyStarsShineMy husband is the reason social services are involved. He's a bastard!Posted by Earthgoddess...so he can screw their child up even more? Did you not read the part where the OP said social workers had to intervene for the protection of their little girlPosted by pooface222Listen to me capgirlPosted by EarthgoddessThank you for your lovely post xx
Damn this sounds painful....
You know wat if it were me, I would just jump.
Like things that scare me,I first choose wat I really want. Sounds like u don’t want ur husband.
Then just close ur eyes and do it so as to get past the hard stuff sooner.
Wether or not the other guy would be there? I mean hope for the best but expect the worst. Because even if he’s not, you still have a chance @happiness with someone else.
Do you wanna look up at 30 or 40 and just be starting ur life over. When u knew it was going nowhere? Just do it....because wat if he leaves you?
Does ur husband know ur cheating?...Aries men are possessive by nature- but cheat one and they are down right crazy
Maybe that’s the reason for him being upset when u go out- cuz u where meeting ur lover
Just go.......you know u want to and because u don’t love him anybody is gonna seem better than him so
I may as well tell you my age.
I'm 41 ! My birthday was in January last month!
So when you said "do you want to look up when you are 30 or 40" I thought I'm there already! x
I’m a Virgo so we share that earth element way of thinking
I know I’m gonna get slaughtered for this but
Get ur husband back home!!!...
You have a young child
You have a low income
You have probably lost your lover
And I’m sorry for this but you are 41
I mean wat are you gonna do start over!!!
In 10 years ur baby will be 14 ish
But you 51 and what about retirement!!!!
I mean on paper saying it’s never to late to be happy is great!!!!
But also realistically we have to live with the decision we make. I’m not trying to be mean or a downer I only wanna give you my perspective on ur situation.
Can you guys work out ur issues? It’s been 6 months of horribleness but you have had a lover for years right? Could that have caused his change?
I mean I would really consider if I could work on my marriage. But honestly I don’t really condemn divorce without devastating circumstances so.
I wish you the best with watever you decide
Maybe you missed that ?click to expand
Oh my Lordy Lord sweet stars above! If hes the reason for social services being involved, Im guessing he was the 1 who was physically violent towards u (think u mentioned violence earlier)??
Posted by pooface222eww selfish emotionally and financially? dont live your life in misery.Posted by MyStarsShineOh trust me I don't want to live with a bastard! I've just been so scared to leave him.Posted by pooface222That is what I was saying......why would you want to live with a bastard who is likely to screw your kid up?Posted by MyStarsShineMy husband is the reason social services are involved. He's a bastard!Posted by Earthgoddess...so he can screw their child up even more? Did you not read the part where the OP said social workers had to intervene for the protection of their little girlPosted by pooface222Listen to me capgirlPosted by EarthgoddessThank you for your lovely post xx
Damn this sounds painful....
You know wat if it were me, I would just jump.
Like things that scare me,I first choose wat I really want. Sounds like u don’t want ur husband.
Then just close ur eyes and do it so as to get past the hard stuff sooner.
Wether or not the other guy would be there? I mean hope for the best but expect the worst. Because even if he’s not, you still have a chance @happiness with someone else.
Do you wanna look up at 30 or 40 and just be starting ur life over. When u knew it was going nowhere? Just do it....because wat if he leaves you?
Does ur husband know ur cheating?...Aries men are possessive by nature- but cheat one and they are down right crazy
Maybe that’s the reason for him being upset when u go out- cuz u where meeting ur lover
Just go.......you know u want to and because u don’t love him anybody is gonna seem better than him so
I may as well tell you my age.
I'm 41 ! My birthday was in January last month!
So when you said "do you want to look up when you are 30 or 40" I thought I'm there already! x
I’m a Virgo so we share that earth element way of thinking
I know I’m gonna get slaughtered for this but
Get ur husband back home!!!...
You have a young child
You have a low income
You have probably lost your lover
And I’m sorry for this but you are 41
I mean wat are you gonna do start over!!!
In 10 years ur baby will be 14 ish
But you 51 and what about retirement!!!!
I mean on paper saying it’s never to late to be happy is great!!!!
But also realistically we have to live with the decision we make. I’m not trying to be mean or a downer I only wanna give you my perspective on ur situation.
Can you guys work out ur issues? It’s been 6 months of horribleness but you have had a lover for years right? Could that have caused his change?
I mean I would really consider if I could work on my marriage. But honestly I don’t really condemn divorce without devastating circumstances so.
I wish you the best with watever you decide
Maybe you missed that ?
Women that want to live with bastards are to be pitied and need help 😢
Why? Brcause first he never ever gives me what I ask for in any given situation. He just fights against me.
Second he is very tight with money.
Therefore...if I divorce him I have always been scared of the fights he will kick up to give me no money from the house, etc etc.
He is that mean selfish and nasty both emotionally and financially that I've been scared of what he will do!click to expand
Posted by AliensusedourbogrollYes. YOU are absolutely right.
Can I ask why the other guy needs to be in the equation? Shouldn’t wanting to leave your husband because he doesn’t treat you well and has made it clear he won’t change be good enough on it’s own?
I had another man come into my life who made me happy the way my husband couldn't.
Sadly I do care my life around men and relationships. Not that it's necessarily sad to do that per se, but my situation is that in order to get myself the life I want, I've had to have a relationship to help me get what I want. E.g. I always wanted to own my own place but I can't afford it on my own. I'm not a big earner so..
And I'm sure I'm not the only woman in the world who can't afford a place on her own..
I met a win a who hated her husband. She's in her late 50's and has 3 grown up sons. She said her husband adores her. And she has a good life with him. So it seems she has stayed because he gives her a good life, and he loves her.
After she told me this I thought "Hmmm she sounds like me."
My husband gave me a good life, and loved me waaaayy more than I loved him. I'm the warm sensitive type who cares aboit someone's feelings and if they are happy. My husband is ALL about himself. Screw it if I'm not happy. Doesn't matter to him.
His love is emotionally selfish and cold. But he is a good provider brcause of his good salary.
Posted by MoonshineLeoI'm not a Moocher or lazy miserable etc.
My dad is an Aries and he’s a provider. Has his own business. His wife (Evil stepmom) doesn’t have to work. She’s a Moocher. My dad CAN be selfish and mean sometimes but with good reason. Probably because he works his ass off for a lazy ungrateful wife.
Just wanted to put that out there... some men really do provide and try to be good men and then there’s the Moochers... the never happy ones... the miserable ones....
I was very happy for years with him. However once we married, things changed. He became very controlling and nasty and then blaming me for his behaviour.
He made me FEEL like a moocher. Why? Because I'm not doing things eg housework using his exact methods which in his head are far superior to mine.
I won't go on and bore you but this controlling behaviour occurred in lots of things in our life together!
Posted by lisabethur8I have Libra in Pluto.
you can't decide?
do you have libra? lol
And Asc.Node is Libra too if any of this means anything? I'm not sure x
Posted by DiannaTrue..I believe he will still be there when the time is right. But..after waiting nearly 2yrs (not 3 I got that wrong), he became very very hurt and drifted away. To this day he is still with his partner.
Never leave a relationship for a relationship.
If you are truly unhappy in your relationship, you should end it. Do not get involved with someone else until you've rebuilt your life as a single person. Properly mourn and tie up loose ends from the marriage before starting something new and always put your child first.
If this man was truly your soulmate, he will still be there when the time is right. Jumping from one to another is never a wise idea.
To be honest, I feel a bit messed around by him. I used to suggest we do things together - just so I can get to see what he's like before I leave my marriage. E.g. maybe go out for dinner. His partner went out for dinner with her female friends and she even went away for a few days once. So I said why don't we go out for dinner? He wouldn't do it as he was scared of being caught out.
And that's fine. We don't want to be caught cheating. BUT he still wanted me to throw away my marriage, family, home and life for him!!?!
In the realms of seeing someone else while yoir married - but with a view to leaving your marriage, I think it's a bit unfair to not give me what I ask for - the odd dinner date - yet expect me to throw my entire life away for him and then have him move in with Me once I've got divorced and got my own place.
I'm thinking this is my mystic meg side coming out here but I had a weird daydream earlier about this conversation and I felt compelled to seek you out - I sincerely hope you don't mind. How are you doing m'dear? Have you managed to sort yourself out a place of your own and on the road to reconnecting with oneself. I'm a strong believer in fate and if things are to work out with you and this other fellow then I believe it will happen. But for now I hope you are on your journey to happiness. Toodles my lovely. L x
Posted by pooface222Posted by Dianna
Never leave a relationship for a relationship.
If you are truly unhappy in your relationship, you should end it. Do not get involved with someone else until you've rebuilt your life as a single person. Properly mourn and tie up loose ends from the marriage before starting something new and always put your child first.
If this man was truly your soulmate, he will still be there when the time is right. Jumping from one to another is never a wise idea.
True..I believe he will still be there when the time is right. But..after waiting nearly 2yrs (not 3 I got that wrong), he became very very hurt and drifted away. To this day he is still with his partner.
To be honest, I feel a bit messed around by him. I used to suggest we do things together - just so I can get to see what he's like before I leave my marriage. E.g. maybe go out for dinner. His partner went out for dinner with her female friends and she even went away for a few days once. So I said why don't we go out for dinner? He wouldn't do it as he was scared of being caught out.
And that's fine. We don't want to be caught cheating. BUT he still wanted me to throw away my marriage, family, home and life for him!!?!
In the realms of seeing someone else while yoir married - but with a view to leaving your marriage, I think it's a bit unfair to not give me what I ask for - the odd dinner date - yet expect me to throw my entire life away for him and then have him move in with Me once I've got divorced and got my own place. click to expandclick to expandclick to expandclick to expand
Posted by miriyahhh
What's the husband sign, and what's this new guys sign? Also yours?
"Hypothetically"
Husband - Aries.
New Guy - Pisces
Mine - Capricorn
Posted by miriyahhh
What's the husband sign, and what's this new guys sign? Also yours?
"Hypothetically"
Husband - Aries.
New Guy - Pisces
Mine - Capricorn
Posted by pooface222Posted by miriyahhh
What's the husband sign, and what's this new guys sign? Also yours?
"Hypothetically"
Husband - Aries.
New Guy - Pisces
Mine - Capricornclick to expand
Hey! You are back and still struggling? Shit! I have to read some more. Just wanted to say hi!
Posted by GemitatiPosted by pooface222Posted by miriyahhh
What's the husband sign, and what's this new guys sign? Also yours?
"Hypothetically"
Husband - Aries.
New Guy - Pisces
Mine - Capricorn
Hey! You are back and still struggling? Shit! I have to read some more. Just wanted to say hi!click to expand
Hi ya x
Yes I'm still struggling. But I don't really want to say much about it.
I was just on here re-reading what I wrote.
How are you Gemitati?
Things developed for You?
Posted by pooface222Posted by GemitatiPosted by pooface222Posted by miriyahhh
What's the husband sign, and what's this new guys sign? Also yours?
"Hypothetically"
Husband - Aries.
New Guy - Pisces
Mine - Capricorn
Hey! You are back and still struggling? Shit! I have to read some more. Just wanted to say hi!
Hi ya x
Yes I'm still struggling. But I don't really want to say much about it.
I was just on here re-reading what I wrote.
How are you Gemitati?
Things developed for You?click to expand
Darling! My things are developing but I am not to compare us.
I don’t understand how is he expecting you to leave and him to not...seriously fucked up theory!
I don’t understand what your lover wants! Do you? Sorry. Just aching my heart again for you and all this crap...I don’t know what to say.
I am just reading you. And wishing you’ll be fine!
Posted by Impulsv
I chose to live an authentic life
I give props to the guy who left living in a car. HIS truth matters
No one is living in their car.
To recap:
Op had an affair with a man who was living with his gf/wife. (House is in gf’s name ergo op calling him ‘homeless’)
He demands she leaves but doesn’t leave his own relationship.
Husband finds out she’s been cheating on him for the past 3 years and leaves.
Side Dick also moves on.
Op is left feeling lonely and regretful.
The only one living their authentic truth is op’s husband. He found out he was being lied too and betrayed and gtfot. Good for him.
Posted by pooface222Posted by MoonshineLeo
My dad is an Aries and he’s a provider. Has his own business. His wife (Evil stepmom) doesn’t have to work. She’s a Moocher. My dad CAN be selfish and mean sometimes but with good reason. Probably because he works his ass off for a lazy ungrateful wife.
Just wanted to put that out there... some men really do provide and try to be good men and then there’s the Moochers... the never happy ones... the miserable ones....
I'm not a Moocher or lazy miserable etc.
I was very happy for years with him. However once we married, things changed. He became very controlling and nasty and then blaming me for his behaviour.
He made me FEEL like a moocher. Why? Because I'm not doing things eg housework using his exact methods which in his head are far superior to mine.
I won't go on and bore you but this controlling behaviour occurred in lots of things in our life together!click to expand
So you thought, what...
“He may control the money but he doesn’t control this pussy!”
It’s easy for me to judge of course cause I’m standing on the outside looking in. But couldn’t you ask him for counseling so you can both communicate better?
Is there a pastor or parent you could’ve gone to for advice?
His sins are being too controlling and having an opinion on how the house looks. The house HE paid for.
And not giving you enough attention.
So for those great sins of his you threw away your marriage and have given your child a broken home.
Consider that the Pisces has the time to give you attention because his gf/wife also works and provides equally. Don’t think your the only one either. He is entertaining other females...not just you.
If your gonna fall in love and throw away your marriage of 13 years, at least choose someone whose gonna be loyal. Come on now, your a cap!
Stories like yours enforce why marriage is a dying institution. No one gives true commitment anymore. It’s not until death do we part, it’s until I get bored and find the next one. Smh
Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by pooface222Posted by MoonshineLeo
My dad is an Aries and he’s a provider. Has his own business. His wife (Evil stepmom) doesn’t have to work. She’s a Moocher. My dad CAN be selfish and mean sometimes but with good reason. Probably because he works his ass off for a lazy ungrateful wife.
Just wanted to put that out there... some men really do provide and try to be good men and then there’s the Moochers... the never happy ones... the miserable ones....
I'm not a Moocher or lazy miserable etc.
I was very happy for years with him. However once we married, things changed. He became very controlling and nasty and then blaming me for his behaviour.
He made me FEEL like a moocher. Why? Because I'm not doing things eg housework using his exact methods which in his head are far superior to mine.
I won't go on and bore you but this controlling behaviour occurred in lots of things in our life together!
So you thought, what...
“He may control the money but he doesn’t control this pussy!”
It’s easy for me to judge of course cause I’m standing on the outside looking in. But couldn’t you ask him for counseling so you can both communicate better?
Is there a pastor or parent you could’ve gone to for advice?
His sins are being too controlling and having an opinion on how the house looks. The house HE paid for.
And not giving you enough attention.
So for those great sins of his you threw away your marriage and have given your child a broken home.
Consider that the Pisces has the time to give you attention because his gf/wife also works and provides equally. Don’t think your the only one either. He is entertaining other females...not just you.
If your gonna fall in love and throw away your marriage of 13 years, at least choose someone whose gonna be loyal. Come on now, your a cap!
Stories like yours enforce why marriage is a dying institution. No one gives true commitment anymore. It’s not until death do we part, it’s until I get bored and find the next one. Smh
click to expand
Hi x yes you're right. I'm a Cap so I should be desicive and know what I want.
However I have Venus in Pisces so I can't help thinking that makes me very sensitive too.
I am.always normally committed in a relationship however I never wanted marriage. Why?
The fear of Divorce. I Hate Divorce! No one loves it obviously but I truly Hate it!
I agreed to marry because once my husband started hinting back in 2008 I found it cute and romantic and actually started to want marriage.
I realise now it was just a whim/flight of fancy back then, not a real true need of mine.
These days I have gone back to my old haunt if I don't want marriage.
Yup!
We're divorced pretty much. And it's NASTY!
Join the Conversation. Explore Yourself. Connect with Others.
Discover insights, swap stories, and find people. dxpnet is where experiences turn into understanding.
Create Your Free Account →Related Topics
Seriously
Every time one of my relationships (dating, talking etc) end the men getting into serious relationships and get married
I’m cursed you guys
A guy you knew with a serious gf and a baby on the way on a dating site what would you do
When it comes to relationships and cheating while I do agree with all the cliché's about why you shouldn't blame the other women blame him...
At what point do these women take some responsibility for their part in KNOWING?
Ex keeps telling everyone he wants me back and sending mixed signals that tell me he wants me. But won't tell me anything. He told my friends he wants me back and doesn't want to see me with anyone else, but the week before blew me off when I tried to sch
When is it too late for a woman to get sugar daddy and for man to get sugar momma?
If your love one calls you annoying all the time, what do you do?
I'm curious how every zodiac acts upon this situation
When it's on the phone: I don't answer the text or phone calls I just do whatever I have to finish or take a nap.
If it's i
Why won’t he leave me alone if he doesn’t want a relationship?
At first I just distanced myself, basically ghosting myself for my own benefit. That didn’t work as he tried something new to get my attention and that worked... So then I deleted all his c
That you either give good head and have good kitty or you have good kitty and bad head
Is this true
Same can go for men (good 🍆)
So i recently broke up with this guy i had been seeing for past six months. He never cared for me much although i tried hard To make it work. Anyhow, I've to now move on and my previous ex (before this one) has moved to my office and is happily marrie
I’m traditional and want the same last name as my kids, so I’m going to take my husband’s name (if I ever get around to it)
What are your thoughts on this?
Is it important to you?
Would you hyphenate ?
I was reading this article on wedding wir
Hey there,
Go another anonymous valentine's card this year from the same handwriting as the past. This is now the 4th year of this running. I want to find out who it is who's ending me this. I have a few ideas but at the end of the day I'm still as clu
He guys! Its been forever since I actually posted a topic but I am super excited to have ADULT friends now that I feel like Ive actually reached adulthood lol 😅 I just made some new friends finally in the industry and they are both fire signs!!
I had a L
Just got the link to a hook up place from a male friend whom I haven’t seen forever.
We just hear about each other from mutual friends.
He is married for over 15 years. Seemingly happily.
He tells me he had a date with another man. I am like for busi
My husband I have been separated and estranged for a while. I was kind of talking to a Scorp who was also separated from his wife, but decided to reconcile. I’ve had many guys interested in me, but the ones who are I find out after talking to them to a wh
I wanna know HOW you create and maintain 'connections'
Not talking about how it feels, not talking about flicking someone a text or liking pics on IG
I want to know WHAT you do to CREATE or SUSTAIN an emotional and meaningful relationship with someo
Or just attraction and friendship and intimacy are enough? Let's talk about it.
So last weekend, after 5 months of being broken up and lots of mixed signals on his end, I finally grew the balls to ask my ex that I work with to meet me and talk. I let him know initially this talk wasn't intended to pressure him, just clear the air bet
So my Pisces sun Cap moon S/O confessed to me today about the status of our relationship of 5 months.
Her: I mean you haven't changed at all since I met you and it scares me because there's no stability
Me: How so? I mean I'm gonna be rude here, you n
Me and my husband have been married only two months now and I have been having some doubts regarding our future together and wonder if I'll be happy in the long-term. Before we got married me and my husband dated for four months. Now that I look back I th
Ok, that’s it, it frustrates me soo many girls out there are to chicken shit to admit they want a relationship with a guy when they really do. Time to put your big panties on ladies and just fucking admit it, to your love interest, to your friends and mos
I am now heartbroken.
SO now I am questioning whether the guy I loved was right for me after all, seeing as he spent nearly 3yrs waiting for me x
I've basically lost both men. My husband and my lover.
I have become fucked up by it all. Because I never a decision as to what I wanted or who I wanted.
My husband made me unhappy and sad, the other guy made me happy but I wasn't sure I could trust him.
So YES as most people are saying here, I should have loved myself and my child and dine what I knew in my heart was right.
DIVORCE. Get my own place with my child. And heal myself and become strong l.
I can still do this now. BUT now I am dependant on my husband selling our hoy8before I can leave.
I am STILL under his control.