Help a fellow sag - am I just scared?

Dear all,

HELP! please!

All my life i wanted a serious committed relationship. I am attracted to dependable men and thank heavens they are to me.
However...... once I realize they are developing real feelings for me, I panic. I especially shut down when I feel my emotions too. I get overwhelmed.
I'm 32. Been without a serous relationship for the last 2 years (no sex).
This guy I am seeing - he's great! He texts me good morning/night all the time, shares stuff, asks and listens, i am very attracted to him. Veeeery smart, keeps his word, he plans dates ahead, and makes it on time even though he has crazy working hours. He's not showing signs of jelousy or that he is controlling - bless him for that!
He's not model type, he's tall, big (not fat, a bit chubby), gentle and passionate at the same time.

Last night we made out a bit more 🙂 nothing below the belt. I take things SLOW. It felt right, wonderful, i had warm feeling around my heart.
But this morning.... panic attack... I kept thinking - this is going great, I can picture us together .... but wait? do i want to stay with him forever? for a few months? He's not picture perfect, he's a bit sloppy..... oh.... i don't even want to write my thoughts. I started questioning weather I really like him or am I just being lonely....
The thing is, I don't fall for people easily, and they really have to have something special so they can keep my attention. This guy has been keeping my attention for over 3 weeks and that is super rare.
This panicking - it happened in my previous longterm relationship about this time, it lasted for weeks! I hated it!
Please give me some advice how to chill 🙂 Or is this a sign to leave?
My placements: Sag sun/Aries asc/Pisces moon/Cap venus/Aqua mars/Cap mercury.

I get like that. It happens very early on and i think its cause by the uranus in my chart. I like to run when i get to close to people. So i just have to take my time and realize that this person is not trying to put me in jail and i wont lose my independence. Its okay.

I was like this when I was younger...before I met my Libra. I think it helped that we started out as friends...and my feelings for him snuck up on me (by the time I realized it, I had no other choice but to accept it)

You just haven't met the right person. You will.

It will feel totally natural and comfortable...you'll see how different it is then.

Thanks guys 🙂

The thing is - i do feel so comfortable around him, i feel like we've met before... so familiar. I feel warmth all around....

The last serious relationship was with an Aqua but he was so possessive, and just suffocated me with stories of urgently forming a family, sticking together forever even if in few years time we discover we are not meant to be, he bent the was he's mom and dad played..... he was a boy at age of 30. And he started to panic, told me that even though i look younger my time is ticking, that i should cut back on exercise because i will get too pretty..... this started to show 1 year into the relationship. A year later I was done. DONE.

I have to battle with myself. I don't care about money, I want to provide for myself and others, although this guy has money, a job, working habits....That's not an issue.

The issue is me, my insecurities, and inexperience - i suppose i freaked out what he can do with his mouth (tongue) and how i loved it 🙂

He told me honestly: he likes me, the innocence in me, the child in me, the way i radiate sweetness itself..... i just melted.
I need to talk to myself 😉

So there was a man who would marry you and have babies with you. And you found him freakily obsessive. I understand it. I had also always a reason when I quitted.

Now you're back to business. Happy circle round.

Posted by shysaggirl
Thanks guys 🙂

The thing is - i do feel so comfortable around him, i feel like we've met before... so familiar. I feel warmth all around....

The last serious relationship was with an Aqua but he was so possessive, and just suffocated me with stories of urgently forming a family, sticking together forever even if in few years time we discover we are not meant to be, he bent the was he's mom and dad played..... he was a boy at age of 30. And he started to panic, told me that even though i look younger my time is ticking, that i should cut back on exercise because i will get too pretty..... this started to show 1 year into the relationship. A year later I was done. DONE.

I have to battle with myself. I don't care about money, I want to provide for myself and others, although this guy has money, a job, working habits....That's not an issue.

The issue is me, my insecurities, and inexperience - i suppose i freaked out what he can do with his mouth (tongue) and how i loved it 🙂

He told me honestly: he likes me, the innocence in me, the child in me, the way i radiate sweetness itself..... i just melted.
I need to talk to myself 😉

i feel ya. I am also a venus in cap. i am every inexperienced when it comes to dating. im learning now what others have learned in there teens and 20s.

Posted by DwellingOnMove
So there was a man who would marry you and have babies with you. And you found him freakily obsessive. I understand it. I had also always a reason when I quitted.

Now you're back to business. Happy circle round.

LOL, Sag life.

UPDATE: i should have written this last week but never had the time....

So, I suppose this Libra man with lot's of Scorpio is just not for me. We went out on a date, started talking..... it turns out he has some interesting ideas about sex - which i did not like at all!



So we ended it.

😉

Posted by shysaggirl
UPDATE: i should have written this last week but never had the time....

So, I suppose this Libra man with lot's of Scorpio is just not for me. We went out on a date, started talking..... it turns out he has some interesting ideas about sex - which i did not like at all!



So we ended it.

😉

We need to switch guys!

Endulge me, what did he say.

Posted by DMV
Endulge me, what did he say.

when we made out he .... sometimes he would grab me and i didn't like that because he was to rough and i reacted like ICE COLD when he expected fire. So he was like: ALL the girls like that! And I was - I like what i like and if you can't ask me or figure out yourself or even let me show you that you are the problem.
And then he said: well, you know, i like to be dominant all the time, and don't like when girl gives me hints - i do what i do, and she likes that - except you. And I never used a condom, but if you insist i will do that for you. I do not like it, but .... and had that face on like i will change my mind someday.

I just flipped - I will always use a condom - i want to be healthy and not catch chlamydia or something (he's an idiot!) because he never was tested but he KNOWS he's ok... wtf?

And he said he ALWAYS start sex with oral sex. And hinted i will GROW to like it— like WTF!—

I do not prefer that.... especially with a new guy and especially when he puts it like that

ALL just felt WRONG! I can not describe you the conversation in details, but just felt wrong - my stomach was saying RUN RUN RUN

It probably seems silly to you all, but from my perspective: it was all wrong.

He did not even try to find out my preferences he just wanted to fulfill his. that is just not for me.

Maybe i am a prude (i believe that is the right word) and have a lot of demands (like protection) but - hey, i had relationships before and that was never an issue, so it's not like i ask for something impossible 😉

The guy sounds irresponsible as hell.

Good riddance.

Aside from the condom, he sounds like my cup of tea. Mars in virgo likeeeeee

but if thats not your cup of tea, I get that 2. I couldnt deal with someone who didnt like sex or was into what I deem vanilla sex.

he can be all experienced he wants.... i just got the feeling he likes what he likes and that's it.

i do not like to be treated like an idiot. he would grab me instead of caress, or the other way around.
like the timing was off.

and no, i can not enjoy making out nor sex knowing he couldn't care less if i like it or not because all the others loved his moves... that is not experience to me.

As for the oral etc. - some people like this some people like that, i do not judge or like to be judged. And yes, i said at the beginning-i haven't got his experience in terms of men i've been and experiment, and he knew that.

But we agreed to call it quits 😉 i hope he finds someone for him soon, or maybe he already did 😉

i myself have been getting to know a fellow sag 😉 he seems to loooooooooooooooveeeeeeeeeee the "weird" stuff i like and do 😄 he's a bit clingy though... but you can't have it all 😉

well done.