Sag woman not interested or playing hard to get? (Page 2)

Posted by nats

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Posted by Wizardz_

The problem with this approach by the Sag is that it's putting the Gem on the spot, essentially asking "what do you want?" which is the most difficult question on Earth. We like to get into relationships whilst pretending we're not and that involves us moving closer to you not you pushing towards us

It's like that game "What's the time Mr.Wolf?" 🤣 We like to tiptoe closer and then freeze when the wolf looks round and then run away when the wolf chases us

I understand this concept because of the situation I was in with the Gem and saying we are friends but showing me different actions (ie like we are an item )

And what happened with your situation in the end?

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Well, after months of pushing and pulling of her telling me we are just friends we did become closer when I wasn't giving a shit about her saying (friends) and I even started to treat her like a friend but she use to go mad at me for not doing the same things I would do when we had the title of being in a relationship.

I become fed up of hearing the bullshit friends from her and she wasn't taking me seriously so I have decided I'm worth more than that and I wanted to be treated with respect so she called me and I told her I wanted a relationship with her and asked if she's made a decision and she told me it's still the same so I told her I don't want a friendship I want her as my partner and hung up.

She text me later saying she needs to delete my number as she'll be to tempted to call or text me in the future and that she wishes me the best and hoped we could meet up in the future.

Got an update on this Sag. We've been intermittently chatting here and there. Not too much. I took advice from Saggurl who said keep in touch with her. Anyway we were messaging last night via snapchat. Got a bit flirty, we agreed we needed to go out and party together and I said maybe that wasn't a good idea because I'd might make a pass on her. Then she said if I did she'd push me onto someone else and then she changed her mind and said in regard to me grabbing her a** "why not - i'd let you". Anyway so then we spoke a bit more and went to sleep - all fun and games really. Then she sent me something early this morning and she was leaving this morning at 1130am for the weekend getaway I cancelled on because its a getaway with mutual friends of my ex so we decided not to go to which she said it was a shame I wasn't coming.

So I ended up heading to the beach with a friend this morning. This Sag lives 6mins from the beach we were at. I text her "I want to see you before you leave but you might not have time." Anyway she told me she can come to me, asked which beach and that she'd come for a quick 5min hi and bye and would have to leave. She ended up coming, we hung out for like 10mins in her car just talking, bantering, cracking jokes etc. I wasn't sure she was actually going to end up coming to meet me but I was happy she did. Her and I have this thing we call our "cone of silence" where we've agreed all our conversations and interactions are to be kept between us only because of our mutual friends and my ex being in the same social circle so after she left I messaged her saying "Remember our cone of silence" and she replied with laughing faces and "Are you getting nervous babe?" to which I replied "Nah. But people talk sh*t and get the wrong idea about things". She hasn't opened it yet she's been driving and assume is busy at the holiday house.

Her and I have this thing where we flirt but then we say we're just being/or just will be friends and nothing more etc but then one of us will flirt.. not sure it will actually move forward or go anywhere but its fun for now. I am not 100% sure she's actually interested in me though. I told her I wouldn't sleep with her and just leave and she asked if its because she's a keeper and I told her 150% . She is a keeper and I've got too much respect for her to just hit it and quit it. But yeah I suppose only time will tell. I am not her type but who knows, my charming ways might capture her lol

Keep going but raise the stakes a bit.

You’re doing the right thing but inserting yourself into her life

Posted by DMV

Keep going but raise the stakes a bit.

You’re doing the right thing but inserting yourself into her life

Appreciate the response. What do you mean by raise the stakes? What does that entail? Lol

And yes not putting pressure on her to meet up. Just whenever she's around I try and catch her for a few mins because I know she's always busy doing something

Ask her out! Sheesh

Your cone of silence game is cute. It has a taboo style to it that seems fun.

Who keeps bringing up just being friends. You mention “we” -is it you or her?

She seems to be green lighting you all the way.

You seem to take one step forward and two steps back, based on how you write.

Why do you think you aren’t her type?

She told you you could grab her ass, she met up with you last minute, she’s calling you pet names.

You are the one saying people might get the wrong idea 🧐🤨

Is your ex her best friend? What’s her relationship to your ex and the friend group?

Posted by Wizardz_

Posted by geminiflyby

@Wizardz_ " We like to get into relationships whilst pretending we're not and that involves us moving closer to you not you pushing towards us."

Haha! Word! The worst thing you can do is say, what are we? Because the answer could be wood nymphs.

Edited to add: and how does this dynamic work when there are TWO Gemini's involved?? 👀

Then you both agree to be wood nymphs and go and live in the enchanted forest where you help the woodland creatures in their battle against the evil snow queen who wants to destroy the forest and turn it into a frozen wasteland where nothing will ever grow...

That's usually what happens 🤷‍♂️

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How did I miss this post? Haha! because that's EXACTLY what happened.

Posted by nats

Her and I have this thing where we flirt but then we say we're just being/or just will be friends and nothing more etc but then one of us will flirt.. not sure it will actually move forward or go anywhere but its fun for now. I am not 100% sure she's actually interested in me though. I told her I wouldn't sleep with her and just leave and she asked if its because she's a keeper and I told her 150% . She is a keeper and I've got too much respect for her to just hit it and quit it. But yeah I suppose only time will tell. I am not her type but who knows, my charming ways might capture her lol

If anyone can flirt their way thru a problem, it's a Gem. I think you can do it!

But they make fantastic friends!

Posted by nats

Got an update on this Sag. We've been intermittently chatting here and there. Not too much. I took advice from Saggurl who said keep in touch with her. Anyway we were messaging last night via snapchat. Got a bit flirty, we agreed we needed to go out and party together and I said maybe that wasn't a good idea because I'd might make a pass on her. Then she said if I did she'd push me onto someone else and then she changed her mind and said in regard to me grabbing her a** "why not - i'd let you". Anyway so then we spoke a bit more and went to sleep - all fun and games really. Then she sent me something early this morning and she was leaving this morning at 1130am for the weekend getaway I cancelled on because its a getaway with mutual friends of my ex so we decided not to go to which she said it was a shame I wasn't coming.

So I ended up heading to the beach with a friend this morning. This Sag lives 6mins from the beach we were at. I text her "I want to see you before you leave but you might not have time." Anyway she told me she can come to me, asked which beach and that she'd come for a quick 5min hi and bye and would have to leave. She ended up coming, we hung out for like 10mins in her car just talking, bantering, cracking jokes etc. I wasn't sure she was actually going to end up coming to meet me but I was happy she did. Her and I have this thing we call our "cone of silence" where we've agreed all our conversations and interactions are to be kept between us only because of our mutual friends and my ex being in the same social circle so after she left I messaged her saying "Remember our cone of silence" and she replied with laughing faces and "Are you getting nervous babe?" to which I replied "Nah. But people talk sh*t and get the wrong idea about things". She hasn't opened it yet she's been driving and assume is busy at the holiday house.

Jesus, this is way too much talking for an Air and Fire sign. And y'all say Water signs move slow.....

Posted by DMV

Ask her out! Sheesh

Lol...smh

Posted by Wizardz_

Posted by nats

Posted by DMV

Keep going but raise the stakes a bit.

You’re doing the right thing but inserting yourself into her life

Appreciate the response. What do you mean by raise the stakes? What does that entail? Lol

And yes not putting pressure on her to meet up. Just whenever she's around I try and catch her for a few mins because I know she's always busy doing something

Sags are too straightforward for us Gems. There's not enough magic or something. They don't get that we live a bit in fantasy world - they are all too much about reality and it is a bit boring for us

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Someone has to be straightforward and tell you what to do! 😆

Look at this guy, fumbling the ball left and right. She's straight forward with words but the gem still has to actually make the moves or she will probably get bored too.

@Wizardz_

I'm curious to know what sign actually works with your chart- Seems like cancer placements really make decisions even worse on a Gemini, because of all the side stepping.

Both you and gemfly with Cancer moons like Sag as just friends, so what sign works well with your chart?

Lol why do you always friendzone yourself?

@Wizardz_ - You need a Pisces sun / Gem moon

@Wizardz_ - @saggurl88 wants to know why we (you) don't date Saggi's.

It's strange because I don't rule them out, but they just haven't been around.........? Most times when I approach someone, they are a Scorp. We are just drawn to the energy that attracts us I guess.

Posted by geminiflyby

@Wizardz_ - @saggurl88 wants to know why we (you) don't date Saggi's.

It's strange because I don't rule them out, but they just haven't been around.........? Most times when I approach someone, they are a Scorp. We are just drawn to the energy that attracts us I guess.

I wasn't asking about our sign. I wanted to know what does work lol The Cancer placements seem to make you guys even more unsure, so I was wondering what actually worked for you.

Posted by Wizardz_

Posted by saggurl88

@Wizardz_

I'm curious to know what sign actually works with your chart- Seems like cancer placements really make decisions even worse on a Gemini, because of all the side stepping.

Both you and gemfly with Cancer moons like Sag as just friends, so what sign works well with your chart?

None of you

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lol Maybe the women aren't the problem then 😛

C'mon @Wizardz_ it's back to the magic forest for us!

Posted by geminiflyby

C'mon @Wizardz_ it's back to the magic forest for us!

Posted by Wizardz_

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Posted by Wizardz_

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@Wizardz_

I'm curious to know what sign actually works with your chart- Seems like cancer placements really make decisions even worse on a Gemini, because of all the side stepping.

Both you and gemfly with Cancer moons like Sag as just friends, so what sign works well with your chart?

None of you

lol Maybe the women aren't the problem then 😛

How's old man Leo?

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LMAO. Same

He has a Cancer Venus/ Cancer Mars too lol

Cancer placements are a headache for me too. There's a reason why 2 cancers aren't usually together. We really need someone to move things along, otherwise things happen at a snails pace.

Posted by geminiflyby

Love this 😍

Lol I friendzone myself when I am unsure of what I want but also kind of to protect myself because when I like someone I can be intense and come on strong so try to calm it down a little.

So she replied saying "Its okay. I'll do a speech on Saturday night and include it". And now I don't know what to respond so I haven't. She's being a smart ass. Might jusr hit her with "Why not actually. Tell the world I want you to be mine" something like that? Thoughts? Lol but I'm worried she'll actually do it l!

So one of my ex's group of friends are all away this weekend for one of their bdays and Sag is part of that group of friends which is how I originally met Sag. My ex and I are friends still and we decided not to attend this weekend because no one officially knows were over yet except 2 people inc Sag. Telling people we broke up would just cause a scene and we just wanted to do it slowly.

And as for the type, we've discussed our type initially. She likes buff big guys. Im not small but also not the type of big she goes after. So yeah I am saying that purely on physicality.

It's pretty clear what she wants- you should figure out what you want. 🙂

BOLD moves, @nats. "Might jusr hit her with "Why not actually. Tell the world I want you to be mine" - do it!

Posted by saggurl88

It's pretty clear what she wants- you should figure out what you want. 🙂

Not super clear when its been me chasing her this whole time etc. But stuff it. I'll go for gold and just chase. See what happens.

Posted by geminiflyby

BOLD moves, @nats. "Might jusr hit her with "Why not actually. Tell the world I want you to be mine" - do it!

Done. Sent lol

Posted by Wizardz_

Don't bother with Sags - they are not good for Gems

Probably not but it seems fun for now so why not..plus if anything I truly feel her and I could be good friends. She's really low key and fun. Type of friend to kick it with with the boys

But she's also very sexy, very attractive and I want her so I'm stuck. I want both her and Virgo. Just keeping it open and seeing which one I want more.

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Posted by saggurl88

It's pretty clear what she wants- you should figure out what you want. 🙂

Not super clear when its been me chasing her this whole time etc. But stuff it. I'll go for gold and just chase. See what happens.

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Well you say that but she's put herself out there and got rejected plenty of times. I'm not sure what chasing means to you lol

But if she starts to pull away and not respond again, it could just be to there being a stalemate on things progressing.

She can move fast, if you move fast. I think most Sag are fine with intensity- Geminis are our opposite. Different sides of one coin, just be yourself.

Usually sags are very nonjudgmental and will accept the person as they are. They have a sit back and see approach- to let you be yourself. Don't be nervous to be too full on, we don't wear our hearts on our sleeves, but we do appreciate the show of effort and can reciprocate when we like a person.

She seems to already like you.

I wouldn't worry too much about the title- I don't think it needs to be brought up about only being friends. We usually can go with the flow pretty easily, and if it does come up, then you can just let her know you're taking it day by day.

It's pretty chill all around. As she gets to like you more and more, she will want to see you more and more, just like a typical relationship- but without the relationship talk upfront.

I think our sign is just as non committal as yours when nothing is talked about, we are just glad to be in the presence of the person we like.

I think constantly bringing up we are friends and nothing more is going to be more confusing because it closes too many doors.

Posted by Wizardz_

Don't bother with Sags - they are not good for Gems

You sure are in a mood today. Here! Hope you feel better.

You can go full-on direct with Sags. I think they appreciate it....if receptive. If not, you'll know. Either way, you'll know!

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Posted by nats

But she's also very sexy, very attractive and I want her so I'm stuck. I want both her and Virgo. Just keeping it open and seeing which one I want more.

Go with the Virgo, they are submissive and love to please you in bed. Sags just lie there

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😂😂

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Posted by saggurl88

It's pretty clear what she wants- you should figure out what you want. 🙂

Not super clear when its been me chasing her this whole time etc. But stuff it. I'll go for gold and just chase. See what happens.

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She definitely chased you and you hid behind a tree

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Posted by saggurl88

It's pretty clear what she wants- you should figure out what you want. 🙂

Not super clear when its been me chasing her this whole time etc. But stuff it. I'll go for gold and just chase. See what happens.

She definitely chased you and you hid behind a tree

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Her responding to me and carrying on conversation and sending me a half sexy snapchat isn't what I call chasing. But let's see how it all unfolds. I'll take your advice and ask her out properly. It's her actual birthday on 4/12 so will drop her a text and tell her that when she's back I want to take her out to celebrate her.