This dam(n) Cap - new update

Ok. I took her meds over to her place because of the flu. of course not wanting to get infected I just say here and left. Brought her a immune boosting smoothie, pho, and cold meds pack (theraflu, cough drops, vick vaper rub).... easily a good 50 bucks of stuff.

I think yeah... I'm in there/good friend.

she just texts me... hey I wanted you to be one of first to know, I'm moving at the end of January. I want to spend these next few weeks with you and my friends and jan 16th is going to probably be a combined birthday/going away party.



Now she's definitely friend zoned. kind of wished she told me earlier. so all of you that told me to wait and be patient...and blah blah blah... this is why men don't do this courting crap.

yeah she's a "friend" or whatever you want to call her. It's a loss for me!

DAM(N) you mercury Retrograde

This is how it feels when you do something expecting a return. A word of advice? Don’t put your expectations off on others. It’s impolite. Also, for future reference, Earth signs respond to a certain degree of selflessness. It shows heart and character.

Saggy oh Saggy Saggy Saggy. I'm sorry to hear, but buying meds and stuff for someone doesn't mean they owe you a roll in the sack. LOLLL. If she weren't leaving I would bet that you two would end up together at some point though. I did. With some guy who brought me meds and did the nice friendly stuff for a bit. Again, sorry to hear.

What do you mean should’ve let you know. She literally said you’re the first to know...

I didn’t do it for her to have sex with me.... she’s sick!

@shadowcat that hurts

I don’t care if she cares about me! I don’t date to be buddies.

She got free meals and didn’t have to put out 🤷🏾‍♂️

We could have hung out doing free stuff



Plus I see how well she plans... she knew she was leaving before we started talking probably.

Posted by stillstillwater
What do you mean should’ve let you know. She literally said you’re the first to know...

No, she should have when we started spending so much time together. No intentions on being more than friends than we shouldn’t be dating.

Posted by hellosaggy

Posted by stillstillwater
What do you mean should’ve let you know. She literally said you’re the first to know...

No, she should have when we started spending so much time together. No intentions on being more than friends than we shouldn’t be dating.

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How do you know she knew about moving at that time if she wasn’t sure about it ?

Need-to-know basis ...

Like a guy I’m dating I’m not going to tell him everything especially uncertainties because you’re just dating.

Who knows you might still get some good buy loving.

Aww you are so sweet!!

well I am sorry Saggy, that could be the reason she didn't go all the way - it would have been better if she had told you that, it seems a bit selfish of her because she knows what you want

but you did all the right things and you were very sweet - you still have a friend I'm sure even if you both did want more

Posted by hellosaggy
I didn’t do it for her to have sex with me.... she’s sick!

@shadowcat that hurts

I don’t care if she cares about me! I don’t date to be buddies.

She got free meals and didn’t have to put out 🤷🏾‍♂️

We could have hung out doing free stuff



Plus I see how well she plans... she knew she was leaving before we started talking probably.

Wow! This is why I don't go on dates or let a guy pay for anything of mine. I could be wrong, but it seems only us Cappies are treated this way?! "she got free meals and didn't have to put out."

I'd think I'd be worth at least a good 15 free meals before the thought of sex would even cross my mind. Its interesting guys don't think the same way smh lol.

Anyway, I have Cap friends and we are an "all over the place" bunch, or maybe its just us Dec Cappies. Although you mentioned shed been thinking about moving, it still seems very soon.

I didn’t expect her/anybody to put out on any date. It’s the fact that we kept dating regularly and with her free time and we always got some what physical then she would stop. So I kept thinking... next time... next time.. then she does all this effort to give me a party on my birthday... then goes into this little diatribe about good things coming to those who wait... it’s not waiting seems like she was holding back.

If that’s the case. Why come into my world of nice dinners and fun and you don’t want to be there because you had plans on leaving.

She said she didn’t want to waste my time on a relationship.... but she did. I stopped dealing with a few people to date her.... and I shouldn’t have. I honestly could have had same fun with quite a few different people. She’s a nice woman. And all the frustrations she put me through pursuing her were for nothing. I could have been her friend and kept my flings 🤷🏾‍♂️