Sex on first date? How long should you wait?

OK, Scorpios, be honest. What do you think of a girl who gives it to you on the first date? Are you going to be interested in a long term relationship with her?
What about women who wait too long to go to bed with you?

*visuals of Maury: "Whose my Baby's Daddy"*

I agree with FA. You here it time and time again during an argument or something. "You gave it up on the first night." They'll rub it in your face whether they liked it or not.


How is the dirty professor lotus??

The dirty professor? We will see each other again in May. Let's see if time will allow him to keep his dick down when he sees me in May. We will both be at a conference and it would be embarassing if I have to sit next to him and the dick goes up again. I actually agree with some of my guy friends.....the man must not be very experienced with women.

Anyway, back to the original question.

I'd manipulate him personally...but thats just me. Nothing too bad...all in good fun 🙂

How would you manipulate him? He's not dumb at all, you know.

We all have our weak points and obviously pussy is his.

Noo, im not as bad as I want to be. I wouldnt do anything serious, just have a little fun at his expense...mainly a good laugh.

I like playing with older guys.

How do you manipulate an arch manipulator? Do you throw yourself at him? Take him by surprise?

That's been going on for a long time. It is time to give kitty up......🙂🙂

"u plant sexual seeds in his head and dont deliver"

Dude...

Dude...

I think you might be too kinky for DXP, if that's possible.

"lol I didnt know what stage this was all at


regroup"

Whatever stage it was, a woman putting "sexual seeds" in a man's head is real kinky-like.

Indeed FuckinA. It's time to give kitty up......


Seriously though, what's up with him getting aroused and then going to the bathroom? Is he finishing himself off, cleaning himself up (premature ejaculation?) or both? Men, what's going on?

You want to give it so go ahead and give it. He doesnt seem like he'll last very long though 🙂

He sounds old. Perhaps he has some problems with his bladder?

The curiosity is killing me.......

I think you turned Yum on, congrats Taurus/Aries.

*applause*

Why has this thread gone off topic again. Well, anyway, since you insist.......

When I sit next to him, his body shakes and he breathes heavily. He excuses himself to go to the john, has trouble walking normally toward the john because of erection, comes back and can go on with the discussion normally. Before you all tell me that this is bad and what have you, please do let me figure out what it is he has. I am not a man so can't discern a male's sexual responses (apart from the obvious).

Keep in mind that I have rejected this guy a few times......

This is reminding me of 'The Other Boleyn Sister' that I watched last night...it diddnt end so well for the seed planter though 🙂

But then again...a man with power should be toyed with, with caution....

OK, back to the original question before Roxi gives me a beating.🙂

Are you posing the question in regards to the Professor?

>if guy cant relax sitting next to you, its a sure premature

>rhymin and stealin

So it's cleanup time at the john? What should do to make him relax? Jump him right away?

No, Lady_M, the original question of this thread......don't pretend you don't know you little bubble blower you.....🙂

And yes, I agree that men with power are intoxicating. And this guy is tops in his field and veery well known.....and never married.

Do you even like the professor?


AND I was talking about the original question before.

Yes, I love the prof......this is why I keep insisting on this thing getting off the ground (ooops, Freudian slip🙂)

I like your style taurus/aries.


As for the professor, does he have any power over you in regards to your grades, career, etc lotus?

No power over me in terms of grades and such. And there are no rules against prof/student relationships in his country (in Europe)

Does it matter at this point when you sleep with him. This has been going on for awhile.

No it doesn't. The question is, what is the best approach. I don't want him going to the john again and finishing the the thing himself....

Be blunt.


btb, this is terribly cliche...yet so entertaining. 🙂

Yes, taurus/aries, power is an aphrodisiac. That's why someone like me who has it all is willing to overlook this guy's problem......unless it gets to be too much......

Everyone finds it entertaining. I would too if I wasn't involved in the situation. I do feel bad though because I see him struggling like that in public.....so I can't jump him in public......

First off you need to be alone together.

I simply don't understand why you are using the word 'love' in this context, Lotus. Is there a whole other emotional side to this which you're not discussing cos you're so obsessed with having the power to make a guy need to rush to the toilet? (I read all this on another thread so why it's all being said again, I'm not sure).

I really doubt whether you care enough for his feelings to be good in bed for HIM. It doesn't sound as though he'll be what you're after, either. You have now spent months - years?- training him to have the sexual response to you that he comes quickly and then it's over. Way to go!

I can just see him now, talking to his one trusted friend about all this - or maybe even posting on an Internet forum, exposing your behaviour, as you are doing.

Him: "Yes, this young woman is a prick-tease alright."
Friend: "Don't even go there. Next thing she'll be shouting Rape."

Okay, I'm strong Virgo, sue me... 😉

Sooo.... to get back on topic, very intereseting comments above. Does that mean that if a guy has feelings for a woman - possibly even discovers that he has after they sleep together - and returns for more, that's a 'good' sign? Cos personally I have seen a lot of men go what you might call the 'Prolonged Booty Call'.

Come on guys, don't some of you just settle for a girl who puts it out, whilst making a good job of looking like there are feelings? (Yes, 'guys' of both sexes, let's be fair here!)

***a girl who gives it to you on the first date? Are you going to be interested in a long term relationship with her?***

If you do or don't it can go either way. I think it is up to you. If the YOU want to then, do it. If you want to make him wait then make him wait. I have done both and never have I had it thrown in my face. Probably because he was so thankful!!! LOL!!
On the other hand. I have not contacted a person or two again or answered their call if it wasn't satisfying wether I had them wait or not. I know, I sound like a man huh?

***Furthermore, if at any point she cheats on him or they have a fight, he'll chalk it up to and use the fact that she slept with him on the first date, so what could he expect from her kind of mentality later on against her. ***

There is nothing to expect. It got hot and heavy and they had sex on a first date. Simple.

However, I agree that subconciously this stigma might remain planted in both sexes head.

Ladies, tell me if you have done this, well the ones who might have slept with someone on the first date once or twice. Me, uhhh about twice I have done that however, these were guys I didn't see as future partners, guys I was just kicking with so to speak, during my "not wanting a commited relationship era". However, if there is a guy who you might think there is a chance of a future with do you wait. I guess I admit that I do, atleast to the third date. If we can. LOL!!! So yeah. It all depends on the situation.

Sex on the first date?

Never

How long should you wait?

For me, it depends on these factors:

1. How long have you known each other (even casually) before the first official date?
2. Was there mutual & undeniable "chemistry" during the date?

My Scorp & I had sex on our second official date, but I'd known her for many months before that (we work in the same building). LibraEX and I didn't hit the sheets until after almost six months (but it was worth the wait!!).

If the two conditions are met, I wouldn't think the woman is a slut. I did, however, fret some on DXP because I thought Debra might be trying to "hook me" with sex. I don't like being played... though, I do enjoy being played with!!

Anywho, it just depends...

cappysweetie,

Never say NEVER... some times it pays to take a chance (OK, a Virgo Calculated Risk!)...

If you have to "think" it .. then the chemistry isn't there.

To come in here to anaylze about proper timing .. means it would just be a sexual 'act'.