Should I be mad?

My closest work friend is a Scorp

We often take lunch together, gossip, vent, talk personal shit, etc

Friday while I was out sick, our boss called a meeting and made a major announcement about one of our execs retiring and one of my other co-workers who recently took on a management role was taking her spot and how all of our roles/responsibilities will be changing.

So the Scorp texted me to see how I was feeling and was like “btw we had this meeting while you were out and this is happening, so it sounds like your job is secure should you have ever wondered”

I asked if everyone knew this - she said yes she assumed so since our boss never said “don’t repeat this.”

So when texting with another coworker I mentioned I just heard the news about K retiring and lo and fuckin behold it wasn’t common knowledge yet. It gets around the whole damn company. Scorp gets scolded by our boss…then in an attempt to defend herself apparently she shows our boss the text she sent me and our boss asks “why did you tell her not to worry about her job? Has Bri said she is worried about her job?”

AT ANY POINT SHE COULD HAVE SAID NO

But of course this bitch has verbal diarrhea

Tells our boss I have expressed that I feel unvalued, that my opinion isn’t respected… tells her I’m worried that she really doesn’t need me…tells her I don’t really have to work, I could stay home with my kids, but I want to work blah blah blah

So I spent an hour and half in my boss’s office this morning discussing my “feelings”

I felt like a child…which is literally my biggest issue with my ageist boss and others in the firm…and what pisses me off the most is the Scorp knows this!!

Why? On one hand I feel she had nothing but good intentions and she thinks she was looking out for me by taking an opportunity to bring up issues that she thought I should talk with our boss about but wouldn’t because everyone knows I don’t like to complain or feel like a TT

On the other hand, I’m like did this bitch really just throw me under the bus to take the attention off her misstep ?

Should I be mad?

The worst part is I can’t tell her anything anymore and I really enjoyed gossiping and talking shit about everyone with her. She’s really good at it. Pure talent

Posted by stardustmop

What are her other placements because Jesus Christ. I would never think a Scorpio to do this. Yes, I would be pissed.

I only remember she was either a Taurus or Gem moon depending on birth time which I don’t know. Can’t remember the rest

I’m going with Gem moon 😅

Hate to throw them under the bus like that buttttt

"On the other hand, I’m like did this bitch really just throw me under the bus to take the attention off her misstep"

Fuck yeah she did. Damn!

Posted by The_Spirit_of_Alex_Trebek

I have no helpful advice.. Thats a hilarious story though! She scrambling like bull in a China shop

She called to tell me afterwards too. As soon as she started telling me how she showed her the text I just knew where this was headed…and she’s like “I know, but listen, I had to. Please know it was not ill intended” 🙄 I said just tell me everything you said, I need to know what I’m walking into… and more and more kept coming out like she really didn’t need to say all that.

Now I get the sense from her she thinks she did me some huge favor, like “look aren’t you glad I said something? It was good thing” like she’s responsible for my raise - which I was getting either way!!! Unbelievable

I didn’t even finish reading to conclude that she 100% spilled the beans. Ya, you should be mad. You don’t talk about someone and their not there to defend theyself. That wasn’t yo boss’ business. A cancer would never. Part of me envisioned being her and actually trynna steer the conversation away from talking about you.. Cuz that’s what I would have did

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I have no helpful advice.. Thats a hilarious story though! She scrambling like bull in a China shop

That’s funny “scrambling like a bull in a China shop” 😂😂

Posted by MareInfame

I had to go to HR and tell them my story. Then HR had the Aries come in so that I could tell him and he could apologize, he did - and then he later called me into his office and he started CRYING!!!! It was all so melodramatic🙄… and just awkward and NOT MY THING.

😂😂😂😂

Shouldn’t you be mad at your boss for asking your friend your deep secrets? Pretty unprofessional behaviour from a superior.

She wasn’t going to lie to your boss.

Based on what was stated above - sounds like she threw you under the bus - out of fear (sounds like she panicked and her survival instincts kicked in - focusing mainly on self-preservation). More common among children, but there's also peps of adult of age - who freakout in same way - if a negative spotlight takes them by surprise (especially if charged with some wrong doing - where outcome feels threatening in the heat of the moment - so much that they panic). Even you seem to acknowledge - that it wasn't a premeditated act (or that she did that for the sake of hurting you and such).

Being mad about it (or not) - is obliviously not a choice (has more to do with whom you are - but most people - usually - do get mad about stuff like that). So hey, i guess it's up to you - whether you have what it takes to get over it - and how you feel about having a coward friend (who brakes easily under pressure).

You said you enjoy gossiping with her. So it’s no surprise she gossiped about you to your boss.

Why was she showing the text to your boss she sent to you?

....and this is really shitty behaviour 😐

I really wouldn’t trust her

“Tells our boss I have expressed that I feel unvalued, that my opinion isn’t respected… tells her I’m worried that she really doesn’t need me…tells her I don’t really have to work, I could stay home with my kids, but I want to work blah blah blah”

I know people aren't allowed to take sick leaves in the US without being worried about losing their job, so you should be...



Also scorpios:



Don't ask why they do it, they don't know themselves

Yeah I think you are 100% justified in being mad. Even if you did tell her all of the above you didn't tell her she was free to share these things with your employer as your mouthpiece.

She's seriously deranged discussing your personal business and your 'feelings' with your mutual boss.

At best she has zero social awareness and is a huge motormouth, at worst she intentionally shifted the attention and heat off herself and onto you by divulging personal information shared in confidence.

I guess the Scorpio loyalty brush skipped her.

I keep my boss at arms length. Before this pandemic he would invite me to the bar, parties, trips, and I always declined and kept our relationship purely business. I prefer to keep personal stuff personal. Your signing my checks you don't need to see me drunk. No thanks.

It sucks that she broke your trust like this, I know it's very hard to get it back when someone throws you under the bus. I had a Scorpio at my job do something similar to me. I just never trusted him again and knew that I couldn't tell him anything anymore that was important to me. I don't think your coworker was helping at all, she dug herself a hole and fell right into it.

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My closest work friend is a Scorp

We often take lunch together, gossip, vent, talk personal shit, etc

Friday while I was out sick, our boss called a meeting and made a major announcement about one of our execs retiring and one of my other co-workers who recently took on a management role was taking her spot and how all of our roles/responsibilities will be changing.

So the Scorp texted me to see how I was feeling and was like “btw we had this meeting while you were out and this is happening, so it sounds like your job is secure should you have ever wondered”

I asked if everyone knew this - she said yes she assumed so since our boss never said “don’t repeat this.”

So when texting with another coworker I mentioned I just heard the news about K retiring and lo and fuckin behold it wasn’t common knowledge yet. It gets around the whole damn company. Scorp gets scolded by our boss…then in an attempt to defend herself apparently she shows our boss the text she sent me and our boss asks “why did you tell her not to worry about her job? Has Bri said she is worried about her job?”

AT ANY POINT SHE COULD HAVE SAID NO

But of course this bitch has verbal diarrhea

Tells our boss I have expressed that I feel unvalued, that my opinion isn’t respected… tells her I’m worried that she really doesn’t need me…tells her I don’t really have to work, I could stay home with my kids, but I want to work blah blah blah

So I spent an hour and half in my boss’s office this morning discussing my “feelings”

I felt like a child…which is literally my biggest issue with my ageist boss and others in the firm…and what pisses me off the most is the Scorp knows this!!

Why? On one hand I feel she had nothing but good intentions and she thinks she was looking out for me by taking an opportunity to bring up issues that she thought I should talk with our boss about but wouldn’t because everyone knows I don’t like to complain or feel like a TT

On the other hand, I’m like did this bitch really just throw me under the bus to take the attention off her misstep ?

Should I be mad?

I think she just got her revenge for you going around and talking to other people about things you two talk about, I'm sure you didn't mean any harm by bringing that up with another co worker, but I believe she blames you for this, even if it was her fault not informing you it was not official yet.

She obviously lost trust in you once she found out you were talking to other co workers, don't you know scorpios at all?

Even if she didn't throw you under the bus, she still wouldn't trust you anymore.

That's how I see it.

Scorpio mercury here 😅

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Could see that if I didn’t ask her first if it was ok that I repeated it. She said our boss never told her not to repeat it 🤷🏼‍♀️

The coworker I texted about it also works directly under the exec who is retiring so I honestly assumed she would know before the rest of us. I was shocked and felt like a total asshole that she didn’t. Plus I didn’t text her about it to gossip…we had already been texting about something else and I mentioned I just heard the “news”

I would have never said anything if I was given any indication it was a secret

Posted by Truemara

You said you enjoy gossiping with her. So it’s no surprise she gossiped about you to your boss.

We have always been loyal to each other though

8 years and she’s never really repeated a thing I told her until now…at least that I knew of?

I’m like mind blown 🤯

Posted by Gobbie

While the Scorpio's intentions may not have been malicious, I would be concerned that she 'caved in and spilt the beans' when her neck was on the line for her own cock-up.

Instead of dealing with the consequences of her actions gracefully, she dragged you into the situation. I mean, what was the point of showing your boss that text?

Maybe showing your boss the text was meant to have been a form of deflection. Who knows? But, one thing's for sure, you'd be a fool to confide in her ever again.

This. I don’t need any friends who crack so easily under pressure. I’m shocked a Scorpio would have such verbal diarrhea come out….

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Posted by stardustmop

What are her other placements because Jesus Christ. I would never think a Scorpio to do this. Yes, I would be pissed.

I only remember she was either a Taurus or Gem moon depending on birth time which I don’t know. Can’t remember the rest

I’m going with Gem moon 😅

Hate to throw them under the bus like that buttttt

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This gem moon knows when to stfu!!! Lmao

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My closest work friend is a Scorp

We often take lunch together, gossip, vent, talk personal shit, etc

Friday while I was out sick, our boss called a meeting and made a major announcement about one of our execs retiring and one of my other co-workers who recently took on a management role was taking her spot and how all of our roles/responsibilities will be changing.

So the Scorp texted me to see how I was feeling and was like “btw we had this meeting while you were out and this is happening, so it sounds like your job is secure should you have ever wondered”

I asked if everyone knew this - she said yes she assumed so since our boss never said “don’t repeat this.”

So when texting with another coworker I mentioned I just heard the news about K retiring and lo and fuckin behold it wasn’t common knowledge yet. It gets around the whole damn company. Scorp gets scolded by our boss…then in an attempt to defend herself apparently she shows our boss the text she sent me and our boss asks “why did you tell her not to worry about her job? Has Bri said she is worried about her job?”

AT ANY POINT SHE COULD HAVE SAID NO

But of course this bitch has verbal diarrhea

Tells our boss I have expressed that I feel unvalued, that my opinion isn’t respected… tells her I’m worried that she really doesn’t need me…tells her I don’t really have to work, I could stay home with my kids, but I want to work blah blah blah

So I spent an hour and half in my boss’s office this morning discussing my “feelings”

I felt like a child…which is literally my biggest issue with my ageist boss and others in the firm…and what pisses me off the most is the Scorp knows this!!

Why? On one hand I feel she had nothing but good intentions and she thinks she was looking out for me by taking an opportunity to bring up issues that she thought I should talk with our boss about but wouldn’t because everyone knows I don’t like to complain or feel like a TT

On the other hand, I’m like did this bitch really just throw me under the bus to take the attention off her misstep ?

Should I be mad?

I think she just got her revenge for you going around and talking to other people about things you two talk about, I'm sure you didn't mean any harm by bringing that up with another co worker, but I believe she blames you for this, even if it was her fault not informing you it was not official yet.

She obviously lost trust in you once she found out you were talking to other co workers, don't you know scorpios at all?

Even if she didn't throw you under the bus, she still wouldn't trust you anymore.

That's how I see it.

Scorpio mercury here 😅

Could see that if I didn’t ask her first if it was ok that I repeated it. She said our boss never told her not to repeat it 🤷🏼‍♀️

The coworker I texted about it also works directly under the exec who is retiring so I honestly assumed she would know before the rest of us. I was shocked and felt like a total asshole that she didn’t. Plus I didn’t text her about it to gossip…we had already been texting about something else and I mentioned I just heard the “news”

I would have never said anything if I was given any indication it was a secret

Well it was simply not your fault, but your lesson here is never relay information given to you by a Scorpio, even if it's not a secret.

But a question here: if you haven't mentioned her name as your source or accidentally, your boss just assumed it was her? Didn't anyone else know about this?

Why was he so certain it was the Scorpio?

Did you make it clear to her that you didn't mention her name?

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Yes apparently our boss asked the entire office if anyone talked to me and she volunteered she did and my boss let her know it wasn’t formerly announced and she fucked up and so she felt she had to defend herself because she says she didn’t want to seem as if she was gossiping

😅 cause she knows she does gossip too much

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Posted by Truemara

You said you enjoy gossiping with her. So it’s no surprise she gossiped about you to your boss.

We have always been loyal to each other though

8 years and she’s never really repeated a thing I told her until now…at least that I knew of?

I’m like mind blown 🤯

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Is there a chance for a promotion for the Scorpio now that someone is leaving?

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The worst part is I can’t tell her anything anymore and I really enjoyed gossiping and talking shit about everyone with her. She’s really good at it. Pure talent

A similar sort of thing happened to me at work, but I purposefully leaked non consequential rumours about me to see if they got passed on. They did, now I just discuss work, don't gossip and discuss personal stuff. It's easy.

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Scorpio Moon Nightmare

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My closest work friend is a Scorp

We often take lunch together, gossip, vent, talk personal shit, etc

Friday while I was out sick, our boss called a meeting and made a major announcement about one of our execs retiring and one of my other co-workers who recently took on a management role was taking her spot and how all of our roles/responsibilities will be changing.

So the Scorp texted me to see how I was feeling and was like “btw we had this meeting while you were out and this is happening, so it sounds like your job is secure should you have ever wondered”

I asked if everyone knew this - she said yes she assumed so since our boss never said “don’t repeat this.”

So when texting with another coworker I mentioned I just heard the news about K retiring and lo and fuckin behold it wasn’t common knowledge yet. It gets around the whole damn company. Scorp gets scolded by our boss…then in an attempt to defend herself apparently she shows our boss the text she sent me and our boss asks “why did you tell her not to worry about her job? Has Bri said she is worried about her job?”

AT ANY POINT SHE COULD HAVE SAID NO

But of course this bitch has verbal diarrhea

Tells our boss I have expressed that I feel unvalued, that my opinion isn’t respected… tells her I’m worried that she really doesn’t need me…tells her I don’t really have to work, I could stay home with my kids, but I want to work blah blah blah

So I spent an hour and half in my boss’s office this morning discussing my “feelings”

I felt like a child…which is literally my biggest issue with my ageist boss and others in the firm…and what pisses me off the most is the Scorp knows this!!

Why? On one hand I feel she had nothing but good intentions and she thinks she was looking out for me by taking an opportunity to bring up issues that she thought I should talk with our boss about but wouldn’t because everyone knows I don’t like to complain or feel like a TT

On the other hand, I’m like did this bitch really just throw me under the bus to take the attention off her misstep ?

Should I be mad?

I think she just got her revenge for you going around and talking to other people about things you two talk about, I'm sure you didn't mean any harm by bringing that up with another co worker, but I believe she blames you for this, even if it was her fault not informing you it was not official yet.

She obviously lost trust in you once she found out you were talking to other co workers, don't you know scorpios at all?

Even if she didn't throw you under the bus, she still wouldn't trust you anymore.

That's how I see it.

Scorpio mercury here 😅

Could see that if I didn’t ask her first if it was ok that I repeated it. She said our boss never told her not to repeat it 🤷🏼‍♀️

The coworker I texted about it also works directly under the exec who is retiring so I honestly assumed she would know before the rest of us. I was shocked and felt like a total asshole that she didn’t. Plus I didn’t text her about it to gossip…we had already been texting about something else and I mentioned I just heard the “news”

I would have never said anything if I was given any indication it was a secret

Well it was simply not your fault, but your lesson here is never relay information given to you by a Scorpio, even if it's not a secret.

But a question here: if you haven't mentioned her name as your source or accidentally, your boss just assumed it was her? Didn't anyone else know about this?

Why was he so certain it was the Scorpio?

Did you make it clear to her that you didn't mention her name?

Yes apparently our boss asked the entire office if anyone talked to me and she volunteered she did and my boss let her know it wasn’t formerly announced and she fucked up and so she felt she had to defend herself because she says she didn’t want to seem as if she was gossiping

😅 cause she knows she does gossip too much

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She should of told her boss he didn’t sag it was confidential in the meeting

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Posted by Truemara

You said you enjoy gossiping with her. So it’s no surprise she gossiped about you to your boss.

We have always been loyal to each other though

8 years and she’s never really repeated a thing I told her until now…at least that I knew of?

I’m like mind blown 🤯

Is there a chance for a promotion for the Scorpio now that someone is leaving?

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No, and she is our office manager/bookkeeper. Two totally different jobs

No plans to replace anyone - just restructuring

So we are all getting new titles, responsibilities, and money

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Posted by brianafay

My closest work friend is a Scorp

We often take lunch together, gossip, vent, talk personal shit, etc

Friday while I was out sick, our boss called a meeting and made a major announcement about one of our execs retiring and one of my other co-workers who recently took on a management role was taking her spot and how all of our roles/responsibilities will be changing.

So the Scorp texted me to see how I was feeling and was like “btw we had this meeting while you were out and this is happening, so it sounds like your job is secure should you have ever wondered”

I asked if everyone knew this - she said yes she assumed so since our boss never said “don’t repeat this.”

So when texting with another coworker I mentioned I just heard the news about K retiring and lo and fuckin behold it wasn’t common knowledge yet. It gets around the whole damn company. Scorp gets scolded by our boss…then in an attempt to defend herself apparently she shows our boss the text she sent me and our boss asks “why did you tell her not to worry about her job? Has Bri said she is worried about her job?”

AT ANY POINT SHE COULD HAVE SAID NO

But of course this bitch has verbal diarrhea

Tells our boss I have expressed that I feel unvalued, that my opinion isn’t respected… tells her I’m worried that she really doesn’t need me…tells her I don’t really have to work, I could stay home with my kids, but I want to work blah blah blah

So I spent an hour and half in my boss’s office this morning discussing my “feelings”

I felt like a child…which is literally my biggest issue with my ageist boss and others in the firm…and what pisses me off the most is the Scorp knows this!!

Why? On one hand I feel she had nothing but good intentions and she thinks she was looking out for me by taking an opportunity to bring up issues that she thought I should talk with our boss about but wouldn’t because everyone knows I don’t like to complain or feel like a TT

On the other hand, I’m like did this bitch really just throw me under the bus to take the attention off her misstep ?

Should I be mad?

I think she just got her revenge for you going around and talking to other people about things you two talk about, I'm sure you didn't mean any harm by bringing that up with another co worker, but I believe she blames you for this, even if it was her fault not informing you it was not official yet.

She obviously lost trust in you once she found out you were talking to other co workers, don't you know scorpios at all?

Even if she didn't throw you under the bus, she still wouldn't trust you anymore.

That's how I see it.

Scorpio mercury here 😅

Could see that if I didn’t ask her first if it was ok that I repeated it. She said our boss never told her not to repeat it 🤷🏼‍♀️

The coworker I texted about it also works directly under the exec who is retiring so I honestly assumed she would know before the rest of us. I was shocked and felt like a total asshole that she didn’t. Plus I didn’t text her about it to gossip…we had already been texting about something else and I mentioned I just heard the “news”

I would have never said anything if I was given any indication it was a secret

Well it was simply not your fault, but your lesson here is never relay information given to you by a Scorpio, even if it's not a secret.

But a question here: if you haven't mentioned her name as your source or accidentally, your boss just assumed it was her? Didn't anyone else know about this?

Why was he so certain it was the Scorpio?

Did you make it clear to her that you didn't mention her name?

Yes apparently our boss asked the entire office if anyone talked to me and she volunteered she did and my boss let her know it wasn’t formerly announced and she fucked up and so she felt she had to defend herself because she says she didn’t want to seem as if she was gossiping

😅 cause she knows she does gossip too much

She should of told her boss he didn’t sag it was confidential in the meeting

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Yea ultimately it wasn’t her fault. She did point this out and our boss just responded with “I shouldn’t have to tell you not to repeat something like that. It wasn’t even 15 minutes later” 🙄 it’s bogus because we are in completely different departments from the exec leaving…it was fair to assume that her team would have been notified before ours IMO

I think the very obvious lesson here is we all need to keep our mouths shut more 😅

But especially this bish

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You said you enjoy gossiping with her. So it’s no surprise she gossiped about you to your boss.

We have always been loyal to each other though

8 years and she’s never really repeated a thing I told her until now…at least that I knew of?

I’m like mind blown 🤯

Is there a chance for a promotion for the Scorpio now that someone is leaving?

No, and she is our office manager/bookkeeper. Two totally different jobs

No plans to replace anyone - just restructuring

So we are all getting new titles, responsibilities, and money

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But is there a chance for her to level up? Will you two still be in equal positions?

Scorpios can be very competitive when it comes to jobs.

Especially when this whole thing looks bad on her, for blabbing to you about the person who is leaving.

I

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You said you enjoy gossiping with her. So it’s no surprise she gossiped about you to your boss.

We have always been loyal to each other though

8 years and she’s never really repeated a thing I told her until now…at least that I knew of?

I’m like mind blown 🤯

Is there a chance for a promotion for the Scorpio now that someone is leaving?

No, and she is our office manager/bookkeeper. Two totally different jobs

No plans to replace anyone - just restructuring

So we are all getting new titles, responsibilities, and money

But is there a chance for her to level up? Will you two still be in equal positions?

Scorpios can be very competitive when it comes to jobs.

Especially when this whole thing looks bad on her, for blabbing to you about the person who is leaving.

I

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No not really

She’s the only non-designer in our office. She can’t really take a senior designer position and she can’t go much higher than office manager

But idk if she thought this was a suck up opportunity to my boss - like she was showing loyalty or something ?

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Posted by Truemara

You said you enjoy gossiping with her. So it’s no surprise she gossiped about you to your boss.

We have always been loyal to each other though

8 years and she’s never really repeated a thing I told her until now…at least that I knew of?

I’m like mind blown 🤯

Is there a chance for a promotion for the Scorpio now that someone is leaving?

No, and she is our office manager/bookkeeper. Two totally different jobs

No plans to replace anyone - just restructuring

So we are all getting new titles, responsibilities, and money

But is there a chance for her to level up? Will you two still be in equal positions?

Scorpios can be very competitive when it comes to jobs.

Especially when this whole thing looks bad on her, for blabbing to you about the person who is leaving.

I

No not really

She’s the only non-designer in our office. She can’t really take a senior designer position and she can’t go much higher than office manager

But idk if she thought this was a suck up opportunity to my boss - like she was showing loyalty or something ?

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I don't think it was that, I think she didn't want to look like the office gossip, probably. I mean you were at home and found out, so it really wasn't your fault. It was hers for telling you. And she didn't even know that no one else knew about it.

Either way, I wouldn't trust anything now. It's unfortunate cause this type of thing suck when it happens. It really breaks down friendship vs co worker vs associate relations. This is going to change everything on both of your sides, I bet.

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Posted by Truemara

You said you enjoy gossiping with her. So it’s no surprise she gossiped about you to your boss.

We have always been loyal to each other though

8 years and she’s never really repeated a thing I told her until now…at least that I knew of?

I’m like mind blown 🤯

Is there a chance for a promotion for the Scorpio now that someone is leaving?

No, and she is our office manager/bookkeeper. Two totally different jobs

No plans to replace anyone - just restructuring

So we are all getting new titles, responsibilities, and money

But is there a chance for her to level up? Will you two still be in equal positions?

Scorpios can be very competitive when it comes to jobs.

Especially when this whole thing looks bad on her, for blabbing to you about the person who is leaving.

I

No not really

She’s the only non-designer in our office. She can’t really take a senior designer position and she can’t go much higher than office manager

But idk if she thought this was a suck up opportunity to my boss - like she was showing loyalty or something ?

I don't think it was that, I think she didn't want to look like the office gossip, probably. I mean you were at home and found out, so it really wasn't your fault. It was hers for telling you. And she didn't even know that no one else knew about it.

Either way, I wouldn't trust anything now. It's unfortunate cause this type of thing suck when it happens. It really breaks down friendship vs co worker vs associate relations. This is going to change everything on both of your sides, I bet.

Well, Scorpio is the sign of transformation and change.... TADA!!

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Hahahaha! Whatever fits the narrative!

Am I the only one who thinks this was the boss’s fuck up? 😂

Kidding aside though, as others have already stated, I don’t think there was any malicious intent but you have every right to be pissed.

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Should I be mad?

Livid.

I couldn't give a rats a** what her intention was/is, she should have kept her messy mouth shut. Period. Speak on your own business, not anyone else. Especially business shared in confidence.

Scorps know better. Smh.

Well most.

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I have no helpful advice.. Thats a hilarious story though! She scrambling like bull in a China shop

She called to tell me afterwards too. As soon as she started telling me how she showed her the text I just knew where this was headed…and she’s like “I know, but listen, I had to. Please know it was not ill intended” 🙄 I said just tell me everything you said, I need to know what I’m walking into… and more and more kept coming out like she really didn’t need to say all that.

Now I get the sense from her she thinks she did me some huge favor, like “look aren’t you glad I said something? It was good thing” like she’s responsible for my raise - which I was getting either way!!! Unbelievable

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How about just saying "I thought it was common knowledge, given she is also an employee"? Own that she opened her mouth without permission, take the lumps for doing so and keep it moving. Nah, she was trying to deflect by bringing up your stuff---which has nothing to do with the conversation at hand. Plain and simple.

That's the type of friend that would be questioned by the police for a speeding ticket and share every illegal thing you did for the past decade to try to get out of the ticket.

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Posted by brianafay

Should I be mad?

Livid.

I couldn't give a rats a** what her intention was/is, she should have kept her messy mouth shut. Period. Speak on your own business, not anyone else. Especially business shared in confidence.

Scorps know better. Smh.

Well most.

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She does know better

We talked today and at first she said she was put on the spot and she tried to tell her she needed to talk to me and it wasn’t her place to say anything blah blah

Then she shows me this text she sent my boss when she sent her the screenshot of the text she originally sent me and that’s not how it went down. She volunteered all this info before my boss even asked about me

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Posted by Gobbie

While the Scorpio's intentions may not have been malicious, I would be concerned that she 'caved in and spilt the beans' when her neck was on the line for her own cock-up.

Instead of dealing with the consequences of her actions gracefully, she dragged you into the situation. I mean, what was the point of showing your boss that text?

Maybe showing your boss the text was meant to have been a form of deflection. Who knows? But, one thing's for sure, you'd be a fool to confide in her ever again.

Showing the text was to prove she wasn't lying. It's tricky, but I think because scorpios have known deception they don't want to be perceived as lying.

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It should have never come up to begin with, then she wouldn't have to prove anything to their boss.

Scorp didn't take responsibility for opening her mouth about the exec retiring. That is the only thing that need to be done. No text reveal needed. No cappin' for your co-worker required. Just own that you misspoke and move on.

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Posted by brianafay

Should I be mad?

Livid.

I couldn't give a rats a** what her intention was/is, she should have kept her messy mouth shut. Period. Speak on your own business, not anyone else. Especially business shared in confidence.

Scorps know better. Smh.

Well most.

I think we need to be aware of our audience here. OP said their “friendship” was based on GOSSIP 🙄… standards pretty low to start off with.

My ears like gossip at times… but I stay away from gossipy people, they OBVIOUSLY practice loose mouth behavior on the regular.

It would be unfair for me to expect them to be tight lipped… when all they practice is the opposite - that’s just wishful thinking 🙄👎🏼

I’d be livid too… only if that wasn’t the root of our friendship.

Otherwise, this is just you getting some of what you dish out.🤷🏻‍♀️

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Well I agree to an extent as I don't engage in gossip, and I definitely don't share anything with colleagues for the same reason. People chatting others, will chat your business just as hard.

I am addressing how the Scorp handled steppin' in a pile of sh*t regardless of the standard their friendship may or may not be based on. She lost her cool, showed a text for God knows what reason and then made this about something else (OP's feeling devalued--like WTH lol---) rather than simply owning she messed up. That should have been a 20 sec conversation with her boss. Take her lumps and be done.

The Scorp was too quick to spread info, the OP too, something that seems to occur with people that gossip. Doesn't change the fact that the Scorp was messy.

Posted by nanobotz

Yes, she fucked up and then somehow managed to manipulate the situation completely, turning it around into something else by way of getting you involved. This shows that she’s incapable and unwilling to take responsibility for HER actions, and that she’s willing to drag other people in to cover and detract from her own mistakes. I have no doubt in my mind that she would do this again if she ever found herself in a sticky place involving others again. It’s snake behavior. This for me would be a reason to cut her off completely, but take what I say with a grain of salt. I have extremely rigid boundaries and no friends so 🤣🤣🤣🤣

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This, minus the no friends lol....

Meh

In my experience there are few stronger bonds than those formed between coworkers who share the same mutual disdain for someone

It’s still shocking to me regardless how often we talk shit with each other because she’s always had my back before and I’ve never - I mean seriously NEVER - repeated anything she’s ever told me in confidence.

That said, she does have the tendency to blast her own business all over the place so I shouldn’t be shocked at all. I just am

Posted by brianafay

Yea ultimately it wasn’t her fault. She did point this out and our boss just responded with “I shouldn’t have to tell you not to repeat something like that. It wasn’t even 15 minutes later” 🙄 it’s bogus because we are in completely different departments from the exec leaving…it was fair to assume that her team would have been notified before ours IMO

So she scolds the Scorp for opening her mouth about something that "I shouldn't have to tell you not to repeat", yet has no problem asking the Scorp to disclose personal information that you shared with her rather than ask you directly and address it with you professionally...

Posted by brianafay

Meh

In my experience there are few stronger bonds than those formed between coworkers who share the same mutual disdain for someone

It’s still shocking to me regardless how often we talk shit with each other because she’s always had my back before and I’ve never - I mean seriously NEVER - repeated anything she’s ever told me in confidence.

That said, she does have the tendency to blast her own business all over the place so I shouldn’t be shocked at all. I just am

Yeah but as far as you know her job was never in jeopardy like this. She f-ed up by sharing this information with you that then spread. Boss knew and called her out for it and this is how she acts.

When it comes to money people are feral and will sacrifice their own mothers to collect the bag. Your 8yr coworker friendship never stood a chance.

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Posted by brianafay

Should I be mad?

Livid.

I couldn't give a rats a** what her intention was/is, she should have kept her messy mouth shut. Period. Speak on your own business, not anyone else. Especially business shared in confidence.

Scorps know better. Smh.

Well most.

She does know better

We talked today and at first she said she was put on the spot and she tried to tell her she needed to talk to me and it wasn’t her place to say anything blah blah

Then she shows me this text she sent my boss when she sent her the screenshot of the text she originally sent me and that’s not how it went down. She volunteered all this info before my boss even asked about me

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Smh. Yeah, you need to just cut her off.

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Posted by PhoenixRising

Posted by brianafay

Should I be mad?

Livid.

I couldn't give a rats a** what her intention was/is, she should have kept her messy mouth shut. Period. Speak on your own business, not anyone else. Especially business shared in confidence.

Scorps know better. Smh.

Well most.

I think we need to be aware of our audience here. OP said their “friendship” was based on GOSSIP 🙄… standards pretty low to start off with.

My ears like gossip at times… but I stay away from gossipy people, they OBVIOUSLY practice loose mouth behavior on the regular.

It would be unfair for me to expect them to be tight lipped… when all they practice is the opposite - that’s just wishful thinking 🙄👎🏼

I’d be livid too… only if that wasn’t the root of our friendship.

Otherwise, this is just you getting some of what you dish out.🤷🏻‍♀️

Well I agree to an extent as I don't engage in gossip, and I definitely don't share anything with colleagues for the same reason. People chatting others, will chat your business just as hard.

I am addressing how the Scorp handled steppin' in a pile of sh*t regardless of the standard their friendship may or may not be based on. She lost her cool, showed a text for God knows what reason and then made this about something else (OP's feeling devalued--like WTH lol---) rather than simply owning she messed up. That should have been a 20 sec conversation with her boss. Take her lumps and be done.

The Scorp was too quick to spread info, the OP too, something that seems to occur with people that gossip. Doesn't change the fact that the Scorp was messy.

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Needed to correct this after reading the rest of the thread. I misunderstood how the info got back to the boss. At the end of the day Bri was home minding her business, so really this was all between the Scorp and the boss.

If the Scorp was a friend (whatever it is based on) she would have kept the OP out of the conversation and it shouldn't have gone beyond "I shared it with her because she's been out of the office and I thought it was/would eventually be shared with all of the employees".

Volunteering text messages and information when no one asked you for all of that?

She was deflecting and trying to get the attention off herself because she couldn’t stand that my boss was upset with her

The fact remains my boss ultimately is the one that messed up making an announcement like that and not saying “By the way, Kathy hasn’t talked to her team yet so please keep this between us until the formal announcement is made”

She knows this because when I talked to her about it she was defensive as hell and said “I don’t care, I am the owner of the company, and K doesn’t get to blindside us with a retirement announcement and then take a week vacation and expect us to wait for her to return to make the announcement” (Aries)

But anyway I don’t think she made herself look any better saying what she said. She did make me look bad though IMO so I guess she achieved her goal of deflecting the attention elsewhere

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Posted by brianafay

Yea ultimately it wasn’t her fault. She did point this out and our boss just responded with “I shouldn’t have to tell you not to repeat something like that. It wasn’t even 15 minutes later” 🙄 it’s bogus because we are in completely different departments from the exec leaving…it was fair to assume that her team would have been notified before ours IMO

So she scolds the Scorp for opening her mouth about something that "I shouldn't have to tell you not to repeat", yet has no problem asking the Scorp to disclose personal information that you shared with her rather than ask you directly and address it with you professionally...

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RIGHT? 😅

Wow! So not her place to discuss your feelings or your situation. Yes I’d be pissed!!

Posted by MareInfame

Lol… I see your point. If only talking about the Scorpio, friendship, character and professionalism - Scorpio lacks it in the loads… her S card should be revoked.

...isn't that the true test of someone though? Not just how long you have someone's back. What you do when it matters the most. Lol yeah, my first thought was snatch that card, burn it and scatter the ashes far and wide.

It's funny, we can read about a Scorp stalking someone, taking revenge a little too far, borderline cheating, and it's "meh, some Scorps behave badly." Betraying someone's trust?---"disown her...she doesn't deserve to be a Scorp".

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And I believe that if Scorps pattern was observed, she didn’t do anything shocking. She sounds like she doesn’t know the meaning of private.

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No, her actions aren't shocking based on pattern alone and we can say that from the outside looking in. When you're in it, I'm guessing it feels a little different. Sometimes we think we are immune to someone's poor character, so the shock is understandable from that perspective.

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My Sag co-worker did that to me.

I confided in her that our Aries boss touched me inappropriately. Months later, she comes to my office and tells me she told HR about the incident to get Aries demoted.I was FURIOUS. She used that info, not because she wanted to help me, but because she wanted to get back at Aries for something else. She was 20 yrs older than me too🙄. Anyway, she played it as if she was doing this for me and that it would help me speak up for myself 🤥🤨.

I had to go to HR and tell them my story. Then HR had the Aries come in so that I could tell him and he could apologize, he did - and then he later called me into his office and he started CRYING!!!! It was all so melodramatic🙄… and just awkward and NOT MY THING.

Anyway - Sag got what she wanted, Aries got demoted. I let her know I was pissed at her, but even though her intentions were not to protect me - I let it go because in the end, I practiced speaking out uncomfy stuff that I would have preferred to not spill to the world. She and I remained friends but I was more careful about what I told her 🤨.

I would have been pissed. This sounds similar to something my Virgo sister-in-law pulled recently. She was acting like she was doing something for my benefit, but it was really to benefit her daughter.

Yeah, but it usually takes me a while to decide to cut people out of my life. I give chances, try to be understanding…

But it wasn’t long after that that I decided🤣😂… I mean, her pattern of toxic behavior for worse and more apparent. So, I left on time before more damage came my way…lol

I don’t blame you. 🤣

My sister-in-law really pissed me off and saw a side to me that she never seen. My Taurus brother tried calling and texting me afterwards, but I did not answer or respond. I haven’t talked to them since I had it out with her. I hated that she was lying to me and being fake.

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Is this the Libra woman, Blue?

Messy 😬