update on my scorpio boss: I rose up and asked him the "aren't you married" question! burn!!

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he's not bad afterall!!

he came over to my desk and asked me if everything was with me at the morning break, he asked what I'd decided about him taking me out to the beach this weekend and said laughing that I better not be held up with anything this time.

I asked him "so I hear you're married, will your kids be joining us?"

he said, " well if you want them to, they were going to stay with their mom this weekend"

"oh so you don't.."

"no we're... in umm...a situation, anyway this isn't the time or place to discuss this. let me know about this weekend"

later in text,

him: "did you think I'm going to take advantage of you?, sorry if I catch you off guard but I want to know what you think about this"

me: "no I am really unclear about what is going on"

him: what do you mean what is going on? is it about inviting you out?

me: yes that too

him: I was hoping you got that I invited you because I liked spending time with you, I mean there is something to it and I'm forthright, you know me.

me: hmm you do realize I have a boyfriend

him: yes

me: do you think it is still appropriate

him: I am really sorry if I offended your sentiment. I have a feeling we have a real connection and I don't mean it in the wrong way

(AAAAAAAAA he said it!!! the connection!! the connection I was ranting all about!!!)

me: wrong way? you mean sexual? sorry if I was being direct but I need somethings explained here

him: ask me

him: sexual too but I didn't mean just that, I mean I really would like to get to know you. it's just this whole commitment we're both in right now is distorting but I believe there is something to it.

me: what do you expect out of this? I really am not looking to cheat on my boyfriend or get involved with your family situation

him: haha you're pretty direct you know

me: well I'm not going to apologize 🙂

him: I understand, me neither what kind of morals do you think I have. I would really like to get to know you. maybe more if you ever found yourself freed out of your relationship. is that clear? 🙂

me: right. and what about your situation?

him: we're in process of being separated. give me time to explain it to you in person rather than all in a go

me: I'm sorry this is all just so overwhelming for me. you're right you did catch me off guard.

him: the first thing I want you do is stop over analyzing everything lol

me: okay I'm getting a call. I'll text you later

him: sure.

I am so waiting to know this guy!! he's really a mythical creature!! gosh I only hope his "situation" is the divorce. now I'm so waiting to hear from him this evening to decide if I'm going out with him. I haven't decided on telling my boyfriend yet but if I decide to go I certainly will tell him.



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Posted by daron76
I feel so sorry for your "boy friend"...
OP - you are direct with Scorpio boss but not with your boyfriend. Don't fake courage, use it openly with your boyfriend as well and tell him who you really are.

If you can't appreciate your boyfriend, stop being a hog and let someone else appreciate him.

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hey it's not that easy to just dump someone because you found someone else! I need time to see how this works and we haven't even decided to date yet, maybe it won't so I can't chuck my guy on the possibility of something I don't say this because of selfishness or anything but because I respect him too much to do that! besides I don't think he'll have any issues handling this since I told him right from the beginning I wasn't looking for anything serious.
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Assuming this is a real story and your up coming thread wont be how you're knocked up by this opportunistic moron, and will be naming your triplets Herbert, Sherbert and Dilbert... your naive ass about to get rimjobbed at the beach parking lot if you keep this shit up.
I think that's ok with her by the sound of it ...
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I meant the rimjob, not the triplets ...

check please!
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Assuming this is a real story and your up coming thread wont be how you're knocked up by this opportunistic moron, and will be naming your triplets Herbert, Sherbert and Dilbert... your naive ass about to get rimjobbed at the beach parking lot if you keep this shit up.
is it really wrong to date someone who I like because he is separated? so we shouldn't flirt because we work together? would it be alright if I got banged at the parking lot by my boyfriend instead? it's like you're all warning me against this guy just because. being called naïve or manipulated because I reciprocate someone's interest is just crude. is everyone really crossing fingers that this fails? wow this is toxic!
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Posted by LadyNeptune
Every cheating married man says 'we're in the midst of getting separated' when confronted. That's like textbook.


For the love of god, OP, this is truth. Do not proceed. You will be hurting yourself and his wife and kids, and a husband never leaves his wife for the side chick, which is all you will be if you go forward.

I think it is time you look for a new job on the sly.



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I feel so sorry for your "boy friend"...
OP - you are direct with Scorpio boss but not with your boyfriend. Don't fake courage, use it openly with your boyfriend as well and tell him who you really are.

If you can't appreciate your boyfriend, stop being a hog and let someone else appreciate him.


hey it's not that easy to just dump someone because you found someone else! I need time to see how this works and we haven't even decided to date yet, maybe it won't so I can't chuck my guy on the possibility of something I don't say this because of selfishness or anything but because I respect him too much to do that! besides I don't think he'll have any issues handling this since I told him right from the beginning I wasn't looking for anything serious.
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The (main) problem here isn't that your interested in your boss- its that, according to you, you are only hanging on to your BF incase it doesn't work with the boss. What this really means is that you are hanging on to him until someone else better comes along- whoever that might be. Which means you don't want or care for your BF. Sadly, this makes you a childish, selfish, manipulative P.O.S. The good news is you don't have to stay that way. You can stop doing this crap right now before your karma bill gets too high.

best of luck
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Every cheating married man says 'we're in the midst of getting separated' when confronted. That's like textbook.


For the love of god, OP, this is truth. Do not proceed. You will be hurting yourself and his wife and kids, and a husband never leaves his wife for the side chick, which is all you will be if you go forward.

I think it is time you look for a new job on the sly.



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If he's really serious about leaving his wife a smart woman would wait until he backs up his words with actions. A queen would hold herself to higher standards and demand commitment from someone who has already proven they are not loyal to their current relationship.

But your a basic bitch (op). All it takes is some attention and your willing to throw away both your relationship and job for some cheap flattery.

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Assuming this is a real story and your up coming thread wont be how you're knocked up by this opportunistic moron, and will be naming your triplets Herbert, Sherbert and Dilbert... your naive ass about to get rimjobbed at the beach parking lot if you keep this shit up.
is it really wrong to date someone who I like because he is separated? so we shouldn't flirt because we work together? would it be alright if I got banged at the parking lot by my boyfriend instead? it's like you're all warning me against this guy just because. being called naïve or manipulated because I reciprocate someone's interest is just crude. is everyone really crossing fingers that this fails? wow this is toxic!
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We're not against you, we are FOR you.

A married man always uses some tale of woe that their relationship is on the rocks to get some tail. How else would he convince a woman to go with him? This is how it starts.

He has kids. She probably doesn't have a sex drive any more, he isn't getting any at home so he wants to get it with you. Sure, he has feelings for you but it isn't going to break them up. He is playing you.

I know you don't want to believe this and will do what you are going to do anyway because you're blinded by lust. I'm not saying this because I think I am high and mighty and wise. I have BEEN where you are now, and he did all the same shit to me as this guy is to you. I wasn't listening to my friends when they were warning me, pleading me telling me to break it off, they saw what everyone here is seeing but I was unhappy in my relationship at the time as well and saw this as an out because I was quite trapped, financially dependent on an abuser. These guys sniff that out like wolves. You are independent and I urge you to get out of this situation for your own sake. If I could go back in time and tell myself to listen to my friends because they were right, I would, and here I am seeing you do this and I really really am on your side here. I see me in you and I fear you will do what you want anyway... I suppose it is a lesson some of us need to learn, you become wiser with stupid mistakes you make in your youth. You learn to see the red flags and bullshit after the storm.



Good luck, whatever you do. Just protect yourself.
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jfc



First your thread to honor hatred for a friend ... and now a thread to honor yourself for being an emotional cheater



What a fucking cunt
Cunts everywhere are offended to be compared to the op.

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you are just a sad bitter bitch but the upside for you is you'll never be in a situation like this cause no one cares. maybe I can't tell if that man manipulates me but I can tell from the tone you're a bitter bitch.
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jfc



First your thread to honor hatred for a friend ... and now a thread to honor yourself for being an emotional cheater



What a fucking cunt
Cunts everywhere are offended to be compared to the op.


you are just a sad bitter bitch but the upside for you is you'll never be in a situation like this cause no one cares. maybe I can't tell if that man manipulates me but I can tell from the tone you're a bitter bitch.
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Truth hurts doesn't it.
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So...how will this alleged rimjob happen?

In the Porta-potty?

In the backseat of the car?

On the hood while she's on all fours?

Or a Detroit Lions Tailgate style ass eating?
I've done all but one of those.
Please, not the porta-potty!?


It don't get wet by itself.

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Barf.

I have the slumdog millionaire image in my mind. Help.

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Assuming this is a real story and your up coming thread wont be how you're knocked up by this opportunistic moron, and will be naming your triplets Herbert, Sherbert and Dilbert... your naive ass about to get rimjobbed at the beach parking lot if you keep this shit up.
is it really wrong to date someone who I like because he is separated? so we shouldn't flirt because we work together? would it be alright if I got banged at the parking lot by my boyfriend instead? it's like you're all warning me against this guy just because. being called naïve or manipulated because I reciprocate someone's interest is just crude. is everyone really crossing fingers that this fails? wow this is toxic!
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Your not separated though, are you?



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If you need to know what will happen to the wife, this is what something the wife of the mistake I messed around with wrote in her blog, which we creeped on while he was visiting my country, he just up and took a plane here and she was left at home for a week, freaking out.

It still breaks my heart knowing I allowed this to happen because I was a selfish, naive, stupid idiot.



And just so you know, she fought for him and they are still married. I got my happy ending and got out of my abusive situation and ended up with the man who was telling me that this guy is bad news, and I didn't listen to him, but I am still haunted by the fact that their relationship is not the same as it was before the affair.



Tunnel of agony

Words streaming down my face,

and into my heart.

My ears must be wrong.

I deny my ears; they lie.

Anger, hatred, desperation, clinging.

I will fight, fight for what is mine.

Surely there is something I can do!

Everything hurts, everything aches.

My mind is rent down the middle,

and I cannot think or plan a single action.

I cry, I moan.

I scream and I hit things.

LIAR! THIEF!

DECEPTION is evil.

I will fight. I will save my hero.

In every way he needs to be saved.

My love burns. I fight.

We seem to find a standing space in the chaos.

Then I have to go.

He says it's fine.

He is going too, for a while.

I trust, I choose to believe.

When I return, he's gone.

Again, I am sick.

I cannot tell anybody.

It's probably nothing, and yet I find clues.

I ache.

Desperate just to hear his voice,

just to know he is all right,

that he is content,

that he is coming home.

And when.

Just waiting, waiting.

Adrenalin spurting, every thought knifes back to the beginning.

The first few words, then the sickness comes.

I think I am going to be sick.

There is a bomb in my gullet.

Just one word, my darling.

Just one.
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Better watch out sweety. He might see you as a trophy/ego boost to cope with his seperation! It sounds like his marriage issues are pretty fresh, otherwise he wouldnt say it's complicated.. I was there too... yes its selfish yes its wrong, but I know how u feel. Believe me, that was one of my worst decisions ever. Not just because cheating is absolutely wrong and selfish! It damages you and you end up in an emotional mess because chances that u and scorp boss will end in a happy ending are small.

Look at it like this, men don't see cheating women as potencial wifey material. Those women who cheat were "stolen" from their SO, not conquered. Men love to conquer if its for real. But they would also steal for a fling within a blink of an eye
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I feel so sorry for your "boy friend"...
OP - you are direct with Scorpio boss but not with your boyfriend. Don't fake courage, use it openly with your boyfriend as well and tell him who you really are.

If you can't appreciate your boyfriend, stop being a hog and let someone else appreciate him.


hey it's not that easy to just dump someone because you found someone else! I need time to see how this works and we haven't even decided to date yet, maybe it won't so I can't chuck my guy on the possibility of something I don't say this because of selfishness or anything but because I respect him too much to do that! besides I don't think he'll have any issues handling this since I told him right from the beginning I wasn't looking for anything serious.
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Save it. Your decision to wait to see how things go before you're honest with your boyfriend has nothing to do with respect. It's actually the opposite. You're worried that if you bet on the Scorp and lose you'll be alone. Instead you're playing it safe by waiting it out to see if the peen is as heavenly as you hope it will be. That makes you a coward.

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hey it's not that easy to just dump someone because you found someone else! I need time to see how this works and we haven't even decided to date yet, maybe it won't so I can't chuck my guy on the possibility of something I don't say this because of selfishness or anything but because I respect him too much to do that! besides I don't think he'll have any issues handling this since I told him right from the beginning I wasn't looking for anything serious.

Save it. Your decision to wait to see how things go before you're honest with your boyfriend has nothing to do with respect. It's actually the opposite. You're worried that if you bet on the Scorp and lose you'll be alone. Instead you're playing it safe by waiting it out to see if the peen is as heavenly as you hope it will be. That makes you a coward.





can I get a "Amen" !
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Just to add my 2 cents here..

While disregarding that he may or may not be in the divorce process and the fact that you do have a current partner you're "committed" to, keep in mind the following regarding work place relationships with Scorpio men:

He will protect his reputation with in the company at all costs if things go sour. This isn't much of a problem when both parties are equal in terms of position on the company ladder. However, as his subordinate, be willing to lose your job if things don't work out.


I agree here.

OP,

I find it difficult to believe that a man will even dally with women at his workplace. it seems like a recipe for lawsuits and lots of office politics trouble.



what kind of workplace is it in? Hospital? Restaurant, the type that is, in, "the office"? Government?
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Just to add my 2 cents here..

While disregarding that he may or may not be in the divorce process and the fact that you do have a current partner you're "committed" to, keep in mind the following regarding work place relationships with Scorpio men:

He will protect his reputation with in the company at all costs if things go sour. This isn't much of a problem when both parties are equal in terms of position on the company ladder. However, as his subordinate, be willing to lose your job if things don't work out.


I agree here.

OP,

I find it difficult to believe that a man will even dally with women at his workplace. it seems like a recipe for lawsuits and lots of office politics trouble.



what kind of workplace is it in? Hospital? Restaurant, the type that is, in, "the office"? Government?
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You don't shit where you eat. I approved this message. If it goes south it's a world of pain.
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I know this has been said, but I really do feel sorry for your boyfriend. I think the rightful thing to do is to leave him since you're already emotionally cheating on him. And clearly you are just letting your obsession rush to your head, and also selectively reading comments that might somehow encourage you to pursue this instead of making level-headed decisions for yourself. I dont even know what this thread is meant for then. Take a hundred steps back and look at the full picture, honey.
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Posted by GetMisted
Just to add my 2 cents here..

While disregarding that he may or may not be in the divorce process and the fact that you do have a current partner you're "committed" to, keep in mind the following regarding work place relationships with Scorpio men:

He will protect his reputation with in the company at all costs if things go sour. This isn't much of a problem when both parties are equal in terms of position on the company ladder. However, as his subordinate, be willing to lose your job if things don't work out.
You bring up a good point. And furthermore we now know how little the op is valued at her job as her boss so easily risks loosing her as an employee.

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jfc



First your thread to honor hatred for a friend ... and now a thread to honor yourself for being an emotional cheater



What a fucking cunt
Cunts everywhere are offended to be compared to the op.


you are just a sad bitter bitch but the upside for you is you'll never be in a situation like this cause no one cares. maybe I can't tell if that man manipulates me but I can tell from the tone you're a bitter bitch.
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You know what made me bitter to situations like this? You'll soon find out if you continue down this path. Disillusionment comes with experience.

Cheaters will always paint themselves as the victim in need of saving and prey on those naive enough to believe their lies. But maybe your pussy is special and will magically be able to do what the others before it failed at, get him to commit.





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Aaaaaand here it goes. You both are bluntly linin everythin up so you cheat on you current lovers. That is precisely where this is headed, no doubts about it. Just stop. Grow the fuck up. You are a grown ass adult so why cant you just fuckin do the right thing for once? Handle this like a mature adult? If you want a taste of him, you gotta break up with your boyfriend.

Why the hell are you 2 even goin to the beach. What is this stupid shit? Im out. I havent even conversed wit you and im blockin you cause you are just too stupid to deal with.
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Posted by Infinite8
Posted by daron76
I feel so sorry for your "boy friend"...
OP - you are direct with Scorpio boss but not with your boyfriend. Don't fake courage, use it openly with your boyfriend as well and tell him who you really are.

If you can't appreciate your boyfriend, stop being a hog and let someone else appreciate him.


hey it's not that easy to just dump someone because you found someone else! I need time to see how this works and we haven't even decided to date yet, maybe it won't so I can't chuck my guy on the possibility of something I don't say this because of selfishness or anything but because I respect him too much to do that! besides I don't think he'll have any issues handling this since I told him right from the beginning I wasn't looking for anything serious.
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WOW!!!