
Fellas, how long would you be serious with a lady before considering this—






Posted by Enfant-Terrible-II
I'm considering never, or only if we have kids. If we're good, why change it? And if we're not, is moving in really the solution (to any problem)?
Of course she'll be chasing change, women always do; always have to fix things that aren't broken. but really, as a species, i think we should stop moving in together and stop having kids 'just cuz'. Live your best life.



Posted by Enfant-Terrible-II
I'm considering never, or only if we have kids. If we're good, why change it? And if we're not, is moving in really the solution (to any problem)?
Of course she'll be chasing change, women always do; always have to fix things that aren't broken. but really, as a species, i think we should stop moving in together and stop having kids 'just cuz'. Live your best life.


Posted by Libra4rmTX
Fellas, how long would you be serious with a lady before considering this—

Posted by Libra4rmTXPosted by Gobbie
How long is a piece of string?
Depends on who cuts itclick to expand

Posted by GemiMayPosted by Libra4rmTX
Fellas, how long would you be serious with a lady before considering this—
The one you was about to break up with?click to expand


Posted by GemiMayPosted by Libra4rmTXPosted by Gobbie
How long is a piece of string?
Depends on who cuts it
Nurse in a hospital. What’s left is what’s left…click to expand

Posted by GobbiePosted by Libra4rmTXPosted by Gobbie
How long is a piece of string?
Depends on who cuts it
There, you've answered your own question - it depends.click to expand

Posted by Libra4rmTXPosted by GemiMayPosted by Libra4rmTX
Fellas, how long would you be serious with a lady before considering this—
The one you was about to break up with?
Lol I need to know why you do me like this?? And this is a general question ma'amclick to expand

Posted by GemiMayPosted by Libra4rmTXPosted by GemiMayPosted by Libra4rmTX
Fellas, how long would you be serious with a lady before considering this—
The one you was about to break up with?
Lol I need to know why you do me like this?? And this is a general question ma'am
Because you full of shit!
First you announcing about your upcoming break up. Then you get off on me for asking how it went and I meant ‘how is break up went’…WTF? You MADE IT PUBLIC…not me
Now you announced you won’t reply to me and you just did…
I am not DOING YOU any different than everybody since 2006! Can’t stand weak men! That’s MY problem. ✌️click to expand


Posted by xxAjuxx
a long while because
mystery and space is healthy.
When you are fast to move in together
and be together 24/7 it can be too much
and just kill the spark. I'd allow a year or so
to pass first unless you two are perfectly matched;
as in communication is healthy, both see eye to eye,
fights are very rare and there is a twin level connection.
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Posted by LadyNeptune
Wanting to live together was the easy part. For us there was other factors at play like affordability, location (working in different cities) and list of must haves. But I would say around year 4 we started looking at places together seriously.

Posted by GemiMayPosted by LadyNeptune
Wanting to live together was the easy part. For us there was other factors at play like affordability, location (working in different cities) and list of must haves. But I would say around year 4 we started looking at places together seriously.
You mean 4 years you waited for somebody more muscular and finally you decided it’s not happening. Let’s move in before noodles arm will be gone…click to expand

Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by GemiMayPosted by LadyNeptune
Wanting to live together was the easy part. For us there was other factors at play like affordability, location (working in different cities) and list of must haves. But I would say around year 4 we started looking at places together seriously.
You mean 4 years you waited for somebody more muscular and finally you decided it’s not happening. Let’s move in before noodles arm will be gone…
I'm not into gym rat bods. But go off 😂click to expand

Posted by GemiMayPosted by LadyNeptunePosted by GemiMayPosted by LadyNeptune
Wanting to live together was the easy part. For us there was other factors at play like affordability, location (working in different cities) and list of must haves. But I would say around year 4 we started looking at places together seriously.
You mean 4 years you waited for somebody more muscular and finally you decided it’s not happening. Let’s move in before noodles arm will be gone…
I'm not into gym rat bods. But go off 😂
Cut it Lady! There are TONS of different body types between noodly arms and gym rats body.
And you KNOW IT.
Btw apparently you don’t take him to a good barber as well…🤔click to expand

Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by GemiMayPosted by LadyNeptunePosted by GemiMayPosted by LadyNeptune
Wanting to live together was the easy part. For us there was other factors at play like affordability, location (working in different cities) and list of must haves. But I would say around year 4 we started looking at places together seriously.
You mean 4 years you waited for somebody more muscular and finally you decided it’s not happening. Let’s move in before noodles arm will be gone…
I'm not into gym rat bods. But go off 😂
Cut it Lady! There are TONS of different body types between noodly arms and gym rats body.
And you KNOW IT.
Btw apparently you don’t take him to a good barber as well…🤔
Like, am I supposed to weep because you don't think my man is fine? k
He's not for you, he is for me.
We are attracted to different things, obviously. And I am good with that.click to expand

Posted by GemiMayPosted by LadyNeptunePosted by GemiMayPosted by LadyNeptunePosted by GemiMayPosted by LadyNeptune
Wanting to live together was the easy part. For us there was other factors at play like affordability, location (working in different cities) and list of must haves. But I would say around year 4 we started looking at places together seriously.
You mean 4 years you waited for somebody more muscular and finally you decided it’s not happening. Let’s move in before noodles arm will be gone…
I'm not into gym rat bods. But go off 😂
Cut it Lady! There are TONS of different body types between noodly arms and gym rats body.
And you KNOW IT.
Btw apparently you don’t take him to a good barber as well…🤔
Like, am I supposed to weep because you don't think my man is fine? k
He's not for you, he is for me.
We are attracted to different things, obviously. And I am good with that.
No shit! You are a designer of a beautiful things and you like flimsy boyz? Something doesn’t add up unless handsome man dumped you and you sworn to…yourself (because nobody else cares) that you will NEVER date man prettier than you and you went and picked whatever…
How close am I?click to expand

Posted by kachi_cake
Is there an actual formula?


Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by GemiMayPosted by LadyNeptunePosted by GemiMayPosted by LadyNeptunePosted by GemiMayPosted by LadyNeptune
Wanting to live together was the easy part. For us there was other factors at play like affordability, location (working in different cities) and list of must haves. But I would say around year 4 we started looking at places together seriously.
You mean 4 years you waited for somebody more muscular and finally you decided it’s not happening. Let’s move in before noodles arm will be gone…
I'm not into gym rat bods. But go off 😂
Cut it Lady! There are TONS of different body types between noodly arms and gym rats body.
And you KNOW IT.
Btw apparently you don’t take him to a good barber as well…🤔
Like, am I supposed to weep because you don't think my man is fine? k
He's not for you, he is for me.
We are attracted to different things, obviously. And I am good with that.
No shit! You are a designer of a beautiful things and you like flimsy boyz? Something doesn’t add up unless handsome man dumped you and you sworn to…yourself (because nobody else cares) that you will NEVER date man prettier than you and you went and picked whatever…
How close am I?
Keep fantasying about my life. You are big mad and it shows.
I've always been frank that I am punching well above my weight. He is WAY too fine to be with my ass, and yet...click to expand

Posted by GemiMayPosted by LadyNeptunePosted by GemiMayPosted by LadyNeptunePosted by GemiMayPosted by LadyNeptunePosted by GemiMayPosted by LadyNeptune
Wanting to live together was the easy part. For us there was other factors at play like affordability, location (working in different cities) and list of must haves. But I would say around year 4 we started looking at places together seriously.
You mean 4 years you waited for somebody more muscular and finally you decided it’s not happening. Let’s move in before noodles arm will be gone…
I'm not into gym rat bods. But go off 😂
Cut it Lady! There are TONS of different body types between noodly arms and gym rats body.
And you KNOW IT.
Btw apparently you don’t take him to a good barber as well…🤔
Like, am I supposed to weep because you don't think my man is fine? k
He's not for you, he is for me.
We are attracted to different things, obviously. And I am good with that.
No shit! You are a designer of a beautiful things and you like flimsy boyz? Something doesn’t add up unless handsome man dumped you and you sworn to…yourself (because nobody else cares) that you will NEVER date man prettier than you and you went and picked whatever…
How close am I?
Keep fantasying about my life. You are big mad and it shows.
I've always been frank that I am punching well above my weight. He is WAY too fine to be with my ass, and yet...
YOU are mad! You make no sense ‘big mad’ and ‘punching well above your weight?’ WTF does THAT means?
Too fine? With THOSE hair? Just accept you’ve grabbed whatever you could…click to expand


Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by GemiMayPosted by LadyNeptunePosted by GemiMayPosted by LadyNeptunePosted by GemiMayPosted by LadyNeptunePosted by GemiMayPosted by LadyNeptune
Wanting to live together was the easy part. For us there was other factors at play like affordability, location (working in different cities) and list of must haves. But I would say around year 4 we started looking at places together seriously.
You mean 4 years you waited for somebody more muscular and finally you decided it’s not happening. Let’s move in before noodles arm will be gone…
I'm not into gym rat bods. But go off 😂
Cut it Lady! There are TONS of different body types between noodly arms and gym rats body.
And you KNOW IT.
Btw apparently you don’t take him to a good barber as well…🤔
Like, am I supposed to weep because you don't think my man is fine? k
He's not for you, he is for me.
We are attracted to different things, obviously. And I am good with that.
No shit! You are a designer of a beautiful things and you like flimsy boyz? Something doesn’t add up unless handsome man dumped you and you sworn to…yourself (because nobody else cares) that you will NEVER date man prettier than you and you went and picked whatever…
How close am I?
Keep fantasying about my life. You are big mad and it shows.
I've always been frank that I am punching well above my weight. He is WAY too fine to be with my ass, and yet...
YOU are mad! You make no sense ‘big mad’ and ‘punching well above your weight?’ WTF does THAT means?
Too fine? With THOSE hair? Just accept you’ve grabbed whatever you could…
The bitter divorcee talking smack on my relationship is too funny. You do look mad af.
I'm not responsible for you wasting your life, don't be angry I still have my youth. That's a you problem not a me problem.click to expand

Posted by LadyNeptune
Ok I'm sorry for derailing the thread 😄 no more engaging with crazy

Posted by Libra4rmTXPosted by LadyNeptune
Ok I'm sorry for derailing the thread 😄 no more engaging with crazy
Trust me she do this on all my threads lol I just ignore her. She'll go away eventually....hopefully? Lolclick to expand

Posted by HypnotoadPosted by LadyNeptune
Ok I'm sorry for derailing the thread 😄 no more engaging with crazy
Mute function is working well these days, you don't see anything that other people have quoted with their posts. Really have no idea they exist.click to expand


Posted by PuzzlePieces
Tbh the reason the first guy and I moved in was I just graduated from college and about to start my first career type job, and La Habra to Pasadena was a hellish drive. He worked in downtown LA & lived in Whittier, so we found a place much closer for both of us. Maybe we wouldn’t have married if everything hadn’t been so fast. Sometimes waiting is a good idea.

Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by Libra4rmTXPosted by LadyNeptune
Ok I'm sorry for derailing the thread 😄 no more engaging with crazy
Trust me she do this on all my threads lol I just ignore her. She'll go away eventually....hopefully? Lol
I think its just her personality? I usually find her quite harmless and laughable...
No one goes away here they are just phoenix themselves a new handleclick to expand

Posted by Libra4rmTXPosted by LadyNeptune
Ok I'm sorry for derailing the thread 😄 no more engaging with crazy
Trust me she do this on all my threads lol I just ignore her. She'll go away eventually....hopefully? Lolclick to expand


Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by PuzzlePieces
Tbh the reason the first guy and I moved in was I just graduated from college and about to start my first career type job, and La Habra to Pasadena was a hellish drive. He worked in downtown LA & lived in Whittier, so we found a place much closer for both of us. Maybe we wouldn’t have married if everything hadn’t been so fast. Sometimes waiting is a good idea.
Did you grow up in La Habra? I worked in Brea for like 11 years. Used to commute from Pomona to Pasadena and it was no Bueno. Not as bad as long beach to Sherman oaks, 405 killed my soul a bit.click to expand

Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by PuzzlePieces
Tbh the reason the first guy and I moved in was I just graduated from college and about to start my first career type job, and La Habra to Pasadena was a hellish drive. He worked in downtown LA & lived in Whittier, so we found a place much closer for both of us. Maybe we wouldn’t have married if everything hadn’t been so fast. Sometimes waiting is a good idea.
Did you grow up in La Habra? I worked in Brea for like 11 years. Used to commute from Pomona to Pasadena and it was no Bueno. Not as bad as long beach to Sherman oaks, 405 killed my soul a bit.click to expand

Posted by PuzzlePiecesPosted by LadyNeptunePosted by PuzzlePieces
Tbh the reason the first guy and I moved in was I just graduated from college and about to start my first career type job, and La Habra to Pasadena was a hellish drive. He worked in downtown LA & lived in Whittier, so we found a place much closer for both of us. Maybe we wouldn’t have married if everything hadn’t been so fast. Sometimes waiting is a good idea.
Did you grow up in La Habra? I worked in Brea for like 11 years. Used to commute from Pomona to Pasadena and it was no Bueno. Not as bad as long beach to Sherman oaks, 405 killed my soul a bit.
Omg on Long Beach to Sherman Oaks!! That’s crazy. My brother lives near Sherman Oaks and trying to drive from Orange County is a nightmare.click to expand

Posted by HypnotoadPosted by Undine
You two are are only dating unless you commit to something that changes both your lives, like living together.
Don't drag if for too long...sitting on a fence is not a good look. Shit, or get off the pot.
No, sit on the toilet and look at memes and dxp.click to expand


Posted by HypnotoadPosted by Undine
You two are are only dating unless you commit to something that changes both your lives, like living together.
Don't drag if for too long...sitting on a fence is not a good look. Shit, or get off the pot.
No, sit on the toilet and look at memes and dxp.click to expand


Posted by Undine
You two are only dating, unless you commit to something that changes both your lives, like living together.
Don't drag if for too long...sitting on a fence is not a good look. Shit, or get off the pot.


Posted by PuzzlePiecesPosted by Undine
You two are only dating, unless you commit to something that changes both your lives, like living together.
Don't drag if for too long...sitting on a fence is not a good look. Shit, or get off the pot.
Well yes & no. More time helps to see what is reality. I just had the experience of someone flipping after marriage.. however 2-3 years is good.click to expand

Posted by UndinePosted by PuzzlePiecesPosted by Undine
You two are only dating, unless you commit to something that changes both your lives, like living together.
Don't drag if for too long...sitting on a fence is not a good look. Shit, or get off the pot.
Well yes & no. More time helps to see what is reality. I just had the experience of someone flipping after marriage.. however 2-3 years is good.
Two years max, or I'm gone. One year, if I'm confident it will work beautifully. It's not like getting married or signing a contract just yet. If one of us has a decent home already, what are we waiting for?
I'm not a pack-an-overnight-bag, texting and sexting type of woman. Such things diminish me...my relationships worked far better when we lived together.click to expand

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