Why do men do the most only when you are about to leave?

You wanna know what's funny? He came back on Friday from Miami then we first talked on Saturday.

Him: "I miss you too"

Me: "Come see me you know my address"

Him: "Lol do you not care about the 14 day quarantine thing? I like you so I will stay away"

Sunday: I send him that wall of text being like lets take space and I'm letting go of my feelings

Monday: This man drives an hour, half blind from his eye appointment to come see me.

I let him come, I wanted the last time we hung out to be a decent memory. We cuddled and kissed. It was obvious he wanted to mend things and have me forget about taking space. Before he left I said those things in person to him so they are permanent and I am able to let go.

Like less than 24 hours ago you were concerned about the damned 14 day quarantine— WHAT happened

Posted by Gem03

You wanna know what's funny? He came back on Friday from Miami then we first talked on Saturday.

Him: "I miss you too"

Me: "Come see me you know my address"

Him: "Lol do you not care about the 14 day quarantine thing? I like you so I will stay away"

Sunday: I send him that wall of text being like lets take space and I'm letting go of my feelings

Monday: This man drives an hour, half blind from his eye appointment to come see me.

I let him come, I wanted the last time we hung out to be a decent memory. We cuddled and kissed. It was obvious he wanted to mend things and have me forget about taking space. Before he left I said those things in person to him so they are permanent and I am able to let go.

Like less than 24 hours ago you were concerned about the damned 14 day quarantine— WHAT happened

- Taking things for granted

- Not knowing what something means to you until it's gone.

- Being obvious to your own feelings or ignoring them.

Heart vs. Mind

- Motivation and attachment level

If someone is not interested or doesn't want to put in the effort that is ASKED for...actions speak louder then words yes?

If you don't learn how to value and maintain healthy relationships you want earlier in life then you learn the things above the hard way though lose later....Or grow jaded🙃

To be fair woman pull the same shit too. I know your just venting but I still want to point that out. No one is innocence of this.



That being said, what stood out to me regarding your story was him driving "...hour, half blind from his eye appointment to come see me." That isn't a normal action under those conditions. He obviously did care because that isn't a low effort action. The fact he did that and you still continued to break up means to me, the level of interest/attachment on your end wasn't stronger then the transgressions or your needs/expectations of him. I question your interest and desire for him in the first place. Most people would see that and give them another chance. Is this true or were their other things bothering you besides this?

yikes

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Posted by Gem03

You wanna know what's funny? He came back on Friday from Miami then we first talked on Saturday.

Him: "I miss you too"

Me: "Come see me you know my address"

Him: "Lol do you not care about the 14 day quarantine thing? I like you so I will stay away"

Sunday: I send him that wall of text being like lets take space and I'm letting go of my feelings

Monday: This man drives an hour, half blind from his eye appointment to come see me.

I let him come, I wanted the last time we hung out to be a decent memory. We cuddled and kissed. It was obvious he wanted to mend things and have me forget about taking space. Before he left I said those things in person to him so they are permanent and I am able to let go.

Like less than 24 hours ago you were concerned about the damned 14 day quarantine— WHAT happened

- Taking things for granted

- Not knowing what something means to you until it's gone.

- Being obvious to your own feelings or ignoring them.

Heart vs. Mind

- Motivation and attachment level

If someone is not interested or doesn't want to put in the effort that is ASKED for...actions speak louder then words yes?

If you don't learn how to value and maintain healthy relationships you want earlier in life then you learn the things above the hard way though lose later....Or grow jaded🙃

To be fair woman pull the same shit too. I know your just venting but I still want to point that out. No one is innocence of this.



That being said, what stood out to me regarding your story was him driving "...hour, half blind from his eye appointment to come see me." That isn't a normal action under those conditions. He obviously did care because that isn't a low effort action. The fact he did that and you still continued to break up means to me, the level of interest/attachment on your end wasn't stronger then the transgressions or your needs/expectations of him. I question your interest and desire for him in the first place. Most people would see that and give them another chance. Is this true or were their other things bothering you besides this?

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If you wanna entertain yourself with an emotional rollercoaster here's the FULL detailed story: https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/virgo/virgo-sun-moon-man-i-dont-know-what-to-do-14544917/?p=7

The gist is this:

We were friends for years. It started early 2020 we had a talking stage it didn’t work out so we stayed friends but we both had feelings for each other in October he told me he loved me and asked me if I loved him. I said no then a week later I cut him off bc it wasn’t going anywhere. He came back after 3 weeks of no contact. We stay somewhat more than friends, he says he isn’t ready for a relationship and he is a bit cold to me. But I let it be. Then in January 2021 he wanted to try talking again.

March 15: He asks me to be his girl i say yes

March 17: he takes it back, he wants to be left alone and says he isn’t ready.

(I didn’t do anything btw, we were cool even after March 15)

March 21: he is on a plane flying out to Miami with only 3 other female friends (Girl A,B,C). A trip he NEVER told me about.

He posts a pic of him and Girl A sitting close at a restaurant. I look at his insta and Girl A posted that same pic on her insta and tagged him. 1 of his closest friends commented “Fav couple”, another friend commented “BEAUTY AND THE BEAST”. I checked Girl B and Girl C's insta, they didn't have pictures with him there. Also he has female and male friends (which i have no problem with) but he has NEVER posted a pic like that and then SHE posts the same thing there. Like nah. All while him and I aren’t talking. I won't compete for a man. Also the most unattractive trait in a man is fickleness.

Last Friday he came back and hit me up. I replied on Saturday. He didn't even want to hang out with me. Him and I have a habit of sending flirty memes back and forth. Even that wasn't there like?

He has virgo sun+moon+mercury+venus with mars leo. I know what its like when an Earth sign man likes you. He won't go over the top or be dramatic. But you won't be able to question his feelings for you. In his gaze, his actions, and his words. Its all there. But this wasn't it.

When I chose to let go I sent him this on Sunday night:

"I thought about everything. More than my feelings for you, I truly appreciate you. You’ve been there for me when I needed you and without judgment.

I want you to be happy, be safe and 100% sure when/if you enter a relationship (be it me or anyone else). Issue is I fell for you, hard. Your heart isn’t into it and you have a major fear of commitment. While I want someone who is 100% all in with me. I will only enter a relationship if we are both all in. If not then its a useless title. You are not in a mindset where you can give me that and that is okay. That is valid.

My intent was never to force something. I didn’t pick up on how emotionally taxing it was for you.

Right now you and I want different things for ourselves. I remember how you brought up that you were worried i might hate you if things don’t work out. I am not upset or angry with you and I could never hate you. I want nothing more than for you to be happy. Honesty and communication go a long way with me. I’d like to think you’ve been honest with me and thats what I respect the most.

I just want you to know. If we find our way back to each other later on (10 weeks, a month or couple months)…in a relationship with each other or just as platonic friends, thats okay too. Im leaving the door open. There are exactly 3 people in my life I was able to open up to, you’re 1 of them. So, I’m hoping we do. For now I think both of us could use space from each other. Let me know what you think."

You: If we find our way back to each other later on, 10 weeks, a month or couple of months...

Him: omw

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You: If we find our way back to each other later on, 10 weeks, a month or couple of months...

Him: omw

LMFAO

But I wanted things to be easy and gentle. I am very emotional and sensitive. If I was ever invested in you which takes a LOT, I can't ice them out completely. Im not cold hearted (I wish I was).

Frankly if his heart was in it, he was ready, I could see us working out. But the sneaky shit he pulled and being fickle were the nails in the coffin.

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Posted by Gem03

You wanna know what's funny? He came back on Friday from Miami then we first talked on Saturday.

Him: "I miss you too"

Me: "Come see me you know my address"

Him: "Lol do you not care about the 14 day quarantine thing? I like you so I will stay away"

Sunday: I send him that wall of text being like lets take space and I'm letting go of my feelings

Monday: This man drives an hour, half blind from his eye appointment to come see me.

I let him come, I wanted the last time we hung out to be a decent memory. We cuddled and kissed. It was obvious he wanted to mend things and have me forget about taking space. Before he left I said those things in person to him so they are permanent and I am able to let go.

Like less than 24 hours ago you were concerned about the damned 14 day quarantine— WHAT happened

- Taking things for granted

- Not knowing what something means to you until it's gone.

- Being obvious to your own feelings or ignoring them.

Heart vs. Mind

- Motivation and attachment level

If someone is not interested or doesn't want to put in the effort that is ASKED for...actions speak louder then words yes?

If you don't learn how to value and maintain healthy relationships you want earlier in life then you learn the things above the hard way though lose later....Or grow jaded🙃

To be fair woman pull the same shit too. I know your just venting but I still want to point that out. No one is innocence of this.



That being said, what stood out to me regarding your story was him driving "...hour, half blind from his eye appointment to come see me." That isn't a normal action under those conditions. He obviously did care because that isn't a low effort action. The fact he did that and you still continued to break up means to me, the level of interest/attachment on your end wasn't stronger then the transgressions or your needs/expectations of him. I question your interest and desire for him in the first place. Most people would see that and give them another chance. Is this true or were their other things bothering you besides this?

If you wanna entertain yourself with an emotional rollercoaster here's the FULL detailed story: https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/virgo/virgo-sun-moon-man-i-dont-know-what-to-do-14544917/?p=7

The gist is this:

We were friends for years. It started early 2020 we had a talking stage it didn’t work out so we stayed friends but we both had feelings for each other in October he told me he loved me and asked me if I loved him. I said no then a week later I cut him off bc it wasn’t going anywhere. He came back after 3 weeks of no contact. We stay somewhat more than friends, he says he isn’t ready for a relationship and he is a bit cold to me. But I let it be. Then in January 2021 he wanted to try talking again.

March 15: He asks me to be his girl i say yes

March 17: he takes it back, he wants to be left alone and says he isn’t ready.

(I didn’t do anything btw, we were cool even after March 15)

March 21: he is on a plane flying out to Miami with only 3 other female friends (Girl A,B,C). A trip he NEVER told me about.

He posts a pic of him and Girl A sitting close at a restaurant. I look at his insta and Girl A posted that same pic on her insta and tagged him. 1 of his closest friends commented “Fav couple”, another friend commented “BEAUTY AND THE BEAST”. I checked Girl B and Girl C's insta, they didn't have pictures with him there. Also he has female and male friends (which i have no problem with) but he has NEVER posted a pic like that and then SHE posts the same thing there. Like nah. All while him and I aren’t talking. I won't compete for a man. Also the most unattractive trait in a man is fickleness.

Last Friday he came back and hit me up. I replied on Saturday. He didn't even want to hang out with me. Him and I have a habit of sending flirty memes back and forth. Even that wasn't there like?

He has virgo sun+moon+mercury+venus with mars leo. I know what its like when an Earth sign man likes you. He won't go over the top or be dramatic. But you won't be able to question his feelings for you. In his gaze, his actions, and his words. Its all there. But this wasn't it.

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Ya move on. Remember the qualities that attracted you to him then let him go. He isn't serious about you. Your final letter was legit btw👋👋👋

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Posted by Gem03

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Posted by Gem03

You wanna know what's funny? He came back on Friday from Miami then we first talked on Saturday.

Him: "I miss you too"

Me: "Come see me you know my address"

Him: "Lol do you not care about the 14 day quarantine thing? I like you so I will stay away"

Sunday: I send him that wall of text being like lets take space and I'm letting go of my feelings

Monday: This man drives an hour, half blind from his eye appointment to come see me.

I let him come, I wanted the last time we hung out to be a decent memory. We cuddled and kissed. It was obvious he wanted to mend things and have me forget about taking space. Before he left I said those things in person to him so they are permanent and I am able to let go.

Like less than 24 hours ago you were concerned about the damned 14 day quarantine— WHAT happened

- Taking things for granted

- Not knowing what something means to you until it's gone.

- Being obvious to your own feelings or ignoring them.

Heart vs. Mind

- Motivation and attachment level

If someone is not interested or doesn't want to put in the effort that is ASKED for...actions speak louder then words yes?

If you don't learn how to value and maintain healthy relationships you want earlier in life then you learn the things above the hard way though lose later....Or grow jaded🙃

To be fair woman pull the same shit too. I know your just venting but I still want to point that out. No one is innocence of this.



That being said, what stood out to me regarding your story was him driving "...hour, half blind from his eye appointment to come see me." That isn't a normal action under those conditions. He obviously did care because that isn't a low effort action. The fact he did that and you still continued to break up means to me, the level of interest/attachment on your end wasn't stronger then the transgressions or your needs/expectations of him. I question your interest and desire for him in the first place. Most people would see that and give them another chance. Is this true or were their other things bothering you besides this?

If you wanna entertain yourself with an emotional rollercoaster here's the FULL detailed story: https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/virgo/virgo-sun-moon-man-i-dont-know-what-to-do-14544917/?p=7

The gist is this:

We were friends for years. It started early 2020 we had a talking stage it didn’t work out so we stayed friends but we both had feelings for each other in October he told me he loved me and asked me if I loved him. I said no then a week later I cut him off bc it wasn’t going anywhere. He came back after 3 weeks of no contact. We stay somewhat more than friends, he says he isn’t ready for a relationship and he is a bit cold to me. But I let it be. Then in January 2021 he wanted to try talking again.

March 15: He asks me to be his girl i say yes

March 17: he takes it back, he wants to be left alone and says he isn’t ready.

(I didn’t do anything btw, we were cool even after March 15)

March 21: he is on a plane flying out to Miami with only 3 other female friends (Girl A,B,C). A trip he NEVER told me about.

He posts a pic of him and Girl A sitting close at a restaurant. I look at his insta and Girl A posted that same pic on her insta and tagged him. 1 of his closest friends commented “Fav couple”, another friend commented “BEAUTY AND THE BEAST”. I checked Girl B and Girl C's insta, they didn't have pictures with him there. Also he has female and male friends (which i have no problem with) but he has NEVER posted a pic like that and then SHE posts the same thing there. Like nah. All while him and I aren’t talking. I won't compete for a man. Also the most unattractive trait in a man is fickleness.

Last Friday he came back and hit me up. I replied on Saturday. He didn't even want to hang out with me. Him and I have a habit of sending flirty memes back and forth. Even that wasn't there like?

He has virgo sun+moon+mercury+venus with mars leo. I know what its like when an Earth sign man likes you. He won't go over the top or be dramatic. But you won't be able to question his feelings for you. In his gaze, his actions, and his words. Its all there. But this wasn't it.

Ya move on. Remember the qualities that attracted you to him then let him go. He isn't serious about you. Your final letter was legit btw.

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You wanna know what pisses me off he said shit like "Even without title you are my top priority", "Relationships when you are 22 are hard esp with someone who you know it will last with" (baiting me lol), "I do crave you but to an extent".

THE last virgo man I will be dealing with (romantically).

He didn't expect ME to let go bc since January I have been genuine, consistent, open to working out problems, acknowledging my mistakes if I make em, being loyal.

He wants to enjoy being single but keep me around bc he is comfortable with me. He broke it off not bc we were having problems but somewhere in his conscious he KNEW he couldn't be on a trip with 3 other single women by himself while he has a gf. I wouldn't allow it (both of us are possessive in relationships).

A part of me wanted to rip him a new one and be a toxic bitch but I was like no "Kill him with kindness and grace, I won't tarnish who I am by being toxic over a confused little boy".

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Posted by Gem03

You wanna know what's funny? He came back on Friday from Miami then we first talked on Saturday.

Him: "I miss you too"

Me: "Come see me you know my address"

Him: "Lol do you not care about the 14 day quarantine thing? I like you so I will stay away"

Sunday: I send him that wall of text being like lets take space and I'm letting go of my feelings

Monday: This man drives an hour, half blind from his eye appointment to come see me.

I let him come, I wanted the last time we hung out to be a decent memory. We cuddled and kissed. It was obvious he wanted to mend things and have me forget about taking space. Before he left I said those things in person to him so they are permanent and I am able to let go.

Like less than 24 hours ago you were concerned about the damned 14 day quarantine— WHAT happened

- Taking things for granted

- Not knowing what something means to you until it's gone.

- Being obvious to your own feelings or ignoring them.

Heart vs. Mind

- Motivation and attachment level

If someone is not interested or doesn't want to put in the effort that is ASKED for...actions speak louder then words yes?

If you don't learn how to value and maintain healthy relationships you want earlier in life then you learn the things above the hard way though lose later....Or grow jaded🙃

To be fair woman pull the same shit too. I know your just venting but I still want to point that out. No one is innocence of this.



That being said, what stood out to me regarding your story was him driving "...hour, half blind from his eye appointment to come see me." That isn't a normal action under those conditions. He obviously did care because that isn't a low effort action. The fact he did that and you still continued to break up means to me, the level of interest/attachment on your end wasn't stronger then the transgressions or your needs/expectations of him. I question your interest and desire for him in the first place. Most people would see that and give them another chance. Is this true or were their other things bothering you besides this?

If you wanna entertain yourself with an emotional rollercoaster here's the FULL detailed story: https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/virgo/virgo-sun-moon-man-i-dont-know-what-to-do-14544917/?p=7

The gist is this:

We were friends for years. It started early 2020 we had a talking stage it didn’t work out so we stayed friends but we both had feelings for each other in October he told me he loved me and asked me if I loved him. I said no then a week later I cut him off bc it wasn’t going anywhere. He came back after 3 weeks of no contact. We stay somewhat more than friends, he says he isn’t ready for a relationship and he is a bit cold to me. But I let it be. Then in January 2021 he wanted to try talking again.

March 15: He asks me to be his girl i say yes

March 17: he takes it back, he wants to be left alone and says he isn’t ready.

(I didn’t do anything btw, we were cool even after March 15)

March 21: he is on a plane flying out to Miami with only 3 other female friends (Girl A,B,C). A trip he NEVER told me about.

He posts a pic of him and Girl A sitting close at a restaurant. I look at his insta and Girl A posted that same pic on her insta and tagged him. 1 of his closest friends commented “Fav couple”, another friend commented “BEAUTY AND THE BEAST”. I checked Girl B and Girl C's insta, they didn't have pictures with him there. Also he has female and male friends (which i have no problem with) but he has NEVER posted a pic like that and then SHE posts the same thing there. Like nah. All while him and I aren’t talking. I won't compete for a man. Also the most unattractive trait in a man is fickleness.

Last Friday he came back and hit me up. I replied on Saturday. He didn't even want to hang out with me. Him and I have a habit of sending flirty memes back and forth. Even that wasn't there like?

He has virgo sun+moon+mercury+venus with mars leo. I know what its like when an Earth sign man likes you. He won't go over the top or be dramatic. But you won't be able to question his feelings for you. In his gaze, his actions, and his words. Its all there. But this wasn't it.

Ya move on. Remember the qualities that attracted you to him then let him go. He isn't serious about you. Your final letter was legit btw.

You wanna know what pisses me off he said shit like "Even without title you are my top priority", "Relationships when you are 22 are hard esp with someone who you know it will last with" (baiting me lol), "I do crave you but to an extent".

THE last virgo man I will be dealing with (romantically).

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Those are some great lines. Dude sounds charming as hell.

Stop generalizing sun signs please. It's not that simple and besides you have to consider the individual expressions and Most importantly maturity level. You said " 22" in the quotes. Your story is super common in that age range, for obvious reasons. Still learning about yourself and others. Reread what I said in the first part of my first post and take it to heart.

You made a good call dropping the relationship before things turned sour. No need to create hard feelings about it to justify your hurt feelings and power through the grieving process(the easy way).

It didn't work out. He wasn't serious about it romantically otherwise he would have been more attentive.

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You: If we find our way back to each other later on, 10 weeks, a month or couple of months...

Him: omw

LMFAO

But I wanted things to be easy and gentle. I am very emotional and sensitive. If I was ever invested in you which takes a LOT, I can't ice them out completely. Im not cold hearted (I wish I was).

Frankly if his heart was in it, he was ready, I could see us working out. But the sneaky shit he pulled and being fickle were the nails in the coffin.

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His heart wasn't in it. But his dick wanted to be.

I doubt he thinks this is the end and the last hangout. After your big ole speech about you cutting him off you let him come thru and cuddle on up.

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Posted by Gem03

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You: If we find our way back to each other later on, 10 weeks, a month or couple of months...

Him: omw

LMFAO

But I wanted things to be easy and gentle. I am very emotional and sensitive. If I was ever invested in you which takes a LOT, I can't ice them out completely. Im not cold hearted (I wish I was).

Frankly if his heart was in it, he was ready, I could see us working out. But the sneaky shit he pulled and being fickle were the nails in the coffin.

His heart wasn't in it. But his dick wanted to be.

I doubt he thinks this is the end and the last hangout. After your big ole speech about you cutting him off you let him come thru and cuddle on up.

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True, I am doing my best move on. I have an upcoming date this Sunday. I am meeting other people. Spending time with people who care about me. I think I was just drowning in him without a lifeline. I'm low-key happy I didn't let him hit. Never did anything sexual. I didn't want to. Also, I have a feeling he'll pursue the Girl A and see how it goes. He's most likely busy with his roster lol.

if he does hit me up after a couple weeks or months and goes "I'm free on this day" I'll probably be like "Oop I have a date that day" Welcome to my roster bitch 😛 jkjk (but not really).

When I let him come I was testing him tbh. He failed. I wanted to see if he meant the 14-day quarantine thing or was fucking with me. He was fucking with me lol. I wanted to sit back and see what he would do to keep me, he didn't do much tbh. My absence doesn't phase him, but his absence killed me. That ain't right so i was like you gave me the answer I needed.

I give chances, I really should stop that. I don't keep my options open when I talk to someone. I need to keep my roster until I have a title.

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You: If we find our way back to each other later on, 10 weeks, a month or couple of months...

Him: omw

LMFAO

But I wanted things to be easy and gentle. I am very emotional and sensitive. If I was ever invested in you which takes a LOT, I can't ice them out completely. Im not cold hearted (I wish I was).

Frankly if his heart was in it, he was ready, I could see us working out. But the sneaky shit he pulled and being fickle were the nails in the coffin.

His heart wasn't in it. But his dick wanted to be.

I doubt he thinks this is the end and the last hangout. After your big ole speech about you cutting him off you let him come thru and cuddle on up.

True, I am doing my best move on. I have an upcoming date this Sunday. I am meeting other people. Spending time with people who care about me. I think I was just drowning in him without a lifeline. I'm low-key happy I didn't let him hit. Never did anything sexual. I didn't want to. Also, I have a feeling he'll pursue the Girl A and see how it goes. He's most likely busy with his roster lol.

if he does hit me up after a couple weeks or months and goes "I'm free on this day" I'll probably be like "Oop I have a date that day" Welcome to my roster bitch 😛 jkjk (but not really).

When I let him come I was testing him tbh. He failed. I wanted to see if he meant the 14-day quarantine thing or was fucking with me. He was fucking with me lol. I wanted to sit back and see what he would do to keep me, he didn't do much tbh. My absence doesn't phase him, but his absence killed me. That ain't right so i was like you gave me the answer I needed.

I give chances, I really should stop that. I don't keep my options open when I talk to someone. I need to keep my roster until I have a title.

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Ultimately you are walking away with your dignity intact and having learned a little bit more about yourself and your boundaries. I call that a win.

These guys come into our lives for a purpose and a season.

The age excuse is bs too. If a man wants you he will move heaven and earth to be with you.

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Posted by LadyNeptune

You: If we find our way back to each other later on, 10 weeks, a month or couple of months...

Him: omw

LMFAO

But I wanted things to be easy and gentle. I am very emotional and sensitive. If I was ever invested in you which takes a LOT, I can't ice them out completely. Im not cold hearted (I wish I was).

Frankly if his heart was in it, he was ready, I could see us working out. But the sneaky shit he pulled and being fickle were the nails in the coffin.

His heart wasn't in it. But his dick wanted to be.

I doubt he thinks this is the end and the last hangout. After your big ole speech about you cutting him off you let him come thru and cuddle on up.

True, I am doing my best move on. I have an upcoming date this Sunday. I am meeting other people. Spending time with people who care about me. I think I was just drowning in him without a lifeline. I'm low-key happy I didn't let him hit. Never did anything sexual. I didn't want to. Also, I have a feeling he'll pursue the Girl A and see how it goes. He's most likely busy with his roster lol.

if he does hit me up after a couple weeks or months and goes "I'm free on this day" I'll probably be like "Oop I have a date that day" Welcome to my roster bitch 😛 jkjk (but not really).

When I let him come I was testing him tbh. He failed. I wanted to see if he meant the 14-day quarantine thing or was fucking with me. He was fucking with me lol. I wanted to sit back and see what he would do to keep me, he didn't do much tbh. My absence doesn't phase him, but his absence killed me. That ain't right so i was like you gave me the answer I needed.

I give chances, I really should stop that. I don't keep my options open when I talk to someone. I need to keep my roster until I have a title.

Ultimately you are walking away with your dignity intact and having learned a little bit more about yourself and your boundaries. I call that a win.

These guys come into our lives for a purpose and a season.

The age excuse is bs too. If a man wants you he will move heaven and earth to be with you.

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Facts, its not the first time a guy has told me he likes me and it won't be last. I know what it feels like when a guy has made up his mind about wanting to be with you.

I think this is the devil twin in me but my mind was made up about letting him go about 90% before I let him come over. Not 100% , I wanted him to put in a fraction of the effort I put in into making us work. What made it better was the eye appointment lol

The only way he could have fully reversed the situation was , be transparent about that picture why he posted it and why she posted it, why the comments from his friends. Tell me about the miami trip and why he didn't tell me about it beforehand. Thorough apology for being fickle with his commitment to me and throwing a tantrum when he broke it off after 2 days, making me think it was my fault. Take me out on a date and ask me out officially then post us on instagram and tag that bitch. Why? Bc I have a petty streak 🙂

None of that happened.

Posted by Gem03

You wanna know what's funny? He came back on Friday from Miami then we first talked on Saturday.

Him: "I miss you too"

Me: "Come see me you know my address"

Him: "Lol do you not care about the 14 day quarantine thing? I like you so I will stay away"

Sunday: I send him that wall of text being like lets take space and I'm letting go of my feelings

Monday: This man drives an hour, half blind from his eye appointment to come see me.

I let him come, I wanted the last time we hung out to be a decent memory. We cuddled and kissed. It was obvious he wanted to mend things and have me forget about taking space. Before he left I said those things in person to him so they are permanent and I am able to let go.

Like less than 24 hours ago you were concerned about the damned 14 day quarantine— WHAT happened

Lol so personal question “have y’all had sex already?

Posted by Gem03

When I chose to let go I sent him this on Sunday night:

"I thought about everything. More than my feelings for you, I truly appreciate you. You’ve been there for me when I needed you and without judgment.

I want you to be happy, be safe and 100% sure when/if you enter a relationship (be it me or anyone else). Issue is I fell for you, hard. Your heart isn’t into it and you have a major fear of commitment. While I want someone who is 100% all in with me. I will only enter a relationship if we are both all in. If not then its a useless title. You are not in a mindset where you can give me that and that is okay. That is valid.

My intent was never to force something. I didn’t pick up on how emotionally taxing it was for you.

Right now you and I want different things for ourselves. I remember how you brought up that you were worried i might hate you if things don’t work out. I am not upset or angry with you and I could never hate you. I want nothing more than for you to be happy. Honesty and communication go a long way with me. I’d like to think you’ve been honest with me and thats what I respect the most.

I just want you to know. If we find our way back to each other later on (10 weeks, a month or couple months)…in a relationship with each other or just as platonic friends, thats okay too. Im leaving the door open. There are exactly 3 people in my life I was able to open up to, you’re 1 of them. So, I’m hoping we do. For now I think both of us could use space from each other. Let me know what you think."

It’s like you think he read all that mushy shit.

He showed up because he wanted sex.

You risked covid for cuddles.

Sorry don’t think he’s really trying. You’re making it more than it is to validate your idealism

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Posted by Gem03

When I chose to let go I sent him this on Sunday night:

"I thought about everything. More than my feelings for you, I truly appreciate you. You’ve been there for me when I needed you and without judgment.

I want you to be happy, be safe and 100% sure when/if you enter a relationship (be it me or anyone else). Issue is I fell for you, hard. Your heart isn’t into it and you have a major fear of commitment. While I want someone who is 100% all in with me. I will only enter a relationship if we are both all in. If not then its a useless title. You are not in a mindset where you can give me that and that is okay. That is valid.

My intent was never to force something. I didn’t pick up on how emotionally taxing it was for you.

Right now you and I want different things for ourselves. I remember how you brought up that you were worried i might hate you if things don’t work out. I am not upset or angry with you and I could never hate you. I want nothing more than for you to be happy. Honesty and communication go a long way with me. I’d like to think you’ve been honest with me and thats what I respect the most.

I just want you to know. If we find our way back to each other later on (10 weeks, a month or couple months)…in a relationship with each other or just as platonic friends, thats okay too. Im leaving the door open. There are exactly 3 people in my life I was able to open up to, you’re 1 of them. So, I’m hoping we do. For now I think both of us could use space from each other. Let me know what you think."

It’s like you think he read all that mushy shit.

He showed up because he wanted sex.

You risked covid for cuddles.

Sorry don’t think he’s really trying. You’re making it more than it is to validate your idealism

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No....we never did anything sexual. He knows Id only have sex in a relationship. But he has spent the night at my place, I spent the night at his and nothing happened. We were seeing each other every week after we started talking in January. Also Im vaccinated so meh.

Also I know he wasn’t trying I literally said that, I wanted to see what hed do to keep me. But he didn’t do much (I literally said this in one of my posts just read)

I knew he wasn’t into me as I was into him so I peacefully let go.

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