@virgoOPPP
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be a good sport
my aries ex got back with his libra ex after bombing me online
and she can have her spoils coz she won fair and square
my high school leo bf got love letters from some annoying girl
he threw them away but why would i get mad over tributes to my beloved? lol
my taurus sun/taurus moon cousin cheated on her cancer ex with a gemini and sent him back the dog she got for their anniversary but can't really judge coz....
gemini won her affections
maybe it's my first house recognizing the spoils of war
but most men leave for uglier people statistically anyway.....
i had a point somewhere in all these i swear
Posted by bumboklattId always blame the cheater. Imo they hold more control over the situation.
i'd be so offended if someone told me i've been left
FOR A LOVE POTION
imagine you've been left over muffins
might as well die
Posted by virgoOPPPbut most men leave for uglier people statistically anyway.....
Posted by MetatronPosted by virgoOPPPbut most men leave for uglier people statistically anyway.....
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it's true
they've got those scientific articles about men (coz women level up) leaving their partners for people considered less attractive by conventional standards
just ask all the cancer women to confirm
also as someone whose once aspired to steal a boyfriend and sentimental asf enough to believe in instant connections....even if i'm the one in danger of loss, i can't ever really fault the 3rd wheel
Posted by virgoOPPPPosted by MetatronPosted by virgoOPPPbut most men leave for uglier people statistically anyway.....
it's true
they've got those scientific articles about men (coz women level up) leaving their partners for people considered less attractive by conventional standards
just ask all the cancer women to confirm
also as someone whose once aspired to steal a boyfriend and sentimental asf enough to believe in instant connections....even if i'm the one in danger of loss, i can't ever really fault the 3rd wheel
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Are there really studies that show men leave their partners for women that *they* are less physically/sexually attracted to? I mean I'm sure lots of people who've been dumped/cheated on, etc. tell themselves it that their ex has downgraded. And I've seen studies that purport to show that men are more interested in marriage with females who have less typically feminine features, and conversely studies that claim that women are happier wrt to feeling less pressure (particularly around dietary restrictions) with men considered less conventionally attractive....but these are really different issues...
Posted by AntiphatesIt's easier.
To accept that it was the SOs decision to potentially hurt you would mean to question the relationship even further than the situation often already demands. If however the main "villain" in the story is someone you don't really know or have a connection with the relationship can keep functioning mostly the same way it did before once the the "villain" has been removed.
In other words it's mostly just a cognitive trick.
yes this.
plus for people to blame the ex means that they chose an arsehole.
worse yet, to blame the ex meant that that person felt that you (the person cheated on) were inferior and as you have been left behind, logic states you are inferior.
that's not a comfortable conclusion to confront for anyone. it's much easier to say it was out of their control. it absolves the cheated on for any poor judgement and any suggestion that they might actually be not as good ("what do they have that i don't have?" etc)
Posted by MetatronPosted by virgoOPPPPosted by MetatronPosted by virgoOPPPbut most men leave for uglier people statistically anyway.....
it's true
they've got those scientific articles about men (coz women level up) leaving their partners for people considered less attractive by conventional standards
just ask all the cancer women to confirm
also as someone whose once aspired to steal a boyfriend and sentimental asf enough to believe in instant connections....even if i'm the one in danger of loss, i can't ever really fault the 3rd wheel
Are there really studies that show men leave their partners for women that *they* are less physically/sexually attracted to? I mean I'm sure lots of people who've been dumped/cheated on, etc. tell themselves it that they're ex has downgraded. And I've seen studies that purport to show that men are more interested in marriage with females who have less typically feminine features, and conversely studies that claim that women are happier wrt to feeling less pressure (particularly around dietary restrictions) with men considered less conventionally attractive....but these are really different issues...
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i'm talking about just looks though
not the complete package
Women blame the other woman because they aren't done with their cheating dude.
Jerry springer 101
Posted by tizianiAt the end of the day I think feminine ego will go to great lengths to see itself as all-accepting.
It changes with age of course.
+5000 mansplaining points for the day
the fact that i have.. quite an EGO actually helps me move on easier
why stay where i feel undesirable?
Posted by virgoOPPPhmmkay?
like why do you have to blame the other woman or guy all the time?
my uncle cheated on my aunt after 15 years
and my grandma says he was probably under a love potion
my capricorn's ex cheated on him after 11 years and he says:
"he must've brainwashed her"
how come the cheater's never at fault?
and these people are CAPRICORNS like whatever helps you sleep better
Yep, hold responsible those who committed to you, not some rando.
Posted by aquarius09Posted by virgoOPPPhmmkay?
like why do you have to blame the other woman or guy all the time?
my uncle cheated on my aunt after 15 years
and my grandma says he was probably under a love potion
my capricorn's ex cheated on him after 11 years and he says:
"he must've brainwashed her"
how come the cheater's never at fault?
and these people are CAPRICORNS like whatever helps you sleep better
Yep, hold responsible those who committed to you, not some rando.
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my grandma talking about love potion is so offensive
aren't they just made of coriander seeds?
i'd take: "you got fat" better than that crap
Posted by tizianiPosted by virgoOPPPPosted by tizianiAt the end of the day I think feminine ego will go to great lengths to see itself as all-accepting.
It changes with age of course.
+5000 mansplaining points for the day
the fact that i have.. quite an EGO actually helps me move on easier
why stay where i feel undesirable?
This could be an area where you are masculine. The whole topic is a pure guess on my part.
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yeah must be the first house lol
coz with my friends i can't get into the crucifixion of the 3rd wheel ever like i can say she's mean and controlling but i can't blame her
she's not my man... she's not management
you gotta karen over the proper authorities far as i'm concerned
Posted by virgoOPPPPosted by aquarius09Posted by virgoOPPPhmmkay?
like why do you have to blame the other woman or guy all the time?
my uncle cheated on my aunt after 15 years
and my grandma says he was probably under a love potion
my capricorn's ex cheated on him after 11 years and he says:
"he must've brainwashed her"
how come the cheater's never at fault?
and these people are CAPRICORNS like whatever helps you sleep better
Yep, hold responsible those who committed to you, not some rando.
my grandma talking about love potion is so offensive
aren't they just made of coriander seeds?
i'd take: "you got fat" better than that crap
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I think most people just like to play the blame game and they like blaming others because blaming their partner would necessitate that they come to terms with some cold hard truths like their partner is a insensitive, careless and a disrespectful degenerate. Most people love to play ostrich
if this man cheats on me
i will remember THE SPOILS OF WAR, WINNER TAKES ALL
was weak and could not secure you
i'll throw away the convenience store sandwiches
god and my grandma mentioned love potion over the dinner table
made me lose my appetite, so offended for my aunt
Posted by tizianiIf you're already scripting it in your head that's not a good sign.
oh no not me but just something i thought about when he keeps blaming the other guy
Posted by JamesWangas Johnny depp once said
If you like two women
Choose the first one
Coz the headaches are just as bad or maybe worse
Wait no that’s not his quote
Should have listened to me Johnny
he also skipped over the crazy-hot matrix....
Posted by FactCheckInstead of fixating on this, think about all the things you can get away with this guy who doesn't even talk bad about his hoor of an ex.
lol i'm only his 2nd gf..... ever
he expected to be married last march
yet i still get paranoid sometimes even though he spoils me
kittens was right, these cap men will spoil you
I feel like infidelity would be like stripping me from my freedom to choose too.
Just leave. I'll be fine.
Posted by tizianiPosted by virgoOPPPPosted by FactCheckInstead of fixating on this, think about all the things you can get away with this guy who doesn't even talk bad about his hoor of an ex.
lol i'm only his 2nd gf..... ever
he expected to be married last march
yet i still get paranoid sometimes even though he spoils me
kittens was right, these cap men will spoil you
And then you pre-emptively cheat on him out of paranoia that he'll do it to you first.
Holy shit.
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Posted by tizianiPosted by virgoOPPPPosted by tizianiPosted by virgoOPPPPosted by FactCheckInstead of fixating on this, think about all the things you can get away with this guy who doesn't even talk bad about his hoor of an ex.
lol i'm only his 2nd gf..... ever
he expected to be married last march
yet i still get paranoid sometimes even though he spoils me
kittens was right, these cap men will spoil you
And then you pre-emptively cheat on him out of paranoia that he'll do it to you first.
Holy shit.
😏
Either way, you gave me "the Frida Kahlo gambit" today. Which I'm stealing.
Gonna go read about her for the night.
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would've made more sense if gatsby turned out gay
turn of the century twist
watched The Other Woman with Cameron Diaz and thought it was gonna turn gay
these plots are more effective this way
Posted by tizianiPosted by virgoOPPPPosted by tizianiPosted by virgoOPPPPosted by tizianiPosted by virgoOPPPPosted by FactCheckInstead of fixating on this, think about all the things you can get away with this guy who doesn't even talk bad about his hoor of an ex.
lol i'm only his 2nd gf..... ever
he expected to be married last march
yet i still get paranoid sometimes even though he spoils me
kittens was right, these cap men will spoil you
And then you pre-emptively cheat on him out of paranoia that he'll do it to you first.
Holy shit.
😏
Either way, you gave me "the Frida Kahlo gambit" today. Which I'm stealing.
Gonna go read about her for the night.
would've made more sense if gatsby turned out gay
turn of the century twist
watched The Other Woman with Cameron Diaz and thought it was gonna turn gay
these plots are more effective this way
I've forgotten which way around it goes, but I think it was courtship that came first (invented in France or Florence??) and then later dating came about after the first World War. Right when that was written. @Antiphates will probably know.
It makes sense to me that a radical departure from courtship would blow wide open a vaccuum of nostalgia, for men and women to spend the rest of the century writing about homoerotic love without even realising.
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interesting now I feel like reading about that
will make some literary comparisons
Posted by SassysailorscoutPosted by aquarius09Posted by virgoOPPPPosted by aquarius09Posted by virgoOPPPhmmkay?
like why do you have to blame the other woman or guy all the time?
my uncle cheated on my aunt after 15 years
and my grandma says he was probably under a love potion
my capricorn's ex cheated on him after 11 years and he says:
"he must've brainwashed her"
how come the cheater's never at fault?
and these people are CAPRICORNS like whatever helps you sleep better
Yep, hold responsible those who committed to you, not some rando.
my grandma talking about love potion is so offensive
aren't they just made of coriander seeds?
i'd take: "you got fat" better than that crap
I think most people just like to play the blame game and they like blaming others because blaming their partner would necessitate that they come to terms with some cold hard truths like their partner is a insensitive, careless and a disrespectful degenerate. Most people love to play ostrich
Ohhh no your being logical again. Just let me live in my fantasy pleeeeaasseeee 🤗🙃
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LOL. I was telling my mom and bro about your last and this comment and they were laughing because a lot of people, including them, say this to me in real life.
I was dating this Taurus moon dude couple months back and I think he was blissfully ignorant about STIs. I told him about herpes and getting regularly checked and I think he resented me for it. He wished I never told him that. LOL.#poppingpeoplesbubblesince1986
Posted by SassysailorscoutPosted by aquarius09Posted by SassysailorscoutPosted by aquarius09Posted by virgoOPPPPosted by aquarius09Posted by virgoOPPPhmmkay?
like why do you have to blame the other woman or guy all the time?
my uncle cheated on my aunt after 15 years
and my grandma says he was probably under a love potion
my capricorn's ex cheated on him after 11 years and he says:
"he must've brainwashed her"
how come the cheater's never at fault?
and these people are CAPRICORNS like whatever helps you sleep better
Yep, hold responsible those who committed to you, not some rando.
my grandma talking about love potion is so offensive
aren't they just made of coriander seeds?
i'd take: "you got fat" better than that crap
I think most people just like to play the blame game and they like blaming others because blaming their partner would necessitate that they come to terms with some cold hard truths like their partner is a insensitive, careless and a disrespectful degenerate. Most people love to play ostrich
Ohhh no your being logical again. Just let me live in my fantasy pleeeeaasseeee 🤗🙃
LOL. I was telling my mom and bro about your last and this comment and they was laughing because a lot of people, including them, say this to me in real life.
I was dating this Taurus moon dude couple months back and I think he was blissfully ignorant about STIs. I told him about herpes and getting regularly checked and I think he resented me for it. He wished I never told him that. LOL.#poppingpeoplesbubblesince1986
Yayyy!!! Tell them I said hello !! They got a great brain on their hands !!
I would def come to you for real advice !!
I love your comments !! It makes me snap out of it and think for a few mins...
Rationality is super cool and sexy to me. The Virgo. 😃
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😘 thank you for your kind words. That’s the thing I like Virgos for, which is their appreciation for the aqua mind and the feeling is mutual. I respect Virgos for their analytical mind.
I’ve been lately snapping my Virgo dominant aunt out of her slumber lately and she legit said your comment to me like three days ago.
@FactCheck also i'm like his 2nd sexual experience... well we haven't even had sex yet but we will soon lol
and he wanted to get married like day 1
Posted by LynxPosted by virgoOPPPPosted by tizianiAt the end of the day I think feminine ego will go to great lengths to see itself as all-accepting.
It changes with age of course.
+5000 mansplaining points for the day
why stay where i feel undesirable?
I get this. I am also a 12 and 1st houser. Earth and air placements.
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you're a first houser too?
i just believe that people should be happy
and if he's not happy with me then that's just gonna make me unhappy
we should be with people we love and people who love us back
ya I don’t know if it’s a cultural thing but my dad is always telling me that women put secretions in drinks and foods to seduce a married/taken man including himself when he stepped out on my mom... like why not take responsibility that you’re a questionable person who should work on their morals/values and stop disrespecting a person whom you say you love —
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hmmkay?
like why do you have to blame the other woman or guy all the time?
my uncle cheated on my aunt after 15 years
and my grandma says "he was probably under a love potion"
my capricorn's ex cheated on him after 11 years and he says:
"he must've brainwashed her"
how come the cheater's never at fault?
and these people are CAPRICORNS like whatever helps you sleep better