Lovebombing 😑

I just looked up the word & still have no fucking clue what it means. it sounds like some shit high school girls talk about because they have no life. Anyone who is intrigued by love bombing has serious issues with self esteem

From wiki: "Excessive attention and affection does not constitute love bombing if there is no intent or pattern of further abuse."

You can call it love bombing only retrospectively, IF it was replaced by devaluation/abuse.

Otherwise consider yourself lucky 😉

Posted by TopSecret

Narcissists use love-bombing to hook their prey in.

It's disingenuous flattery at it's finest, and one has to be careful not to be snaked into it.

There is always an ulterior motive behind this behavior, with some being more sinister than others.

I guess it dosent work on me because I typically dont value people's replicated lines of flattery. To be intrigued by such of thing shows me a lack of personal esteem

Posted by nanorobot

A lot of unstable men do this. You’d think it’d be something a woman would do more, but I doubt that. Happened to me very recently, by a Virgo man no less.

Y i k e s

What did he say? did he try & love bomb u with his private parts

Hiding your feelings from someone who is receptive is a disingenuous act as well.

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I still struggle to understand how it works.

The easiest way to make me distrust someone is if that person kees praising me out of the blue and in ways that make no sense. Or is overall super nice to me.

You probably wouldn’t fall for it then. It can involve a lot of physical affection too, not just words.

Physical affection?

*hissing intensifies*

You’re invulnerable to the lovebomb then.

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Even to normal displays of affection :-)

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Posted by nanorobot

A lot of unstable men do this. You’d think it’d be something a woman would do more, but I doubt that. Happened to me very recently, by a Virgo man no less.

Y i k e s

What did he say? did he try & love bomb u with his private parts

He just sent me a message that said “I love you.” the other night. Yea, he actually did send me an unsolicited dick pic too after I told him that I did NOT want to see it. Now I’m not opening the messages and might block him. I don’t like crazy men, been there done that. I probably would have found it more funny like 10 years ago.

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I say take a peek. I've never heard of a dick pic killing anyone

Posted by Antiphates

I still struggle to understand how it works.

The easiest way to make me distrust someone is if that person kees praising me out of the blue and in ways that make no sense. Or is overall super nice to me.

it dosent make sense because its stupid

No idea about all these terms tbh but I agree with you, I can't take seriously anyone who flatters me gratuitously or become unreasonably attached towards me. I find such behaviour nonsensical.

As much as I want to try it because they say it works, I just don’t have the heart to do it in my real life. It’s easier to play around online with strangers because it’s safe.

I would feel extremely bad to love bomb someone in my real life if I had no intentions to be with them. I can see how it’s narcissistic. It’s kind of cruel to pretend to love someone and pretend to see a future with someone and not mean it.

The fact that it happens in the beginning of a relationship is strange that it even works on people. How can they possibly believe it?

I don’t have the time to love bomb because I would have to pay a lot of attention to the other person and then start ignoring them and making them feel bad.

It’s just not in my nature to play with someone’s emotions. So as much as I play around here online. I can’t do it in real life and wouldn’t want someone close to me affected by it. It’s easier to do things naturally and see how it works out.

Love bombing doesn’t work on me either cause I don’t like too much attention, it’s a turn off. I will automatically think something is wrong with the person if the come on too strong and start touching and telling me how much they love and miss me.

I had to cut loose an Aries guy that I met one time on a date, who started spamming me daily. I had to tell him I couldn’t give him the amount of time in a day that he needed so he had to move on. It was annoying and overwhelming.

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Posted by nanorobot

A lot of unstable men do this. You’d think it’d be something a woman would do more, but I doubt that. Happened to me very recently, by a Virgo man no less.

Y i k e s

What did he say? did he try & love bomb u with his private parts

He just sent me a message that said “I love you.” the other night. Yea, he actually did send me an unsolicited dick pic too after I told him that I did NOT want to see it. Now I’m not opening the messages and might block him. I don’t like crazy men, been there done that. I probably would have found it more funny like 10 years ago.

I say take a peek. I've never heard of a dick pic killing anyone

You Virgo men are gross, aren’t you 🖕🏼 Women aren’t as visual as men. I’d have to be really really into a guy to want to see his dick pix or else it does nothing for me but give me sexual harassment vibes 🥺

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a little sexual harassment never killed anyone

"lovebombing" is considered one of the 4 cycles that a person with NPD and BPD will do in a relationship. It is often used within support groups, as well as psychology material for those looking for, or seeking information.

It is also referred to as idealization as well.

To be specific on what "lovebombing" or "idealization" means, it usually is an over abundance or overboard amount of complementive actions/words in a short period of time that makes them appear to be the "perfect" spouse in the first few months of dating. Its excessive praise and flattery at its finest. It's like shooting up heroine for those that have codependency issues.

Posted by nikkistar

"lovebombing" is considered one of the 4 cycles that a person with NPD and BPD will do in a relationship. It is often used within support groups, as well as psychology material for those looking for, or seeking information.

It is also referred to as idealization as well.

To be specific on what "lovebombing" or "idealization" means, it usually is an over abundance or overboard amount of complementive actions/words in a short period of time that makes them appear to be the "perfect" spouse in the first few months of dating. Its excessive praise and flattery at its finest. It's like shooting up heroine for those that have codependency issues.

best explanation of all time

Posted by nikkistar

"lovebombing" is considered one of the 4 cycles that a person with NPD and BPD will do in a relationship. It is often used within support groups, as well as psychology material for those looking for, or seeking information.

It is also referred to as idealization as well.

To be specific on what "lovebombing" or "idealization" means, it usually is an over abundance or overboard amount of complementive actions/words in a short period of time that makes them appear to be the "perfect" spouse in the first few months of dating. Its excessive praise and flattery at its finest. It's like shooting up heroine for those that have codependency issues.

I honestly wasn’t aware of narcissistic NPD and BPD until you’d explained it to me in full a while ago.

Since that point it made so much sense and I w done quite a bit of reading and studying in order to understand what I’d experienced.

It’s absolutely scary how many people show NPD tendencies in their speech, actions and even text.

I’ve had to come to terms that some people I’ve cared for were very much showing clear and blatant signs of this condition. Now I feel better prepared to handle and understand how it’ll effect me and how to remove myself.

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Posted by nikkistar

"lovebombing" is considered one of the 4 cycles that a person with NPD and BPD will do in a relationship. It is often used within support groups, as well as psychology material for those looking for, or seeking information.

It is also referred to as idealization as well.

To be specific on what "lovebombing" or "idealization" means, it usually is an over abundance or overboard amount of complementive actions/words in a short period of time that makes them appear to be the "perfect" spouse in the first few months of dating. Its excessive praise and flattery at its finest. It's like shooting up heroine for those that have codependency issues.

I honestly wasn’t aware of narcissistic NPD and BPD until you’d explained it to me in full a while ago.

Since that point it made so much sense and I w done quite a bit of reading and studying in order to understand what I’d experienced.

It’s absolutely scary how many people show NPD tendencies in their speech, actions and even text.

I’ve had to come to terms that some people I’ve cared for were very much showing clear and blatant signs of this condition. Now I feel better prepared to handle and understand how it’ll effect me and how to remove myself.

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I read too damn much. lol

@CopperDove sends me some great informational pieces and things to read when we have our discussions about things that I am interested in learning about. Then I always find myself down a rabbit hole of reading as much educational information I can gather.

Funnily enough, a lot of people with BPD and NPD are typically misdiagnosed with bi-polar.