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Posted by virgoOPPPquit on this cap sun/pisces moon?
starting to think it's not gonna work out coz well.... all he ever does is work.
40 days is a long time.
Jesus would in 40 days.
i just can't believe that there are men out there that think material things are 'apologies' or would make up for the time and affection that their partners aren't receiving. and making me feel bad for wanting these things coz it's 'too teenager-y' for you is just gahhh. maybe i'm starting to understand why a pisces girl would cheat after 11 years.
defused bombs 😢
but idk maybe this is just one of my mood swings.
HELL NO!!!
It's the best entertainment I could find on dxpnet these days 😱 !
Posted by UndinePosted by virgoOPPPquit on this cap sun/pisces moon?
starting to think it's not gonna work out coz well.... all he ever does is work.
40 days is a long time.
Jesus would in 40 days.
i just can't believe that there are men out there that think material things are 'apologies' or would make up for the time and affection that their partners aren't receiving. and making me feel bad for wanting these things coz it's 'too teenager-y' for you is just gahhh. maybe i'm starting to understand why a pisces girl would cheat after 11 years.
defused bombs 😢
but idk maybe this is just one of my mood swings.
HELL NO!!!
It's the best entertainment I could find on dxpnet these days 😱 !
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how is this entertainment?
i'm sure as hell not having a great time
i've even told him that maybe we shouldn't meet up tomorrow or for the mean time in general actually
i don't know when i'll be pushed into ghosting but he himself feels like a ghost
feels like i've been bombed into thinking he'll always have time the first weeks
but now i see that was just a trick
DAY 40: ALREADY HAVING SECOND THOUGHTS.....😱
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what?
Posted by virgoOPPPPosted by UndinePosted by virgoOPPPquit on this cap sun/pisces moon?
starting to think it's not gonna work out coz well.... all he ever does is work.
40 days is a long time.
Jesus would in 40 days.
i just can't believe that there are men out there that think material things are 'apologies' or would make up for the time and affection that their partners aren't receiving. and making me feel bad for wanting these things coz it's 'too teenager-y' for you is just gahhh. maybe i'm starting to understand why a pisces girl would cheat after 11 years.
defused bombs 😢
but idk maybe this is just one of my mood swings.
HELL NO!!!
It's the best entertainment I could find on dxpnet these days 😱 !
how is this entertainment?
i'm sure as hell not having a great time
i've even told him that maybe we shouldn't meet up tomorrow or for the mean time in general actually
i don't know when i'll be pushed into ghosting but he himself feels like a ghost
feels like i've been bombed into thinking he'll always have time the first weeks
but now i see that was just a trick
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The drama!!! Oh, The Drama!!!
Posted by dilettantePosted by virgoOPPPPosted by dilettante🙄
what?
girl dont act like you dont know
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i really don't know
feels like i have good reason to quit tbh
Do you think this guy will start to act any differently any time soon?
If the answer is no, there's your answer
Why hasn't he tried to have sex with you by now......you're just a friend to him?
There were lots of red flags to begin with
Posted by UndinePosted by virgoOPPPPosted by UndinePosted by virgoOPPPquit on this cap sun/pisces moon?
starting to think it's not gonna work out coz well.... all he ever does is work.
40 days is a long time.
Jesus would in 40 days.
i just can't believe that there are men out there that think material things are 'apologies' or would make up for the time and affection that their partners aren't receiving. and making me feel bad for wanting these things coz it's 'too teenager-y' for you is just gahhh. maybe i'm starting to understand why a pisces girl would cheat after 11 years.
defused bombs 😢
but idk maybe this is just one of my mood swings.
HELL NO!!!
It's the best entertainment I could find on dxpnet these days 😱 !
how is this entertainment?
i'm sure as hell not having a great time
i've even told him that maybe we shouldn't meet up tomorrow or for the mean time in general actually
i don't know when i'll be pushed into ghosting but he himself feels like a ghost
feels like i've been bombed into thinking he'll always have time the first weeks
but now i see that was just a trick
The drama!!! Oh, The Drama!!!
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there is no drama, there's nothing
if i continue on with this, it'd be very half-hearted for me
i wish we're just business partners and didn't go this route
Posted by dilettantewhat if you are the one who is getting ghosted by the cap??
i'm pro-ghosting
even if it hurts, i'd be a good sport about it
Posted by MyStarsShineDo you think this guy will start to act any differently any time soon?
If the answer is no, there's your answer
Why hasn't he tried to have sex with you by now......you're just a friend to him?
he says he respects me and wants us to 'enjoy ourselves first'
says he'd rather go to theater with me than have sex immediately
so i interpreted that as: "we can't ever enjoy ourselves anymore after sex and i will continue to do my job. i will never spend time with you the way i first tricked you into thinking. i will send you gifts and money to compensate for this. exactly like your dad, sierra."
i got the message, alright
he's become way too rigid about his schedule lately
at first he seemed more open to compromise, but i can see now it was just at first
Posted by AntiphatesI would wait until this one has his hotel room suicide snooze where you have to kick in the door.
Would be a better social excuse for leaving.
that guy was in his apartment and we were just friends
see i hate making so much effort then feel like i've been tricked afterwards
Posted by RaminThought you like space. Liar.
i'm okay with chilling once a week
and i will text like 2x a week
but the rare times, i wanna hangout 2 TIMES in a week
you better give me that time
Posted by Nightcap-There were lots of red flags to begin with
he's almost perfect except for ONE THING
Posted by virgoOPPPPosted by MyStarsShineDo you think this guy will start to act any differently any time soon?
If the answer is no, there's your answer
Why hasn't he tried to have sex with you by now......you're just a friend to him?
he says he respects me and wants us to 'enjoy ourselves first'
says he'd rather go to theater with me than have sex immediately
so i interpreted that as: "we can't ever enjoy ourselves anymore after sex and i will continue to do my job. i will never spend time with you the way i first tricked you into thinking. i will send you gifts and money to compensate for this. exactly like your dad, sierra."
i got the message, alright
he's become way too rigid about his schedule lately
at first he seemed more open to compromise, but i can see now it was just at first
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He sounds boring and there's something not quite right about him? Is he a mummy's boy or too close to his family?
At least you've seen the light and can tell him "no thanks"
Before you walk away, say to him "nobody on their death bed said I wished I'd spent more time at the office"
Posted by AntiphatesPosted by virgoOPPPPosted by AntiphatesI would wait until this one has his hotel room suicide snooze where you have to kick in the door.
Would be a better social excuse for leaving.
that guy was in his apartment and we were just friends
see i hate making so much effort then feel like i've been tricked afterwards
I know but he was a Cap too wasn't he?
You can't enjoy something if you didn't put in effort tho.
That's simply how "value" works.
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oh noo that was a pisces sun/cap moon
to this day i don't feel like cultivating our friendship anymore
it's okay to be manipulative and dramatic
SO LONG AS IT DOESN'T INCONVENIENCE ME PERSONALLY
in any mental, emotional and spiritual form
Posted by virgoOPPPPosted by Nightcap-There were lots of red flags to begin with
he's almost perfect except for ONE THING
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Which one thing? The focus on work over you thing? The no sex yet thing? The only had one relationship for 11 years thing? The rush into marriage talk after a week thing? The smoke screening? Are you a First Houser or a mouse 🐭?! *Gives Cap pick-yourself-up-by-your-bootstraps speech* 😋
Posted by tizianiwhat happens to your business partnership? Is it easy to get out of?
i wanna continue it
we haven't joined our accounts yet (which we're supposed to do late february but since i'm upset with him, i don't know anymore)
if he reacts emotionally and calls the whole thing off, i'm actually gonna consider it a personal victory for my ego even if it's bad news business-wise
hell if i were another woman, i'd fake my happiness and just get on with it coz he promises the best of both worlds to me
but idk, maybe i'm having a mood swing
Once a workaholic, always a workaholic. They make very little time to enjoy the fruits of their labor. Trust me. Life is just too short to chase money 24/7 when you can't enjoy it 🤷Typically a dull boy and no fun. Stop wasting your time and let him go.
Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by virgoOPPPPosted by MyStarsShineDo you think this guy will start to act any differently any time soon?
If the answer is no, there's your answer
Why hasn't he tried to have sex with you by now......you're just a friend to him?
he says he respects me and wants us to 'enjoy ourselves first'
says he'd rather go to theater with me than have sex immediately
so i interpreted that as: "we can't ever enjoy ourselves anymore after sex and i will continue to do my job. i will never spend time with you the way i first tricked you into thinking. i will send you gifts and money to compensate for this. exactly like your dad, sierra."
i got the message, alright
he's become way too rigid about his schedule lately
at first he seemed more open to compromise, but i can see now it was just at first
He sounds boring and there's something not quite right about him? Is he a mummy's boy or too close to his family?
At least you've seen the light and can tell him "no thanks"
Before you walk away, say to him "nobody on their death bed said I wished I'd spent more time at the office"
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This! SMH
Posted by Nightcap-Posted by virgoOPPPPosted by Nightcap-There were lots of red flags to begin with
he's almost perfect except for ONE THING
Which one thing? The focus on work over you thing? The no sex yet thing? The only had one relationship for 11 years thing? The rush into marriage talk after a week thing? The smoke screening? Are you a First Houser or a mouse 🐭?! *Gives Cap pick-yourself-up-by-your-bootstraps speech* 😋click to expand
look i respect caps and their career ambitions but i did not expect the stereotypes to be SO TRUE
maybe it's coz he's only ever had that one girl for 11 years but he thinks all sex is babymaking sex (i wish to god i'm joking) but he's what you would think of as a mixture of a republican and a farmboy
the whole marriage thing is fine with me coz he's old-fashioned and it's a CULTURAL thing for us
is it coz i imagine he'll have sex with me like once a year?
not gonna lie, that's partly it
Posted by sweetpea2977Once a workaholic, always a workaholic. They make very little time to enjoy the fruits of their labor. Trust me. Life is just too short to chase money 24/7 when you can't enjoy it 🤷Typically a dull boy and no fun. Stop wasting your time and let him go.
This! 😀
yes
I was with a Virgo workaholic......years later he's still the same lol
I spent the majority of our relationship looking at the back of his head (he's a web designer).
One day our son said to me "who is this"? He was sitting at the computer typing with his back to me 😂
People rarely get over their addictive behaviour!
I dont know if you are experiencing these relationships every month in real life or it's all in ur head.
Either way, I would reccomend professional help. A start would be to love yourself & stop trying to find someone to love bomb you with fake cliche versions of what love means
Posted by MyStarsShineI was with a Virgo workaholic......years later he's still the same lol
I spent the majority of our relationship looking at the back of his head (he's a web designer).
One day our son said to me "who is this"? He was sitting at the computer typing with his back to me 😂
People rarely get over their addictive behaviour!
this is why i'm curious about exes
not coz i wanna find something to be jealous over
but to find what went wrong, who went wrong
and if a girl cheats on you after 11 years, what did you do?
i know it's a little mean to think that
but if you still can't understand that you have a way of making a girl feel undesirable even with all the material stuff you've been showering on her that she had to MAKE SURE to let you KNOW THAT SHE HAD SEX WITH SOMEONE ELSE..... even as you thought you've been so perfect the entire time.... maybe it's time to have a little self-reflection
Posted by 777I dont know if you are experiencing these relationships every month in real life or it's all in ur head.
Either way, I would reccomend professional help. A start would be to love yourself & stop trying to find someone to love bomb you with fake cliche versions of what love means
HAHA every month really?
hell i might stick around
just coz i'm pissed at people
the way i've been staying in my job so my aunt can't say crap
Posted by tizianiPosted by virgoOPPPhell i might stick around
just coz i'm pissed at people
the way i've been staying in my job so my aunt can't say crap
This is turning into the plot of Parade's End.
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lol haven't watched but now i'm curious
thinking back, it's only resentment that really helps me keep it together
tbh i wanted something to anchor me down
If you was fire women, he woulda been made a move.... lol. Nah seriously thou lol
Idk why even bother.
Caps and virgos dont go at all
Posted by tizianiPosted by virgoOPPPPosted by tizianiPosted by virgoOPPPhell i might stick around
just coz i'm pissed at people
the way i've been staying in my job so my aunt can't say crap
This is turning into the plot of Parade's End.
lol haven't watched but now i'm curious
thinking back, it's only resentment that really helps me keep it together
tbh i wanted something to anchor me down
I don't like period dramas, but Parade's End is damn good.
The husband and wife just see who can out-last one another in their marriage. He's perfectly aware she gets around and is sometimes seeing other men, but they both don't want to lose face by giving up the pretence of virtue in front of one another. Though there's a needless love triangle with another woman that added nothing to the story.
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damn now i'm gonna watch it
choosing this guy is like going for a sexless marriage with tons of money
similar to my original plan of marrying my aqua guy friend that i suspect is gay
but there's something emotionally-appealing about this capricorn... that i need
Posted by virgoOPPPPosted by MyStarsShineI was with a Virgo workaholic......years later he's still the same lol
I spent the majority of our relationship looking at the back of his head (he's a web designer).
One day our son said to me "who is this"? He was sitting at the computer typing with his back to me 😂
People rarely get over their addictive behaviour!
this is why i'm curious about exes
not coz i wanna find something to be jealous over
but to find what went wrong, who went wrong
and if a girl cheats on you after 11 years, what did you do?
i know it's a little mean to think that
but if you still can't understand that you have a way of making a girl feel undesirable even with all the material stuff you've been showering on her that she had to MAKE SURE to let you KNOW THAT SHE HAD SEX WITH SOMEONE ELSE..... even as you thought you've been so perfect the entire time.... maybe it's time to have a little self-reflection
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Maybe gift giving is his equivalent of a sex llfe 😬
We don't know anything about his sex life, so let's not assume the worst, just because they didn't have sex during the first 40 days!
There isn't another woman on the scene is there or at least on his mind?
it’s fair, quality time is very important to me and my gem knows that it sucks when we don’t have same days off and that he works long late hours but he really does fight for our time together
if your cap doesn’t and that’s important to you, I’d say move on or make it clear that it’s a must for you to be in a functioning relationship
even if it’s a mood swing, if it’s important it’ll continuously come back and make you question things
Posted by MyStarsShineThere isn't another woman on the scene is there or at least on his mind?
no
work is the other woman
Posted by maidenyou seem much more concerned about what you're getting out of this and not at all thinking about him.
all dxp projections aside... yeah it's a little odd, not the typical norm.. variables to be considered.
he's a cap.. who has given up time and resources..
he's a cap w a history of working too much, and even though it ruined a relationship for him.. guess how caps sort thru their emotions...?? ...work!
he's going to be a big picture thinker so in his mind if he doesn't see you 1x or 2x/ week this week, or next week, it's ok because his eye is on the entire life you may have together once he achieves some level at whatever he is doing.
but I think you should leave him be..Or/And if you do please respect him enough to tell him you're gonna walk away and don't just disappear..
From all you've written the guy hasn't done anything malicious or manipulative or consciously hurtful.
You are working yourself up into a tiff about what you're NOT getting.
Least you could do is leave him be, give him the respect of communicating that you're doing that..so he can work thru where he needs to be and maybe he'll marry someone who just takes him at his word and doesn't sit there thinking about the one or two immediate needs not currently being met
nope no malice
something else happened but i'd rather not say
i have expressed doubts about things with him
but i was vague and told him maybe it's best to not see each other for a while
Posted by maidenPosted by virgoOPPPPosted by maidenyou seem much more concerned about what you're getting out of this and not at all thinking about him.
all dxp projections aside... yeah it's a little odd, not the typical norm.. variables to be considered.
he's a cap.. who has given up time and resources..
he's a cap w a history of working too much, and even though it ruined a relationship for him.. guess how caps sort thru their emotions...?? ...work!
he's going to be a big picture thinker so in his mind if he doesn't see you 1x or 2x/ week this week, or next week, it's ok because his eye is on the entire life you may have together once he achieves some level at whatever he is doing.
but I think you should leave him be..Or/And if you do please respect him enough to tell him you're gonna walk away and don't just disappear..
From all you've written the guy hasn't done anything malicious or manipulative or consciously hurtful.
You are working yourself up into a tiff about what you're NOT getting.
Least you could do is leave him be, give him the respect of communicating that you're doing that..so he can work thru where he needs to be and maybe he'll marry someone who just takes him at his word and doesn't sit there thinking about the one or two immediate needs not currently being met
nope no malice
something else happened but i'd rather not say
i have expressed doubts about things with him
but i was vague and told him maybe it's best to not see each other for a while
what happened—?
what did he do when you said not to see each other for a while??
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i don't wanna say but it made me think that it's just not gonna work out in the long-term between us
trust me, he'd be very happy with me but.... i'm not sure i feel the same way
that's all i have to say about that
idk guess we'll see what happens
Posted by virgoOPPPPosted by dilettantePosted by virgoOPPPPosted by dilettante🙄
what?
girl dont act like you dont know
i really don't know
feels like i have good reason to quit tbh
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It’s day 40 of what? You’ve seen him in person some of those days, right?
Posted by saggurl88Posted by virgoOPPPPosted by dilettantePosted by virgoOPPPPosted by dilettante🙄
what?
girl dont act like you dont know
i really don't know
feels like i have good reason to quit tbh
It’s day 40 of what? You’ve seen him in person some of those days, right?
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yes of course
I take this thread is a sign u want me to keep hitting on you 💋
Posted by virgoOPPPPosted by saggurl88Posted by virgoOPPPPosted by dilettantePosted by virgoOPPPPosted by dilettante🙄
what?
girl dont act like you dont know
i really don't know
feels like i have good reason to quit tbh
It’s day 40 of what? You’ve seen him in person some of those days, right?
yes of course
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So if you’re seeing him, what’s the issue? He’s a man, he’s supposed to work.
Posted by AntiphatesPosted by virgoOPPPPosted by AntiphatesPosted by virgoOPPPPosted by AntiphatesI would wait until this one has his hotel room suicide snooze where you have to kick in the door.
Would be a better social excuse for leaving.
that guy was in his apartment and we were just friends
see i hate making so much effort then feel like i've been tricked afterwards
I know but he was a Cap too wasn't he?
You can't enjoy something if you didn't put in effort tho.
That's simply how "value" works.
oh noo that was a pisces sun/cap moon
to this day i don't feel like cultivating our friendship anymore
it's okay to be manipulative and dramatic
SO LONG AS IT DOESN'T INCONVENIENCE ME PERSONALLY
in any mental, emotional and spiritual form
But love is inconvenience by nature.
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he was just a friend
i cared about him as a friend
did not love him
i'm starting to watch it now and i am COMPLETELY on the wife's side
you caught on to exactly what's happening thank god someone does
Dude. Don't date anyone who has interests that are bigger than you. Fuck that
Posted by DevilThis is why no one likes Virgos.
Actually one of the best people I ever dated was a Virgo. He like literally gushed over me 24/7 banged all the time and listened to records. I didn't know charts back than...I wonder what his placements were. It ended cause I moved away
Posted by JamesWangI am the same minus the work
then that's even worse
coz then he'd have no excuse to be doing this
but then again, if he didn't work so much.... we won't have this problem
Posted by 777I take this thread is a sign u want me to keep hitting on you 💋
Ur cheating on me ?
Posted by JamesWangPosted by virgoOPPPPosted by JamesWangI am the same minus the work
then that's even worse
coz then he'd have no excuse to be doing this
but then again, if he didn't work so much.... we won't have this problem
Love language - giving gifts
Maybe yours is just different
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I forgot mine
though i like receiving gifts but not as much as i like giving them
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quit on this cap sun/pisces moon?
starting to think it's not gonna work out coz well.... all he ever does is work.
40 days is a long time.
Jesus would in 40 days.
i just can't believe that there are men out there that think material things are 'apologies' or would make up for the time and affection that their partners aren't receiving. and making me feel bad for wanting these things coz it's 'too teenager-y' for you is just gahhh. maybe i'm starting to understand why a pisces girl would cheat after 11 years.
defused bombs 😢
but idk maybe this is just one of my mood swings.