LadyNeptune
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Posted by LadyNeptuneThe dividing line between the women who chose scenario B and scenario C is becoming more distinct it seems. Obviously I'm not taking other factors into account (for the sake of discussion) and have been purposefully vague about the clitoral vs. vaginal dynamic.Posted by ChuckcemI haven't been getting notifications for your re-quotes, sigh. *shakes fist at duncanPosted by LadyNeptuneThat's part of what I'm poking at with these questions. I'm more interested in the nature of the decision rather than the answer itself. The answer however is still intriguing.
Honestly any of these senerios might bother me if our emotional bond doesn't feel secure. But if that's solid I'm not keeping score of whose getting off more.
This also doesn't account for the orgasms we'd get solo, plus any differences in libido.
How we both finish is less important to me then finishing to begin with. I need some variety though so we gotta keep switching it up. Routine is the kiss of death.
I will say I find it incredible sexy to be all about the other persons pleasure. And when he goes back to back it makes you feel super desirable.
I didn't ask about other orgasms because I'm focused more on the emotinoal connection and importance orgasms have between two people from the female mindset. Hence I'm not accounting for solo play. Also for the sake of discussion let's assume that both partners have matching libidos, just so we can remove that as a potential obstacle.
From what you're saying though, option B is more desirable because it's actually better than reality. At the same time you said that if the emotional connection was strong (which I left vague for a reason), you wouldn't care how many orgasms each person had. In which case would you be fine with scenario A?
Option B isn't more desirable. But its the option that is most realistic for most women.
Option C is of course the best. Who cares where the big finish happens as long as it happens right?!
I do care about how many orgasms we each have/share. I just wouldn't be keeping count or really stressing about the specifics if the relationship is solid. If I don't feel secure in the relationship I might get in my head a bit and start to wonder why he can only come from a bj. Is it me? Is he thinking of someone else? Am I not enough?? etc. etc.
Most women won't admit it, but its nearly impossible to orgasm from vaginal stimulation only. We need the clit love. So usually the big O happens prior to insertion during foreplay. I am able to get off during sex but only with positions that let me grind my clit into him. Otherwise it won't happen.click to expand
Though I thought it was widely accepted that many women generally don't climax as much vaginally, but do climax more often via clitoral stimulationm, no?
Posted by ChuckcemNot everyone is as woke as you.Posted by LadyNeptuneThe dividing line between the women who chose scenario B and scenario C is becoming more distinct it seems. Obviously I'm not taking other factors into account (for the sake of discussion) and have been purposefully vague about the clitoral vs. vaginal dynamic.Posted by ChuckcemI haven't been getting notifications for your re-quotes, sigh. *shakes fist at duncanPosted by LadyNeptuneThat's part of what I'm poking at with these questions. I'm more interested in the nature of the decision rather than the answer itself. The answer however is still intriguing.
Honestly any of these senerios might bother me if our emotional bond doesn't feel secure. But if that's solid I'm not keeping score of whose getting off more.
This also doesn't account for the orgasms we'd get solo, plus any differences in libido.
How we both finish is less important to me then finishing to begin with. I need some variety though so we gotta keep switching it up. Routine is the kiss of death.
I will say I find it incredible sexy to be all about the other persons pleasure. And when he goes back to back it makes you feel super desirable.
I didn't ask about other orgasms because I'm focused more on the emotinoal connection and importance orgasms have between two people from the female mindset. Hence I'm not accounting for solo play. Also for the sake of discussion let's assume that both partners have matching libidos, just so we can remove that as a potential obstacle.
From what you're saying though, option B is more desirable because it's actually better than reality. At the same time you said that if the emotional connection was strong (which I left vague for a reason), you wouldn't care how many orgasms each person had. In which case would you be fine with scenario A?
Option B isn't more desirable. But its the option that is most realistic for most women.
Option C is of course the best. Who cares where the big finish happens as long as it happens right?!
I do care about how many orgasms we each have/share. I just wouldn't be keeping count or really stressing about the specifics if the relationship is solid. If I don't feel secure in the relationship I might get in my head a bit and start to wonder why he can only come from a bj. Is it me? Is he thinking of someone else? Am I not enough?? etc. etc.
Most women won't admit it, but its nearly impossible to orgasm from vaginal stimulation only. We need the clit love. So usually the big O happens prior to insertion during foreplay. I am able to get off during sex but only with positions that let me grind my clit into him. Otherwise it won't happen.
Though I thought it was widely accepted that many women generally don't climax as much vaginally, but do climax more often via clitoral stimulationm, no?
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Posted by xXxBitcheroniiiXxXI believe this to be so true and knowing that men always orgasm, mine is more important. But at the same time I would never let him not. If I get mine, you are 310% getting yours.
Women and men are hardwired differently.
It's a well known fact that the typical man reaches orgasm faster and easier than the typical woman.
Therefore, my orgasm is more important to me. Not because I don't care about him getting off, but because I know he will. My orgasm isn't guaranteed.
Most guys know this too. Hence why (if he's a good lover) he'll be focused on getting his woman off first.
Posted by LadyNeptuneI appreciate the compliment, but seriously, I thought that clitoral stimulation/clitoral climaxing was common knowledge at this point. Granted I know a lot of kids are growing up on hardcore porn that doesn't emphasize that aspect at all, but that's still fairly surprising.Posted by ChuckcemNot everyone is as woke as you.Posted by LadyNeptuneThe dividing line between the women who chose scenario B and scenario C is becoming more distinct it seems. Obviously I'm not taking other factors into account (for the sake of discussion) and have been purposefully vague about the clitoral vs. vaginal dynamic.Posted by ChuckcemI haven't been getting notifications for your re-quotes, sigh. *shakes fist at duncanPosted by LadyNeptuneThat's part of what I'm poking at with these questions. I'm more interested in the nature of the decision rather than the answer itself. The answer however is still intriguing.
Honestly any of these senerios might bother me if our emotional bond doesn't feel secure. But if that's solid I'm not keeping score of whose getting off more.
This also doesn't account for the orgasms we'd get solo, plus any differences in libido.
How we both finish is less important to me then finishing to begin with. I need some variety though so we gotta keep switching it up. Routine is the kiss of death.
I will say I find it incredible sexy to be all about the other persons pleasure. And when he goes back to back it makes you feel super desirable.
I didn't ask about other orgasms because I'm focused more on the emotinoal connection and importance orgasms have between two people from the female mindset. Hence I'm not accounting for solo play. Also for the sake of discussion let's assume that both partners have matching libidos, just so we can remove that as a potential obstacle.
From what you're saying though, option B is more desirable because it's actually better than reality. At the same time you said that if the emotional connection was strong (which I left vague for a reason), you wouldn't care how many orgasms each person had. In which case would you be fine with scenario A?
Option B isn't more desirable. But its the option that is most realistic for most women.
Option C is of course the best. Who cares where the big finish happens as long as it happens right?!
I do care about how many orgasms we each have/share. I just wouldn't be keeping count or really stressing about the specifics if the relationship is solid. If I don't feel secure in the relationship I might get in my head a bit and start to wonder why he can only come from a bj. Is it me? Is he thinking of someone else? Am I not enough?? etc. etc.
Most women won't admit it, but its nearly impossible to orgasm from vaginal stimulation only. We need the clit love. So usually the big O happens prior to insertion during foreplay. I am able to get off during sex but only with positions that let me grind my clit into him. Otherwise it won't happen.
Though I thought it was widely accepted that many women generally don't climax as much vaginally, but do climax more often via clitoral stimulationm, no?
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Posted by EmotionalAriesSo are you going for scenario C or scenario A?Posted by xXxBitcheroniiiXxXI believe this to be so true and knowing that men always orgasm, mine is more important. But at the same time I would never let him not. If I get mine, you are 310% getting yours.
Women and men are hardwired differently.
It's a well known fact that the typical man reaches orgasm faster and easier than the typical woman.
Therefore, my orgasm is more important to me. Not because I don't care about him getting off, but because I know he will. My orgasm isn't guaranteed.
Most guys know this too. Hence why (if he's a good lover) he'll be focused on getting his woman off first.click to expand
Posted by ellesbellesWhich scenario would you prefer in that case?Posted by xXxBitcheroniiiXxXThis
Women and men are hardwired differently.
It's a well known fact that the typical man reaches orgasm faster and easier than the typical woman.
Therefore, my orgasm is more important to me. Not because I don't care about him getting off, but because I know he will. My orgasm isn't guaranteed.
Most guys know this too. Hence why (if he's a good lover) he'll be focused on getting his woman off first.click to expand
Posted by RooSagicornI had a VERY similar thought. I get the sense that if I asked for more information, there'd be some significant data that could be gleaned regarding how orgasms are perceived by women.
I would really like to know how many that chose B are in their 20’s.
I want to see the spreadsheet data when your done gathering info, sir 😛
Posted by ellesbellesRight, remember that this is hypothetical in a scenario where you might have not reached that point with your partner.Posted by ChuckcemI don't know.Posted by ellesbellesWhich scenario would you prefer in that case?Posted by xXxBitcheroniiiXxXThis
Women and men are hardwired differently.
It's a well known fact that the typical man reaches orgasm faster and easier than the typical woman.
Therefore, my orgasm is more important to me. Not because I don't care about him getting off, but because I know he will. My orgasm isn't guaranteed.
Most guys know this too. Hence why (if he's a good lover) he'll be focused on getting his woman off first.
I'm not in any of those circumstances and am pretty content with our sex life so it's hard for me to put myself in those scenarios.
We both orgasm each time....its part of our dynamic....always has been.
Doesn't matter who goes first or how many times.
If one of us didnt....i think we would be concerned and ask is something is wrong?click to expand
Posted by justagirlI think I would need more information such as age, # of partners, # of close partners, level of emotional connection, average number of climaxes etc. It would probably require more information than women would be willing to give on a public forum.
I want to see the spreadsheet data when your done gathering info, sir 😛
Then again I could probably run an anonymous poll, but would need to figure out how to incorporate that much detail.
Posted by RooSagicornYeah I didn't want to indundate the scenarios with too much detail to make them easier to answer.Posted by ChuckcemLol. It’s different at different ages. And well size of the guy, and attention paid for both sexes. Will she/he do oral? Is it all about the orgasm? Or about the experience? I didn’t have a vaginal orgasm til I was in my 30’s truthfully. So many factors! 😜Posted by RooSagicornI had a VERY similar thought. I get the sense that if I asked for more information, there'd be some significant data that could be gleaned regarding how orgasms are perceived by women.
I would really like to know how many that chose B are in their 20’s.
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Posted by ChuckcemLol you might get folks to answer.. but would it be truthful would be the real question.Posted by justagirlI think I would need more information such as age, # of partners, # of close partners, level of emotional connection, average number of climaxes etc. It would probably require more information than women would be willing to give on a public forum.
I want to see the spreadsheet data when your done gathering info, sir 😛
Then again I could probably run an anonymous poll, but would need to figure out how to incorporate that much detail.click to expand
Posted by justagirlRight, I think the truth comes easily when people are more comfortable. So that's the challenge.Posted by ChuckcemLol you might get folks to answer.. but would it be truthful would be the real question.Posted by justagirlI think I would need more information such as age, # of partners, # of close partners, level of emotional connection, average number of climaxes etc. It would probably require more information than women would be willing to give on a public forum.
I want to see the spreadsheet data when your done gathering info, sir 😛
Then again I could probably run an anonymous poll, but would need to figure out how to incorporate that much detail.click to expand
Posted by TerramineWell I'll be honest your response is coming out of left field. The intention behind this topic was to present women with a set of imperfect scenarios regarding their own orgasms. Since this can be an uncomfortable topic, I wanted to present the topic as a thought experiment. Thereby creating a means for discussion, learning, and understanding.
@Chuckcem
I know you originally asked women OP, but if I'm being frankly honest I'm at a point in life where I really want nothing to do with sex tbh. I joke about it sometimes but honestly I've been hurt too many times to the point of trauma, that it's borderline part of why I have PTSD.
I can't get intimate with someone unless they prove to me I can trust them. I can't give myself away to someone who won't consider what we do as sacred.
So for /my/ perspective, which is vastly atypical for a GUY to have. The "motives" for why I feel the way I do about sex as mentioned to Alicia, is that sex isn't even important to me at all. I could go my whole life without it. I'm not in an okay state of mind about the whole thing. People on here don't take true love very seriously. But the idea has always resonated with me naturally extremely deeply.
The topic was meant to illuminate the ideas that exist concerning the female orgasm (the purpose, mechanics, and ideas around it). It is no secret that the female orgasm is still misunderstood, considered taboo, and more difficult to attain. The topic was not designed to isolate/degrade men, but rather to rather give the female orgasm the spotlight. Anything else outside of that is stealing focus.
To effectively respond to what you've said though, I would need to make a different topic regarding the male orgasm and the effects that intimacy plays. I agree that there are some misconceptions about how manhood/male sexuality operate, but that's not the focus here. At the moment we digress and this digression only further cements the fact that a discussion about the female orgasm must take a backseat to male concerns.
That all being said. If you find that you can't feel intimate with your partner, then that means there's a lack of trust. If you don't trust your partner that either means she is untrustworthy or you have trust issues. If your partner can't be trusted, then you need to find a partner who can. If you simply have trust issues, you will need to work on our self esteem and paranoia.
If there's one thing that can be taken from the responses here, it's that women find enjoyment in their partner's enjoyment. While that does not mean that they will necessarily climax, they mostly prefer scenarios where they know that their partners can climax.
This means that your enjoyment is important to them. It means as a guy your lady considers your pleasure in context with her own. This means that while you don't want to be a "one minute man" you need to be comfortable climaxing with her if you want her to be emotionally comfortable with you.
As a guy you are the leader in the bedroom. Yes, women can dominate in the bedroom too, but you're the one who has the ability to penetrate her. You don't just penetrate a woman physically either. If you feel that your past trauma has made you paranoid, that must be addressed. When it comes to women (and life in general), it's a man's job to be emotionally strong.
How do you build inner strength? The same way you build inner strength, which is the same way coal turns into diamond. Strength is built through trial, error, and hardship. Pain is a part of life. Use that past trauma to make you stronger and not break you down. Everyone has a reasons to feel hurt and feel paranoid due to past trauma. Some people have gone through worse trauma than others, so I'm not discounting your personal experiences. However as a man, you have to find a way to work through that trauma and build from it.
Posted by TerramineI'm not sure how or why you're trying to make a topic about female orgasms about yourself.Posted by Chuckcem
Well I'll be honest your response is coming out of left field. The intention behind this topic was to present women with a set of imperfect scenarios regarding their own orgasms. Since this can be an uncomfortable topic, I wanted to present the topic as a thought experiment. Thereby creating a means for discussion, learning, and understanding.
Right but I think that makes my situation all the more interesting and relevant. Because im a man saying that even in the most positive context, I only accept the second option you presented. Because I don't care about sex on my end at all. I have higher priorities in life. Don't get me wrong, when I go there im an extremely sexual being and when in a relationship I spew sexual innuendos and seduce my lover like all the fucking time and I can fuck the ever living shit out of them. But that's just how Scorpio Mars goes. Hot and cold, black and white.
I guess the point ultimately is, I don't think any man should want the former option either. Because those are the retards that can't last longer than 20s and are so egotistical and narcissistic as to think they are "the best" at sex when really they are the sex equivalent of clinically retarded.The topic was meant to illuminate the ideas that exist concerning the female orgasm (the purpose, mechanics, and ideas around it). It is no secret that the female orgasm is still misunderstood, considered taboo, and more difficult to attain.
Except it's NOT a mystery. We know how female biology works, including orgasms. It's actually no different from men, the answer is Stimulation. But in order for you to "stimulate" you have to make use of the whole flesh smorgasbord "down there". If you know what I mean. From everything outside, to stimulating everything inside. It's actually really not that hard for a man to know how to make a woman climax. It's simple fucking science.The topic was not designed to isolate/degrade men, but rather to rather give the female orgasm the spotlight. Anything else outside of that is stealing focus.
Yet I WOULD isolate and degrade the men who don't enforce option 2 and if you see above, everything I am saying IS fulfilling the point of focusing on the female orgasm by presenting the case that the second option is the only one that is valid. As a parallel. Because option 1 is just a man busting a nut as fast as possible and the women tolerating that because they don't know any better.click to expand
Posted by TerramineSeriously. The topic is directed toward women about their orgasms. I'm not sure how you're not getting this.Posted by Chuckcem
I'm not sure how or why you're trying to make a topic about female orgasms about yourself.
I don't see how I am? No 1 person defines a whole topic, unless everybody decides of their own free will to focus on what that 1 individual says. Other people post here. You don't see why /I/ post about /me/ in relation to the female orgasm? Why the fuck would I post in a topic, if I wasn't going to put /my/ perspective and /my/ thoughts and ideas into the matter? What idiot is trying to speak on someone's behalf other than his own?click to expand
Posted by Chuckcem
Been a while since I've posted here, so here's a thought experiment. Forgive me if this has already been done.
Ladies, what is more important, your orgasm or your partner's orgasm? To give more perspective, assume your partner is someone you're possibly interested in and not a one time fling/random hookup. There are three questions.
First let's say that you had the option between two scenarios. In scenario A you orgasm multiple times, but your partner rarely orgasms at all (they orgasm 1 in 7 times). In scenario B you have a partner who is guaranteed to climax at least once, but you may not climax with them (you climax 1 in 4 times). Which scenario would you prefer between A or B and why?
Second let's say that there is another partner, scenario C, who only climaxes via oral sex. In this scenario you know you'll reach orgasm once or twice with this partner. Would that feel like a compromise between scenario A and B? Would it bother you that this partner's method to climax was never vaginal? Would it make you feel self-conscious at all?
Lastly, which partner would you honestly feel the most connection with in the bedroom?
(This question is open to all women of all sexual preferences. Be sure to throw in your Sun, Venus, and Mars for fun.)
Mmm delicious... sun taurus, venus gemini, mars Aquarius... ok so if I have to choose, it would be the A... as long as my partner stays hard and content throughout the act and truly enjoy having sex with me ( that never happens in my life when a man doesn't oegasm lol.. ever !!! Pfff) but yes, if maybe we can fit C after wards... so after I orgasm 2-3 times, I go on and give him oral so he can finish it off. Perfect 😉 hahaha but right now, I'm happy with my sex life. He let me orgasm 2-3 times then he finishes. The best part is I'm more of a deep sexual passion sex so he gives me that and then I orgasm and at the end I finish it off with some more rough sex for him. So it's a win win for both of us.'man that was good hahahaha !!! But Leo, keep doing what u r doing, u guys r passionate soul.
@Op. the Aqua has changed how much I can orgasm. I used to b happy and content with one orgasm and finishing together with my partner. But since him he isn't satisfied with just one orgasm from me. So he wants more n more... but there are times when I orgasm 3 times and something happened and he didn't.. ( some interruption) and he's ok with it..it's like pleasing me was enough to satisfy him n he said he didn't have to orgasm all the time.( that happened once or twice) and at the end I didn't feel unloved or anything ... but maybe if it happens all the time I may doubt if he does not feel good inside me or wharvee... so I prob won't want that all the time
Posted by saweetz1988Got it, in scenario A assume that the guy only climaxes once every 7 sessions. It sounds like ultimately you would be more inclined to go with scenario C to ensure that he climaxed every session correct?Posted by Chuckcem
Been a while since I've posted here, so here's a thought experiment. Forgive me if this has already been done.
Ladies, what is more important, your orgasm or your partner's orgasm? To give more perspective, assume your partner is someone you're possibly interested in and not a one time fling/random hookup. There are three questions.
First let's say that you had the option between two scenarios. In scenario A you orgasm multiple times, but your partner rarely orgasms at all (they orgasm 1 in 7 times). In scenario B you have a partner who is guaranteed to climax at least once, but you may not climax with them (you climax 1 in 4 times). Which scenario would you prefer between A or B and why?
Second let's say that there is another partner, scenario C, who only climaxes via oral sex. In this scenario you know you'll reach orgasm once or twice with this partner. Would that feel like a compromise between scenario A and B? Would it bother you that this partner's method to climax was never vaginal? Would it make you feel self-conscious at all?
Lastly, which partner would you honestly feel the most connection with in the bedroom?
(This question is open to all women of all sexual preferences. Be sure to throw in your Sun, Venus, and Mars for fun.)
Mmm delicious... sun taurus, venus gemini, mars Aquarius... ok so if I have to choose, it would be the A... as long as my partner stays hard and content throughout the act and truly enjoy having sex with me ( that never happens in my life when a man doesn't oegasm lol.. ever !!! Pfff) but yes, if maybe we can fit C after wards... so after I orgasm 2-3 times, I go on and give him oral so he can finish it off. Perfect 😉 hahaha but right now, I'm happy with my sex life. He let me orgasm 2-3 times then he finishes. The best part is I'm more of a deep sexual passion sex so he gives me that and then I orgasm and at the end I finish it off with some more rough sex for him. So it's a win win for both of us.'man that was good hahahaha !!! But Leo, keep doing what u r doing, u guys r passionate soul.
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Posted by xXxBitcheroniiiXxX
Women and men are hardwired differently.
It's a well known fact that the typical man reaches orgasm faster and easier than the typical woman.
Therefore, my orgasm is more important to me. Not because I don't care about him getting off, but because I know he will. My orgasm isn't guaranteed.
Most guys know this too. Hence why (if he's a good lover) he'll be focused on getting his woman off first.
This thread has 9 pages and over 100 replies ...I only read the second answer and I still know this is the BEST answer of the thread ...you won ...thread over 😆
Posted by TerramineCan and did. Let us know when you're done lecturing us all on your orgasms and everyone else's orgasms.Posted by Chuckcem
Seriously. The topic is directed toward women about their orgasms. I'm not sure how you're not getting this.
You can't make a topic directed at one sex. You can make a topic ABOUT one sex. But you can't literally make a topic to orient it towards 1 kind of respondent. You clearly have no idea how internet forums work. The whole point is that as long as the posts are ON TOPIC anyone can post.
Which they totally are, I'm talking about orgams and how only the woman's orgasms really matter. The fact that you are fighting this, just proves your real intentions. It was obvious when you tried to make orgasms out to be "oh so elusive" and whatnot. Making it clear that YOU suck at getting women off. This is further compounded by you being bothered by me asserting that only option number 2 is valid. Because you want to justify why you get to make sex all about YOU. You are a Leo after all.
There's no way around this, the man's orgasm doesn't matter. A woman can multiorgasm, a man is biologically incapable of it. We have what's called the refractory period. It only lasts a few minutes but it takes a lot of energy out of you and stops the sexual flow. The only thing we can change on our end, is when we have that orgasm. So it makes vastly more sense to just appreciate the stimulation on our end, rather than the orgasm, so that women can have vastly more pleasure.
It's not fair otherwise.click to expand
Posted by TerraminePosted by Cancan26
This thread has 9 pages and over 100 replies ...I only read the second answer and I still know this is the BEST answer of the thread ...you won ...thread over 😆
No she didn't, because she's wrong about men. Men and women are wired exactly the same, sans the refractory period men experience. But I'm pretty sure that's to incentivize the man to avoid orgasm so he can enjoy a less intense but longer lasting constant pleasure.
Otherwise, you trigger an orgasm in a woman the same way you trigger an orgasm in a man. You're just dealing with a different geometry in the biology.click to expand
But we aren't talking about the biology we are talking about the fact that most women are taught in society to put their own needs 2nd ...I totally agree with her answer but I almost responded with the answer that would have put my needs last even though thats not what I wanted ....I said she won ...cause she was honest about what she wanted ...thats why her post has 8 likes ...
Posted by saweetz1988Got it, so it definitely falls somewhere within the realms of A and C for you then. That's pretty interesting.
@Op. the Aqua has changed how much I can orgasm. I used to b happy and content with one orgasm and finishing together with my partner. But since him he isn't satisfied with just one orgasm from me. So he wants more n more... but there are times when I orgasm 3 times and something happened and he didn't.. ( some interruption) and he's ok with it..it's like pleasing me was enough to satisfy him n he said he didn't have to orgasm all the time.( that happened once or twice) and at the end I didn't feel unloved or anything ... but maybe if it happens all the time I may doubt if he does not feel good inside me or wharvee... so I prob won't want that all the time
Posted by TerramineWhy would I report you? You're clearly just here for attention. You're the only guy whining that there is a topic geared towards women.Posted by Chuckcem
Can and did.
Can't, and didn't. Try and report me. I'm allowed to be here.click to expand
Posted by TerramineHow can you be schoolin' me when you've been talking about your orgasms this whole time....in a topic about female orgasms...and the choices WOMEN would make concerning themselves. I'm literally not interested in your thoughts because you're not a woman and therefore do not have a woman's mindset.Posted by Chuckcem
Why would I report you? You're clearly just here for attention. You're the only guy whining that there is a topic geared towards women.
Correction, you're the one whining when you didn't get your leo ego stroked by getting to talk to a horde of women about their sexuality all by yourself.
You just don't like the fact that another man is here to one up you on schoolin bout the female orgasm. So suck it, chode.click to expand
Posted by ariesnoSo then would you choose Scenario C?
Both. I want to orgasm, but it’s no fun if I’m the only one that gets to.
Posted by ChuckcemMmmm once every 7 sessions isn't too bad... as long as I get to finish it off 2-3 times then I won't complain.. hehe but he needs to stay hard the entire act though... but no, I won't choose the C... I will go with A . I love and enjoy giving men oral sex but I won't do it everytime untill he orgasm.. but again, that depends on how long I need to do it for.. if it's 5 mins 'it's ok lol ..Posted by saweetz1988Got it, in scenario A assume that the guy only climaxes once every 7 sessions. It sounds like ultimately you would be more inclined to go with scenario C to ensure that he climaxed every session correct?Posted by Chuckcem
Been a while since I've posted here, so here's a thought experiment. Forgive me if this has already been done.
Ladies, what is more important, your orgasm or your partner's orgasm? To give more perspective, assume your partner is someone you're possibly interested in and not a one time fling/random hookup. There are three questions.
First let's say that you had the option between two scenarios. In scenario A you orgasm multiple times, but your partner rarely orgasms at all (they orgasm 1 in 7 times). In scenario B you have a partner who is guaranteed to climax at least once, but you may not climax with them (you climax 1 in 4 times). Which scenario would you prefer between A or B and why?
Second let's say that there is another partner, scenario C, who only climaxes via oral sex. In this scenario you know you'll reach orgasm once or twice with this partner. Would that feel like a compromise between scenario A and B? Would it bother you that this partner's method to climax was never vaginal? Would it make you feel self-conscious at all?
Lastly, which partner would you honestly feel the most connection with in the bedroom?
(This question is open to all women of all sexual preferences. Be sure to throw in your Sun, Venus, and Mars for fun.)
Mmm delicious... sun taurus, venus gemini, mars Aquarius... ok so if I have to choose, it would be the A... as long as my partner stays hard and content throughout the act and truly enjoy having sex with me ( that never happens in my life when a man doesn't oegasm lol.. ever !!! Pfff) but yes, if maybe we can fit C after wards... so after I orgasm 2-3 times, I go on and give him oral so he can finish it off. Perfect 😉 hahaha but right now, I'm happy with my sex life. He let me orgasm 2-3 times then he finishes. The best part is I'm more of a deep sexual passion sex so he gives me that and then I orgasm and at the end I finish it off with some more rough sex for him. So it's a win win for both of us.'man that was good hahahaha !!! But Leo, keep doing what u r doing, u guys r passionate soul.
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Posted by ChuckcemHahaha yeah I am pretty much on making sure I orgasm ... if he's happy that I'm happy then I'm happy that he's happy. Win win LoLPosted by saweetz1988Got it, so it definitely falls somewhere within the realms of A and C for you then. That's pretty interesting.
@Op. the Aqua has changed how much I can orgasm. I used to b happy and content with one orgasm and finishing together with my partner. But since him he isn't satisfied with just one orgasm from me. So he wants more n more... but there are times when I orgasm 3 times and something happened and he didn't.. ( some interruption) and he's ok with it..it's like pleasing me was enough to satisfy him n he said he didn't have to orgasm all the time.( that happened once or twice) and at the end I didn't feel unloved or anything ... but maybe if it happens all the time I may doubt if he does not feel good inside me or wharvee... so I prob won't want that all the timeclick to expand
Posted by saweetz1988Pretty sure the rationale behind Scenario A is the most diverse thus far.Posted by ChuckcemMmmm once every 7 sessions isn't too bad... as long as I get to finish it off 2-3 times then I won't complain.. hehe but he needs to stay hard the entire act though... but no, I won't choose the C... I will go with A . I love and enjoy giving men oral sex but I won't do it everytime untill he orgasm.. but again, that depends on how long I need to do it for.. if it's 5 mins 'it's ok lol ..Posted by saweetz1988Got it, in scenario A assume that the guy only climaxes once every 7 sessions. It sounds like ultimately you would be more inclined to go with scenario C to ensure that he climaxed every session correct?Posted by Chuckcem
Been a while since I've posted here, so here's a thought experiment. Forgive me if this has already been done.
Ladies, what is more important, your orgasm or your partner's orgasm? To give more perspective, assume your partner is someone you're possibly interested in and not a one time fling/random hookup. There are three questions.
First let's say that you had the option between two scenarios. In scenario A you orgasm multiple times, but your partner rarely orgasms at all (they orgasm 1 in 7 times). In scenario B you have a partner who is guaranteed to climax at least once, but you may not climax with them (you climax 1 in 4 times). Which scenario would you prefer between A or B and why?
Second let's say that there is another partner, scenario C, who only climaxes via oral sex. In this scenario you know you'll reach orgasm once or twice with this partner. Would that feel like a compromise between scenario A and B? Would it bother you that this partner's method to climax was never vaginal? Would it make you feel self-conscious at all?
Lastly, which partner would you honestly feel the most connection with in the bedroom?
(This question is open to all women of all sexual preferences. Be sure to throw in your Sun, Venus, and Mars for fun.)
Mmm delicious... sun taurus, venus gemini, mars Aquarius... ok so if I have to choose, it would be the A... as long as my partner stays hard and content throughout the act and truly enjoy having sex with me ( that never happens in my life when a man doesn't oegasm lol.. ever !!! Pfff) but yes, if maybe we can fit C after wards... so after I orgasm 2-3 times, I go on and give him oral so he can finish it off. Perfect 😉 hahaha but right now, I'm happy with my sex life. He let me orgasm 2-3 times then he finishes. The best part is I'm more of a deep sexual passion sex so he gives me that and then I orgasm and at the end I finish it off with some more rough sex for him. So it's a win win for both of us.'man that was good hahahaha !!! But Leo, keep doing what u r doing, u guys r passionate soul.
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Posted by ChuckcemMany women I know don't like giving oral sex or don't give it at all. So consider that too.Posted by ariesnoSo then would you choose Scenario C?
Both. I want to orgasm, but it’s no fun if I’m the only one that gets to.click to expand
Posted by ChuckcemPosted by saweetz1988Pretty sure the rationale behind Scenario A is the most diverse thus far.Posted by ChuckcemMmmm once every 7 sessions isn't too bad... as long as I get to finish it off 2-3 times then I won't complain.. hehe but he needs to stay hard the entire act though... but no, I won't choose the C... I will go with A . I love and enjoy giving men oral sex but I won't do it everytime untill he orgasm.. but again, that depends on how long I need to do it for.. if it's 5 mins 'it's ok lol ..Posted by saweetz1988Got it, in scenario A assume that the guy only climaxes once every 7 sessions. It sounds like ultimately you would be more inclined to go with scenario C to ensure that he climaxed every session correct?Posted by Chuckcem
Been a while since I've posted here, so here's a thought experiment. Forgive me if this has already been done.
Ladies, what is more important, your orgasm or your partner's orgasm? To give more perspective, assume your partner is someone you're possibly interested in and not a one time fling/random hookup. There are three questions.
First let's say that you had the option between two scenarios. In scenario A you orgasm multiple times, but your partner rarely orgasms at all (they orgasm 1 in 7 times). In scenario B you have a partner who is guaranteed to climax at least once, but you may not climax with them (you climax 1 in 4 times). Which scenario would you prefer between A or B and why?
Second let's say that there is another partner, scenario C, who only climaxes via oral sex. In this scenario you know you'll reach orgasm once or twice with this partner. Would that feel like a compromise between scenario A and B? Would it bother you that this partner's method to climax was never vaginal? Would it make you feel self-conscious at all?
Lastly, which partner would you honestly feel the most connection with in the bedroom?
(This question is open to all women of all sexual preferences. Be sure to throw in your Sun, Venus, and Mars for fun.)
Mmm delicious... sun taurus, venus gemini, mars Aquarius... ok so if I have to choose, it would be the A... as long as my partner stays hard and content throughout the act and truly enjoy having sex with me ( that never happens in my life when a man doesn't oegasm lol.. ever !!! Pfff) but yes, if maybe we can fit C after wards... so after I orgasm 2-3 times, I go on and give him oral so he can finish it off. Perfect 😉 hahaha but right now, I'm happy with my sex life. He let me orgasm 2-3 times then he finishes. The best part is I'm more of a deep sexual passion sex so he gives me that and then I orgasm and at the end I finish it off with some more rough sex for him. So it's a win win for both of us.'man that was good hahahaha !!! But Leo, keep doing what u r doing, u guys r passionate soul.
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Posted by saweetz1988While the Bs want to please their partners and the Cs want equality the As seems to have varying motivations. The As clearly want their orgasms, but so do the Bs and Cs. Beyond that the As preferences appear to be more characterized by personal relationships.Posted by ChuckcemPosted by saweetz1988Pretty sure the rationale behind Scenario A is the most diverse thus far.Posted by ChuckcemMmmm once every 7 sessions isn't too bad... as long as I get to finish it off 2-3 times then I won't complain.. hehe but he needs to stay hard the entire act though... but no, I won't choose the C... I will go with A . I love and enjoy giving men oral sex but I won't do it everytime untill he orgasm.. but again, that depends on how long I need to do it for.. if it's 5 mins 'it's ok lol ..Posted by saweetz1988Got it, in scenario A assume that the guy only climaxes once every 7 sessions. It sounds like ultimately you would be more inclined to go with scenario C to ensure that he climaxed every session correct?Posted by Chuckcem
Been a while since I've posted here, so here's a thought experiment. Forgive me if this has already been done.
Ladies, what is more important, your orgasm or your partner's orgasm? To give more perspective, assume your partner is someone you're possibly interested in and not a one time fling/random hookup. There are three questions.
First let's say that you had the option between two scenarios. In scenario A you orgasm multiple times, but your partner rarely orgasms at all (they orgasm 1 in 7 times). In scenario B you have a partner who is guaranteed to climax at least once, but you may not climax with them (you climax 1 in 4 times). Which scenario would you prefer between A or B and why?
Second let's say that there is another partner, scenario C, who only climaxes via oral sex. In this scenario you know you'll reach orgasm once or twice with this partner. Would that feel like a compromise between scenario A and B? Would it bother you that this partner's method to climax was never vaginal? Would it make you feel self-conscious at all?
Lastly, which partner would you honestly feel the most connection with in the bedroom?
(This question is open to all women of all sexual preferences. Be sure to throw in your Sun, Venus, and Mars for fun.)
Mmm delicious... sun taurus, venus gemini, mars Aquarius... ok so if I have to choose, it would be the A... as long as my partner stays hard and content throughout the act and truly enjoy having sex with me ( that never happens in my life when a man doesn't oegasm lol.. ever !!! Pfff) but yes, if maybe we can fit C after wards... so after I orgasm 2-3 times, I go on and give him oral so he can finish it off. Perfect 😉 hahaha but right now, I'm happy with my sex life. He let me orgasm 2-3 times then he finishes. The best part is I'm more of a deep sexual passion sex so he gives me that and then I orgasm and at the end I finish it off with some more rough sex for him. So it's a win win for both of us.'man that was good hahahaha !!! But Leo, keep doing what u r doing, u guys r passionate soul.
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Posted by TerramineNow you're just making things up. Have fun.Posted by Chuckcem
How can you be schoolin' me when you've been talking about your orgasms this whole time....in a topic about female orgasms...and the choices WOMEN would make concerning themselves. I'm literally not interested in your thoughts because you're not a woman and therefore do not have a woman's mindset.
You're not REALLY listening to them, you're not paying attention to MOTIVE. You're just trying to misconstrue what they are saying to basically mean they would much rather scenario A when that actually ISN'T what they are saying at all. You're trying to distort it so basically women stroke your man ego and center around you and your orgasm.
Like @Cancan26 said, they are merely responding with A automatically because they have been conditioned to believe they don't actually have a choice. That the only way to satisfy their partner is if they sacrifice their own pleasure. Rather bluntly they WANT the second option. That's what they want, hands down, every single time. You're just not reading between the lines because you're too arrogant and narcissistic.
Whereas I'm the one slamming down the facts that dispells this myth altogether. That men are only truly satisfied when the woman is having maximal pleasure. That those 2 things coincide perfectly, and that self-focused egotistical men are just too dumb to figure this out.click to expand
Posted by ChuckcemPosted by saweetz1988While the Bs want to please their partners and the Cs want equality the As seems to have varying motivations. The As clearly want their orgasms, but so do the Bs and Cs. Beyond that the As preferences appear to be more characterized by personal relationships.Posted by ChuckcemPosted by saweetz1988Pretty sure the rationale behind Scenario A is the most diverse thus far.Posted by ChuckcemMmmm once every 7 sessions isn't too bad... as long as I get to finish it off 2-3 times then I won't complain.. hehe but he needs to stay hard the entire act though... but no, I won't choose the C... I will go with A . I love and enjoy giving men oral sex but I won't do it everytime untill he orgasm.. but again, that depends on how long I need to do it for.. if it's 5 mins 'it's ok lol ..Posted by saweetz1988Got it, in scenario A assume that the guy only climaxes once every 7 sessions. It sounds like ultimately you would be more inclined to go with scenario C to ensure that he climaxed every session correct?Posted by Chuckcem
Been a while since I've posted here, so here's a thought experiment. Forgive me if this has already been done.
Ladies, what is more important, your orgasm or your partner's orgasm? To give more perspective, assume your partner is someone you're possibly interested in and not a one time fling/random hookup. There are three questions.
First let's say that you had the option between two scenarios. In scenario A you orgasm multiple times, but your partner rarely orgasms at all (they orgasm 1 in 7 times). In scenario B you have a partner who is guaranteed to climax at least once, but you may not climax with them (you climax 1 in 4 times). Which scenario would you prefer between A or B and why?
Second let's say that there is another partner, scenario C, who only climaxes via oral sex. In this scenario you know you'll reach orgasm once or twice with this partner. Would that feel like a compromise between scenario A and B? Would it bother you that this partner's method to climax was never vaginal? Would it make you feel self-conscious at all?
Lastly, which partner would you honestly feel the most connection with in the bedroom?
(This question is open to all women of all sexual preferences. Be sure to throw in your Sun, Venus, and Mars for fun.)
Mmm delicious... sun taurus, venus gemini, mars Aquarius... ok so if I have to choose, it would be the A... as long as my partner stays hard and content throughout the act and truly enjoy having sex with me ( that never happens in my life when a man doesn't oegasm lol.. ever !!! Pfff) but yes, if maybe we can fit C after wards... so after I orgasm 2-3 times, I go on and give him oral so he can finish it off. Perfect 😉 hahaha but right now, I'm happy with my sex life. He let me orgasm 2-3 times then he finishes. The best part is I'm more of a deep sexual passion sex so he gives me that and then I orgasm and at the end I finish it off with some more rough sex for him. So it's a win win for both of us.'man that was good hahahaha !!! But Leo, keep doing what u r doing, u guys r passionate soul.
Elaborate?
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HAh i see. Now that I answered your questions can I please ask a question? Im very curious. On my most recent encounter, we havnt had sex for over three months . But I know that we r not exclusive. The thing is, oh wow, he's never orgasmee that hard ever n I known him for a year now. It was the most intense orgasm I ever seen from a man. !!! i pushed the passion more deeply this time, I mean I made it more deep n love making style so I orgasm but he waited n in the end ... it turned to his style more rough inch n not kissing during the end but wow . It was so intense... may I ask, do you have diffenrt levels of orgasms as men and what makes it different? Would you say the more connected to ur partner the more intense ur orgasm is? It's like that for womenpeehasp?
Posted by saweetz1988Yes they can very. I've personally found that more intense orgasms have occurred when I was most comfortable and turned on by my partner at the time.Posted by ChuckcemPosted by saweetz1988While the Bs want to please their partners and the Cs want equality the As seems to have varying motivations. The As clearly want their orgasms, but so do the Bs and Cs. Beyond that the As preferences appear to be more characterized by personal relationships.Posted by ChuckcemPosted by saweetz1988Pretty sure the rationale behind Scenario A is the most diverse thus far.Posted by ChuckcemMmmm once every 7 sessions isn't too bad... as long as I get to finish it off 2-3 times then I won't complain.. hehe but he needs to stay hard the entire act though... but no, I won't choose the C... I will go with A . I love and enjoy giving men oral sex but I won't do it everytime untill he orgasm.. but again, that depends on how long I need to do it for.. if it's 5 mins 'it's ok lol ..Posted by saweetz1988Got it, in scenario A assume that the guy only climaxes once every 7 sessions. It sounds like ultimately you would be more inclined to go with scenario C to ensure that he climaxed every session correct?Posted by Chuckcem
Been a while since I've posted here, so here's a thought experiment. Forgive me if this has already been done.
Ladies, what is more important, your orgasm or your partner's orgasm? To give more perspective, assume your partner is someone you're possibly interested in and not a one time fling/random hookup. There are three questions.
First let's say that you had the option between two scenarios. In scenario A you orgasm multiple times, but your partner rarely orgasms at all (they orgasm 1 in 7 times). In scenario B you have a partner who is guaranteed to climax at least once, but you may not climax with them (you climax 1 in 4 times). Which scenario would you prefer between A or B and why?
Second let's say that there is another partner, scenario C, who only climaxes via oral sex. In this scenario you know you'll reach orgasm once or twice with this partner. Would that feel like a compromise between scenario A and B? Would it bother you that this partner's method to climax was never vaginal? Would it make you feel self-conscious at all?
Lastly, which partner would you honestly feel the most connection with in the bedroom?
(This question is open to all women of all sexual preferences. Be sure to throw in your Sun, Venus, and Mars for fun.)
Mmm delicious... sun taurus, venus gemini, mars Aquarius... ok so if I have to choose, it would be the A... as long as my partner stays hard and content throughout the act and truly enjoy having sex with me ( that never happens in my life when a man doesn't oegasm lol.. ever !!! Pfff) but yes, if maybe we can fit C after wards... so after I orgasm 2-3 times, I go on and give him oral so he can finish it off. Perfect 😉 hahaha but right now, I'm happy with my sex life. He let me orgasm 2-3 times then he finishes. The best part is I'm more of a deep sexual passion sex so he gives me that and then I orgasm and at the end I finish it off with some more rough sex for him. So it's a win win for both of us.'man that was good hahahaha !!! But Leo, keep doing what u r doing, u guys r passionate soul.
Elaborate?
HAh i see. Now that I answered your questions can I please ask a question? Im very curious. On my most recent encounter, we havnt had sex for over three months . But I know that we r not exclusive. The thing is, oh wow, he's never orgasmee that hard ever n I known him for a year now. It was the most intense orgasm I ever seen from a man. !!! i pushed the passion more deeply this time, I mean I made it more deep n love making style so I orgasm but he waited n in the end ... it turned to his style more rough inch n not kissing during the end but wow . It was so intense... may I ask, do you have diffenrt levels of orgasms as men and what makes it different? Would you say the more connected to ur partner the more intense ur orgasm is? It's like that for womenpeehasp?
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