
longafternoonnaps
@virgoOPPP
6 Years10,000+ Posts
Comments: 5390 · Posts: 10885 · Topics: 287




Posted by allrounder
I don't o_o I've dealt with way too many toxic, abusive and manipulative ass people who've bullied, tormented, harassed, hurt and traumatised me in some way that if you've heard everything I've been through, you'd probably be amazed at how I'm still alive and kicking right now lol
Though, I have father abandonment issues, so I think in the past I was one of those girls who liked "bAd boYs" and all those guys were also part of the deep trauma I am doing intense healing work from since mid 2020 to now since I also can't afford therapy just yet.
I'm just tired of toxic people. Too many wounded people in the world who need to heal. I think we all exhibit positive and negative traits though, because we're all living a human experience. We need that balance. It is about not letting one side take over the other though in my opinion and embracing all sides of you and others. But it's only when you truly accept yourself, are you able to see that in others and truly accept them too.

Posted by MaxianPosted by MyStarsShine
Dark sardonic humour
Sarcasm
People who know how to take the piss
Was your Aries-ex also like that? đ€Łclick to expand
Posted by virgoOPPPPosted by allrounder
I don't o_o I've dealt with way too many toxic, abusive and manipulative ass people who've bullied, tormented, harassed, hurt and traumatised me in some way that if you've heard everything I've been through, you'd probably be amazed at how I'm still alive and kicking right now lol
Though, I have father abandonment issues, so I think in the past I was one of those girls who liked "bAd boYs" and all those guys were also part of the deep trauma I am doing intense healing work from since mid 2020 to now since I also can't afford therapy just yet.
I'm just tired of toxic people. Too many wounded people in the world who need to heal. I think we all exhibit positive and negative traits though, because we're all living a human experience. We need that balance. It is about not letting one side take over the other though in my opinion and embracing all sides of you and others. But it's only when you truly accept yourself, are you able to see that in others and truly accept them too.
so if both my parents were neglectful, then i just like bad people in general?
hmm i don't think i'm into bad bois but more like sad bois. most toxic guy i've ever dated was a capricorn. someone did try to take advantage of me financially once but we dated for like a heartbeat so i wasn't all that 'traumatized' about it. but with the capricorn, that definitely left a mark on me. it's just that, i feel like literally everyone has some issue they need to work through which makes me overlook a lot of red flags.
i have a very withdrawn, standoffish personality and i'm very intentional about being this way coz i'd like to avoid that whole bullying/harassment stuff which comes from associating with people lol. but i live in a very sociable area where the more you're closed off, the more people tend to gossip about you. and it's hard to defend yourself when you don't want to talk. i've left some jobs over this. i guess when people find suspicious tidbits about you and you're so quiet, they automatically turn hostile.
for example, i have a great fear of my medical records getting out. my health is very erratic and i've made the mistake of sharing this to one of my co-workers which then snowballed into gossip with the sentiment being that i should be investigated. i'm completely fine at that moment. is it the pandemic making people act this way? yet how is my health anyone's business? it's so ridiculous and just makes me want to avoid people even more.click to expand

Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by MaxianPosted by MyStarsShine
Dark sardonic humour
Sarcasm
People who know how to take the piss
Was your Aries-ex also like that? đ€Ł
No, Virgo ex and Son are đclick to expand

Posted by QueenofthepheasantfairiesPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by MaxianPosted by MyStarsShine
Dark sardonic humour
Sarcasm
People who know how to take the piss
Was your Aries-ex also like that? đ€Ł
No, Virgo ex and Son are đ
I notice that about Virgo! At least all the ones I know...I love their sense of humour!click to expand

Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by QueenofthepheasantfairiesPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by MaxianPosted by MyStarsShine
Dark sardonic humour
Sarcasm
People who know how to take the piss
Was your Aries-ex also like that? đ€Ł
No, Virgo ex and Son are đ
I notice that about Virgo! At least all the ones I know...I love their sense of humour!
Did you ever watch the league of gentlemen...Reece and Steve are Virgos......very daaaaaaarkđclick to expand

Posted by allrounderPosted by virgoOPPPPosted by allrounder
I don't o_o I've dealt with way too many toxic, abusive and manipulative ass people who've bullied, tormented, harassed, hurt and traumatised me in some way that if you've heard everything I've been through, you'd probably be amazed at how I'm still alive and kicking right now lol
Though, I have father abandonment issues, so I think in the past I was one of those girls who liked "bAd boYs" and all those guys were also part of the deep trauma I am doing intense healing work from since mid 2020 to now since I also can't afford therapy just yet.
I'm just tired of toxic people. Too many wounded people in the world who need to heal. I think we all exhibit positive and negative traits though, because we're all living a human experience. We need that balance. It is about not letting one side take over the other though in my opinion and embracing all sides of you and others. But it's only when you truly accept yourself, are you able to see that in others and truly accept them too.
so if both my parents were neglectful, then i just like bad people in general?
hmm i don't think i'm into bad bois but more like sad bois. most toxic guy i've ever dated was a capricorn. someone did try to take advantage of me financially once but we dated for like a heartbeat so i wasn't all that 'traumatized' about it. but with the capricorn, that definitely left a mark on me. it's just that, i feel like literally everyone has some issue they need to work through which makes me overlook a lot of red flags.
i have a very withdrawn, standoffish personality and i'm very intentional about being this way coz i'd like to avoid that whole bullying/harassment stuff which comes from associating with people lol. but i live in a very sociable area where the more you're closed off, the more people tend to gossip about you. and it's hard to defend yourself when you don't want to talk. i've left some jobs over this. i guess when people find suspicious tidbits about you and you're so quiet, they automatically turn hostile.
for example, i have a great fear of my medical records getting out. my health is very erratic and i've made the mistake of sharing this to one of my co-workers which then snowballed into gossip with the sentiment being that i should be investigated. i'm completely fine at that moment. is it the pandemic making people act this way? yet how is my health anyone's business? it's so ridiculous and just makes me want to avoid people even more.
I completely understand as a fellow reserved and ambiverted but more introvert Virgo lol
Of course everyone is working through issues of all kinds but you can still be kind and assertive whilst going through a tough time without being toxic and projecting your wounds onto others by bullying them or lashing out on them when they've done nothing to aggravate you. Which is something my abusive narcissist mother does..
It's more about assessing how people act in the same situations. You'll see who's toxic and who's not through that trial and error. And you're an introverted Virgo too I'm assuming, we're very observant and analytical people so I'm sure you'll know what I mean.
I don't know if I come off as cold or standoffish as well, but I know I'm reserved and generally if I don't click with anyone, I'll stay very quiet unless spoken to or unless I need something or need to ask something.
I've been bullied in school many times for many months long even if I do nothing, and it's likely because I'm reserved and stood out in a white dominant school as an Asian kid. There were some other POC people but only 2 others in my year/grade who were Asian. But I know I was someone that the popular guys or other random guys had a crush on at some point or just stood out in some way but they all bullied or picked on me at some point regardless, including the girls.
So it doesn't matter whether you talk to these types of people or not, but you're right, it seems this world is incredibly judgemental in that if you seem weird or odd in some way and you're introverted/reserved/antisocial/quiet to groups of people, a handful of them will view and interact with you in a judgemental and hostile way. Or yes, gossip about you which I know I've been gossiped about hundreds of times. I just don't let it bother me anymore. Cause if I do, I'm only doing a disservice to myself and giving myself stress over something I simply cannot control but I'm okay with that. Let them talk. It's their problem with me, not mine.
And I understand. I've been hurt so many times that I have trust issues I'm still working on too and I do my best to work on it everyday in small or big ways. I think it's about working on our trust issues, because it's also about the realisation that not every single person in this world is horrible. But obviously still protect yourself by enforcing and protecting your boundaries and energy and not being super easily trusting when you meet someone new, especially if you feel intuitively off about someone. It's just like the whole thing of you can be with hundreds of kind people everyday, but the moment you meet one toxic person, they can deeply traumatise you forever unless you choose to heal your wounds.click to expand

Posted by QueenofthepheasantfairiesPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by QueenofthepheasantfairiesPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by MaxianPosted by MyStarsShine
Dark sardonic humour
Sarcasm
People who know how to take the piss
Was your Aries-ex also like that? đ€Ł
No, Virgo ex and Son are đ
I notice that about Virgo! At least all the ones I know...I love their sense of humour!
Did you ever watch the league of gentlemen...Reece and Steve are Virgos......very daaaaaaarkđ
I have not, but I will add it to my watch list! Thanksclick to expand

Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by QueenofthepheasantfairiesPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by QueenofthepheasantfairiesPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by MaxianPosted by MyStarsShine
Dark sardonic humour
Sarcasm
People who know how to take the piss
Was your Aries-ex also like that? đ€Ł
No, Virgo ex and Son are đ
I notice that about Virgo! At least all the ones I know...I love their sense of humour!
Did you ever watch the league of gentlemen...Reece and Steve are Virgos......very daaaaaaarkđ
I have not, but I will add it to my watch list! Thanks
Lol
class="bqfade">click to expand


Posted by HypnotoadPosted by MyStarsShine
Dark sardonic humour
Sarcasm
People who know how to take the piss
These are all positives.click to expand

Posted by QueenofthepheasantfairiesPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by QueenofthepheasantfairiesPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by QueenofthepheasantfairiesPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by MaxianPosted by MyStarsShine
Dark sardonic humour
Sarcasm
People who know how to take the piss
Was your Aries-ex also like that? đ€Ł
No, Virgo ex and Son are đ
I notice that about Virgo! At least all the ones I know...I love their sense of humour!
Did you ever watch the league of gentlemen...Reece and Steve are Virgos......very daaaaaaarkđ
I have not, but I will add it to my watch list! Thanks
Lol
LOL is it a series?click to expand


Posted by GobbiePosted by virgoOPPP
when you're seeing someone and you go:
"he didn't even try to emotionally-manipulate me or anything. zero attempt. maybe he doesn't find me attractive. it's like the 40th day, maybe even jesus would."
like you're almost offended
what placements contribute to this?
None. It's just a stupid woman who is addicted to friction and drama.
You know, like those women who claim to want a 'good man' but, when they have one, either go out of their way to sabotage the relationship or simply get bored.click to expand


Posted by stardustmop
You said you are still recovering from a Capricorn relationship. Capricorns are very, very insecure and that is why they will âemotionally manipulateâ. They will show you from the very beginning that they are insecure and youâll mistake this for them being vulnerable with you.
Think of a Cap relationship like the ultimate Dom/sub relationship. Cap needs to be in control. You need to use your baby talk voice with Cap like you would use with a Cancer men and sometimes even Leo men. That is why they work well with Pisces. Pisces can play the role very well of being submissive and subservient all the while doing whatever the f she wants and Caps will eat it up. Taurus women too are very good at playing that role for Caps because they can be the 50s housewife who doesnât question her man.
Anyone who feels the need to argue their point of view or be heard are not going to fare well with Cap because one, they donât care and two, youâre not going to change their opinion ever. Aquas do well with caps for this reason because Aqua doesnât care to argue either. Aqua will just quietly think Cap is wrong and go on about their day. Cancers can do well sometimes because itâs the same type of insecure energy. Sags can even do well with Caps because they just completely ignore their brooding and refuse Caps attempts to push them away. John Legend told Chrissy Teigen he wasnât ready for a relationship and she refused to listen. Thatâs the type of confidence Cap needs to feel secure. Is it emotional manipulation or do they need a lot of reassurance? I donât know. I think each sign tests for reassurance in different ways and if itâs not our style we feel manipulated.
I say all of this to say, donât take the Cap relationship too personally. Cap deserves to be reassured in the way need and you deserve reassurance in the way you need. đ

Posted by stardustmop
Fun fact: I told a Cap once âSorry I donât know enough about that topic to have an opinion.â And he said that turns me on, I wish more people wouldnât speak when theyâre not educated on the topic đ but truth is, I knew he was a Cap and the argument would have been a waste of my breath. They donât want to debate or hear new or different points of view.


Posted by alexscariesPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by HypnotoadPosted by MyStarsShine
Dark sardonic humour
Sarcasm
People who know how to take the piss
These are all positives.
I think so
Some people either donât get it or are offended by it đ„Ž
I think it's because dry humour is very specific. I've had people take what I've said at face value because I say stuff dead pan.click to expand

Posted by stardustmopPosted by virgoOPPPPosted by stardustmop
Fun fact: I told a Cap once âSorry I donât know enough about that topic to have an opinion.â And he said that turns me on, I wish more people wouldnât speak when theyâre not educated on the topic đ but truth is, I knew he was a Cap and the argument would have been a waste of my breath. They donât want to debate or hear new or different points of view.
he became deeply controlling as time went by.
i'm actually kinda okay with this AT FIRST but even if i'm pisces dominant, i'm also still virgo-cap dominant.
i have BED TIME when i was with this dude like i can't be caught online when i'm supposed to be asleep.
is he my dad or what?
in the end, it turned into this power struggle coz after i found out some things, i just felt disgusted with him and i don't respect him nor see him as alpha anymore.
and i laughed to my friends how this dude actually thought i was gonna marry him coz us bothering the neighbors with our fighting does not a great relationship make. and i thought it was so unattractive how he was enraged about how i share my thoughts and feelings with other people that could potentially affect how people saw him. yes, he saw all my convos with my friends over messenger.
i thought that trait was sooo unattractive in a man and in a person in general, being so dependent on society's view of him. and the fact that i can't even share stuff with my friends? i asked him: "why won't you let me talk to my friends? i can't even talk to you."
dude is a wall.
Lol sounds very Cap. I have a very good friend who is married to a Cap. We invited her to a bachelorette party and she wasnât allowed to go on a girls night out. She said Cap suggested brunch instead. Sheâs not allowed to be anywhere there might be a penis.
My Dad is a Cap too. He was an awesome Dad. Always at every event, provide for me financially in every way, but never any warm and fuzzy feelings.click to expand

Posted by stardustmopPosted by virgoOPPPPosted by stardustmopPosted by virgoOPPPPosted by stardustmop
Fun fact: I told a Cap once âSorry I donât know enough about that topic to have an opinion.â And he said that turns me on, I wish more people wouldnât speak when theyâre not educated on the topic đ but truth is, I knew he was a Cap and the argument would have been a waste of my breath. They donât want to debate or hear new or different points of view.
he became deeply controlling as time went by.
i'm actually kinda okay with this AT FIRST but even if i'm pisces dominant, i'm also still virgo-cap dominant.
i have BED TIME when i was with this dude like i can't be caught online when i'm supposed to be asleep.
is he my dad or what?
in the end, it turned into this power struggle coz after i found out some things, i just felt disgusted with him and i don't respect him nor see him as alpha anymore.
and i laughed to my friends how this dude actually thought i was gonna marry him coz us bothering the neighbors with our fighting does not a great relationship make. and i thought it was so unattractive how he was enraged about how i share my thoughts and feelings with other people that could potentially affect how people saw him. yes, he saw all my convos with my friends over messenger.
i thought that trait was sooo unattractive in a man and in a person in general, being so dependent on society's view of him. and the fact that i can't even share stuff with my friends? i asked him: "why won't you let me talk to my friends? i can't even talk to you."
dude is a wall.
Lol sounds very Cap. I have a very good friend who is married to a Cap. We invited her to a bachelorette party and she wasnât allowed to go on a girls night out. She said Cap suggested brunch instead. Sheâs not allowed to be anywhere there might be a penis.
My Dad is a Cap too. He was an awesome Dad. Always at every event, provide for me financially in every way, but never any warm and fuzzy feelings.
these people want you to be faithful to them while they're cheating on you with someone who looks like you but have zero opinions. his Pisces ex cheated on him with a dude who was less attractive than him (my Cap ex was super hot with curly hair and this jawline but makes you throw up with his personality) but she chose a dude who was kinda pudgy with a rat tail haircut. but he makes her laugh, spends time with her and not secretly always on the lookout for someone better- looks/money. like i've always thought that's just some female thing but nahh Cap men be about that life too.
and he needs to look good to everyone even if he was personally suffering coz of them. that's just gross. even if you lose, give these people hell for what they've done. my respect just plummets. hell Pisces is more alpha than Capricorn.
we never had problems with money that's for sure but we're both earth signs. and it's funny too how he felt so guilty about how he behaved in some parts of our relationship that he feels obligated to send me money every week. we were never married lol. yet he thinks that he's treated me well coz i was in love with him (lol he overestimates my mental and emotional health). dude triggered my health issues.
I have so much more to say but Iâm in the field. Iâll come back. Lol. But, cap jawline đ„” itâs a sick joke how hot they are because they are so difficultclick to expand




Posted by nanobotzPosted by virgoOPPPPosted by nanobotz
Aloofness, indifference, and sometimes arrogance
universal signs
I had to Google and it says this
The Universal Zodiac Signs: Sagittarius, Capricorn, Aquarius, And Pisces
Iâve been talking to an Aquarius Sun/Pisces moon, Capricorn stellium man for about a year now đđclick to expand

Posted by alexscariesPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by alexscariesPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by HypnotoadPosted by MyStarsShine
Dark sardonic humour
Sarcasm
People who know how to take the piss
These are all positives.
I think so
Some people either donât get it or are offended by it đ„Ž
I think it's because dry humour is very specific. I've had people take what I've said at face value because I say stuff dead pan.
Paul Merton
I don't do animal whimsy.click to expand

Posted by virgoOPPPPosted by nanobotz
Aloofness, indifference, and sometimes arrogance
universal signsclick to expand



Posted by virgoOPPP
when you're seeing someone and you go:
"he didn't even try to emotionally-manipulate me or anything. zero attempt. maybe he doesn't find me attractive. it's like the 40th day, maybe even jesus would."
like you're almost offended
what placements contribute to this?

Posted by alexscariesPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by alexscariesPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by alexscariesPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by HypnotoadPosted by MyStarsShine
Dark sardonic humour
Sarcasm
People who know how to take the piss
These are all positives.
I think so
Some people either donât get it or are offended by it đ„Ž
I think it's because dry humour is very specific. I've had people take what I've said at face value because I say stuff dead pan.
Paul Merton
I don't do animal whimsy.
I donât get what youâre saying Alex?
When I've seen on TV he does a lot of whimsical jokes about animals.click to expand

Posted by hydorah
sag and pisces are anything but indifferent.
Caps are distant but they make themselves the victim in everything and are not in control.
Aquas have psychopath levels of lack of empathy and lack of emotion, and they're hiding it behind all kinds of masks and fakeness, so they might be what you're looking for, but they can talk too much sometimes.



Posted by Nightcap-
I kinda like it when a girl won't give everyone the time of day just so that they are thought of as nice. It shows some discernment and value in the energy that they put out.
Discover insights, swap stories, and find people. dxpnet is where experiences turn into understanding.
Create Your Free Account â
"he didn't even try to emotionally-manipulate me or anything. zero attempt. maybe he doesn't find me attractive. it's like the 40th day, maybe even jesus would."
like you're almost offended
what placements contribute to this?