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At what age do women get desperate to have kids?
It’s not that they become broody all of a sudden! It’s the fear of the closing door. The fear of wanting to have something that you can’t have. Those who really want children, don’t wait 25 years to have them 😄
Some women find their maternal instincts kick in when they become older...it happened to my sis and proved to be the best thing she ever did
Are you asking for yourself OP?
If they want them I would think 40. Otherwuse not much difference between 34 and 35 if you don't.
The older you are, the more complicated things can be. higher rate of downs, more prone to multiples, etc... I would say the average age being 30-38. Younger for those who marry earlier I am sure.
I know a cancer lady who had her first child at age 55. I don't know if that's in any relative to this thread.
I know a cancer lady who had her first child at age 55. I don't know if that's in any relative to this thread.
What were her circumstances, apart from being Cancer 🙂?
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If they want them I would think 40. Otherwuse not much difference between 34 and 35 if you don't.
The older you are, the more complicated things can be. higher rate of downs, more prone to multiples, etc... I would say the average age being 30-38. Younger for those who marry earlier I am sure.
Think you're considered 'geriatric' after 35, but some women still having babies in their 40s.
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Yes they do :-) I personally would not wait that long. I would like to be "active" with my kids and a teenager in my 50s and or 60's sounds like a headache.
Edit: actually having said that, my twins will be 10 this year and I am 43 lol.
Do you want kids? How old are you and are you female/male?
I know a cancer lady who had her first child at age 55. I don't know if that's in any relative to this thread.
What were her circumstances, apart from being Cancer 🙂?
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Eeh😬what'd you mean?😕
I know a cancer lady who had her first child at age 55. I don't know if that's in any relative to this thread.
What were her circumstances, apart from being Cancer 🙂?
Eeh😬what'd you mean?😕
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New partner, maybe? Early pension and plenty of time?
Some of the most doting and loving mums I've met are older ones
It seems crazy that when some women are more able for motherhood, it's too late....
Men can go on until old age to make babies but that also can bring problems. A guy say 50 or over will be a pensioner when his kid is still very young.....the age when he could be a Grandad...
I know a cancer lady who had her first child at age 55. I don't know if that's in any relative to this thread.
What were her circumstances, apart from being Cancer 🙂?
Eeh😬what'd you mean?😕
New partner, maybe? Early pension and plenty of time?
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She was a virgin pretty much all her life up until around age 53. I can't say whether or not she wanted kids. She was even interested in me at one point or another. I've lost touch with her ages ago. I don't know if she's dead or alive. Hopefully she's still alive and doing well.
for modern women with a career, it starts to become a preoccupation at 35, desperation at 37/38
I know a cancer lady who had her first child at age 55. I don't know if that's in any relative to this thread.
What were her circumstances, apart from being Cancer 🙂?
Eeh😬what'd you mean?😕
New partner, maybe? Early pension and plenty of time?
She was a virgin pretty much all her life up until around age 53. I can't say whether or not she wanted kids. She was even interested in me at one point or another. I've lost touch with her ages ago. I don't know if she's dead or alive. Hopefully she's still alive and doing well.
Until 53— Sorry I need details
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Lololol you'll be surprise to know there are some people in this world who never was in relationships in their life. My Pisces uncle (god rest his soul) never had a woman in his life. Never had kids no nothing.
This lady I know was on the same boat until she finally met a man. I don't know her all her life but from the amount of years I've known her I always know her to be single and a loner. She don't have any other kids other than the one she got when she was in her 50s. We chatted for a long time almost everyday and she told me everything. And to be in her 50s at the time, she was very pretty and had sex appeal to her appearance. I couldn't understand why she had no man.
Omg I’m 25 and extremely conflicted about having kids. I read the other day women are like the most fertile between 16-24. After that quality starts going downhill. It upset me greatly. I don’t understand why we have longer life spans now but there are complications of having babies in your 30s & 40s while men can be in their 60s and 70s and happily planting their seeds... so frustrating. I know for a fact I want lots of kids in the future but I don’t feel ready to start having them now. There’s so much more to do first. But then I see people around me from their early 20s having complications conceiving!! It’s just not fair? Especially when you have people who can’t financially support kids easily popping out handfuls? Like it cannot be something in the food... Also freezing your eggs is overpriced. Tens of thousands of dollars per year.. I read a horror story where the freezer of some woman's eggs messed up years later causing them unable to use their eggs. Women really got screwed over in this department by mother nature.
Omg I’m 25 and extremely conflicted about having kids. I read the other day women are like the most fertile between 16-24. After that quality starts going downhill. It upset me greatly. I don’t understand why we have longer life spans now but there are complications of having babies in your 30s & 40s while men can be in their 60s and 70s and happily planting their seeds... so frustrating. I know for a fact I want lots of kids in the future but I don’t feel ready to start having them now. There’s so much more to do first. But then I see people around me from their early 20s having complications conceiving!! It’s just not fair? Especially when you have people who can’t financially support kids easily popping out handfuls? Like it cannot be something in the food... Also freezing your eggs is overpriced. Tens of thousands of dollars per year.. I read a horror story where the freezer of some woman's eggs messed up years later causing them unable to use their eggs. Women really got screwed over in this department by mother nature.
sperm count does decrease in later years I believe so although a man in in 70's can sill have a baby, he has got to get it up first.
I know a cancer lady who had her first child at age 55. I don't know if that's in any relative to this thread.
What were her circumstances, apart from being Cancer 🙂?
Eeh😬what'd you mean?😕
New partner, maybe? Early pension and plenty of time?
She was a virgin pretty much all her life up until around age 53. I can't say whether or not she wanted kids. She was even interested in me at one point or another. I've lost touch with her ages ago. I don't know if she's dead or alive. Hopefully she's still alive and doing well.
Until 53— Sorry I need details
Lololol you'll be surprise to know there are some people in this world who never was in relationships in their life. My Pisces uncle (god rest his soul) never had a woman in his life. Never had kids no nothing.
This lady I know was on the same boat until she finally met a man. I don't know her all her life but from the amount of years I've known her I always know her to be single and a loner. She don't have any other kids other than the one she got when she was in her 50s. We chatted for a long time almost everyday and she told me everything. And to be in her 50s at the time, she was very pretty and had sex appeal to her appearance. I couldn't understand why she had no man.
Wow. Well I guess it happens when it happens. I have coworkers and friends having babies in their 40s. I'm 38 and I'm like no. 🖐 But more power to them.
Your poor Pisces uncle. That's a very lonely existence for a Pisces, we're romantics.
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My uncle had some kind of mental problem. I don't know what you call it but he used to talk out loud to himself walking around the coffee table in a circle cursing and carrying on. He used to walk around in his underwear in front of an entire family without a care in the world. He wasn't always like that. He was a very brilliant kid in school. Had a nice decent high paying technical job in California. And even became head of the company. He was big time in his prime. I say he put his career over women and kids. After that he just went down. Started living with his mom, had an under the table job as a bartender and got fired from that for wanting to fight all the customers scaring them away.
Yeah but that's how it is in life sometimes. When you get old you'll start having problems mentally.
As soon as they start playing with dolls. They already know then, whether or not motherhood is for them. Then you'll get to the stage where sex education comes along and they see n hear about pregnancy and what it involved. They then get scared for giving birth and the possible pain that comes along with it. Thats when they get into the stage, ohh I dont want kids ever! When they meet the person they want to grow old with, those motherly feelings will come back and bio clock starts ticking.
Ofcourse there are also women who dont want kids of their own. And thats perfectly fine too! There is no point in pushing those women to get pregnant, that'll only create a messed up parenthood with detachment towards the child. Which is not good for either one.
Time clock started ticking loudly at 29 for me. I think because I thought it was going to be hard to get pregnant.. 1st marriage it didn’t happen, turned out it was him.. Had my kiddos at 31 & 36. Cannot even imagine having one in my 50’s 😳😳😳😳
After 35 is higher risk for Downs Syndrome and even being able to have kids. I know plenty of people who waited & then couldn’t get pregnant. Earlier is better! But being a parent maybe you’re more ready in your 30’s.
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Omg I’m 25 and extremely conflicted about having kids. I read the other day women are like the most fertile between 16-24. After that quality starts going downhill. It upset me greatly. I don’t understand why we have longer life spans now but there are complications of having babies in your 30s & 40s while men can be in their 60s and 70s and happily planting their seeds... so frustrating. I know for a fact I want lots of kids in the future but I don’t feel ready to start having them now. There’s so much more to do first. But then I see people around me from their early 20s having complications conceiving!! It’s just not fair? Especially when you have people who can’t financially support kids easily popping out handfuls? Like it cannot be something in the food... Also freezing your eggs is overpriced. Tens of thousands of dollars per year.. I read a horror story where the freezer of some woman's eggs messed up years later causing them unable to use their eggs. Women really got screwed over in this department by mother nature.
sperm count does decrease in later years I believe so although a man in in 70's can sill have a baby, he has got to get it up first.
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Viagra 🤣
I’m almost 40 (m) so yeah I’m thinking about it, but I’ve always sort of thought that if I love the women I’m with, then it’s mainly her choice if she wants to or not.
I would like a child though. I don’t want to be much older when I have kids either.
I’ve given up on the whole trying to get married thing.
My cousin had her first born at 24. Then she had another at 36 and just had another at 38. And then I know some women who don't want kids at all.
I don't think it should be societal pressure that tells you to have kids or not. If you don't want them, that's 100% okay. If you want to wait until whatever age you want to have them, that's 100% okay too.
Do what is right for you.
around 30-35 is when they start gunning to have a child from what I’ve seen.
There's adoption, fostering, invitro, surrogacy. Just because society has tried to indoctrinate you to believe you need to be a certain age, paired up/married, to have a family doesn't mean that's the only way.
Also side note, the human body is freaking amazing. My mother had her pelvis crushed into 50+ pieces in her 20s in a horrible car accident. Doctors told her she would never have children. She had 5. 4 of us at home birth natural way. 5th kid she had in the hospital because it was 'high risk' because of her age. At the time she was 41 and that was fairly uncommon in the 90s.
But now women are having babies into their 60s. Like most things it depends on the individual, health... family genetics... etc.
Personally kids are not high on my priority list atm. But I am going to freeze some eggs at 35 in order to have my options open. And I have gay friends who would love one or more if I don't use them. Yes I've had multiple requests on this lol.
My cousin had her first born at 24. Then she had another at 36 and just had another at 38. And then I know some women who don't want kids at all.
I don't think it should be societal pressure that tells you to have kids or not. If you don't want them, that's 100% okay. If you want to wait until whatever age you want to have them, that's 100% okay too.
Do what is right for you.
Are we on baby watch?
My cousin had her first born at 24. Then she had another at 36 and just had another at 38. And then I know some women who don't want kids at all.
I don't think it should be societal pressure that tells you to have kids or not. If you don't want them, that's 100% okay. If you want to wait until whatever age you want to have them, that's 100% okay too.
Do what is right for you.
Are we on baby watch?
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Trying. =P
My cousin had her first born at 24. Then she had another at 36 and just had another at 38. And then I know some women who don't want kids at all.
I don't think it should be societal pressure that tells you to have kids or not. If you don't want them, that's 100% okay. If you want to wait until whatever age you want to have them, that's 100% okay too.
Do what is right for you.
Are we on baby watch?
Trying. =P
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Really? 😁😁😁😁
You’re crazy as hell 😝
i don't know but i'm 27
missing the days of making food servers uncomfortable
just to get extra breadsticks
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When do women get desperate to have a baby?
I hate to use the word “desperate” but how else can I ask. And I’m not judging or anything.
I have friends who are 33-34 and not interested in having a baby. I have friends who were around 38-39 and so desperate they were just sleeping with anyone unprotected, and now they can’t have babies because they left it too late.
I think it may also vary depending on where you live and how family orientated the area is.
Just where I’m from, it seems like between 33-34 and 38-39, they change into becoming really desperate? (Not always of course).
But I think also maybe, women don’t really know what they want. I’d love to know that if I date someone aged 34 for example, and they say they don’t want kids. I would love to know if at 35 they change their minds, but lol how would anyone know.
If women are 34 and don’t want kids, what is the probability they change their minds by 35/36?