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Posted by IxiPosted by _DazedHow long does it take you to know that you want to sleep with somebody?
30 seconds?
10 minutes?
4 years?
Venus and Mars for astrology purposes, please.
It depends on the real. I may say a woman is damn gorgeous but not really think of it past that until her personality attracts.
The more she excites and stimulates me mentally while being physically attractive to me the faster the drawls will drop, nah mean?
Leo Venus
Gemini Mars
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Posted by IxiPosted by _DazedPosted by IxiPosted by _DazedHow long does it take you to know that you want to sleep with somebody?
30 seconds?
10 minutes?
4 years?
Venus and Mars for astrology purposes, please.
It depends on the real. I may say a woman is damn gorgeous but not really think of it past that until her personality attracts.
The more she excites and stimulates me mentally while being physically attractive to me the faster the drawls will drop, nah mean?
Leo Venus
Gemini Mars
POWDER ROOM
Idgaf...and since when have you ever given one? Lol. Please.
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True. Please proceed
Probably like 10 mins.
Leo Venus
Cancer Mars
Posted by MrsElleCappysnatch30 seconds or less
Venus Libra
Mars Scorpio
How long does it take me to tell if I want to sleep with you again after that? - immediately after the first time.
So it's strictly a physical attraction?
Posted by Trick-or-Treat30 seconds.
Skittle Venus.
Gobstopper Mars.
Does the decision depend at all on the amount/type of candy they may or may not have?
Posted by slug10 sober minutes or 30 drunken seconds
Do those drunken 30 seconds ever override 10 minutes of sobriety?
Posted by CreamyPVcupIt depends. Physical attraction alone doesn't do it for me. I need time to interact and feel them out.
Any where from a few days to a few weeks.
Aqua venus
Libra mars
Is there anything that would lessen that amount of time, or prolong it?
Posted by Marai30 seconds, cause need to know if second time is worth the effort.
Leo Venus
Leo Mars
Wait..
Do you mean your decision to sleep with someone, or the amount of time you need before you actually sleep with someone?
Well given my track record of actual relationships not just one night stand type of deals..
Approximately a couple hours until I'll get down 🤷🏻♀️💁🏻♀️ I know what I like, idk.. lol
Aries Mars (5th house)
Scorpio Venus (12th house)
Posted by MaraiPosted by _DazedPosted by Marai30 seconds, cause need to know if second time is worth the effort.
Leo Venus
Leo Mars
Wait..
Do you mean your decision to sleep with someone, or the amount of time you need before you actually sleep with someone?
Decision. I'll know in the first seconds, otherwise I never will.
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Okay so..
Say you've walked into a gas station to buy some snacks, and you see an attractive guy. You know within 30 seconds of seeing him that you'd fuck him. If he walks up to you.. and asks if you want to go smash in the bathroom, would you do it?
Posted by MaraiPosted by _DazedPosted by MaraiPosted by _DazedPosted by Marai30 seconds, cause need to know if second time is worth the effort.
Leo Venus
Leo Mars
Wait..
Do you mean your decision to sleep with someone, or the amount of time you need before you actually sleep with someone?
Decision. I'll know in the first seconds, otherwise I never will.
Okay so..
Say you've walked into a gas station to buy some snacks, and you see an attractive guy. You know within 30 seconds of seeing him that you'd fuck him. If he walks up to you.. and asks if you want to go smash in the bathroom, would you do it?
I know I'd want to, but not in a bathroom.
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In the hotel next door?
Posted by CreamyPVcupPosted by _DazedPosted by CreamyPVcupIt depends. Physical attraction alone doesn't do it for me. I need time to interact and feel them out.
Any where from a few days to a few weeks.
Aqua venus
Libra mars
Is there anything that would lessen that amount of time, or prolong it?
Shorten- hmm...probably not. I have to my risk assessment.
Lengthen- yes. Inconsistent behavior. Unclear intentions. Not showing me enough attention.
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What about a homemade Michelin quality 5 course meal?
Depends
Sometimes immediately.
Sometimes it takes them getting smart with me a few times.
Sometimes I don’t even know I want to sleep with them until it’s happening.
Posted by MrsElleCappysnatchPosted by _DazedPosted by MrsElleCappysnatch30 seconds or less
Venus Libra
Mars Scorpio
How long does it take me to tell if I want to sleep with you again after that? - immediately after the first time.
So it's strictly a physical attraction?
Idk, is it?
It could be a feel, curiosity, a conversation, a verbal dance.....it usually doesn't matter what the person looks like (venus conjunct uranus).
When I'm single...I certainly scan the situation quietly and quickly to myself and conclude almost immediately whether I would sleep with you or not.
We may never.....but I've made up my mind well in advance in case the opportunity presents itself.
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Is there a difference between the time it takes to make the decision and the time it takes to actually follow through with the decision?
Posted by brianafayDepends
Sometimes I don’t even know I want to sleep with them until it’s happening.
wut
Posted by MaraiPosted by _DazedPosted by MaraiPosted by _DazedPosted by MaraiPosted by _DazedPosted by Marai30 seconds, cause need to know if second time is worth the effort.
Leo Venus
Leo Mars
Wait..
Do you mean your decision to sleep with someone, or the amount of time you need before you actually sleep with someone?
Decision. I'll know in the first seconds, otherwise I never will.
Okay so..
Say you've walked into a gas station to buy some snacks, and you see an attractive guy. You know within 30 seconds of seeing him that you'd fuck him. If he walks up to you.. and asks if you want to go smash in the bathroom, would you do it?
I know I'd want to, but not in a bathroom.
In the hotel next door?
Wait, I think I answered your question wrong. I would know with 30 sec or less. But to actually do it would be after a certain conversation if we had that "chemistry/vibe". But when all is clean, safe and good vibes. Yeah why not!
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So it depends on the chemistry/vibe then? Is that what the 30 seconds is for, or after?
I usually know right away! If I want to or not.
Pisces venus
if i start dating you, i know for sure
but if we're not having sex by the 39th day, i get very paranoid
Posted by _DazedPosted by brianafayDepends
Sometimes I don’t even know I want to sleep with them until it’s happening.
wut
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Lol you never had attraction to someone sneak up on you ?
I mean literally you aren’t even into them and then next thing you know you’re making out with them
Posted by Wildd_FloPosted by brianafayDepends
Sometimes immediately.
Sometimes it takes them getting smart with me a few times.
Sometimes I don’t even know I want to sleep with them until it’s happening.
“Sometimes I don’t even know I want to sleep with them until it’s happening.”
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Y’all 😅
So seriously this has never happened to anyone else?
You meet someone
It’s platonic
You don’t find them attractive, never even crosses your mind.
Then one day they make a move out of nowhere and for a split second you’re like “ew what?” And then you’re like “wait I’m actually ok with this”
Posted by PiscesGal76I usually know right away! If I want to or not.
Pisces venus
If you know that yes, you want to.. are you able to act on it in the same amount of time?
I think this usually happens more in a love/hate type of dynamic
Like it’s gonna be a hate fuck 😅
Posted by brianafayPosted by _DazedPosted by brianafayDepends
Sometimes I don’t even know I want to sleep with them until it’s happening.
wut
Lol you never had attraction to someone sneak up on you ?I mean literally you aren’t even into them and then next thing you know you’re making out with them
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I generally know before I'm inside them or they're inside me, that I want to fuck.
Posted by _DazedPosted by brianafayPosted by _DazedPosted by brianafayDepends
Sometimes I don’t even know I want to sleep with them until it’s happening.
wut
Lol you never had attraction to someone sneak up on you ?I mean literally you aren’t even into them and then next thing you know you’re making out with them
I generally know before I'm inside them or they're inside me, that I want to fuck.
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Well obviously ! 🤦🏼♀️ We
Posted by blowmeA half second after they show interest in sleeping with me. Otherwise, I'm not very definitive... or think about it every time I come across another person lol. Leo venus and Libra mars.
I'm interested in zoom boning you. You down?
Posted by brianafaySo seriously this has never happened to anyone else?
You meet someone
It’s platonic
You don’t find them attractive, never even crosses your mind.
Then one day they make a move out of nowhere and for a split second you’re like “ew what?” And then you’re like “wait I’m actually ok with this”
Only when alcohol was involved.
Posted by Dread_Pirate_PhantaPosted by brianafaySo seriously this has never happened to anyone else?
You meet someone
It’s platonic
You don’t find them attractive, never even crosses your mind.
Then one day they make a move out of nowhere and for a split second you’re like “ew what?” And then you’re like “wait I’m actually ok with this”
No!!! But I do have friends who've said this, so you're not the only one. What did you say your Venus and Mars are? lol
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Venus in Cap
Mars in Scorp
Posted by MrsElleCappysnatchPosted by _DazedPosted by MrsElleCappysnatchPosted by _DazedPosted by MrsElleCappysnatch30 seconds or less
Venus Libra
Mars Scorpio
How long does it take me to tell if I want to sleep with you again after that? - immediately after the first time.
So it's strictly a physical attraction?
Idk, is it?
It could be a feel, curiosity, a conversation, a verbal dance.....it usually doesn't matter what the person looks like (venus conjunct uranus).
When I'm single...I certainly scan the situation quietly and quickly to myself and conclude almost immediately whether I would sleep with you or not.
We may never.....but I've made up my mind well in advance in case the opportunity presents itself.
Is there a difference between the time it takes to make the decision and the time it takes to actually follow through with the decision?
There is no difference.
However, because people are usuallyl civil human beings , for the most part, and not feral animals that just fuck anywhere at any time.....there is time usually passed between the decision and follow thru.
I wouldn't want to fuck in a public restroom and if the hotel next door is a Super 8 that lets you rent by the hour...I'm not going to fuck there either.
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It's a Hilton.
Posted by brianafayI think this usually happens more in a love/hate type of dynamic
Like it’s gonna be a hate fuck 😅
Okay I agree with that.
Posted by blowmePosted by _DazedPosted by blowmeA half second after they show interest in sleeping with me. Otherwise, I'm not very definitive... or think about it every time I come across another person lol. Leo venus and Libra mars.
I'm interested in zoom boning you. You down?
No youre not.
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I'll be in Cleveland on Saturday. My body is ready. You down?
Posted by IxiPosted by Clair_de_LunePosted by CreamyPVcupPosted by PhoenixStormPosted by Clair_de_LuneAn eternity
Virgo venus
Virgo Mars
I have Virgo venus and this is how I feel about relationships. Takes me forever to decide if I want to be with someone but my sag mars wants to hump like immediately. Explains why I feel so fucking conflicted in relationships 🥴🥴🥴
Oh so Virgo placements causes this feet dragging. Hmm. Virgo moon for sale...highest bid.
Too much logic and precautions blocking the fun
decision not to decide
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accurate
Posted by blowmePosted by _DazedPosted by blowmePosted by _DazedPosted by blowmeA half second after they show interest in sleeping with me. Otherwise, I'm not very definitive... or think about it every time I come across another person lol. Leo venus and Libra mars.
I'm interested in zoom boning you. You down?
No youre not.
I'll be in Cleveland on Saturday. My body is ready. You down?
No you wont.
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I'd smash. You down?
Posted by dillweedimmediately
pissy venus
caca mars
Immediately enough to smash in the portojohn next to stage 2?
Posted by _DazedPosted by PiscesGal76I usually know right away! If I want to or not.
Pisces venus
If you know that yes, you want to.. are you able to act on it in the same amount of time?
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Yes, and I have several times.
Posted by dillweedPosted by _DazedPosted by dillweedimmediately
pissy venus
caca mars
Immediately enough to smash in the portojohn next to stage 2?
whether or not i act on it is a different story.
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Why?
Posted by blowmePosted by _DazedPosted by blowmePosted by _DazedPosted by blowmePosted by _DazedPosted by blowmeA half second after they show interest in sleeping with me. Otherwise, I'm not very definitive... or think about it every time I come across another person lol. Leo venus and Libra mars.
I'm interested in zoom boning you. You down?
No youre not.
I'll be in Cleveland on Saturday. My body is ready. You down?
No you wont.
I'd smash. You down?
No.
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Your previous declarations to me say this is a lie.
Posted by blowmePosted by _DazedPosted by blowmePosted by _DazedPosted by blowmePosted by _DazedPosted by blowmePosted by _DazedPosted by blowmeA half second after they show interest in sleeping with me. Otherwise, I'm not very definitive... or think about it every time I come across another person lol. Leo venus and Libra mars.
I'm interested in zoom boning you. You down?
No youre not.
I'll be in Cleveland on Saturday. My body is ready. You down?
No you wont.
I'd smash. You down?
No.
Your previous declarations to me say this is a lie.
Maybe you have advanced delusionary schizophrenia.
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Gaslighting doesn't work on me. Try again.
Posted by blowmePosted by _DazedPosted by blowmePosted by _DazedPosted by blowmePosted by _DazedPosted by blowmePosted by _DazedPosted by blowmePosted by _DazedPosted by blowmeA half second after they show interest in sleeping with me. Otherwise, I'm not very definitive... or think about it every time I come across another person lol. Leo venus and Libra mars.
I'm interested in zoom boning you. You down?
No youre not.
I'll be in Cleveland on Saturday. My body is ready. You down?
No you wont.
I'd smash. You down?
No.
Your previous declarations to me say this is a lie.
Maybe you have advanced delusionary schizophrenia.
Gaslighting doesn't work on me. Try again.
Have a snickers. You're not you when you're angry.
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I'm allergic to peanuts.
Posted by blowmePosted by _DazedPosted by blowmePosted by _DazedPosted by blowmePosted by _DazedPosted by blowmePosted by _DazedPosted by blowmePosted by _DazedPosted by blowmeA half second after they show interest in sleeping with me. Otherwise, I'm not very definitive... or think about it every time I come across another person lol. Leo venus and Libra mars.
I'm interested in zoom boning you. You down?
No youre not.
I'll be in Cleveland on Saturday. My body is ready. You down?
No you wont.
I'd smash. You down?
No.
Your previous declarations to me say this is a lie.
Maybe you have advanced delusionary schizophrenia.
Gaslighting doesn't work on me. Try again.
Have a snickers. You're not you when you're angry.
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The sexual tension between you two 🤣🤣 🔥🔥
And to answer the question 30seconds.
Gemini Venus
Virgo Mars
Posted by _DazedHow long does it take you to know that you want to sleep with somebody?
30 seconds?
10 minutes?
4 years?
Venus and Mars for astrology purposes, please.
It depends on the man.
And it depends on how I feel about him.
If its 30 seconds then i just want him for sex.
I prefer to wonder what a man is like in bed so it can take me a few months.
If sex happens too soon then it can put me off him.
Venus - Pisces
Mars - Capricorn
It varies on my attraction to him.
Venus cap mars Virgo
I think I am broken.
In order for me to have sex I have to have at least a base friendship if not more.
Have I been instantly attracted to someone on a viseral level?- yes, but only a handful of times, where you get that draw and the butterflies in the pit of your stomach to your no no place... lol
Acting on it is another story... a few months to years. 😭
Sag venus/Mars.
It depends ...
For someone I just want to fuck, a few minutes to feel the connection/vibe/chemistry.
For someone I’m actually interested in, it’s not about chemistry and I might actually be guarded, and it take awhile. But, there will be some of that vibe, enough for me to want to know more.
Cap Venus, cap mars
Libra Venus
Leo Mars
Within an hour I’d know. Whether I act on that is a different story. ONS yes but if I feel you are something more then I’ll expect a few dates and to get to know you first. So that depends on how much you open up and share.
I'll know if there is a connection with someone pretty quickly. 30 seconds to a minute of interacting. The Eyes don't lie.
Takes time to figure out what kind it is though. Chemistry varies on the strength and how long we interact with our guards lowered. It's super rare but when it's both and really strong it's a moth to a flame situation for me.
Wether I will act on it is still another story.
Libra Venus
Sag mars
Edit: Oh wait. This is when I'm single. Pretty devoted in a relationship. Did op not specify or was it implied?
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How long does it take you to know that you want to sleep with somebody?
30 seconds?
10 minutes?
4 years?
Venus and Mars for astrology purposes, please.