Crush on Virgo coworker, who is not single (Page 7)

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Did you get your $ 1,500 back?

Literally the only thing that matters smh.

This single woman with no children is a suga mamma for this dudes children and baby mama. All he has to do is fuck her now and again and tell her she feels like home, after a few drinks, and she's on the hook.

I lol-ed at her terming the gf as abusive for confiscating this dudes phone. Obviously she has a reason for doing so, he is fucking his coworker raw!

I will never understand why the community dick is so attractive to some. And a broke community dick at that! He's got multiple children by multiple women, lives with one of them and has a joint bank account! They are common law married.

Self-worth is the most rare of commodities it seems.

LOL you're still around? Go let that dog eat you. Or go eat a C.U.N.T. you're so rude and stupid. Love is love. Sorry you have only felt that with your dog. It's been two years. You're not a "woke philosopher" you're and ignorant female dog 🙂

Great comeback. In case you didn’t realize you are still around too 🤪

All the nastiness and insults thrown your way aside... no one here can hurt you the way you are hurting yourself. Throwing away your most precious of commodities TIME on someone who is obviously playing you for a fool. I genuinely hope you can find your way out of this.

I am his best friend and he is my best friend. I realized when I came back to this site, I was going into a different job. I was sad he did not say goodbye to me. I went to my new job (that I started when I was about 8 years old) I started to not like it again. Manager at a pizza place. A month later, my old manager (at the dealership) called me with a new position and raise. I came back. I found out he had relapsed when he found out I was leaving. No call no call no show. He had his first day back from rehab a few days after my few days back. He's just my best friend. He can't hurt me. I just love him so much. He loves me too so much. I don't even know if he loves me romantically, but I feel comfortable being his home. He has told me I am his home. And he knows I'm his home. We just love each other. Even if it's not romantic. Even if I'm not his girlfriend. He is my home, and I am his home

You hit the nail on the head with a previous post when you said he’s co-dependent—addicts/alcoholics often are. And if you know anything about codependency is, you will not help him by simply replacing his gf. He will just be codependent with you. If that’s what you’re looking for, boy you’ve found it. You can’t really argue not being codependent at this point, since you’re still actively pursuing a relationship with him—even if you say it’s not romantic, codependency can often start as friendship, particularly in early stages of sobriety. So, I think you know this is a mess. And you just don’t care. Best of luck to you.

I do know, and I do not. The only thing I can hope for is the best. For him to become sober. He’s my best friend. But we’re very communicative with has to be done for us to have the healthiest relationship possible, whether this relationship turns romantic, or we stay friends with benefits. We just have absolute trust and honesty for each other and that’s what’s most important. We both try to exercise being totally predictable with one another. For example, if he’s high one day he’ll tell me “I’m totally gonna ignore you tomorrow, it’s because I’m crashing and hurting it’s not because of you” which I accept. Of course I don’t like when he’s high, but we both know that’s out of my control. It’s been a long, weird journey; but I’m willing to see where it goes. Idk if I mentioned this in a previous post, but I did quit that job for about a month. In that time he relapsed, went to rehab, and came back by the time I had started working their again. He literally relapsed the day I found out I had put my two weeks in. While I was gone, he was no call no show for two weeks. He did the same when our manager left. He couldn’t even come in on his last day to say goodbye. The dude is a mess, but I love him and will never not be by his side

The fact that you don’t recognize these things as red flags makes me worried you have no sense of self preservation even. There will never be complete honesty when he’s not sober—fact. Things will never be what you want them to be with that shit in your lives, and he won’t feel the need to change with enablers like you around. You can’t encourage his sobriety for his kids at the very least?? I mean, I just can’t reason with irrational so I’m done blowing smoke. And I’ll be here with my tea to tell you I told you so.

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Posted by DonnaLibra

Did you get your $ 1,500 back?

Literally the only thing that matters smh.

This single woman with no children is a suga mamma for this dudes children and baby mama. All he has to do is fuck her now and again and tell her she feels like home, after a few drinks, and she's on the hook.

I lol-ed at her terming the gf as abusive for confiscating this dudes phone. Obviously she has a reason for doing so, he is fucking his coworker raw!

I will never understand why the community dick is so attractive to some. And a broke community dick at that! He's got multiple children by multiple women, lives with one of them and has a joint bank account! They are common law married.

Self-worth is the most rare of commodities it seems.

LOL you're still around? Go let that dog eat you. Or go eat a C.U.N.T. you're so rude and stupid. Love is love. Sorry you have only felt that with your dog. It's been two years. You're not a "woke philosopher" you're and ignorant female dog 🙂

Great comeback. In case you didn’t realize you are still around too 🤪

All the nastiness and insults thrown your way aside... no one here can hurt you the way you are hurting yourself. Throwing away your most precious of commodities TIME on someone who is obviously playing you for a fool. I genuinely hope you can find your way out of this.

I am his best friend and he is my best friend. I realized when I came back to this site, I was going into a different job. I was sad he did not say goodbye to me. I went to my new job (that I started when I was about 8 years old) I started to not like it again. Manager at a pizza place. A month later, my old manager (at the dealership) called me with a new position and raise. I came back. I found out he had relapsed when he found out I was leaving. No call no call no show. He had his first day back from rehab a few days after my few days back. He's just my best friend. He can't hurt me. I just love him so much. He loves me too so much. I don't even know if he loves me romantically, but I feel comfortable being his home. He has told me I am his home. And he knows I'm his home. We just love each other. Even if it's not romantic. Even if I'm not his girlfriend. He is my home, and I am his home

You hit the nail on the head with a previous post when you said he’s co-dependent—addicts/alcoholics often are. And if you know anything about codependency is, you will not help him by simply replacing his gf. He will just be codependent with you. If that’s what you’re looking for, boy you’ve found it. You can’t really argue not being codependent at this point, since you’re still actively pursuing a relationship with him—even if you say it’s not romantic, codependency can often start as friendship, particularly in early stages of sobriety. So, I think you know this is a mess. And you just don’t care. Best of luck to you.

I do know, and I do not. The only thing I can hope for is the best. For him to become sober. He’s my best friend. But we’re very communicative with has to be done for us to have the healthiest relationship possible, whether this relationship turns romantic, or we stay friends with benefits. We just have absolute trust and honesty for each other and that’s what’s most important. We both try to exercise being totally predictable with one another. For example, if he’s high one day he’ll tell me “I’m totally gonna ignore you tomorrow, it’s because I’m crashing and hurting it’s not because of you” which I accept. Of course I don’t like when he’s high, but we both know that’s out of my control. It’s been a long, weird journey; but I’m willing to see where it goes. Idk if I mentioned this in a previous post, but I did quit that job for about a month. In that time he relapsed, went to rehab, and came back by the time I had started working their again. He literally relapsed the day I found out I had put my two weeks in. While I was gone, he was no call no show for two weeks. He did the same when our manager left. He couldn’t even come in on his last day to say goodbye. The dude is a mess, but I love him and will never not be by his side

The fact that you don’t recognize these things as red flags makes me worried you have no sense of self preservation even. There will never be complete honesty when he’s not sober—fact. Things will never be what you want them to be with that shit in your lives, and he won’t feel the need to change with enablers like you around. You can’t encourage his sobriety for his kids at the very least?? I mean, I just can’t reason with irrational so I’m done blowing smoke. And I’ll be here with my tea to tell you I told you so.

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If your truly a Libra, I would assume you could win him over with your charm. If they are not married means they are single. No ring or papers =green light.

Typical libra advice lacking in discipline, morals and boundaries. I hope another libra uses their charm to lure your partner from you. That would be fun. 😆😝

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If your truly a Libra, I would assume you could win him over with your charm. If they are not married means they are single. No ring or papers =green light.

Typical libra advice lacking in discipline, morals and boundaries. I hope another libra uses their charm to lure your partner from you. That would be fun. 😆😝

What are you looking for here? Advice that you won't take? Affirmation of your man stealing skills? That no one is immune from the orbit of your attractiveness and charm? You are disgusting. Go find an audience that gives a shit.

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Have you met his children?

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You're welcome and buh-bye! 💩💩💩

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Have you met his children?

Briefly, not formally. They’re angel pies

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Have you met his children?

Briefly, not formally. They’re angel pies

And you won’t meet them formally because he has no intention of ever replacing her with you.His gf is the one who he has chosen to be his partner in life, not you.

Your not the person he loves, your a convenient easy fuck who doesn’t ask for more. Aka the perfect side piece.

Love is moving through life with your chosen person by your side. Sharing the intimate moments with them. Living together. Building a future. Joint bank account. Raising your kids together. He has all of that with her, not you.

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Have you met his children?

Briefly, not formally. They’re angel pies

And you won’t meet them formally because he has no intention of ever replacing her with you.His gf is the one who he has chosen to be his partner in life, not you.

Your not the person he loves, your a convenient easy fuck who doesn’t ask for more. Aka the perfect side piece.

Love is moving through life with your chosen person by your side. Sharing the intimate moments with them. Living together. Building a future. Joint bank account. Raising your kids together. He has all of that with her, not you.

Girl go grow a tree and dig a whole. He won’t formally introduce us yet because it’s irresponsible to show your kids “hey this is new love.” Plus as he’s going through what he’s going through, how selfish would it be of him to fully bring me into his life? That’s his main this. He does NOT wanna involve me in his stuff. Which is horrendous. His gf now? He gave her a place to live when she got evacuated. He lets her use his car daily, but she got repoed. She abandoned her two kids to be with him because she controls everything. We’re both pretty sure she’s banging his stepdad (whom allows them to live there). Building a future doesn’t always go to exact plan. All I do know is we’re crazy about each other. The sex is 😍😍😍 too. But that came way later

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Have you met his children?

Briefly, not formally. They’re angel pies

And you won’t meet them formally because he has no intention of ever replacing her with you.His gf is the one who he has chosen to be his partner in life, not you.

Your not the person he loves, your a convenient easy fuck who doesn’t ask for more. Aka the perfect side piece.

Love is moving through life with your chosen person by your side. Sharing the intimate moments with them. Living together. Building a future. Joint bank account. Raising your kids together. He has all of that with her, not you.

Girl go grow a tree and dig a whole. He won’t formally introduce us yet because it’s irresponsible to show your kids “hey this is new love.” Plus as he’s going through what he’s going through, how selfish would it be of him to fully bring me into his life? That’s his main this. He does NOT wanna involve me in his stuff. Which is horrendous. His gf now? He gave her a place to live when she got evacuated. He lets her use his car daily, but she got repoed. She abandoned her two kids to be with him because she controls everything. We’re both pretty sure she’s banging his stepdad (whom allows them to live there). Building a future doesn’t always go to exact plan. All I do know is we’re crazy about each other. The sex is 😍😍😍 too. But that came way later

It it isn’t new love it’s two years old!

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Have you met his children?

Briefly, not formally. They’re angel pies

And you won’t meet them formally because he has no intention of ever replacing her with you.His gf is the one who he has chosen to be his partner in life, not you.

Your not the person he loves, your a convenient easy fuck who doesn’t ask for more. Aka the perfect side piece.

Love is moving through life with your chosen person by your side. Sharing the intimate moments with them. Living together. Building a future. Joint bank account. Raising your kids together. He has all of that with her, not you.

Girl go grow a tree and dig a whole. He won’t formally introduce us yet because it’s irresponsible to show your kids “hey this is new love.” Plus as he’s going through what he’s going through, how selfish would it be of him to fully bring me into his life? That’s his main this. He does NOT wanna involve me in his stuff. Which is horrendous. His gf now? He gave her a place to live when she got evacuated. He lets her use his car daily, but she got repoed. She abandoned her two kids to be with him because she controls everything. We’re both pretty sure she’s banging his stepdad (whom allows them to live there). Building a future doesn’t always go to exact plan. All I do know is we’re crazy about each other. The sex is 😍😍😍 too. But that came way later

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Posted by LadyNeptune

Have you met his children?

Briefly, not formally. They’re angel pies

And you won’t meet them formally because he has no intention of ever replacing her with you.His gf is the one who he has chosen to be his partner in life, not you.

Your not the person he loves, your a convenient easy fuck who doesn’t ask for more. Aka the perfect side piece.

Love is moving through life with your chosen person by your side. Sharing the intimate moments with them. Living together. Building a future. Joint bank account. Raising your kids together. He has all of that with her, not you.

Girl go grow a tree and dig a whole. He won’t formally introduce us yet because it’s irresponsible to show your kids “hey this is new love.” Plus as he’s going through what he’s going through, how selfish would it be of him to fully bring me into his life? That’s his main this. He does NOT wanna involve me in his stuff. Which is horrendous. His gf now? He gave her a place to live when she got evacuated. He lets her use his car daily, but she got repoed. She abandoned her two kids to be with him because she controls everything. We’re both pretty sure she’s banging his stepdad (whom allows them to live there). Building a future doesn’t always go to exact plan. All I do know is we’re crazy about each other. The sex is 😍😍😍 too. But that came way later

You are incredibly naive. Him playing the victim with no control over the situation is laughable.

The kids aren’t biologically hers, ergo she has no hold over him through them. If they were biologically hers she could threaten him that if he leaves her he won’t see his children. That is not the case here.

She lives at his fathers home with him. He is not reliant on her for housing. Same with the car.

She literally has no power over him to manipulate him, be it children… the living situation… finances/car etc. it’s actually the opposite. He calls the shots. And he’s chosen EVERY DAY for the 2 years since he met you to actively chose to be with her. Over you.

After you suck his dick in the parking lot after work he goes home to have dinner with his family and sleep in the same bed with her. You may have his fleeting attention, she is the one his kids call mom and standing at his side in the photo albums.

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What exactly are you looking for here?

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Posted by LadyNeptune

Have you met his children?

Briefly, not formally. They’re angel pies

And you won’t meet them formally because he has no intention of ever replacing her with you.His gf is the one who he has chosen to be his partner in life, not you.

Your not the person he loves, your a convenient easy fuck who doesn’t ask for more. Aka the perfect side piece.

Love is moving through life with your chosen person by your side. Sharing the intimate moments with them. Living together. Building a future. Joint bank account. Raising your kids together. He has all of that with her, not you.

Girl go grow a tree and dig a whole. He won’t formally introduce us yet because it’s irresponsible to show your kids “hey this is new love.” Plus as he’s going through what he’s going through, how selfish would it be of him to fully bring me into his life? That’s his main this. He does NOT wanna involve me in his stuff. Which is horrendous. His gf now? He gave her a place to live when she got evacuated. He lets her use his car daily, but she got repoed. She abandoned her two kids to be with him because she controls everything. We’re both pretty sure she’s banging his stepdad (whom allows them to live there). Building a future doesn’t always go to exact plan. All I do know is we’re crazy about each other. The sex is 😍😍😍 too. But that came way later

You are incredibly naive. Him playing the victim with no control over the situation is laughable.

The kids aren’t biologically hers, ergo she has no hold over him through them. If they were biologically hers she could threaten him that if he leaves her he won’t see his children. That is not the case here.

She lives at his fathers home with him. He is not reliant on her for housing. Same with the car.

She literally has no power over him to manipulate him, be it children… the living situation… finances/car etc. it’s actually the opposite. He calls the shots. And he’s chosen EVERY DAY for the 2 years since he met you to actively chose to be with her. Over you.

After you suck his dick in the parking lot after work he goes home to have dinner with his family and sleep in the same bed with her. You may have his fleeting attention, she is the one his kids call mom and standing at his side in the photo albums.

You’re making up the best possible situation in your head 🤣🤣 girl please take your ignorance elsewhere. Have you ever heard of Stockholm syndrome? Like fuck off. I suck his dick in the parking lot. He goes food shopping. He cooks everyone dinner. Otherwise he’s beat. Whether by his gf, or his dad. He’ll get beat. He then helps his son with his bull homework now. 3rd homework is CRAZY now. I help my little cousins with theirs, and now I help his son with his. It’s weird now. Then he sleeps on the couch. Honestly, if he was cool kicking someone out on the street just because they wanted another girl, I wouldn’t care about him so much. Who’d kick someone out?!?! His dad doesn’t for a certain reason, and it’s his “dads” house. Like you’re soo ignorant and small minded

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Posted by LadyNeptune

Have you met his children?

Briefly, not formally. They’re angel pies

And you won’t meet them formally because he has no intention of ever replacing her with you.His gf is the one who he has chosen to be his partner in life, not you.

Your not the person he loves, your a convenient easy fuck who doesn’t ask for more. Aka the perfect side piece.

Love is moving through life with your chosen person by your side. Sharing the intimate moments with them. Living together. Building a future. Joint bank account. Raising your kids together. He has all of that with her, not you.

Girl go grow a tree and dig a whole. He won’t formally introduce us yet because it’s irresponsible to show your kids “hey this is new love.” Plus as he’s going through what he’s going through, how selfish would it be of him to fully bring me into his life? That’s his main this. He does NOT wanna involve me in his stuff. Which is horrendous. His gf now? He gave her a place to live when she got evacuated. He lets her use his car daily, but she got repoed. She abandoned her two kids to be with him because she controls everything. We’re both pretty sure she’s banging his stepdad (whom allows them to live there). Building a future doesn’t always go to exact plan. All I do know is we’re crazy about each other. The sex is 😍😍😍 too. But that came way later

You are incredibly naive. Him playing the victim with no control over the situation is laughable.

The kids aren’t biologically hers, ergo she has no hold over him through them. If they were biologically hers she could threaten him that if he leaves her he won’t see his children. That is not the case here.

She lives at his fathers home with him. He is not reliant on her for housing. Same with the car.

She literally has no power over him to manipulate him, be it children… the living situation… finances/car etc. it’s actually the opposite. He calls the shots. And he’s chosen EVERY DAY for the 2 years since he met you to actively chose to be with her. Over you.

After you suck his dick in the parking lot after work he goes home to have dinner with his family and sleep in the same bed with her. You may have his fleeting attention, she is the one his kids call mom and standing at his side in the photo albums.

You’re making up the best possible situation in your head 🤣🤣 girl please take your ignorance elsewhere. Have you ever heard of Stockholm syndrome? Like fuck off. I suck his dick in the parking lot. He goes food shopping. He cooks everyone dinner. Otherwise he’s beat. Whether by his gf, or his dad. He’ll get beat. He then helps his son with his bull homework now. 3rd homework is CRAZY now. I help my little cousins with theirs, and now I help his son with his. It’s weird now. Then he sleeps on the couch. Honestly, if he was cool kicking someone out on the street just because they wanted another girl, I wouldn’t care about him so much. Who’d kick someone out?!?! His dad doesn’t for a certain reason, and it’s his “dads” house. Like you’re soo ignorant and small minded

He tells you he sleeps on the couch. And you are naive enough to buy that narrative. He’s an addict, he knows how to lie to get what he wants. You are just an easy willing target who sought him out.

I gotta give it to him tho. Having your side chick do your kids homework is a new level of ingenuity.

*slow clap

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What exactly are you looking for here?

At this point, trying to show this lady things aren’t just black or white

No, they aren't...but there is much that can be harmful even if it is merely gray.

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Posted by librak924

Posted by LadyNeptune

Have you met his children?

Briefly, not formally. They’re angel pies

And you won’t meet them formally because he has no intention of ever replacing her with you.His gf is the one who he has chosen to be his partner in life, not you.

Your not the person he loves, your a convenient easy fuck who doesn’t ask for more. Aka the perfect side piece.

Love is moving through life with your chosen person by your side. Sharing the intimate moments with them. Living together. Building a future. Joint bank account. Raising your kids together. He has all of that with her, not you.

Girl go grow a tree and dig a whole. He won’t formally introduce us yet because it’s irresponsible to show your kids “hey this is new love.” Plus as he’s going through what he’s going through, how selfish would it be of him to fully bring me into his life? That’s his main this. He does NOT wanna involve me in his stuff. Which is horrendous. His gf now? He gave her a place to live when she got evacuated. He lets her use his car daily, but she got repoed. She abandoned her two kids to be with him because she controls everything. We’re both pretty sure she’s banging his stepdad (whom allows them to live there). Building a future doesn’t always go to exact plan. All I do know is we’re crazy about each other. The sex is 😍😍😍 too. But that came way later

You are incredibly naive. Him playing the victim with no control over the situation is laughable.

The kids aren’t biologically hers, ergo she has no hold over him through them. If they were biologically hers she could threaten him that if he leaves her he won’t see his children. That is not the case here.

She lives at his fathers home with him. He is not reliant on her for housing. Same with the car.

She literally has no power over him to manipulate him, be it children… the living situation… finances/car etc. it’s actually the opposite. He calls the shots. And he’s chosen EVERY DAY for the 2 years since he met you to actively chose to be with her. Over you.

After you suck his dick in the parking lot after work he goes home to have dinner with his family and sleep in the same bed with her. You may have his fleeting attention, she is the one his kids call mom and standing at his side in the photo albums.

You’re making up the best possible situation in your head 🤣🤣 girl please take your ignorance elsewhere. Have you ever heard of Stockholm syndrome? Like fuck off. I suck his dick in the parking lot. He goes food shopping. He cooks everyone dinner. Otherwise he’s beat. Whether by his gf, or his dad. He’ll get beat. He then helps his son with his bull homework now. 3rd homework is CRAZY now. I help my little cousins with theirs, and now I help his son with his. It’s weird now. Then he sleeps on the couch. Honestly, if he was cool kicking someone out on the street just because they wanted another girl, I wouldn’t care about him so much. Who’d kick someone out?!?! His dad doesn’t for a certain reason, and it’s his “dads” house. Like you’re soo ignorant and small minded

He tells you he sleeps on the couch. And you are naive enough to buy that narrative. He’s an addict, he knows how to lie to get what he wants. You are just an easy willing target who sought him out.

I gotta give it to him tho. Having your side chick do your kids homework is a new level of ingenuity.

*slow clap

Lmao I’m his friend too. What’s wrong with a friend helping a little one with homework? I can guarantee you he’s not like “oh I’ll use *me* to help with homework.” He’s a good dude. Wtf should I even care if he sleeps in bed with her? It’s not my business. I’m not his girlfriend 🤣 and why am I getting more flack than he has?? He has a girlfriend. I am single. It’s not my responsibility to make sure he’s faithful. If he’s not, that’s up to him. He can have sex with a cheerio and that’s not my business. Girl, I can tell you’re passionate about your believes. Pick your battles more wise, otherwise you’re gonna continue being a joke

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Posted by LadyNeptune

Have you met his children?

Briefly, not formally. They’re angel pies

And you won’t meet them formally because he has no intention of ever replacing her with you.His gf is the one who he has chosen to be his partner in life, not you.

Your not the person he loves, your a convenient easy fuck who doesn’t ask for more. Aka the perfect side piece.

Love is moving through life with your chosen person by your side. Sharing the intimate moments with them. Living together. Building a future. Joint bank account. Raising your kids together. He has all of that with her, not you.

Girl go grow a tree and dig a whole. He won’t formally introduce us yet because it’s irresponsible to show your kids “hey this is new love.” Plus as he’s going through what he’s going through, how selfish would it be of him to fully bring me into his life? That’s his main this. He does NOT wanna involve me in his stuff. Which is horrendous. His gf now? He gave her a place to live when she got evacuated. He lets her use his car daily, but she got repoed. She abandoned her two kids to be with him because she controls everything. We’re both pretty sure she’s banging his stepdad (whom allows them to live there). Building a future doesn’t always go to exact plan. All I do know is we’re crazy about each other. The sex is 😍😍😍 too. But that came way later

You are incredibly naive. Him playing the victim with no control over the situation is laughable.

The kids aren’t biologically hers, ergo she has no hold over him through them. If they were biologically hers she could threaten him that if he leaves her he won’t see his children. That is not the case here.

She lives at his fathers home with him. He is not reliant on her for housing. Same with the car.

She literally has no power over him to manipulate him, be it children… the living situation… finances/car etc. it’s actually the opposite. He calls the shots. And he’s chosen EVERY DAY for the 2 years since he met you to actively chose to be with her. Over you.

After you suck his dick in the parking lot after work he goes home to have dinner with his family and sleep in the same bed with her. You may have his fleeting attention, she is the one his kids call mom and standing at his side in the photo albums.

You’re making up the best possible situation in your head 🤣🤣 girl please take your ignorance elsewhere. Have you ever heard of Stockholm syndrome? Like fuck off. I suck his dick in the parking lot. He goes food shopping. He cooks everyone dinner. Otherwise he’s beat. Whether by his gf, or his dad. He’ll get beat. He then helps his son with his bull homework now. 3rd homework is CRAZY now. I help my little cousins with theirs, and now I help his son with his. It’s weird now. Then he sleeps on the couch. Honestly, if he was cool kicking someone out on the street just because they wanted another girl, I wouldn’t care about him so much. Who’d kick someone out?!?! His dad doesn’t for a certain reason, and it’s his “dads” house. Like you’re soo ignorant and small minded

He tells you he sleeps on the couch. And you are naive enough to buy that narrative. He’s an addict, he knows how to lie to get what he wants. You are just an easy willing target who sought him out.

I gotta give it to him tho. Having your side chick do your kids homework is a new level of ingenuity.

*slow clap

Lmao I’m his friend too. What’s wrong with a friend helping a little one with homework? I can guarantee you he’s not like “oh I’ll use *me* to help with homework.” He’s a good dude. Wtf should I even care if he sleeps in bed with her? It’s not my business. I’m not his girlfriend 🤣 and why am I getting more flack than he has?? He has a girlfriend. I am single. It’s not my responsibility to make sure he’s faithful. If he’s not, that’s up to him. He can have sex with a cheerio and that’s not my business. Girl, I can tell you’re passionate about your believes. Pick your battles more wise, otherwise you’re gonna continue being a joke

Ok so you admit you don’t care if he is faithful to you. That’s all I needed to hear.

He chose a good one for a side chick. Cause you know your place and are content to accept scraps.

I’m sorry I tried to instill a sense of worth in you. Don’t demand more for yourself. If all you aspire to be is a free fuck then who am I to challenge that.

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Just for clarity, what did he go to rehab for?

He has children? How many baby moms?

He has a girlfriend and he sleeps on her couch?

And you and him are best friends that have fucked?

Do you dabble in the same vice that makes him relapse?

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Even with the above said though, if you have had all your concerns met in this thread, I suppose all I can say is I hope you will live well, make decisions that are honorable and healthful for all involved, and find peace ultimately.

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Have you met his children?

Briefly, not formally. They’re angel pies

And you won’t meet them formally because he has no intention of ever replacing her with you.His gf is the one who he has chosen to be his partner in life, not you.

Your not the person he loves, your a convenient easy fuck who doesn’t ask for more. Aka the perfect side piece.

Love is moving through life with your chosen person by your side. Sharing the intimate moments with them. Living together. Building a future. Joint bank account. Raising your kids together. He has all of that with her, not you.

Girl go grow a tree and dig a whole. He won’t formally introduce us yet because it’s irresponsible to show your kids “hey this is new love.” Plus as he’s going through what he’s going through, how selfish would it be of him to fully bring me into his life? That’s his main this. He does NOT wanna involve me in his stuff. Which is horrendous. His gf now? He gave her a place to live when she got evacuated. He lets her use his car daily, but she got repoed. She abandoned her two kids to be with him because she controls everything. We’re both pretty sure she’s banging his stepdad (whom allows them to live there). Building a future doesn’t always go to exact plan. All I do know is we’re crazy about each other. The sex is 😍😍😍 too. But that came way later

You are incredibly naive. Him playing the victim with no control over the situation is laughable.

The kids aren’t biologically hers, ergo she has no hold over him through them. If they were biologically hers she could threaten him that if he leaves her he won’t see his children. That is not the case here.

She lives at his fathers home with him. He is not reliant on her for housing. Same with the car.

She literally has no power over him to manipulate him, be it children… the living situation… finances/car etc. it’s actually the opposite. He calls the shots. And he’s chosen EVERY DAY for the 2 years since he met you to actively chose to be with her. Over you.

After you suck his dick in the parking lot after work he goes home to have dinner with his family and sleep in the same bed with her. You may have his fleeting attention, she is the one his kids call mom and standing at his side in the photo albums.

You’re making up the best possible situation in your head 🤣🤣 girl please take your ignorance elsewhere. Have you ever heard of Stockholm syndrome? Like fuck off. I suck his dick in the parking lot. He goes food shopping. He cooks everyone dinner. Otherwise he’s beat. Whether by his gf, or his dad. He’ll get beat. He then helps his son with his bull homework now. 3rd homework is CRAZY now. I help my little cousins with theirs, and now I help his son with his. It’s weird now. Then he sleeps on the couch. Honestly, if he was cool kicking someone out on the street just because they wanted another girl, I wouldn’t care about him so much. Who’d kick someone out?!?! His dad doesn’t for a certain reason, and it’s his “dads” house. Like you’re soo ignorant and small minded

He tells you he sleeps on the couch. And you are naive enough to buy that narrative. He’s an addict, he knows how to lie to get what he wants. You are just an easy willing target who sought him out.

I gotta give it to him tho. Having your side chick do your kids homework is a new level of ingenuity.

*slow clap

Lmao I’m his friend too. What’s wrong with a friend helping a little one with homework? I can guarantee you he’s not like “oh I’ll use *me* to help with homework.” He’s a good dude. Wtf should I even care if he sleeps in bed with her? It’s not my business. I’m not his girlfriend 🤣 and why am I getting more flack than he has?? He has a girlfriend. I am single. It’s not my responsibility to make sure he’s faithful. If he’s not, that’s up to him. He can have sex with a cheerio and that’s not my business. Girl, I can tell you’re passionate about your believes. Pick your battles more wise, otherwise you’re gonna continue being a joke

Ok so you admit you don’t care if he is faithful to you. That’s all I needed to hear.

He chose a good one for a side chick. Cause you know your place and are content to accept scraps.

I’m sorry I tried to instill a sense of worth in you. Don’t demand more for yourself. If all you aspire to be is a free fuck then who am I to challenge that.

Why in the world would I compare my self worth to sex 🤣🤣🤣🤣 sex is sex. I don’t get scraps. I get the whole feast from him telling me everything about himself. And he knows everything about me. Everything that currently makes him happy. Everything that currently makes him sad. He knows everything about me too. We both know from each other, just a weird side eye “hey what’s up what’s wrong?” Or a different curve of our smile “hey goofy what’s up?” That’s more important that sex. He doesn’t get that from his GiRlFrIeNd. We know each other like that back of each other’s hand. I know my worth, and I’m sorry you’re spotty with you’re worth

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Have you met his children?

Briefly, not formally. They’re angel pies

And you won’t meet them formally because he has no intention of ever replacing her with you.His gf is the one who he has chosen to be his partner in life, not you.

Your not the person he loves, your a convenient easy fuck who doesn’t ask for more. Aka the perfect side piece.

Love is moving through life with your chosen person by your side. Sharing the intimate moments with them. Living together. Building a future. Joint bank account. Raising your kids together. He has all of that with her, not you.

Girl go grow a tree and dig a whole. He won’t formally introduce us yet because it’s irresponsible to show your kids “hey this is new love.” Plus as he’s going through what he’s going through, how selfish would it be of him to fully bring me into his life? That’s his main this. He does NOT wanna involve me in his stuff. Which is horrendous. His gf now? He gave her a place to live when she got evacuated. He lets her use his car daily, but she got repoed. She abandoned her two kids to be with him because she controls everything. We’re both pretty sure she’s banging his stepdad (whom allows them to live there). Building a future doesn’t always go to exact plan. All I do know is we’re crazy about each other. The sex is 😍😍😍 too. But that came way later

You are incredibly naive. Him playing the victim with no control over the situation is laughable.

The kids aren’t biologically hers, ergo she has no hold over him through them. If they were biologically hers she could threaten him that if he leaves her he won’t see his children. That is not the case here.

She lives at his fathers home with him. He is not reliant on her for housing. Same with the car.

She literally has no power over him to manipulate him, be it children… the living situation… finances/car etc. it’s actually the opposite. He calls the shots. And he’s chosen EVERY DAY for the 2 years since he met you to actively chose to be with her. Over you.

After you suck his dick in the parking lot after work he goes home to have dinner with his family and sleep in the same bed with her. You may have his fleeting attention, she is the one his kids call mom and standing at his side in the photo albums.

You’re making up the best possible situation in your head 🤣🤣 girl please take your ignorance elsewhere. Have you ever heard of Stockholm syndrome? Like fuck off. I suck his dick in the parking lot. He goes food shopping. He cooks everyone dinner. Otherwise he’s beat. Whether by his gf, or his dad. He’ll get beat. He then helps his son with his bull homework now. 3rd homework is CRAZY now. I help my little cousins with theirs, and now I help his son with his. It’s weird now. Then he sleeps on the couch. Honestly, if he was cool kicking someone out on the street just because they wanted another girl, I wouldn’t care about him so much. Who’d kick someone out?!?! His dad doesn’t for a certain reason, and it’s his “dads” house. Like you’re soo ignorant and small minded

He tells you he sleeps on the couch. And you are naive enough to buy that narrative. He’s an addict, he knows how to lie to get what he wants. You are just an easy willing target who sought him out.

I gotta give it to him tho. Having your side chick do your kids homework is a new level of ingenuity.

*slow clap

Lmao I’m his friend too. What’s wrong with a friend helping a little one with homework? I can guarantee you he’s not like “oh I’ll use *me* to help with homework.” He’s a good dude. Wtf should I even care if he sleeps in bed with her? It’s not my business. I’m not his girlfriend 🤣 and why am I getting more flack than he has?? He has a girlfriend. I am single. It’s not my responsibility to make sure he’s faithful. If he’s not, that’s up to him. He can have sex with a cheerio and that’s not my business. Girl, I can tell you’re passionate about your believes. Pick your battles more wise, otherwise you’re gonna continue being a joke

Ok so you admit you don’t care if he is faithful to you. That’s all I needed to hear.

He chose a good one for a side chick. Cause you know your place and are content to accept scraps.

I’m sorry I tried to instill a sense of worth in you. Don’t demand more for yourself. If all you aspire to be is a free fuck then who am I to challenge that.

Why in the world would I compare my self worth to sex 🤣🤣🤣🤣 sex is sex. I don’t get scraps. I get the whole feast from him telling me everything about himself. And he knows everything about me. Everything that currently makes him happy. Everything that currently makes him sad. He knows everything about me too. We both know from each other, just a weird side eye “hey what’s up what’s wrong?” Or a different curve of our smile “hey goofy what’s up?” That’s more important that sex. He doesn’t get that from his GiRlFrIeNd. We know each other like that back of each other’s hand. I know my worth, and I’m sorry you’re spotty with you’re worth

I never said sex = self worth.

It’s the part where he has a whole ass family including a partner who he lives with and raises his children with. You only get a few convos and sex aka scraps. But I suppose when one is so desperate for human interaction even that puny amount feels like a feast.

Knowing you are content with being a temporary fixture in his life, a “friend”, there isn’t anything more to add here.

Far be it from me to try to convince someone that love is about building a future together.

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Have you met his children?

Briefly, not formally. They’re angel pies

And you won’t meet them formally because he has no intention of ever replacing her with you.His gf is the one who he has chosen to be his partner in life, not you.

Your not the person he loves, your a convenient easy fuck who doesn’t ask for more. Aka the perfect side piece.

Love is moving through life with your chosen person by your side. Sharing the intimate moments with them. Living together. Building a future. Joint bank account. Raising your kids together. He has all of that with her, not you.

Girl go grow a tree and dig a whole. He won’t formally introduce us yet because it’s irresponsible to show your kids “hey this is new love.” Plus as he’s going through what he’s going through, how selfish would it be of him to fully bring me into his life? That’s his main this. He does NOT wanna involve me in his stuff. Which is horrendous. His gf now? He gave her a place to live when she got evacuated. He lets her use his car daily, but she got repoed. She abandoned her two kids to be with him because she controls everything. We’re both pretty sure she’s banging his stepdad (whom allows them to live there). Building a future doesn’t always go to exact plan. All I do know is we’re crazy about each other. The sex is 😍😍😍 too. But that came way later

You are incredibly naive. Him playing the victim with no control over the situation is laughable.

The kids aren’t biologically hers, ergo she has no hold over him through them. If they were biologically hers she could threaten him that if he leaves her he won’t see his children. That is not the case here.

She lives at his fathers home with him. He is not reliant on her for housing. Same with the car.

She literally has no power over him to manipulate him, be it children… the living situation… finances/car etc. it’s actually the opposite. He calls the shots. And he’s chosen EVERY DAY for the 2 years since he met you to actively chose to be with her. Over you.

After you suck his dick in the parking lot after work he goes home to have dinner with his family and sleep in the same bed with her. You may have his fleeting attention, she is the one his kids call mom and standing at his side in the photo albums.

You’re making up the best possible situation in your head 🤣🤣 girl please take your ignorance elsewhere. Have you ever heard of Stockholm syndrome? Like fuck off. I suck his dick in the parking lot. He goes food shopping. He cooks everyone dinner. Otherwise he’s beat. Whether by his gf, or his dad. He’ll get beat. He then helps his son with his bull homework now. 3rd homework is CRAZY now. I help my little cousins with theirs, and now I help his son with his. It’s weird now. Then he sleeps on the couch. Honestly, if he was cool kicking someone out on the street just because they wanted another girl, I wouldn’t care about him so much. Who’d kick someone out?!?! His dad doesn’t for a certain reason, and it’s his “dads” house. Like you’re soo ignorant and small minded

He tells you he sleeps on the couch. And you are naive enough to buy that narrative. He’s an addict, he knows how to lie to get what he wants. You are just an easy willing target who sought him out.

I gotta give it to him tho. Having your side chick do your kids homework is a new level of ingenuity.

*slow clap

Lmao I’m his friend too. What’s wrong with a friend helping a little one with homework? I can guarantee you he’s not like “oh I’ll use *me* to help with homework.” He’s a good dude. Wtf should I even care if he sleeps in bed with her? It’s not my business. I’m not his girlfriend 🤣 and why am I getting more flack than he has?? He has a girlfriend. I am single. It’s not my responsibility to make sure he’s faithful. If he’s not, that’s up to him. He can have sex with a cheerio and that’s not my business. Girl, I can tell you’re passionate about your believes. Pick your battles more wise, otherwise you’re gonna continue being a joke

Ok so you admit you don’t care if he is faithful to you. That’s all I needed to hear.

He chose a good one for a side chick. Cause you know your place and are content to accept scraps.

I’m sorry I tried to instill a sense of worth in you. Don’t demand more for yourself. If all you aspire to be is a free fuck then who am I to challenge that.

Why in the world would I compare my self worth to sex 🤣🤣🤣🤣 sex is sex. I don’t get scraps. I get the whole feast from him telling me everything about himself. And he knows everything about me. Everything that currently makes him happy. Everything that currently makes him sad. He knows everything about me too. We both know from each other, just a weird side eye “hey what’s up what’s wrong?” Or a different curve of our smile “hey goofy what’s up?” That’s more important that sex. He doesn’t get that from his GiRlFrIeNd. We know each other like that back of each other’s hand. I know my worth, and I’m sorry you’re spotty with you’re worth

I never said sex = self worth.

It’s the part where he has a whole ass family including a partner who he lives with and raises his children with. You only get a few convos and sex aka scraps. But I suppose when one is so desperate for human interaction even that puny amount feels like a feast.

Knowing you are content with being a temporary fixture in his life, a “friend”, there isn’t anything more to add here.

Far be it from me to try to convince someone that love is about building a future together.

Girl I’ll send you the wedding invitation. Grow up

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Have you met his children?

Briefly, not formally. They’re angel pies

And you won’t meet them formally because he has no intention of ever replacing her with you.His gf is the one who he has chosen to be his partner in life, not you.

Your not the person he loves, your a convenient easy fuck who doesn’t ask for more. Aka the perfect side piece.

Love is moving through life with your chosen person by your side. Sharing the intimate moments with them. Living together. Building a future. Joint bank account. Raising your kids together. He has all of that with her, not you.

Girl go grow a tree and dig a whole. He won’t formally introduce us yet because it’s irresponsible to show your kids “hey this is new love.” Plus as he’s going through what he’s going through, how selfish would it be of him to fully bring me into his life? That’s his main this. He does NOT wanna involve me in his stuff. Which is horrendous. His gf now? He gave her a place to live when she got evacuated. He lets her use his car daily, but she got repoed. She abandoned her two kids to be with him because she controls everything. We’re both pretty sure she’s banging his stepdad (whom allows them to live there). Building a future doesn’t always go to exact plan. All I do know is we’re crazy about each other. The sex is 😍😍😍 too. But that came way later

You are incredibly naive. Him playing the victim with no control over the situation is laughable.

The kids aren’t biologically hers, ergo she has no hold over him through them. If they were biologically hers she could threaten him that if he leaves her he won’t see his children. That is not the case here.

She lives at his fathers home with him. He is not reliant on her for housing. Same with the car.

She literally has no power over him to manipulate him, be it children… the living situation… finances/car etc. it’s actually the opposite. He calls the shots. And he’s chosen EVERY DAY for the 2 years since he met you to actively chose to be with her. Over you.

After you suck his dick in the parking lot after work he goes home to have dinner with his family and sleep in the same bed with her. You may have his fleeting attention, she is the one his kids call mom and standing at his side in the photo albums.

You’re making up the best possible situation in your head 🤣🤣 girl please take your ignorance elsewhere. Have you ever heard of Stockholm syndrome? Like fuck off. I suck his dick in the parking lot. He goes food shopping. He cooks everyone dinner. Otherwise he’s beat. Whether by his gf, or his dad. He’ll get beat. He then helps his son with his bull homework now. 3rd homework is CRAZY now. I help my little cousins with theirs, and now I help his son with his. It’s weird now. Then he sleeps on the couch. Honestly, if he was cool kicking someone out on the street just because they wanted another girl, I wouldn’t care about him so much. Who’d kick someone out?!?! His dad doesn’t for a certain reason, and it’s his “dads” house. Like you’re soo ignorant and small minded

He tells you he sleeps on the couch. And you are naive enough to buy that narrative. He’s an addict, he knows how to lie to get what he wants. You are just an easy willing target who sought him out.

I gotta give it to him tho. Having your side chick do your kids homework is a new level of ingenuity.

*slow clap

Lmao I’m his friend too. What’s wrong with a friend helping a little one with homework? I can guarantee you he’s not like “oh I’ll use *me* to help with homework.” He’s a good dude. Wtf should I even care if he sleeps in bed with her? It’s not my business. I’m not his girlfriend 🤣 and why am I getting more flack than he has?? He has a girlfriend. I am single. It’s not my responsibility to make sure he’s faithful. If he’s not, that’s up to him. He can have sex with a cheerio and that’s not my business. Girl, I can tell you’re passionate about your believes. Pick your battles more wise, otherwise you’re gonna continue being a joke

Ok so you admit you don’t care if he is faithful to you. That’s all I needed to hear.

He chose a good one for a side chick. Cause you know your place and are content to accept scraps.

I’m sorry I tried to instill a sense of worth in you. Don’t demand more for yourself. If all you aspire to be is a free fuck then who am I to challenge that.

Why in the world would I compare my self worth to sex 🤣🤣🤣🤣 sex is sex. I don’t get scraps. I get the whole feast from him telling me everything about himself. And he knows everything about me. Everything that currently makes him happy. Everything that currently makes him sad. He knows everything about me too. We both know from each other, just a weird side eye “hey what’s up what’s wrong?” Or a different curve of our smile “hey goofy what’s up?” That’s more important that sex. He doesn’t get that from his GiRlFrIeNd. We know each other like that back of each other’s hand. I know my worth, and I’m sorry you’re spotty with you’re worth

I never said sex = self worth.

It’s the part where he has a whole ass family including a partner who he lives with and raises his children with. You only get a few convos and sex aka scraps. But I suppose when one is so desperate for human interaction even that puny amount feels like a feast.

Knowing you are content with being a temporary fixture in his life, a “friend”, there isn’t anything more to add here.

Far be it from me to try to convince someone that love is about building a future together.

Girl I’ll send you the wedding invitation. Grow up

Yeah hard pass on that.

But here’s hoping you’ll be baby momma number 3.

Start practicing to hold that plan b under your tongue when you swallow.

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Just for clarity, what did he go to rehab for?

He has children? How many baby moms?

He has a girlfriend and he sleeps on her couch?

And you and him are best friends that have fucked?

Do you dabble in the same vice that makes him relapse?

He’s been in and out of rehab and mental hospitals since he was 14. Mostly mental. I don’t want to disclose the drugs, but he’s done everything. One of his many fam members introduced him to drugs. He had a rough childhood.

Two little ones. Two baby moms. He has custody of his older one, and he just brought his younger ones mother to court to see his daughter more. He bent over backwards for what he now has to pay for child support (20% of his paycheck) he’s pissed but it’s worth seeing his daughter weekly.

We met at work 2 years ago. It was electric just shaking hands and meeting. We do consider each other great friends now.

When together, we only smoke the greens. He has claimed to be on his stuff. I only smoke the green and drink the hops

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Just for clarity, what did he go to rehab for?

He has children? How many baby moms?

He has a girlfriend and he sleeps on her couch?

And you and him are best friends that have fucked?

Do you dabble in the same vice that makes him relapse?

He’s been in and out of rehab and mental hospitals since he was 14. Mostly mental. I don’t want to disclose the drugs, but he’s done everything. One of his many fam members introduced him to drugs. He had a rough childhood.

Two little ones. Two baby moms. He has custody of his older one, and he just brought his younger ones mother to court to see his daughter more. He bent over backwards for what he now has to pay for child support (20% of his paycheck) he’s pissed but it’s worth seeing his daughter weekly.

We met at work 2 years ago. It was electric just shaking hands and meeting. We do consider each other great friends now.

When together, we only smoke the greens. He has claimed to be on his stuff. I only smoke the green and drink the hops

Do his vices make you want to take care of him in a way?

Do you help him in any way?

And when you say his gf is abusive, do you mean controlling as she doesn’t want him to use ?

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Just for clarity, what did he go to rehab for?

He has children? How many baby moms?

He has a girlfriend and he sleeps on her couch?

And you and him are best friends that have fucked?

Do you dabble in the same vice that makes him relapse?

He’s been in and out of rehab and mental hospitals since he was 14. Mostly mental. I don’t want to disclose the drugs, but he’s done everything. One of his many fam members introduced him to drugs. He had a rough childhood.

Two little ones. Two baby moms. He has custody of his older one, and he just brought his younger ones mother to court to see his daughter more. He bent over backwards for what he now has to pay for child support (20% of his paycheck) he’s pissed but it’s worth seeing his daughter weekly.

We met at work 2 years ago. It was electric just shaking hands and meeting. We do consider each other great friends now.

When together, we only smoke the greens. He has claimed to be on his stuff. I only smoke the green and drink the hops

Do his vices make you want to take care of him in a way?

Do you help him in any way?

And when you say his gf is abusive, do you mean controlling as she doesn’t want him to use ?

No. I fell in love with him before I knew about his vices. But yes, I’m a way. We work together and only I know as well as one other person (whom we both consider like an older brother). Of course, I get worried when he calls out. Our old manager knew too, and with our new manger our “older bro” and me just make sure he’s covered with our new manager to make sure he’ll still have a job.

I try to help him in a sense of making sure he eats well everyday. He’s more skinny than he should be. He hates it. But he’s broke, can’t always afford a hearty lunch. He’s our best mechanic. Dude needs some fat. I don’t mind, but it’s unhealthy for him.

She’s abusive in the sense of that, although I know she’s trying to be helpful. But she’s also abusive in the fact that she complains to everyone who’d listen how awful he is. But awful meaning small dick, he’s dumb, she literally tells people she’s only with him because he’s easily manipulated. His fam hates her, but he can’t see fam as much. He’s super close with his sis and mom. He can’t see them much. He got his sis a job at our place just to see some fam when he can

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Just for clarity, what did he go to rehab for?

He has children? How many baby moms?

He has a girlfriend and he sleeps on her couch?

And you and him are best friends that have fucked?

Do you dabble in the same vice that makes him relapse?

He’s been in and out of rehab and mental hospitals since he was 14. Mostly mental. I don’t want to disclose the drugs, but he’s done everything. One of his many fam members introduced him to drugs. He had a rough childhood.

Two little ones. Two baby moms. He has custody of his older one, and he just brought his younger ones mother to court to see his daughter more. He bent over backwards for what he now has to pay for child support (20% of his paycheck) he’s pissed but it’s worth seeing his daughter weekly.

We met at work 2 years ago. It was electric just shaking hands and meeting. We do consider each other great friends now.

When together, we only smoke the greens. He has claimed to be on his stuff. I only smoke the green and drink the hops

Do his vices make you want to take care of him in a way?

Do you help him in any way?

And when you say his gf is abusive, do you mean controlling as she doesn’t want him to use ?

No. I fell in love with him before I knew about his vices. But yes, I’m a way. We work together and only I know as well as one other person (whom we both consider like an older brother). Of course, I get worried when he calls out. Our old manager knew too, and with our new manger our “older bro” and me just make sure he’s covered with our new manager to make sure he’ll still have a job.

I try to help him in a sense of making sure he eats well everyday. He’s more skinny than he should be. He hates it. But he’s broke, can’t always afford a hearty lunch. He’s our best mechanic. Dude needs some fat. I don’t mind, but it’s unhealthy for him.

She’s abusive in the sense of that, although I know she’s trying to be helpful. But she’s also abusive in the fact that she complains to everyone who’d listen how awful he is. But awful meaning small dick, he’s dumb, she literally tells people she’s only with him because he’s easily manipulated. His fam hates her, but he can’t see fam as much. He’s super close with his sis and mom. He can’t see them much. He got his sis a job at our place just to see some fam when he can

what's the couple signs?

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Just for clarity, what did he go to rehab for?

He has children? How many baby moms?

He has a girlfriend and he sleeps on her couch?

And you and him are best friends that have fucked?

Do you dabble in the same vice that makes him relapse?

He’s been in and out of rehab and mental hospitals since he was 14. Mostly mental. I don’t want to disclose the drugs, but he’s done everything. One of his many fam members introduced him to drugs. He had a rough childhood.

Two little ones. Two baby moms. He has custody of his older one, and he just brought his younger ones mother to court to see his daughter more. He bent over backwards for what he now has to pay for child support (20% of his paycheck) he’s pissed but it’s worth seeing his daughter weekly.

We met at work 2 years ago. It was electric just shaking hands and meeting. We do consider each other great friends now.

When together, we only smoke the greens. He has claimed to be on his stuff. I only smoke the green and drink the hops

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Just for clarity, what did he go to rehab for?

He has children? How many baby moms?

He has a girlfriend and he sleeps on her couch?

And you and him are best friends that have fucked?

Do you dabble in the same vice that makes him relapse?

He’s been in and out of rehab and mental hospitals since he was 14. Mostly mental. I don’t want to disclose the drugs, but he’s done everything. One of his many fam members introduced him to drugs. He had a rough childhood.

Two little ones. Two baby moms. He has custody of his older one, and he just brought his younger ones mother to court to see his daughter more. He bent over backwards for what he now has to pay for child support (20% of his paycheck) he’s pissed but it’s worth seeing his daughter weekly.

We met at work 2 years ago. It was electric just shaking hands and meeting. We do consider each other great friends now.

When together, we only smoke the greens. He has claimed to be on his stuff. I only smoke the green and drink the hops

Do you want to save him and be the woman who changes him?

Or are you cool with just casual and intense meetings despite his baggage?

Do you see this ever becoming fully serious or just an affair?

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Just for clarity, what did he go to rehab for?

He has children? How many baby moms?

He has a girlfriend and he sleeps on her couch?

And you and him are best friends that have fucked?

Do you dabble in the same vice that makes him relapse?

He’s been in and out of rehab and mental hospitals since he was 14. Mostly mental. I don’t want to disclose the drugs, but he’s done everything. One of his many fam members introduced him to drugs. He had a rough childhood.

Two little ones. Two baby moms. He has custody of his older one, and he just brought his younger ones mother to court to see his daughter more. He bent over backwards for what he now has to pay for child support (20% of his paycheck) he’s pissed but it’s worth seeing his daughter weekly.

We met at work 2 years ago. It was electric just shaking hands and meeting. We do consider each other great friends now.

When together, we only smoke the greens. He has claimed to be on his stuff. I only smoke the green and drink the hops

Do you want to save him and be the woman who changes him?

Or are you cool with just casual and intense meetings despite his baggage?

Do you see this ever becoming fully serious or just an affair?

No, he can save himself. I can support him while he does what he needs to do though.

We all have baggage. I honestly wouldn’t care to be intimate with someone without baggage. Reason being, I have baggage. How could I relate to someone whose had a perfect life?

I see him not being out of my life anytime soon. I could def see us being an amazing couple

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Just for clarity, what did he go to rehab for?

He has children? How many baby moms?

He has a girlfriend and he sleeps on her couch?

And you and him are best friends that have fucked?

Do you dabble in the same vice that makes him relapse?

He’s been in and out of rehab and mental hospitals since he was 14. Mostly mental. I don’t want to disclose the drugs, but he’s done everything. One of his many fam members introduced him to drugs. He had a rough childhood.

Two little ones. Two baby moms. He has custody of his older one, and he just brought his younger ones mother to court to see his daughter more. He bent over backwards for what he now has to pay for child support (20% of his paycheck) he’s pissed but it’s worth seeing his daughter weekly.

We met at work 2 years ago. It was electric just shaking hands and meeting. We do consider each other great friends now.

When together, we only smoke the greens. He has claimed to be on his stuff. I only smoke the green and drink the hops

Do you want to save him and be the woman who changes him?

Or are you cool with just casual and intense meetings despite his baggage?

Do you see this ever becoming fully serious or just an affair?

No, he can save himself. I can support him while he does what he needs to do though.

We all have baggage. I honestly wouldn’t care to be intimate with someone without baggage. Reason being, I have baggage. How could I relate to someone whose had a perfect life?

I see him not being out of my life anytime soon. I could def see us being an amazing couple

You sure you two would be happy together with nothing left to "fix"?

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2 years this been going on tho?

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Did you get your $ 1,500 back?

Literally the only thing that matters smh.

This single woman with no children is a suga mamma for this dudes children and baby mama. All he has to do is fuck her now and again and tell her she feels like home, after a few drinks, and she's on the hook.

I lol-ed at her terming the gf as abusive for confiscating this dudes phone. Obviously she has a reason for doing so, he is fucking his coworker raw!

I will never understand why the community dick is so attractive to some. And a broke community dick at that! He's got multiple children by multiple women, lives with one of them and has a joint bank account! They are common law married.

Self-worth is the most rare of commodities it seems.

LOL you're still around? Go let that dog eat you. Or go eat a C.U.N.T. you're so rude and stupid. Love is love. Sorry you have only felt that with your dog. It's been two years. You're not a "woke philosopher" you're and ignorant female dog 🙂

Great comeback. In case you didn’t realize you are still around too 🤪

All the nastiness and insults thrown your way aside... no one here can hurt you the way you are hurting yourself. Throwing away your most precious of commodities TIME on someone who is obviously playing you for a fool. I genuinely hope you can find your way out of this.

I am his best friend and he is my best friend. I realized when I came back to this site, I was going into a different job. I was sad he did not say goodbye to me. I went to my new job (that I started when I was about 8 years old) I started to not like it again. Manager at a pizza place. A month later, my old manager (at the dealership) called me with a new position and raise. I came back. I found out he had relapsed when he found out I was leaving. No call no call no show. He had his first day back from rehab a few days after my few days back. He's just my best friend. He can't hurt me. I just love him so much. He loves me too so much. I don't even know if he loves me romantically, but I feel comfortable being his home. He has told me I am his home. And he knows I'm his home. We just love each other. Even if it's not romantic. Even if I'm not his girlfriend. He is my home, and I am his home

You hit the nail on the head with a previous post when you said he’s co-dependent—addicts/alcoholics often are. And if you know anything about codependency is, you will not help him by simply replacing his gf. He will just be codependent with you. If that’s what you’re looking for, boy you’ve found it. You can’t really argue not being codependent at this point, since you’re still actively pursuing a relationship with him—even if you say it’s not romantic, codependency can often start as friendship, particularly in early stages of sobriety. So, I think you know this is a mess. And you just don’t care. Best of luck to you.

I do know, and I do not. The only thing I can hope for is the best. For him to become sober. He’s my best friend. But we’re very communicative with has to be done for us to have the healthiest relationship possible, whether this relationship turns romantic, or we stay friends with benefits. We just have absolute trust and honesty for each other and that’s what’s most important. We both try to exercise being totally predictable with one another. For example, if he’s high one day he’ll tell me “I’m totally gonna ignore you tomorrow, it’s because I’m crashing and hurting it’s not because of you” which I accept. Of course I don’t like when he’s high, but we both know that’s out of my control. It’s been a long, weird journey; but I’m willing to see where it goes. Idk if I mentioned this in a previous post, but I did quit that job for about a month. In that time he relapsed, went to rehab, and came back by the time I had started working their again. He literally relapsed the day I found out I had put my two weeks in. While I was gone, he was no call no show for two weeks. He did the same when our manager left. He couldn’t even come in on his last day to say goodbye. The dude is a mess, but I love him and will never not be by his side

The fact that you don’t recognize these things as red flags makes me worried you have no sense of self preservation even. There will never be complete honesty when he’s not sober—fact. Things will never be what you want them to be with that shit in your lives, and he won’t feel the need to change with enablers like you around. You can’t encourage his sobriety for his kids at the very least?? I mean, I just can’t reason with irrational so I’m done blowing smoke. And I’ll be here with my tea to tell you I told you so.

Seriously just drink your tea. You can encourage someone to stay sober until your face turns blue. It ain’t gonna happen; unless THEY wanna stay sober. He’s not gonna get sober for me. He’s not even gonna get sober for his kids. He’s gonna get sober when HE wants to. And take it from someone who knows, losing people because of this disease just makes it worse. So sip your tea and go elsewhere with it because you’re ignorant

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What exactly are you looking for here?

At this point, trying to show this lady things aren’t just black or white

No, they aren't...but there is much that can be harmful even if it is merely gray.

I guess that’s no ones choice but mine. I’m not looking for the all black, or all white side. It’s damaging for humanity to think there’s no gray

I'm not so sure that anyone gets to unilaterally say that their behavior is above judgment/analysis/or the ability to cause harm.

That isn't how harm is determined and definitely isn't how accountability works, what is completely in our power is the willingness to be accountable to what harms we may inflict unintentionally or not.

Within that I am making no arguments for there not being a gray space, also within that understanding, I am not so sure that yours and his actions are beyond reproach, even though you definitely have vested feelings and he himself claims that he has said feelings as well.

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Just realise his vice is at the top of his list of priorities.

Not his kids or you.

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Just realise his vice is at the top of his list of priorities.

Not his kids or you.

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Just for clarity, what did he go to rehab for?

He has children? How many baby moms?

He has a girlfriend and he sleeps on her couch?

And you and him are best friends that have fucked?

Do you dabble in the same vice that makes him relapse?

He’s been in and out of rehab and mental hospitals since he was 14. Mostly mental. I don’t want to disclose the drugs, but he’s done everything. One of his many fam members introduced him to drugs. He had a rough childhood.

Two little ones. Two baby moms. He has custody of his older one, and he just brought his younger ones mother to court to see his daughter more. He bent over backwards for what he now has to pay for child support (20% of his paycheck) he’s pissed but it’s worth seeing his daughter weekly.

We met at work 2 years ago. It was electric just shaking hands and meeting. We do consider each other great friends now.

When together, we only smoke the greens. He has claimed to be on his stuff. I only smoke the green and drink the hops

Do you want to save him and be the woman who changes him?

Or are you cool with just casual and intense meetings despite his baggage?

Do you see this ever becoming fully serious or just an affair?

No, he can save himself. I can support him while he does what he needs to do though.

We all have baggage. I honestly wouldn’t care to be intimate with someone without baggage. Reason being, I have baggage. How could I relate to someone whose had a perfect life?

I see him not being out of my life anytime soon. I could def see us being an amazing couple

You sure you two would be happy together with nothing left to "fix"?

I’m not sure what that’s supposed to mean. Like, shouldn’t you be fixing and improving yourself daily? We’re not trying to fix each other, we’re trying to fix ourselves

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Just realise his vice is at the top of his list of priorities.

Not his kids or you.

Yup having his cake and eating it too.

Side note- I don't know how women settle for crumbs like this. Just crazy.

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Just realise his vice is at the top of his list of priorities.

Not his kids or you.

Yup having his cake and eating it too.

Side note- I don't know how women settle for crumbs like this. Just crazy.

Its understandable to an extent when you don't know that the dude has an old lady already and by the time you find out you already are in love blah blah blah. But she knew from the jump here that he had a gf living in the home raising his children.

Crazy is right

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Just realise his vice is at the top of his list of priorities.

Not his kids or you.

Yup having his cake and eating it too.

Side note- I don't know how women settle for crumbs like this. Just crazy.

Its understandable to an extent when you don't know that the dude has an old lady already and by the time you find out you already are in love blah blah blah. But she knew from the jump here that he had a gf living in the home raising his children.

Crazy is right

I get what you're saying but even that has a limit. Side women holding on to nothing, while the man has everything is garbage. Love should have some type of limits.

But standing by your "best friend" and in love, while he's fucking both of y'all 🥴

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Lmao y’all need better things to do with your time. I’ll post when the wedding date is 🤷🏼‍♀️