I need advice on a Virgo man

So, I was briefly dating a Virgo man for about a month or so. We've known each other since we were kids. We both self admittedly through the years have thought about one another but never reached out to contact each other. Yet, here we are years later talking. It started as catching up then it turned into more. A few weeks ago we hung out. He came over to my house watched movies, cuddled, and spent the night. However, that night he met my son's dad. The next day, we ended up having a family dinner over at my friend's house then ended up going out. He drove us all home back to my place where he spent the night again. Some play started but it didn't end very well. The next day, he didn't leave until after 2 that day. He kept in contact but slowly started to push away it seemed. I got some unnerving news that made me snippy towards everyone including him. He had stated that things between us needed to slow down and I agreed with him. Come that Thursday, he said he needed space. Which I didn't understand what I had done when I had agreed that we needed to slow the relationship down. Then, he dropped off the planet that Friday night after telling me that his phone hadn't been paid he thought it was another day when it was the day it was turned off. So, that Sunday came and he contacted. We talked and agreed that we would start over from the basics like we'd never seen each other in years. Then come Monday, where he finds out that I know someone that he knows and has known this person for a long time. He asks me how I know this person, how long I've known him, and such things like that. Then when I answer the questions he claimed I got defensive which I don't believe I did, and if I did it was because of the way he asked the questions. Then Tuesday we talked a little bit where he told me that his feelings haven't gone away 100% , are they ever going to or is he always going to hold onto me? Then after saying that he abruptly ends the conversation and haven't heard from him since. I texted him Friday to say that I hope him and his grandma are doing alright (not expecting a response) and then again on Sunday (Easter) and said the kids and I wish you and your family a happy Easter. And hours later I sent a text saying don't get it twisted I just want to be friends (yet again not expecting a response from him) I truthfully would rather have him in my life as my friend than nothing at all. I don't have as many feelings for him as I once did. However, I'd like to know if he's ever going to come back to be in my life and if his feelings will ever go away? Or if this is him shutting me out to get space and when he's done getting his space and figuring things out, will he show up again? Sorry, it's long. But if you could please help, I'd really appreciate it. Thank you.

Yes Virgo men like space. So much space they'd ideally suit a woman living on Venus. Its actually ridic and not many people can deal with it. If a relationship is last on your list of priorities-or you are looking for a side dude-date a virgo.

He ended up contacting me but dropping off the planet again a couple days later. I'm still confused as to whether he's let me go or not. His first text in a week was apologizing for ignoring me and said he needed space to relax and de-stress. Wished the kids and I a happy belated Easter. And asked how the kids and I are and if my son is behaving. Throughout the days until Thursday we talked about his car, spiders, my kids, and his hobbies. Once I asked him if he wanted to play the question game, he fell off the planet again and I haven't heard from him. I texted and asked if we were friends and I wanted an honest answer. Obviously that was before I'd seen all of your posts. I haven't texted him since. And I'm giving him his space cause I figured that's what he needed anyways. So, the real question is...has he let me go or is he still holding onto to me?

And I'm also kinda curious if I'm even on his mind?

If you've really known him since childhood, then you'd know what he's like. Virgos recharge their batteries & process thoughts and feelings during times of solitude. They NEED their time alone. He'll get back to you when he's ready. If he doesn't, then you obviously don't occupy a very big spot on his mind.

As a Virgo moon who has been through the growing-up Virgo stages, I'm qualified to answer.

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If you've really known him since childhood, then you'd know what he's like. Virgos recharge their batteries & process thoughts and feelings during times of solitude. They NEED their time alone. He'll get back to you when he's ready. If he doesn't, then you obviously don't occupy a very big spot on his mind.

As a Virgo moon who has been through the growing-up Virgo stages, I'm qualified to answer.

Could you please message me? And yes, we've known each other since childhood. However, we lost contact through high school years.

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If you've really known him since childhood, then you'd know what he's like. Virgos recharge their batteries & process thoughts and feelings during times of solitude. They NEED their time alone. He'll get back to you when he's ready. If he doesn't, then you obviously don't occupy a very big spot on his mind.

As a Virgo moon who has been through the growing-up Virgo stages, I'm qualified to answer.

Could you please message me? And yes, we've known each other since childhood. However, we lost contact through high school years.

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I'll message you in about 12 hours, I'll be away baking more special blend banana cake with a Virgo of my own 🙂

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If you've really known him since childhood, then you'd know what he's like. Virgos recharge their batteries & process thoughts and feelings during times of solitude. They NEED their time alone. He'll get back to you when he's ready. If he doesn't, then you obviously don't occupy a very big spot on his mind.

As a Virgo moon who has been through the growing-up Virgo stages, I'm qualified to answer.

Could you please message me? And yes, we've known each other since childhood. However, we lost contact through high school years.

I'll message you in about 12 hours, I'll be away baking more special blend banana cake with a Virgo of my own 🙂

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Look forward to your message. Have fun with your Virgo!

When he pulls back, do the same. Reciprocate his behaviour. He should come back to you if he's interested. If he doesn't, then you will know he's not interested and you would have saved yourself the heartache.

Posted by Prettymomma1922
and then again on Sunday (Easter) and said the kids and I wish you and your family a happy Easter.

Did you introduce this man to your kids?

You mentioned dating him for a month or so.

Posted by Prettymomma1922
A few weeks ago we hung out. He came over to my house watched movies, cuddled, and spent the night. However, that night he met my son's dad.

A few weeks ago...?

You said the two of you were dating for about a month or so.

So during the first week of dating, he spent the night at your home where you live with your children...and he had the opprtunity to meet their father?

Am I correct in this assumption?

Here is my assumption.

I could be wrong.

I think he sensed that things were moving too fast.

Which they were.

The "phone' and the 'other guy' excuse was simply just that...an excuse...to bail out.

In my opinion, too much happened in one month.

It appeared more like a preparation for marriage than a courtship.

The meeting of your children, the kids father, the friends family.....

Most Virgos I know, don't move this fast....unless they're rebounding.

My advice,

Never bring another man around your children, or to meet your children's father unless the two of you are in a solidified relationship.

Posted by TierRom
So you pushed him away to see if he'd come back?

That never goes well with a Virgo. Even if they are idiots in relationships they do however value respect more than anything, especially their own self respect.

I think you got gun shy and shot off some attention seeking texts like "don't get it twisted I just want to be friends". Looks like you are getting exactly what you asked for and still you're complaining why?

You can't push someone to a direction you're comfortable with just because they didn't react or reciprocate at the same speed as you. Some things take time and evaluation. Would you respect him more if he ran full throttle into a relationship with you? Would that have validated your feelings more?

Sometimes you have to consider your actions before you actually make them. evaluate your move and if what you're about to say or do is conducive to you being happy and also considering their happiness.

I think he's about to give you what you want which is friendship as it seems. The best you can do at this moment is to keep your word that you wanted to be friends with him and leave it at that.

I don't recall pushing him away. Yes, I want to be friends because I'd rather have him in my life as my friend than not have him in it at all. I gave him what he wanted. Not him giving me what I wanted. I said that because I needed to make it clear that I was on the same page in order to have him in my life. That's what that was. Second, I don't recall pushing him away. If you're talking about my being snippy towards him and everyone, we had talked about that and he knew the exact reasoning why.

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So you pushed him away to see if he'd come back?

That never goes well with a Virgo. Even if they are idiots in relationships they do however value respect more than anything, especially their own self respect.

I think you got gun shy and shot off some attention seeking texts like "don't get it twisted I just want to be friends". Looks like you are getting exactly what you asked for and still you're complaining why?

You can't push someone to a direction you're comfortable with just because they didn't react or reciprocate at the same speed as you. Some things take time and evaluation. Would you respect him more if he ran full throttle into a relationship with you? Would that have validated your feelings more?

Sometimes you have to consider your actions before you actually make them. evaluate your move and if what you're about to say or do is conducive to you being happy and also considering their happiness.

I think he's about to give you what you want which is friendship as it seems. The best you can do at this moment is to keep your word that you wanted to be friends with him and leave it at that.

I don't recall pushing him away. Yes, I want to be friends because I'd rather have him in my life as my friend than not have him in it at all. I gave him what he wanted. Not him giving me what I wanted. I said that because I needed to make it clear that I was on the same page in order to have him in my life. That's what that was. Second, I don't recall pushing him away. If you're talking about my being snippy towards him and everyone, we had talked about that and he knew the exact reasoning why.

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And while yes, I'd like to be with him. I can't force him to want to be with me. I'm willing to start at the simple things and slowly get to know each other. Like we'd talked about. However, he keeps texting and apologizing for ignoring me after a week, talking to me for a couple days, and then disappearing again. That's what I'm not getting. Why say sorry for something, you continue to do? Why make it seem as though I'm on your mind by asking how the kids and I are doing and what not, if you don't care? I would just like to have him either he in as either my friend or more or be out altogether instead of in and out. Not to mention, we hung out twice. He didn't give him and I much of a chance. On top of that, he said to me "if the timing doesn't feel right, is timing relevant?" Like I don't even know what he means by that either. I'm confused.

Posted by TaurusBull1977
Here is my assumption.

I could be wrong.

I think he sensed that things were moving too fast.

Which they were.

The "phone' and the 'other guy' excuse was simply just that...an excuse...to bail out.

In my opinion, too much happened in one month.

It appeared more like a preparation for marriage than a courtship.

The meeting of your children, the kids father, the friends family.....

Most Virgos I know, don't move this fast....unless they're rebounding.

My advice,

Never bring another man around your children, or to meet your children's father unless the two of you are in a solidified relationship.

It wasn't supposed to go that fast. He wasn't supposed to meet my son's father that night. My friends just wanted to meet him and he agreed that he was okay with it. After it had all happened, we both realized that it went too fast and wanted to slow it down. I'm curious if he's going to give this another shot as he agreed that it deserves...or not?

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A few weeks ago we hung out. He came over to my house watched movies, cuddled, and spent the night. However, that night he met my son's dad.

A few weeks ago...?

You said the two of you were dating for about a month or so.

So during the first week of dating, he spent the night at your home where you live with your children...and he had the opprtunity to meet their father?

Am I correct in this assumption?

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Posted by Falafudge
When he pulls back, do the same. Reciprocate his behaviour. He should come back to you if he's interested. If he doesn't, then you will know he's not interested and you would have saved yourself the heartache.

When he pulls back how? And how do I reciprocate his behavior? By ignoring him the he at he did me?

Posted by ra3ch80
I think he's slowly ghosting you. I would drop it for now. Looks like he immersed himself in your world to get a sense of you and your environment. When you got your unnerving news and you became "snippy" with the entire family - including him - he may have seen something he didn't feel comfortable with.

He'd always been vocal about what he did or didn't like before that. So, why wouldn't he have said something at that point? I'm trying to let it go for now. However, the way I see things is if you say you want to start over from the basics, get to know each other, and say so many things that you should live up to them. He's clearly just not ready for it. He's got as much space as he wants or needs. I just personally think he's going to end up coming back saying that he at the very least messed up our friendship. If it's something or turns into something more, then it does. I'm not holding my breath even though it would be nice to slowly move toward something more with him.

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I think he's slowly ghosting you. I would drop it for now. Looks like he immersed himself in your world to get a sense of you and your environment. When you got your unnerving news and you became "snippy" with the entire family - including him - he may have seen something he didn't feel comfortable with.

He'd always been vocal about what he did or didn't like before that. So, why wouldn't he have said something at that point? I'm trying to let it go for now. However, the way I see things is if you say you want to start over from the basics, get to know each other, and say so many things that you should live up to them. He's clearly just not ready for it. He's got as much space as he wants or needs. I just personally think he's going to end up coming back saying that he at the very least messed up our friendship. If it's something or turns into something more, then it does. I'm not holding my breath even though it would be nice to slowly move toward something more with him.

You said: "He'd always been vocal about what he did or didn't like before that. So, why wouldn't he have said something at that point?"

If he's a Virgo, he is highly critical enough to determine what is fixable in a person/relationship, and what is not. And it sounds like in one breath, you are giving him an option to make up his own mind, but in the other breath, you are imposing your own will. He's staying away because he wants to make sure he actually has a say in what happens to him in this interaction. As a disclaimer, I am not him. I am reading the situation based on what I do when I ghost/run.

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He has as much say as he wants. I'm just giving him the space that he clearly wants, needs, or both. I had at one point asked him if he wanted to start over and if he believes this deserves a second chance. He said yes. He has also said that he believes that we both came back into each other's lives for a reason. However, neither one of us know why yet.

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I don't buy the going too fast excuse because he purposely stayed at your house until 2pm after spending the night and the day before. That was a deliberate decision on his part. He wasn't forced.

I'm not positive I buy that excuse either and it was. However, I'm just confused by the entire thing to be quite honest.

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I think he's slowly ghosting you. I would drop it for now. Looks like he immersed himself in your world to get a sense of you and your environment. When you got your unnerving news and you became "snippy" with the entire family - including him - he may have seen something he didn't feel comfortable with.

He'd always been vocal about what he did or didn't like before that. So, why wouldn't he have said something at that point? I'm trying to let it go for now. However, the way I see things is if you say you want to start over from the basics, get to know each other, and say so many things that you should live up to them. He's clearly just not ready for it. He's got as much space as he wants or needs. I just personally think he's going to end up coming back saying that he at the very least messed up our friendship. If it's something or turns into something more, then it does. I'm not holding my breath even though it would be nice to slowly move toward something more with him.

You said: "He'd always been vocal about what he did or didn't like before that. So, why wouldn't he have said something at that point?"

If he's a Virgo, he is highly critical enough to determine what is fixable in a person/relationship, and what is not. And it sounds like in one breath, you are giving him an option to make up his own mind, but in the other breath, you are imposing your own will. He's staying away because he wants to make sure he actually has a say in what happens to him in this interaction. As a disclaimer, I am not him. I am reading the situation based on what I do when I ghost/run.

He has as much say as he wants. I'm just giving him the space that he clearly wants, needs, or both. I had at one point asked him if he wanted to start over and if he believes this deserves a second chance. He said yes. He has also said that he believes that we both came back into each other's lives for a reason. However, neither one of us know why yet.

What is your sign?

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Leo. If you can, could you direct message me? I have no idea how to do that lol

Posted by afroyandere
That's just him being a virgo.....Give him space...Don't text him so much...He's probably in analytical mode....If you two were childhood friends he's not gonna just disregard you...He could be busy with his life that he doesn't even have the time or energy to respond...That's how they are...Just leave him be...Virgos are usual loyal to long term friends, he'll come around..

idk but for me i am analytical but i still want to be chased :😛 if you dont text me back thats when my problem starts haha

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I think he's slowly ghosting you. I would drop it for now. Looks like he immersed himself in your world to get a sense of you and your environment. When you got your unnerving news and you became "snippy" with the entire family - including him - he may have seen something he didn't feel comfortable with.

He'd always been vocal about what he did or didn't like before that. So, why wouldn't he have said something at that point? I'm trying to let it go for now. However, the way I see things is if you say you want to start over from the basics, get to know each other, and say so many things that you should live up to them. He's clearly just not ready for it. He's got as much space as he wants or needs. I just personally think he's going to end up coming back saying that he at the very least messed up our friendship. If it's something or turns into something more, then it does. I'm not holding my breath even though it would be nice to slowly move toward something more with him.

You said: "He'd always been vocal about what he did or didn't like before that. So, why wouldn't he have said something at that point?"

If he's a Virgo, he is highly critical enough to determine what is fixable in a person/relationship, and what is not. And it sounds like in one breath, you are giving him an option to make up his own mind, but in the other breath, you are imposing your own will. He's staying away because he wants to make sure he actually has a say in what happens to him in this interaction. As a disclaimer, I am not him. I am reading the situation based on what I do when I ghost/run.

He has as much say as he wants. I'm just giving him the space that he clearly wants, needs, or both. I had at one point asked him if he wanted to start over and if he believes this deserves a second chance. He said yes. He has also said that he believes that we both came back into each other's lives for a reason. However, neither one of us know why yet.

What is your sign?

Leo. If you can, could you direct message me? I have no idea how to do that lol

look up on the black bar, click on "messages." top right of the screen. If someone direct messages you, you will see a number show up next to the "messages" link.

on the left of the screen you will see 3 boxes, click on "send." This gives you options to type in a person's username you want to send the message to. .

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It won't let me nor do I see that either.

See how he respond to being chase .

I agree with the above as a Virgo and as someone who date a lot of Virgo .

When they take their space . They still like to know you care about them and still check up on them .

When they like you , not pushing but be there for them when they go quiet , that solidify the relationship . They like someone n need to recharge , but at the same time they don't actually want to be away . Something is probably suffocating them at the moment .



Virgo don't usually ghost . They will let you know bluntly if they aren't interested

Posted by coldwateryvirgo
See how he respond to being chase .

I agree with the above as a Virgo and as someone who date a lot of Virgo .

When they take their space . They still like to know you care about them and still check up on them .

When they like you , not pushing but be there for them when they go quiet , that solidify the relationship . They like someone n need to recharge , but at the same time they don't actually want to be away . Something is probably suffocating them at the moment .



Virgo don't usually ghost . They will let you know bluntly if they aren't interested

I've sent little texts every other day or so except the last couple days saying "hope you're having a good day or hope you have a good day" but other than that, I've left him alone. I don't want to bombard him with texts esp since he's not answering. And I want to give him the space he wants, needs, or both.

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If you've really known him since childhood, then you'd know what he's like. Virgos recharge their batteries & process thoughts and feelings during times of solitude. They NEED their time alone. He'll get back to you when he's ready. If he doesn't, then you obviously don't occupy a very big spot on his mind.

As a Virgo moon who has been through the growing-up Virgo stages, I'm qualified to answer.

Could you please message me? And yes, we've known each other since childhood. However, we lost contact through high school years.

I'll message you in about 12 hours, I'll be away baking more special blend banana cake with a Virgo of my own 🙂

Look forward to your message. Have fun with your Virgo!

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I can see your message but I can't open it. How do I open it? It's a side screen where I can only see to delete it. It won't let me open it.

Posted by NineAvenue
when a virgo guy is interested he will text, email or call you back.

when hes interested and you dont respond back he will be on your door step or hunt you down period.

He responds at random and apologizes for ignoring me and such saying that he just needed space or to relax and de stress. I don't know. I just don't know anymore.

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when a virgo guy is interested he will text, email or call you back.

when hes interested and you dont respond back he will be on your door step or hunt you down period.

He responds at random and apologizes for ignoring me and such saying that he just needed space or to relax and de stress. I don't know. I just don't know anymore.

also what i bolded in @tierrom s post goes a long way with a virgo.

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He has my respect. I never disrespected him by any means. So, I'm not sure how things ended up this way. To be honest, I believe it just wasn't the right timing. He stated to me "when it doesn't feel right is timing relevant?" I believe it just boils down to what he's going through at this time which is a personal thing that's keeping him being the way he is. I'm not sure what else to do besides just let him be. And if he decides to try and give this a second chance like he stated that he wanted to, then to maybe revisit it then.

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when a virgo guy is interested he will text, email or call you back.

when hes interested and you dont respond back he will be on your door step or hunt you down period.

He responds at random and apologizes for ignoring me and such saying that he just needed space or to relax and de stress. I don't know. I just don't know anymore.

also what i bolded in @tierrom s post goes a long way with a virgo.

He has my respect. I never disrespected him by any means. So, I'm not sure how things ended up this way. To be honest, I believe it just wasn't the right timing. He stated to me "when it doesn't feel right is timing relevant?" I believe it just boils down to what he's going through at this time which is a personal thing that's keeping him being the way he is. I'm not sure what else to do besides just let him be. And if he decides to try and give this a second chance like he stated that he wanted to, then to maybe revisit it then.

most of the time personal issues dont get in the way for virgo. give him a week.

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He has all the time he needs. However, I'm not sure what he meant when he said "if it doesn't feel right is timing relevant?" I feel like while it may not have been the right time, that at the same time he's using timing as an excuse as well.

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when a virgo guy is interested he will text, email or call you back.

when hes interested and you dont respond back he will be on your door step or hunt you down period.

He responds at random and apologizes for ignoring me and such saying that he just needed space or to relax and de stress. I don't know. I just don't know anymore.

also what i bolded in @tierrom s post goes a long way with a virgo.

He has my respect. I never disrespected him by any means. So, I'm not sure how things ended up this way. To be honest, I believe it just wasn't the right timing. He stated to me "when it doesn't feel right is timing relevant?" I believe it just boils down to what he's going through at this time which is a personal thing that's keeping him being the way he is. I'm not sure what else to do besides just let him be. And if he decides to try and give this a second chance like he stated that he wanted to, then to maybe revisit it then.

most of the time personal issues dont get in the way for virgo. give him a week.

He has all the time he needs. However, I'm not sure what he meant when he said "if it doesn't feel right is timing relevant?" I feel like while it may not have been the right time, that at the same time he's using timing as an excuse as well.

what was his personal issue?

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He was accused of something he didn't do.