Should I just throw in the towel with this Virgo?

After 5 months of seeing each other and the Virgo games of get close then disappear-I thought things were finally heading in a good direction. We went from seeing each other once a month to almost once a week-he was actually initiating conversation, we even had a convo about liking each other. I was finally feeling we were getting close-intimate. Then out of the blue, he starts pulling away. Not like the other times (or maybe I just didn't notice since I wasn't liking him as much in the beginning). We had plans he initiated, then he was a no call no show. He had a plausible explanation, but during that conversation he blurted out "I am not looking for a relationship if that is what you are asking". I was blown away-pretty hurt-like I said, things were moving along (finally!) and then this. I kept my cool (this was a phone convo) and said I appreciated his honesty. He basically said he enjoyed spending time with me and then we kinda ended the call on a normal note. I am devastated. I don't understand what could have happened?? My best friend who has known him for years says she thinks he is scared. I need advice. My gut says he really likes me (he is no player-quite the opposite so I find it VERY hard to believe he could have faked the level of intimacy we shared). What in the heck do I do? I initially told him I thought we could continue to see each other in a physical sense now that I knew what he was feeling, but I know I cant. I will just keep falling harder. I am so heartbroken. Advice would be GREATLY appreciated. I have posted before-I am a Sag, he is Virgo/Libra cusp.

Posted by SagChick72
After 5 months of seeing each other and the Virgo games of get close then disappear-I thought things were finally heading in a good direction. We went from seeing each other once a month to almost once a week-he was actually initiating conversation, we even had a convo about liking each other. I was finally feeling we were getting close-intimate. Then out of the blue, he starts pulling away. Not like the other times (or maybe I just didn't notice since I wasn't liking him as much in the beginning). We had plans he initiated, then he was a no call no show. He had a plausible explanation, but during that conversation he blurted out "I am not looking for a relationship if that is what you are asking". I was blown away-pretty hurt-like I said, things were moving along (finally!) and then this. I kept my cool (this was a phone convo) and said I appreciated his honesty. He basically said he enjoyed spending time with me and then we kinda ended the call on a normal note. I am devastated. I don't understand what could have happened?? My best friend who has known him for years says she thinks he is scared. I need advice. My gut says he really likes me (he is no player-quite the opposite so I find it VERY hard to believe he could have faked the level of intimacy we shared). What in the heck do I do? I initially told him I thought we could continue to see each other in a physical sense now that I knew what he was feeling, but I know I cant. I will just keep falling harder. I am so heartbroken. Advice would be GREATLY appreciated. I have posted before-I am a Sag, he is Virgo/Libra cusp.

are you SURE HE'S NOT TAUREAN?

🤗 cyber hugs!

Love,

Eva

Posted by Earthgoddess
Why do we always do this to the sag....?

Y'all move really fast tho ?

I'm sorry- good luck

This was the slowest I have EVER moved-I waited three months before telling him I was starting to have feelings-he said he was too 😢

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Posted by SagChick72
After 5 months of seeing each other and the Virgo games of get close then disappear-I thought things were finally heading in a good direction. We went from seeing each other once a month to almost once a week-he was actually initiating conversation, we even had a convo about liking each other. I was finally feeling we were getting close-intimate. Then out of the blue, he starts pulling away. Not like the other times (or maybe I just didn't notice since I wasn't liking him as much in the beginning). We had plans he initiated, then he was a no call no show. He had a plausible explanation, but during that conversation he blurted out "I am not looking for a relationship if that is what you are asking". I was blown away-pretty hurt-like I said, things were moving along (finally!) and then this. I kept my cool (this was a phone convo) and said I appreciated his honesty. He basically said he enjoyed spending time with me and then we kinda ended the call on a normal note. I am devastated. I don't understand what could have happened?? My best friend who has known him for years says she thinks he is scared. I need advice. My gut says he really likes me (he is no player-quite the opposite so I find it VERY hard to believe he could have faked the level of intimacy we shared). What in the heck do I do? I initially told him I thought we could continue to see each other in a physical sense now that I knew what he was feeling, but I know I cant. I will just keep falling harder. I am so heartbroken. Advice would be GREATLY appreciated. I have posted before-I am a Sag, he is Virgo/Libra cusp.

are you SURE HE'S NOT TAUREAN?

🤗 cyber hugs!

Love,

Eva

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LOL nope he is 9-22 so Virgo/Libra..and the first Virgo I have ever had an involvement with...go figure!

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Posted by SagChick72
After 5 months of seeing each other and the Virgo games of get close then disappear-I thought things were finally heading in a good direction. We went from seeing each other once a month to almost once a week-he was actually initiating conversation, we even had a convo about liking each other. I was finally feeling we were getting close-intimate. Then out of the blue, he starts pulling away. Not like the other times (or maybe I just didn't notice since I wasn't liking him as much in the beginning). We had plans he initiated, then he was a no call no show. He had a plausible explanation, but during that conversation he blurted out "I am not looking for a relationship if that is what you are asking". I was blown away-pretty hurt-like I said, things were moving along (finally!) and then this. I kept my cool (this was a phone convo) and said I appreciated his honesty. He basically said he enjoyed spending time with me and then we kinda ended the call on a normal note. I am devastated. I don't understand what could have happened?? My best friend who has known him for years says she thinks he is scared. I need advice. My gut says he really likes me (he is no player-quite the opposite so I find it VERY hard to believe he could have faked the level of intimacy we shared). What in the heck do I do? I initially told him I thought we could continue to see each other in a physical sense now that I knew what he was feeling, but I know I cant. I will just keep falling harder. I am so heartbroken. Advice would be GREATLY appreciated. I have posted before-I am a Sag, he is Virgo/Libra cusp.

are you SURE HE'S NOT TAUREAN?

🤗 cyber hugs!

Love,

Eva

LOL nope he is 9-22 so Virgo/Libra..and the first Virgo I have ever had an involvement with...go figure!

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I ask because both my ex-husbands are Virgos; they NEVER acted like a "Taurean" does. VERY weird (like Taurean men are).

🤗 cyber hugs!

Love,

Eva

Things aren't always what they seem.

You know good and well you're not in love.

Posted by VenusAquarius
You know good and well you're not in love.

5 months = infatuation, not love.

Posted by SagChick72
I initially told him I thought we could continue to see each other in a physical sense now that I knew what he was feeling, but I know I cant. I will just keep falling harder. I am so heartbroken.

Don't throw in the towel. But also don't tell him your cool with a fwb if your not.

Tell him your looking for a long term relationship. Tell him your looking for stability and security, not a dude that stands you up for plans HE initiated.

Heres the cold hard truth. He has had 5 months to get to know you. Thats plenty of time for him to decide whether your gf material for him. And he said he's not looking for a relationship. So its likely not gonna happen for you.

Still make your desires known and then stop fucking him.

What was his excuse for standing you up??

Posted by LadyNeptune

Posted by SagChick72
I initially told him I thought we could continue to see each other in a physical sense now that I knew what he was feeling, but I know I cant. I will just keep falling harder. I am so heartbroken.

Don't throw in the towel. But also don't tell him your cool with a fwb if your not.

Tell him your looking for a long term relationship. Tell him your looking for stability and security, not a dude that stands you up for plans HE initiated.

Heres the cold hard truth. He has had 5 months to get to know you. Thats plenty of time for him to decide whether your gf material for him. And he said he's not looking for a relationship. So its likely not gonna happen for you.

Still make your desires known and then stop fucking him.

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Too much work. She's done enough. Dude don't want to hear all that.

Posted by VenusAquarius
You know good and well you're not in love.

I never said I was? Five months is a little too quick for love-even for a Sag!!!

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Posted by SagChick72
After 5 months of seeing each other and the Virgo games of get close then disappear-I thought things were finally heading in a good direction. We went from seeing each other once a month to almost once a week-he was actually initiating conversation, we even had a convo about liking each other. I was finally feeling we were getting close-intimate. Then out of the blue, he starts pulling away. Not like the other times (or maybe I just didn't notice since I wasn't liking him as much in the beginning). We had plans he initiated, then he was a no call no show. He had a plausible explanation, but during that conversation he blurted out "I am not looking for a relationship if that is what you are asking". I was blown away-pretty hurt-like I said, things were moving along (finally!) and then this. I kept my cool (this was a phone convo) and said I appreciated his honesty. He basically said he enjoyed spending time with me and then we kinda ended the call on a normal note. I am devastated. I don't understand what could have happened?? My best friend who has known him for years says she thinks he is scared. I need advice. My gut says he really likes me (he is no player-quite the opposite so I find it VERY hard to believe he could have faked the level of intimacy we shared). What in the heck do I do? I initially told him I thought we could continue to see each other in a physical sense now that I knew what he was feeling, but I know I cant. I will just keep falling harder. I am so heartbroken. Advice would be GREATLY appreciated. I have posted before-I am a Sag, he is Virgo/Libra cusp.

There is a reason why he is doing that. Maybe something you doing are to cause it.....have you ever stopped to think about it? Most women don't take a minute to there self to think about what they did. What was the last conversation about?

A virgo does not just disappear for no reason. There is always a reason. The woman never stops to think, why....did he say that or do that.

BTW ... Your best friend does not know him or what he will do regarding you.

Your best option left is to ask him but instead of that you are ready to throw in the towel with him. Your towel is getting dirtier by the minute the longer you wait.

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Trust me-I have analyzed every conversation from the past month leading up to this-I am sure I said something (obviously) that turned something-I posted about this Virgo before-he is the brother of my brother's wife-when I mentioned something about anyone else in the family finding out, he kinda freaked. Said he liked his world the way it was-where nobody knows his business..that his family is judgemental. (they are). He has not dated in 5 years and has not EVER had a longtime relationship. He does have a bit of a drinking problem, and I have a big feeling I come second to alcohol. I do not want to give up but I also do not want to live in a constant state of WTF either. ..just very confused

Posted by LadyNeptune
What was his excuse for standing you up??

I finally reached out to him two days later because he never responded to my whats up? text...I was actually worried about his well being as he always responds-he said his phone was destroyed at work (he is a construction foreman). I asked him why he didn't just come by the house and he said he didn't know if I would be there, and he isn't the type to come by unannounced (I thought that was a little bit of BS..I mean, if we had plans, I would be there, right??).

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Posted by VenusAquarius
You know good and well you're not in love.

5 months = infatuation, not love.

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I never said I was in love-for sure, infatuation but not love. Five months? nah. too fast for me

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Posted by LadyNeptune
What was his excuse for standing you up??

I finally reached out to him two days later because he never responded to my whats up? text...I was actually worried about his well being as he always responds-he said his phone was destroyed at work (he is a construction foreman). I asked him why he didn't just come by the house and he said he didn't know if I would be there, and he isn't the type to come by unannounced (I thought that was a little bit of BS..I mean, if we had plans, I would be there, right??).

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Ok thats just an excuse as to why he never texted you back. What was his excuse for being a no-show to plans he made??

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Posted by SagChick72
I initially told him I thought we could continue to see each other in a physical sense now that I knew what he was feeling, but I know I cant. I will just keep falling harder. I am so heartbroken.

Don't throw in the towel. But also don't tell him your cool with a fwb if your not.

Tell him your looking for a long term relationship. Tell him your looking for stability and security, not a dude that stands you up for plans HE initiated.

Heres the cold hard truth. He has had 5 months to get to know you. Thats plenty of time for him to decide whether your gf material for him. And he said he's not looking for a relationship. So its likely not gonna happen for you.

Still make your desires known and then stop fucking him.

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I completely agree with everything you said. Except he has known me for over 20 years-so yeah he's had MORE than enough time LOL

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Posted by LadyNeptune
What was his excuse for standing you up??

I finally reached out to him two days later because he never responded to my whats up? text...I was actually worried about his well being as he always responds-he said his phone was destroyed at work (he is a construction foreman). I asked him why he didn't just come by the house and he said he didn't know if I would be there, and he isn't the type to come by unannounced (I thought that was a little bit of BS..I mean, if we had plans, I would be there, right??).

Ok thats just an excuse as to why he never texted you back. What was his excuse for being a no-show to plans he made??

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That WAS the excuse lol. I had texted him the night we had plans since it was getting later and he didn't answer. That was Thursday. Nothing until Saturday morning when I texted him and he said he just replaced his phone. I am assuming the excuse was because he could not call/text me he just blew it off completely. I realize while I am typing this how stupid it sounds. I believe the phone story, he is not a liar, but I think what happened was he bellied up to the bar and got % $ &*faced and then didn't bother with anything else. Good God I am an idiot 😢

Take it from a Scorpio, just start acting like you don't like them pay them mind be regular af. Like don't flirt but be cool and they'll wonder wtf happened. They're obsessive af. Don't initiate contact at all. Just fall back. They'll start to chase. Hell you can even tell them you just wanna be cool and they'll basically stalk you. Every virgo I've ever met always ended up in love and obsessed with me. To me they move fast af lmaooo. Idc what moon sign etc. Try it.

Why would

You be nice to that? Call him out on his shit. If he told you he has feelings ask why he doesn't want a relationship? And if that's what you want then let him know and if he doesn't move on.

On to the next on on to the next.

But stay friends because timing can always change things.

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What was his excuse for standing you up??

I finally reached out to him two days later because he never responded to my whats up? text...I was actually worried about his well being as he always responds-he said his phone was destroyed at work (he is a construction foreman). I asked him why he didn't just come by the house and he said he didn't know if I would be there, and he isn't the type to come by unannounced (I thought that was a little bit of BS..I mean, if we had plans, I would be there, right??).

Ok thats just an excuse as to why he never texted you back. What was his excuse for being a no-show to plans he made??

That WAS the excuse lol. I had texted him the night we had plans since it was getting later and he didn't answer. That was Thursday. Nothing until Saturday morning when I texted him and he said he just replaced his phone. I am assuming the excuse was because he could not call/text me he just blew it off completely. I realize while I am typing this how stupid it sounds. I believe the phone story, he is not a liar, but I think what happened was he bellied up to the bar and got % $ &*faced and then didn't bother with anything else. Good God I am an idiot 😢

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Uh you THINK he's not a liar but he may very well be. Not throwing shade but Virgos are very good liars.

Posted by Cg2016
Take it from a Scorpio, just start acting like you don't like them pay them mind be regular af. Like don't flirt but be cool and they'll wonder wtf happened. They're obsessive af. Don't initiate contact at all. Just fall back. They'll start to chase. Hell you can even tell them you just wanna be cool and they'll basically stalk you. Every virgo I've ever met always ended up in love and obsessed with me. To me they move fast af lmaooo. Idc what moon sign etc. Try it.

He is actually known for his flakiness, and was always pulling it the first few months we started hooking up. I did exactly what you said above-never called, never texted-he would just come around on his own..so I think you are very right. I have already fallen back, with no intention whatsoever of reaching out to him from here on out. I really like him, its all kinds of good when we are together, but the crumbs he gives out in between is not good enough for me. I am going to do exactly what you suggest!!

Posted by SweetLily_89
My question to you is, Is he REALLY worth it?

From what I can tell there are multiple issues here. He sounds emotionally unavailable.

Push and pull, push and pull. Is this what you want for yourself? Sure he may be a great guy underneath all of his fickle behavior, but you are already giving him much more than your getting in return. Don't overinvest in someone that may never give you half of what you give.

This guy may really like you, but that doesn't mean you're gonna get what yo I want in the end. He told you he isn't looking for a relationship, and he's backing it up with that hot and cold bullshit. Trust that.

The proof is in the pudding, don't get yourself hooked on a dead end. Do your own thing. Maybe he'll come around, maybe he won't and you're gonna have to be okay with that. If he does, allow him to prove to you that he is truly invested in having more with you, if he doesn't, you saved yourself some time that would've otherwise been wasted and made room for a better potential love mate to come into your life.

I agree 100% ...and whether he is worth it or not, I am worth more than a guy who cannot decide what he wants...I worked too hard to get divorced, make positive changes for myself..you guys are awesome on this site-and so nice to take the time to comment and give advice. Thank you so much for your kind and smart words 🙂

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What was his excuse for standing you up??

I finally reached out to him two days later because he never responded to my whats up? text...I was actually worried about his well being as he always responds-he said his phone was destroyed at work (he is a construction foreman). I asked him why he didn't just come by the house and he said he didn't know if I would be there, and he isn't the type to come by unannounced (I thought that was a little bit of BS..I mean, if we had plans, I would be there, right??).

Ok thats just an excuse as to why he never texted you back. What was his excuse for being a no-show to plans he made??

That WAS the excuse lol. I had texted him the night we had plans since it was getting later and he didn't answer. That was Thursday. Nothing until Saturday morning when I texted him and he said he just replaced his phone. I am assuming the excuse was because he could not call/text me he just blew it off completely. I realize while I am typing this how stupid it sounds. I believe the phone story, he is not a liar, but I think what happened was he bellied up to the bar and got % $ &*faced and then didn't bother with anything else. Good God I am an idiot 😢

Uh you THINK he's not a liar but he may very well be. Not throwing shade but Virgos are very good liars.

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I think you are right-coupled with the drinking its not a good recipe for honesty I suppose

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Posted by Cg2016
Take it from a Scorpio, just start acting like you don't like them pay them mind be regular af. Like don't flirt but be cool and they'll wonder wtf happened. They're obsessive af. Don't initiate contact at all. Just fall back. They'll start to chase. Hell you can even tell them you just wanna be cool and they'll basically stalk you. Every virgo I've ever met always ended up in love and obsessed with me. To me they move fast af lmaooo. Idc what moon sign etc. Try it.

He is actually known for his flakiness, and was always pulling it the first few months we started hooking up. I did exactly what you said above-never called, never texted-he would just come around on his own..so I think you are very right. I have already fallen back, with no intention whatsoever of reaching out to him from here on out. I really like him, its all kinds of good when we are together, but the crumbs he gives out in between is not good enough for me. I am going to do exactly what you suggest!!

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I had a virgo do the same shit and it turned me off so now I'm super indifferent to him I act like idgaf what he does cuz well I don't and now he's like all into me and doing all the shit he's supposed to do and I'm still like meh. The more meh you act they better they act lmao. Also go meet another dude or pick up a hobby so it's not like you're waiting around thinking about him. He'll be easier to ignore. Don't relapse.

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Take it from a Scorpio, just start acting like you don't like them pay them mind be regular af. Like don't flirt but be cool and they'll wonder wtf happened. They're obsessive af. Don't initiate contact at all. Just fall back. They'll start to chase. Hell you can even tell them you just wanna be cool and they'll basically stalk you. Every virgo I've ever met always ended up in love and obsessed with me. To me they move fast af lmaooo. Idc what moon sign etc. Try it.

He is actually known for his flakiness, and was always pulling it the first few months we started hooking up. I did exactly what you said above-never called, never texted-he would just come around on his own..so I think you are very right. I have already fallen back, with no intention whatsoever of reaching out to him from here on out. I really like him, its all kinds of good when we are together, but the crumbs he gives out in between is not good enough for me. I am going to do exactly what you suggest!!

I had a virgo do the same shit and it turned me off so now I'm super indifferent to him I act like idgaf what he does cuz well I don't and now he's like all into me and doing all the shit he's supposed to do and I'm still like meh. The more meh you act they better they act lmao. Also go meet another dude or pick up a hobby so it's not like you're waiting around thinking about him. He'll be easier to ignore. Don't relapse.

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I am already on it-started binge watching Walking Dead...never seen it before so it eats up my evenings so I am not checking my phone and obsessing over his lack of..whatever. Thank you for the support!! 🙂

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Posted by SagChick72
After 5 months of seeing each other and the Virgo games of get close then disappear-I thought things were finally heading in a good direction. We went from seeing each other once a month to almost once a week-he was actually initiating conversation, we even had a convo about liking each other. I was finally feeling we were getting close-intimate. Then out of the blue, he starts pulling away. Not like the other times (or maybe I just didn't notice since I wasn't liking him as much in the beginning). We had plans he initiated, then he was a no call no show. He had a plausible explanation, but during that conversation he blurted out "I am not looking for a relationship if that is what you are asking". I was blown away-pretty hurt-like I said, things were moving along (finally!) and then this. I kept my cool (this was a phone convo) and said I appreciated his honesty. He basically said he enjoyed spending time with me and then we kinda ended the call on a normal note. I am devastated. I don't understand what could have happened?? My best friend who has known him for years says she thinks he is scared. I need advice. My gut says he really likes me (he is no player-quite the opposite so I find it VERY hard to believe he could have faked the level of intimacy we shared). What in the heck do I do? I initially told him I thought we could continue to see each other in a physical sense now that I knew what he was feeling, but I know I cant. I will just keep falling harder. I am so heartbroken. Advice would be GREATLY appreciated. I have posted before-I am a Sag, he is Virgo/Libra cusp.

There is a reason why he is doing that. Maybe something you doing are to cause it.....have you ever stopped to think about it? Most women don't take a minute to there self to think about what they did. What was the last conversation about?

A virgo does not just disappear for no reason. There is always a reason. The woman never stops to think, why....did he say that or do that.

BTW ... Your best friend does not know him or what he will do regarding you.

Your best option left is to ask him but instead of that you are ready to throw in the towel with him. Your towel is getting dirtier by the minute the longer you wait.

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Yeah. And maybe the men never stop to think either. You know why? BECAUSE MEN DON'T THINK. Period. They have shit for brains.

They also don't listen. And they don't know what's good for them. That's why they're always getting caught up in stupid situations that could have easily been avoided. DUH......

Trust me, Virgo's do disappear all the time for no reason, or for their own misinterpretations. Or their own stupid reasons. Is this d-bag worth hanging around for? Probably not. He is a man, after all.

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Posted by VenusAquarius
You know good and well you're not in love.

5 months = infatuation, not love.

I never said I was in love-for sure, infatuation but not love. Five months? nah. too fast for me

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I don't think you like him all that much either.

I believe in love at first sight so, not concerned about how long you dated.

Posted by SagChick72
After 5 months of seeing each other and the Virgo games of get close then disappear-I thought things were finally heading in a good direction. We went from seeing each other once a month to almost once a week-he was actually initiating conversation, we even had a convo about liking each other. I was finally feeling we were getting close-intimate. Then out of the blue, he starts pulling away. Not like the other times (or maybe I just didn't notice since I wasn't liking him as much in the beginning). We had plans he initiated, then he was a no call no show. He had a plausible explanation, but during that conversation he blurted out "I am not looking for a relationship if that is what you are asking". I was blown away-pretty hurt-like I said, things were moving along (finally!) and then this. I kept my cool (this was a phone convo) and said I appreciated his honesty. He basically said he enjoyed spending time with me and then we kinda ended the call on a normal note. I am devastated. I don't understand what could have happened?? My best friend who has known him for years says she thinks he is scared. I need advice. My gut says he really likes me (he is no player-quite the opposite so I find it VERY hard to believe he could have faked the level of intimacy we shared). What in the heck do I do? I initially told him I thought we could continue to see each other in a physical sense now that I knew what he was feeling, but I know I cant. I will just keep falling harder. I am so heartbroken. Advice would be GREATLY appreciated. I have posted before-I am a Sag, he is Virgo/Libra cusp.

You should probably let this guy go.

People make shitty excuses for a Virgo's behavior; "Virgos are sensitive. They get hurt/scare easily. They need time to think, which is why they disappear for 3 months at a time."

Tell me, WHO DOESN'T get apprehensive, nervous, scared at the start of a new relationship? Difference is, Virgo's like this guy (and like many others) don't have the balls to say "F the fear, I want to give it a shot. If it doesn't work, it doesn't work."

I've read most of this post and skimmed over others. He gave a pathetic excuse for why he stood you up (he probably deserved having his phone destroyed.) You say he's flaky. He's told you he's not looking for a relationship. Well, there's your answer!

Lemme tell you something about earth signs; I personally like them a lot (caps are boring but anyway...) Unfortunately, any romantic relationship you have with them, the real important stuff is their way or the highway. Especially in the beginning. You have to give in all the time. You have to just be strung along for months or years because that's what they want. And your feelings only matter after a long time has past, or you move on and they try to get you back. F that. You are a human being with your own desires and feelings.

If this guy has a habit of disappearing, he can go to hell. Let him find some fellow, slow as hell moving earth sign to court. Let him take seven years to do so. Whatever. Pick yourself up and move on. It's hard, but there's a lot of other men out there who would be willing to take your feelings into consideration.

Go find yourself a crazy gemini, an emotionally dead aquarius, or a wishy washy libra. Or an aries. A dynamic, fast paced, adventurous aries. You'll have a much better time.

Good luck.

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Posted by SagChick72
After 5 months of seeing each other and the Virgo games of get close then disappear-I thought things were finally heading in a good direction. We went from seeing each other once a month to almost once a week-he was actually initiating conversation, we even had a convo about liking each other. I was finally feeling we were getting close-intimate. Then out of the blue, he starts pulling away. Not like the other times (or maybe I just didn't notice since I wasn't liking him as much in the beginning). We had plans he initiated, then he was a no call no show. He had a plausible explanation, but during that conversation he blurted out "I am not looking for a relationship if that is what you are asking". I was blown away-pretty hurt-like I said, things were moving along (finally!) and then this. I kept my cool (this was a phone convo) and said I appreciated his honesty. He basically said he enjoyed spending time with me and then we kinda ended the call on a normal note. I am devastated. I don't understand what could have happened?? My best friend who has known him for years says she thinks he is scared. I need advice. My gut says he really likes me (he is no player-quite the opposite so I find it VERY hard to believe he could have faked the level of intimacy we shared). What in the heck do I do? I initially told him I thought we could continue to see each other in a physical sense now that I knew what he was feeling, but I know I cant. I will just keep falling harder. I am so heartbroken. Advice would be GREATLY appreciated. I have posted before-I am a Sag, he is Virgo/Libra cusp.

There is a reason why he is doing that. Maybe something you doing are to cause it.....have you ever stopped to think about it? Most women don't take a minute to there self to think about what they did. What was the last conversation about?

A virgo does not just disappear for no reason. There is always a reason. The woman never stops to think, why....did he say that or do that.

BTW ... Your best friend does not know him or what he will do regarding you.

Your best option left is to ask him but instead of that you are ready to throw in the towel with him. Your towel is getting dirtier by the minute the longer you wait.

Yeah. And maybe the men never stop to think either. You know why? BECAUSE MEN DON'T THINK. Period. They have shit for brains.

They also don't listen. And they don't know what's good for them. That's why they're always getting caught up in stupid situations that could have easily been avoided. DUH......

Trust me, Virgo's do disappear all the time for no reason, or for their own misinterpretations. Or their own stupid reasons. Is this d-bag worth hanging around for? Probably not. He is a man, after all.

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Posted by 81gems
Yeah. And maybe the men never stop to think either. You know why? BECAUSE MEN DON'T THINK. Period. They have shit for brains.

They also don't listen. And they don't know what's good for them. That's why they're always getting caught up in stupid situations that could have easily been avoided. DUH......

Trust me, Virgo's do disappear all the time for no reason, or for their own misinterpretations. Or their own stupid reasons. Is this d-bag worth hanging around for? Probably not. He is a man, after all.

Wow, a man hater and a Virgo hater, rolled into one. How rare and refreshing.

Pretty much everything you said was wrong, though, and contradictory. But I'm not going to argue with you about it; clearly you have issues, and you're probably just looking for someone to fight with you on them. But you're not important enough to waste my time.

But I will say this. As a Virgo and a man, if I disappear for more than a few days then it's either because:

(a) you disappeared first;

(b) you've sent a lot of signals that you've lost interest and I'm protecting myself; or

(c) I've totally lost interest.

Just give up and move on, because it's obvious that he has already left. You are now in a "let's string them along out of pity" stage, which is very cruel for fire signs

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Posted by 81gems
Yeah. And maybe the men never stop to think either. You know why? BECAUSE MEN DON'T THINK. Period. They have shit for brains.

They also don't listen. And they don't know what's good for them. That's why they're always getting caught up in stupid situations that could have easily been avoided. DUH......

Trust me, Virgo's do disappear all the time for no reason, or for their own misinterpretations. Or their own stupid reasons. Is this d-bag worth hanging around for? Probably not. He is a man, after all.

Wow, a man hater and a Virgo hater, rolled into one. How rare and refreshing.

Pretty much everything you said was wrong, though, and contradictory. But I'm not going to argue with you about it; clearly you have issues, and you're probably just looking for someone to fight with you on them. But you're not important enough to waste my time.

But I will say this. As a Virgo and a man, if I disappear for more than a few days then it's either because:

(a) you disappeared first;

(b) you've sent a lot of signals that you've lost interest and I'm protecting myself; or

(c) I've totally lost interest.

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Sorry dude, you've already wasted your time...

I actually am not a man hater. That person, whoever he was, made all those blanket statements so I figured I'd join in.

I actually get along with Virgos better than my own fellow Gemini's (my Virgo moon to blame?) But I will tell you, your reasons for disappearing seem on point with a big flaw Virgo's have; nothing is ever their fault. Ever.

Even when they do something blatantly wrong, it's someONE or someTHING else that drove them to that. They're not wrong for their mistakes; someone else MADE them mess up. You follow me?

Aren't you the guy with "White Knight Syndrome" — Tell me, if you get involved with such women, and it all ends badly, who's fault is that? The woman's? Sure, it's easy to blame ANYTHING else, but really, who knows better? Who's been through it before? Who knows what they're doing and getting themselves into, and still forges ahead with it anyway?

Some Virgos do whatever necessary to spin things around so that their actions, however shady, or wrong, are the result of someone else who did something else first! This isn't hate, but straight forward honesty. As a Virgo you can appreciate that.

Posted by SagChick72
After 5 months of seeing each other and the Virgo games of get close then disappear-I thought things were finally heading in a good direction. We went from seeing each other once a month to almost once a week-he was actually initiating conversation, we even had a convo about liking each other. I was finally feeling we were getting close-intimate. Then out of the blue, he starts pulling away. Not like the other times (or maybe I just didn't notice since I wasn't liking him as much in the beginning). We had plans he initiated, then he was a no call no show. He had a plausible explanation, but during that conversation he blurted out "I am not looking for a relationship if that is what you are asking". I was blown away-pretty hurt-like I said, things were moving along (finally!) and then this. I kept my cool (this was a phone convo) and said I appreciated his honesty. He basically said he enjoyed spending time with me and then we kinda ended the call on a normal note. I am devastated. I don't understand what could have happened?? My best friend who has known him for years says she thinks he is scared. I need advice. My gut says he really likes me (he is no player-quite the opposite so I find it VERY hard to believe he could have faked the level of intimacy we shared). What in the heck do I do? I initially told him I thought we could continue to see each other in a physical sense now that I knew what he was feeling, but I know I cant. I will just keep falling harder. I am so heartbroken. Advice would be GREATLY appreciated. I have posted before-I am a Sag, he is Virgo/Libra cusp.

Sag here and dated a couple of Virgos. At the early stages, my Virgo was a bit on/off with how he shows his feelings. I was also checking to see his true intentions were (I have Virgo moon), he will flirt with me then the next day he can be totally different. I don't know if it's a sag thing but I always feel that he is interested but just doesn't want to show it he can say with his actions that he is not interested but the way he looks at me was totally the opposite. We remain friends and I got to know him I try not to be bothered by the on/off thing, I always think that if he wants me he'll let me know. After a couple of months of being friends he finally decided to tell me and was not holding back at all and wasn't shy about it. He said he was very sure about me but didn't know how to express his feelings and now he put a ring on it.

I don't think ..



virgo get close and disappear with the one they like.

know a lot of virgo men and women, they like something, if you're easy enough to approach with least chance of failure.. We always go for it



A virgo