Virgio man makes my sad

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Annabelle10
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Hello everyone,

please excuse my language. I do not speak English well.

i met a virgin man about 2 months ago. added it to IG. i am a virgin myself and by ascendant i am aquarius september 10th, 1981 i was born his birthday is on september 2nd. he doesn't know his time 😢 he is 42 years old

now it was the case that I wrote to him most of the time and he replied very politely and nicely. he's looking for something serious like me.

We met once so far and ate something together and afterwards I wanted to play basketball, so it was agreed. I won and that's why he'll take me out to dinner that was the bet. he was very nice the whole time he was watching me a lot and wanted to give me his jacket when it got cold. when he left he said he wanted to see me again, he had fun with me. we didn't kiss or hug.

After our meeting I called him and I told him he can call anytime and he told me the same thing.

I only wrote to him on his birthday because he was at work. he complained about his employees. which swhe is strange, he also wrote "i haven't forgotten to eat" and before i opened the message he had deleted it. at last I wrote to him, "see you later beautiful man" and he wrote "see you later beautiful woman". in the evening I wrote to him again but he kept it short. and I was upset but didn't say anything about it. he hasn't written anything for 5 days.

how would you behave and how do you rate him? I'm so sad
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What are you sad about? That he hasn't contacted you?

Some people don't need to talk to a person everyday. You met him 2 months ago. Maybe he's back to his busy routine. He will come around when he wants or if you really want to talk then hit him up and then wait for him to respond.

You are both Virgos and should know you don't like bugging a person or feeling like a nuisance.
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Annabelle10
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hello thanks for your comment.

yes, that he does not answer makes me sad. I met him for the first and last time 3 weeks ago. he made me small compliments that he found my hair beautiful.

we bet for food and I won. he wrote me that he hadn't forgotten to eat. and suddenly he deleted the message.

I also don't dare to write to him anymore, because he always only replies briefly and I don't want to annoy him
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Annabelle10
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Does that mean, if he doesn't change it, that he's not interested?

how do I make myself interesting for him?

he changed his profile picture after we wrote and was not online for days. just yesterday he went back online for a short time.

oh yes, the last time he said "he was tired" I said coldly "bye". he apologized and wrote to see you soon. I didn’t agree to it out of disappointment.
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Posted by Annabelle10

Does that mean, if he doesn't change it, that he's not interested?

how do I make myself interesting for him?

he changed his profile picture after we wrote and was not online for days. just yesterday he went back online for a short time.

oh yes, the last time he said "he was tired" I said coldly "bye". he apologized and wrote to see you soon. I didn’t agree to it out of disappointment.


Eh, where to start. I recommend to read "Virgo" section here. I expect Virgo suns will comment on your thread, but in general: yeah, he might be interested. But they prioritize a lot of things over personal relationship (work/friends/family). Are you ready for the waiting game?
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Posted by Annabelle10

he was very attractive to me. I would like to get to know him. wiw I'm just drawing his attention to me. I don't want to write to him because I don't want to annoy him.

I don't have forever because I would like to have children.

and he wants some too. He's also no longer the youngest


Re read what you just wrote here.

You are considering this guy as potentially your future baby daddy. But also you are afraid to write him. How backwards is that!?

If he wants to give you babies he won't be scared off by a message from you.

Your not going to get to know him by talking with any of us. Your going to get to know him by communicating with him.



I'd advise not getting so caught up in a guy you hung out with once and have known for a few days. Keep your options open. As you say, you don't have forever. Don't wait around on a fantasy... keep putting yourself out there and meeting people.
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Posted by Annabelle10

Hello, my dears,



after 3 weeks of our date i wrote him a message how he is doing. One day later he writes that he unfortunately had a lot to do the whole week and therefore couldn't get in touch. he hopes I'm fine too.

how should i answer that? please help me


He wrote you a day later. He’s trying to be nice by responding but the truth is he’s not interested and he’s too afraid to be honest. If he was interested, he’d make a lot more effort. Time to move on.
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Posted by PlowSeason

1. You barely write to him

2. You barely respond to him when he writes to you

3. When he does write to you, you shut him down

Girl, you're making this shy virgo man, insecure af.

But yeah, sometimes I think the only reason I had something with a virgo man is because we were forced to see each other almost everyday and night for several months šŸ˜‚

Remember how much fun you guys had. You were like instant bffs. Act like his bff over text. Encourage him. Thats why they always end up with fire sign women. Do they end up with fire sign women? Idk. Try to make him laugh and give him something easy to respond to. He sounds nervous to me, like he's not sure what to say. And be positive when you talk to him.


he didn't write anything after the date. i congratulated him on his birthday he was very brief and hardly interested. then i wished him a nice evening because he was so weird. since then nothing has come from him. and after 8 days I got in touch and he came with many apologies. I just said that I don't want to disturb him then.
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me again šŸ˜•

I called him 2 days ago after the radio was silent again for 3 weeks.

he called back and was very nice. He said that his sister is sick and that he works a lot. he has made himself brief again.

He also said that he hasn't forgotten his betting debts and we're going out to eat. then i said that we would only do it if he really wanted to and not because of the bet (we had played basketball at the date). He also briefly told me that the friends he told about me found our meeting interesting. so he talked about me.

he told all of that on his own initiative. and he wanted to call that evening because he was at work. until today nothing. what should I do?

I flirt with others but I want him
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Posted by Annabelle10

No one notice ? 😟

People saw your thread, however chose not to reply because you were given advice (e.g. move on) and you chose to ignore it. So if you would like to hang onto this Virgo that is not really giving you much attention, continue to do so. It is your life after all. However, you don't need advice on how to be ghosted and ignored....
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Posted by _ang_an

Don't listen to her ^ she a cap moon, and you're into a cancer moon afterall because you have good taste. Be the aggressor. Ask him out and give him the place and time.


he says he's busy work family ... what does the cancer moon mean?

did you see my last post? he says he hasn't forgotten the betting debts! does that mean something or does he just want to pay off debts?
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me again šŸ˜•

I called him 2 days ago after the radio was silent again for 3 weeks.

he called back and was very nice. He said that his sister is sick and that he works a lot. he has made himself brief again.

He also said that he hasn't forgotten his betting debts and we're going out to eat. then i said that we would only do it if he really wanted to and not because of the bet (we had played basketball at the date). He also briefly told me that the friends he told about me found our meeting interesting. so he talked about me.

he told all of that on his own initiative. and he wanted to call that evening because he was at work. until today nothing. what should I do?

I flirt with others but I want him

Two options chase him or move on.
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how come ?

everything so weird with him. after the date he said that ivh am so natural and warm and that he wants to see me again. He does nothing😢

how does he want to analyze me without seeing or hearing me?
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Posted by Annabelle10

me again šŸ˜•

I called him 2 days ago after the radio was silent again for 3 weeks.

he called back and was very nice. He said that his sister is sick and that he works a lot. he has made himself brief again.

He also said that he hasn't forgotten his betting debts and we're going out to eat. then i said that we would only do it if he really wanted to and not because of the bet (we had played basketball at the date). He also briefly told me that the friends he told about me found our meeting interesting. so he talked about me.

he told all of that on his own initiative. and he wanted to call that evening because he was at work. until today nothing. what should I do?

I flirt with others but I want him

Two options chase him or move on.

how come ?

everything so weird with him. after the date he said that ivh am so natural and warm and that he wants to see me again. He does nothing😢

how does he want to analyze me without seeing or hearing me?

Virgos are weird when it comes to emotions, they will push them aside in favour of logic. You also probably need to make most of the moves, ask him over for dinner.
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I do that by calling him. but he always says he's busy. doesn't want to nerf him either.

how do you think that is a behavior of a man who is interested?
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Don't listen to her ^ she a cap moon, and you're into a cancer moon afterall because you have good taste. Be the aggressor. Ask him out and give him the place and time.

he says he's busy work family ... what does the cancer moon mean?

did you see my last post? he says he hasn't forgotten the betting debts! does that mean something or does he just want to pay off debts?

That was his attempt at flirting with you. Talk to him every day. Flirt with him. Ask him out. Run him down.
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do you think that's his way of flirting? I mean he never writes and never calls me.

as a woman I get the feeling that he is not interested.
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Posted by Annabelle10

me again šŸ˜•

I called him 2 days ago after the radio was silent again for 3 weeks.

he called back and was very nice. He said that his sister is sick and that he works a lot. he has made himself brief again.

He also said that he hasn't forgotten his betting debts and we're going out to eat. then i said that we would only do it if he really wanted to and not because of the bet (we had played basketball at the date). He also briefly told me that the friends he told about me found our meeting interesting. so he talked about me.

he told all of that on his own initiative. and he wanted to call that evening because he was at work. until today nothing. what should I do?

I flirt with others but I want him


Stop throwing yourself at him, if a man really wants you nothing will stop him. Being busy is just an excuse and he’s being nice to you because he knows you’re a good/nice person. He just doesn’t see you as ā€œhis personā€.

If you keep pursuing him, he may take advantage of you before dropping you.

Life’s like that, we always want more what we can’t have!
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Rarely will Virgo sun/cancer moon initiate I think. But if he's not seeing anyone else and you chase him, he'll give in eventually or not. Why do you want him?

I once dated a Virgo/Cancer and he absolutely initiated everything after our first date. He was a super busy attorney but he still planned dinners, concerts, even threw me a surprise birthday party. They will work their butt off to make you happy. If he isn't pursuing you it's because he isn't really interested but too polite to hurt your feelings. Stop chasing him.