Virgo Apologies

I've heard Virgos rarely tell anyone 'you're right' and 'I'm really sorry'. This is a sign this Virgo woman respects me, yes?

Posted by Tom_Sawyer
Lol, sure.

Lmao

If I know I am in the wrong, yes, I will sincerely apologize for it - but of course that is after I've analyzed the situation. In the analysis, If there were things that influenced me to make the wrong statement/choice, then I wont necessarily apologize as it was guided to that decision (If that makes any sense).

Virgos never take accountability or responsibility for anything it's the most frustrating thing ever. Being "wrong" doesn't make you any less perfect. Accept that you're perfect when you're right AND when you're wrong, as @MilaniKisses said, if she made a wrong statement/decision, it was guided.... it was something to learn from.... but you're still wrong if it was bad. Virgos literally conjure up the most craziest of rationalities in order for them to be right, but they never truly explain it. They just play devil's advocate, doesn't work that way I'm afraid. Just admit you're wrong and stop acting like babies.

I like Virgo women but omg just in general, Virgos have some nerve.

Posted by CurlyAries
Virgos never take accountability or responsibility for anything it's the most frustrating thing ever. Being "wrong" doesn't make you any less perfect. Accept that you're perfect when you're right AND when you're wrong, as @MilaniKisses said, if she made a wrong statement/decision, it was guided.... it was something to learn from.... but you're still wrong if it was bad. Virgos literally conjure up the most craziest of rationalities in order for them to be right, but they never truly explain it. They just play devil's advocate, doesn't work that way I'm afraid. Just admit you're wrong and stop acting like babies.

I like Virgo women but omg just in general, Virgos have some nerve.

I'd have to agree. The Virguy I'm working with got a bad review online for never being on time to open the store. He's the boss, but he's also the one responsible for opening. He never said he was sorry, just all about how he doesn't care anyway and online reviews are stupid, blah blah.

But they are never in the wrong

Virgos try so hard to be as far from human as possible (robot) that they actually show all of their flaws and insecurities pretty quickly. Okay Virgos, don't admit you're wrong... you're just delusional anyway

I think it is the ultimate search for perfection which holds back from admitting one is wrong....Virgo is known to want to perfect all things so to admit fault is a huge thing for them

Flaws?

Posted by MyStarsShine
I think it is the ultimate search for perfection which holds back from admitting one is wrong....Virgo is known to want to perfect all things so to admit fault is a huge thing for them

Flaws?

Flaws or shadow/negative side of their personality. Everyone has their own.

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Posted by MyStarsShine
I think it is the ultimate search for perfection which holds back from admitting one is wrong....Virgo is known to want to perfect all things so to admit fault is a huge thing for them

Flaws?

Flaws or shadow/negative side of their personality. Everyone has their own.

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Yes, but not all admit to it

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Posted by MyStarsShine
I think it is the ultimate search for perfection which holds back from admitting one is wrong....Virgo is known to want to perfect all things so to admit fault is a huge thing for them

Flaws?

Flaws or shadow/negative side of their personality. Everyone has their own.

Yes, but not all admit to it

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Yea I know. And if that's what they choose to do, they're only making their own lives harder. I know the truth about the Virgos I know, so now I know how to move accordingly. The crazy thing is, they did not have to tell me. Constant avoidance and certain unfavorable behaviors has lead me to truly figure them out... if they were less scared of being figured out... they probably wouldn't be. But always trying to run from it, they always show their true colors.

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I think it is the ultimate search for perfection which holds back from admitting one is wrong....Virgo is known to want to perfect all things so to admit fault is a huge thing for them

Flaws?

Flaws or shadow/negative side of their personality. Everyone has their own.

Yes, but not all admit to it

Yea I know. And if that's what they choose to do, they're only making their own lives harder. I know the truth about the Virgos I know, so now I know how to move accordingly. The crazy thing is, they did not have to tell me. Constant avoidance and certain unfavorable behaviors has lead me to truly figure them out... if they were less scared of being figured out... they probably wouldn't be. But always trying to run from it, they always show their true colors.

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I am married to a Virgo (living apart) and i can honestly say he is one of the most loyal, decent people i ever knew but his mind is never still and he never gives himself a break, in company he is on edge and can never relax. Imagine living that way? 😢

I try and focus on the good traits ...

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I think it is the ultimate search for perfection which holds back from admitting one is wrong....Virgo is known to want to perfect all things so to admit fault is a huge thing for them

Flaws?

Flaws or shadow/negative side of their personality. Everyone has their own.

Yes, but not all admit to it

Yea I know. And if that's what they choose to do, they're only making their own lives harder. I know the truth about the Virgos I know, so now I know how to move accordingly. The crazy thing is, they did not have to tell me. Constant avoidance and certain unfavorable behaviors has lead me to truly figure them out... if they were less scared of being figured out... they probably wouldn't be. But always trying to run from it, they always show their true colors.

I am married to a Virgo (living apart) and i can honestly say he is one of the most loyal, decent people i ever knew but his mind is never still and he never gives himself a break, in company he is on edge and can never relax. Imagine living that way? 😢

I try and focus on the good traits ...

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Virgos really do have nice traits when they choose to let themselves be happy. My first and only actual relationship was with a Virgo and he was absolutely amazing overall. However another Virgo that I never dated but we had a special friendship (wanting to be together in the future) he has been the most manipulative and phony person I've ever met. I don't know what to believe, but now I know to act with him. (Ignore, ignore, ignore and have no faith in his words until there's action. Not friends but I'll agree to be cordial) Though it has been hard emotionally with him, I've learned a lot about myself and learned to love myself properly. Bittersweet I guess.

Posted by CurlyAries
Virgos try so hard to be as far from human as possible (robot) that they actually show all of their flaws and insecurities pretty quickly. Okay Virgos, don't admit you're wrong... you're just delusional anyway

We're probably the first to point out our own flaws and apologize for them. How is that delusional?

means the person care enough to save the relationship by Apologizing

The Virgo woman apologised for overreacting to a comment I made in jest after she also made a comment in jest. She took my comment seriously and made a big scene in front of our friends and left. I sent her a message in response saying that if it means anything, I think she is 'imperfectly perfect'. Also that she was way too hard on herself and didn't need to perfect all the time. She replied with 'wow, this message is very heartfelt and thoughtful', that I was right about her being too hard on herself, and thanked me for caring. Also stated she was struggling with her work as a GP and Masters degree that she's currently undertaking. Good signs, right?

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Posted by CurlyAries
Virgos try so hard to be as far from human as possible (robot) that they actually show all of their flaws and insecurities pretty quickly. Okay Virgos, don't admit you're wrong... you're just delusional anyway

We're probably the first to point out our own flaws and apologize for them. How is that delusional?

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Big difference apologizing for your shortcomings, and apologizing to SOMEONE ELSE for what YOU DID OR SAID to them. Which, in my experience, every Virgo I've known has sucked at that. And like some other user mentioned before, if a Virgo can find one shred of outside influence, it's not their fault. They think they're "explaining" when really they're just waffling on with a bunch of excuses. That's the delusion.

Apologizing for the way you are means nothing if you don't try to be better than that.

Posted by MilaniKisses
If I know I am in the wrong, yes, I will sincerely apologize for it - but of course that is after I've analyzed the situation. In the analysis, If there were things that influenced me to make the wrong statement/choice, then I wont necessarily apologize as it was guided to that decision (If that makes any sense).

You don't apologize for yourself. You don't keep from apologizing to someone because external, extenuating circumstances played a part (The Devil made me do it sort of crap.)

You apologize because you offended and hurt someone. No matter what drove you, you have control over what you do and say. Sure, we all slip up. That's why we say, "Ooops. I made a mistake. I had a bad day, but I'm sorry." Not, "I was expressing my opinions, but had I not been drunk I wouldn't have been so furious and you wouldn't have gone away crying. So, yeah..."

Apologizing isn't about you. It's about how you made the other feel. You don't apologize to clear your conscience. You do it because you want the other to realize you were WRONG in how you spoke to them and made them feel. Outside influences be damned.

It's all not that hard to understand.

Thank you @81gems for explaining that so perfectly.

virgos are always sorry...lol

Mine apologizes and i call him that bullishh. ..or either im so critical about what he did in that moment.. that he tries to rush the fact and ignore it. So i know he knows..that i know he is sorry. Hmmp!?

If i don't trust you I'm not apologizing.

no power plays going on here

I might not even say "excuse me" if i step on your foot

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Posted by MilaniKisses
If I know I am in the wrong, yes, I will sincerely apologize for it - but of course that is after I've analyzed the situation. In the analysis, If there were things that influenced me to make the wrong statement/choice, then I wont necessarily apologize as it was guided to that decision (If that makes any sense).

You don't apologize for yourself. You don't keep from apologizing to someone because external, extenuating circumstances played a part (The Devil made me do it sort of crap.)

You apologize because you offended and hurt someone. No matter what drove you, you have control over what you do and say. Sure, we all slip up. That's why we say, "Ooops. I made a mistake. I had a bad day, but I'm sorry." Not, "I was expressing my opinions, but had I not been drunk I wouldn't have been so furious and you wouldn't have gone away crying. So, yeah..."

Apologizing isn't about you. It's about how you made the other feel. You don't apologize to clear your conscience. You do it because you want the other to realize you were WRONG in how you spoke to them and made them feel. Outside influences be damned.

It's all not that hard to understand.

Ok so this is something i personally struggle to understand...trying to work on growth here.

So if i tell someone my opinion and it hurts their feelings am i suppose to change my views. Wat exactly would i be apologizing for,besides the fact that my views hurt ur feelings. You shouldnt allow my views to hurt ur feelings.Im not gonna apologize for watever my opinion is. In that situation my apology ends up saying something like..." im sorry but it really shouldnt matter that much if i think ur an idiot..do u think ur an idiot?" something to this fact. But my apology usually makes friends and family more pissed.Becuz i know they wont accept my apology- ill say nothing and walk away. But i will never apology for my beliefs or opinions - yes i think ur an idiot

I have a ton of virgo friends (male and female) who agree with me and also lack this understanding.

Why should i apologize for ur emotions!!!!! Idk i still dnt get it.

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Of course a lot depends on the other person you're dealing with. Are you calling some stranger an idiot, or someone more important than that?

There is also such a thing as tact. There are ways of telling close friends and even family, if you think they're being an idiot.

If you're in a shitty mood, and someone makes a little, yet annoying mistake, are you right to just blurt out "You fucking moron!" I don't know. My guess would be no. Should you later say, "I was in a bad mood and that's why I said it. So, yeah...." Does that count as a apology? Not to most normal, courteous, understanding people. Whether or not that is you I've no interest in finding out. Not relevant anyway.

That whole BS about, "shouldn't apologize for my opinions" and "why should I apologize for your feelings" go away once you grow up. Wise up. Get a little older, and smarter. Maybe you'll understand some day. Maybe not. Some people never do.

I'm sure the rest of the Virgos I've known, and still do know, wouldn't get this either. Then again, these people are all divorced, single, unemployed, alcoholics, and a lot closer to alone than necessary. A couple are in fact completely alone. Is this what comes from not "getting it?" From what I can tell, yes. But, it's their life. If that's the Virgo way, and they're happy being the lost causes that they are, Hell if I'm going to care.