Virgo guy dissapears after intimacy

Why do Virgo guys throw silent treatment after intimacy and after saying that they like someone?

outside of our comfort zone.

nobody wants to be vulnerable.

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outside of our comfort zone.

nobody wants to be vulnerable.

What comfort zone?

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outside of our comfort zone.

nobody wants to be vulnerable.

What comfort zone?

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the comfort zone of being a loner

should have made him clean the bathtub first

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Why do Virgo guys throw silent treatment after intimacy and after saying that they like someone?

They said it to get to the finish line aka sex.

Now that they got what they want, they’re like a ghost.

The addict will be back when he needs his next fix

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outside of our comfort zone.
nobody wants to be vulnerable.

What comfort zone?
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the comfort zone of being a loner

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That sounds comfy indeed

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Posted by aquaglass
Why do Virgo guys throw silent treatment after intimacy and after saying that they like someone?

They said it to get to the finish line aka sex.

Now that they got what they want, they’re like a ghost.

The addict will be back when he needs his next fix

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He said it after the sx though

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He vrrrrr vrrrrr and go

😂😂😂

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Why do Virgo guys throw silent treatment after intimacy and after saying that they like someone?

They said it to get to the finish line aka sex.
Now that they got what they want, they’re like a ghost.
The addict will be back when he needs his next fix
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He said it after the sx though

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Well, was it a lie?!

He likes you.

As he likes sleeping in on Saturdays.

As he likes ketchup with his hotdog.

As he likes having clean nails.

Posted by StubbornSag
Because he was just horny and he got what he needed. He didn't like it enough to stick around though. If they like it, they don't ghost, they blow your phone off to see you again🤣 oh and people say all the random shit after they had sex.

I ain't gon lie.. sometimes a dude like it but he just dont want the stress of having to keep up with having to actually talk.. he probably just want to hit her up when he ready to fuck again. could be just me..

That’s not just Virgos …. Men can do this when they’ve got what they want

Predictable and gross I know, but sadly true…

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Because he was just horny and he got what he needed. He didn't like it enough to stick around though. If they like it, they don't ghost, they blow your phone off to see you again🤣 oh and people say all the random shit after they had sex.

I ain't gon lie.. sometimes a dude like it but he just dont want the stress of having to keep up with having to actually talk.. he probably just want to hit her up when he ready to fuck again. could be just me..

That's an option to. Although Virgos REALLY like to talk. Unless they find you dumb and have nothing to talk to you about...they can literally start a talk with a stranger on the street about anything. If they don't wanna talk, that's a reason to think about 😂

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Nah u right. My old cameraman was a virgo. He talked his ass off. Was literally trapped in convo and I'm over here with my shirt off and chains on freezing my ass off.. I should've never started him up about how fucked up the world is lol

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Why do Virgo guys throw silent treatment after intimacy and after saying that they like someone?

as a virgo woman, i'd only to that if you didn't react as i expected, meaning: i felt that some way you don't reciprocate as much as i'd like you to. after this, i'm ghost

but since we're talking about men, he's probably a jerk that only wanted sex?

Posted by aquaglass
Why do Virgo guys throw silent treatment after intimacy and after saying that they like someone?

I assume you are just venting. Because you gave ZERO detail. In the case especially timeline.

For all we know, you guys did the deed and he was in the shower when you posted thos🤣

I’m kind of repulsed how some men aren’t able to manage sex and communication…it feels so basic somehow and obvious ….

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Because he was just horny and he got what he needed. He didn't like it enough to stick around though. If they like it, they don't ghost, they blow your phone off to see you again🤣 oh and people say all the random shit after they had sex.

I ain't gon lie.. sometimes a dude like it but he just dont want the stress of having to keep up with having to actually talk.. he probably just want to hit her up when he ready to fuck again. could be just me..
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That's an option to. Although Virgos REALLY like to talk. Unless they find you dumb and have nothing to talk to you about...they can literally start a talk with a stranger on the street about anything. If they don't wanna talk, that's a reason to think about 😂

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Should be some reasons, there's no way I can say the real reason why though. Nor anyone but him. But I did block him twice, if that's really a big deal

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That’s not just Virgos …. Men can do this when they’ve got what they want

Predictable and gross I know, but sadly true…

This is realistic

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Why do Virgo guys throw silent treatment after intimacy and after saying that they like someone?

as a virgo woman, i'd only to that if you didn't react as i expected, meaning: i felt that some way you don't reciprocate as much as i'd like you to. after this, i'm ghost

but since we're talking about men, he's probably a jerk that only wanted sex?

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Well I blocked him twice. Not sure if that's the case but then I have my reasons

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Why do Virgo guys throw silent treatment after intimacy and after saying that they like someone?

I assume you are just venting. Because you gave ZERO detail. In the case especially timeline.

For all we know, you guys did the deed and he was in the shower when you posted thos🤣

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He should've been in the shower for days then lol, which sounds like a really clean Virgo stuff.

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Why do Virgo guys throw silent treatment after intimacy and after saying that they like someone?

We do? I hadn't noticed lol.
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This hasn’t been my experience with Virgo men either.

Aqua, you said “they” as in plural? Has this happened with more than one Virgo man in your experience? And when you say “silent treatment” does that just mean you’ve gone one day without hearing from him, or has he ghosted you?

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It's just one guy to me. But I heard from some of my friends who dated Virgos that it sometimes happened to them too.

It was just a day before, but then I blocked him or I sent him another text which he would then bombard me with multiple pics and texts after.

This time has been a week.

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But facetiousness aside.... I have never pulled away from someone only due to having sex with em...I have pulled away from people I've been romantically familiar to (especially early on) who communicate in a style that shows me a pattern of disinterest or signal a strong incompatibility.

Stonewalling

Repeated withdrawals

Consistent imbalance in effort

Zero curiosity about me

Mismatched value and belief sets


I'm sure the list goes on.

With all the above said, I do make an active effort to not sleep with people who I feel I'm incompatible with and if I do sleep with someone and determine we aren't compatible for any number of reasons I do attempt to give closure through a minimum a conversation. I feel I owe a partner at least that much if I feel I am going to dip out of the connection.

That makes sense.

I'm not sure if what i'm gonna say would make any difference but a bit more details;

We stared talking in a very decent and civilized way lol. We shared many things in common which we figured awesome.

Then one day he said he likes me. Which I replied with I like him too. Then he didn't talk, but I didn't have much patience lol so I blocked him a day after.

Then about a month later, he found a way to talk to me again. And we talked from there. We then had some steamy sessions. Then he would go silent or a bit distant afterward but in a day or two he would go back to his talkative side. Bombard me with texts and all.

That annoyed me lol. So i sent him a last message saying that his silence surprised me and it makes me think that he just wanted sex. Then I blocked his number again

He still tried to reach out on an app asking why did I block him.

He told me his thoughts about what I said. He said that it's unfair to expect to talk all the time everyday. And it was never just about sex.

I didn't reply to his last message since I needed time to think, then he blocked me on the app the next day lol.

Pretty contradictive here since he said that it's unfair to expect to talk everyday yet when I didn't reply in 24 hours, he blocked me.

So I unblocked his number, I apologize for accusing he just wanted sex. He said it's ok and he really likes me, likes talking to me and sex is never the reason why he talk to me in the beginning.

I replied with good to hear him saying that.

Now he's not talking again, it's been almost a week. Lol

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But facetiousness aside.... I have never pulled away from someone only due to having sex with em...I have pulled away from people I've been romantically familiar to (especially early on) who communicate in a style that shows me a pattern of disinterest or signal a strong incompatibility.
Stonewalling
Repeated withdrawals
Consistent imbalance in effort
Zero curiosity about me
Mismatched value and belief sets

I'm sure the list goes on.
With all the above said, I do make an active effort to not sleep with people who I feel I'm incompatible with and if I do sleep with someone and determine we aren't compatible for any number of reasons I do attempt to give closure through a minimum a conversation. I feel I owe a partner at least that much if I feel I am going to dip out of the connection.

That makes sense.

I'm not sure if what i'm gonna say would make any difference but a bit more details;

We stared talking in a very decent and civilized way lol. We shared many things in common which we figured awesome.

Then one day he said he likes me. Which I replied with I like him too. Then he didn't talk, but I didn't have much patience lol so I blocked him a day after.

Then about a month later, he found a way to talk to me again. And we talked from there. We then had some steamy sessions. Then he would go silent or a bit distant afterward but in a day or two he would go back to his talkative side. Bombard me with texts and all.

That annoyed me lol. So i sent him a last message saying that his silence surprised me and it makes me think that he just wanted sex. Then I blocked his number again

He still tried to reach out on an app asking why did I block him.

He told me his thoughts about what I said. He said that it's unfair to expect to talk all the time everyday. And it was never just about sex.

I didn't reply to his last message since I needed time to think, then he blocked me on the app the next day lol.

Pretty contradictive here since he said that it's unfair to expect to talk everyday yet when I didn't reply in 24 hours, he blocked me.

So I unblocked his number, I apologize for accusing he just wanted sex. He said it's ok and he really likes me, likes talking to me and sex is never the reason why he talk to me in the beginning.

I replied with good to hear him saying that.

Now he's not talking again, it's been almost a week. Lol
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Hrm I'm not sure it makes a difference either. Tell me, honestly what do you think about everything you just said?

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I have no patience for his silence lol. What do you think?

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Posted by __ixi__
But facetiousness aside.... I have never pulled away from someone only due to having sex with em...I have pulled away from people I've been romantically familiar to (especially early on) who communicate in a style that shows me a pattern of disinterest or signal a strong incompatibility.
Stonewalling
Repeated withdrawals
Consistent imbalance in effort
Zero curiosity about me
Mismatched value and belief sets

I'm sure the list goes on.
With all the above said, I do make an active effort to not sleep with people who I feel I'm incompatible with and if I do sleep with someone and determine we aren't compatible for any number of reasons I do attempt to give closure through a minimum a conversation. I feel I owe a partner at least that much if I feel I am going to dip out of the connection.

That makes sense.
I'm not sure if what i'm gonna say would make any difference but a bit more details;
We stared talking in a very decent and civilized way lol. We shared many things in common which we figured awesome.
Then one day he said he likes me. Which I replied with I like him too. Then he didn't talk, but I didn't have much patience lol so I blocked him a day after.
Then about a month later, he found a way to talk to me again. And we talked from there. We then had some steamy sessions. Then he would go silent or a bit distant afterward but in a day or two he would go back to his talkative side. Bombard me with texts and all.
That annoyed me lol. So i sent him a last message saying that his silence surprised me and it makes me think that he just wanted sex. Then I blocked his number again
He still tried to reach out on an app asking why did I block him.
He told me his thoughts about what I said. He said that it's unfair to expect to talk all the time everyday. And it was never just about sex.
I didn't reply to his last message since I needed time to think, then he blocked me on the app the next day lol.
Pretty contradictive here since he said that it's unfair to expect to talk everyday yet when I didn't reply in 24 hours, he blocked me.
So I unblocked his number, I apologize for accusing he just wanted sex. He said it's ok and he really likes me, likes talking to me and sex is never the reason why he talk to me in the beginning.
I replied with good to hear him saying that.
Now he's not talking again, it's been almost a week. Lol
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Mental gymnastics

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Healthy for sure

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Posted by __ixi__
But facetiousness aside.... I have never pulled away from someone only due to having sex with em...I have pulled away from people I've been romantically familiar to (especially early on) who communicate in a style that shows me a pattern of disinterest or signal a strong incompatibility.
Stonewalling
Repeated withdrawals
Consistent imbalance in effort
Zero curiosity about me
Mismatched value and belief sets

I'm sure the list goes on.
With all the above said, I do make an active effort to not sleep with people who I feel I'm incompatible with and if I do sleep with someone and determine we aren't compatible for any number of reasons I do attempt to give closure through a minimum a conversation. I feel I owe a partner at least that much if I feel I am going to dip out of the connection.

That makes sense.
I'm not sure if what i'm gonna say would make any difference but a bit more details;
We stared talking in a very decent and civilized way lol. We shared many things in common which we figured awesome.
Then one day he said he likes me. Which I replied with I like him too. Then he didn't talk, but I didn't have much patience lol so I blocked him a day after.
Then about a month later, he found a way to talk to me again. And we talked from there. We then had some steamy sessions. Then he would go silent or a bit distant afterward but in a day or two he would go back to his talkative side. Bombard me with texts and all.
That annoyed me lol. So i sent him a last message saying that his silence surprised me and it makes me think that he just wanted sex. Then I blocked his number again
He still tried to reach out on an app asking why did I block him.
He told me his thoughts about what I said. He said that it's unfair to expect to talk all the time everyday. And it was never just about sex.
I didn't reply to his last message since I needed time to think, then he blocked me on the app the next day lol.
Pretty contradictive here since he said that it's unfair to expect to talk everyday yet when I didn't reply in 24 hours, he blocked me.
So I unblocked his number, I apologize for accusing he just wanted sex. He said it's ok and he really likes me, likes talking to me and sex is never the reason why he talk to me in the beginning.
I replied with good to hear him saying that.
Now he's not talking again, it's been almost a week. Lol
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Mental gymnastics

Healthy for sure
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Maybe in some way it is but that's going to eventually tire you out.

I mean, if it's casual then let it be without the emotional manipulation.

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No it's unhealthy I'm pretty aware. It's tiring me out already since it hurts my thumb to block and unblock him all the time. I wish he could just stay connected and not keeping me on read here and there.

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Why do Virgo guys throw silent treatment after intimacy and after saying that they like someone?

as a virgo woman, i'd only to that if you didn't react as i expected, meaning: i felt that some way you don't reciprocate as much as i'd like you to. after this, i'm ghost
but since we're talking about men, he's probably a jerk that only wanted sex?
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Well I blocked him twice. Not sure if that's the case but then I have my reasons

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This might have more to do with it than the sex, honestly. I have Virgo Venus and I feel it’s incredibly petty when people block me, then try to reel me back in after their emotions have settled. It feels like game playing to me.

Virgo energy is practical and like consistent, reliable people. I’ve noticed fire sign energy can be petty and impulsive like that, like they will block you after an argument then act like nothing happened. I feel like blocking is as dysfunctional as the silent treatment. They both send the same signal in my opinion.

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Well, he kept saying that it was extremely unfair for me to say those things i said and blocked him indeed. I need my own space myself too (aqua with caps stellium). But i guess i don't like it when someone ignores me anyway, i used to be the one who ignored. So might be my ego thing. Now i'm feeling like blocking him again to be honest since i don't see any points why to keep his contact while he's not talking for almost a week. Should i do it or try to talk or leave him alone?

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Why do Virgo guys throw silent treatment after intimacy and after saying that they like someone?

as a virgo woman, i'd only to that if you didn't react as i expected, meaning: i felt that some way you don't reciprocate as much as i'd like you to. after this, i'm ghost
but since we're talking about men, he's probably a jerk that only wanted sex?
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Well I blocked him twice. Not sure if that's the case but then I have my reasons
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This might have more to do with it than the sex, honestly. I have Virgo Venus and I feel it’s incredibly petty when people block me, then try to reel me back in after their emotions have settled. It feels like game playing to me.
Virgo energy is practical and like consistent, reliable people. I’ve noticed fire sign energy can be petty and impulsive like that, like they will block you after an argument then act like nothing happened. I feel like blocking is as dysfunctional as the silent treatment. They both send the same signal in my opinion.

Well, he kept saying that it was extremely unfair for me to say those things i said and blocked him indeed. I need my own space myself too (aqua with caps stellium). But i guess i don't like it when someone ignores me anyway, i used to be the one who ignored. So might be my ego thing. Now i'm feeling like blocking him again to be honest since i don't see any points why to keep his contact while he's not talking for almost a week. Should i do it or try to talk or leave him alone?
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Yeah it’s definitely an ego thing. I understand being offended when he said “it was extremely unfair” for you to say those things, but he is entitled to his opinion and HIS feelings. If he felt that it was unfair, then he felt that it was unfair. 🤷‍♀️ That’s not to say that you have to agree with him, but blocking him just because you don’t like what he says is childish. Healthy communication wont always be comfortable and you don’t always have to agree with the other person. But it’s way healthier to communicate like an adult instead of seeing who can prove a bigger point by blocking or shutting each other out.

It sounds like a toxic foundation to build upon, so it might be better to just let it go and focus on yourself. Blocking isn’t necessary. Just don’t talk to him.

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Ouch. That hits something.

Why do i keep his number if he's not talking anyways?

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Why do Virgo guys throw silent treatment after intimacy and after saying that they like someone?

as a virgo woman, i'd only to that if you didn't react as i expected, meaning: i felt that some way you don't reciprocate as much as i'd like you to. after this, i'm ghost
but since we're talking about men, he's probably a jerk that only wanted sex?
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Well I blocked him twice. Not sure if that's the case but then I have my reasons
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This might have more to do with it than the sex, honestly. I have Virgo Venus and I feel it’s incredibly petty when people block me, then try to reel me back in after their emotions have settled. It feels like game playing to me.
Virgo energy is practical and like consistent, reliable people. I’ve noticed fire sign energy can be petty and impulsive like that, like they will block you after an argument then act like nothing happened. I feel like blocking is as dysfunctional as the silent treatment. They both send the same signal in my opinion.

Well, he kept saying that it was extremely unfair for me to say those things i said and blocked him indeed. I need my own space myself too (aqua with caps stellium). But i guess i don't like it when someone ignores me anyway, i used to be the one who ignored. So might be my ego thing. Now i'm feeling like blocking him again to be honest since i don't see any points why to keep his contact while he's not talking for almost a week. Should i do it or try to talk or leave him alone?
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Yeah it’s definitely an ego thing. I understand being offended when he said “it was extremely unfair” for you to say those things, but he is entitled to his opinion and HIS feelings. If he felt that it was unfair, then he felt that it was unfair. 🤷‍♀️ That’s not to say that you have to agree with him, but blocking him just because you don’t like what he says is childish. Healthy communication wont always be comfortable and you don’t always have to agree with the other person. But it’s way healthier to communicate like an adult instead of seeing who can prove a bigger point by blocking or shutting each other out.
It sounds like a toxic foundation to build upon, so it might be better to just let it go and focus on yourself. Blocking isn’t necessary. Just don’t talk to him.

Ouch. That hits something.

Why do i keep his number if he's not talking anyways?
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I don’t mean to be mean with the things that I’m saying.. but seriously I think sometimes we make relationships more complicated than they need to be. It’s understandable that he triggers you when he takes too long to respond, but that should let you know that you have something that you need to heal within yourself. People are very different from each other… virgos are overthinkers and can be in their head a lot. It’s possible that the reason he takes time to reply because he’s in his head or something. Just try not to take it so personally and occupy your time with something else.

Also, you don’t have to keep his number.. you can delete his number I’m just saying you don’t have to block him like he’s a stalker lol I think the only time I’ve ever blocked someone is if they were stalking or harassing me.

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I see. Now that makes more sense.

Now i'm wondering why should he say that he really likes me and likes talking to me just to then not talk at all I feel like either addressing it again or to block him (which now i'm considering not doing for now), since it doesn't seem to care that it bothers me.

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Why do Virgo guys throw silent treatment after intimacy and after saying that they like someone?

as a virgo woman, i'd only to that if you didn't react as i expected, meaning: i felt that some way you don't reciprocate as much as i'd like you to. after this, i'm ghost
but since we're talking about men, he's probably a jerk that only wanted sex?
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Well I blocked him twice. Not sure if that's the case but then I have my reasons
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This might have more to do with it than the sex, honestly. I have Virgo Venus and I feel it’s incredibly petty when people block me, then try to reel me back in after their emotions have settled. It feels like game playing to me.
Virgo energy is practical and like consistent, reliable people. I’ve noticed fire sign energy can be petty and impulsive like that, like they will block you after an argument then act like nothing happened. I feel like blocking is as dysfunctional as the silent treatment. They both send the same signal in my opinion.

Well, he kept saying that it was extremely unfair for me to say those things i said and blocked him indeed. I need my own space myself too (aqua with caps stellium). But i guess i don't like it when someone ignores me anyway, i used to be the one who ignored. So might be my ego thing. Now i'm feeling like blocking him again to be honest since i don't see any points why to keep his contact while he's not talking for almost a week. Should i do it or try to talk or leave him alone?
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Yeah it’s definitely an ego thing. I understand being offended when he said “it was extremely unfair” for you to say those things, but he is entitled to his opinion and HIS feelings. If he felt that it was unfair, then he felt that it was unfair. 🤷‍♀️ That’s not to say that you have to agree with him, but blocking him just because you don’t like what he says is childish. Healthy communication wont always be comfortable and you don’t always have to agree with the other person. But it’s way healthier to communicate like an adult instead of seeing who can prove a bigger point by blocking or shutting each other out.
It sounds like a toxic foundation to build upon, so it might be better to just let it go and focus on yourself. Blocking isn’t necessary. Just don’t talk to him.

Ouch. That hits something.
Why do i keep his number if he's not talking anyways?
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I don’t mean to be mean with the things that I’m saying.. but seriously I think sometimes we make relationships more complicated than they need to be. It’s understandable that he triggers you when he takes too long to respond, but that should let you know that you have something that you need to heal within yourself. People are very different from each other… virgos are overthinkers and can be in their head a lot. It’s possible that the reason he takes time to reply because he’s in his head or something. Just try not to take it so personally and occupy your time with something else.
Also, you don’t have to keep his number.. you can delete his number I’m just saying you don’t have to block him like he’s a stalker lol I think the only time I’ve ever blocked someone is if they were stalking or harassing me.
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I see. Now that makes more sense.
Now i'm wondering why should he say that he really likes me and likes talking to me just to then not talk at all I feel like either addressing it again or to block him (which now i'm considering not doing for now), since it doesn't seem to care that it bothers me.
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Here's the hardest part. You have to stop worrying about if it's fair, or equal to level up. Eye for an eye keeps you in the same place.

Address it. But if he continues to be inconsistent you have to decide if you want to keep trying or not. You can try to understand he has reasons too and might not he ready to discuss them. Or you can say it's not what you want in a relationship and move forward even if it hurts to let go. He's responsible for his feelings and actions as well as you are for yours. And I'm fully aware that's way easier said that lived.

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This is well said, thanks.

I thought i had addressed it to him how the delays in communication bother me emotionally when i apologized for blocking him. Yet i still don't see him really doing something about it. He just said that he really likes me and likes talking to me. Then disappear again.

I honestly still want to talk to him since we did have a good connection and shared common interests, not gonna lie.

I know that my urge to go extreme when i feel like someone is about to leave me is not good. Right at this moment, i am trying to resist the thoughts of cutting him off like blocking him again or talking to him in an aggressive/accusing way.

I might need to take some more time to calm my mind off. Not sure how to really start talking to him again though, might still need to really dig deeper on how to do this in a healthier way. So i would not talk to him until i can come up with something better. But would love to hear insights on what to say lol.

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Because he was just horny and he got what he needed. He didn't like it enough to stick around though. If they like it, they don't ghost, they blow your phone off to see you again🤣 oh and people say all the random shit after they had sex.

I ain't gon lie.. sometimes a dude like it but he just dont want the stress of having to keep up with having to actually talk.. he probably just want to hit her up when he ready to fuck again. could be just me..
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That's an option to. Although Virgos REALLY like to talk. Unless they find you dumb and have nothing to talk to you about...they can literally start a talk with a stranger on the street about anything. If they don't wanna talk, that's a reason to think about 😂

Should be some reasons, there's no way I can say the real reason why though. Nor anyone but him. But I did block him twice, if that's really a big deal
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Maybe he's repaying you for that then? He has something bothering him, but it's definitely not to do with his sign I think, just a common thing between people

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So he holds grudges, huh?

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Why do Virgo guys throw silent treatment after intimacy and after saying that they like someone?

as a virgo woman, i'd only to that if you didn't react as i expected, meaning: i felt that some way you don't reciprocate as much as i'd like you to. after this, i'm ghost
but since we're talking about men, he's probably a jerk that only wanted sex?
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Well I blocked him twice. Not sure if that's the case but then I have my reasons
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This might have more to do with it than the sex, honestly. I have Virgo Venus and I feel it’s incredibly petty when people block me, then try to reel me back in after their emotions have settled. It feels like game playing to me.
Virgo energy is practical and like consistent, reliable people. I’ve noticed fire sign energy can be petty and impulsive like that, like they will block you after an argument then act like nothing happened. I feel like blocking is as dysfunctional as the silent treatment. They both send the same signal in my opinion.

Well, he kept saying that it was extremely unfair for me to say those things i said and blocked him indeed. I need my own space myself too (aqua with caps stellium). But i guess i don't like it when someone ignores me anyway, i used to be the one who ignored. So might be my ego thing. Now i'm feeling like blocking him again to be honest since i don't see any points why to keep his contact while he's not talking for almost a week. Should i do it or try to talk or leave him alone?
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Yeah it’s definitely an ego thing. I understand being offended when he said “it was extremely unfair” for you to say those things, but he is entitled to his opinion and HIS feelings. If he felt that it was unfair, then he felt that it was unfair. 🤷‍♀️ That’s not to say that you have to agree with him, but blocking him just because you don’t like what he says is childish. Healthy communication wont always be comfortable and you don’t always have to agree with the other person. But it’s way healthier to communicate like an adult instead of seeing who can prove a bigger point by blocking or shutting each other out.
It sounds like a toxic foundation to build upon, so it might be better to just let it go and focus on yourself. Blocking isn’t necessary. Just don’t talk to him.

Ouch. That hits something.
Why do i keep his number if he's not talking anyways?
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I don’t mean to be mean with the things that I’m saying.. but seriously I think sometimes we make relationships more complicated than they need to be. It’s understandable that he triggers you when he takes too long to respond, but that should let you know that you have something that you need to heal within yourself. People are very different from each other… virgos are overthinkers and can be in their head a lot. It’s possible that the reason he takes time to reply because he’s in his head or something. Just try not to take it so personally and occupy your time with something else.
Also, you don’t have to keep his number.. you can delete his number I’m just saying you don’t have to block him like he’s a stalker lol I think the only time I’ve ever blocked someone is if they were stalking or harassing me.
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I see. Now that makes more sense.
Now i'm wondering why should he say that he really likes me and likes talking to me just to then not talk at all I feel like either addressing it again or to block him (which now i'm considering not doing for now), since it doesn't seem to care that it bothers me.
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Here's the hardest part. You have to stop worrying about if it's fair, or equal to level up. Eye for an eye keeps you in the same place.
Address it. But if he continues to be inconsistent you have to decide if you want to keep trying or not. You can try to understand he has reasons too and might not he ready to discuss them. Or you can say it's not what you want in a relationship and move forward even if it hurts to let go. He's responsible for his feelings and actions as well as you are for yours. And I'm fully aware that's way easier said that lived.
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This is well said, thanks.
I thought i had addressed it to him how the delays in communication bother me emotionally when i apologized for blocking him. Yet i still don't see him really doing something about it. He just said that he really likes me and likes talking to me. Then disappear again.
I honestly still want to talk to him since we did have a good connection and shared common interests, not gonna lie.
I know that my urge to go extreme when i feel like someone is about to leave me is not good. Right at this moment, i am trying to resist the thoughts of cutting him off like blocking him again or talking to him in an aggressive/accusing way.
I might need to take some more time to calm my mind off. Not sure how to really start talking to him again though, might still need to really dig deeper on how to do this in a healthier way. So i would not talk to him until i can come up with something better. But would love to hear insights on what to say lol.

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Perhaps ask him to explain why he's doing it? I'm not great at wording at times and came across as too blunt. So I'll let that one be up to you lol. Personally I'd be honest and be sure to highlight that it's not attacking or blaming him, it's just how you feel.

I understand the feeling. I have exactly two people that can trigger tf out of me. And like you, I'd react similar. For me, it's because I'm emotional entangled and attached to them. That's ego. Ego isn't always thinking you're bigger and better, like a negative. Sit with your feelings and see why you have them. It's not bad to feel like you are. It's not bad to feel, period. (I've got an aqua moon, believe me, feelings are weird lol) Even the worst case of the relationship falling apart, if you can grow from it, then do it. Maybe it'll help in the next go around.

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I am pretty straightforward too and sound aggressive when I confront something. I even needed to ask chatGPT to soften my texts sometimes lol.

I'm thinking about something, just not sure if I should just start it with something light or in a more serious note. My first time with Virgo, soo

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Because he was just horny and he got what he needed. He didn't like it enough to stick around though. If they like it, they don't ghost, they blow your phone off to see you again🤣 oh and people say all the random shit after they had sex.

I ain't gon lie.. sometimes a dude like it but he just dont want the stress of having to keep up with having to actually talk.. he probably just want to hit her up when he ready to fuck again. could be just me..
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That's an option to. Although Virgos REALLY like to talk. Unless they find you dumb and have nothing to talk to you about...they can literally start a talk with a stranger on the street about anything. If they don't wanna talk, that's a reason to think about 😂

Should be some reasons, there's no way I can say the real reason why though. Nor anyone but him. But I did block him twice, if that's really a big deal
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Maybe he's repaying you for that then? He has something bothering him, but it's definitely not to do with his sign I think, just a common thing between people

So he holds grudges, huh?
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Very possible. Ofc. If anyone, Virgos will hold grudges the most. They have memory of an elephant and they can and will use it later against you if they are golding some grudge from the past.

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My mom is a Virgo and I have a Virgo girl as a friend. Almost every time we talk they would bring up what others did to them in the past. I am re-thinking whether keeping his number and continue to try for some communication is still worth it with this Virgo guy. Sounds complicated.

So I messaged him saying that it's been on my mind that we haven't communicate as we used to. Asking can we discuss if there's anything still bothering him and figure out how to move forward or respectfully move on without leaving anyone in the dark.

He replied with:

"Hey miss. Nothing is bothering me at all, i just figured after that conversation that maybe a break was a good idea. Im really happy u still want to talk to me 🙂. How are you?? "

Sooo I assume we're good now?

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So I messaged him saying that it's been on my mind that we haven't communicate as we used to. Asking can we discuss if there's anything still bothering him and figure out how to move forward or respectfully move on without leaving anyone in the dark.

He replied with:

"Hey miss. Nothing is bothering me at all, i just figured after that conversation that maybe a break was a good idea. Im really happy u still want to talk to me . How are you?? "

Sooo I assume we're good now?

You're coming off a as gigantic 'drama ahead' sign/red flag; a bullet to be dodged. Overly emotional, insecure, clingy, desperate to be in a relationship, trying to initiate/force uncomfortable intimate conversations/moments.

And you still need people to tell you how to

think...

You should be working on yourself before trying to get into a relationship or even date at all. So that you don't end up repelling most men or in the case that you end up in a relationship... that you don't end up having your SO telling you what to wear and think.

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And what does this has to do with him being a Virgo? And why tf are you ascribing characteristics and tendencies shown by this Virgo guy to Virgos in general?

It's not hard to see you're dumb as a brick. And how malleable your thoughts and opinions are based on how quickly you agree or seem persuaded by every comment on your thread.

Here are your problems:

You're stupid (supertitious bimbo subtype)

You're spineless

You're basic

You're a hoe

End result: being low value in the dating market.

You won't be taken seriously until you demonstrate through your actions and choices that you actually have more than two brain cells.

Lmao is life so boring there that attacking people on the internet and calling them names sounds like such a fun activity to do? Keep them coming, you're entertaining

leave him alone, he's an emo

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Why do Virgo guys throw silent treatment after intimacy and after saying that they like someone?

as a virgo woman, i'd only to that if you didn't react as i expected, meaning: i felt that some way you don't reciprocate as much as i'd like you to. after this, i'm ghost
but since we're talking about men, he's probably a jerk that only wanted sex?
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Well I blocked him twice. Not sure if that's the case but then I have my reasons
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This might have more to do with it than the sex, honestly. I have Virgo Venus and I feel it’s incredibly petty when people block me, then try to reel me back in after their emotions have settled. It feels like game playing to me.
Virgo energy is practical and like consistent, reliable people. I’ve noticed fire sign energy can be petty and impulsive like that, like they will block you after an argument then act like nothing happened. I feel like blocking is as dysfunctional as the silent treatment. They both send the same signal in my opinion.

Well, he kept saying that it was extremely unfair for me to say those things i said and blocked him indeed. I need my own space myself too (aqua with caps stellium). But i guess i don't like it when someone ignores me anyway, i used to be the one who ignored. So might be my ego thing. Now i'm feeling like blocking him again to be honest since i don't see any points why to keep his contact while he's not talking for almost a week. Should i do it or try to talk or leave him alone?
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Yeah it’s definitely an ego thing. I understand being offended when he said “it was extremely unfair” for you to say those things, but he is entitled to his opinion and HIS feelings. If he felt that it was unfair, then he felt that it was unfair. 🤷‍♀️ That’s not to say that you have to agree with him, but blocking him just because you don’t like what he says is childish. Healthy communication wont always be comfortable and you don’t always have to agree with the other person. But it’s way healthier to communicate like an adult instead of seeing who can prove a bigger point by blocking or shutting each other out.
It sounds like a toxic foundation to build upon, so it might be better to just let it go and focus on yourself. Blocking isn’t necessary. Just don’t talk to him.

Ouch. That hits something.
Why do i keep his number if he's not talking anyways?
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I don’t mean to be mean with the things that I’m saying.. but seriously I think sometimes we make relationships more complicated than they need to be. It’s understandable that he triggers you when he takes too long to respond, but that should let you know that you have something that you need to heal within yourself. People are very different from each other… virgos are overthinkers and can be in their head a lot. It’s possible that the reason he takes time to reply because he’s in his head or something. Just try not to take it so personally and occupy your time with something else.
Also, you don’t have to keep his number.. you can delete his number I’m just saying you don’t have to block him like he’s a stalker lol I think the only time I’ve ever blocked someone is if they were stalking or harassing me.
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I see. Now that makes more sense.
Now i'm wondering why should he say that he really likes me and likes talking to me just to then not talk at all I feel like either addressing it again or to block him (which now i'm considering not doing for now), since it doesn't seem to care that it bothers me.
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Here's the hardest part. You have to stop worrying about if it's fair, or equal to level up. Eye for an eye keeps you in the same place.

Address it. But if he continues to be inconsistent you have to decide if you want to keep trying or not. You can try to understand he has reasons too and might not he ready to discuss them. Or you can say it's not what you want in a relationship and move forward even if it hurts to let go. He's responsible for his feelings and actions as well as you are for yours. And I'm fully aware that's way easier said that lived.

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I think his behavior has spoken loudly not need to even give this guy a third chance

You need to get a grip on that high Aqua/Cap ego of yours.

Blocking/unblocking is very petulant and fickle, which it truly is, to those looking for reliability like earth signs. How old are you? I understand that ego all too well as an Aqua stellium; however thanks to astrology I became self-aware and have learned to tame my ego, which has harmed me significantly in the past.