IF A MAN WANTS YOU HE WILL PERSUE YOU

So ladies sit back and let them put in the work, Because if he wants to be in your life he will stick around. 💁🏼‍♀️

Women do the choosing. 💯

Yes and no.

If he's not getting anything back from you eventually he will stop putting in the work, even if he really wants to be in your life.

Thats why its not worth it to play those dating games of pretending to be non-interested or making him chase or whatevs. Just be your authentic self.

Posted by NemDeux

Posted by bumboklatt

He will do. All the work pursuing

And she will do all the work in the kitchen

🤣🤣🤣

I was so disappointed when during our dating period my husband "cooked" for us ....i came home to instant noodles. Should never have married, it was an omen.

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Worse than beans on toast lol

Posted by LadyNeptune

Yes and no.

If he's not getting anything back from you eventually he will stop putting in the work, even if he really wants to be in your life.

Thats why its not worth it to play those dating games of pretending to be non-interested or making him chase or whatevs. Just be your authentic self.

What if you didnt realise you weren't giving anything back, then he stops putting in the work. And only then do you realise.

Do you chase?

Posted by NemDeux

Posted by bumboklatt

He will do. All the work pursuing

And she will do all the work in the kitchen

🤣🤣🤣

I was so disappointed when during our dating period my husband "cooked" for us ....i came home to instant noodles. Should never have married, it was an omen.

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I would have taken the instant noodles! My ex husband wouldn't chop a lettuce leaf....

Yes and no...

Sometimes experiences prohibits the guy to actually move forward. Back in the old days, thats what we expected men to do. Then we started to fight for equal rights but yet, we want the man to do allthe world and stick to the old ways like paying for dates, chase us ect all the while that workload for men has increased. Also, they are now "allowed" to have feelings and emotions, more so than the old days. Men get shy, scared, insecure, uncomfortable .. just like women. So why should men do all the chasing? Why cant it be 50/50... ? Sometimes the man needs reassurance aswell to approach us. Women have become so independent and in your face, men can be reluctant to approach us because of it.

I'm experiencing exactly this with Mr. Bull. The things that bothered me before our no communication time, are now being worked on and I see improvement. He's been hurt several times and yes, its not fair to take that into a new relationship but it is what it is. I've been hurt too and I also take that into the relationship. Its a step by step movement. As long as you see progress, it shouldnt matter who does the chasing.

And, if he did all the chasing, you give in and start a relationship, he has you and he wont chase anymore and you're still stuck with chasing him while you are in a relationship. Know what I mean?

Better to both chase and let eachother know its ok and both show you're ready to do what it takes.

Posted by PiscesGal76

Yes and no...

Sometimes experiences prohibits the guy to actually move forward. Back in the old days, thats what we expected men to do. Then we started to fight for equal rights but yet, we want the man to do allthe world and stick to the old ways like paying for dates, chase us ect all the while that workload for men has increased. Also, they are now "allowed" to have feelings and emotions, more so than the old days. Men get shy, scared, insecure, uncomfortable .. just like women. So why should men do all the chasing? Why cant it be 50/50... ? Sometimes the man needs reassurance aswell to approach us. Women have become so independent and in your face, men can be reluctant to approach us because of it.

I'm experiencing exactly this with Mr. Bull. The things that bothered me before our no communication time, are now being worked on and I see improvement. He's been hurt several times and yes, its not fair to take that into a new relationship but it is what it is. I've been hurt too and I also take that into the relationship. Its a step by step movement. As long as you see progress, it shouldnt matter who does the chasing.

And, if he did all the chasing, you give in and start a relationship, he has you and he wont chase anymore and you're still stuck with chasing him while you are in a relationship. Know what I mean?

Better to both chase and let eachother know its ok and both show you're ready to do what it takes.

In regards to that statement written in bold...omg thank you so much for that.

I haven't had time to finish reading this whole post but rest assured I'll get around to it.

Posted by Antiphates

Hahahaha libra rising

Posted by LadyNeptune

Yes and no.

If he's not getting anything back from you eventually he will stop putting in the work, even if he really wants to be in your life.

Thats why its not worth it to play those dating games of pretending to be non-interested or making him chase or whatevs. Just be your authentic self.

It’s a give and take but as a women no need to peruse

Posted by mrfish23

Classic Feminist thinking which is total BS.

If a man ain't getting any response from you despite his efforts, he won't stick around and neither should he.

Your kind of women would be the exact same ones who would say later on that "This guy is too clingy/ coming off too strong" when you literally want him to do that in the first place.

If she’s interested she will accept his perusing

Posted by Tenpxd

So ladies sit back and let them put in the work, Because if he wants to be in your life he will stick around. 💁🏼‍♀️

True talk 👍

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Posted by Scheherazade

He will meet you halfway

In a hallway ?

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Why not

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Posted by ideatit

So someone I’m dating is employing me... is this a way of sticking around ? Bc I still can’t figure out his intentions

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I’d think so.

Posted by bumboklatt

He will do. All the work pursuing

And she will do all the work in the kitchen

Ok fair enough

Posted by xXxAliiciaXxX

Without getting into semantics, this is generally true.

Yasss!

Posted by Ramin

Not necessarily. Some guys are practiced in doing enough work to get in. And then they will be out.

Some guys = key word

Posted by Tenpxd

So ladies sit back and let them put in the work, Because if he wants to be in your life he will stick around. 💁🏼‍♀️

I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again



If you fuck good he will stick around.

Posted by Gobby

Posted by Tenpxd

So ladies sit back and let them put in the work, Because if he wants to be in your life he will stick around. 💁🏼‍♀️

No, we just go and find a much better calibre of women.

But, please, you carry on waiting for Godot...

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Lies

Posted by Enolochka

The end. lol.

It’s just the beginning

Posted by sweetpea2977

Posted by Tenpxd

So ladies sit back and let them put in the work, Because if he wants to be in your life he will stick around. 💁🏼‍♀️

True talk 👍

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Yes ma’am 🙂

In my experience, they will pursue period... just for tonight or for forever.

Posted by VenusAquarius

In my experience, they will pursue period... just for tonight or for forever.

This. If they don’t want a relationship, they won’t stick around for the “hard to get” shinnanigans unless you got that good good.

Also, idk who needs to hear this but you can’t play hard to get if you are already hard to want 🤣🤣

^That statement does not apply to you VenusAqua, because you are one hot momma 💛💛😍

Posted by Whorpio

Posted by VenusAquarius

In my experience, they will pursue period... just for tonight or for forever.

This. If they don’t want a relationship, they won’t stick around for the “hard to get” shinnanigans unless you got that good good.

Also, idk who needs to hear this but you can’t play hard to get if you are already hard to want 🤣🤣

^That statement does not apply to you VenusAqua, because you are one hot momma 💛💛😍

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You know what it is mwwwaah. 😘 😜

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Posted by NemDeux

Posted by bumboklatt

He will do. All the work pursuing

And she will do all the work in the kitchen

🤣🤣🤣

I was so disappointed when during our dating period my husband "cooked" for us ....i came home to instant noodles. Should never have married, it was an omen.

Worse than beans on toast lol

I like that though ....nom nom

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Me too...but as far as effort goes...😀

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Posted by LadyNeptune

Yes and no.

If he's not getting anything back from you eventually he will stop putting in the work, even if he really wants to be in your life.

Thats why its not worth it to play those dating games of pretending to be non-interested or making him chase or whatevs. Just be your authentic self.

It’s a give and take but as a women no need to peruse

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Meh. I asked my dude out first. Thats perusing.

When it becomes one sided is when its an issue. Otherwise matching their effort and emotional investment is how things grow.

Posted by LadyNeptune

Meh. I asked my dude out first. Thats perusing.

When it becomes one sided is when its an issue. Otherwise matching their effort and emotional investment is how things grow.

Posted by Tenpxd

So ladies sit back and let them put in the work, Because if he wants to be in your life he will stick around. 💁🏼‍♀️

Yes and no. Woman/feminine decides wether or not to accept him. The ball has always been in your court at the end of the day.

As a man though, if am putting all the effort and there is no reciprocation or open encouragement...you risk dude walking away or getting snatched up by someone who will.

People can't always put in a lot of energy into a relationship constantly, for many understandable reasons. If one side is doing all the work and suddenly can't or not as much as before the relationship will fall apart. Willingness to reciprocate and maintain the relationship from the other end is critical.

There is exceptions, such as, life situation conflicts and the level of commitment/investment not being strong enough to overcome. (Early dating, not serious)

One party not willing to try is a death sentence to the relationship. When there is a will there is a way always.

I think I'm gone let this subject speaks for itself. I'm gone ask all my male friends if they want a woman will they pursue them.

Posted by dillpickle

eww the men on this forum are literal dregs of society.

gross

ps what is w/ the men who have cap/pisces combo in their charts? is this the ultimate incel combo?

y or n?

they are SWEETHEARTS ❤️

i held his hand first

but he kissed me afterwards

you have to show some interest

If the OP means that if a guy wants you, then he will pursue you despite his lack of self-esteem, his busy schedule, his shyness, self-doubts, overthinking etc.

That is generally true! More often than not,

women make excuses for an ambivalent or disinterested man by saying “he’s just shy,” “he’s got a lot of things going on in his life.” People prioritize those who matter. Period. This actually applies to both genders though 😏

Posted by mrfish23

Classic Feminist thinking which is total BS.

If a man ain't getting any response from you despite his efforts, he won't stick around and neither should he.

Your kind of women would be the exact same ones who would say later on that "This guy is too clingy/ coming off too strong" when you literally want him to do that in the first place.

what's "classic" feminism got to do with this? if anything feminists would say that both parties have to indicate equal amounts of interest.

(although to be fair, certain branches of feminism would actually say throw the whole man away.)

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Posted by mrfish23

Classic Feminist thinking which is total BS.

If a man ain't getting any response from you despite his efforts, he won't stick around and neither should he.

Your kind of women would be the exact same ones who would say later on that "This guy is too clingy/ coming off too strong" when you literally want him to do that in the first place.

"Classic" my ass. This is the opposite of feminism. Before the women's rights movement women didn't get to ask men out or initiate anything.

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not strictly true. certain cultures, yes. it's even true today that some women/girls will have no say in who they marry.

western societies though (middle and upper class) women would show their interest by clandestine ways. it was a case though that for many relationships were transactional. women entered into them for partly (mostly?) financial reasons .

Posted by Scheherazade

Smh

There is no such thing as 50/50 and I don’t know why so many people are putting words in OP’s mouth. OP I wholeheartedly agree. Chase a man and see how fast he runs in the other direction.

And LOL at these men protesting so much. The LIES. Watch them chase the girl they really want. If they ain’t chasing they don’t want you.

Most men pursue women - like a game of baseball: Their main goal is to reach Home base ("to score" / whatever that means for that given man - cause clearly - we're not all the same), but 1st things first - they have to hit the ball (the woman has to reciprocate - the mutual interest has to be solid/clear - for a man to be whiling to make the next step). IF they truly landed a hit (hit it off - so to speak) - the next steps are usually in sight (1st base, 2nd base, 3rd base and Home - where once again - the meaning can be quite different from one man to another). Tho, OFC... it also matters how hard they hit the ball and how far it went (how strong is the chemistry and how compatible they are). Last but not least, if they keep missing the ball (if the effort they put in doesn't pan out - or she plays a different game) - after 3rd strike most men are out (stop trying).



PS.A week or even couple of days latter - forums like DXP get flooded by the following topics: "No contact for a week, should I call him?"- "Aries/Taurus/Gemini/Cancer/Leo/Virgo/Libra/ Scorpio/Sagittarius/Capricorn/Aquarius/ Pisces man stopped texting me! 😭". - "Aries/Taurus/Gemini/Cancer/Leo/Virgo/Libra/ Scorpio/Sagittarius/Capricorn/Aquarius/ Pisces man is avoiding me!" - "Will Aries/Taurus/Gemini/Cancer/Leo/Virgo/Libra/ Scorpio/Sagittarius/Capricorn/Aquarius/ Pisces man come back?!" - and so on and so forth.... 😏

Posted by bkbella86

There is no such thing as 50/50 and I don’t know why so many people are putting words in OP’s mouth. OP I wholeheartedly agree. Chase a man and see how fast he runs in the other direction.

😒

"Run, run as fast as you can, you can't catch me I'm the gingerbread man"

Preach.

👊🦂🐈😊

Let us put in the work lol

The variety of personalities you've dated must be very small

Posted by MyStarsShine

Posted by bkbella86

There is no such thing as 50/50 and I don’t know why so many people are putting words in OP’s mouth. OP I wholeheartedly agree. Chase a man and see how fast he runs in the other direction.

😒

"Run, run as fast as you can, you can't catch me I'm the gingerbread man"

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Lmaooo

Posted by neves

Most men pursue women - like a game of baseball: Their main goal is to reach Home base ("to score" / whatever that means for that given man - cause clearly - we're not all the same), but 1st things first - they have to hit the ball (the woman has to reciprocate - the mutual interest has to be solid/clear - for a man to be whiling to make the next step). IF they truly landed a hit (hit it off - so to speak) - the next steps are usually in sight (1st base, 2nd base, 3rd base and Home - where once again - the meaning can be quite different from one man to another). Tho, OFC... it also matters how hard they hit the ball and how far it went (how strong is the chemistry and how compatible they are). Last but not least, if they keep missing the ball (if the effort they put in doesn't pan out - or she plays a different game) - after 3rd strike most men are out (stop trying).



PS.A week or even couple of days latter - forums like DXP get flooded by the following topics: "No contact for a week, should I call him?"- "Aries/Taurus/Gemini/Cancer/Leo/Virgo/Libra/ Scorpio/Sagittarius/Capricorn/Aquarius/ Pisces man stopped texting me! 😭". - "Aries/Taurus/Gemini/Cancer/Leo/Virgo/Libra/ Scorpio/Sagittarius/Capricorn/Aquarius/ Pisces man is avoiding me!" - "Will Aries/Taurus/Gemini/Cancer/Leo/Virgo/Libra/ Scorpio/Sagittarius/Capricorn/Aquarius/ Pisces man come back?!" - and so on and so forth.... 😏

If someone is avoiding you then you are absolutely pursuing them. Plus I think a lot of you are confusing what pursuing means. It doesn’t mean chase relentlessly without any interest being reciprocated. I don’t get how that was surmised from the OP. I will say that typically men keyword typically men feel like when a woman chases them something is wrong with them or they’re easy. They’re value is diminished. It’s hard to undo norms. It rarely works out. I don’t find it manly anyway for a man to sit back and wait. It’s screams femininity.

Did Rhett Butler gain anything from chasing Scarlett? 😢

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Posted by neves

Most men pursue women - like a game of baseball: Their main goal is to reach Home base ("to score" / whatever that means for that given man - cause clearly - we're not all the same), but 1st things first - they have to hit the ball (the woman has to reciprocate - the mutual interest has to be solid/clear - for a man to be whiling to make the next step). IF they truly landed a hit (hit it off - so to speak) - the next steps are usually in sight (1st base, 2nd base, 3rd base and Home - where once again - the meaning can be quite different from one man to another). Tho, OFC... it also matters how hard they hit the ball and how far it went (how strong is the chemistry and how compatible they are). Last but not least, if they keep missing the ball (if the effort they put in doesn't pan out - or she plays a different game) - after 3rd strike most men are out (stop trying).



PS.A week or even couple of days latter - forums like DXP get flooded by the following topics: "No contact for a week, should I call him?"- "Aries/Taurus/Gemini/Cancer/Leo/Virgo/Libra/ Scorpio/Sagittarius/Capricorn/Aquarius/ Pisces man stopped texting me! 😭". - "Aries/Taurus/Gemini/Cancer/Leo/Virgo/Libra/ Scorpio/Sagittarius/Capricorn/Aquarius/ Pisces man is avoiding me!" - "Will Aries/Taurus/Gemini/Cancer/Leo/Virgo/Libra/ Scorpio/Sagittarius/Capricorn/Aquarius/ Pisces man come back?!" - and so on and so forth.... 😏

If someone is avoiding you then you are absolutely pursuing them.

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So, based on your logic...

- If someone exudes a really bad smell (a homeless person who slept in a garbage/sewer, someone who shit himself - or all the people who seem to have an allergy to water, soap and deodorant - during hot summer days... for example) - and most people around them chose to avoid them, it's not cause of the smell... but cause they're pursuing the smelly ones. Absolutely.

- If someone is really annoying (a bad singer who likes to sing in public, a work colleague that's complete jerk or a bully - for example) - and the rest would rather avoid them, once again - it's not about them being annoying - but because they're pursuing them. Absolutely.

For the record - there's actually some forum members that i avoid (and others avoid me - as well), and it's clearly NOT because they pursue me (or the other way around) - but more like - because we got into a messy fight almost every time we exchanged some opinions. And then there are some that i find really annoying (while others find me really annoying as well). Same goes for responses like yours, this days - i seem to lack the patience to deal with this level of stupidity. So just to be clear - if i'm avoiding you from now on - that's the reason... not because i got the impression that you're pursuing me. Absolutely not. Geeez. 🙄

Posted by neves

Posted by bkbella86

Posted by neves

Most men pursue women - like a game of baseball: Their main goal is to reach Home base ("to score" / whatever that means for that given man - cause clearly - we're not all the same), but 1st things first - they have to hit the ball (the woman has to reciprocate - the mutual interest has to be solid/clear - for a man to be whiling to make the next step). IF they truly landed a hit (hit it off - so to speak) - the next steps are usually in sight (1st base, 2nd base, 3rd base and Home - where once again - the meaning can be quite different from one man to another). Tho, OFC... it also matters how hard they hit the ball and how far it went (how strong is the chemistry and how compatible they are). Last but not least, if they keep missing the ball (if the effort they put in doesn't pan out - or she plays a different game) - after 3rd strike most men are out (stop trying).



PS.A week or even couple of days latter - forums like DXP get flooded by the following topics: "No contact for a week, should I call him?"- "Aries/Taurus/Gemini/Cancer/Leo/Virgo/Libra/ Scorpio/Sagittarius/Capricorn/Aquarius/ Pisces man stopped texting me! 😭". - "Aries/Taurus/Gemini/Cancer/Leo/Virgo/Libra/ Scorpio/Sagittarius/Capricorn/Aquarius/ Pisces man is avoiding me!" - "Will Aries/Taurus/Gemini/Cancer/Leo/Virgo/Libra/ Scorpio/Sagittarius/Capricorn/Aquarius/ Pisces man come back?!" - and so on and so forth.... 😏

If someone is avoiding you then you are absolutely pursuing them.

So, based on your logic...

- If someone exudes a really bad smell (a homeless person who slept in a garbage/sewer, someone who shit himself - or all the people who seem to have an allergy to water, soap and deodorant - during hot summer days... for example) - and most people around them chose to avoid them, it's not cause of the smell... but cause they're pursuing the smelly ones. Absolutely.

- If someone is really annoying (a bad singer who likes to sing in public, a work colleague that's complete jerk or a bully - for example) - and the rest would rather avoid them, once again - it's not about them being annoying - but because they're pursuing them. Absolutely.

For the record - there's actually some forum members that i avoid (and others avoid me - as well), and it's clearly NOT because they pursue me (or the other way around) - but more like - because we got into a messy fight almost every time we exchanged some opinions. And then there are some that i find really annoying (while others find me really annoying as well). Same goes for responses like yours, this days - i seem to lack the patience to deal with this level of stupidity. So just to be clear - if i'm avoiding you from now on - that's the reason... not because i got the impression that you're pursuing me. Absolutely not. Geeez. 🙄

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Clearly I struck a nerve and I’m right. But if you can’t see that I’m talking about interpersonal relationships based on my post then who’s the stupid one here?

Both of your post were stupid but you didn’t see me name calling lol, you care way too much, you made it personal. Get well soon.

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Posted by dillpickle

eww the men on this forum are literal dregs of society.

gross

ps what is w/ the men who have cap/pisces combo in their charts? is this the ultimate incel combo?

y or n?

they are SWEETHEARTS ❤️

Yesterday was my first time in a store in 7 weeks. First time wearing a mask too. We went to Costco together.

I had no idea what I was doing with the mask and before we went in he adjusted my mask and made sure it was on properly. I melted ❤🤣😂

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aww this combo is so sweet 😍😍

he's so sweet at times that i feel like crying.

once when we were walking hand in hand, i didn't notice that my shoelaces came undone. but he did and immediately tied them for me.

I grew up in a town where men outnumbered women... from what I hear, that is rear... the tri beaches of SC and I also lived in northen beach area of Florida.

Soooo, men always approached, faught, killed, shit whateva over women. Domestic violence was high, rape was high.

Thus, I never approached men in my life.

Everytime I left my house, I was agressively pursued at least twice.

Northern Florida was the same.

Now, Atlanta was the extreme opposite. Men had a wife, girlfried, and a fwb. Was never ever approached (I was also married but that didn't and wouldn't matter in my hometown.)

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Posted by neves

Posted by bkbella86

Posted by neves

Most men pursue women - like a game of baseball: Their main goal is to reach Home base ("to score" / whatever that means for that given man - cause clearly - we're not all the same), but 1st things first - they have to hit the ball (the woman has to reciprocate - the mutual interest has to be solid/clear - for a man to be whiling to make the next step). IF they truly landed a hit (hit it off - so to speak) - the next steps are usually in sight (1st base, 2nd base, 3rd base and Home - where once again - the meaning can be quite different from one man to another). Tho, OFC... it also matters how hard they hit the ball and how far it went (how strong is the chemistry and how compatible they are). Last but not least, if they keep missing the ball (if the effort they put in doesn't pan out - or she plays a different game) - after 3rd strike most men are out (stop trying).



PS.A week or even couple of days latter - forums like DXP get flooded by the following topics: "No contact for a week, should I call him?"- "Aries/Taurus/Gemini/Cancer/Leo/Virgo/Libra/ Scorpio/Sagittarius/Capricorn/Aquarius/ Pisces man stopped texting me! 😭". - "Aries/Taurus/Gemini/Cancer/Leo/Virgo/Libra/ Scorpio/Sagittarius/Capricorn/Aquarius/ Pisces man is avoiding me!" - "Will Aries/Taurus/Gemini/Cancer/Leo/Virgo/Libra/ Scorpio/Sagittarius/Capricorn/Aquarius/ Pisces man come back?!" - and so on and so forth.... 😏

If someone is avoiding you then you are absolutely pursuing them.

So, based on your logic...

- If someone exudes a really bad smell (a homeless person who slept in a garbage/sewer, someone who shit himself - or all the people who seem to have an allergy to water, soap and deodorant - during hot summer days... for example) - and most people around them chose to avoid them, it's not cause of the smell... but cause they're pursuing the smelly ones. Absolutely.

- If someone is really annoying (a bad singer who likes to sing in public, a work colleague that's complete jerk or a bully - for example) - and the rest would rather avoid them, once again - it's not about them being annoying - but because they're pursuing them. Absolutely.

For the record - there's actually some forum members that i avoid (and others avoid me - as well), and it's clearly NOT because they pursue me (or the other way around) - but more like - because we got into a messy fight almost every time we exchanged some opinions. And then there are some that i find really annoying (while others find me really annoying as well). Same goes for responses like yours, this days - i seem to lack the patience to deal with this level of stupidity. So just to be clear - if i'm avoiding you from now on - that's the reason... not because i got the impression that you're pursuing me. Absolutely not. Geeez. 🙄

Clearly I struck a nerve and I’m right. But if you can’t see that I’m talking about interpersonal relationships based on my post then who’s the stupid one here?

Both of your post were stupid but you didn’t see me name calling lol, you care way too much, you made it personal. Get well soon.

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Geeez! 😒 Half the content from my post - it's actually about interpersonal relationships (work colleagues or even forum members). A lot of times (if not most) - people who happen to share the same space - end-up avoiding each-other - cause they're a really bad mix (and they can't stand each-other cause of that). Not because one party pursues the other (that's possible too - but it's usually more rare). And i didn't call you anything. I simply find what you said really stupid - and i can't deal with shit like that right now (that level of stupidity - struck a nerve - as you put it).

Posted by TheSag

Did Rhett Butler gain anything from chasing Scarlett? 😢

Yes, he got to say "frankly my dear, i don't give a damn"