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Posted by nevesPosted by bkbella86Posted by nevesPosted by bkbella86Posted by neves
Most men pursue women - like a game of baseball: Their main goal is to reach Home base ("to score" / whatever that means for that given man - cause clearly - we're not all the same), but 1st things first - they have to hit the ball (the woman has to reciprocate - the mutual interest has to be solid/clear - for a man to be whiling to make the next step). IF they truly landed a hit (hit it off - so to speak) - the next steps are usually in sight (1st base, 2nd base, 3rd base and Home - where once again - the meaning can be quite different from one man to another). Tho, OFC... it also matters how hard they hit the ball and how far it went (how strong is the chemistry and how compatible they are). Last but not least, if they keep missing the ball (if the effort they put in doesn't pan out - or she plays a different game) - after 3rd strike most men are out (stop trying).
PS.A week or even couple of days latter - forums like DXP get flooded by the following topics: "No contact for a week, should I call him?"- "Aries/Taurus/Gemini/Cancer/Leo/Virgo/Libra/ Scorpio/Sagittarius/Capricorn/Aquarius/ Pisces man stopped texting me! 😭". - "Aries/Taurus/Gemini/Cancer/Leo/Virgo/Libra/ Scorpio/Sagittarius/Capricorn/Aquarius/ Pisces man is avoiding me!" - "Will Aries/Taurus/Gemini/Cancer/Leo/Virgo/Libra/ Scorpio/Sagittarius/Capricorn/Aquarius/ Pisces man come back?!" - and so on and so forth.... 😏
If someone is avoiding you then you are absolutely pursuing them.
So, based on your logic...
- If someone exudes a really bad smell (a homeless person who slept in a garbage/sewer, someone who shit himself - or all the people who seem to have an allergy to water, soap and deodorant - during hot summer days... for example) - and most people around them chose to avoid them, it's not cause of the smell... but cause they're pursuing the smelly ones. Absolutely.
- If someone is really annoying (a bad singer who likes to sing in public, a work colleague that's complete jerk or a bully - for example) - and the rest would rather avoid them, once again - it's not about them being annoying - but because they're pursuing them. Absolutely.
For the record - there's actually some forum members that i avoid (and others avoid me - as well), and it's clearly NOT because they pursue me (or the other way around) - but more like - because we got into a messy fight almost every time we exchanged some opinions. And then there are some that i find really annoying (while others find me really annoying as well). Same goes for responses like yours, this days - i seem to lack the patience to deal with this level of stupidity. So just to be clear - if i'm avoiding you from now on - that's the reason... not because i got the impression that you're pursuing me. Absolutely not. Geeez. 🙄
Clearly I struck a nerve and I’m right. But if you can’t see that I’m talking about interpersonal relationships based on my post then who’s the stupid one here?
Both of your post were stupid but you didn’t see me name calling lol, you care way too much, you made it personal. Get well soon.
Geeez! 😒 Half the content from my post - it's actually about interpersonal relationships (work colleagues or even forum members). A lot of times (if not most) - people who happen to share the same space - end-up avoiding each-other - cause they're a really bad mix (and they can't stand each-other cause of that). Not because one party pursues the other (that's possible too - but it's usually more rare). And i didn't call you anything. I simply find what you said really stupid - and i can't deal with shit like that right now (that level of stupidity - struck a nerve - as you put it).click to expand
Romantic interpersonal relationships, stupid. The fact that I must spell it out is sad. Learn to infer.
I would like to see how the men who never approach, pursue (or chase) a woman would fair in my hometown. Mind you a hot beach community with bikinis and beaches, etc. where men clearly outnumbered women.
You even look at a woman another man had his sights on, and it was a fight.
You even look at a woman another man had his sights on, and it was a fight.
Posted by tizianiPosted by VenusAquarius
I would like to see how the men who never approach, pursue (or chase) a woman would fair in my hometown. Mind you a hot beach community with bikinis and beaches, etc. where men clearly outnumbered women.
You even look at a woman another man had his sights on, and it was a fight.
just be the guy who sells the bikinis. or a lifeguard.click to expand
LOL!
Posted by virgoOPPPPosted by TheSag
Did Rhett Butler gain anything from chasing Scarlett? 😢
i still believe the chaser probably has more powerclick to expand
I don't think men have ever chased women. It's a hoax, a lie, a myth, ladies. 😢
Men chase sex though.
My grandfathers, my father and uncles didn't even know how to talk to women. In the good old days there was no cell phone, no internet, no tinder, no genital pics and no DXP - so there was no need to chase women because there was no competition. All a man needed was a job and a family member or friend who introduced him to his future wife. So how should most men know how to pursue a woman when no one has taught them anything?
If there are men who chase you, be grateful because they are not the last of their kind, they are the first to do so. 🙂
As always it's just my opinion.
In deep love, Sag 🙂
Posted by akituPosted by TheSag
Did Rhett Butler gain anything from chasing Scarlett? 😢
Rhett Butler ‘chasing’ scarlett?? Did you read it?click to expand
Yeah, I read the whole wikipedia article!
Posted by GobbyPosted by TenpxdPosted by GobbyPosted by Tenpxd
So ladies sit back and let them put in the work, Because if he wants to be in your life he will stick around. 💁🏼♀️
No, we just go and find a much better calibre of women.
But, please, you carry on waiting for Godot...
Lies
Listen, let me break it down for you:
Most men who blindly chase women they hardly know are simply in LUST with them. At least 90% of the time, it's got NOTHING to do with love.
That's mother nature at work - it's an ingrained primal instinct men have, whether you like it or not.
If a man wants more than just casual sex (i.e. a committed relationship), he'll expect the woman to make some effort herself to 'meet halfway' during the chasing stage.
However, going back to that remaining 10% , after chasing and sexually conquering the woman, the man's lust may transform into love... but it's still a crap shoot.
If you still can't accept the above facts, you (and other women with the same flawed belief) will be in for a pretty rough and unpleasant ride...click to expand
In my hometown, meeting a man halfway was eye contact, LMAO.
We had to keep our head down, lol.
Posted by TheSagPosted by virgoOPPPPosted by TheSag
Did Rhett Butler gain anything from chasing Scarlett? 😢
i still believe the chaser probably has more power
I don't think men have ever chased women. It's a hoax, a lie, a myth, ladies. 😢
Men chase sex though.
My grandfathers, my father and uncles didn't even know how to talk to women. In the good old days there was no cell phone, no internet, no tinder, no genital pics and no DXP - so there was no need to chase women because there was no competition. All a man needed was a job and a family member or friend who introduced him to his future wife. So how should most men know how to pursue a woman when no one has taught them anything?
If there are men who chase you, be grateful because they are not the last of their kind, they are the first to do so. 🙂
As always it's just my opinion.
In deep love, Sag 🙂click to expand
i actually agree
elvis presley didn't have to chase women
Posted by bkbella86Posted by nevesPosted by bkbella86Posted by nevesPosted by bkbella86Posted by neves
Most men pursue women - like a game of baseball: Their main goal is to reach Home base ("to score" / whatever that means for that given man - cause clearly - we're not all the same), but 1st things first - they have to hit the ball (the woman has to reciprocate - the mutual interest has to be solid/clear - for a man to be whiling to make the next step). IF they truly landed a hit (hit it off - so to speak) - the next steps are usually in sight (1st base, 2nd base, 3rd base and Home - where once again - the meaning can be quite different from one man to another). Tho, OFC... it also matters how hard they hit the ball and how far it went (how strong is the chemistry and how compatible they are). Last but not least, if they keep missing the ball (if the effort they put in doesn't pan out - or she plays a different game) - after 3rd strike most men are out (stop trying).
PS.A week or even couple of days latter - forums like DXP get flooded by the following topics: "No contact for a week, should I call him?"- "Aries/Taurus/Gemini/Cancer/Leo/Virgo/Libra/ Scorpio/Sagittarius/Capricorn/Aquarius/ Pisces man stopped texting me! 😭". - "Aries/Taurus/Gemini/Cancer/Leo/Virgo/Libra/ Scorpio/Sagittarius/Capricorn/Aquarius/ Pisces man is avoiding me!" - "Will Aries/Taurus/Gemini/Cancer/Leo/Virgo/Libra/ Scorpio/Sagittarius/Capricorn/Aquarius/ Pisces man come back?!" - and so on and so forth.... 😏
If someone is avoiding you then you are absolutely pursuing them.
So, based on your logic...
- If someone exudes a really bad smell (a homeless person who slept in a garbage/sewer, someone who shit himself - or all the people who seem to have an allergy to water, soap and deodorant - during hot summer days... for example) - and most people around them chose to avoid them, it's not cause of the smell... but cause they're pursuing the smelly ones. Absolutely.
- If someone is really annoying (a bad singer who likes to sing in public, a work colleague that's complete jerk or a bully - for example) - and the rest would rather avoid them, once again - it's not about them being annoying - but because they're pursuing them. Absolutely.
For the record - there's actually some forum members that i avoid (and others avoid me - as well), and it's clearly NOT because they pursue me (or the other way around) - but more like - because we got into a messy fight almost every time we exchanged some opinions. And then there are some that i find really annoying (while others find me really annoying as well). Same goes for responses like yours, this days - i seem to lack the patience to deal with this level of stupidity. So just to be clear - if i'm avoiding you from now on - that's the reason... not because i got the impression that you're pursuing me. Absolutely not. Geeez. 🙄
Clearly I struck a nerve and I’m right. But if you can’t see that I’m talking about interpersonal relationships based on my post then who’s the stupid one here?
Both of your post were stupid but you didn’t see me name calling lol, you care way too much, you made it personal. Get well soon.
Geeez! 😒 Half the content from my post - it's actually about interpersonal relationships (work colleagues or even forum members). A lot of times (if not most) - people who happen to share the same space - end-up avoiding each-other - cause they're a really bad mix (and they can't stand each-other cause of that). Not because one party pursues the other (that's possible too - but it's usually more rare). And i didn't call you anything. I simply find what you said really stupid - and i can't deal with shit like that right now (that level of stupidity - struck a nerve - as you put it).
Romantic interpersonal relationships, stupid. The fact that I must spell it out is sad. Learn to infer.click to expand
This was the first line of your first response...
"If someone is avoiding you then you are absolutely pursuing them."
Seriously, wtf is wrong with you!? If you were talking about people who are already in a romantic relationship (as you claim now!?!??!??!) - why the fuck would he pursue her (that's like talking about someone who already has 100 million $ - and saying he wants to become a millionaire in the future... ), and why would she avoid him?!?!
That line would only make sense - if they're not in a romantic relationship - and one party is confused about the possibility of a romantic interest. That's the only thing that made some sense, thus my point... "not everyone who's avoiding you - is pursuing you (as you claimed)."
For the sake of my mental sanity - i feel compelled to mute you. Enough is enough.
Posted by bkbella86
There is no such thing as 50/50 and I don’t know why so many people are putting words in OP’s mouth. OP I wholeheartedly agree. Chase a man and see how fast he runs in the other direction.
My grams always said, find a man who loves you more than you love him.
Lol but she was prolly never with a Leo Venus. The need for constant affirmation still boggles me. But they give as good as they get 💕
Posted by mrfish23Posted by VenusAquarius
I grew up in a town where men outnumbered women... from what I hear, that is rear... the tri beaches of SC and I also lived in northen beach area of Florida.
Soooo, men always approached, faught, killed, shit whateva over women. Domestic violence was high, rape was high.
Thus, I never approached men in my life.
Everytime I left my house, I was agressively pursued at least twice.
Northern Florida was the same.
Now, Atlanta was the extreme opposite. Men had a wife, girlfried, and a fwb. Was never ever approached (I was also married but that didn't and wouldn't matter in my hometown.)
Jeez!click to expand
I could say so much more about my town. Some I have said here and there...
...like old men driving through the hood wanting to buy dirty panties.
And, a man pulling a gun on my husband after following me home.
I'm sure the internet accessibility has calmed things down a bit since I left.
Posted by mrfish23Posted by VenusAquariusPosted by mrfish23Posted by VenusAquarius
I grew up in a town where men outnumbered women... from what I hear, that is rear... the tri beaches of SC and I also lived in northen beach area of Florida.
Soooo, men always approached, faught, killed, shit whateva over women. Domestic violence was high, rape was high.
Thus, I never approached men in my life.
Everytime I left my house, I was agressively pursued at least twice.
Northern Florida was the same.
Now, Atlanta was the extreme opposite. Men had a wife, girlfried, and a fwb. Was never ever approached (I was also married but that didn't and wouldn't matter in my hometown.)
Jeez!
I could say so much more about my town. Some I have said here and there...
...like old men driving through the hood wanting to buy dirty panties.
And, a man pulling a gun on my husband after following me home.
I'm sure the internet accessibility has calmed things down a bit since I left.
Sounds more like Somalia tbh than Florida.click to expand
I'm mostly referencing my hometown on the coast of SC full of islands. I was born in a very small beach town in N. FL but N. FL wasn't that much different. They were both tourist towns because of the beaches... I left my hometown 13 yrs. ago
So, my point was the environment I was raised in and how it must have shaped my view on topics like this. I never chased, pursued, or stepped to a man, paid for a date, etc. W/o my background info., you'd think I was a bitch.
Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by bkbella86
There is no such thing as 50/50 and I don’t know why so many people are putting words in OP’s mouth. OP I wholeheartedly agree. Chase a man and see how fast he runs in the other direction.
My grams always said, find a man who loves you more than you love him.
Lol but she was prolly never with a Leo Venus. The need for constant affirmation still boggles me. But they give as good as they get 💕click to expand
Your grams was right. I wish my grams told me that and I didn’t have to figure it out on my own.
I met a man from my hometown. He lives in Maryland. He told me that he can't get the women in the DMV cause they are agressive and chase. He's used to our town where you had to chase. That's how he likes it. My son doesn't like women to approach him either. He says it's a turn off.
Posted by Black-Mamba
I agree men who want you will pursue you, but how about if the guys that like you aren't your type? Do you just wait around.
I pursue men that every woman wants - cause they're hot, financially stable, and smart.
If those guys aren't chasing me, but i am chased my substandard ugly men who don't even make me feel good am i supposed to be happy or something?
No, when you meet a man you like, if he Perseus you, then he likes you. If he doesn’t Then he doesn’t. It’s simple math
Posted by virgoOPPPPosted by TheSag
Did Rhett Butler gain anything from chasing Scarlett? 😢
i still believe the chaser probably has more powerclick to expand
I don’t think so
Posted by Jumpin_Jupiter
I think I'm gone let this subject speaks for itself. I'm gone ask all my male friends if they want a woman will they pursue them.
Ask
Posted by aquarius09
If the OP means that if a guy wants you, then he will pursue you despite his lack of self-esteem, his busy schedule, his shyness, self-doubts, overthinking etc.
That is generally true! More often than not,
women make excuses for an ambivalent or disinterested man by saying “he’s just shy,” “he’s got a lot of things going on in his life.” People prioritize those who matter. Period. This actually applies to both genders though 😏
EXACTLY ! 100
It's more likely he will just go back home and jerk to the idea of you. Then make himself a nice dinner and call the all boys up to tell them goodnight befor bed.
Posted by TenpxdPosted by virgoOPPPPosted by TheSag
Did Rhett Butler gain anything from chasing Scarlett? 😢
i still believe the chaser probably has more power
I don’t think soclick to expand
i don't know but i feel more power when i do some initiating
but i'm a first houser so.... yeah
Posted by virgoOPPPPosted by TenpxdPosted by virgoOPPPPosted by TheSag
Did Rhett Butler gain anything from chasing Scarlett? 😢
i still believe the chaser probably has more power
I don’t think so
i don't know but i feel more power when i do some initiating
but i'm a first houser so.... yeahclick to expand
Oh you’re talking about yourself
Posted by TenpxdPosted by Jumpin_Jupiter
I think I'm gone let this subject speaks for itself. I'm gone ask all my male friends if they want a woman will they pursue them.
Askclick to expand
I been change my mind. I don't want to ask and make myself look like a fool and get laughed at asking dudes this question.
The real bottom line is this. The only men thats retarded enough to chase after women are those unattractive fire sign men. And the women (the attractive ones) fall head over heels over that. I be damned if I'm gone do the pursuing. That shit is out. A lady gone be a waitin ass looking for me to pursue.
A lot of weird women decide when it ends these days but you're right about that.
Posted by TenpxdPosted by Jumpin_Jupiter
I think I'm gone let this subject speaks for itself. I'm gone ask all my male friends if they want a woman will they pursue them.
Askclick to expand
When I really want a woman I start setting the stage like she's already my woman and then act accordingly. If they don't follow suit then I get upset but 90% of the time they do and it makes me laugh just a little bit inside for some reason.
Posted by ChancellorPosted by TenpxdPosted by Jumpin_Jupiter
I think I'm gone let this subject speaks for itself. I'm gone ask all my male friends if they want a woman will they pursue them.
Ask
When I really want a woman I start setting the stage like she's already my woman and then act accordingly. If they don't follow suit then I get upset but 90% of the time they do and it makes me laugh just a little bit inside for some reason.click to expand
This is actually good stuff I like your technique
Posted by TenpxdPosted by ChancellorPosted by TenpxdPosted by Jumpin_Jupiter
I think I'm gone let this subject speaks for itself. I'm gone ask all my male friends if they want a woman will they pursue them.
Ask
When I really want a woman I start setting the stage like she's already my woman and then act accordingly. If they don't follow suit then I get upset but 90% of the time they do and it makes me laugh just a little bit inside for some reason.
This is actually good stuff I like your techniqueclick to expand
Thank you. You're a good person.
Simple
Posted by CoffeeAndCream
Nobody chasing me, and if they are, im not enticed enough.
Your husband will 🙂
I like having a man that still pursues and makes that effort 6 months later. Although it’s not as hot and heavy like in the beginning, but I still feel wanted.
Lol that's been true for me. There are some women who are really good at chasing though.
But being a fixed sign, it's just not for me. Also I'm almost exclusively attracted to confident go-getter men. Shy, sensitive, or insecure guys are not for me. Guys with too much emotional baggage or not ready for a relationship are not for me. These are usually the ones I have 'chased' in the past and I ended up being in over my head. Just not worth it.
But being a fixed sign, it's just not for me. Also I'm almost exclusively attracted to confident go-getter men. Shy, sensitive, or insecure guys are not for me. Guys with too much emotional baggage or not ready for a relationship are not for me. These are usually the ones I have 'chased' in the past and I ended up being in over my head. Just not worth it.
Yes, it is true. I once told a guy friend that I was going to New York to meet someone but wasnt sure. He said "if he likes you, he will do anything in his power to get you".. Unless he's the rare bird who doesn't try much in relationships and let's other people call the shots which, to me is lazy and says he wont try very hard even in a relationship.
A man will fly to another country for a woman.. 😭
Posted by RollergirlOrc
A man will fly to another country for a woman.. 😭
A man will do just about any thing to see the woman he loves ♥️
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i still believe the chaser probably has more power