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Aquarius Coworker Opens Up About Engagement Woes
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Posted by TheLadyScorpioI hate having to really pay attention and guess what these mean! It takes away from the whole damn topic. -_-
Hello there Water - Bearers,
The Aquarius in question is a coworker of mine, of one month so far. His chart is as follows -
Aquarius Sun
Virgin Moon
Aquarius Mercury
Goat Venus
Libran Mars
Stinger Jupiter
Libran Saturn
Centaur Uranus
Centaur Neptune
Libran Pluto
Posted by saggurl88This is an Astrology Forum, someone would be bound to ask what his chart is.Posted by TheLadyScorpioI hate having to really pay attention and guess what these mean! It takes away from the whole damn topic. -_-
Hello there Water - Bearers,
The Aquarius in question is a coworker of mine, of one month so far. His chart is as follows -
Aquarius Sun
Virgin Moon
Aquarius Mercury
Goat Venus
Libran Mars
Stinger Jupiter
Libran Saturn
Centaur Uranus
Centaur Neptune
Libran Pluto
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Ah saggurl88, I might as well be up front, and give it from the get go.
Posted by aquarius_manThere is an energy of regret around him, he tried to hide it, until he gave up and I could see it in his eyes. In certain ways I feel bad for him, however I myself, am not one who is fond of the concept of marriage, therefore his discussion of engagements / weddings etc. I entertained because I am polite. Also, I do want to get to known him better, as coworkers. I listen because I felt he really needed / wanted to talk to someone.
if he opens up it means u r a reliable listener who can keep a secret. also, he might find u sexy + plus he s realising that the wedding is really happening, he feels cornered. he needs someone who can listen him, someone he feels safe around. however, is he telling u all that about the woman he's gonna marry? his bride-to-be? and you're listening? what kind of ppl r u ? 🙂
ps - what's with scorpio fem & aqua males flirting at work? u see them everywhere
The woman he keeps talking about is his fiancée.
We barely know each other. Let me correct that, he proposed to his SO one month ago, and we only know each other for three weeks. We work closely together, we are on the same team / department / group or whatever you would call it.
He is telling me about everything, his past, childhood, family, friends, personal losses, regrets, SO, engagement issues, relationship problems, their arguments, his worries etc.
Posted by aquarius_manI am very much taken, and he knows it. He heard all about my SO.Posted by TheLadyScorpiothis man likes u
There is an energy of regret around him...He is telling me about everything... his worries etc.
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So ... What makes you say that ? 😐
Posted by aquarius_manOf course, I find him intriguing.
and i think u find him intriguing
otherwise u wouldn't dedicate a thread to him
but hey this is just my opinion, i dont know anything about astrology charts
He is a coworker I work with every day, besides my love of dissecting people on a general whole, he is a close range specimen of analysis.
My curiosity in regards to how people function, and their personalities always interests me. Be it someone I work with, or a stranger. I want to know how their minds work.
Also, his sudden openness is not within his previous pattern of uptight, self protective, wound up closeness, which is why I am as confused as I am. It does not fit.
Posted by saggurl88Dear saggurl88, did you have any advice to offer ?Posted by TheLadyScorpioI hate having to really pay attention and guess what these mean! It takes away from the whole damn topic. -_-
Hello there Water - Bearers,
The Aquarius in question is a coworker of mine, of one month so far. His chart is as follows -
Aquarius Sun
Virgin Moon
Aquarius Mercury
Goat Venus
Libran Mars
Stinger Jupiter
Libran Saturn
Centaur Uranus
Centaur Neptune
Libran Pluto
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Posted by aquarius_manPosted by TheLadyScorpio....
it's almost as if he regrets he proposed to her before he met you. you and many other intriguing girls out there.
he's having second thoughts because he realizes he's gonna miss out on all these women, while getting stuck in a marriage with someone he doesnt seem to love
the stuff he's sharing with you is too intimate even for one's inner circle, let alone a work colleague
i mean aquas can be friendly, but this friendly? with a woman? they barely met?
an aqua opens up and tells u personal stories of war not just because u provide the ear, but also because this is how he woos
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Oh.
I never saw it that way. He has always been very respectful in regards to my personal space / boundaries so I am a bit surprised you said that.
Yes, that is precisely it, that was the word; intimate. No wonder why I found it confusing, he even told me about his own flaws. He offloaded on me, which was why when he felt lighter and happier, whereas I felt confused and weighed down as if now I have a burden of someone else's story in which I must protect and keep. For the life of me, I still do not understand why he feels he owes me something.
I would never know, you lot seem to be extremely friendly with everyone (at least from my experience of Water - Bearers in the past), I thought he simply needed to spill, and I happened to be the target in range.
He is freshly engaged, I doubt he would go about woo - ing others. 😐
Now, I am even more thoroughly confused. Bloody Hell.
Posted by aquarius_manPosted by TheLadyScorpioSince he talked about his past, I also shared a bit about my own including someone I presume you could call my Water - Bearer ex, who eerily have some of the same life stories, events, habits, movements, like and dislikes as he does. It was uncanny.Posted by aquarius_manoh but i am not friendly with everyone, im 'selectively social' 😄Posted by TheLadyScorpio....
I would never know, you lot seem to be extremely friendly with everyone (at least from my experience of Water - Bearers in the past), I thought he simply needed to spill, and I happened to be the target in range.
of course he needed to spill, and of course you were within earshot, but it's you he picked, not another colleague
he likes u as a friend. better ? 🙂
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He said in jest - are you sure that was not me ?
Which was rather funny, however that Water - Bearer of my past, it did not end well. Strangely enough, he said since you have had a Water - Bearer ex, care to share what the experience was like from the woman's side, and advice ?
Our team / department is rather small, I am the only female within it.
Posted by aquarius_manWe chat when we are not busy with work. Otherwise, I am very work focused and professional, keeping him in line with our project loads etc.
also, do u chat daily at work? who initiates 1st contact?
All this has only happened in the past few days.
There is not really anyone who initiates, we simply just talk. Although he does love throwing out random information out there, to see how I respond. It could be a news article, or something he saw the other day, etc. and it segues out from there.
Posted by NymphGoddessInterested ? No.
To start off it seems like he regrets not having met uou before he got engaged. Also i think this is dangerous teritory for you both. It seems like youre growing interest in him seems more than you care tonadmit.
Intrigued ? Yes.
Does my SO know all of this ? Yes.
I am human NymphGoddess, I will be intrigued by others, just as my SO will. It would be a lie, if I said I never felt attraction or chemistry with another individual to my SO, but where I choose my loyalties is where my commitment lies. That is what is most important at the end of the day.
No boundaries has been crossed, so I still see him as a intriguing friendly coworker until you lot pointed out to me all the rest, which explains why I felt strange, like a burden was dropped on me for me to carry.
Therefore now, I am confused.
Posted by TheLadyScorpioNo sorry. It's all lost in translation for me.Posted by saggurl88Dear saggurl88, did you have any advice to offer ?Posted by TheLadyScorpioI hate having to really pay attention and guess what these mean! It takes away from the whole damn topic. -_-
Hello there Water - Bearers,
The Aquarius in question is a coworker of mine, of one month so far. His chart is as follows -
Aquarius Sun
Virgin Moon
Aquarius Mercury
Goat Venus
Libran Mars
Stinger Jupiter
Libran Saturn
Centaur Uranus
Centaur Neptune
Libran Pluto
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Posted by EllygantYes Elly, this has been a recent event. In fact, this has only happened in the last two days.
You've known his three weeks and he unloaded this on you?
Yeah. Keep a far distance. Sounds like he's freaked out about his engagement and using your place in his life as a litmus test for if he wants to truly commit. I'd say it's less about liking you specifically and more about realizing that marriage means he's never allowed to like anyone like that again, except this one person.
Every Aqua I know has moments of fear like that in their relationships when they come up on serious commitments. Moving in. Engagement. Marriage. Children.
Just don't be the one to get caught up in it. They are very sweet and gentle underneath it. And very serious about their emotions.
Previously, he had been rather closed off whilst at the same time asking a lot of questions about me. At the time, honestly it felt like an interrogation because there was no basic reciprocation. As a fellow Stinger you know how we would feel about that, we would merely shut down.
Precisely, he sounded like someone who is suddenly overly anxious, unsure, and letting fear corrupt whatever he is feeling for his SO. Which should not have been my burden to bear, but he offloaded, and I listened only because I sincerely believed he needed someone to talk to. I have had a Water - Bearer ex, in the past, I remember those moments of fear they have, where they question everything.
He is sweet and gentle, I am quite sure of it, very sensitive, more so than any other supposedly 'soft' signs out there. In fact, that is why I had to treat him with kid gloves as a coworker because I had to figure out his personality to make it work for me. It took a lot of gentle coaxing and encouragements (professionally, work related) in order to get him to be efficient and for a lack of a better word, useful.
I did my best to confirm, and parrot back to him that he chose her, he chose to propose to her, he must love her very much to have decided to do so, and he will be marrying her soon. He always got to hear me speak of my SO, he does not fancy it that much but I always tell him so as to draw a line.
This will be a difficult situation, because we also have many partnerships projects together. A far distance would not be possible, but an even firmer boundary perhaps. He is not a personality that works well with a cold and detached coworker, unfortunately so. In fact, everything is out the window once he is uncomfortable, nothing will be done. Professionally, he is not as capable therefore I have to work with whatever strengths he has got to get him to achieve what I need done.
Posted by aquarius_manaquarius_man, but I have never encouraged him. He simply chose to offload on me.Posted by TheLadyScorpiook, so he might ve picked u coz u r the only female available
Since he talked about his past, I also shared a bit about my own including someone I presume you could call my Water - Bearer ex, who eerily ...It was uncanny.
...
Our team / department is rather small, I am the only female within it.
i dont know but i would stop encouraging him if i were u
if hes about to get married, thats not the way to behave towards a work colleague
who on top of it finds him intriguing
ure feeding his fear of commitment by showing him there are still women who can 'get' him - women like yourself
but he is flirting w you, know this
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It actually took me by surprised that he would open up and spill his engagement woes with me like so. By the time I realised what he was doing, all I could do was listen. Prior to it, I was being polite and social, asking the typical questions of someone who just got engaged and planning a wedding. I did the expected thing, asking the right list of questions, the usual.
He is getting married in April of next year.
His fear of commitment is on him, I am being social and friendly. I have had my share of engaged and married male friends, simply because I understood them, it did not mean I had nefarious intents. In fact, they love being able to speak with someone they trusted. It would be unfair, to blame me, for relating to his upbringing, or his childhood, or his past, or his family. That is just conversation, being social which is completely innocent.
I still cannot see how this is flirting, is offloading on someone, treating them like a therapist equivalent to flirting ?
Posted by aquarius_manHe often sees or hears me on the phone with my SO, during breaks or lunch etc.
@TheLadyScorpio ask your boyfriend to visit you at the office. and call you more often during office hours and be very sweet and loving to him on the phone 🙂)))))
once he feels your bf s presence hell understand better than any words
dont let a man cross ur private space only because you need to work together
if he s an adult, he will have to sort out his mess by himself AND focus on work anyway, that s his job
stop encouraging him be nice and polite and nothing more
pretend u dont know him =)))))
That was nothing new, he knows this.
I do not need to pretend to be more sweet or loving towards my SO, because every phone call with him always brightens up my day.
His offloading, left me with his burden of an emotional weight that I have no idea what to do with, a responsibility which was not there before.
I am not encouraging him, being a good listener is also apart of being a decent coworker, until I find listening is no longer benefitting me.
Posted by CaploveRightly so Caplove, I always believe there are two sides of every story and I even told him, I have not heard her side therefore it would be wrong of me to offer advice. It is disarming, yet at the same time a heavy weight which I am suddenly responsible for and it is surprisingly taxing. Never would I have guessed, he would use this as a way of getting closer, especially when he hears me speak of my SO rather often.Posted by EllygantThat right there. Bingo.
You've known his three weeks and he unloaded this on you?
Yeah. Keep a far distance. Sounds like he's freaked out about his engagement and using your place in his life as a litmus test for if he wants to truly commit. I'd say it's less about liking you specifically and more about realizing that marriage means he's never allowed to like anyone like that again, except this one person.
Every Aqua I know has moments of fear like that in their relationships when they come up on serious commitments. Moving in. Engagement. Marriage. Children.
Just don't be the one to get caught up in it. They are very sweet and gentle underneath it. And very serious about their emotions.
It starts with intrigue and then the interest grows. Just be careful. There are two sides to every story. Him unloading/sharing his worries like that can be very disarming and yes, very intriguing. As you now feel burdened and sort of sorry for his predicament. It could allow him to get closer to you somehow and vice versa.
It's an IN for him.
If things aren't working out then he needs to do what's best for him, not involve you in his unfolding story or try to jump off to you.
Talk about your partner and how much you love him, etc. Be sure he's very clear on the lines. You may be clear but he might not be.click to expand
An IN for him ? What do you mean by that ?
I do, I talk about my SO quite a bit, especially once he started spilling about his fiancée. At first he listened, then he tried to push the conversation about him away or make me stop and I was not having it.
Posted by ImpulsvImpulsv, saved by who ? a taken woman, especially one who is equally as happy to tell him about her own SO ?
He's looking to be saved
How sad to give up on our own power
He should call it off!
In a serious tone
Refer him to counseling
Sad is it not, to have to give up on oneself, to make an engagement work because she wanted it and because everyone he knows is almost all settled with a few children or child already.
That is quite good advice in fact, I very well might refer him to counselling.
Is it just me or does it feel like you're not just intrigued, but may like him too? Giiiiirrrllll RUN!!!! While you can?! My Scorp and I started like this at work... both separated within weeks... I was married to a merguy and him a virgentile....... this is dangerous for sure and could turn into more than just conversing. @Aqua_man it's not just Scorp women & Aqua Men, but Scorp men & Aqua women at work that's stirring sh*^ up! Is it inevitable?
Posted by Wineaux15nah. that's another aqua co-worker not this one haha
Is it just me or does it feel like you're not just intrigued, but may like him too? Giiiiirrrllll RUN!!!! While you can?! My Scorp and I started like this at work... both separated within weeks... I was married to a merguy and him a virgentile....... this is dangerous for sure and could turn into more than just conversing. @Aqua_man it's not just Scorp women & Aqua Men, but Scorp men & Aqua women at work that's stirring sh*^ up! Is it inevitable?
Posted by AerialView?? kiss ALL of my **£Posted by Wineaux15nah. that's another aqua co-worker not this one haha
Is it just me or does it feel like you're not just intrigued, but may like him too? Giiiiirrrllll RUN!!!! While you can?! My Scorp and I started like this at work... both separated within weeks... I was married to a merguy and him a virgentile....... this is dangerous for sure and could turn into more than just conversing. @Aqua_man it's not just Scorp women & Aqua Men, but Scorp men & Aqua women at work that's stirring sh*^ up! Is it inevitable?click to expand
Posted by Wineaux15😄Posted by AerialView?? kiss ALL of my **£Posted by Wineaux15nah. that's another aqua co-worker not this one haha
Is it just me or does it feel like you're not just intrigued, but may like him too? Giiiiirrrllll RUN!!!! While you can?! My Scorp and I started like this at work... both separated within weeks... I was married to a merguy and him a virgentile....... this is dangerous for sure and could turn into more than just conversing. @Aqua_man it's not just Scorp women & Aqua Men, but Scorp men & Aqua women at work that's stirring sh*^ up! Is it inevitable?
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Posted by AerialViewPosted by Wineaux15😄Posted by AerialView?? kiss ALL of my **£Posted by Wineaux15nah. that's another aqua co-worker not this one haha
Is it just me or does it feel like you're not just intrigued, but may like him too? Giiiiirrrllll RUN!!!! While you can?! My Scorp and I started like this at work... both separated within weeks... I was married to a merguy and him a virgentile....... this is dangerous for sure and could turn into more than just conversing. @Aqua_man it's not just Scorp women & Aqua Men, but Scorp men & Aqua women at work that's stirring sh*^ up! Is it inevitable?
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But you're married to a Scorp so YOU truly know how this works
Posted by Wineaux15but i believe ladyscorpio is faithful enough to her virgent 😄Posted by AerialViewPosted by Wineaux15😄Posted by AerialView?? kiss ALL of my **£Posted by Wineaux15nah. that's another aqua co-worker not this one haha
Is it just me or does it feel like you're not just intrigued, but may like him too? Giiiiirrrllll RUN!!!! While you can?! My Scorp and I started like this at work... both separated within weeks... I was married to a merguy and him a virgentile....... this is dangerous for sure and could turn into more than just conversing. @Aqua_man it's not just Scorp women & Aqua Men, but Scorp men & Aqua women at work that's stirring sh*^ up! Is it inevitable?
But you're married to a Scorp so YOU truly know how this works
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Posted by AerialViewWhile I believe so as well...@Aerialview why are you always "one-upping"? Your Aqua competition skills are so on point.Posted by Wineaux15but i believe ladyscorpio is faithful enough to her virgent 😄Posted by AerialViewPosted by Wineaux15😄Posted by AerialView?? kiss ALL of my **£Posted by Wineaux15nah. that's another aqua co-worker not this one haha
Is it just me or does it feel like you're not just intrigued, but may like him too? Giiiiirrrllll RUN!!!! While you can?! My Scorp and I started like this at work... both separated within weeks... I was married to a merguy and him a virgentile....... this is dangerous for sure and could turn into more than just conversing. @Aqua_man it's not just Scorp women & Aqua Men, but Scorp men & Aqua women at work that's stirring sh*^ up! Is it inevitable?
But you're married to a Scorp so YOU truly know how this works
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Posted by Wineaux15am i? 😄Posted by AerialViewWhile I believe so as well...@Aerialview why are you always "one-upping"? Your Aqua competition skills are so on point.Posted by Wineaux15but i believe ladyscorpio is faithful enough to her virgent 😄Posted by AerialViewPosted by Wineaux15😄Posted by AerialView?? kiss ALL of my **£Posted by Wineaux15nah. that's another aqua co-worker not this one haha
Is it just me or does it feel like you're not just intrigued, but may like him too? Giiiiirrrllll RUN!!!! While you can?! My Scorp and I started like this at work... both separated within weeks... I was married to a merguy and him a virgentile....... this is dangerous for sure and could turn into more than just conversing. @Aqua_man it's not just Scorp women & Aqua Men, but Scorp men & Aqua women at work that's stirring sh*^ up! Is it inevitable?
But you're married to a Scorp so YOU truly know how this works
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i have to think positive about scorpio women 😄 otherwise i'd go crazy.
well honestly, he shouldnt be confiding in you for his doubts and problems, he should be confiding in his future wife. If the mermaid is very clingy and wants to know where his wherabouts are, im guessing it's because she is the one that needs absolute security and assuredness that he's gonna be there.
My husband's aunty was like that, married nearly two decades, and before she used to call her husband 8 x a day at work. It was the talk of the family dinners. lol how crazy she was, and that mother in law disapproved cause she doesn't approve of her brother being interrupted at work. If it's work, dont interrupt. lol Capricorns really hate that, to them work is work and you have a responsibility, no interrrupting unless its emergency.
My husband's aunty was like that, married nearly two decades, and before she used to call her husband 8 x a day at work. It was the talk of the family dinners. lol how crazy she was, and that mother in law disapproved cause she doesn't approve of her brother being interrupted at work. If it's work, dont interrupt. lol Capricorns really hate that, to them work is work and you have a responsibility, no interrrupting unless its emergency.
Posted by TheLadyScorpioPosted by aquarius_manI am very much taken, and he knows it. He heard all about my SO.Posted by TheLadyScorpiothis man likes u
There is an energy of regret around him...He is telling me about everything... his worries etc.
So ... What makes you say that ? 😐
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ohh i see, so you both confide in eachother about eachother's SO?
i wouldnt like that at all, talking about your man or woman is fine, with jokes and laughters on a superficial level.
but on a personal level like that...if i were in the mermaid's shoes, i'm gonna be super jealous and upset.
like why would he go to you and not to me?
i would even start crying alot.
Posted by Arielle83yes on a superficial level. they do talk about their partners but never on a personal level,Posted by lisabethur8Because she's a manipulative control freak and he's reaching out to someone because he's trying to get a sense of reality, knowing that he can't cater to this chick his whole life because he's lost who he is and is ultimately emasculated and most probably depressed.Posted by TheLadyScorpioPosted by aquarius_manI am very much taken, and he knows it. He heard all about my SO.Posted by TheLadyScorpiothis man likes u
There is an energy of regret around him...He is telling me about everything... his worries etc.
So ... What makes you say that ? 😐
ohh i see, so you both confide in eachother about eachother's SO?
i wouldnt like that at all, talking about your man or woman is fine, with jokes and laughters on a superficial level.
but on a personal level like that...if i were in the mermaid's shoes, i'm gonna be super jealous and upset.
like why would he go to you and not to me?
i would even start crying alot.
You do realise that the woman isn't a trophy in a relationship. It's not meant to be all about her and what hurts her feelings or makes her insecure, right?
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superficial like in, Yes,me and my wife are going to this event and this and that....or yes, my wife packed me my lunches all the time.
but nothing PERSONAL.
and this guy is not ready for an emotionally deep relationship of making his partner feel safe and happy.
he sounds like he likes the woman for even asking her to marry him,
but he's so conflicted.
I remember an article on Justin Timberlake, that he was so conflicted about Jennifer Beale before they got engaged.
they were already dating a long time, and then things got so serious. But he couldnt "quit" her, no matter how much he tried. lol
he was really fighting for what's inside him and what he desired. Like he couldn't understand this feeling...
they broke up in 2011, but they were dating for years before that..
and finally he went back to her because he can't live without her. And together ever since.
it could be his Sagittarius moon, because that placement sounds like he wants a woman who will give him some freedom and still be committed.
but Jennifer Biel understands him because she is Aquarius dominant with Gemini moon. lol
Posted by MiaouPosted by Arielle83No. Not in this case Arielle.Posted by MiaouWhen a man treats a woman like this, it's called abuse.
He sounds like a coward.
He just let his fiancée control his existence only to complain about it right before getting married?
Why even propose?
Because she wanted to get married?
Brilliant.
When a woman treats a man like this, he's considered a coward.
Man or woman it doesn't matter, you made the distinction.
Reverse the roles I wouldn't say she's " abused" either.
I never got the impression that he's afraid of his fiancée.
So
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exactly.
say what you mean and mean what you say.
if you're gonna be wanting to marry, and this is a VOW...
and i'm not talking about separations and divorces here,
then, don't back up and start gossiping to the worker lady about your personal life, talk to your own wife.
that's why i didnt see anything wrong with what Justin Timberlake did in my examples, they broke up for that period of time but he didnt ask her to marry him UNTIL he returned to her
from article, when he asked her out on a date:
http://www.usmagazine.com/celebrity-news/news/justin-timberlake-talks-about-marriage-making-jessica-biel-happy-2012410
"I did it the old fashioned way -- by telephone," Timberlake continued at the press conference. "That's something I learned from both my stepdad and my grandfather -- that there is a thing called chivalry and it doesn't have to die with the birth of the internet. The way I see it, if you're asking a girl out on a date, it's only right to do it in a way that she can hear your voice. I had to be pretty persistent in order to get her to say yes. But I have a fair amount of tenacity and if I want something I stick to it. And in the end she agreed."
and about his influence of marriage ideals (I think this is his Libra dominant talking of partnership) lol
"Though the former 'N Sync singer wouldn't go into details about his own wedding, he did share his thoughts about what he believes is required to sustain and happy marriage. "I think it's important to remember that you go into something like marriage knowing that you don't know very much about it at all. But I do look at the marriage of my mother and stepdad, and what makes it work for them is that it's a team effort."
Oh, I didn't realize the was the Aqua board.
As you were....
As you were....
Posted by aquarius_manI stopped reading it a long time ago! 😆
this thread is becoming annoying because of the italics
Posted by PhoenixRising😆
Oh, I didn't realize the was the Aqua board.
As you were....
Posted by Caplovelol she has a lot of patience.Posted by TheLadyScorpioAn "IN" as in maybe you've softened towards him a tad and now he's got a little thing for you. He can share more because you're at that level w/ very private information. It's a way for him to get closer to you if it's not kept in check.Posted by CaploveRightly so Caplove, I always believe there are two sides of every story and I even told him, I have not heard her side therefore it would be wrong of me to offer advice. It is disarming, yet at the same time a heavy weight which I am suddenly responsible for and it is surprisingly taxing. Never would I have guessed, he would use this as a way of getting closer, especially when he hears me speak of my SO rather often.Posted by EllygantThat right there. Bingo.
You've known his three weeks and he unloaded this on you?
Yeah. Keep a far distance. Sounds like he's freaked out about his engagement and using your place in his life as a litmus test for if he wants to truly commit. I'd say it's less about liking you specifically and more about realizing that marriage means he's never allowed to like anyone like that again, except this one person.
Every Aqua I know has moments of fear like that in their relationships when they come up on serious commitments. Moving in. Engagement. Marriage. Children.
Just don't be the one to get caught up in it. They are very sweet and gentle underneath it. And very serious about their emotions.
It starts with intrigue and then the interest grows. Just be careful. There are two sides to every story. Him unloading/sharing his worries like that can be very disarming and yes, very intriguing. As you now feel burdened and sort of sorry for his predicament. It could allow him to get closer to you somehow and vice versa.
It's an IN for him.
If things aren't working out then he needs to do what's best for him, not involve you in his unfolding story or try to jump off to you.
Talk about your partner and how much you love him, etc. Be sure he's very clear on the lines. You may be clear but he might not be.
An IN for him ? What do you mean by that ?
I do, I talk about my SO quite a bit, especially once he started spilling about his fiancée. At first he listened, then he tried to push the conversation about him away or make me stop and I was not having it.
I'm not saying he's done it on purpose w/ that intent but it's drawn him to you. Your guard is down. Luckily for him (and his fiance), you seem like a solid person and have good intentions.
Yes, I do think he'll always want to steer the convo. away from your SO. That would probably put a damper on his budding fantasies of you. 😄 The suggestion by@Impulsv to recommend a counselor was a good one.
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maybe the guy wants to push her virgo man away and replace himself.
Posted by Wineaux15Honestly Wineaux15, I do not know what to think anymore.
Is it just me or does it feel like you're not just intrigued, but may like him too? Giiiiirrrllll RUN!!!! While you can?! My Scorp and I started like this at work... both separated within weeks... I was married to a merguy and him a virgentile....... this is dangerous for sure and could turn into more than just conversing. @Aqua_man it's not just Scorp women & Aqua Men, but Scorp men & Aqua women at work that's stirring sh*^ up! Is it inevitable?
What I am mostly trying to do, is not think, because it is not getting me anywhere. The sudden burden and baggage of another is too much for me to handle with my own life to deal with.
It was unfair.
Frankly, I would love to disappear and brood.
@Arielle83
No, I no longer want to know what he is thinking or what he admires or advise him.
The fact that he merely spilled all that he did on me, has made my world topsy turvy.
I did not need that as it is, but he did as he did, and now I no longer know what I think.
I regretted having listened to him, now the burden is unbearable.
No, I no longer want to know what he is thinking or what he admires or advise him.
The fact that he merely spilled all that he did on me, has made my world topsy turvy.
I did not need that as it is, but he did as he did, and now I no longer know what I think.
I regretted having listened to him, now the burden is unbearable.
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@Arielle83
No, I no longer want to know what he is thinking or what he admires or advise him.
The fact that he merely spilled all that he did on me, has made my world topsy turvy.
I did not need that as it is, but he did as he did, and now I no longer know what I think.
I regretted having listened to him, now the burden is unbearable.
Omg get a grip little girl. —
Posted by aquarius_manTrust me, @aquarius_man ... been there and done that, but left the shirt behind.Posted by TheLadyScorpiodon t let yourself used by this man
What I am mostly trying to do, is not think, because it is not getting me anywhere. The sudden burden and baggage of another is too much for me to handle with my own life to deal with.
It was unfair.
Frankly, I would love to disappear and brood.
why did you let him get close to you
why let his own life decisions affect you?
do you think you could 'save' him?
don't.
just let him be and pay more attention to ur own bf
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No, I see things very clearly and love my SO dearly.
I had good intentions, to create bonds with those I work with and it has always been this case with no issues. However, I did not expect him to share as much as he did.
That was where I failed, I should have stopped him, and not listened.
My desire to often make others feel better, ends up backfiring and harming who I am.
No, I have no interest in saving a man, that is a naive notion.
Men, cannot be saved, they could only choose to make decisions on their own.
Posted by Mr_PinchyOf course, you are not the only one aware of how ridiculous this is.Posted by TheLadyScorpio
@Arielle83
No, I no longer want to know what he is thinking or what he admires or advise him.
The fact that he merely spilled all that he did on me, has made my world topsy turvy.
I did not need that as it is, but he did as he did, and now I no longer know what I think.
I regretted having listened to him, now the burden is unbearable.
Omg get a grip little girl. —
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I very much realise how utterly ridiculous this is, and am the very first person to acknowledge it.
In fact, I am ashamed at myself, this lack of self control in regards to my emotions.
However no matter how rational and logical I am, I am only human and very flawed.
Posted by aquarius_manPosted by Arielle83If so, then he has no respect for his SO. 😐Posted by TheLadyScorpiothis is the aquarian way. dont fall for it.
@Arielle83
The fact that he merely spilled all that he did on me, has made my world topsy turvy.
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Posted by aquarius_manPosted by Arielle83what is his moon and venus?Posted by TheLadyScorpiothis is the aquarian way. dont fall for it.
@Arielle83
The fact that he merely spilled all that he did on me, has made my world topsy turvy.
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that is more aquarius moon and venus men. lol
MOON or VENUS in AQUARIUS
The type of woman who attracts you is intelligent, independent, free-spirited, and a good conversationalist. Should she keep you guessing, or be a bit off-beat or unconventional, she'll fascinate you - but if she's too emotional, you'll pass.
Especially while young, you may be drawn to women who are not really available for a lasting relationship (because of distance or inability to make commitments, or a prior commitment to someone else).
To some degree, what you see here also applies if you have the Sun in the Sign of Aquarius. But for a man it is his Moon and Venus Signs which best indicate the types of woman he is most attracted to, or may choose for a mate, especially the Moon.
This is usually because you may not yet be ready to make lasting commitments, and value your "space" and freedom more than emotional bonds or truly intimate relationships.
When you are ready to commit, you will. Meanwhile, you may be attracted to "free spirits", "space cadets", or even somewhat "strange" women.
Idealists or rebels also have a particular appeal to you. Politics may play a part in the attraction. Political foes might make strange bedfellows. (continued)
©2000-2017 by Michael Star
sounds like the OP's signature, that he's not ready to commit. lol
Posted by aquarius_manIt is not logicalPosted by TheLadyScorpioexactly
Men, cannot be saved, they could only choose to make decisions on their own.
and remember aqua is a fixed sign, hence stubborn, rigid personality
don't indulge in the messiah complex & stop 'caring for him
ok, you let your guard down, you were dere for him but now it's time to resume your normal activities
you can still work together, just draw some boundaries
ps: if i were ur bf i would get kinda jealous of this guy at work 🙂click to expand
It is not rational.
I myself out of everyone realises this, very much so.
No, I have no desire to save him, nor to care, however pesky emotions are in the air. Ones I do not need because it could potentially affect how I work.
My loyalty to my SO is something which I take very seriously, which makes it all the more difficult.
I would probably most likely have to think myself out of this, until my mind goes numb, and everything along with it.
Posted by TheLadyScorpioPosted by aquarius_mandidnt you just spill stuff over your SO about personal stuff with him too?Posted by Arielle83If so, then he has no respect for his SO. 😐Posted by TheLadyScorpiothis is the aquarian way. dont fall for it.
@Arielle83
The fact that he merely spilled all that he did on me, has made my world topsy turvy.
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lol
that also means no respect too. 😆
that's cool guys, you are not perfect. I dont think you have feelings for him,and you and him probably want a therapy.
i wouldnt like it if my man talks to women at work with personal stuff, only business.
this guy really got close. it's very inappropriate.
why are the quotes all weird? lol
Posted by lisabethur8Posted by aquarius_manYou could view his entire chart, I had placed it in my original post.Posted by Arielle83what is his moon and venus?Posted by TheLadyScorpiothis is the aquarian way. dont fall for it.
@Arielle83
The fact that he merely spilled all that he did on me, has made my world topsy turvy.
that is more aquarius moon and venus men. lol
MOON or VENUS in AQUARIUS
The type of woman who attracts you is intelligent, independent, free-spirited, and a good conversationalist. Should she keep you guessing, or be a bit off-beat or unconventional, she'll fascinate you - but if she's too emotional, you'll pass.
Especially while young, you may be drawn to women who are not really available for a lasting relationship (because of distance or inability to make commitments, or a prior commitment to someone else).
To some degree, what you see here also applies if you have the Sun in the Sign of Aquarius. But for a man it is his Moon and Venus Signs which best indicate the types of woman he is most attracted to, or may choose for a mate, especially the Moon.
This is usually because you may not yet be ready to make lasting commitments, and value your "space" and freedom more than emotional bonds or truly intimate relationships.
When you are ready to commit, you will. Meanwhile, you may be attracted to "free spirits", "space cadets", or even somewhat "strange" women.
Idealists or rebels also have a particular appeal to you. Politics may play a part in the attraction. Political foes might make strange bedfellows. (continued)
©2000-2017 by Michael Star
sounds like the OP's signature, that he's not ready to commit. lol
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Aquarius Sun
Virgin Moon
Aquarius Mercury
Goat Venus
Libran Mars etc...
@lisabethur8
No, I told him about my SO but I never shared any of our troubles or anything of depth because I had no intentions of creating intimacy in that manner nor would I betray the trust of my SO.
However, he on the other hand, shared everything with me. He created this inappropriate atmosphere.
Also, he was content with not listening about my SO either after the initial conversation but I insisted to keep it appropriate.
No, I told him about my SO but I never shared any of our troubles or anything of depth because I had no intentions of creating intimacy in that manner nor would I betray the trust of my SO.
However, he on the other hand, shared everything with me. He created this inappropriate atmosphere.
Also, he was content with not listening about my SO either after the initial conversation but I insisted to keep it appropriate.
Posted by Arielle83I feel empathy and sad for his situation but his is only one side of the story.Posted by TheLadyScorpioYa I feel you.
@Arielle83
No, I no longer want to know what he is thinking or what he admires or advise him.
The fact that he merely spilled all that he did on me, has made my world topsy turvy.
I did not need that as it is, but he did as he did, and now I no longer know what I think.
I regretted having listened to him, now the burden is unbearable.
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Though unlike you, I have no pity for him. He is a grown man, he could make the choice to leave for his own sanity if it truly is as bad as he claims.
Everyone has a choice to make, be it for regret or for happiness.
Posted by TheLadyScorpioPosted by lisabethur8wow Virgo energy is really attracted to you...Posted by aquarius_manYou could view his entire chart, I had placed it in my original post.Posted by Arielle83what is his moon and venus?Posted by TheLadyScorpiothis is the aquarian way. dont fall for it.
@Arielle83
The fact that he merely spilled all that he did on me, has made my world topsy turvy.
that is more aquarius moon and venus men. lol
MOON or VENUS in AQUARIUS
The type of woman who attracts you is intelligent, independent, free-spirited, and a good conversationalist. Should she keep you guessing, or be a bit off-beat or unconventional, she'll fascinate you - but if she's too emotional, you'll pass.
Especially while young, you may be drawn to women who are not really available for a lasting relationship (because of distance or inability to make commitments, or a prior commitment to someone else).
To some degree, what you see here also applies if you have the Sun in the Sign of Aquarius. But for a man it is his Moon and Venus Signs which best indicate the types of woman he is most attracted to, or may choose for a mate, especially the Moon.
This is usually because you may not yet be ready to make lasting commitments, and value your "space" and freedom more than emotional bonds or truly intimate relationships.
When you are ready to commit, you will. Meanwhile, you may be attracted to "free spirits", "space cadets", or even somewhat "strange" women.
Idealists or rebels also have a particular appeal to you. Politics may play a part in the attraction. Political foes might make strange bedfellows. (continued)
©2000-2017 by Michael Star
sounds like the OP's signature, that he's not ready to commit. lol
Aquarius Sun
Virgin Moon
Aquarius Mercury
Goat Venus
Libran Mars etc...
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oh my gosh!!! no wonder...
MOON or VENUS in VIRGO
To some degree, what you see here also applies if you have the Sun in the Sign of Virgo. But for a man it is his Moon and Venus Signs which best indicate the types of woman he is most attracted to, or may choose for a mate, especially the Moon.
The type of woman who attracts you looks neat and clean, or well-groomed and conservatively-dressed - and, above all, appears "proper". You want: intelligent, honest, healthy, reliable, modest, refined, efficient, practical, methodical, loyal and faithful...but you might settle for "perfect"!
Good manners and good taste are turn-ons for you, as are "competency" and skillfulness.
You can be slowly seduced by a woman who makes herself useful to you in ways that make you feel you cannot get along without her.
http://www.astrologyzine.com/attract-men.shtml
see that with Virgo?
you are everything for him. O_O
he's so magnetically attracted to you. you make yourself USEFUL to him in ways he cannot live without you.
and he can feel you are intelligent, honest, healthy and reliable!!
you are everything for him. O_O
he's so magnetically attracted to you. you make yourself USEFUL to him in ways he cannot live without you.
and he can feel you are intelligent, honest, healthy and reliable!!
Posted by lisabethur8Posted by TheLadyScorpioI know, I attract earthy energies like no other.Posted by lisabethur8wow Virgo energy is really attracted to you...Posted by aquarius_manYou could view his entire chart, I had placed it in my original post.Posted by Arielle83what is his moon and venus?Posted by TheLadyScorpiothis is the aquarian way. dont fall for it.
@Arielle83
The fact that he merely spilled all that he did on me, has made my world topsy turvy.
that is more aquarius moon and venus men. lol
MOON or VENUS in AQUARIUS
The type of woman who attracts you is intelligent, independent, free-spirited, and a good conversationalist. Should she keep you guessing, or be a bit off-beat or unconventional, she'll fascinate you - but if she's too emotional, you'll pass.
Especially while young, you may be drawn to women who are not really available for a lasting relationship (because of distance or inability to make commitments, or a prior commitment to someone else).
To some degree, what you see here also applies if you have the Sun in the Sign of Aquarius. But for a man it is his Moon and Venus Signs which best indicate the types of woman he is most attracted to, or may choose for a mate, especially the Moon.
This is usually because you may not yet be ready to make lasting commitments, and value your "space" and freedom more than emotional bonds or truly intimate relationships.
When you are ready to commit, you will. Meanwhile, you may be attracted to "free spirits", "space cadets", or even somewhat "strange" women.
Idealists or rebels also have a particular appeal to you. Politics may play a part in the attraction. Political foes might make strange bedfellows. (continued)
©2000-2017 by Michael Star
sounds like the OP's signature, that he's not ready to commit. lol
Aquarius Sun
Virgin Moon
Aquarius Mercury
Goat Venus
Libran Mars etc...
oh my gosh!!! no wonder...
MOON or VENUS in VIRGO
To some degree, what you see here also applies if you have the Sun in the Sign of Virgo. But for a man it is his Moon and Venus Signs which best indicate the types of woman he is most attracted to, or may choose for a mate, especially the Moon.
The type of woman who attracts you looks neat and clean, or well-groomed and conservatively-dressed - and, above all, appears "proper". You want: intelligent, honest, healthy, reliable, modest, refined, efficient, practical, methodical, loyal and faithful...but you might settle for "perfect"!
Good manners and good taste are turn-ons for you, as are "competency" and skillfulness.
You can be slowly seduced by a woman who makes herself useful to you in ways that make you feel you cannot get along without her.
http://www.astrologyzine.com/attract-men.shtml
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Most especially Virgin, and at times, Goat.
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;) with all love and respect... you guys are tricky to figure out. I'm curious. Do you like drama and what's your placement?
Wondering if anyone has experienced this in an Aqua. I am starting to feel like mine wants to change me.
Pisces/virgo:
Libra/Aries:
Sagg/Gemini :
:Scorpio/Taurus:
Cap/cancer:
Leo/aqua:
Okay this thread is for aquarius sun & moon, men & women. I want to know things about you in general. Yes or no answers along with a bit of explanation would be highly appreciated :P
Are you guys emotional at all?
Do you never get attached to anyone?
Aquarius; has always been morbid to me. Always talkin about inflicting pain and shit, causing violence. . I like their rawness overall.
Scorpio; and so death prone. TheThese fuckers either wanna kill or is the literal victim.
Cancer; likes to talk
Does this type of person move quickly into a relationship with someone?
What else can you tell me?
Ok guys I need a little insight. I'll make this short. When I first started seeing my BF, he was also seeing another girl (unbeknownst to me) she's an Aqua, he's cancer, I'm Leo.
Their relationship was casual, they didn't go on dates or anything, she
I keep dreaming about this Aqua I only dated. Never was in a committed relationship or never had sex with him. Last night I kept making myself go back to sleep and in each dream he was there. He was at my work place and an event & I also use to work with
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I'm interested which placement makes someone very intelligent n smart? From what I can see, Aqua sun seems to take the top chart here not that I will want to settle myself because smart and intelligent isn't always a good trait in a relationship. It can b
In your opinion what is each signs soul mate
Aries: gemini, libra and scorpio
Taurus: cancer virgo and pisces
Gemini: aries, aquarius and scorpio( especially scorpios) maybe leo
Cancer: taurus, virgo and pisces
Leo: leo, aquarius, cancer
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Work- I always appear cool and calm eve
I need to know the best way to break up with an Aquarius. I just feel like he likes me so much more than I like him and I don't want to waste his time anymore. I know that he will be hurt, but is there something that I can say to soften the blow? I will s
Mr Aquarius liked me for years (blushing, hands shaking, staring into my eyes, etc.) but nothing happened because (a) he is shy, (b) he is a childhood trauma survivor, (c) I was with another guy. Now I'm single and friends with Mr Aquarius, but every now
I really like this article!!! It's very interesting! Jump in allll and give me your opinions. I'm still interested in the parental part as I have Aqua moon and my mum is extremely detached and cold.... it's very true!! http://innerself.com/content/persona
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Do Aqua's own this? I wouldn't look this good after one kid, but this woman has FIVE and they have been married for 16yrs now.
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I always notice how put together Kelly
Hello
So here's the deal - I made it pretty clear to my Aqua ex that I have moved on and I am now seeing someone. We work together so I told her out of respect as I know who crushing it can be to find out your ex is seeing someone from a third person.
Yes or no? Are you more protective and more stubborn n bossy when you r more closer to someone?
Libra - Aries
Scorpio - Taurus
Virgo - Pisces
Cancer - Capricorn
Leo - Aquarius
Sagittarius - Gemini
I'll give you an example, a real life one,
For example, My Capricorn mother in law, and also my Capricorn moon mother has probl
The Aquarius in question is a coworker of mine, of one month so far. His chart is as follows -
Aquarius Sun
Virgin Moon
Aquarius Mercury
Goat Venus
Libran Mars
Stinger Jupiter
Libran Saturn
Centaur Uranus
Centaur Neptune
Libran Pluto
For a while, it was rather difficult working with this Water - Bearer. He seemed all over the place, uncomfortable, and forgetful. However recently, he has finally let his guard down after my gentle coaxing and gaining of his trust. It took me a while to realise how sensitive he is, surprisingly so, he has to be treated gently, more than I would others. He is logical in abstract concepts, but very sensitive regarding interpersonal connections. He was not as valuable a team player before, but he has since become much better as I have figured out his work patterns by getting to know him and his personality a bit more.
However, when he opened up, he more than opened up. He told me about his past, his childhood, his reckless days, his regrets, his family, his friends, his hobbies, his losses, his past and recent relationship, etc. There were a lot of common ground in our backgrounds, which made it easier for us to relate to one another. For all that closed up, wound up, tightness, suddenly this flow of information came out of him. After it all, he even said I have never felt this good in a while, I feel like I owe you something. That comment confused me, as a Stinger, we often merely listen.
Although, this is where it gets rather confusing. In all that he shared, we also spoke of our respective significant others. He has a Mermaid SO, whilst I have a Virgent SO. After sharing the initial stories, regarding how we met each other, our stories, and pasts etc. He asked a few questions, simple ones, but he was not keen to hear more about my SO, and quickly moved on to talk about his own. He proposed to her about a month ago (a week before he became my coworker). Politely as anyone would, I asked how they met, their story, the proposal, the wedding details etc. He told me, but throughout it all he seemed rather unenthusiastic and stressed more than anything else.
Then it hit, he is having regrets and doubts. He had only known his Mermaid SO for two years, because he was noticing everyone around him getting married, settling, having children. I assume the pressure got to him, or he felt it was time since his Mermaid SO has hinted at it for a long while. Therefore, he simply went out, got a ring, and proposed but he has woken up from the stupor of it all and realised he has a lot of issues with her. They have already booked, planned, and partially paid for their destination wedding, told friends and family, therefore taking it all back would be very difficult.
It was a dam broken loose, he said he no longer felt like himself anymore. He has had to submit to her and her whims because she is rather possessive and controlling. She had made him cut contact with life long friends (male and female), and even his best female friend which he had known for a greater part of his life. As we all know, to Water - Bearers, friends are equivalent to family, he even said so himself. He said she took away a greater part of what makes him, him. She only lets him keep the friends she approves of. He is worried about living with her, whether marrying her would be the right choice given how caged up he already feels now. He keeps reminiscent of the past, of being himself. When I heard this, I found it strangely sad, to see someone unable to be who he wants to be but has to change himself into someone he is not, because he wants his SO happy, thereby making himself miserable.
He wants to be independent, free to a degree, spontaneous, and an individual ... traits of a Water - Bearer, essentially. Yet, she wants full control, to the point that she could not go for an hour without contact with him. At work, everyone notices how he has his phone attached to him, because she expects replies from him constantly so. God forbid, he ever disappeared for a few hours, to enjoy time by himself, for himself. He keeps telling me, I do not know, the trust is not there. I have been very patient with her, I would not betray her, but she is making me doubt everything and I am not sure if this will ever change. I could only submit for so long before I explode.
Advice, he kept asking me for it. Considering, I do not know him for long enough, nor have I heard her side of the story I could hardly give non biased advice. Therefore, I listened to him and gave a woman's point of view of certain situations more so than advice itself. When he kept repeating his doubts, I kept reminding him that he chose her, that he loved her enough to propose, and that he is marrying her - no ? He only had this sad doubtful look on his face.
He also told me positive traits about her, but he seems to try to convince himself that she is good enough, and tried to convince me that she has good qualities too. I have never heard anyone try that hard to convince someone to believe that he believes she is good.
Why would he open up, suddenly, like this ? ... because it is confusing and I do not know how to best support this coworker. Is he looking for a friend to rely on at work ? ... because I did notice once he is much more comfortable, he works far better. What does he want and what would you advise me do ?
[For a fact, I know Water - Bearers would never truly open up like this unless if they have a degree of trust in you / they feel safe / comfortable around you.]