The Lady Scorpio
@TheLadyScorpio
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Aquarius Coworker Opens Up About Engagement Woes (Page 4)
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Posted by aquarius_manBragging ?Posted by TheLadyScorpioi dont supervise them, thats a bit of an understatement i said supervise coz i felt like i was already bragging to much and was trying to cut down on the smugness factor
If you love headstrong women, then why do you avoid Stingers ?
Ah, that explains it. It takes a particular personality to lead, and not merely supervise a large mass of people.
Hah, I could already tell from your way of writing that you are a 'pretty stubborn bastard'. It is your fixed side showing itself. 😆
i actually give orders and they follow because all they do have to do is to submit to my vision
as you can guess, its creative industries
a lot of money at work, a lot of stress, tight deadlines, someone must keep a clear head
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Hardly, if that is the nature of your job, then you are simply stating what you do.
Ah, I am apart of the creative industry of sorts as it is as well. Although, that term is a rather broad ranging one and could encompass a lot of different types of work.
Posted by lisabethur8Thank you dear lisabethur, slowly but surely I am getting there. 🙂Posted by aquarius_manlol heeheePosted by lisabethur8i know realised it sounds like im an army general
where do you work, or what type of work?
no, im not in the military/ navy nothing of this sort
ok
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well i'm been online too long, for more than a couple hours now, and i got to get to work.
been up till the crack of dawn and cleaning up and running errands.
sounds like management though. 😛
have fun you two.
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Do you still have your own boyfriend? How do you feel about him?
Posted by pinkbird03As in, am I still with my SO ?
Do you still have your own boyfriend? How do you feel about him?
Why yes, if you read the entire thread, which I doubt few will. I am still indeed with my dear Virgent.
I am quite fond of him and appreciate his place in my life.
Why do you ask ?
Posted by TheLadyScorpioPosted by pinkbird03As in, am I still with my SO ?
Do you still have your own boyfriend? How do you feel about him?
Why yes, if you read the entire thread, which I doubt few will. I am still indeed with my dear Virgent.
I am quite fond of him and appreciate his place in my life.
Why do you ask ?
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Yes, too much text! But I did see you have a boyfriend. I'm just confused about why you care so much about another man. You clearly do or you wouldn't be writing about him.
Posted by Astrology101What I am doing is inappropriate ?Posted by TheLadyScorpioYou are taking responsibility of unnecessary burden.Posted by NymphGoddessInterested ? No.
To start off it seems like he regrets not having met uou before he got engaged. Also i think this is dangerous teritory for you both. It seems like youre growing interest in him seems more than you care tonadmit.
Intrigued ? Yes.
Does my SO know all of this ? Yes.
I am human NymphGoddess, I will be intrigued by others, just as my SO will. It would be a lie, if I said I never felt attraction or chemistry with another individual to my SO, but where I choose my loyalties is where my commitment lies. That is what is most important at the end of the day.
No boundaries has been crossed, so I still see him as a intriguing friendly coworker until you lot pointed out to me all the rest, which explains why I felt strange, like a burden was dropped on me for me to carry.
Therefore now, I am confused.
And I don't think anyone would take unnecessary responsibility without being invested.
If someone from work told me all this after 3 weeks of meeting them.. I'd be uncomfortable and keep min distance with the person.
I wouldn't be thinking if he has feelings for his SO etc. Or why he chose you to tell all of his secrets. I would prolly tell him not to talk about it considering we are work colleagues and all this seems a bit too intimate.
What you are doing is very inappropriate .. imo.
But I guess you telling your SO about it is good.
On that note.. this whole topic is making me uncomfortable so I'm out.
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Excuse me but ...
Even when I have at multiple times told him about my SO, even when I have diverted the conversation on many an occasion, even when I have stopped giving advice, even when I have finally discussed the updated version of events with my SO, even when I never initiated this at all.
Now tell me where I overstepped the boundary. I initially made attempts to be friendly and empathetic on advice from my SO, evidently that was a mistake but it is already being remedied.
I was uncomfortable, why else did I vent here. Something felt wrong and inappropriate in that conversation.
Where on bloody hells earth did I wonder whether or not he had feelings for his SO, I merely shared what was told to me and not my own opinions on the matter. I could care less.
Posted by pinkbird03Initially because I was confused, attracted in a twisted way, and not sure how I should deal with the situation head on without being a blunt and cold Stinger.Posted by TheLadyScorpioPosted by pinkbird03As in, am I still with my SO ?
Do you still have your own boyfriend? How do you feel about him?
Why yes, if you read the entire thread, which I doubt few will. I am still indeed with my dear Virgent.
I am quite fond of him and appreciate his place in my life.
Why do you ask ?
Yes, too much text! But I did see you have a boyfriend. I'm just confused about why you care so much about another man. You clearly do or you wouldn't be writing about him.
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From the beginning, he was a troublesome member of my department / team professionally. My Virgent advised me to be more empathetic towards him, and pehaps he would open up thereby be an easier individual to lead. In turn hopefully turning him into an asset instead of the lazy, unprofessional, unmotivated, and useless individual he has been in the past.
Posted by TheLadyScorpioPosted by Wineaux15He was insinuating it and referring to me, in the conversation with her. I heard it because it was rather loud. In fact, most everyone heard it. 😐
@TheLadyScorpio I hear you when you say it was rude that he was searching for tickets and such while at work, but I could be misinterpreting, but were you jealous? I do understand that's not something you should be doing at work, but why not just pull him to the side and address it? How do you know his woman knows about you?
Quite frankly, it came across more of show than not.
If I let my ego get to me, then I would have been 'jealous', but no, I was more irritated and angered than not at the blatant level of disrespect. I take what I do professionally very seriously, and when someone else does not, it hits a button in me that ignites my temper.
Oh, I did pull him aside to tell him that we do not accept this level of behaviour in the workplace. If he has personal business to attend to, he should do so on his own time.
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Good call. Him being obnoxious to get your attention is irritating at best. I've been in this situation as well as I'm The Scorps boss too. I promise everything you're going through I've been there but our signs are switched.
Posted by Ellygant
Take a few breathes lady Scorp.
He'll be weekend married to the woman he 'feels trapped with' soon enough, and all will likely simmer down.
I understand the pride in him parading the situation over he phone. Scorpios are hyper sensitive to their work reputation. I've yelled at men for less at work for fear of other interpreting me getting special treatment lol.
But it's moreso a pride thing. If he has been slacking in performance up until now and his personal life is slowly eclipsing his professional, then if he is a problem he will be one that takes care of itself. Do your job to the most removed yet professional standard and call it a day.
The episode is basically over now. 🙂
Weekend married ?
Their wedding is held in April, next year.
More than once I have felt like losing my temper at him for his incompetancy, but held back because I had a professional reputation to uphold.
What do you mean by his pride and the latter part of your post ?
You lost me there.
"one last trip before i get married"
*me pretending to be that aqua guy 😆
ladyscorpio, you know what to do 😉
*me pretending to be that aqua guy 😆
ladyscorpio, you know what to do 😉
@Ellygant
On another note ...
His performance have only picked up marginally so, to the point where the cost of keeping him far outweighs his usefulness.
I will have him dismissed as soon as possible, the next partners meeting will be held in a few days.
Also today, his SO creepily kept lurking within the vincinity of our work place as I headed on out to grab a bite. I recognise her face because he showed me a picture of them together before.
On another note ...
His performance have only picked up marginally so, to the point where the cost of keeping him far outweighs his usefulness.
I will have him dismissed as soon as possible, the next partners meeting will be held in a few days.
Also today, his SO creepily kept lurking within the vincinity of our work place as I headed on out to grab a bite. I recognise her face because he showed me a picture of them together before.
Posted by AerialViewQue ?
"one last trip before i get married"
*me pretending to be that aqua guy 😆
ladyscorpio, you know what to do 😉
You lost me there, @AerialView.
Their wedding is a destination wedding, at a resort in Bali, hence the flight tickets. Which from what he told me before, they had planned to wait on for the best deals but now hastily purchased just as they hastily chose and paid for their wedding resort. His words, not my own. All because his Mermaid wants to get it done with as soon as possible even without a dress, cake, or closed friends / family attending.
Posted by TheLadyScorpiono shit! i live there in Bali, Indonesia. they have a good taste.Posted by AerialViewQue ?
"one last trip before i get married"
*me pretending to be that aqua guy 😆
ladyscorpio, you know what to do 😉
You lost me there, @AerialView.
Their wedding is a destination wedding, at a resort in Bali, hence the flight tickets. Which from what he told me before, they had planned to wait on for the best deals but now hastily purchased just as they hastily chose and paid for their wedding resort. His words, not my own. All because his Mermaid wants to get it done with as soon as possible even without a dress, cake, or closed friends / family attending.
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maybe you're right 😉 proceed/do not proceed with caution lol.
Posted by EllygantElly, I have already gone into my cold, curt, polite and somewhat hostile mode already. It has only caused him to attempt at more antics and displays of whatever he has going on with his Mermaid.Posted by TheLadyScorpioSorry should have used emojis. The weekend married was a joke since the Pisces is pressuring him and reactive towards your presence.Posted by Ellygant
Take a few breathes lady Scorp.
He'll be weekend married to the woman he 'feels trapped with' soon enough, and all will likely simmer down.
I understand the pride in him parading the situation over he phone. Scorpios are hyper sensitive to their work reputation. I've yelled at men for less at work for fear of other interpreting me getting special treatment lol.
But it's moreso a pride thing. If he has been slacking in performance up until now and his personal life is slowly eclipsing his professional, then if he is a problem he will be one that takes care of itself. Do your job to the most removed yet professional standard and call it a day.
The episode is basically over now. 🙂
Weekend married ?
Their wedding is held in April, next year.
More than once I have felt like losing my temper at him for his incompetancy, but held back because I had a professional reputation to uphold.
What do you mean by his pride and the latter part of your post ?
You lost me there.
And I meant your pride, not his. Him being a poor worker I'm sure is reflected in the results of his work or lack thereof. Don't allow yourself to get riled up over the display when it's clear to everyone around what's going on. Losing your temper or displaying any emotion about yourself will only weaken your arguments. Cold and polite Scorpio mode is best engaged here, rather than a temper or being scathing. Shitty workers always show themselves.click to expand
Initially, I was curious, now I am only highly irritated.
They have just moved in together, because he has not failed to let everyone know that he has. So he makes phone calls to ask if she is home or working, whether she has dinner prepared or if they are going out or not. To the point, apparently when I left for a break, one of his fellow coworkers asked him to take his calls outside because they could not focus with his disturbance.
Not an ounce of anger or irritation is shown, but I had to pull him aside regardless today to tell him how inappropriate it was and that this cannot continue, including the repurcussions should he ignore my warning.
Elly, you are a darling though for being understanding and offering words of advice. As in my life outside DXP, I know I could also rely on my Stinger friends to keep me sane.
Posted by AerialViewHuh ?Posted by TheLadyScorpiono shit! i live there in Bali, Indonesia. they have a good taste.Posted by AerialViewQue ?
"one last trip before i get married"
*me pretending to be that aqua guy 😆
ladyscorpio, you know what to do 😉
You lost me there, @AerialView.
Their wedding is a destination wedding, at a resort in Bali, hence the flight tickets. Which from what he told me before, they had planned to wait on for the best deals but now hastily purchased just as they hastily chose and paid for their wedding resort. His words, not my own. All because his Mermaid wants to get it done with as soon as possible even without a dress, cake, or closed friends / family attending.
maybe you're right 😉 proceed/do not proceed with caution lol.click to expand
You completely lost me there.
Are you trying to insinuate at something here ?
Posted by TheLadyScorpioLMAO youre so cringeworthy fronting like that. Every aqua told you the same thing or even a better solution.
Elly, you are a darling though for being understanding and offering words of advice. As in my life outside DXP, I know I could also rely on my Stinger friends to keep me sane.
Just LOL @ you.
Double LOL also at the excessive use of "stingers".
Posted by TheLadyScorpiono i wasn't. -_-Posted by AerialViewHuh ?Posted by TheLadyScorpiono shit! i live there in Bali, Indonesia. they have a good taste.Posted by AerialViewQue ?
"one last trip before i get married"
*me pretending to be that aqua guy 😆
ladyscorpio, you know what to do 😉
You lost me there, @AerialView.
Their wedding is a destination wedding, at a resort in Bali, hence the flight tickets. Which from what he told me before, they had planned to wait on for the best deals but now hastily purchased just as they hastily chose and paid for their wedding resort. His words, not my own. All because his Mermaid wants to get it done with as soon as possible even without a dress, cake, or closed friends / family attending.
maybe you're right 😉 proceed/do not proceed with caution lol.
You completely lost me there.
Are you trying to insinuate at something here ?
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Posted by Mr_PinchyMmhmm, and I had already praised the Water - Bearers a few pages back with my appreciation for their words of advice, but you covineantly seemingly missed it.Posted by TheLadyScorpioLMAO youre so cringeworthy fronting like that. Every aqua told you the same thing or even a better solution.
Elly, you are a darling though for being understanding and offering words of advice. As in my life outside DXP, I know I could also rely on my Stinger friends to keep me sane.
Just LOL @ you.
Double LOL also at the excessive use of "stingers".
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Stingers, there I used it again. 😈
Hah. 😆
Posted by EllygantIndeed it has, my Virgent and the kind individuals here have altogether cleared up the fog in my head.
No worries. 🙂 I only mention is because I can feel the Scorpio visceral energy and you mentioned wanting to lose your temper. Just trying to consol a bit.
It seems to be mostly over anyways. 😄
I know what I must do now.
Posted by AerialViewOk, then I have no idea what you were getting or trying to get across rather.Posted by TheLadyScorpiono i wasn't. -_-Posted by AerialViewHuh ?Posted by TheLadyScorpiono shit! i live there in Bali, Indonesia. they have a good taste.Posted by AerialViewQue ?
"one last trip before i get married"
*me pretending to be that aqua guy 😆
ladyscorpio, you know what to do 😉
You lost me there, @AerialView.
Their wedding is a destination wedding, at a resort in Bali, hence the flight tickets. Which from what he told me before, they had planned to wait on for the best deals but now hastily purchased just as they hastily chose and paid for their wedding resort. His words, not my own. All because his Mermaid wants to get it done with as soon as possible even without a dress, cake, or closed friends / family attending.
maybe you're right 😉 proceed/do not proceed with caution lol.
You completely lost me there.
Are you trying to insinuate at something here ?
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Anyways yes, Bali is indeed a beautiful location.
They had intially wanted Phuket, Thailand but because they could not get it within their price range they looked elsewhere. Initially, when he first told me this, I had offered to get him in touch with those in my network who could help him resolve that issue but they had already paid.
Posted by EllygantI thought I was the only one with this issue, I constantly have to ask and ask again what my fellow Air Dominant friends meant when they express something to me. It takes a few attempts before something registers, and vice versa for them, even though I know they care in their own way. 😆Posted by Mr_PinchyIt's not always fronting. Sometimes water dominant people have a hard time understanding air sign communication. Literally. I have to ask my air dominant friends to explain themselves two or three times because their approach is not my natural mode.Posted by TheLadyScorpioLMAO youre so cringeworthy fronting like that. Every aqua told you the same thing or even a better solution.
Elly, you are a darling though for being understanding and offering words of advice. As in my life outside DXP, I know I could also rely on my Stinger friends to keep me sane.
Just LOL @ you.
Double LOL also at the excessive use of "stingers".
Normally by the second or third time my feelings soaked brain catches on lol. The first time I normally think they're mad at me or attacking me until my brain is like 'no wait. They're your friend. They love you. They've provided cuz as evidence of care and support. Slow down and ask again.' Almost every time when they re-explain I realize they were defending and helping me, the total opposite of my initial impression lol.
The way air energy communicates isn't often the way water best receives. It's the nature of the bond. Nothing that a little focus and reorientation can't help.click to expand
Posted by Senorita_LLyes i am 😄Posted by AerialViewWait what?Posted by TheLadyScorpiono shit! i live there in Bali, Indonesia. they have a good taste.Posted by AerialViewQue ?
"one last trip before i get married"
*me pretending to be that aqua guy 😆
ladyscorpio, you know what to do 😉
You lost me there, @AerialView.
Their wedding is a destination wedding, at a resort in Bali, hence the flight tickets. Which from what he told me before, they had planned to wait on for the best deals but now hastily purchased just as they hastily chose and paid for their wedding resort. His words, not my own. All because his Mermaid wants to get it done with as soon as possible even without a dress, cake, or closed friends / family attending.
maybe you're right 😉 proceed/do not proceed with caution lol.
You're from Indonesia? LOL
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Posted by AerialViewIn fact, they had originally wanted to head to the Greek Islands or South of France but for whatever reason decided to change it to Asia instead.Posted by TheLadyScorpiono i wasn't. -_-Posted by AerialViewHuh ?Posted by TheLadyScorpiono shit! i live there in Bali, Indonesia. they have a good taste.Posted by AerialViewQue ?
"one last trip before i get married"
*me pretending to be that aqua guy 😆
ladyscorpio, you know what to do 😉
You lost me there, @AerialView.
Their wedding is a destination wedding, at a resort in Bali, hence the flight tickets. Which from what he told me before, they had planned to wait on for the best deals but now hastily purchased just as they hastily chose and paid for their wedding resort. His words, not my own. All because his Mermaid wants to get it done with as soon as possible even without a dress, cake, or closed friends / family attending.
maybe you're right 😉 proceed/do not proceed with caution lol.
You completely lost me there.
Are you trying to insinuate at something here ?
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Posted by Senorita_LLLOL you can speak Bahasa!!?Posted by AerialViewSakitnya tuh di sini, di dalam hatiku! 😆Posted by Senorita_LLyes i am 😄Posted by AerialViewWait what?Posted by TheLadyScorpiono shit! i live there in Bali, Indonesia. they have a good taste.Posted by AerialViewQue ?
"one last trip before i get married"
*me pretending to be that aqua guy 😆
ladyscorpio, you know what to do 😉
You lost me there, @AerialView.
Their wedding is a destination wedding, at a resort in Bali, hence the flight tickets. Which from what he told me before, they had planned to wait on for the best deals but now hastily purchased just as they hastily chose and paid for their wedding resort. His words, not my own. All because his Mermaid wants to get it done with as soon as possible even without a dress, cake, or closed friends / family attending.
maybe you're right 😉 proceed/do not proceed with caution lol.
You're from Indonesia? LOL
Ayeee Bali...nice place.click to expand
Posted by TheLadyScorpiolol he did tell you lots of things.Posted by AerialViewIn fact, they had originally wanted to head to the Greek Islands or South of France but for whatever reason decided to change it to Asia instead.Posted by TheLadyScorpiono i wasn't. -_-Posted by AerialViewHuh ?Posted by TheLadyScorpiono shit! i live there in Bali, Indonesia. they have a good taste.Posted by AerialViewQue ?
"one last trip before i get married"
*me pretending to be that aqua guy 😆
ladyscorpio, you know what to do 😉
You lost me there, @AerialView.
Their wedding is a destination wedding, at a resort in Bali, hence the flight tickets. Which from what he told me before, they had planned to wait on for the best deals but now hastily purchased just as they hastily chose and paid for their wedding resort. His words, not my own. All because his Mermaid wants to get it done with as soon as possible even without a dress, cake, or closed friends / family attending.
maybe you're right 😉 proceed/do not proceed with caution lol.
You completely lost me there.
Are you trying to insinuate at something here ?
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Posted by AerialViewI know, he really did and it was highly inappropriate.Posted by TheLadyScorpiolol he did tell you lots of things.Posted by AerialViewIn fact, they had originally wanted to head to the Greek Islands or South of France but for whatever reason decided to change it to Asia instead.Posted by TheLadyScorpiono i wasn't. -_-Posted by AerialViewHuh ?Posted by TheLadyScorpiono shit! i live there in Bali, Indonesia. they have a good taste.Posted by AerialViewQue ?
"one last trip before i get married"
*me pretending to be that aqua guy 😆
ladyscorpio, you know what to do 😉
You lost me there, @AerialView.
Their wedding is a destination wedding, at a resort in Bali, hence the flight tickets. Which from what he told me before, they had planned to wait on for the best deals but now hastily purchased just as they hastily chose and paid for their wedding resort. His words, not my own. All because his Mermaid wants to get it done with as soon as possible even without a dress, cake, or closed friends / family attending.
maybe you're right 😉 proceed/do not proceed with caution lol.
You completely lost me there.
Are you trying to insinuate at something here ?
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Posted by Senorita_LLahaha you live there?Posted by AerialViewEh Aqua, I'm a Javanese. Hellooooo 😄Posted by Senorita_LLLOL you can speak Bahasa!!?Posted by AerialViewSakitnya tuh di sini, di dalam hatiku! 😆Posted by Senorita_LLyes i am 😄Posted by AerialViewWait what?Posted by TheLadyScorpiono shit! i live there in Bali, Indonesia. they have a good taste.Posted by AerialViewQue ?
"one last trip before i get married"
*me pretending to be that aqua guy 😆
ladyscorpio, you know what to do 😉
You lost me there, @AerialView.
Their wedding is a destination wedding, at a resort in Bali, hence the flight tickets. Which from what he told me before, they had planned to wait on for the best deals but now hastily purchased just as they hastily chose and paid for their wedding resort. His words, not my own. All because his Mermaid wants to get it done with as soon as possible even without a dress, cake, or closed friends / family attending.
maybe you're right 😉 proceed/do not proceed with caution lol.
You're from Indonesia? LOL
Ayeee Bali...nice place.click to expand
Posted by TheLadyScorpiobut you listened very well.Posted by AerialViewI know, he really did and it was highly inappropriate.Posted by TheLadyScorpiolol he did tell you lots of things.Posted by AerialViewIn fact, they had originally wanted to head to the Greek Islands or South of France but for whatever reason decided to change it to Asia instead.Posted by TheLadyScorpiono i wasn't. -_-Posted by AerialViewHuh ?Posted by TheLadyScorpiono shit! i live there in Bali, Indonesia. they have a good taste.Posted by AerialViewQue ?
"one last trip before i get married"
*me pretending to be that aqua guy 😆
ladyscorpio, you know what to do 😉
You lost me there, @AerialView.
Their wedding is a destination wedding, at a resort in Bali, hence the flight tickets. Which from what he told me before, they had planned to wait on for the best deals but now hastily purchased just as they hastily chose and paid for their wedding resort. His words, not my own. All because his Mermaid wants to get it done with as soon as possible even without a dress, cake, or closed friends / family attending.
maybe you're right 😉 proceed/do not proceed with caution lol.
You completely lost me there.
Are you trying to insinuate at something here ?
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i mean you remember it.
Posted by Senorita_LLhmmm i see. still around our corner lol.Posted by AerialViewNah, but my dad and his late dad plus his late wife, came from Indonesia.Posted by Senorita_LLahaha you live there?Posted by AerialViewEh Aqua, I'm a Javanese. Hellooooo 😄Posted by Senorita_LLLOL you can speak Bahasa!!?Posted by AerialViewSakitnya tuh di sini, di dalam hatiku! 😆Posted by Senorita_LLyes i am 😄Posted by AerialViewWait what?Posted by TheLadyScorpiono shit! i live there in Bali, Indonesia. they have a good taste.Posted by AerialViewQue ?
"one last trip before i get married"
*me pretending to be that aqua guy 😆
ladyscorpio, you know what to do 😉
You lost me there, @AerialView.
Their wedding is a destination wedding, at a resort in Bali, hence the flight tickets. Which from what he told me before, they had planned to wait on for the best deals but now hastily purchased just as they hastily chose and paid for their wedding resort. His words, not my own. All because his Mermaid wants to get it done with as soon as possible even without a dress, cake, or closed friends / family attending.
maybe you're right 😉 proceed/do not proceed with caution lol.
You're from Indonesia? LOL
Ayeee Bali...nice place.
They moved to Singapore. I was born and raised here. 🙂
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Posted by AerialViewI remember everything, it all logs into my database.Posted by TheLadyScorpiobut you listened very well.Posted by AerialViewI know, he really did and it was highly inappropriate.Posted by TheLadyScorpiolol he did tell you lots of things.Posted by AerialViewIn fact, they had originally wanted to head to the Greek Islands or South of France but for whatever reason decided to change it to Asia instead.Posted by TheLadyScorpiono i wasn't. -_-Posted by AerialViewHuh ?Posted by TheLadyScorpiono shit! i live there in Bali, Indonesia. they have a good taste.Posted by AerialViewQue ?
"one last trip before i get married"
*me pretending to be that aqua guy 😆
ladyscorpio, you know what to do 😉
You lost me there, @AerialView.
Their wedding is a destination wedding, at a resort in Bali, hence the flight tickets. Which from what he told me before, they had planned to wait on for the best deals but now hastily purchased just as they hastily chose and paid for their wedding resort. His words, not my own. All because his Mermaid wants to get it done with as soon as possible even without a dress, cake, or closed friends / family attending.
maybe you're right 😉 proceed/do not proceed with caution lol.
You completely lost me there.
Are you trying to insinuate at something here ?
i mean you remember it.click to expand
Posted by TheLadyScorpiotypical scorp lolPosted by AerialViewI remember everything, it all logs into my database.Posted by TheLadyScorpiobut you listened very well.Posted by AerialViewI know, he really did and it was highly inappropriate.Posted by TheLadyScorpiolol he did tell you lots of things.Posted by AerialViewIn fact, they had originally wanted to head to the Greek Islands or South of France but for whatever reason decided to change it to Asia instead.Posted by TheLadyScorpiono i wasn't. -_-Posted by AerialViewHuh ?Posted by TheLadyScorpiono shit! i live there in Bali, Indonesia. they have a good taste.Posted by AerialViewQue ?
"one last trip before i get married"
*me pretending to be that aqua guy 😆
ladyscorpio, you know what to do 😉
You lost me there, @AerialView.
Their wedding is a destination wedding, at a resort in Bali, hence the flight tickets. Which from what he told me before, they had planned to wait on for the best deals but now hastily purchased just as they hastily chose and paid for their wedding resort. His words, not my own. All because his Mermaid wants to get it done with as soon as possible even without a dress, cake, or closed friends / family attending.
maybe you're right 😉 proceed/do not proceed with caution lol.
You completely lost me there.
Are you trying to insinuate at something here ?
i mean you remember it.
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Posted by Senorita_LLNOOOOOOPosted by AerialViewYeah, I've always wanted to do Bali but I heard about the curse.Posted by Senorita_LLhmmm i see. still around our corner lol.Posted by AerialViewNah, but my dad and his late dad plus his late wife, came from Indonesia.Posted by Senorita_LLahaha you live there?Posted by AerialViewEh Aqua, I'm a Javanese. Hellooooo 😄Posted by Senorita_LLLOL you can speak Bahasa!!?Posted by AerialViewSakitnya tuh di sini, di dalam hatiku! 😆Posted by Senorita_LLyes i am 😄Posted by AerialViewWait what?Posted by TheLadyScorpiono shit! i live there in Bali, Indonesia. they have a good taste.Posted by AerialViewQue ?
"one last trip before i get married"
*me pretending to be that aqua guy 😆
ladyscorpio, you know what to do 😉
You lost me there, @AerialView.
Their wedding is a destination wedding, at a resort in Bali, hence the flight tickets. Which from what he told me before, they had planned to wait on for the best deals but now hastily purchased just as they hastily chose and paid for their wedding resort. His words, not my own. All because his Mermaid wants to get it done with as soon as possible even without a dress, cake, or closed friends / family attending.
maybe you're right 😉 proceed/do not proceed with caution lol.
You're from Indonesia? LOL
Ayeee Bali...nice place.
They moved to Singapore. I was born and raised here. 🙂
Is that true? LOL
Most of my friends went there, few years after, they split up with their partners. My sister too.
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should they married in Moon and they would still split up.
Posted by AerialViewWhat does married in moon mean?
NOOOOOO
should they married in Moon and they would still split up.
Posted by saggurl88I was just going to ask just that. 😆Posted by AerialViewWhat does married in moon mean?
NOOOOOO
should they married in Moon and they would still split up.
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Posted by EllygantYou took the words out of my mouth. Recently, these were my thoughts as well.Posted by TheLadyScorpioYeah, the water struggle is real. It's why my air friends are invaluable to me.Posted by EllygantI thought I was the only one with this issue, I constantly have to ask and ask again what my fellow Air Dominant friends meant when they express something to me. It takes a few attempts before something registers, and vice versa for them, even though I know they care in their own way. 😆Posted by Mr_PinchyIt's not always fronting. Sometimes water dominant people have a hard time understanding air sign communication. Literally. I have to ask my air dominant friends to explain themselves two or three times because their approach is not my natural mode.Posted by TheLadyScorpioLMAO youre so cringeworthy fronting like that. Every aqua told you the same thing or even a better solution.
Elly, you are a darling though for being understanding and offering words of advice. As in my life outside DXP, I know I could also rely on my Stinger friends to keep me sane.
Just LOL @ you.
Double LOL also at the excessive use of "stingers".
Normally by the second or third time my feelings soaked brain catches on lol. The first time I normally think they're mad at me or attacking me until my brain is like 'no wait. They're your friend. They love you. They've provided cuz as evidence of care and support. Slow down and ask again.' Almost every time when they re-explain I realize they were defending and helping me, the total opposite of my initial impression lol.
The way air energy communicates isn't often the way water best receives. It's the nature of the bond. Nothing that a little focus and reorientation can't help.
I say that but pretty much all my friends are invaluable lol.
Cause at the end of the day, things I feel I lack, structure(earth), bravery(fire), detachment(air) they show me that I do have those qualities and abilities, I just have to work a little harder or in a different way than others to integrate them. And they comfort me that it's no big deal if it takes me a little longer in some areas. True beauty of astrology is the balance that it brings when we accept ourselves and others for what we are and where we are in our development.click to expand
If you keep being as incredible as you are with you sharing your tidbits of understanding here and there. I may have to drop by your area, simply to visit you.
I promise Elly, I am not a stalker (despite our signs reputation for it). 😆
Posted by AerialViewPerhaps. 😆Posted by TheLadyScorpiotypical scorp lolPosted by AerialViewI remember everything, it all logs into my database.Posted by TheLadyScorpiobut you listened very well.Posted by AerialViewI know, he really did and it was highly inappropriate.Posted by TheLadyScorpiolol he did tell you lots of things.Posted by AerialViewIn fact, they had originally wanted to head to the Greek Islands or South of France but for whatever reason decided to change it to Asia instead.Posted by TheLadyScorpiono i wasn't. -_-Posted by AerialViewHuh ?Posted by TheLadyScorpiono shit! i live there in Bali, Indonesia. they have a good taste.Posted by AerialViewQue ?
"one last trip before i get married"
*me pretending to be that aqua guy 😆
ladyscorpio, you know what to do 😉
You lost me there, @AerialView.
Their wedding is a destination wedding, at a resort in Bali, hence the flight tickets. Which from what he told me before, they had planned to wait on for the best deals but now hastily purchased just as they hastily chose and paid for their wedding resort. His words, not my own. All because his Mermaid wants to get it done with as soon as possible even without a dress, cake, or closed friends / family attending.
maybe you're right 😉 proceed/do not proceed with caution lol.
You completely lost me there.
Are you trying to insinuate at something here ?
i mean you remember it.
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Posted by TheLadyScorpio@AerialView Always ignores my questions. He must have me blocked lolPosted by saggurl88I was just going to ask just that. 😆Posted by AerialViewWhat does married in moon mean?
NOOOOOO
should they married in Moon and they would still split up.
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Posted by Astrology101Those are not my thoughts, those were things that were told to me.Posted by TheLadyScorpio"Then it hit, he is having regrets and doubts. He had only known his Mermaid SO for two years, because he was noticing everyone around him getting married, settling, having children. I assume the pressure got to him, or he felt it was time since his Mermaid SO has hinted at it for a long while. Therefore, he simply went out, got a ring, and proposed but he has woken up from the stupor of it all and realised he has a lot of issues with her. They have already booked, planned, and partially paid for their destination wedding, told friends and family, therefore taking it all back would be very difficult. "Posted by Astrology101What I am doing is inappropriate ?Posted by TheLadyScorpioYou are taking responsibility of unnecessary burden.Posted by NymphGoddessInterested ? No.
To start off it seems like he regrets not having met uou before he got engaged. Also i think this is dangerous teritory for you both. It seems like youre growing interest in him seems more than you care tonadmit.
Intrigued ? Yes.
Does my SO know all of this ? Yes.
I am human NymphGoddess, I will be intrigued by others, just as my SO will. It would be a lie, if I said I never felt attraction or chemistry with another individual to my SO, but where I choose my loyalties is where my commitment lies. That is what is most important at the end of the day.
No boundaries has been crossed, so I still see him as a intriguing friendly coworker until you lot pointed out to me all the rest, which explains why I felt strange, like a burden was dropped on me for me to carry.
Therefore now, I am confused.
And I don't think anyone would take unnecessary responsibility without being invested.
If someone from work told me all this after 3 weeks of meeting them.. I'd be uncomfortable and keep min distance with the person.
I wouldn't be thinking if he has feelings for his SO etc. Or why he chose you to tell all of his secrets. I would prolly tell him not to talk about it considering we are work colleagues and all this seems a bit too intimate.
What you are doing is very inappropriate .. imo.
But I guess you telling your SO about it is good.
On that note.. this whole topic is making me uncomfortable so I'm out.
Excuse me but ...
Even when I have at multiple times told him about my SO, even when I have diverted the conversation on many an occasion, even when I have stopped giving advice, even when I have finally discussed the updated version of events with my SO, even when I never initiated this at all.
Now tell me where I overstepped the boundary. I initially made attempts to be friendly and empathetic on advice from my SO, evidently that was a mistake but it is already being remedied.
I was uncomfortable, why else did I vent here. Something felt wrong and inappropriate in that conversation.
Where on bloody hells earth did I wonder whether or not he had feelings for his SO, I merely shared what was told to me and not my own opinions on the matter. I could care less.
Yeah it's not for you to think about. But it doesn't seem like you care any less.
You don't need to understand him... or his life. If he's having problems he should be talking to his fiancé not to you.
You are enabling whatever he is trying to do.
Hence it's inappropriate. The appropriate response would be "hey you should talk to her about it" and end of convo.
I don't care if it's his best friend he's talking to... problems between you and your SO shouldn't be discussed with a third party. Esp not a random girl from work he met 3 weeks ago.
Yeah it's inappropriate.
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Where on hells earth did you see it as my thoughts on the matter ?
... and that is what I did in the end. I told him to discuss it all with her, that only he could elevate their issues by building the trust between them. That they should communicate more with each other, rather than to turn to me for advice. I only heard one side of the story, and not hers. Therefore only he could be the best judge as to how to proceed in his situation.
Talk about making an attempt to gaslight me. He brought everything up, I had not initiated or encouraged.
Therefore no, I was not enabling him. Time and again, I brought my SO into the conversation in attempts to steer him off his venting rant. Time and again, I told him to discuss it with her, that he should build the trust between them rather than to spew his unhappiness and doubts to me.
Get your head screwed on straight.
Posted by Astrology101I assume because he kept voicing those doubts. It was all based on what he has told me, point blank.Posted by TheLadyScorpio"I assume the pressure got to him, or he felt it was time since his Mermaid SO has hinted at it for a long while. Therefore, he simply went out, got a ring, and proposed but he has woken up from the stupor of it all and realised he has a lot of issues with her. They have already booked, planned, and partially paid for their destination wedding, told friends and family, therefore taking it all back would be very difficult. "Posted by Astrology101Those are not my thoughts, those were things that were told to me.Posted by TheLadyScorpio"Then it hit, he is having regrets and doubts. He had only known his Mermaid SO for two years, because he was noticing everyone around him getting married, settling, having children. I assume the pressure got to him, or he felt it was time since his Mermaid SO has hinted at it for a long while. Therefore, he simply went out, got a ring, and proposed but he has woken up from the stupor of it all and realised he has a lot of issues with her. They have already booked, planned, and partially paid for their destination wedding, told friends and family, therefore taking it all back would be very difficult. "Posted by Astrology101What I am doing is inappropriate ?Posted by TheLadyScorpioYou are taking responsibility of unnecessary burden.Posted by NymphGoddessInterested ? No.
To start off it seems like he regrets not having met uou before he got engaged. Also i think this is dangerous teritory for you both. It seems like youre growing interest in him seems more than you care tonadmit.
Intrigued ? Yes.
Does my SO know all of this ? Yes.
I am human NymphGoddess, I will be intrigued by others, just as my SO will. It would be a lie, if I said I never felt attraction or chemistry with another individual to my SO, but where I choose my loyalties is where my commitment lies. That is what is most important at the end of the day.
No boundaries has been crossed, so I still see him as a intriguing friendly coworker until you lot pointed out to me all the rest, which explains why I felt strange, like a burden was dropped on me for me to carry.
Therefore now, I am confused.
And I don't think anyone would take unnecessary responsibility without being invested.
If someone from work told me all this after 3 weeks of meeting them.. I'd be uncomfortable and keep min distance with the person.
I wouldn't be thinking if he has feelings for his SO etc. Or why he chose you to tell all of his secrets. I would prolly tell him not to talk about it considering we are work colleagues and all this seems a bit too intimate.
What you are doing is very inappropriate .. imo.
But I guess you telling your SO about it is good.
On that note.. this whole topic is making me uncomfortable so I'm out.
Excuse me but ...
Even when I have at multiple times told him about my SO, even when I have diverted the conversation on many an occasion, even when I have stopped giving advice, even when I have finally discussed the updated version of events with my SO, even when I never initiated this at all.
Now tell me where I overstepped the boundary. I initially made attempts to be friendly and empathetic on advice from my SO, evidently that was a mistake but it is already being remedied.
I was uncomfortable, why else did I vent here. Something felt wrong and inappropriate in that conversation.
Where on bloody hells earth did I wonder whether or not he had feelings for his SO, I merely shared what was told to me and not my own opinions on the matter. I could care less.
Yeah it's not for you to think about. But it doesn't seem like you care any less.
You don't need to understand him... or his life. If he's having problems he should be talking to his fiancé not to you.
You are enabling whatever he is trying to do.
Hence it's inappropriate. The appropriate response would be "hey you should talk to her about it" and end of convo.
I don't care if it's his best friend he's talking to... problems between you and your SO shouldn't be discussed with a third party. Esp not a random girl from work he met 3 weeks ago.
Yeah it's inappropriate.
Where on hells earth did you see it as my thoughts on the matter ?
... and that is what I did in the end. I told him to discuss it all with her, that only he could elevate their issues by building the trust between them. That they should communicate more with each other, rather than to turn to me for advice. I only heard one side of the story, and not hers. Therefore only he could be the best judge as to how to proceed in his situation.
Talk about making an attempt to gaslight me. He brought everything up, I had not initiated or encouraged.
Therefore no, I was not enabling him. Time and again, I brought my SO into the conversation in attempts to steer him off his venting rant. Time and again, I told him to discuss it with her, that he should build the trust between them rather than to spew his unhappiness and doubts to me.
Get your head screwed on straight.
Those are your words. Not mine.
It starts with I assume. So no he didn't tell you that.
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That his Mermaid SO hinted at it, that he has a lot of issues with her, that taking it all back would be difficult.
He indeed, actually expressed those thoughts.
Posted by Astrology101Are you trying to be a devils advocate because you have nothing better to do, than to twist the situation around until it looks like I begged him to spill all his troubles with me.Posted by TheLadyScorpioYou prolly don't know how enabling works then.Posted by Astrology101Those are not my thoughts, those were things that were told to me.Posted by TheLadyScorpio"Then it hit, he is having regrets and doubts. He had only known his Mermaid SO for two years, because he was noticing everyone around him getting married, settling, having children. I assume the pressure got to him, or he felt it was time since his Mermaid SO has hinted at it for a long while. Therefore, he simply went out, got a ring, and proposed but he has woken up from the stupor of it all and realised he has a lot of issues with her. They have already booked, planned, and partially paid for their destination wedding, told friends and family, therefore taking it all back would be very difficult. "Posted by Astrology101What I am doing is inappropriate ?Posted by TheLadyScorpioYou are taking responsibility of unnecessary burden.Posted by NymphGoddessInterested ? No.
To start off it seems like he regrets not having met uou before he got engaged. Also i think this is dangerous teritory for you both. It seems like youre growing interest in him seems more than you care tonadmit.
Intrigued ? Yes.
Does my SO know all of this ? Yes.
I am human NymphGoddess, I will be intrigued by others, just as my SO will. It would be a lie, if I said I never felt attraction or chemistry with another individual to my SO, but where I choose my loyalties is where my commitment lies. That is what is most important at the end of the day.
No boundaries has been crossed, so I still see him as a intriguing friendly coworker until you lot pointed out to me all the rest, which explains why I felt strange, like a burden was dropped on me for me to carry.
Therefore now, I am confused.
And I don't think anyone would take unnecessary responsibility without being invested.
If someone from work told me all this after 3 weeks of meeting them.. I'd be uncomfortable and keep min distance with the person.
I wouldn't be thinking if he has feelings for his SO etc. Or why he chose you to tell all of his secrets. I would prolly tell him not to talk about it considering we are work colleagues and all this seems a bit too intimate.
What you are doing is very inappropriate .. imo.
But I guess you telling your SO about it is good.
On that note.. this whole topic is making me uncomfortable so I'm out.
Excuse me but ...
Even when I have at multiple times told him about my SO, even when I have diverted the conversation on many an occasion, even when I have stopped giving advice, even when I have finally discussed the updated version of events with my SO, even when I never initiated this at all.
Now tell me where I overstepped the boundary. I initially made attempts to be friendly and empathetic on advice from my SO, evidently that was a mistake but it is already being remedied.
I was uncomfortable, why else did I vent here. Something felt wrong and inappropriate in that conversation.
Where on bloody hells earth did I wonder whether or not he had feelings for his SO, I merely shared what was told to me and not my own opinions on the matter. I could care less.
Yeah it's not for you to think about. But it doesn't seem like you care any less.
You don't need to understand him... or his life. If he's having problems he should be talking to his fiancé not to you.
You are enabling whatever he is trying to do.
Hence it's inappropriate. The appropriate response would be "hey you should talk to her about it" and end of convo.
I don't care if it's his best friend he's talking to... problems between you and your SO shouldn't be discussed with a third party. Esp not a random girl from work he met 3 weeks ago.
Yeah it's inappropriate.
Where on hells earth did you see it as my thoughts on the matter ?
... and that is what I did in the end. I told him to discuss it all with her, that only he could elevate their issues by building the trust between them. That they should communicate more with each other, rather than to turn to me for advice. I only heard one side of the story, and not hers. Therefore only he could be the best judge as to how to proceed in his situation.
Talk about making an attempt to gaslight me. He brought everything up, I had not initiated or encouraged.
Therefore no, I was not enabling him. Time and again, I brought my SO into the conversation in attempts to steer him off his venting rant. Time and again, I told him to discuss it with her, that he should build the trust between them rather than to spew his unhappiness and doubts to me.
Get your head screwed on straight.
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If so, be on your way, you are not needed.
Posted by Astrology101He did not say he did not love her, he said he was not sure if he loved her and has doubts about living with her, being married to her, and having a child with her.Posted by TheLadyScorpioSo you're changing up your story now?Posted by Astrology101I assume because he kept voicing those doubts. It was all based on what he has told me, point blank.Posted by TheLadyScorpio"I assume the pressure got to him, or he felt it was time since his Mermaid SO has hinted at it for a long while. Therefore, he simply went out, got a ring, and proposed but he has woken up from the stupor of it all and realised he has a lot of issues with her. They have already booked, planned, and partially paid for their destination wedding, told friends and family, therefore taking it all back would be very difficult. "Posted by Astrology101Those are not my thoughts, those were things that were told to me.Posted by TheLadyScorpio"Then it hit, he is having regrets and doubts. He had only known his Mermaid SO for two years, because he was noticing everyone around him getting married, settling, having children. I assume the pressure got to him, or he felt it was time since his Mermaid SO has hinted at it for a long while. Therefore, he simply went out, got a ring, and proposed but he has woken up from the stupor of it all and realised he has a lot of issues with her. They have already booked, planned, and partially paid for their destination wedding, told friends and family, therefore taking it all back would be very difficult. "Posted by Astrology101What I am doing is inappropriate ?Posted by TheLadyScorpioYou are taking responsibility of unnecessary burden.Posted by NymphGoddessInterested ? No.
To start off it seems like he regrets not having met uou before he got engaged. Also i think this is dangerous teritory for you both. It seems like youre growing interest in him seems more than you care tonadmit.
Intrigued ? Yes.
Does my SO know all of this ? Yes.
I am human NymphGoddess, I will be intrigued by others, just as my SO will. It would be a lie, if I said I never felt attraction or chemistry with another individual to my SO, but where I choose my loyalties is where my commitment lies. That is what is most important at the end of the day.
No boundaries has been crossed, so I still see him as a intriguing friendly coworker until you lot pointed out to me all the rest, which explains why I felt strange, like a burden was dropped on me for me to carry.
Therefore now, I am confused.
And I don't think anyone would take unnecessary responsibility without being invested.
If someone from work told me all this after 3 weeks of meeting them.. I'd be uncomfortable and keep min distance with the person.
I wouldn't be thinking if he has feelings for his SO etc. Or why he chose you to tell all of his secrets. I would prolly tell him not to talk about it considering we are work colleagues and all this seems a bit too intimate.
What you are doing is very inappropriate .. imo.
But I guess you telling your SO about it is good.
On that note.. this whole topic is making me uncomfortable so I'm out.
Excuse me but ...
Even when I have at multiple times told him about my SO, even when I have diverted the conversation on many an occasion, even when I have stopped giving advice, even when I have finally discussed the updated version of events with my SO, even when I never initiated this at all.
Now tell me where I overstepped the boundary. I initially made attempts to be friendly and empathetic on advice from my SO, evidently that was a mistake but it is already being remedied.
I was uncomfortable, why else did I vent here. Something felt wrong and inappropriate in that conversation.
Where on bloody hells earth did I wonder whether or not he had feelings for his SO, I merely shared what was told to me and not my own opinions on the matter. I could care less.
Yeah it's not for you to think about. But it doesn't seem like you care any less.
You don't need to understand him... or his life. If he's having problems he should be talking to his fiancé not to you.
You are enabling whatever he is trying to do.
Hence it's inappropriate. The appropriate response would be "hey you should talk to her about it" and end of convo.
I don't care if it's his best friend he's talking to... problems between you and your SO shouldn't be discussed with a third party. Esp not a random girl from work he met 3 weeks ago.
Yeah it's inappropriate.
Where on hells earth did you see it as my thoughts on the matter ?
... and that is what I did in the end. I told him to discuss it all with her, that only he could elevate their issues by building the trust between them. That they should communicate more with each other, rather than to turn to me for advice. I only heard one side of the story, and not hers. Therefore only he could be the best judge as to how to proceed in his situation.
Talk about making an attempt to gaslight me. He brought everything up, I had not initiated or encouraged.
Therefore no, I was not enabling him. Time and again, I brought my SO into the conversation in attempts to steer him off his venting rant. Time and again, I told him to discuss it with her, that he should build the trust between them rather than to spew his unhappiness and doubts to me.
Get your head screwed on straight.
Those are your words. Not mine.
It starts with I assume. So no he didn't tell you that.
That his Mermaid SO hinted at it, that he has a lot of issues with her, that taking it all back would be difficult.
He indeed, actually expressed those thoughts.
No he didn't tell you he proposed to his fiance just because all his friends are married. Neither did he tell you he doesn't love her.
So stop trying to justify your or his behaviour.
I'm done now.
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He said that was one factor that pushed him to consider proposing to his SO.
Therefore no, no story change at all. Rather you choose to pick and choose pieces of information out of the pages I have written as the situation changes. In attempts to highlight me in a certain light, for whatever ill reason of yours.
Posted by Astrology101Is that so.Posted by TheLadyScorpioLol. You don't know what a devil's advocate means.Posted by Astrology101Are you trying to be a devils advocate because you have nothing better to do, than to twist the situation around until it looks like I begged him to spill all his troubles with me.Posted by TheLadyScorpioYou prolly don't know how enabling works then.Posted by Astrology101Those are not my thoughts, those were things that were told to me.Posted by TheLadyScorpio"Then it hit, he is having regrets and doubts. He had only known his Mermaid SO for two years, because he was noticing everyone around him getting married, settling, having children. I assume the pressure got to him, or he felt it was time since his Mermaid SO has hinted at it for a long while. Therefore, he simply went out, got a ring, and proposed but he has woken up from the stupor of it all and realised he has a lot of issues with her. They have already booked, planned, and partially paid for their destination wedding, told friends and family, therefore taking it all back would be very difficult. "Posted by Astrology101What I am doing is inappropriate ?Posted by TheLadyScorpioYou are taking responsibility of unnecessary burden.Posted by NymphGoddessInterested ? No.
To start off it seems like he regrets not having met uou before he got engaged. Also i think this is dangerous teritory for you both. It seems like youre growing interest in him seems more than you care tonadmit.
Intrigued ? Yes.
Does my SO know all of this ? Yes.
I am human NymphGoddess, I will be intrigued by others, just as my SO will. It would be a lie, if I said I never felt attraction or chemistry with another individual to my SO, but where I choose my loyalties is where my commitment lies. That is what is most important at the end of the day.
No boundaries has been crossed, so I still see him as a intriguing friendly coworker until you lot pointed out to me all the rest, which explains why I felt strange, like a burden was dropped on me for me to carry.
Therefore now, I am confused.
And I don't think anyone would take unnecessary responsibility without being invested.
If someone from work told me all this after 3 weeks of meeting them.. I'd be uncomfortable and keep min distance with the person.
I wouldn't be thinking if he has feelings for his SO etc. Or why he chose you to tell all of his secrets. I would prolly tell him not to talk about it considering we are work colleagues and all this seems a bit too intimate.
What you are doing is very inappropriate .. imo.
But I guess you telling your SO about it is good.
On that note.. this whole topic is making me uncomfortable so I'm out.
Excuse me but ...
Even when I have at multiple times told him about my SO, even when I have diverted the conversation on many an occasion, even when I have stopped giving advice, even when I have finally discussed the updated version of events with my SO, even when I never initiated this at all.
Now tell me where I overstepped the boundary. I initially made attempts to be friendly and empathetic on advice from my SO, evidently that was a mistake but it is already being remedied.
I was uncomfortable, why else did I vent here. Something felt wrong and inappropriate in that conversation.
Where on bloody hells earth did I wonder whether or not he had feelings for his SO, I merely shared what was told to me and not my own opinions on the matter. I could care less.
Yeah it's not for you to think about. But it doesn't seem like you care any less.
You don't need to understand him... or his life. If he's having problems he should be talking to his fiancé not to you.
You are enabling whatever he is trying to do.
Hence it's inappropriate. The appropriate response would be "hey you should talk to her about it" and end of convo.
I don't care if it's his best friend he's talking to... problems between you and your SO shouldn't be discussed with a third party. Esp not a random girl from work he met 3 weeks ago.
Yeah it's inappropriate.
Where on hells earth did you see it as my thoughts on the matter ?
... and that is what I did in the end. I told him to discuss it all with her, that only he could elevate their issues by building the trust between them. That they should communicate more with each other, rather than to turn to me for advice. I only heard one side of the story, and not hers. Therefore only he could be the best judge as to how to proceed in his situation.
Talk about making an attempt to gaslight me. He brought everything up, I had not initiated or encouraged.
Therefore no, I was not enabling him. Time and again, I brought my SO into the conversation in attempts to steer him off his venting rant. Time and again, I told him to discuss it with her, that he should build the trust between them rather than to spew his unhappiness and doubts to me.
Get your head screwed on straight.
If so, be on your way, you are not needed.
A devil's advocate is someone who advocates for the evil side. Which is the exact opposite of what I'm doing.
You don't have to beg him to tell you his secrets. You let this situation develop. Your "curiosity" as you put it earlier to indulge his behaviour .. to analyze him.. to learn about other people. .. doesn't sound like you stopping him.
You enabled him to tell you all his woes.. by listening to him.
Now you're being defensive and rude... which can only be described like what someone would do when they are guilty.
If you don't want to listen to what I have to say... don't quote me.
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I know exact what it means and you are being exactly that, a devils advocate.
My curiousity and by encouragement by my SO to be more empathetic towards him, to be friendly and to listen in hopes of lifting him up professionally, to lead him in such a manner. Evidently, that has failed and if you had actually read the current progress you would have known that I had taken up responsibility for my own mistakes.
A leader is meant to listen, except I listened all too much. A lesson learned.
Instead, you chose to chase after me picking and choosing only what you decide to read and frame me for something else.
Ah, so you are a psychologist now, believing I am guilty. 😆
You are an utter joke.
For your information, being blunt does not equate to being rude.
Posted by Astrology101It does not matter, quite rightly so because you are thick in the head.Posted by TheLadyScorpioLol doesn't matter. That still means your story changed.Posted by Astrology101He did not say he did not love her, he said he was not sure if he loved her and has doubts about living with her, being married to her, and having a child with her.Posted by TheLadyScorpioSo you're changing up your story now?Posted by Astrology101I assume because he kept voicing those doubts. It was all based on what he has told me, point blank.Posted by TheLadyScorpio"I assume the pressure got to him, or he felt it was time since his Mermaid SO has hinted at it for a long while. Therefore, he simply went out, got a ring, and proposed but he has woken up from the stupor of it all and realised he has a lot of issues with her. They have already booked, planned, and partially paid for their destination wedding, told friends and family, therefore taking it all back would be very difficult. "Posted by Astrology101Those are not my thoughts, those were things that were told to me.Posted by TheLadyScorpio"Then it hit, he is having regrets and doubts. He had only known his Mermaid SO for two years, because he was noticing everyone around him getting married, settling, having children. I assume the pressure got to him, or he felt it was time since his Mermaid SO has hinted at it for a long while. Therefore, he simply went out, got a ring, and proposed but he has woken up from the stupor of it all and realised he has a lot of issues with her. They have already booked, planned, and partially paid for their destination wedding, told friends and family, therefore taking it all back would be very difficult. "Posted by Astrology101What I am doing is inappropriate ?Posted by TheLadyScorpioYou are taking responsibility of unnecessary burden.Posted by NymphGoddessInterested ? No.
To start off it seems like he regrets not having met uou before he got engaged. Also i think this is dangerous teritory for you both. It seems like youre growing interest in him seems more than you care tonadmit.
Intrigued ? Yes.
Does my SO know all of this ? Yes.
I am human NymphGoddess, I will be intrigued by others, just as my SO will. It would be a lie, if I said I never felt attraction or chemistry with another individual to my SO, but where I choose my loyalties is where my commitment lies. That is what is most important at the end of the day.
No boundaries has been crossed, so I still see him as a intriguing friendly coworker until you lot pointed out to me all the rest, which explains why I felt strange, like a burden was dropped on me for me to carry.
Therefore now, I am confused.
And I don't think anyone would take unnecessary responsibility without being invested.
If someone from work told me all this after 3 weeks of meeting them.. I'd be uncomfortable and keep min distance with the person.
I wouldn't be thinking if he has feelings for his SO etc. Or why he chose you to tell all of his secrets. I would prolly tell him not to talk about it considering we are work colleagues and all this seems a bit too intimate.
What you are doing is very inappropriate .. imo.
But I guess you telling your SO about it is good.
On that note.. this whole topic is making me uncomfortable so I'm out.
Excuse me but ...
Even when I have at multiple times told him about my SO, even when I have diverted the conversation on many an occasion, even when I have stopped giving advice, even when I have finally discussed the updated version of events with my SO, even when I never initiated this at all.
Now tell me where I overstepped the boundary. I initially made attempts to be friendly and empathetic on advice from my SO, evidently that was a mistake but it is already being remedied.
I was uncomfortable, why else did I vent here. Something felt wrong and inappropriate in that conversation.
Where on bloody hells earth did I wonder whether or not he had feelings for his SO, I merely shared what was told to me and not my own opinions on the matter. I could care less.
Yeah it's not for you to think about. But it doesn't seem like you care any less.
You don't need to understand him... or his life. If he's having problems he should be talking to his fiancé not to you.
You are enabling whatever he is trying to do.
Hence it's inappropriate. The appropriate response would be "hey you should talk to her about it" and end of convo.
I don't care if it's his best friend he's talking to... problems between you and your SO shouldn't be discussed with a third party. Esp not a random girl from work he met 3 weeks ago.
Yeah it's inappropriate.
Where on hells earth did you see it as my thoughts on the matter ?
... and that is what I did in the end. I told him to discuss it all with her, that only he could elevate their issues by building the trust between them. That they should communicate more with each other, rather than to turn to me for advice. I only heard one side of the story, and not hers. Therefore only he could be the best judge as to how to proceed in his situation.
Talk about making an attempt to gaslight me. He brought everything up, I had not initiated or encouraged.
Therefore no, I was not enabling him. Time and again, I brought my SO into the conversation in attempts to steer him off his venting rant. Time and again, I told him to discuss it with her, that he should build the trust between them rather than to spew his unhappiness and doubts to me.
Get your head screwed on straight.
Those are your words. Not mine.
It starts with I assume. So no he didn't tell you that.
That his Mermaid SO hinted at it, that he has a lot of issues with her, that taking it all back would be difficult.
He indeed, actually expressed those thoughts.
No he didn't tell you he proposed to his fiance just because all his friends are married. Neither did he tell you he doesn't love her.
So stop trying to justify your or his behaviour.
I'm done now.
He said that was one factor that pushed him to consider proposing to his SO.
Therefore no, no story change at all. Rather you choose to pick and choose pieces of information out of the pages I have written as the situation changes. In attempts to highlight me in a certain light, for whatever ill reason of yours.
Like I said.. it's only inappropriate because you made it. If you feel uncomfortable tell him you don't want to talk abiut it. And don't talk to him.
Unless he's placing a gun on your head. Then do so.click to expand
No, it was inappropriate because he did not know his place. I have already told him that I do not want to talk about it and you would have known this if you actually read all my posts.
However, since you would rather be judgemental about it instead of regarding the changes that have occurred, then so be it.
No one is placing a gun to your head, to be a judgemental bastard.
Posted by Astrology101It does not matter, quite rightly so because you are thick in the head.Posted by TheLadyScorpioLol doesn't matter. That still means your story changed.Posted by Astrology101He did not say he did not love her, he said he was not sure if he loved her and has doubts about living with her, being married to her, and having a child with her.Posted by TheLadyScorpioSo you're changing up your story now?Posted by Astrology101I assume because he kept voicing those doubts. It was all based on what he has told me, point blank.Posted by TheLadyScorpio"I assume the pressure got to him, or he felt it was time since his Mermaid SO has hinted at it for a long while. Therefore, he simply went out, got a ring, and proposed but he has woken up from the stupor of it all and realised he has a lot of issues with her. They have already booked, planned, and partially paid for their destination wedding, told friends and family, therefore taking it all back would be very difficult. "Posted by Astrology101Those are not my thoughts, those were things that were told to me.Posted by TheLadyScorpio"Then it hit, he is having regrets and doubts. He had only known his Mermaid SO for two years, because he was noticing everyone around him getting married, settling, having children. I assume the pressure got to him, or he felt it was time since his Mermaid SO has hinted at it for a long while. Therefore, he simply went out, got a ring, and proposed but he has woken up from the stupor of it all and realised he has a lot of issues with her. They have already booked, planned, and partially paid for their destination wedding, told friends and family, therefore taking it all back would be very difficult. "Posted by Astrology101What I am doing is inappropriate ?Posted by TheLadyScorpioYou are taking responsibility of unnecessary burden.Posted by NymphGoddessInterested ? No.
To start off it seems like he regrets not having met uou before he got engaged. Also i think this is dangerous teritory for you both. It seems like youre growing interest in him seems more than you care tonadmit.
Intrigued ? Yes.
Does my SO know all of this ? Yes.
I am human NymphGoddess, I will be intrigued by others, just as my SO will. It would be a lie, if I said I never felt attraction or chemistry with another individual to my SO, but where I choose my loyalties is where my commitment lies. That is what is most important at the end of the day.
No boundaries has been crossed, so I still see him as a intriguing friendly coworker until you lot pointed out to me all the rest, which explains why I felt strange, like a burden was dropped on me for me to carry.
Therefore now, I am confused.
And I don't think anyone would take unnecessary responsibility without being invested.
If someone from work told me all this after 3 weeks of meeting them.. I'd be uncomfortable and keep min distance with the person.
I wouldn't be thinking if he has feelings for his SO etc. Or why he chose you to tell all of his secrets. I would prolly tell him not to talk about it considering we are work colleagues and all this seems a bit too intimate.
What you are doing is very inappropriate .. imo.
But I guess you telling your SO about it is good.
On that note.. this whole topic is making me uncomfortable so I'm out.
Excuse me but ...
Even when I have at multiple times told him about my SO, even when I have diverted the conversation on many an occasion, even when I have stopped giving advice, even when I have finally discussed the updated version of events with my SO, even when I never initiated this at all.
Now tell me where I overstepped the boundary. I initially made attempts to be friendly and empathetic on advice from my SO, evidently that was a mistake but it is already being remedied.
I was uncomfortable, why else did I vent here. Something felt wrong and inappropriate in that conversation.
Where on bloody hells earth did I wonder whether or not he had feelings for his SO, I merely shared what was told to me and not my own opinions on the matter. I could care less.
Yeah it's not for you to think about. But it doesn't seem like you care any less.
You don't need to understand him... or his life. If he's having problems he should be talking to his fiancé not to you.
You are enabling whatever he is trying to do.
Hence it's inappropriate. The appropriate response would be "hey you should talk to her about it" and end of convo.
I don't care if it's his best friend he's talking to... problems between you and your SO shouldn't be discussed with a third party. Esp not a random girl from work he met 3 weeks ago.
Yeah it's inappropriate.
Where on hells earth did you see it as my thoughts on the matter ?
... and that is what I did in the end. I told him to discuss it all with her, that only he could elevate their issues by building the trust between them. That they should communicate more with each other, rather than to turn to me for advice. I only heard one side of the story, and not hers. Therefore only he could be the best judge as to how to proceed in his situation.
Talk about making an attempt to gaslight me. He brought everything up, I had not initiated or encouraged.
Therefore no, I was not enabling him. Time and again, I brought my SO into the conversation in attempts to steer him off his venting rant. Time and again, I told him to discuss it with her, that he should build the trust between them rather than to spew his unhappiness and doubts to me.
Get your head screwed on straight.
Those are your words. Not mine.
It starts with I assume. So no he didn't tell you that.
That his Mermaid SO hinted at it, that he has a lot of issues with her, that taking it all back would be difficult.
He indeed, actually expressed those thoughts.
No he didn't tell you he proposed to his fiance just because all his friends are married. Neither did he tell you he doesn't love her.
So stop trying to justify your or his behaviour.
I'm done now.
He said that was one factor that pushed him to consider proposing to his SO.
Therefore no, no story change at all. Rather you choose to pick and choose pieces of information out of the pages I have written as the situation changes. In attempts to highlight me in a certain light, for whatever ill reason of yours.
Like I said.. it's only inappropriate because you made it. If you feel uncomfortable tell him you don't want to talk abiut it. And don't talk to him.
Unless he's placing a gun on your head. Then do so.click to expand
No, it was inappropriate because he did not know his place. I have already told him that I do not want to talk about it and you would have known this if you actually read all my posts.
However, since you would rather be judgemental about it instead of regarding the changes that have occurred, then so be it.
No one is placing a gun to your head, to be a judgemental bastard.
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