DHaLibraEmpress
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Aquarius Possibly In a Relationship But Claims Not To Be? What Does This Mean!!?
Well you should believe him. All is good.
His family is his priority.
Wait a min. A relationship with a man who still live with his ex wife and the mother of his son——?? Come on now . I hope either he or you is joking
Posted by AerialViewWhat——
Well you should believe him. All is good.
She still calls him in the morning even when he does spend the night... does the baby mom know he's at another girl's house—
I think you're being played.
I think you're being played.
Hold on.... wait... he doesn't stay in Boston does he?
Posted by saweetz1988He's telling the truth. The question is can she handle it? What's to confused?Posted by AerialViewWhat——
Well you should believe him. All is good.click to expand
How old are the children? Unless they are infants I don't see his excuse making sense.
You played this entirely wrong. You should've waited to become intimate with him until he moves out into his own place. Cause now you get to be emotionally involved while he gets to have his cake and eat it too.
You played this entirely wrong. You should've waited to become intimate with him until he moves out into his own place. Cause now you get to be emotionally involved while he gets to have his cake and eat it too.
Posted by compyYeah I am very aware and understand that truly
His family is his priority.
Posted by saweetz1988What I am trying to understand is where you got ex-wife, son and everything else? You may want to read again or commented on the wrong post
Wait a min. A relationship with a man who still live with his ex wife and the mother of his son——?? Come on now . I hope either he or you is joking
Posted by pinkbird03From what I understand she is aware that he is dating other women so I assume that if he is not at work and did not come home she would assume he was in someone else's company
She still calls him in the morning even when he does spend the night... does the baby mom know he's at another girl's house—
I think you're being played.
Posted by Wineaux15lmao No.
Hold on.... wait... he doesn't stay in Boston does he?
Posted by DHaLibraEmpressFrom what you understand from what he told you! And as he has the most to lose can you really take it as truth? Your naive as fuck if you do...Posted by pinkbird03From what I understand she is aware that he is dating other women so I assume that if he is not at work and did not come home she would assume he was in someone else's company
She still calls him in the morning even when he does spend the night... does the baby mom know he's at another girl's house—
I think you're being played.click to expand
Posted by Arielle83I absolutely am aware and understand this as well. I'm not the one seeking marriage. I possibly did sleep with someone else's partner, that is what I was trying to figure out. I was taking only his words for it and needed to see where I fit into it because that is not my intention or what I am interested in continuing to do
You do realise some people don't need marriage?
They can be together without a paper.
You slept with someone else's partner.
Too easy
Posted by DHaLibraEmpressEven if his story is 100% true and they are separated and merely living together. Don't you deserve a man who has his own living space and isn't sharing his home with another woman??Posted by Arielle83I absolutely am aware and understand this as well. I'm not the one seeking marriage. I possibly did sleep with someone else's partner, that is what I was trying to figure out. I was taking only his words for it and needed to see where I fit into it because that is not my intention or what I am interested in continuing to do
You do realise some people don't need marriage?
They can be together without a paper.
You slept with someone else's partner.
Too easyclick to expand
Demand more for yourself.
Posted by Arielle83
You want him to leave?
Knowing he's living with his family for the kids?
So u want to break up their situation cuz you slept with him?
You're pretty selfish because you want to be deluded into believing his bs.
I've never been selfish a day in my life and I have no interest of breaking anything up. I just wanted to understand if these type of man stay in these scenarios/ situations for long or do they eventually decide to leave. I don't mind being on my own, that mans owes me nothing and vice versa. I understand his living arrangement for his kids. The question was more so if him and I grow closer and more serious, where does that leave him in that
Posted by greylaternThank You so much for all this information. I had to read this over 4 times before he came and we had a one on one. I used a lot of your feedback/ advice and was able to Clarify A LOT! I absolutely understand and respect his devotion to his children. I actually admire it more than he imagines. After taking some of your information I was shocked at some of his revelations, they absolutely matched to what you stated. He states he is not in-love nor interested in ever marrying her. Cares for her a whole deal, respects her a great deal. She is the mother of his children. But he does not see himself in that plan. We also did address him feeling like he is holding me back, I explained greatly that he was not. I just did not want to overstep in his situation. I am fine as things are moving, I respect him and don't hold any expectations. Just want to make sure all parties are respectful in this situation. I do not wish to trap him, I myself do not like anyone to apply pressure on me so I have no interest to do it with him. I like him very much but I just want to let things float. Communication is key and I am glad he was able to sit down with me and briefly clarify without discomfort and we both gained much understanding after the conversation.
Be honest with him. if he is really a big thinker and way out of the box he should be able to understand and appreciate the situation from both your sides.
At the same time it's about his children and family. he sounds devoted to them as well.Out of duty and responsiblility or genuine fatherly love. You have no idea what I man will give up and do for his family if he is built that way. From your discription I would say he very much is.
He put his own needs and personal life on hold for years to care for them. TO BE CLEAR I strongly doubt he cares for her at all just a since of duty.
He said those things to you to warn you and to hope you wouldn't take it the wrong way. We men can be pretty dumb when it comes to emotional communication skills, I feel he fears holding you back and finding someone else who can give you everything he thinks you need and deserve. so was giving you a excuse you can use to end it, without fear you may feel bad from inner judgement or guilt.
Warning if you actually want to keep this going you need to do 2 things.
1. Tell him your feelings about his situation again and let him you truly understand sincerely. Eye contact will be important.
2. tell him what your needs are and how to met them in order to be continue this kind of relationship.
3. you will want to meet his kids if he ever wants to get serious first.
Please know that if at any point he feels like he has trapped you and anchored you down and not be pure choice. He will break up with you believing he is setting you free to find someone he believes will be better for you and make you happy. Communication and a feeling of acceptance is key.
You are either extremely gullible or delusional. You said that he's willing to date outside to see if he finds someone more compatible. In other words, this guy is probably trying to get his fill before he actually commits to this woman. You're just a means to his own selfish gain. He's not going to leave anytime soon. It seems like he's attached to her and possibly loves her. A man will not go above and beyond for a woman unless there is some emotional attachment there. And those are the hardest to sever. Add kids into the mix and your sht out of luck.
Writing.on.the.wall.girl
Whenever a guy tells you straight up that he's not going to settle, better believe him! Means he dates/fucks around and doesnt want a relationship with YOU. Probably still somehow together with baby momma. Watch it
Whenever a guy tells you straight up that he's not going to settle, better believe him! Means he dates/fucks around and doesnt want a relationship with YOU. Probably still somehow together with baby momma. Watch it
Cheater alert!!
Posted by greylaternI am definitely allowing everything to go with the flow. I am not interested in applying pressure but just wanted to make sure I wasn't playing a wrong position. It took 4 mo's for this man and I to begin being intimate. We built a great friendship and we speak almost daily. The conversations are natural and just flow, nothing crazy and I appreciate that. I am glad that being honest with him didn't make him turn away, but if anything gained more understanding with the both of us and slightly brought us closer.
We all meet others throughout our life time who we spark with. The key is what type of bond it is and how deep. The spark without the magnetic pull usually means you have similarities and similar needs at that time. We do change as we grow as a person.So people do eventually drift apart if the bond is not deep enough to keep tethered.
If you are being honest about your disposition and the spark, then go with the flow. Your a libra too so sometimes you absorb and mimic if your a emotional person. it's part of the charm the rapport you can create with some people. Be sure your being honest with yourself and intentions.
This relationship will change one day. then the real test will begin. If either of you is truly not ok with this when you get serious, there will be a lot of emotional turmoil. There is always a price with anything worth having.
Beware resentment it can poison the well for either of you. Focus on acceptance not just for the situation but for her as well. Until he feels comfortable enough to cut more ties to her she will be a sore spot for him may even feel shame for the situation he is in. If you get that far be open and accepting with her when she relaxes you will learn from her more then he is capable of telling you about himself. Be open do not judge. if they have gotten over the hard feeling and there is no resentment in there relationship you may gain a friend too.
I understand the negative comments on this thread. They are projecting past frustration and rightfully so. what you put into the world you get back. If you are self aware you should be able to tell the difference.
That spark you speak of even had me in doubts, the very first time we met it was instant attraction and chemistry. I can tell we both were taken back. The chemistry is still very vivid even months later and it has not yet been a dull or negative moment. There is still more time ahead of us and though I do not know where we'll end up, I assured him he would always have a friend in me even if we remained just platonic. I know changes may come, resentment I will keep away from. We're both not very attached to emotion but I'm sure the closer and more serious we may get, it will come and we both have to be aware of how to handle it.
The negative thoughts on here almost got to me, but there was just so much I could share. They won't get the full picture from me. It's okay if they wish to judge. I am a very strong minded, independent individual. I set no expectations, I just wanted to get an understanding of this scenario from other's viewpoints before I sat and spoke to him. Now I see speaking to him cleared much more up then asking here. I still truly appreciate your honest feedback though, helped me out the most and wasn't approached so negatively. I also don't understand how some of these women are claiming I am not seeking more from myself. Never stated I wanted to marry this man tomorrow. I've been just great on my own, he does not make me nor create validation for me.
I do believe in karma and wanted to make clear my position. This is not intentional and I can walk away at anytime. He is not in-love and just wants to be there and above for his children which I highly understand. My father is my world and no one could detach us. So I understand. This is just something for me to take one day at a time and be aware of everything and anything.
Thank You.
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