Aquastic007
@Aquastic
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Breaking up with a toxic person
Posted by nanobot
Because you care too much. You know it's not right but you still care too much and try, that's what makes it toxic
What makes worse is that he did not even have the decency to dump me,I had to figure it out myself through his actions,and him always avoiding to meet up with me by lying about him getting circumsised.it hurts! I really loved this man but this is hurting me more than anything.
And you are right,I guess if I did not care too much,but I did and I wish didn't.
Posted by Raakac
Just because it's toxic doesn't mean it's easy 2 leave, if you get used to it, doesn't matter toxic or not, it's hard, same as quiting drinking and smoking, you know it's not good for you, toxic, but it's hard to part ways, same shit with friendships and relationships
True this, it's so tough! It's hard! I'm just glad I didn't end up having a baby with him since we were trying.
Posted by JanMayMarry
It's always like that for toxic rs. Because we were blind and make believe that they were our everything. And when things doesn't goes the way we had planned, that's when we realized we have invested lots of feelings in it.
Been there, done that. It sucks!
This is the second relationship, where I get my heart broken by a toxic person. Both men have the same traits,they love someone else while fooling me ,then I only find out when it's too late.maybe there's something I am not doing right.
Posted by Black-Mamba
He is in love with another woman
That'll do it for me
I don't compete
I am learning to accept it now.I just blame myself for ignoring all the red flags ,maybe I just wanted it to work so bad that I fooled myself into thinking he was the one.
He would find every excuse in the book to talk about her,sometimes I would get a feeling that he is changing names while talking about her cause He didn't want me to see/ hear or notice that he was talking about her.Just that the scenarios were that of the other woman.
Posted by Black-MambaPosted by AquasticPosted by Black-Mamba
He is in love with another woman
That'll do it for me
I don't compete
I am learning to accept it now.I just blame myself for ignoring all the red flags ,maybe I just wanted it to work so bad that I fooled myself into thinking he was the one.
He would find every excuse in the book to talk about her,sometimes I would get a feeling that he is changing names while talking about her cause He didn't want me to see/ hear or notice that he was talking about her.Just that the scenarios were that of the other woman.
Dude we've all been there
I loved hard once but he wasn't even concerned
In time and turn
He tried to burn me like a perm
- lauryn hill
Just think the man who will excitedly talk about you is out there
I've never met a Pisces man i liked. They're all spineless weak and have 10 baby mom's. Multiple relationships. Cheats
God saved you
Today is a good dayclick to expand
This made me feel better.
Lol😂😂😂😂😂He tried to burn me like a perm
- lauryn hill 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Posted by MissKrabsPosted by Aquastic
Why does it hurt so much? I am going through a break up with the pieces man who broke my heart a numerous times, but I am in pain.
I thought breaking up with him will be easy ,but it's not.I am in pain!!!! I knew he was not good for me,bit I still dated him anyways.I think I was emotional weak when I met him , it's probably the reason why I even got in a relationship with him.
I have finally accepted that I am not the one for him,instead he loves someone else,and it hurts.There is nothing I can do to change that fact but to live with it and move on.
investment was bigger than usual if he was indeed toxic. so that hurts too.click to expand
True,I was there for him no Lloyd no matter what.When his life was falling apart I stood by his side ,motivating and praying for his break through. And was not looking forward to benefiting ,but for him to have things like I have.
Posted by Impulsv
I read somewhere invest ur heart like a banker you give only as much as they do. N if too little then walk away
😉
Your brain is experiencing a lack of chemicals which were produced around this person. You may have become addicted to the drama in a way. It takes time for the brain to rewire itself into healthier avenues of seeking "pleasure". Work on developing healthy hobbies and distractions for yourself. Maybe work out and try to boost your endorphins that way. Simply put, you are used to it. You will have to create better habits for yourself now. Best of luck!
You don‘t love yourself enough girl. Otherwise you‘d be happy and breath new freedom after leaving such a toxic relationship. Of course you can be sad about the fact how things went but that you are going through so much pain shows that you don‘t love and value yourself enough - yet!
You can do this and you will come out of this like a beautiful flower once you love yourself the way you should 🌷🌷🌷
You can do this and you will come out of this like a beautiful flower once you love yourself the way you should 🌷🌷🌷
Posted by AquaNextDoor
You don‘t love yourself enough girl. Otherwise you‘d be happy and breath new freedom after leaving such a toxic relationship. Of course you can be sad about the fact how things went but that you are going through so much pain shows that you don‘t love and value yourself enough - yet!
You can do this and you will come out of this like a beautiful flower once you love yourself the way you should 🌷🌷🌷
You made me think,I lost myself along the way through hardships I encountered in my life,lost confidence , self-esteem ,so I think that made me doubt my worth and love for self.I was never like this,I never use to take nonsense or allow being an option.
I long for my confidence to bounce back,of which is something I am working on, I even tried losing weight which have been working thus far with 30 pounds gone!
Posted by AquasticPosted by AquaNextDoor
You don‘t love yourself enough girl. Otherwise you‘d be happy and breath new freedom after leaving such a toxic relationship. Of course you can be sad about the fact how things went but that you are going through so much pain shows that you don‘t love and value yourself enough - yet!
You can do this and you will come out of this like a beautiful flower once you love yourself the way you should 🌷🌷🌷
You made me think,I lost myself along the way through hardships I encountered in my life,lost confidence , self-esteem ,so I think that made me doubt my worth and love for self.I was never like this,I never use to take nonsense or allow being an option.
I long for my confidence to bounce back,of which is something I am working on, I even tried losing weight which have been working thus far with 30 pounds gone!click to expand
You are on your best way 🌷❤️ You got this!
Posted by halalbaePosted by AquasticPosted by JanMayMarry
It's always like that for toxic rs. Because we were blind and make believe that they were our everything. And when things doesn't goes the way we had planned, that's when we realized we have invested lots of feelings in it.
Been there, done that. It sucks!
This is the second relationship, where I get my heart broken by a toxic person. Both men have the same traits,they love someone else while fooling me ,then I only find out when it's too late.maybe there's something I am not doing right.
Gahhh 😢
This is why you always gotta test the waters BEFORE your feelings are actually invested, pretend like they got you in the bag and see if efforts and communication deteriorates because a lot of people enter entirely new situations pretending to be all in and serious... while the wound from their last situation is still bleeding
And in these situations they are never able to emotionally invest in you. You can waste months and years on someone like this, eventually you will realize it was all a lie and your relationship was simply a bandage
People could avoid sooooooo much heartbreak if they just listened to their feelings. You know the feelings Im talking about. People that are good for you dont arouse those feelings, truly
Does he purposely (ESPECIALLY within the first 3 to 6 months) make you feel:
Worthless
Silenced
Unsure
Desperate
Used
Then well your intuition is YELLING at you. Your brain is feeding you these signals to protect you mentally. LISTEN. LEAVE. Dont second guess the decision. I feel like you did some insaaaane mental gymnastics to avoid listening to your intuitionclick to expand
Wow! It's as if you were in my brain,it was really hard to initiate contacts and of course do other things during the relationship, was always on guard ,thinking I would somehow get hurt by this guy,but I went ahead with it,till now that he dumped me,only now that I took a step back and think about what I was doing to my heart,brain and soul . The relationship required that I compromise too much .
Thanks by the way for your analysis.😉
Posted by AquaNextDoorPosted by AquasticPosted by AquaNextDoor
You don‘t love yourself enough girl. Otherwise you‘d be happy and breath new freedom after leaving such a toxic relationship. Of course you can be sad about the fact how things went but that you are going through so much pain shows that you don‘t love and value yourself enough - yet!
You can do this and you will come out of this like a beautiful flower once you love yourself the way you should 🌷🌷🌷
You made me think,I lost myself along the way through hardships I encountered in my life,lost confidence , self-esteem ,so I think that made me doubt my worth and love for self.I was never like this,I never use to take nonsense or allow being an option.
I long for my confidence to bounce back,of which is something I am working on, I even tried losing weight which have been working thus far with 30 pounds gone!
You are on your best way 🌷❤️ You got this!click to expand
Thank you
surround yourself with people who make you feel good about yourself and make you laugh
Posted by stillstillwater
surround yourself with people who make you feel good about yourself and make you laugh
Gym yes,learning new dance moves.
Posted by Aquastic
Why does it hurt so much? I am going through a break up with the pieces man who broke my heart a numerous times, but I am in pain.
I thought breaking up with him will be easy ,but it's not.I am in pain!!!! I knew he was not good for me,bit I still dated him anyways.I think I was emotional weak when I met him , it's probably the reason why I even got in a relationship with him.
I have finally accepted that I am not the one for him,instead he loves someone else,and it hurts.There is nothing I can do to change that fact but to live with it and move on.
Probably because you had hope. Despite it all. And when you then let him go his actions afterwards will definitively put an end to that hope. He is not sad that you're gone, he won't try to win you back, his heart is somewhere else. All the bad stuff you accepted for a while due to hope gets amplified. So a lot of times feeling sad is a coping mechanism to somehow keep hope alive I think. We can't accept reality as it is.
Posted by starlordPosted by Aquastic
Why does it hurt so much? I am going through a break up with the pieces man who broke my heart a numerous times, but I am in pain.
I thought breaking up with him will be easy ,but it's not.I am in pain!!!! I knew he was not good for me,bit I still dated him anyways.I think I was emotional weak when I met him , it's probably the reason why I even got in a relationship with him.
I have finally accepted that I am not the one for him,instead he loves someone else,and it hurts.There is nothing I can do to change that fact but to live with it and move on.
Probably because you had hope. Despite it all. And when you then let him go his actions afterwards will definitively put an end to that hope. He is not sad that you're gone, he won't try to win you back, his heart is somewhere else. All the bad stuff you accepted for a while due to hope gets amplified. So a lot of times feeling sad is a coping mechanism to somehow keep hope alive I think. We can't accept reality as it is.click to expand
This just made me sad.I had hope cause of the promises,he promised to marry me one day.He promised me a lot of things.
But I am not hopefull that he will come back to me,I hope he marry the girl.I just wanna move the damn on! I have been holding myself backbu settling for less. He would sometimes even tell me he does' not deserve me,but I didn't wanna believe him cause I really thought he was the one for me .
I pray I find love one day.I want someone wh wilk be priud to have found me ,luke he is of her.I need to heal from this pain first though.
Posted by AquasticPosted by nanobot
Because you care too much. You know it's not right but you still care too much and try, that's what makes it toxic
What makes worse is that he did not even have the decency to dump me,I had to figure it out myself through his actions,and him always avoiding to meet up with me by lying about him getting circumsised.it hurts! I really loved this man but this is hurting me more than anything.
And you are right,I guess if I did not care too much,but I did and I wish didn't.click to expand
That bastard! This is why I cannot stand Pisces. Such fucking liars and they always use a lie to play on ya sympathy.
I hate them because they see your innocence and use it against you.
Fuck him! I’d slap him for you if I could. I feel you you hun, hugs.
Posted by Aquastic
Why does it hurt so much? I am going through a break up with the pieces man who broke my heart a numerous times, but I am in pain.
I thought breaking up with him will be easy ,but it's not.I am in pain!!!! I knew he was not good for me,bit I still dated him anyways.I think I was emotional weak when I met him , it's probably the reason why I even got in a relationship with him.
I have finally accepted that I am not the one for him,instead he loves someone else,and it hurts.There is nothing I can do to change that fact but to live with it and move on.
It hurts because it is hard to believe someone you love can be toxic. Similar to accepting family members are no good either. The reality is the part that hurts the most IMO
Generally people who take up a lot of space - be it cuz they're abusive or just have an outgoing, bubbly personality - are the ones who are missed the most
Posted by wildflowerPosted by Aquastic
Why does it hurt so much? I am going through a break up with the pieces man who broke my heart a numerous times, but I am in pain.
I thought breaking up with him will be easy ,but it's not.I am in pain!!!! I knew he was not good for me,bit I still dated him anyways.I think I was emotional weak when I met him , it's probably the reason why I even got in a relationship with him.
I have finally accepted that I am not the one for him,instead he loves someone else,and it hurts.There is nothing I can do to change that fact but to live with it and move on.
It hurts because it is hard to believe someone you love can be toxic. Similar to accepting family members are no good either. The reality is the part that hurts the most IMOclick to expand
It sucks! Now I have start believing that he was no good, which is something I was in denial of.
Posted by enfant_terrible
Generally people who take up a lot of space - be it cuz they're abusive or just have an outgoing, bubbly personality - are the ones who are missed the most
They hide behind their bubbly personalities while fooling and hurting those close to them.These kind of people are loved by almost everyone, until you get to know the real real them.And it becomes a problem to complain about them cause no one will believe the abused person,instead people will believe the abuser cause they come off as angels to the world.
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I thought breaking up with him will be easy ,but it's not.I am in pain!!!! I knew he was not good for me,bit I still dated him anyways.I think I was emotional weak when I met him , it's probably the reason why I even got in a relationship with him.
I have finally accepted that I am not the one for him,instead he loves someone else,and it hurts.There is nothing I can do to change that fact but to live with it and move on.