Found out Aquarius has a girlfriend

So I’ve been posting on here about this Aquarius guy who I’ve known for the past year, we have been speaking and just getting to know each other but I found his actions so confusing until he finally admitted he had a relationship already. I’m so gutted because I really do like him and I know he likes me but now I’m starting to doubt he likes me at all.

He’s saying he wants us to be friends regardless without any sexual contact but just friends but I know there’s still that chemistry between us and there’s no way in hell we are just “friends” there’s too much attraction and just general chemistry I don’t think it would work out for long🤷🏽‍♀️

What shall I do? I tried to cut him off and he always comes back then today I told him that we should just leave it here and I hope he has a nice life and he thought about it then told me he doesn’t want me to leave his life... he doesn’t want to cheat on his girlfriend at all but he’s basically already doing that by having feelings for me and speaking to me, and I don’t want to be a home wrecker and I have stressed this to him but he sees no problem with us just being friends.

Do you think this could work out on his behalf? Does he genuinely like me or am I just someone he wants to sleep with? I feel like I can be friends with him from a far but I can’t be around him alone because it’ll probably get too intimate.

Emotional cheating is the gateway drug for physical cheating.

Just remind yourself that how you've found him is how he'll leave you.

Stay strong and cut off all contact if your feeling weak.

Side note: your way too gorgeous to play the side chick role. Plenty of dudes out there who would be thrilled to make you their one and only.

Well. What is your end goal in all this?

What do you want?

Posted by LadyNeptune
Emotional cheating is the gateway drug for physical cheating.
Just remind yourself that how you've found him is how he'll leave you.

Stay strong and cut off all contact if your feeling weak.

Thank you it’s so sad because I really like him a lot I just feel so gutted I want a relationship with him and I already know he won’t leave her, I don’t want him to leave her actually.. I would prefer him to leave her because HE wants to not because of me. I don’t want to be the cause of someone’s heart ache I believe in karma and it’ll happen to me

Posted by Klh1203
So I’ve been posting on here about this Aquarius guy who I’ve known for the past year, we have been speaking and just getting to know each other but I found his actions so confusing until he finally admitted he had a relationship already. I’m so gutted because I really do like him and I know he likes me but now I’m starting to doubt he likes me at all.

He’s saying he wants us to be friends regardless without any sexual contact but just friends but I know there’s still that chemistry between us and there’s no way in hell we are just “friends” there’s too much attraction and just general chemistry I don’t think it would work out for long🤷🏽‍♀️

What shall I do? I tried to cut him off and he always comes back then today I told him that we should just leave it here and I hope he has a nice life and he thought about it then told me he doesn’t want me to leave his life... he doesn’t want to cheat on his girlfriend at all but he’s basically already doing that by having feelings for me and speaking to me, and I don’t want to be a home wrecker and I have stressed this to him but he sees no problem with us just being friends.

Do you think this could work out on his behalf? Does he genuinely like me or am I just someone he wants to sleep with? I feel like I can be friends with him from a far but I can’t be around him alone because it’ll probably get too intimate.

First thing first.. Miss lady you are cute and I like your whole ensemble.

Secondly gurl.. leave his azz don't be that girl. I know he's fine and all but it's not worth it and there's more fine mfers out there. You can easily find another one that's available.

My dude sounds like yours when I try to leave him. You need to set boundaries.

hold on..

should I be taking my own advice 🤔 tf?

Nevermind that.. but try being his friend down the line when you've already moved on and no longer want to F him on site.

Guys can I just say I am really liking this person I don’t want sex from him or anything like that I wanted a relationship with him but I understand now he has a girlfriend and I told him he would never leave her so he should just leave it and let’s not speak again but he said no. Of course as a young female who really likes this guy a lot is hoping that we could be together one day but I know it won’t ever happen and I don’t expect him to leave her for me I wouldn’t want him to break up with her. If they break up then that’s because it’s happened and it’s their decision but not because of me I wouldn’t want to be the cause of someone’s heartbreak and pain. I’m really going to miss him and I know I can find someone better but just for now it’s so dissapointing I wish he told me this from the beginning

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Posted by Klh1203
So I’ve been posting on here about this Aquarius guy who I’ve known for the past year, we have been speaking and just getting to know each other but I found his actions so confusing until he finally admitted he had a relationship already. I’m so gutted because I really do like him and I know he likes me but now I’m starting to doubt he likes me at all.



He’s saying he wants us to be friends regardless without any sexual contact but just friends but I know there’s still that chemistry between us and there’s no way in hell we are just “friends” there’s too much attraction and just general chemistry I don’t think it would work out for long🤷🏽‍♀️



What shall I do? I tried to cut him off and he always comes back then today I told him that we should just leave it here and I hope he has a nice life and he thought about it then told me he doesn’t want me to leave his life... he doesn’t want to cheat on his girlfriend at all but he’s basically already doing that by having feelings for me and speaking to me, and I don’t want to be a home wrecker and I have stressed this to him but he sees no problem with us just being friends.



Do you think this could work out on his behalf? Does he genuinely like me or am I just someone he wants to sleep with? I feel like I can be friends with him from a far but I can’t be around him alone because it’ll probably get too intimate.

First thing first.. Miss lady you are cute and I like your whole ensemble.

Secondly gurl.. leave his azz don't be that girl. I know he's fine and all but it's not worth it and there's more fine mfers out there. You can easily find another one that's available.

My dude sounds like yours when I try to leave him. You need to set boundaries.
hold on..

should I be taking my own advice 🤔 tf?

Nevermind that.. but try being his friend down the line when you've already moved on and no longer want to F him on site. click to expand

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Thank you! Yes I agree. I think I’ll alwqys have these feelings for him because we are a match he’s just like me and I’m like him lol I think I need to take that big step and remove him off everything and not give him any way to contact me, not gonna lie it’s going to be really difficult to do I won’t be able to do it straight away. I Am such a innocent kind of girl I am not the type to be any side chick or hoe so this for me is a very big deal and he knows I’m not that type of girl aswell and I know he loves his girlfriend and I know this situation has been confusing for him so I keep out of his way and never ever ring or message him it’s him always contacting me first and stupid me answers because I’m such a sucker for him. I will do my very best to just stay away now and detach myself

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So I’ve been posting on here about this Aquarius guy who I’ve known for the past year, we have been speaking and just getting to know each other but I found his actions so confusing until he finally admitted he had a relationship already. I’m so gutted because I really do like him and I know he likes me but now I’m starting to doubt he likes me at all.





He’s saying he wants us to be friends regardless without any sexual contact but just friends but I know there’s still that chemistry between us and there’s no way in hell we are just “friends” there’s too much attraction and just general chemistry I don’t think it would work out for long🤷🏽‍♀️





What shall I do? I tried to cut him off and he always comes back then today I told him that we should just leave it here and I hope he has a nice life and he thought about it then told me he doesn’t want me to leave his life... he doesn’t want to cheat on his girlfriend at all but he’s basically already doing that by having feelings for me and speaking to me, and I don’t want to be a home wrecker and I have stressed this to him but he sees no problem with us just being friends.





Do you think this could work out on his behalf? Does he genuinely like me or am I just someone he wants to sleep with? I feel like I can be friends with him from a far but I can’t be around him alone because it’ll probably get too intimate.

First thing first.. Miss lady you are cute and I like your whole ensemble.



Secondly gurl.. leave his azz don't be that girl. I know he's fine and all but it's not worth it and there's more fine mfers out there. You can easily find another one that's available.



My dude sounds like yours when I try to leave him. You need to set boundaries.

hold on..



should I be taking my own advice 🤔 tf?



Nevermind that.. but try being his friend down the line when you've already moved on and no longer want to F him on site. click to expand

Thank you! Yes I agree. I think I’ll alwqys have these feelings for him because we are a match he’s just like me and I’m like him lol I think I need to take that big step and remove him off everything and not give him any way to contact me, not gonna lie it’s going to be really difficult to do I won’t be able to do it straight away. I Am such a innocent kind of girl I am not the type to be any side chick or hoe so this for me is a very big deal and he knows I’m not that type of girl aswell and I know he loves his girlfriend and I know this situation has been confusing for him so I keep out of his way and never ever ring or message him it’s him always contacting me first and stupid me answers because I’m such a sucker for him. I will do my very best to just stay away now and detach myself

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Stay strong! ✊🏿 And you're welcome hun.

Posted by Klh1203
So I’ve been posting on here about this Aquarius guy who I’ve known for the past year, we have been speaking and just getting to know each other but I found his actions so confusing until he finally admitted he had a relationship already. I’m so gutted because I really do like him and I know he likes me but now I’m starting to doubt he likes me at all.

He’s saying he wants us to be friends regardless without any sexual contact but just friends but I know there’s still that chemistry between us and there’s no way in hell we are just “friends” there’s too much attraction and just general chemistry I don’t think it would work out for long🤷🏽‍♀️

What shall I do? I tried to cut him off and he always comes back then today I told him that we should just leave it here and I hope he has a nice life and he thought about it then told me he doesn’t want me to leave his life... he doesn’t want to cheat on his girlfriend at all but he’s basically already doing that by having feelings for me and speaking to me, and I don’t want to be a home wrecker and I have stressed this to him but he sees no problem with us just being friends.

Do you think this could work out on his behalf? Does he genuinely like me or am I just someone he wants to sleep with? I feel like I can be friends with him from a far but I can’t be around him alone because it’ll probably get too intimate.

Everytime he tries to come back remind yourself that he wants you to be his secret and secret loves never last that long. You deserve better from a man and a so called friend. If he was truly a friend he would not put you in this predicament.

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Posted by LadyNeptune
Emotional cheating is the gateway drug for physical cheating.

Just remind yourself that how you've found him is how he'll leave you.



Stay strong and cut off all contact if your feeling weak.

Thank you it’s so sad because I really like him a lot I just feel so gutted I want a relationship with him and I already know he won’t leave her, I don’t want him to leave her actually.. I would prefer him to leave her because HE wants to not because of me. I don’t want to be the cause of someone’s heart ache I believe in karma and it’ll happen to me click to expand

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Did you ever ask him during that year if he was dating anyone else?

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Posted by LadyNeptune
Side note: your way too gorgeous to play the side chick role. Plenty of dudes out there who would be thrilled to make you their one and only.

I agree! And hiding his relationship all this time lol.... that just rubs me the wrong way, like hard.

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Yeah this triggers me too. Especially when they say, oh well we can just be friends, when from the very beginning they were pursuing something romantic from you.

Like, dude. How am I supposed to believe you'll respect the boundaries of our friendship when you can't even respect the boundaries of your relationship. Doesn't add up.

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Posted by LadyNeptune
Emotional cheating is the gateway drug for physical cheating.


Just remind yourself that how you've found him is how he'll leave you.





Stay strong and cut off all contact if your feeling weak.

Thank you it’s so sad because I really like him a lot I just feel so gutted I want a relationship with him and I already know he won’t leave her, I don’t want him to leave her actually.. I would prefer him to leave her because HE wants to not because of me. I don’t want to be the cause of someone’s heart ache I believe in karma and it’ll happen to me click to expand

Did you ever ask him during that year if he was dating anyone else? click to expand

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I did and of course he said no😢 I kept asking him because something just didn’t add up and he kept saying no

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Posted by LadyNeptune
Side note: your way too gorgeous to play the side chick role. Plenty of dudes out there who would be thrilled to make you their one and only.

I agree! And hiding his relationship all this time lol.... that just rubs me the wrong way, like hard.



HUGE red flag 🚩 click to expand

Yeah this triggers me too. Especially when they say, oh well we can just be friends, when from the very beginning they were pursuing something romantic from you.

Like, dude. How am I supposed to believe you'll respect the boundaries of our friendship when you can't even respect the boundaries of your relationship. Doesn't add up. click to expand

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They think we’re born yesterday

Posted by Klh1203
So I’ve been posting on here about this Aquarius guy who I’ve known for the past year, we have been speaking and just getting to know each other but I found his actions so confusing until he finally admitted he had a relationship already. I’m so gutted because I really do like him and I know he likes me but now I’m starting to doubt he likes me at all.

He’s saying he wants us to be friends regardless without any sexual contact but just friends but I know there’s still that chemistry between us and there’s no way in hell we are just “friends” there’s too much attraction and just general chemistry I don’t think it would work out for long🤷🏽‍♀️

What shall I do? I tried to cut him off and he always comes back then today I told him that we should just leave it here and I hope he has a nice life and he thought about it then told me he doesn’t want me to leave his life... he doesn’t want to cheat on his girlfriend at all but he’s basically already doing that by having feelings for me and speaking to me, and I don’t want to be a home wrecker and I have stressed this to him but he sees no problem with us just being friends.

Do you think this could work out on his behalf? Does he genuinely like me or am I just someone he wants to sleep with? I feel like I can be friends with him from a far but I can’t be around him alone because it’ll probably get too intimate.

sorry, I dont remember the back-story, can you please sum it up in few words? you know him for a year, you have dated? how he behaves when you are on a date? where do you go on dates? do you have common friends? did you have sex? or kiss?

@pandora101 no we never had any sexual contact or hung out yet we met because he approached me one time and we have spoke for a year but he was distant and wouldn’t give me his number only kept things on social media which I found weird so I tried to move on and he wasn’t allowing it he didn’t want me having a boyfriend and would be jealous if I went on a date he even stopped talking to me one time when I went on a date. He would be constantly hot nd cold always watching me and what I was doing and just trying to study me but wouldn’t try to approach a relationship with me which left me confused but now it all makes sense... he invited me to some party few weeks ago which I didn’t go to and im glad I didn’t because his girlfriend was there I never knew he had a girlfriend as he would deny it but he finally admitted it but told me he didn’t want that to ruin anything and we should be friends and he wants to see me and hang out and he won’t try anything funny... he also said he hates that he always makes an effort with me and I never make any back but I explained it’s because I speculated he had a girlfriend so I didn’t feel comfortable having any conversation with him when he’s occupied.

I feel like I’m his back up plan for when they break up because clearly they’re on bad terms 🤷🏽‍♀️ I know he really does like me and it’s just very complicated and I like him a lot to not make him get in to some sort of love triangle where he feels he has to choose between us because I feel that he has been very confused About this that’s why he finally admitted he has a girlfriend.

I was in a relationship with my ex for 6 years and he knows everything I went through with him and it was the exact situation he’s about to go in if I involve myself. My ex started to cheat on me and fall in love with another girl and didn’t want to leave me but wanted to be with her too it was horrible, and he knows about everything so for him to do that knowing what I went through and how he comforted me just makes it even more messy.

Aww. I’m sorry to hear the sad news. Hope you are doing ok.

I have a pisces friend who was dating a married man for a long time and she found out the same after 9 years she is still his sidechick and he wants nothing but her ass it's the harse truth. This guys is probably keeping you on an armlenght. She still blindly believes they will be together one day and have a family etc etc she has this illusion and i've seen that too often with pisces. They are the once to fall head over heels and think theirs something more where as in reality they are lying to themselves but they rather live in a fantasy then reality.

I love you pisces but this is something you really need to work on come to your senses and see what's real and what's not. Move on he ain't worth it he's gonna get you all fcked up if he didn't already cut yourself loose and just enjoy life it's better to whore around then to be with someone who doesn't value you.

set boundaries know what you want next time in a man and never settle for less!!

Bye boy

He was dishonest with you, he doesn’t deserve to be your friend.

Get out before you get any deeper.

Posted by pinkbird03
Aww. I’m sorry to hear the sad news. Hope you are doing ok.

Thanks babe. I feel so upset to say the least and I’m going to carry on being his friend because I’m not ready to let go yet. I won’t over step the friend limit.

Posted by Superman77
If he’s lying to you now, he will lie to you down the road. A tiger can’t change his stripes.

Would you want to be in a relationship with someone like that anyway?

Yeah, definitely wouldn’t want to be in a relationship with him now knowing what he’s capable of even if he did become single

Posted by dewiklaessen26
I have a pisces friend who was dating a married man for a long time and she found out the same after 9 years she is still his sidechick and he wants nothing but her ass it's the harse truth. This guys is probably keeping you on an armlenght. She still blindly believes they will be together one day and have a family etc etc she has this illusion and i've seen that too often with pisces. They are the once to fall head over heels and think theirs something more where as in reality they are lying to themselves but they rather live in a fantasy then reality.

I love you pisces but this is something you really need to work on come to your senses and see what's real and what's not. Move on he ain't worth it he's gonna get you all trtrked up if he didn't already cut yourself loose and just enjoy life it's better to just like me around then to be with someone who doesn't value you.
set boundaries know what you want next time in a man and never settle for less!!

Bye boy

Thanks! I’m moving on I’m not like your friend I haven’t even got the confidence to be with a man knowing he’s got a woman. I know he would never leave his girlfriend, and even if he does I won’t want to be with him knowing what he’s capable of. I just think it’s hard to let go of our friendship but it definitely won’t last because I can’t just be friends and neither can he so it will end very soon.